Texting Signs He's NOT Actually Interested (Part 2)

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

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[@brigittakovacs5905]

I read this somewhere: If a married man with a career and kids find the time to have an affair, do not let any single man tell you they are too busy for you. :D true words

[@frozenrobot2556]

Damn... This is something I wanted to read. Great I'm done... I'm not going to think about him more.

[@vionaxi3571]

Great!! Thank you. This is what i need.

[@lookg4981]

I know it's been two years but girl it is so hilarious haha

[@nadiab7764]

Omg, that is so funny and too true 🤣🤣🤣

[@zimjun7]

SO TRUE!!! It happened!

[@savvysupastar]

Breadcrumbing is a sure sign hes not interested in you. Responds with the bare minimum and NEVER asks questions about you

[@bettesalmon8136]

Or asks mundane questions with no follow up questions then never asks you about what you said ever again because he wasn't interested and wasn't really listening.

[@yt7377]

Yes

[@christymash8788]

Yep! I just cut a guy off tonight because he did this. Then replied saying that I am confusing. Like, what dude? hahaha!!! Thanks for the entertainment!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Tell him to go make a soup with those breadcrumbs... 🙄🤓

[@savvysupastar]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick More like go feed the birds. Haha

[@martarousselet6432]

He’s not gonna be into you if you do all the investment. STOP. ❌ You don’t have to chase the right guy - the right guy will be right next to you. :)

[@mariahconklin4150]

Exactly! He wants to send me one text a night I’ll send him one text a night. I get that this is mirroring but I’m trying to put God first

[@poemseinsteinpoems]

So true!

[@goddessofpeace4133]

When his texts are boring and he never asks me anything about me. Next!!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

NEXT! 👉👉👉

[@sharklark40]

yessssss thank you

[@krissyhall2838]

Ughhh thank you I’m asking all the questions!!

[@tjaspire]

Do not give him husband privileges if he is not your husband!!

[@Jane-gh4nc]

What if you have (cooked meals, laundry and cleaning)? And now you’re being called psycho for wanting the same when you come home from work. asking for a friend 👀

[@InshasChoice]

@@Jane-gh4nc stop doing those things for the person

[@aleciawiltshire9021]

Amen to that

[@Dragonfly_magictarot]

And stop calling a man a husband when he's not a husband. Call it what it is, a live in boyfriend.

[@amandaconstanza]

what is a husband privilege? what changes after marriage ? 😅

[@Sabrina-cs2tq]

I actually just realized that he was actually NOT into me after I watched this video 😂 better late than never 👍

[@renepetersen8433]

This is the moment to listen to: Ariana grande Thank you, Next 😂

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Better late than never indeed 🙏

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

BOOM! 🕺🏼

[@cteresa2036]

Right! But not because we are dumb and just “don’t take hints”. But because we mistakenly put the expectation into the situation that we were talking to a grown man that would use words instead of treat us like some pawn.

[@Cancemini10]

Wow! All of this! I'm leaving him alone

[@elenar7836]

Busy with work is such a classic excuse for not wanting a girlfriend😂😭

[@dw9658]

I'm doing the dishes. WTF. Boy bye

[@KellyZehe]

Even worse: not wanting YOU as his girlfriend 😢

[@heathersherman434]

@@KellyZehe the last guy I dated who said we were just going to be friends ask me if I knew how highly he regarded his friendships? Obviously not mine. 9 months later, I've never met any of his "real friends". Da Vid boredom keeps David and I as friends. Should ran at his name. Da Vid. 😆

[@hjtres7261]

@@KellyZehe I was just about to say the same thing.

[@maryz5823]

Hhahaha my guy he is he can't to have a commitment because he start a new job for 2 years hahaha 😁😆

[@marissaleora66]

I can’t stand it when guys call me baby, babe, or hun after a day of texting. Next!

[@amyswedenburg9580]

Me either! I say "I'm not your sweetheart, not anyone's" lol

[@Mandy.S.]

Or the minute they message you on social media for me. Instant pet names turn me off, too!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

My wife would *never* let me call her "babe" lol 😂

[@TheLoudseed]

I call them on it every time. It's so lame to call someone you have never met calls you babe. It actually makes me want to tear my hair out. Guys need to stop doing it!!

[@marissaleora66]

@@TheLoudseed instant turn off!!

[@melindab5585]

Your advice helped me to realize a situation where a man was texting for the ego boost with no intention of meeting me. Thanks !

[@ruth..]

It’s so childish of them.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

The dopamine hit is real, MB 😬

[@catladyjai1113]

Yep this happened to me

[@marymckenzie6100]

Yes, is very helpful! If only I had read it before letting myself be breadcrumbed for too long to admit, 9 mos. This had never happened to me before so I never suspected he was just messing around. I’ll be ready next time!

[@dw9658]

Been there.

[@Ms.eleven11]

Okay, so EVERY MAN is a NO GO....GOT IT😂😂

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

😬😬😛😂

[@kimberlynw1799]

That’s what you’d like to think 😂

[@MariamMariam-ue7vz]

In my experience, men are either super into me and I can sit back and appraise their efforts or they’re stringing me along. I’ve never had a relationship work where the guy wasn’t super into me from the start.

[@Ms.eleven11]

@@kimberlynw1799 that's what it LOOKS LIKE, too many stipulations to dating these ........

[@kimberlynw1799]

@@Ms.eleven11 Guys are looking for the girl they can keep hanging on and will believe every word they say. They want their cake and eat it too as my mom used to say. Game playing on the guys part is part of their process. I never play games nor am I easy to get. I want the guy who is kind, family oriented and so loving. No bad boys or game players for me. Not all guys are off limits. There are some really good ones out there.

[@amyrothe9918]

I feel like I need a notebook to keep up with all the do’s and don’ts of healthy relationships and the pitfalls and dangers of those unhealthy individuals...and sometimes all of it honestly just makes me want to remain single...like, forever. I did heard a great bit of dating/man advice once. If you miss your bus, you don’t run after it and chase it down. You simply wait for the next one to come along.

[@michellegriff13]

The best part of your videos are reading the comments and realizing that it's not just me. The comfort and confirmation is what we all need because it's easy to feel like it's only happening to us because we may be the only one experiencing this within our circle of family and friends. To all the ladies in the comment section XOXOXOXO 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗

[@91monash]

❤️From India

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

I was really hoping that's what would happen here on this channel, Michelle. I'm really glad you're experiencing that and THANK YOU for that feedback! 🙏

[@michellegriff13]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick Thank you!

[@renepetersen8433]

Yessss!! Sending love from Guatemala 🧡

[@vikoneo4032]

❤🌷

[@pstew5782]

One guy asked me the same question about myself 5 times in 24 hours. Clearly if he was interested, he would have remembered the answer.

[@carm7518]

Maybe he is senile lol

[@yeroroo]

@@carm7518 I SCREAM WHEN I SAW UR COMMENT THIS IS SO FUNNY HAHAH

[@laurenyoon3298]

FIVE TIMES :D

[@goodvibes7424]

Was it “How are you?” 🤣😂😆

[@miovicdina7706]

"Do you swallow?" ​@@goodvibes7424

[@renepetersen8433]

Girls! My wish for all of us is that we hear this and STOP accepting the crumbs. You deserve EVERYTHING in real life not over text. Especially YOU 💜 Thank you for this video Mr Patrick. And for all of them.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

YASSSS what Rene said! 👆 My pleasure!

[@MagdiA13]

Dated a guy for 4 months - he dumped me later because he found „the one“. It hurt but yeah whatever. This was in November. Then he texted me yesterday out of the blue - asking me how I’m doing and whats going on in my life. My instant thought: what on earth do you want from me now? Still responded without ever giving him a answer to his questions. This video showed me again, that my gut is right. So thank you Ryan!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Stick with your gut 👌

[@mindfullymellow2323]

I had dumped a guy who moved on quickly, had a woman move in with him (I never lived with him). Two years later, I get this text asking me how am I doing.??? I didn’t recognize the number. Turns out, his new lady dumped him and moved out within four months. I figure he was alone on some Friday night and texted me for validation or something. Not a chance in hell I was interested. Blocked him.

[@monaescalante8330]

Early December I also got a call from a former man-friend that had put me on the back burner. (The way I see it now.) I was privileged with a key for his apartment so I thought us as a couple until I got a text two weeks ago. Just "I can't talk to you anymore, I can't see you anymore. I've got what I was waiting for. It was nice being with you." Being adult about it, I returned the house key and picked up my things. No exchange of words. I'm hurt and disgusted with how he broke it off. But a lot wiser after this video. Contact Deleted Completely.

[@mindfullymellow2323]

@@monaescalante8330 - so sorry that happened. But, you dodged a bullet. Your man is still out there, waiting to meet you. 🌸

[@deborahkelawan8954]

U

[@florabelfajardo8808]

In my experience, typically, a man shows his interest in the beginning, texting consistently, calling, and wanting to get together. Eventually, those actions become sparse with an excuse of “busy working “. That’s when I take my exit.

[@elijahring3261]

Was he busy with work?

[@sharklark40]

thank you for the post, I've been getting this the last two days

[@annabhun90]

Yea, right. Looks like he excited with me and even he talk about a future with me, i even went to his dad funeral. but 2 month later he dumped me with a crap excuse like "he's already have children" which i knew later he was lied to me because at the time HE WANT TO BE ALONE. And when we're close again he looks like he care and etc then 4 month later he doesn't reply to my text anymore. What a douche.

[@Askyourmomboutme]

Yup, that’s when I block them lol

[@rochellesonza6505]

​​@@annabhun90it's happening to me right now. He even gave me gifts. He also imagined having a family with me. 2 mos later, he doesn't message me like before. It has been sporadic. By the way he's my senior colleague at work.

[@natasyarahman9550]

I stop texting first as i started to realize that I've been watering a dead plant before... He don't even care.

[@tjaspire]

Stay off your back while dating! You ALREADY KNOW what 99% of these men want from you! They will discard you after they get what they want, whether it is a slow fade or ghosting. Never let him pressure you. *Don't tell him where you live!* Never be alone with him unless you two are on a DEFINITE path to marriage. Even then, be cautious. Do not give him husband privileges if he is NOT your husband!!

[@winstonchurchill571]

If you have to understand if he's into you by his texes and not by he's actions, he's into you PERIOD. A guy who is interested in a relationship don't spend his time texting, but going out with you.

[@sharonadeer5535]

I've been dating a guy for 6 years he has only taken me out twice in all this time met hime in 2015 he lied about his name & everything 3 years in to this relationship I found out through his driving licence he wasnt paul Scott but marc jung he had me calling hime paul for 3 years he never told me why he lied to me & my grown up adults he never stayed the night never stayed at mine his mobile was never around always on hime or he used to leave it in his car hes told me he is single but he never stays in contact knowing I live on my own i totally do everything for hime but I don't get to have hime with me like it should be he says he's working yet never rings me to ask how I am if he does he will ring on the day he comes to pop round while his in the car he will ring me or when hes out some where he never picks me up in the car to take me out he hasn't taken me to meet any of his family or friends i don't know any one who knows marc jung he says he lives in plastow i don't know i live in dagenham essex it's not that far to see me he hasn't been in touch with me for a good few days I have with hime I always text marc his texes are short & cold to me he has never been open to me 6years together he hasn't shown me anything .sharon deer vs marc jung .

[@halfinlove]

@@sharonadeer5535 i really hope you're not with him anymore...

[@Celebrityplusone]

So I’m confused this guy is so inconsistent with texts but when I see him 1x a week we have a blast, no sex, he makes the next date and asks about my schedule, but then our texts are so lame.. but then again I’m like well we aren’t committed we’ve gone out 3 times… I ignore him until he creates more initiation with text. Idk his actions are spot on but the communication is off… he says he wants a slow burn. But he needs to know I don’t have time for inconsistency he’s into me or no?

[@BrandonThe1nr]

@@Celebrityplusone You might just be dating someone who values in person connection over text banter. If he's taking you out and you guys have a blast, that's great BUT if you also want to text someone you like throughout your day to feel some kind of connected to them, that's totally normal too. You can have both, a guy who'll text you in between dates and an amazing connection in real life. Ask yourself if insecurity is playing a role here too. I've had a woman in my life where I was showing up with efforts of interest well beyond just texting (although I texted her every day) and she still dropped me because I was "inconsistent" but it was really insecurity.

[@Celebrityplusone]

@@BrandonThe1nr it wasn’t something I really liked, he never asked me how I was doing and would get defensive why I asked the change in pace. So he decided to end the courtship after 2 dates, if he has no patience and quick to be defensive because i was asking about a change in the communication that’s not someone I’d want to continue dating. Our styles just seem to be too different and that’s ok, I need a little more consistency, someone who wants to know how my day was etc. So lesson learned! Thanks for the great response!

[@Legend659]

I was actually exclusively dating a guy for 3 months things were going great then just after NYE he started getting super cold and I got the mistake identity text.... “hey know you are busy with your son right now but would love to talk to after he goes to bed” I don’t have a kid!!! BLOCK BYE BYE

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

PEACE! ✌️

[@LemansSunset350]

😂😂😂😂

[@permanasari4568]

😂😂😂 good decision

[@drnyashamercy]

Time saved!

[@mindfullymellow2323]

What a sleaze bag! You dodged a bullet.

[@buzleopugs]

Every woman / girl on the dating apps needs to be aware of all of these . Thank you Ryan

[@tonyyero7231]

u never have to TRY HARD when someone likes you! male or female.

[@purplelillyx9895]

True 🙌🏼

[@ayedee4463]

Please do a video on texts guys send when they’re looking for reasons to talk to you. Let’s flip this topic around.

[@ericarb]

Agree!

[@XGD5layer]

"Not this" Really though, it's easier to define the red flags.

[@karencancerianpriestess712]

It’s the standard “what u up to”? text that’s a huge red flag for me. If a guy doesn’t call u by your name u can bet he’s sent that message to every female in his contact list to see who bites first. It’s a no reply, boy bye from me💜

[@brownrux3245]

Word, just realised this

[@eumesma4725]

The ones that appear after long of going ghost best answer to a message is : who's this?

[@isabellecorlett3510]

Hahaha does this work!?

[@eumesma4725]

@@isabellecorlett3510 yes sure does !!

[@Go.Bex.]

Yes! I did this and he responded with "another unicorn". I did not reply. Then he sent me a face pic 2 months later. Again, no reply. I almost responded with: "Dude, I haven't thought about you since you went away. Not gonna start now." But figured no contact was the best communication.

[@isabellecorlett3510]

@@Go.Bex. I wish I had the strength to do that 😂😭

[@Go.Bex.]

@@isabellecorlett3510 well before he did the "slow fade" he attempted to call me a narcissist because I never initiated texts. Here's the thing...he was two hours ahead of me so I never got the chance to initiate because I was freakin' sleeping! 🙄🥱

[@agwstewie3456]

Ryan Patrick, 100% spot on. Met a PhD online, after a couple dates (no sex) he went to texting only (always at night and in the morning). His text never used my name, talked about "what an amazing woman I am" would go on about things going in his life with a sob story here and there. Thanks for the info. It hurt, but he's history!

[@lc4972]

They do this all the time. So after a few days when they text me again, I respond, "who is this?". Lol. I know who it is because they are in my contacts list, but they rarely ever respond again. Trash taking itself out...

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Haha don't let the door hitcha on the way OUT... 🏃💨💨👋

[@amynisaac]

Now that’s funny !!

[@raquelkthomas]

That’s a good one!!

[@donrosnipia8239]

This works every time I use the “who is this, please” reply

[@karenrobertson5719]

Lol I say that too all the time that I love when the trash takes itself out why a guy vacates my life that was less than what I deserved.

[@kate3024]

Its when I ask a guy what they are up to and they say, "not much just lying on my bed, bored" Girls, we all know what the guy is insinuating here!!

[@ali123tpcap]

Repeated patterns of hot and cold

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Wishy washy, slishy sloshy... 🙄

[@naurjae5387]

I had been talking to a guy for about a month only via text, but we would talk everyday. Not just the "good morning, good night" texts but good conversation even in the middle of the day when we were working. But I noticed he was going too heavy too fast saying thing like "he got my back" and that hes "proud of me" for some accomplishments I shared with him. He hasn't even heard my voice or seen my face yet lol. But after a month I noticed that he was taking longer to respond but instead of right away it was a few hours, so not that big of a deal. But after watching this vid I realized he only called me by my name once. I had a feeling he was back on the dating site I met him on and this just confirms to me that his intentions were not right even though he said he liked me and wanted to potentially date me. I wanted to ghost him so badly but also wanted to be mature about the situation so I wrote him a long text to explain what I didnt like about the situation and why i just need to focus on work right now. Its been a month after and nothing from him. Great! Be gone with him! Ladies follow your gut, its usually right!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

NEXT! 👉👉👉

[@marygaychiong970]

My goodness. I feel the same way. Ouch 🥺😭

[@mcmb12vlaz17]

Why this sounds soooooooo damn Freakin familiar like on point same freakin situation 🥲😂 oh my gosh!!!! I’m freaking out lol...

[@deborahwhelan278]

Definitely he is a Narcissist

[@nickorobinson5328]

🏆

[@MegaPankita]

He never really complimented me on my sewing skills, asked about my adoption story, or my visit to the childrens home last year in india, he never asked about my mom Who has cancer, he never asked about my work as socialworker, he never really asked about my feelings. Like he simply didnt care.

[@DIENEUEMAMA]

This is sad...

[@taylorbates7812]

im so sorry

[@InshasChoice]

So, what was his motive?

[@elizabethnevers3945]

You sound cool!! Screw that loser

[@aestheticilyy8163]

You better leave that person 😭

[@melissakaufman7904]

#11 happened so frequently in 2020, it’s one of the reasons I removed myself from all dating apps. It was ridiculous.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Damn scammers... A special place in hell, I'll tell ya 🙄

[@Tiquipay]

Yeah, they're almost every other profile. One popular back story lately has been that they were (where I live) just a few weeks ago and would like to stay there forever. Currently working on a cargo ship heading for India and will be back in two weeks. I assume - had the conversation continued - that they would soon have a mishap that would require money. Four different profiles had this story in just a few weeks! Strangely enough they never seemed to know where in my city they had been or if any of the travel restrictions here due to covid. Haha!

[@adie5137]

I've got to say I am grateful to never be interested on dating apps. We can meet real people out there 👍

[@TheRacqgrl769]

I just stopped talking to a guy because of texting. I'd repeatedly stated that I prefer talk over text. I was also tired of the "wyd" texts that he considered as "daily contact".

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

NEXT! 👉👉👉

[@darlabottom-Actor]

🤔 I am currently talking to a guy who says that he prefers talking over texting. He doesn't text much, but we do have very long phone conversations that are deep. If he says he's gonna call, he does. Not sure what to make of this guy yet. He intrigues me 🤔

[@whatchumindbtch2013]

@@darlabottom-Actor OMG, SAME HERE! Mind to tell what did you decided to do with him, in the end? It could be of help here 😭😓.

[@gerryb9342]

When a guys disappears for awhile, (ghosts) or generally proves himself to not be the real deal. I just block him. This way I never get that random message months later for someone whose contact I deleted and legit don’t know who they are. No FOMO here. They’ve already proved theres nothing I would be missing out on

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Completely, Gerry! That's the mentality I'm talking about right there 👆👆✅

[@lisad4689]

now every time I get the “hello beautiful” text: 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

NEXT! 👉👉👉

[@kathysl6174]

I rolled my eyes when I see those opening text.

[@tamtam6717]

Receiving good morning and good night texts like they are like some sort of formula he has in his mind in how to get a relationship established...where it doesn’t feel like genuine interest/connection

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Oh yeah 👍

[@Pheonix_Risinggg]

They are so addictive though 😒

[@sharklark40]

I get "night," and "morning," one word

[@rqrjq4iari4]

I'm jus the only one who says it, when I notice he's online even it late nights but when it's me he's not concern 😪

[@LemansSunset350]

“Just you wait - I’m gonna marry you and give you all the kids you want.” 😂😂😂

[@SamElle]

the mistaken identity has happened to me multiple times!!! The guy had asked multiple questions he had asked previously and he forgot he had asked and what my answers were. I called him out on it and jokingly said, you must be talking to a bunch of people and he laughed it off. I didn't continue seeing him just because I'd like more effort into paying attention to details about me

[@ruth..]

They say that guys have a one track mind, yet they’re able to chat with multiple women at once 🙄

[@SamElle]

@@ruth.. RIGHT?! ridiculous

[@k-lovegal2212]

Or they tell you the same things and you're thinking ummm yeah I've heard this before. You forgot you told me??

[@SamElle]

@@k-lovegal2212 OMG YES THIS!!! I have sat thru the same stories time and time again. I’m just like, you told me this already!!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

One ear and out the other... grrrrrr 🤦🏻‍♂️

[@LoveLaughLin]

I got love bombed by a guy. He would text me everyday and respond immediately for at least 2 months. I already thought it was too good to be true. Turns out it was. He slowly started pulling away when he realised I'm not willing to get physical with someone I barely know. And in hindsight he kept things superficial by not letting me know too much about him. He also didn't ask me much about me. It was always me trying to get to know him better🙄

[@Laurik08]

It’s so true what you are saying! Hahah after dating the wrong guys for years, now that I am with the right person, I can see so clearly all those signs that were given me from the beginning

[@SingBluebird]

This makes me realize I don’t know how to date or flirt anymore.... 😩 I’m doing it all wrong!

[@pippapaisley6270]

Same lol

[@dw9658]

Right

[@LonjeMarie7]

Ladies, when we I have to start watching videos like these we already know. You’re still valuable you are still beautiful just because he didn’t see it it’s his loss move on quickly save yourself pain

[@Kittyhammertoe100]

'My daughter is dying of cancer and I need $900 or they are gonna pull the plug on her' Well RIP then. BLOCK🤷🏿‍♀️

[@michellegriff13]

🤣

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

NEXT! 👉👉👉

[@permanasari4568]

😂😂 it happened to me too. Block !!😂

[@glorialynn2242]

Scammer alert

[@rachelleelias7737]

Exactly 😂

[@rufaromushonga9001]

I have experienced most of these but the worst was #11 l lost my savings thinking l was helping a good person. Please ladies do not fall for these kind of man. Always put yourself first and sometimes it's always good to be selfish to strangers sometimes because you can never know who is good or bad

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Crap, I'm sorry Rufaro 😕 Thank you for sharing this story with the group. The scams are REAL, y'all ❌

[@purplelillyx9895]

Oh no! I hope this isn't what's happening to me right now ... 🤦‍♀️

[@rufaromushonga9001]

@@purplelillyx9895 Do you want to talk about it?

[@samanthalaferlita7513]

Oh I am so glad I got rid of the guy who did everything you have pointed out. Now I am a much stronger woman for it. Thank you for this video Ryan, It reiterates why I had to walk away. :)))

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Wonderful, Samantha! 🤗

[@avoccado9753]

Thank you for these videos. They really help. (I think) when a girl knows the situation, it makes it SO much easier to move. Being in limbo is worse than being rejected, so thanks for the tips to help decide whether they’re interested or not!x

[@ad6417]

Daily dating app checkin messages "Hope your having a great day" but he never asks a question to get to know you.

[@Cycology_Major]

My respect drops to new lows whenever anyone uses YOUR for YOU’RE.

[@FreePalestine123-b1x]

Love this list, especially the one about future fakers! I have come across guys who wanna sell me a dream but I'm well aware talk is cheap and actions speak louder than words. I've also come across guys who either I cut off or they drop off and months later want to see if I'll still respond to their "hey, how ru?" messages. They don't want to know how I am, they want an ego boost! I guess in a lot of ways this boils down to maturity levels. A guy who's sincere and honest will be sincere and honest and not play childish games or string you along. I found when I'm really clear on my own motivations and intentions I have zero tolerance for this kind of behaviour and it's far easier to spot and eradicate.

[@christymash8788]

I have learned SO much from watching your videos. I have been single for 2 1/2 years after a 23 year marriage. I'm months away from turning 50, and I have had so many dating fails that even my therapist tells me that my stories are the highlight of his week. Family and friends have told me that I should write a book or start a blog. What a sad reality...lol. I'm just glad my stories entertain others. Haha! Anyways, I have now set my standards SO HIGH that I likely will never find a man that fits my bar level. I simply do not tolerate any level of BS or lack of effort anymore. I know my worth. THANK YOU for your blog...you are my "go to" for all dating advice.

[@dawnross2089]

Glad I'm not the only one. Never thought I'd be a serial dater, but, geez! A little honesty would just save so much time!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Thanks, Christy! Happy to be your go-to dating advice person/guy/thingy 😄🕺🏼

[@kaylamenghi9959]

if you start a blog or instagram account with your stories I am there for it!!!!!

[@DrLindseyM]

Please write the book

[@leannseibert800]

I got the hey baby so much I wondered if he forgot my name. He Always just wanted to hang out at my place. The amount of excuse this guy had was endless. He would say he cared about me and wanted to take me out but stood me up twice. He is the poster boy for this one.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Expected you to host all the time... nice... NEXT! 👉👉👉

[@shannon431]

Omg, are we dating the same guy? Lol

[@olufunker.awosogba2654]

I wish I would have come across your page 3 months ago🤦🏾‍♀️ but I'm so glad that I at least found you because you are awesome and your advice is so clear and on point! ☝🏾

[@tjaspire]

If you have to question if he likes you, he doesn't! No need to spend time deciphering his text messages, it'll be obvious. Hot and cold behavior most likely means he never really expressed signs of interest, but you were reading into his niceness because you liked him. I was amazed to find out how many guys actually thought I liked them just by my being nice.

[@meredithmericle7487]

Sad to say men act the same as they did forty years ago when I was dating as an adult. Back then it was the phone, not texting. Never addressing you by name or even saying your name was a sure sign that his feelings were elsewhere. You'd think that four decades of women who put up with this crud when they were dating would push them to raise their sons to be more considerate humans.

[@yellowstar409]

The work excuse is so common it's sad lol

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Work & family. Big ones 🙄

[@pambrown5316]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick are these just when you are getting to know someone?

[@pinkoceanbyannabelle7081]

Yeah pretty much. If he’s interested YOU WILL Know

[@lorrainenanud2493]

Yes ...very sad.

[@anothermomsweepsthedust5247]

Oh my goodness! I could never understand why they bothered.... the dopamine hit!! Now that i know that I won’t be looking for that shred of evidence that he’s actually into me. Thanks:)

[@Kittyhammertoe100]

'Im trying to get a co-signer for a car.' BLOCK

[@lynneking5365]

🙄

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

HAHAHAHA 😆

[@Mandy.S.]

Guy who didn't even follow me messaged me on one of my social media sites... Long paragraphs about him wanting me to go to Africa right from the start... then a message sent to me only a few days after this introduction (sent at 2 am in my time zone) "Hey, Mandy. Could you load me some money? My landlord wants to kick me out and I just got a new job but can't afford rent. I only need about $390." I told him I thought that was really rude and I blocked him! Wtheck, anyway...

[@Kittyhammertoe100]

@@Mandy.S. They are BOLD!

[@Mandy.S.]

@@Kittyhammertoe100 Yes, they are! Now that guy posts about Nigerian women and how fast they want $2,000 from him like the tables have turned and he brags of his Bitcoin investments! So glad I blocked! 😂

[@Livelearnapply]

He was always busy and would say he’d take me somewhere never did

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

The promise of future action... 😒

[@joandonnelly1754]

Same!

[@glorialynn2242]

Just say "Thanks but I already went somewhere yesterday, and I already have plans for sometime!"

[@mizzcrazygal]

if he promised to take u somewhere & he didn’t, don’t remind him don’t complain. go to that place where u was meant to go w him but w someone else like friends mom idk. he’ll feel left out and want to be a part of it. haha

[@Livelearnapply]

@@mizzcrazygal I blocked him not playing games w/ a grown man

[@alidan2190]

Honestly Ryan I think you are better than Matthew Hussey you are so underrated! Keep Shining 🔥

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Oh snap!! Thanks for that, Ali 😋

[@alidan2190]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick Hi Ryan no worries “babe” 😂 out of interest are you doing coaching 1-2-1? My love life is pretty shocking I’m only 25 years old too so I believe in young enough to be moulded and would love some coaching advice :)

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

@@alidan2190 Honestly, the best way to work with me right now is through my 8-week coaching program, The Boyfriend Blueprint, that's opening back up for enrollment late April. You'll make some great friends in our small group coaching sessions, too! We'll literally get you revamped to crush it out there. It's not cheap, but it's totally the way to go 100% 🤘

[@mariamadam3493]

According to this My guy is interested ✋ am so happy 😍

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

I'm glad 👌

[@Franzie2105]

At the beginning he wanted to know everuything about me. I gave him an introduction of my life without details. Then he sms me every day "how are you doing" "do you miss me" two weeks after, he doesn't sms me anymore, doesn't accept my sms to break up. But when he can talk to me he always focus on himself. He's boring and never asks me any question...

[@ChrisLovesBooks]

When he stops making dates or responding as often... You know what you were good for, girl, come on. A lil' covid cuddle and then some.

[@veea1543]

Imma cry reading this 😿

[@tjaspire]

Don't sleep with these guys!! These guys will reveal their true intentions, but you have to keep your legs closed. You don't need to sleep with a guy to figure out that most of them, as in 99% of them who approach you, only want the sex, only to discard you later, but they are not going to just ask you for that because they know you'd say no. No need to get your heart broken repeatedly, stay off you back while dating, I guarantee you will see red flags more clearly. And don't let a guy PRESSURE YOU into having sex. I try to avoid being alone with a guy, either at his place my place, and I NEVER tell them where I live; especially since my last date was a stalker. They may seems sweet at first, but trust me, that is a coverup!!

[@ChrisLovesBooks]

@@veea1543 it suuucked, tbh. I think of myself as pretty independant and headstrong, but when you get mixed messages like that... you don't know what to feel

[@clarerowley6240]

I've experienced all but the last...I'm truly at the point where I don't believe there are any nice men out there, they don't exist, I literally am sick of people asking me why I'm single, im single because I'm supposed to be alone. That's how I feel

[@p.l.eubank3108]

Hi Ryan, I’ve been seeing this over the past week! This guy has done all the lousy things you are referring to. First text did include my name but he didn’t include his, weird! Then he sent me 4 pics that were mirrored on the site. I thought that was strange. My gut told me it was off from the beginning. From there, he sent the good morning sunshine & good night sweetheart stuff. I played along, started the text with his name & ended with my name. Then I asked him how long he had been divorced. He said about 5 years. That must have threw him off because from there, he slowed way down. All of this within a week. I have never initiated contact & at this point not even sure if he will ask me out. It’s pretty strange to l waste so much time on this nonsense. Ryan, this was spot on! You really have a handle on this dating crap. I’m pretty much over all of it. I’ve only been on-line for 3 months. Thanks for your awesome information!

[@auroramomcilovich3766]

Fell for the ....baby text and lived for it each day....at the time...wow....now I understand, thanks ryan.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Happy to help, Aurora! 🙂

[@aziraphaleangel-22]

My ex was almost all of these examples. God, he was my first relationship too, and he turned out to be a f🤬cking cheater! He peppered me with sweet talk, empty promises, called me baby 24/7, he rarely ever called me and came up with excuse after excuse after excuse as to why we couldn't talk. Sometimes I would wait hours or days for a response to a single text, he couldn't even say that he loved me every day. When we first got together, we would talk for hours at a time on the phone and not just over text, he gave me other nicknames besides just baby, he acted like he actually loved me. Few months down the line, it all went downhill. He played me like a fiddle and broke my heart. But, I'm in another relationship now and it's completely different. My current boyfriend has been with me for a year. We can't exactly go on dates because it's long distance and he never gives me the cold shoulder with messages, that's literally the first thing he does is text me or call me whenever I'm awake. It's not just text, he calls me any chance he gets. But recently his phone has been giving him problems. I'm a witness, so, I know it's not a lie. His phone has started to randomly cut out on our call or the audio will mess up and it's very frustrating, so, I don't blame him for not being able to call much anymore. He doesn't just call me baby, he calls me pretty much any nickname you can think of. Wifey bear, babygirl, honey, beautiful, baby, babe, angel, ladybug. He has a ton of nicknames for me. I feel like he's definitely genuine

[@Katherine-mo8fl]

Super! I have been through all of these tricks. My gut was always right. I tested it though, as I thought I am too smart for my own good. NEVER again! Huge thanks Ryan for the great videos. Love your style. The best 👍👍

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Stoked you love my style Yelena! Thanks for being here and chiming in on the comment thread 🤓

[@samboriboun7866]

How you test??

[@Katherine-mo8fl]

@@samboriboun7866 I just went with the flow, pretending I do not know better 😜😄

[@Thegardenersclog]

Thanks for pointing out the obvious it’s just taken this long for me to accept it all!

[@philiciahanna]

Someone who mainly texts you when they’re bored

[@dariapampu-romanescu2300]

Just realised my bf doesn t like me😂😂😂😂

[@janhabidey6098]

Yeah mine too😂😂😂

[@---wj7zu]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@purplelillyx9895]

😂😂😂

[@elizabethwood8411]

I had a guy send me another woman's bio pics saying they were beautiful. I just said "yes she is and call her and delete my number!!"

[@ruth..]

Haha 😂 you go girl!

[@vangiehill3687]

Brilliant 😂

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

BOOM! 💥 Annnnnd *DONE!* ✊

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

I'll say 😄

[@permanasari4568]

Hahaha awesome😂

[@jacquelinemosley3298]

I want to send this video to the last guy I texted with cause he did all twelve of these issues...I shut him down thanks to Ryan!

[@mybabycyrus2012]

Heres a second comment 😁 I love how sincere you are about all this dating stuff, its nice to hear even if its not always rainbows!

[@melynda7976]

Just decided I was done with his games about 10 days ago. I deserve better than that. Took me a while to listen to my gut. Thank you for your videos Ryan.

[@Legend659]

I get the non name one so much 😕 “hey beautiful, miss, gorgeous, pretty lady” 🙄

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

BLAHH

[@c.b.2321]

Hey from north Germany ;-), I still learn so much from your videos, thank you so much. There is a guy who im interested in, and he's acting like this. After the first very positive date he wanted to get to know me “all over“. He invited himself to come to my home for a cup of coffee to talk. I didn't want to and told him I wanted to meet him again outside where ever ;-) And then...silence after responding “ok“. I sent him a message like you recommended, “im old fashioned, im impressed by men who shows interest and efforts, who call than text, next week I'm in the game and have time if he wants to talk to me for planning a date etc. His answer: pls don't complain, I have so much work this week. Blablabla. Next!! (Im 58 years old, by the way, and still practicing and learning) So: thank you!!

[@risewithpeta2224]

This is gold!!!!! I learnt from a dude just recently I met through fb I don’t normally do online dating ... so thank you universe for showing me these colours

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Gold is good!! I'll take GOLD any day, Peta! Thanks! 🙏

[@robmckay875]

Watching these videos has helped sooo much for dating women. Not sure if there's a lot of men that watch this stuff. This content helped me navigate tests or signs far more successfully.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

I'm glad to hear this, Rob. Thanks for watching 👍

[@melissakaufman7904]

Great advice! Some of it is hard to hear, but worth it! Now...how can I stop attracting the disinterested guys?

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Thanks Melissa! The truth is, they're unavoidable. The way you deal with this is give them two weeks from the time you start messaging to take you out. 14 days comes by with no date? NEXT! 👉👉👉

[@toniclair1953]

These comments are awesome and I'm glad I'm not alone. I somehow got myself into a social media relationship where the guy was super into me but then started saying he hates using his phone all the time. Who knows what's really happening. It sucks to have to move on but it still feels better than constantly worrying all the time.

[@Boertje247]

Met a man at a networking mixer. He took my card, we had a great convo, I thought we had some sparks, but didn’t hear from him for 2 weeks. We met for coffee, again, there seemed to be a connection, but no follow-up. Then, sporadic texts to meet late at night (uh, nopes). So I knew despite the sparks, he wasn’t into me. Next time he texted, I responders week later with. “Who this?” Never was bothered by him again.

[@tjaspire]

Good for you! Inconsistency is the biggest sign.

[@sharklark40]

yeahhhhhhh. . I connected with a guy and after a few days I have the lopsided conversations, this really helps with booty call desire vs genuine interest, thank you!

[@avgwhitegurl6646]

Listening to the signs and realizing I do these 😆

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Shameful! 😂

[@Ashleyboosie]

Me too!! 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@rachaelbiggs7219]

Ryan! It took me a minute to figure out where I recognized you from and then it came to me--we used to work together at Fish Co. many moons ago. You have the same enthusiastic energy and I'm so happy for your success! Love the channel. You male people are hard to decode and we can use all the help we can get, so thanks! :)

[@pintacook6781]

I had a guy text me “do you like sushi?” So I replied back and then it was the next day before I got another text, so I did what Ryan would say lose the number- NEXT

[@kittengem4243]

I love how fast you talk

[@charmaineb11]

I get a good morning text...but recently they have been so late, he could have waited a few minutes to make it a "good afternoon" (rolls eyes)... NEXT!

[@melindabucy8459]

It makes you feel like a fool sometimes. Then the man I have lived with for a year says he doesn't like talking on the phone but, I watch him call other people. He called me from work last week only because he had no one else to talk to.

[@nithaazalea7579]

It's so easy Ryan. If someone never initiate to text a girl first then He s not into that girl

[@010lore]

Great video! Helpful signs to move away from men that are just wasting time.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Absolutely! 🙂

[@njione]

I have become extremely wise to scammers when they say that they are a military or a doctor that lives out of the country but they're American or when they use the word dear... a lot that's usually a a big sign

[@corinnepierce2929]

Yep that or widowed

[@henchoakes8016]

Haha yes I've had loads if these! It's like they are all reading off the same script 🤣

[@analunn719]

Thank you so much was almost lost a lot of money to a contractor in Turkey !!!

[@AzadeSeif]

Wow, literally wow. I mean your videos are always inspiring. They always take my hand and lift me up from the dark and depression. I now know what to do. Thanks allot.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Awesome, Azade! I appreciate your kind words 🙋‍♂️

[@jammyjay917]

When you send him a lovely text and he just sends back a 👍 that's it, no words! Unbelievable....what a waste of my time.... Thank you for this truth which we needed to know...

[@annea.1765]

This video needs a "trigger alert" for me 😂😂😂...wish I had seen this long ago!! So true!!!!

[@Mscoloraturakae]

This video reminds me of especially of my days living in NYC. I’m so thankful for my husband.

[@emzizthemz]

when he is one person with you and another person around others

[@DopamineDecor]

👍

[@meenakshim4437]

You are so expressive which makes your videos so much fun to watch

[@ajl577]

My GAWD....this stuff makes me feel neurotic about dating😱😱😱 The espionage and GAMES🤥😨

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

The trick is not wasting your time when you sense the nonsense is abound 😎

[@ajl577]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick In spite of that sentiment, I know that the trash should take itself out if I'm doin it right🤓 Thanks for the love for my comment 😁

[@RosyLife79]

👍🏼🌅That was very helpful! I had a guy do all of these texts playing to me. It felt awful. But watching this video made me feel validated. Like I’m not the only one! Thank you!!!

[@TheJessicagardner]

Why is dating so hard ?

[@ackermanheichou7733]

I could feel this in a whole different level

[@zaz4jaz]

ask myself that most days...don't understand how all these people that are married even met..

[@nemom7791]

I honestly feel like dating is such a mission. It's always a mis-match. Either I find him attractive but we don't click or we click but am not attracted to him. Finding both those qualities is something I rarely encounter. I feel like at this point I'll never find the one. :(