Texting Boundaries While Dating

[@shethewriter]

Gotta be honest I hate when a guy texts me constantly. So annoying. Consistency is nice and appropriate response times are important, but we should both have a life.

[@BooDotBoo]

This. I don't mind a text every day, but don't expect me to be responding to texts every hour or even every couple of hours; I'm trying to work and live my own life. And I would hope he is, too. I've had guys cut me off because I wasn't responding to texts all day. Shoot, one guy said my friends were obviously more important than him since I couldn't talk because I was with them. I had literally told this man that I'm not on my phone constantly, anyway, but that when I'm spending time with people I want to be present, so I'm not on my phone. Plus, no, you are not more important than my friends when, at that point, we had only gone on two dates and known each other for, maybe, 3 weeks at that point. I've known my friends for WAY longer than that... and the fact that he went back to being a stranger after 3 weeks is exactly why my friends are more important than he was, lol.

[@mindset_olympics2]

“If he doesnt ask a question…dont respond” 😂😢 the hardest one for me to abide by…

[@m.r.3925]

As a sex and relationship therapist, I've tried time and again to communicate that a guy following them on social media is meaningless. I LOVE that you said they use them as entertainment. ❤

[@alexiarosario1936]

Not an email from Victoria's Secret lol

[@Alliesmith12345]

😂😂 took me out

[@andziagreen4922]

I loved when you said "he is out" 😂

[@alwayswinning11]

Super helpful. I didn't have anyone in my life to teach me about dating growing up. Thank you so much

[@Justdugo]

Same sis. And it’s hard !

[@Mindsetolympics]

These are good for in the real life, in person dating girlies as well. Ask a question to a guy, and if he's not into it and going in more, then it's fine he's not interested, hold back! :)

[@amberpalmer3708]

Not the Michelle Obama 😭😭 I’m guilty

[@myaparker5131]

This video came up for me at the RIGHT time, as a guy I was only texting with for a few days just abruptly stopped. He did hit me with the good mornings, how did you sleep, and asking so many questions to the point where I slowed down responding to him, cause I’m a busy girl. But after he suggested we meet, and I said sure next week let’s do it, he just disappeared. I was gonna give him a couple days before I straight up deleted his #. Let’s me know I’m on the right track! Thanks fairy God brother!

[@MizzNee796]

Great advice...wish I knew this years ago.

[@lora3996]

would be really nice to hear your thoughts on guys who say they want to take things slow which results in them just never progressing the relationship in any way, just kinda keeping you around and at a distance

[@dapawta]

Has this person asked you to go steady? To be exclusive with them? There's a difference between that and dating. If he's "keeping you around" odds are he has somebody else at the forefront. Again, they go low? You go low. Get you somebody else to date yourself. Enjoy what the new boo has to offer. Don't care about date #1 reacts unless he's buying you jewelry in apology sis.

[@lora3996]

@@dapawta no, none of that. they just used that as an excuse to have a voice call (this is all online) 🤣i was like are you buying time or something? why would you want to take it slow in terms of having a voice call? his response was no, what would i be buying time for? 🤣yeah, exactly...i'm just attracting the really messed up weirdos

[@Newnamechange102]

My advice is if the behaviour is confusing you then it's a red flag. If you're getting mixed signals then be cautious about this behaviour

[@lora3996]

@@Newnamechange102 yeah you're right, we have stopped talking anyway, he was getting too disrespectful and toxic

[@kuuleiana6950]

I love this so much! And agree with the no social media, I am not on that at all 👌

[@dsheppard7180]

Oh I needed this video. Getting me all the way together. I’m here for it

[@lynnphilo472]

I love your personality. I wish you were in the Miami area

[@tannyamina]

Yesssss I cannot stand good morning texts!!

[@cynthiafarris1051]

This is so helpful, to be honest dating this day & age terrify me. There are so many more rules because there are so many more modes of connectivity.

[@lisac.2438]

You are so good at educating us. Thank you 🙏

[@wolfemme430]

I don’t respond to good morning texts

[@StamperWendy]

TY, Anwar! 🌹

[@Ruby-kr6fh]

This is gold, pure gold

[@sORrYiMLaTe_wHAtdiDiMisS]

3:10 - 3:15 crucial you understand that and we all do it. Create stories!

[@lisabautista-sellers7044]

Advice: keep two or three guys in rotation. He who gives you the most effort is the winner. On a job, low energy men/ women don't get the corner office ( so is the same in dating )

[@tia_shay]

THANK YOU ANWAR!!

[@pettyandfunny9474]

It’s so sad. I literally had to figure this out not 72 hours ago.😢 I kept sending 2030 messages to this guy and I wasn’t being mean, but I was expressing myself and addressing how he’s treating me and how he tries to manipulate me and he responds to one message. I know he read them all, but it just goes to show you can lay all your emotions out like a pair of shoes and a guy is only gonna pick one pair if you know what I’m saying

[@briibrii4524]

Oh I hate when they do that😖 Maybe they're overwhelmed but it still comes off so disrespectful. I'm sorry girl, you deserve better🥺❤️

[@Learningandgrowing888]

My fairy God brother ! ❤🙏😘 Thank You ☺️

[@Lovedis4]

I wish I would’ve known this Soooo many years ago. It’s all good😊 I’m here now so that’s what matters

[@Justdugo]

If I don’t get a timely response when we’re messaging. blocked. 😂

[@cleovernebaptiste2747]

I'm learning so much from your videos,

[@whirlgirlwanda]

This is so helpful.

[@szszszsz95395]

This new post-2000 and post-internet Era of dating is annoyingly complicated and EXHAUSTING!!!! Why does it need to be soooo complicated???? I don’t like this type of unnecessary drama. I just watch your videos for entertainment. I would rather be powerful and single and powerful.

[@Zainygreenstone]

This is good.

[@remnant1018]

Good texting best practices. 🙂

[@sc4rez]

can you do a mens version?

[@sc4rez]

Like a .. boi to girl version :) what i would avoid what i Do do

[@Alwaysgotsum102say]

On any day we not seeing each other I expect a text.

[@TriciaD-g9z]

Good advice!

[@Alwaysgotsum102say]

Why play all these games when you can just find someone that’s your speed. If we both taking 3-5 days to respond, how are we getting to know each other. I’m speaking on the time between leaving the dating and setting up the date.

[@parlakgoezde]

Thanks

[@tawshisms]

so good

[@olgabushak2942]

Anwar you would really be good at couching AFTER marriage. Cause it's fairly easy to get to a relationship ..it's thr AFTER where is matters the most for linship!

[@ebonyeverything2751]

Where the heck have u been sir?😊😂