PERCEPTION IS EVERYTHING | Day 7

[@moeblackx]

always remind yourself that there is no “relationship rachel” having long relationships can trick us into thinking we will be the same person in our next situation when in reality we often leave past relationships because we don’t enjoy the person they make us. it’s not surprising as soon as you started doing things with your new guy they brought up feelings about your last relationship - you’re reliving experiences with a new person and it’s common to call on old feelings as a jumping off point! just always remember nostalgia is a liar and if it was that good - it would have never left 💗

[@idkuandidwt]

This was really a nice reminder thanks

[@thatschicblog]

wow as someone who gets off on nostalgia - this was... a beautiful comment. thank you for sharing xx

[@charlottecharliechaz]

Wow this comment is 💯 ... SO TRUE!! 👏❤ x

[@kennedydaniel8183]

ohmygod I needed to hear this today

[@sirinem.6896]

I took a screen shot of your comment, for the times when l'll need this words, again. Thank you :)

[@plainezaine5065]

These are some of the most refreshing vlogs on KZbin. They're so spiritually cleansing without forcing positive energy.

[@KayleySakamoto]

I feel like in this vlog series you've really opened up and allowed yourself to be vulnerable (although you've never felt closed off). I feel like I'm catching up with a close friend which, after months of quarantine isolation is so so nice

[@sarahnguyen1646]

I related so much to when you talk about having a deep emotional reservoir and mindlessly giving that to people when dating without even realizing because I'm so used to having the capability of being vulnerable. So happy youre doing 14 days of Thats Chic

[@StanleyDo]

When I say I love you to someone I always know it to be true and authentic because love is NOT something that you give someone, it is not something that you do, it is not conditional. Love is a state of being. Love is who you are and when you radiate that energy others can feel it too.

[@thatschicblog]

SNAPS!!!!! YES!!!! it's BEING ***** i love this thank you

[@anutzica]

this is so beautifully put 🤍

[@Cooqquu]

At your own pace. Totally natural to miss past partners, & even more normal to have all of these intense thoughts mixed with anxiety while being hung over. Your response mechanisms are firing on all cylinders, including adrenaline. Thanks for sharing this one.

[@defamiliars]

I was with someone for 7 years as well. We broke up two years ago but I still sometimes miss that comfort of being with someone who knows you so well. I miss that familiarity and those rituals, but I also know that I'm way better out of that relationship.

[@pixiebomb28]

why are you in my life rn😭

[@subthaitleth8689]

We were all once broken and I don't know it's called growth?

[@jesusisapisces]

This is why I don't want love 😭😭 Imagine giving your heart to someone and creating a collection of beautiful memories with them and then one day down the line -maybe 3 or even 15 yrs later, all of that falls apart. I may be a bitch but I'm too sensitive to endure all of that.

[@pixiebomb28]

@@jesusisapisces hehe its shit but thats life tho, at least you can acknowledge that while things were good they were beautiful and you really did care deeply for one another and experiencing it is too good to miss out on. At least there is also an endless amount times you can experience it and every different person you experience it with brings something new, and hopefully wonderful into your life.

[@jesusisapisces]

@@pixiebomb28 that's a very interesting, and rather optimistic way of looking at it. Thank you!

[@nadinefourie7111]

The way you feel about a new relationship is EXACTLY how i feel right now. Also felt so guilty for moving on and also just felt wierd being in a new relationship its like i know what to expect and it kinda moves quicker if you’ve been in a long relationship before?? It’s like falling from the previous one into a new one and feels wierd doing the same things/going similar places with just a different person and then thinking of the previous partner and being like wait why am I thinking about them.. and also comparing ugh

[@zieva182]

I feel you!!!

[@4sleepless]

literally going thru the same thing rn.. i thought i was ungrateful for comparing and constantly reliving past memories but i realize there's no other way to go on after a break up. though i do not think my past relationship was bad, i can't help thinking about all the bad things that happened and all the red flags i ignored. and all my friends told that my ex wasn't good for me and they found him to be quite emotionally closed off and even rude. now i see that too but when we were together i was completely blind and thought that those crumbs of love were enough for me. the person i am now with adores me with their entire being and i love them too but i too fear that it's happening too quick, as if we've skipped through a period of time. combining that with my anxiety i feel such intense emotions i can't even begin to explain. but it's good to know that i'm not the only one feeling this way, no matter how old we are or how long the previous relationship lasted these are the emotions and experiences we have to deal with in order to grow. i wish you all peace in your souls and minds and that you discover love so great it makes you fall in love with everything around you even more!

[@EMPOWA]

"this is reality" "is it?" hit

[@Pizzagurl24283]

Scary, I was saying "I don't want to go back to reality," to my bf last night and he said the same thing "this IS reality." It helped anchor me and reminded me to stop trying to escape things I have to work on in other aspects of my life by adding this dreamlike tint to my relationship. Also I feel that way about new experiences with new lovers too, sometimes it feels like I'm leaving that old lover behind when I do things we used to do with my current bf. I think if you love(d) someone it's natural to miss them and think of them as long as it doesn't feel unhealthy and it doesn't interfere with your present.

[@kenegrete]

Rachel is so incredibly well-spoken. I could never express the way I feel so successfully and as detailed as she does. I think this is why it is so interesting to listen to what she has to say, even if it is her simply speaking her mind about how she feels that day.

[@sonapersphone5754]

I keep coming back to these vlog series.They have a certain quality to them which I can’t get enough

[@sammionne239]

I am stuck inside all day preparing for my final exams. Really glad I can escape my reality momentarily when I watch these vlogs. Keep enjoying the moment Rachel! You're surrounded by nature and its beauty.

[@neleseyfarth5385]

thanks for sharing your vulnerable thoughts on relationships, follow what feels right + wishing u the best

[@Johanamrc]

So happy to have my daily dose of Rachel but sad at the same time we're already halfway through 🥲💛

[@KristineJo]

I was single for a little over a year and dated around quite a bit during that time. I would like to say I’ve figured out my definition of love, company and the place my introversion has in my new relationship. But of course all these things change and evolve with time, just have to find the right soul to evolve alongside.

[@curiouslyunruffled]

You're truly gifted, Raych. The way you seamlessly communicate with us sans trying is so, so beautiful. The vulnerability you exude is nothing short of magic. I can totally see myself coming back to this video in future if I'm feeling lost, it left me with a lingering sense of raw hope. Most def my favorite day so far, can't wait to uncover the rest! xx

[@m.chicken1000]

“If any of this made sense string together my thoughts for me” lol rachel you’re my favorite

[@sirinem.6896]

The vlog ended, and I felt the need to re watch it again. Right now. The talk about relationships is so important! I needed to absorb your words. And the pictures are very pleasant too. Thank you Rachel.

[@charly7490]

These vlogs are so relaxing and entertaining. I love how you capture the simple Joy's of life that we sometimes forget about, like looking at plants in the sun, the moon , dogs (especially Leika (hope that's how it's spelled) and doing stuff by yourself. :)

[@sarahlepa385]

Thank you for sharing these moments, its feels very soothing to hear someone else talk through their emotions/behaviors/etc. And you're right, everyone needs therapy lol its not a negative, just a moment to take a step back a think about yourself from the outside. I don't know if that really makes sense either but I just really appreciate your videos. Very happy we have 7 more to come :)

[@Marcela.Isabel]

Super chill vibe, raw & honest, exactly what the universe needs! Thanks Rachel

[@nananini2273]

I really liked you unboxing how you felt - it’s like watching someone make progress with a ‘solution’ to something where I otherwise haven’t .. new perspective !!! thank u. Thoughts on your thoughts: maybe it’s more of a habitual thing for you rather than something you actually need - how does being in a thing with someone make you feel after ?? It sounds like you indulge/give in and then end up feeling worse off afterwards ++ about people feeling overwhelmed there’s probably a lot of leeway that everyone wants to give bc u think that ur the problem/ur too much and i don’t really know what the right answer would be 1) find someone who matches your emotional capacity 2) find someone who is able to handle your emotional capacity (with time) .. i feel like someone being constantly overwhelmed by your emotions leads to problems later on. then again it probably is partially because you are so emotionally charged now more than ever ? idk but that’s my unpacking

[@subthaitleth8689]

Maybe finding someone who fit enough for you it never will be fit enough.

[@thatgirlnickyy]

i love seeing raych seem so happy and carefree :’)

[@shaiannehugh34]

just have heart eyes at this entire vlog series. it's so comforting to watch you express your thoughts and feelings in this visual way. the vulnerability is inspiring and beautiful! (i don't usually comment but i just micro dosed and it made me wanna comment "slay queen" on everyones pics so this is my "slay queen" to u

[@chioma916]

felt abt the microdosing,,,opens ur heart right up!! i miss that :") enjoy ur cycle !

[@niorblanc]

Watching this before going to bed

[@shalvyaingeindira6839]

You are so amazingly articulate about your thoughts and feelings and I think that's a talent

[@evawang5745]

i'm always looking forward to the vlogs🤍

[@Unicornxz]

thank you for these vlogs... just got out of a r/s too just feeling all sorts of loneliness and funk, beginning to learn to truly be by myself again

[@olivvvia]

You’re so brave and independent in my eyes. Sending 💛

[@vvsym]

I'm so loving these vlogs, they feel so raw

[@Kelpy]

I am so glad to have found you, and I really mean it, I like spending time with you, hearing your thoughts, sharing your athletic and dog-centric activities, I am the same way, and would be doing the same things, though instead of being now by a warm sea, I am in a northern high mountain valley, in a not very cosmopolitan, very conservative social environment. I have my bicycles though, that allow me to fly! (now that the snow has abated .....) Please continue, I need you. Is this love?

[@mbalipenelopedube340]

Love all your vlogs, can't wait for you find the answers as you navigate dating again.

[@hannym6926]

Rachel, your vlogs are always meditative.

[@tatec135]

Hi Rachel, I’m so glad you’ve been doing daily videos recently! 💕 Also you always have the best music taste. Thanks for introducing me to Pill by Melaina Kol the other day

[@ingridpop6601]

i'm so happy that your dog is active and healthy

[@creannabutlerjoyner222]

So refreshing and so real. Thank you for the aesthetically pleasing vlogs and nurturing words ❤️

[@sulkypigeon]

ever since covid started I’ve been doing something similar where I have to sit down and decompress my thoughts whether in meditations or journaling. I never did that pre-covid, but I realized it was something I’ve always needed but was just ignoring. Anyway, thank you Rachel for unpacking your thoughts with us 🥰

[@ByKristyLin]

I feel like I get the vibe of what you're saying, but I can't articulate it either: So some questions maybe in the vicinity of it... Who are you, and is there a gap between that and how you like to be perceived? What do you want, what do you blurt out without auto-analyzing? What are the emotional needs that you need met? Was there a point in time that your emotional needs were met without fear or contempt? Is there anything that you want that you actually *shouldn't* want? Why are you giving a SO (or anyone) only 15% of yourself? Yes, maybe your love is so vast that 15% may be perceived as a lot, but why is there that disconnect? Are you too much, or are you meeting people that think you're too much--should you find people that are so grateful to receive 50% of you?

[@thatschicblog]

whoa great journaling prompts!!!! do you mind if i share this on warde? x

[@ByKristyLin]

@@thatschicblog yes of course i'd be honored !

[@emrofoli]

I can't recommend therapy enough Rachel. In fact, the best time to start going is before you're in a "crisis". It's helped me walk through so much that I needed to get through. And when I did encounter tidal waves of trauma this year, I had tools to navigate them. Best investment I've made xo

[@sunnyyyyyyyy01]

this!!! therapy is so helpful

[@raianaml]

Therapy is life! You are your best investment

[@zoemorris1893]

Had a stoned thought when i was 14 - “perceptions are dimensions” Still true

[@thatschicblog]

what a fucking profound moment, and even more so as a 14 YO

[@justforthethrill1534]

Thanks for being so honest

[@honeyjam9593]

loved this so much, rachel

[@jennitalzs]

when u mentioned ur emotional reservoir and how others might perceive it 👏🤝🤝🤝 thank u for putting it into wordssss for meee omg

[@NatKayFnA]

I have the same "problem" in my long term relationship. Knowing that you have such a deep capacity for emotion and only being able to use 10% of your emotional Intelligence with your partner is hard to navigate. I still haven't worked out these feelings and question if I will ever be able to use my fully emotional intelligence with my person. Do we always need to be received fully in order to express our true self? I am not sure if that is what you are feeling Rachel, but as someone who also takes their emotional life very seriously it can be hard to know if the person you are sharing yourself with is able to receive you if they don't have the same depth of emotional care. I see love as my ultimate goal and mission in this life, maybe the love I've cultivated is so deep and expansive that it isn't made for just one person? love u

[@latenightcashews]

thank you for sharing. I understand what you're saying and it's making me do some reflection

[@AeiTri]

I love the talks and decompressing. Healing and growing is like that scribble you make when you’re trying to get a pen to work. Is anything a straight line these days?

[@FashAveGirl]

Omg 😩 were half way there (to the 14 days) and I’m not ok with it 🥺!

[@forwhatwhatwhat]

You always have the best sunglasses !! And I always wanna know where to find them 👀 thank you for sharing with us here ✨

[@pgshe]

Soft Shock is such a nostalgic song for me

[@A.T.0s]

love your vids! You seem To have a lot of creative ideas storming in your head and it shows in your vlogs ❤️

[@rrodz1447]

I think it’s a lot. The Pandemic, the breakup, everything happening at the same time, where you think that your path is one and then it’s another, you have to give yourself the space to both not feel and to feel too much.

[@lexibecker278]

stringing your thought together in my opinion - you are done with a long-term relationship now. you know the type of guy you want to settle down with. this guy is not him.

[@hannahjspear]

omg, I actually had a meltdown a couple months ago on this EXACT WNRS question!! "Have you ever told someone I love you..." - Hearing you say that you always meant it in the moment, but looking back it could have been perceived differently, DAMN GIRL ~ I relate to infinity and beyond. And to the Deep Feeling Reservoir. It can be exhausting to love so deeply, &be so open, BUT it is also a superpower in moments. Anyway. All this to say, you are so friggin' inspiring and I got a little misty eyed hearing you articulate those thoughts/feelings. It made me feel seen, +known. Know this community appreciates you. f~*ck the h8trs. xo

[@4eversinger99]

highly recommend reading all about love by bell hooks

[@koopopp]

i love you and im living for your daily vlogs thank you so much

[@mayaw7148]

I felt this. Thank you so much for doing this

[@subthaitleth8689]

I know what you mean Raych. Thanks for sharing.

[@sunnyyyyyyyy01]

thank you for this, rachel

[@GINGER70HINTZ]

I enjoy very much the content that you share. When my daughter gets that appropriate age for she can stay a few days by herself in our house, I would like to take my husband in a trip like kind of that. He loves the beach and water, I love and prefer the cities. But days like yours I will like to experiment with him.

[@rheskelton6393]

What! I stayed there in San Clemente this past Friday and Saturday! Cool to see we might have crossed paths 💞 I definitely had some expectations lol. Anyways, thanks for sharing your thoughts - love the emotional reservoir metaphor. Can for sure relate.

[@samanthalim5621]

Leica falling asleep in the back as you talk 🥺🤍

[@wybiecore]

I feel like in every vlog series u have a moment of panic for your camera. It’s a tradition now 🥺

[@thatschicblog]

Omg noooo really?! Hahahah this is so very sweet that you noticed

[@shagufta6521]

Just subscribed and already binge watching😛❤️

[@star0shimmer13]

what is that rolly skin thing you're using in the beginning? looks fun :D

[@thatschicblog]

omg it's a nuface, i love it, will link it now

[@geiamendozaaa]

This one might be my favorite. Hit the spot

[@neleseyfarth5385]

oh so early :) dear rachel, whats your sony cameras name??

[@grapesyrop]

I need to know too

[@neleseyfarth5385]

@@grapesyrop Sony FDR-AX53 - 4K Ultra Handycam

[@carolinelardo3499]

Hey Rachel where is your chain bracelet from? I love it !

[@thatschicblog]

it's from loren stewart :) x

[@anonymoussoda]

We're half way there and I'm starting to anxieties about this is going to end in another 7 vlogs. 😭

[@waterharp]

Omg you’re staying in my hometown hope you liked the vibes in sc :))

[@thatschicblog]

ugh anything for the waves and vibes at san O

[@somliengtiraphan3243]

These vlogs make me so happy. I just found your channel a short while ago. I'm super interested in joining Warde! How can I join?

[@jupitired777]

I've never said I love you and didn't mean it. Mostly because I don't say it very often. love this video btw

[@ahsylegnp]

Love the vulnerability with the WRNRS prompts. Have you taken the enneagram test before, if so what are you? :)

[@thatschicblog]

i'm 7w8! xx

[@linharder2985]

i love your vids!

[@vanessasalgado9945]

How did you learn how to surf?

[@ywang-l3h]

god imagine if this was your life. Just hotel hopping, surfing, eating out, etc etc

[@lizetteroni5410]

describe feeling in love in one word?? *high* ;)

[@Sentiisen-butwhichone]

Hi Rachel, Thank you so much for sharing this literary piece of art♥️ Also, kinda random but can you please tell me the name of the song that you uploaded today for your insta story? The one where you were editing with Leica running in the background. I tried to Shazam it but the app could not recognize the song 😔

[@thatschicblog]

you'll see it in tomrorow's vlog! :) x

[@diadoranorman4605]

I like your rings. Where'd you get them? 🐕💓💍

[@Tiani707]

wow where did you get thar distressed sweatshirt in the beginning i love

[@thatschicblog]

I borrowed it from said friend, but IIRC, he stole this from his mom's closet many years ago???

[@lizetteroni5410]

damn all this resonated with me - having a deep emotional reservoir, being in a relationship for 7 years, vacation vs reality, the whole “wow i didn’t realize i needed therapy this much” haha... 😪🥴 i will say that it is nice to hear others verbalize the same thoughts that are loud af in my head... hoping we’re all able to get through this stronger ᕦ(ò_óˇ)ᕤ thanks for sharing 💕

[@rikaarchive]

Hey, what camera do you use to vlog? X

[@thesweetpotatogirl]

that transition at 7:50 though

always vibes 💗💗💗

[@lifedaily99]

Hey Rachel where's ur pendant from?

[@verdelila]

Come to Costa Rica agaaaain 💗

[@krissiag6056]

Rachel im really curious to know, do you actually wear all your jewellery 24/7 including when you surf?

[@thatschicblog]

i doooo, most of it, i try to wear mostly silvers/golds so i don't worry about them tarnishing

[@chioma916]

what videocam is that??

[@maytan8778]

where's ur sunnies from?

[@thatschicblog]

they're from a warby parker x off white collab a few years back! x

[@GoBeKIND.]

....haha, you don't have "yo knowwww" young Rachel. Keep on. Your Zest for LIFE is so beautiful. Just. Be. YOU🍋🍋🍋🍋🍋🍋🍋🍋🍋🍋❤️

[@nadineescobar6634]

Felt this one🕺🏾

[@Shashank29]

Where RU???? no recent videos...

[@elodia6686]

Can’t believe it’s already Day 7/14 :(

[@shannonhawkins1819]

feed me more introspection. i'm starved.

[@dreamsbylauren]

Wow 06:34 is me.

[@betinaong1715]

If anybody asks me what I sound like in therapy I’m sending them straight to this video 😅

[@thatschicblog]

Lmao!!! Editing this video I’m like.. yah therapy would be good. Could barely string together my blurbs lol

[@숨숨한카페일기]

Love you

[@johndoe-gh2kd]

叶河林leaves day early

[@johndoe-gh2kd]

leaving his dog

[@victorlui5955]

Hi. 🖤

[@samanthaunger4268]

Day 7, 7K views, 777 likes 😩😌

[@thatschicblog]

!!!!!!!! look it up!!!

[@AddieFish]

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