What have some of your comebacks been that left people stunned?
@ButDidYouAsk10 ай бұрын
Changed my number b/c the block button isn't strong enough
@user-rc2xs5ti2w10 ай бұрын
I applied my evergreen on my job and had a brilliant career.
@raft11510 ай бұрын
After the initial joy and harmony which i bring to all, the ones who turn bitter get worse just because of my presence
@user-oj5bw7sl8p10 ай бұрын
When I am slowly but steadily getting sure, that the person is not a nice decent human I thought it was, I start preparering the complete program of kicking this jerk out of my life. So when I finally tell it: "You behave badly, I will not socialize with you anymore," - for me it's a final decision, which I will not take back. And for the other person it's like a big surprise. At first the jerk is shocked, that I even spoke up against it and was capable to stand up for myself; then it would like to gaslight me, trying to prove, that it's me, who is wrong; then jerk would like to get me back (as a friend, college or partner), pretending, that it is sorry and will become better; and when those attempts fail, jerk gets angry and tries to spoil me life, - for example, by telling people lies about me. Therefore, having had those experiences in the past, I always prepare the proper strategi of self-protection before I even start the process. I block jerk's phone number, so that it could not reach me; I explain to the people around me, that my decision to stop socializing with a jerk is final, why I took this decision, and why nobody should even try to take the side of a jerk and "well-meaningly" meddle and try to repair what is totally broken. I call it "an operation Iron Curtain". WORKS EVERY TIME!
@Jamiereid616610 ай бұрын
Especially if you laugh,, ✨
@corporaterobotslave40010 ай бұрын
We don't like conflict, but we will be sure to win when pushed into a corner. I think our door slams echo through eternity in other's minds.
@thirstonhowellthebird10 ай бұрын
Love the door slam. It speaks volumes and leaves zero room for confusion. ALL humans know when they aren’t acting in a reciprocal, kind manner. The door slam says, “I see who you are and have from the start. I understand your behavior yet it is now unacceptable and I know YOU know you’re intentionally choosing this behavior so now…you’re OUT-permanently.” Door slam speaks volumes.
@tiggerthecat552510 ай бұрын
Double figures this year. Sick of people ghosting me then phoning at stupid hours asking for stupid 💩 🤬them 🚪
@Textemple9 ай бұрын
@@tiggerthecat5525😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@Textemple9 ай бұрын
@tiggerthecat5525 your comment gave me traumatic flashbacks from before I clapped back
@justathought72216 ай бұрын
Heck yea! 😎
@staciehaneline953310 ай бұрын
We CAN be indifferent. We can literally turn off our emotions. It makes people insane.
@raft11510 ай бұрын
✨i agree we really do turn off everything that too all of a sudden 💥
@MaryDunford10 ай бұрын
I didn't realize most people can't/don't do this until I saw just how common toxic behaviour is. It just seemed logical to shelf emotions for certain things. Strong emotions doesn't make for good decisions.
@raft11510 ай бұрын
@@MaryDunford yes since infj are independente they are not biased therefore they are more often very near to truth , therefore it is legitimate to expect strong reactions from them in the face of the present world where most people suffer from no reaction , more the reaction more its a sign of life , do you agree ✨
@heatherlaine308210 ай бұрын
Just because I can take a lot of pain doesn’t mean I have to. ❤
@jameskeating47193 ай бұрын
True INFJ’s spend our days playing dumb to try to fit in
@AntiphonyHooks13 сағат бұрын
I'm not doing that ish no more cuz folks are evil and don't give a damn about your feelings
@GutterGlitter8310 ай бұрын
They never listen. Every shady person around me tries to test my boundaries over and over again knowing they are going to poke the bear and then they keep going after being warned numerous times I’m being put out. I’m making sure they know I’m obviously not happy and they usually cross the line for the hundred time and then I go apeshit and they play the victim. So annoying. Also usually everyone takes their side and feels bad for the aggressor.
@rubycubez110310 ай бұрын
I keep every transgression stored in my mental rolodex. Once I had enough, even after the slightest remark or careless disrespect, I either lash out like a psych patient or cut them off after kindly (lol) explaining how keeping in contact with them is not in my best interest while bringing up various examples ranging from last week to 8 yrs ago. It still amazes me how self unaware the common person is. Like the old saying- "fuk around and find out"
@patrickglaser1560Ай бұрын
Rolodex... way to date yourself;)
@malleedje344710 ай бұрын
With #3, when you suddenly look through the facade of a person and then instantly things become clear and it changes everything. That is when a doorslam can hit people really hard.
@tnt0110 ай бұрын
100% Once I see I cannot pretend not to see.
@MaryDunford10 ай бұрын
I can't unsee bad behaviour even if I want to. But I'm not sure why a disconnection would come as a shock. Personally, I typically exhaust every other option first. In the end, their choices make my decision. And I'm okay with that.
@aishalipham28559 ай бұрын
I don’t react I quietly shut the door and you no longer exist. People get confused as to why this happened but I don’t feel the need to explain myself
@joshuachase974210 ай бұрын
I just read a comment on another YT channel yesterday where the person was saying that INFJs come off as warm and friendly at first but then turn cold and mean. It was phrased in such a way that painted INFJs as being hypocritical and nasty on the inside, but when I read it one of my first thoughts was that the commenter probably has a habit of mistreating people in some way and doesn't like it when INFJs catch on and walk away and as a result makes them out to be the 'bad guys'. The worst part is that there were supposed INFJs replying, "Yeah, you're totally right about us!". 😥 Your explanations on Points 3 and 4 reminded me of this.
@raft11510 ай бұрын
Though the rejections and misunderstandings from others are helpful to us in a way , they are never good for those who have bitterness Towards us , since we represent all that is good on earth due to our love for truth and honesty , those who hate us knowingly or unknowingly indirectly hate what is good on earth, it is better to think good of a bad guy than to think bad of the good ✨
@joyboimusic10 ай бұрын
Wow, thank you for this! The INFJs in my life have made me feel so good about myself. This video helps me realize it's more how self-secure & nurturing of the potential in themselves they are, and how fulfilled they feel seeing others grow. Rather than about my greatness. I've shown up unsafely with them sometimes, trying to get them to toughen their humility. But really they had the power & generosity of spirit all along. Thank you for helping me see their humility as true power, not a weakness. To the INFJs, stick to your boundaries. The world needs your spirit. - An INFP
@MaryDunford10 ай бұрын
INFPs are cool. 😎
@JT-cf5ol10 ай бұрын
interacting with sociopaths & narcissists has been truly a learning experience. As someone who has empathy, I appreciate your insight/confirmation into the minds of those around me.
@professorchaos910 ай бұрын
Narcs will take pleasure in you reacting. Learning about them is crucial indeed.
@stephaniebell427210 ай бұрын
I had a longtime “friend” (over 50 years) who constantly contradicted me. Anything I said, she corrected me. There wasn’t a subject that she didn’t know better. I swallowed my knowledge often, because I didn’t want to argue with her. Many topics whereI could have said that I knew a fact, but didn’t say it. I guess, being an only child, and often lonely, I didn’t want to let this one friendship go. One day, a subject was being disputed and I just rounded on her with “why do you DO THAT?” She was so astonished, she gasped and said your eyes just went black! She got up and left, and never came to my house again. I tried a number of times to hold out an olive branch, but got nothing in return. I just said that things have changed and I never went back.
@jillybe18739 ай бұрын
Well done
@angelalabauve91315 ай бұрын
I’m trying not to let that happen in a close 48 year friendship. Sometimes people are self centered and if you don’t agree or just have another perspective they see you as argumentative. I value this friend and know she needs me but I also know I can’t have the true friendship I want. I’m convinced a lot of the people who like us just like how we make them feel about themselves. They don’t really know us. It gets lonely. To this day, I’m not sorry for any of the door slams in my past…
@angelalabauve91315 ай бұрын
Great perspective on why others treat us INFJ’s the way they do. I’m in the process of icing someone who has no room for me to be myself. They have shown me who they are and even though I love and respect this person; I retract the power over me they think they have. I won’t ever leave the friendship because of our history but now to me it’s different because I see they only value me in their perception of who they think I should be. It’s painful because this may be the only version of a friendship they are capable of. Thank you for helping me to see I’m not an awful person for the frustration I’m feeling.♥️
@angelalabauve91315 ай бұрын
Funny when you finally give them back what they gave you (for such a long time), followed by the door slam… they don’t know what to do with themselves. I don’t need friends like that…the other side of that door looks good to me. But in the end they do respect you..
@zenmama36510 ай бұрын
I once said "I refuse to believe that I must live by the customs and traditions of this world that were created to keep liberated people trapped." The responses were not shocking at all. I made sure to make my point on purpose.
@alicia72408 ай бұрын
Nice!
@craigbarrett227810 ай бұрын
What amazes me is we don't even sit and deliberate on what we'll say in the moment......our subconscious has stored all pertinent information that gets delivered in a split second..... I must admit, it's fun seeing the realisation hit their brains. Not a habit, but it has happened once or twice!
@wilfredosaenz77559 ай бұрын
"The truth is I don't like conflict or dispute to any body but if they push me in the limit i'm fight back more than they did I have no choice I need to protect my self my emotion specially my health!"
@user-oj5bw7sl8p10 ай бұрын
Thank you for the fantastic job you do, helping us to protect ourselves from egomaniacs!
@ChelleLlewes9 ай бұрын
The door slam technique reminds me of how Queen Anne finally dealt with her long-time best friend and bully, Lady Marlborough. Classically done! It also gives me more insight into the psychology of the queen, too, for a bonus. 😊
@fraupurzel10 ай бұрын
How did you figure out all of this in such a analytic and precise way. you are a wonder to me.
@Textemple9 ай бұрын
She truly has the gift of discernment...
@DMAC130110 ай бұрын
What I have noticed is those that Know I want nothing to do with for whatever reason take it so personal. You don’t like me. Well no, it’s neither here nor there. I choose not to even consider you so not liking you isn’t even a part of this picture. It makes me chuckle when someone realizes that this is their place in my life. Not meant to but this realty is too much for some….
@Amanda-cy5il10 ай бұрын
This is funny. I don’t think they’re even able to comprehend that we really do think this way.
@lizcomery728310 ай бұрын
I am often stunned by their attitude of entitlement. Before door slamming I will have given them possibly YEARS of chances, and yet when the moment comes they are still surprised that there is a consequence to their abusive behaviour, and act all huffy and entitled when their attempts to hoover have no effect (needless to say, the attempts to hoover do not involve accountability - they genuinely think they have some sort of right to mistreat me without consequence).
@kimberlyadams130010 ай бұрын
Well done, truth-teller. Well done.
@TradersTavern10 ай бұрын
Absolutely loved this video! The insight into INFJ comebacks and the importance of setting boundaries was eye-opening. 🙌 Here's my take on it: Savage comebacks - It's incredible how INFJs, known for their non-confrontational nature, can unleash powerful comebacks when pushed. Being calm and unexpected can be key. Setting boundaries - The point about asserting one's beliefs and truth early on to avoid compromise really hit home. Boundaries are crucial for self-preservation. Changing perceptions - Understanding the impact of consequences and actions on how others perceive us is a game-changer. We hold the power to shape relationships. Unlocking potential - Seeing potential in oneself and taking action for personal growth resonates deeply. Others treat us based on what we project. Thanks for sharing these insights! 🙏 #INFJStrengths #SavageComebacks
@avikchatterjee194510 ай бұрын
If we want we can smash a humbug ego. But that's unnecessary. So, it's better to give them some hints that we're in the know what's going on. That way they will think twice before messing with us. Actually we'd like to be peaceful but not pacifists.
@luciana193010 ай бұрын
I've been getting so much strength from these videos lately, thank you so much
@deannastands514110 ай бұрын
LOL true about #3! a woman accused me of having an affair--with a single man and i'm single. lol she was making innuendos about my relationship, so i've quit communicating with her, period. she should be happy for me, but nope, so why do i need that negativity? i do not.
@VKRollins9 ай бұрын
Thank you for presenting these. I have done number 4, iced someone out. The bewildered look on his face when he realized that I had taken all my power back from him was such a freeing experience. From that moment on, I gave him no further thought or energy. That was the start of my healing journey. 😊
@lindateuling786210 ай бұрын
I think a worthwhile project would be to write down all five of these points that you made and begin to develop things to proactively say when we need a good, firm, rational comeback. If we speak the truth, that will carry a lot of strength. It's not always emotionally easy, but it can be done. And I believe that it can add to our inner strength. I often do find out what people are really like after a while when I'm trying to help them or to be there for them - and not getting any kind of positive response. IMHO, life is too short to put up with emotional nonsense.
@richardvanerven194110 ай бұрын
"Icing out" that's so powerful. When they see you, you see them squinting and thinking all sorts of nasty things. You see nothing but air, not even looking into their general direction, it will get them steaming. The indifference for their being in existance will trigger them to gossip to others. Be aware who they interact with, they will most likely not be friendly towards you.
@medievaldigger10 ай бұрын
At our house we call that "poofing" people. They are suddenly thin air. "Poof!" They're gone.
@BlackjackMain10 ай бұрын
Your like the voice in my head articulating via the internet. Wish I had access to ya 10 years ago. Glad I got it now. I enjoy resonating with you, and choosing my life.
@SmithWR-ti3gl5 ай бұрын
Thank you ❤. I love this 😊
@Mothership199610 ай бұрын
Guy at work Takes me under wing gives special treatment solely for his benefit I can tell he likes me.I then excel and outshine him by total accident. We started to build a good working relationship until he pushed me too far and that accompanied with the thoughts of him being married took me to a point I went off at work one day after repeatedly being asked to do something. Then felt bad for it. I made sure not to sit in that too long but our interactions feel totally different and I am not the least bit bothered by it today but a year ago I would have dimmed my light. Our co. Is going through a contract change and I have had to be real careful on who I share what information with because I remind myself what is easy and obvious for me to figure out isn't the case with everyone else then I feel like I sound like a total crazy lady "predicting future" 😂
@the_diamond_frequency10 ай бұрын
Wenzes, you are just amazing at what you do! You give me so much more understanding about myself than anyone else has ever been able to. Thank you so much for this great content. ❤
@correanne536610 ай бұрын
Basically, if you're not for or with me,...ur against me. My children have survived horrid toxic humans ..if ur deliberately hurting me, ur hurting them...uh, ga bye 😮😊
@Accelerator_Lastorder_x10 ай бұрын
Crushed it! Great video. I never go into a loosing game. 😎🤟✌️⚡
@Jamiereid616610 ай бұрын
We win before we start, 🎯✨
@jnl356410 ай бұрын
About recognizing the real reality- I’ve struggled a bit with this mostly because it takes TIME for me to go from the false superficial reality to the real one. It’s not something I can do in the moment when people are looking for a response from me. So I learned to just mirror back their reality to pacify them. I assumed they’ll figure it out on their own. LOL no Im learning how to take the time I need to come up with proper response to the big stuff. Once I know what’s happening I need to act on it even if it feels “too late.” Hopefully I’ll get faster at it.
@Shaheeda-fn2pr9 ай бұрын
This is SO on point. My narcissistic, anti social, pathological liar, manipulator manager has been on the receiving end of this. She is traumatized! She tested me from day one ( 3 years ago to date) !...I hinted to her several times over a period of 3 years....now she knows me!!!...it goes completely contrary to her nature to concede BUT I'm not giving her any leeway from here on!!!
@Rareace2110 ай бұрын
Thank you for this realization!!
@deviritter523210 ай бұрын
Totally relate to this :)
@raft11510 ай бұрын
You are Just a simple woman but what you say is more true than the teachings of many wise men on Earth 🙌
@elmahyrakanayori601610 ай бұрын
Everything in their life somehow got harder for infj but infj will make it easier not to "look easier" , never in a healthy infj mind to cross the line or ofend others or being rude but theres always be action reaction thing inside their mind n behave . ( Simple to understand )
@Jackie111110 ай бұрын
Icing out is powerful
@shirleyholpp98259 ай бұрын
Too Cut and Dry. No relationship could survive a wrecking ball hanging over their every word. Walking on eggshells to avoid communicating
@jerome657210 ай бұрын
Wenze's I'm good at this!!!Jerome❤❤❤
@Effin_the_Chat9 ай бұрын
I learned a lot from Hunter Thompson. He was casually savage as a matter of course. I don't like conflict. I dwell on it constantly in retrospect and I feel the poison in my blood. I'll avoid conflict because it has a terrible affect on my nerves, but cross a line, and I'll stand up for others or myself. I will not tolerate those who take advantage of others. I just can't stand it. I'm not always graceful at confrontation, but in certain instances, if I don't do it, I won't be able to live with myself.
@stephenfegely10 ай бұрын
Queen 👸🏻
@LeAnne-uw3wp10 ай бұрын
👍 yeppers thanks love your videos
@Itsonlyvibes10 ай бұрын
The last one really hit me
@kalinadesseaux80119 ай бұрын
Yep, "we dont get into it" 💯
@drewford320510 ай бұрын
Well put!!
@bubblesweidmann797810 ай бұрын
Amen
@khadraLuula10 ай бұрын
Very interesting video, thank you Wenzes ❤
@jameskeating47193 ай бұрын
As with psychology is from scriptures
@user-zb8xp2zc4v10 ай бұрын
Wow wenzes accurate as always and why we love u. Can u tell me the personality type of Andrew Tate?😂 kinda like him too, he strikes me as one of ours😂
@agnes4669 ай бұрын
Are you crazy? This sex trafficker is 100% ESTP. Well yes, we share all functions, but in reverse.
@Jamiereid616610 ай бұрын
Amazing ✨
@MarkHenryMasiczАй бұрын
any sells peeps here?
@muma655910 ай бұрын
#5 is interesting. We can step up while many people back down or step down. xxxP's cannot see too far ahead, just can't, especially xSxP
@TheDomanc10 ай бұрын
lol so funny ever hear about intp?😂😂😂😂
@muma655910 ай бұрын
@@TheDomanc yes, what about them?
@TheDomanc10 ай бұрын
@@muma6559 You say xxxP's cannot see far ahead. Well maybe xSxP, but not xxxP's because there is INTP, INFP. Those type literally does not do anything else than thinking ahead. INFJ are very narcistic tkinking they are best at anything because they are "rare". Its just mental mistake im pointing out.
@MaryDunford10 ай бұрын
@@TheDomanc ? Just because someone draws the wrong conclusion doesn't make them narcissistic. It happens. But since we're on the topic of how everyone makes mistakes, "narcissist" is spelled with two s's. Cheers.
@suguntoliido146110 ай бұрын
I don't why coving fake
@suguntoliido146110 ай бұрын
Why is soul
@suguntoliido146110 ай бұрын
Why Marko
@suguntoliido146110 ай бұрын
Don't commit we're FBI staying fake
@The2oFuS.-hr3os10 ай бұрын
🤔??????..😡..
@bradleyberentz32144 ай бұрын
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@ronvanderveen688310 ай бұрын
I genuinely appreciate you, your knowledge, awareness, understanding, kindness and beauty are breathtaking. Your aura is intense and you without doubt have and will continue making a major positive impact on a better humanity. Cheers Wenzes 🫵🍺🫶
@naggy308710 ай бұрын
I'm so grateful to you for uploading this video.. for a long time, I felt so guilty for having to be like this with two people I had even considered close friends before. My heart feels so much lighter now.. wow 🥲💔
@lindateuling786210 ай бұрын
I think a worthwhile project would be to write down all five of these points that you made and begin to develop things to proactively say when we need a good, firm, rational comeback. If we speak the truth, that will carry a lot of strength. It's not always emotionally easy, but it can be done. And I believe that it can add to our inner strength. I often do find out what people are really like after a while when I'm trying to help them or to be there for them - and not getting any kind of positive response. IMHO, life is too short to put up with emotional nonsense.