Stop Over-Functioning + Create Balance in Your Relationships (Here's How!) - Terri Cole

[@terri_cole]

Do you resonate with the over-functioning/under-functioning dynamic illustrated in the excerpt I read from Too Much? Then make sure you grab the book (hfcbook.com) or download the guide for more tips on how to create more balance in your relationships: www.terricole.com/stop-over-functioning-create-balance-in-your-relationships-guide

[@lynnfilipek9156]

This so resonated with me. I am 69 years old and exhausted. Thank you Terri for opening my eyes to what is causing me so much frustration in my relationships.

[@terri_cole]

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[@WeRemember1111]

I have been religiously watching you, my partner and I have been having issues and you have helped me bring light on the mess on my side of the street. I've showed your videos to my partner and he's so happy and proud of what I've learnt and how you phrase things. Thank you so so so much! I plan on buying your books, reading your guide solidified my wavering thoughts on buying one! Thank you so much!

[@terri_cole]

I am so glad to know my content is helping you in your relationship and I am cheering you on! 💕

[@julesv5670]

I could never figure out why I felt like I had to take care of what needed to be done but always felt angry when I would. I've been married almost 3 years now and I can understand why I behave this way! I shared this with my husband and I'm going to try the list thing with appropriate timing. I think that lays out a map! Thank you so much!

[@terri_cole]

So glad it was helpful ❤️ I have a whole video on emotional labor, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mYC5o6uqjNOteNk

[@aimeethomas6848]

My problem is...I'm a single mom of an 11 and 7 yo AND an elementary school teacher. I always do everything. I don't know how not to. How do I even consider not taking on everything when literally everything is always on me. If I ease up at work then my observations don't go well. If I ease up at home things just don't get done. I feel like I am forever in autopilot/ survivor mode and I'm always exhausted and I have absolutely no energy or time left to even consider finding a partner in life. I'm just surviving everyday and every moment honestly.

[@kristenbellows3411]

I think my ex was always under functioning due to his poor mental health and addiction but it really became apparent to me when we had our first son. By the end of our relationship he was outside all day smoking pot, not working, not watching our kids, not helping around the house and not making any time for me. And here I am doing everything, including filling out his treatment intake forms. I hope him and I can heal separately and our goal is to be the best co-parents we can be.

[@terri_cole]

Thank you for sharing, Kristen. I'm witnessing you with compassion ❤️

[@terryford6210]

I am so mentally exahsted. My wife told me when we were dating 35 years ago "I don't cook and I'm never going to". I figured I was already cooking all my own meals what's the big deal. When my wife was a stay at home mom and I would have to rush home from work and fix dinner before going to a second job it became a big deal. As it turns out she doesn't do dishes or clean the house either. She tells me if i don't want to clean the house I should hire someone. We have but they can never do it right. Of course neither can I. Iv'e always had to do all my own laundry as well. I constantly hear about how she has to do everything and complains that I don't get more done around the house. At 60 years old I have learned I am codependent and have no boundries. I can't take it anymore! I have to change.

[@terri_cole]

I am witnessing you with compassion 💕 Thank you for sharing your experience.

[@well_weathered]

Thank you Terri Cole🌹for this video. Communication, even with therapy has been a dead end for growth but full of enlightenment. I have been very limited in what I am allowed to do, yet for way too long there is just refusal to complete anything and create a pleasing, functional space. Now we have been in therapy and at our last session I stated that I will continue to create a space for me to move around it. Immediately his response what to know WHAT I would be doing. I said at this point, whatever. I will have things cut to specification and use mostly what I have to create space. I will Cultivate space to move in. I am the person seeing that my parents are taken care of and getting to appointments (hospice /blind/hard of hearing) and I drive my daughter to work and pick her up and get her home. I still have 2 of the kids pets as well. I have established good boundaries around my daughter who has the family and was taken child care for granted.

[@terri_cole]

What amazing progress ❤️ Cheering you on!

[@renzprudenciado511]

Just enough. Be enough. I am enough. You are enough. Thank you so much, Ms. Terri. "Be enough" may also be new book, Ms Terri. 🤣

[@terri_cole]

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[@maggiebruneau5197]

As always, on point. I really am learning so much. Thank you.

[@terri_cole]

You're so welcome, Maggie ❤️

[@DawnBlodgett]

Omg...this is so me

[@terri_cole]

I see you, Dawn ❤️