When People First Meet An INFJ.. (This Happens)

[@PSYCH-O]

Hey PSYCH-Os!👋 *so do you think you portray these traits as an INFJ when someone first meets you?* Comment down below 👇

[@happinessdons1378]

I'm so pleased with your accurate description. You've earned yourself a new member, I'm glad I came across your videos. Thank you❤

[@PSYCH-O]

Welcome aboard, my friend! Thank you for the appreciation 💙 @@happinessdons1378

[@BlacksmithTWD]

Why do you use an abbreviation without mentioning what it's an abbreviation for? If you don't know what INFJ stands for, you should research that before making the video. If you do know, why not start the video with that for those who don't know this you PWDNEWHHUASF (person who does not explain what his/her used abbreviations stand for)?

[@brennadickinson2920]

Good question. I'm extroverted when with people and introverted when I'm alone, so most people don't see the side of me that loves solitude.

[@GaryHall1071]

@@BlacksmithTWD who died and then made you God? Cry harder. Those of us who look at these videos, all know what the abbreviation INFJ stands for the fact that you don’t just shows that you are antisocial and combative.

[@dramafan08]

Yes, why do people always ask me for directions, advice or trust me with anything as a complete stranger?

[@PSYCH-O]

Haha I ask myself the same thing. Thank you for watching!

[@pemcortes9467]

Sometimes their lifestories too.

[@MadRedCarnelian]

I was in line for a George RR Martin book signing, and I was telling the people in line with me this exact thing, that people always ask me for directions etc, and someone tapped me in the shoulder in the middle of this explaination to ask what the line up was all about and we all laughed and I explained about the book signing and who George was, that he wrote the book series that Game of Thrones the TV show was from. ...every time lol people just seem to assume I know what's going on. I also had a guy randomly sit next to me at a bar once while I listened to my friends Jazz band play.. told me his whole life story and asked my advice on his marriage, and seemed like he was going to take it. And a random lady at the park asked if I could watch her toddler as she caught her dog. Like sure..you get I'm a stranger in a park, right?? You don't do this a lot, do you? I mean I'm Not going to do something bad but how can you know that?? And one of the new dog moms who joined the dog group I informally started by introducing people to one another (they only knew the dog names??), ended up telling me a complicated very messy situation in her family so I gave her some advice on what she could do to help sort it out and prayed with her, and a few weeks later it was all sorted, and no-one got divorced ❤ (all Glory to God) It's like we have a floating sign over our head that says, "Questions ? Ask our friendly and helpful staff"

[@jeffreymcbath158]

Me, too!

[@swayaway26]

As Enfj I think, It’s the aura.

[@norag.5690]

Until we’re old, then we surprise people with our young souls…

[@martiseelye6443]

Exactly! 😂

[@jedlimen123]

Right!

[@HL-_-424]

Yes, People have told me that I have a cold stare or I am staring like I am reading them. I have also been told I am serious and judgmental.

[@Jenishabadoo]

Two people have told me in the last few months that it seems like I’m judging them. It makes me feel pretty bad because I’m very mindful about my thoughts and judgements. I consider myself more curious but I think my inquisitive nature makes some people feel like they’re under a microscope. I don’t know any other way to think. I’m just me.

[@HL-_-424]

If you can sit down and look how to think about people and how that makes them think it is a little bit judging them but we are not doing it to hurt them. It will help them if they don't take it too much to heart. It's just who we are. Sorry not sorry.

[@eknockonxbox4900]

My girl is INFJ she has an unwavering look into your eyes.

[@HL-_-424]

@@eknockonxbox4900 I am an INFJ and I have the same stare.

[@eknockonxbox4900]

@@HL-_-424 yes. And definitely hard to lie. I can't tell her I didn't get a moche frappe on my way home from work. I feel like she can smell it through my eyes. Or I can just be obvious and suck at hiding things. Integrity is everything.

[@wangiseruni]

INFJ who could set boundaries is a win.

[@augustinsrc]

Fr fr, setting boundaries be near impossible fr fr.

[@just.a.browser]

i smiled yo!

[@cc1k435]

Most you can hope for is trying to avoid people who refuse to acknowledge any boundaries you try to set. 😢

[@Design4awareness]

@@cc1k435 Once we move from 'trying' to do this - to simply doing it (the moment we become aware of this type of behaviour in another person) - without feeling shame or sadness - than we have mastered a big part of that boundary issue right there ;) Even as a 44 yr old INFJ, I am still learning this. It is the most pragmatic and elegant conclusion I have come to so far. I realize (without judgement but with compassion) that there truly are people who do not see / are incapable of seeing where the sensitive INFJ boundaries are. If even with added explanation - they refuse to honor these boundaries / or still remain incapable of seeing them - I learned that: I MUST LEAVE. Call it a doorslam or whatever. I feel that I owe it to myself - but in a way - to them as well. For as long as I stick around such people, I would be feeding them the illusion that I do not care - whilst deep inside, their ongoing unconscious behaviours towards me and others, just make me cringe. That cringe-feeling, is like a self-punishment for sticking around them - it is my rational mind arguing with the Universe - even though it is showing me; me and that other person simply aren't an energetic match! There is nothing wrong with that, I can perfectly well 'love them from a distance'. I don't have to be close to everyone I know. IN in INFJ stands for INtrovert for a reason - we must make extra conscious descisions about who we hang with. They'll be fine - there are natural matches for all types in the book - so no need to feel guilty ;)

[@PamelaBlevins-ct3se]

Used to be sooo bad about this. But then I began being more picky about my circle and I no longer let people into my circle that will push my boundaries… because I know I will bend, every 👏 time 👏

[@mikegeorge3392]

I seem to have an unusual effect where even I'm quiet and reserved. Everyone notices me, like weird charisma or something. This happens even I'm trying to blend in

[@cc1k435]

I wish other people understood that just because I notice things, it's not the same as judging them. ❤

[@KathrineJKozachok]

Same. I feel so guilty for noticing things, and worry about making others self-conscious.

[@mschlund1]

I don't think it's "judging" as in judging someone, more like "judging the authenticity of a situation

[@cc1k435]

@mschlund1 I don't mean because of the J, but rather as an observation of how others react to being noticed by a habitual people watcher. Not everybody thinks that you're NOT out to expose them, even if you are only making a benign observation about us all being human.

[@prschuster]

If the INFJ is mentally bright or gifted, it's even more of an enigma; it becomes even harder to explain one's thoughts to others.

[@SufianBabri]

Lauren Sapala says that INFJs thoughts are like a spiderweb. We can't explain it and even if we do, people are too confused by the details of it. According to her, INTJs can match us on this front (spiderweb of thoughts).

[@prschuster]

@@SufianBabri Yes, most people think in straight lines leading to a conclusion. INFJs go deeper into a web of interrelated connections.

[@myriamstajkowski3958]

Web of thoughts, connections, it's like mind mapping. It reminds me of Wikipedia and the endless stubs. I'm always falling down the rabbit warren in pursuit of knowledge.

[@dchristiansen1]

I usually come out 50-50 on the T&F. I guess I'm a combo of INTJ and INFJ. I totally have the spiderweb of thoughts thing and can usually see how things are all connected. Sometimes people can't follow my train of thought when explaining something.

[@krystalharris79]

@@SufianBabri And then it doesn't help when I believe I should be tested for ADHD! Talk about spider-web thoughts!! LOL Unless..... many (most?) INFJs are also blessed with ADHD ... yay! (rolls eyes with a sarcastic smirk!) 😏🙄

[@rnedlo9909]

When I meet someone for the first time and think we will be interacting in the future, I warn them with this analogy: I am like cheesecake, a little bit every now and then is wonderful, but too much can be an overload. I'm a bit intense, if that is annoying it's okay to let me know, but expect to be given insights that may stun you.

[@bongzsnoochy4712]

😂😂😂 I wouldn't wanna be in them when you tell em that

[@Gen-X.Adventures]

My wife and i had been married for about 15 years before we started researching our personality types. We took multiple personality tests and they kept coming back as INFJ for both of us. We researched the INFJ traits and it was almost alarming! Its like someone was reading our brains - weird! We are now 25 years happily married. I have always felt disconnected and misunderstood socially, and the empath trait has become like an old friend, i trust it completely. We have accepted both ourselves and each other as the freaks we are. 😂 Any other INFJ couples out there?

[@nicolecato634]

I wish

[@susanstanley7942]

So cool and blessed you are.

[@Gen-X.Adventures]

❤​@@susanstanley7942

[@bongzsnoochy4712]

I'm so happy for you 😊, I too would rather be with another geek like me (infj) than another type 😅

[@Gen-X.Adventures]

❤​@@bongzsnoochy4712

[@GaryHall1071]

I minored in psychology, because I thought it would help me understand what other people were thinking, but it just made me more confused than ever lol😂😂😂

[@Stumpybear7640]

Lol, I can relate. I studied it in my 40s and discovered I understand even less😂

[@crystalkauffman3322]

I majored in Psychology in college. Still can't understand other people

[@lukula2934]

Some of the most disturbed, (and disturbing), people I've ever encountered were experts in the field of psychology. I've also noticed that they tend to raise really messed up kids.

[@sl3102]

In my experience most people do exactly everything for social reasons. Life is a popularity contest from the moment you're born until you die (maybe even after the fact) and people put so much of their effort into participating that they don't know anything else. Knowing this actually comforts me a lot when I feel disconnected and struggle to understand people's motivations.

[@prescindaduggan6707]

I resonate strongly with all the aspects presented. As a young girl, I would get comments from older people/friends and such of my older siblings that I was wise beyond my years and that I couldn't be the age that I was. I have also been told by many others throughout my life that I should become a psychologist or counselor. I could go on to list experiences that I have had that reflect each aspect presented but will leave it here. Very interesting and thank you for sharing this information.

[@drewford3205]

Totally agree. Exactly how I am. You guys know me better than I do

[@sl3102]

I think this is true only when an INFJ meets somebody like-minded. In my experience extroverts will most likely just think you're weird and boring.

[@Moonbeast_1138]

I have been told that I can be intimidating when first meeting me.

[@JIm-w1b]

As an INFJ, I would find it interesting to meet people. I never do, or I mean, I never meet people who are interested in me and want to get to know me

[@Wellch]

Some people are scared of you..the people who might talk to you are those in INFP and maybe an ENFP

[@philipwaring]

The comment that INFJs eventually learn that they are different and adapt hit home. It took me a long long time to realise I was the odd one out and why. One of those things you really wish you had understood as a much younger person as it would have saved a lot of soul searching! I had done a Myers-Briggs test years back, and the guy doing it had said "you are different to most people and important in your team as you will prevent group think" but I didn't realise what that meant in my personal life. Better late than never I guess. The other point that has helped me understand myself is why my small group of friends are comprised mainly of highly intelligent people who have problems in their lives. Fascinating.

[@lukula2934]

Your point about preventing group think hits home for me. One of my greatest pet peeves is the policy wonk... Always trying to avoid analytical/critical thought by reducing everything to predictable, rubber stamped category.

[@Lisa-rb3hd]

Love this video! I'm finally understanding and accepting myself ❤ I just need a tshirt saying " I'm not cold or stern its just my face" INFJ problems 😂 Also I just can't chit chat always thought something was wrong with me. Thanks so much for the insights 😊

[@bongzsnoochy4712]

Still that won't bail you out at all 😂 😂 😂 😂

[@veramariecano289]

Chit-chat is a time waster and so boring to me!

[@ninascott8338]

Learning about this explains so many struggles of my younger years. It used to freak me out that casual acquaintances would come to me with secrets and problems. Other people told me I was just making this up. I went to NYC once and I got singled out for directions even though only being in the city a few days. It is exhausting to go out in public. My husband can't understand why. He says, "But when we are out, you are the one that people come and talk to." EXACTLY - EXHAUSTING

[@krystalharris79]

My daughter says I could have conversations with doorknobs - and I am an introvert! But none of my friends believe me! Plus, I am a stranger-magnet, especially the weirdest person who gets on the bus! They hone in on me like we're electrically charged for each other.

[@veramariecano289]

​@@krystalharris79Yeah! I know how that feels...

[@bargainbassist]

Persons who have a tragic backstory of some kind tend to gravitate toward me without my saying a word. I can't count the number of times I've experienced this. But people who've had no real tragedy in their lives, on the other hand, tend to be intimidated (or bored!) by me.

[@Braden_NTC]

We need to stop putting others before us, its not healthy.

[@alialam5714]

we are born for this. i cant live without loving someone even i try to

[@MadRedCarnelian]

You have Fe partent and Fi critic, I wish you well in trying to prioritize your feelings over others for more than a short burst. Other peoples happiness just feels better, and besides, without what we do, who Would have helped them? A life that helps others is an important life, like "It's a Wonderful Life" That's what love is, putting the beloved above self. Someday we will find someone who loves us back like that How we love is real love.

[@alialam5714]

@@MadRedCarnelian Thanks! bro!☺

[@stephensegal5187]

Jesus was an INFJ. So was Ghandi

[@bluesky7704]

​@alialam5714 well if you don't learn how to control it you most likely will suffer significant health issues later in life. I wish someone had said those words to me in my early 20s.

[@cindytram471]

INFJ need to take it easy and chill of out and self love. This is the best version of INFJ.

[@bluesky7704]

Totally agree with your comment

[@rabbitgregory9289]

So accurate. Who’s writing the scripts for these videos and how do you know so much?

[@PSYCH-O]

Thank you, my friend. INFJ here! It takes one to know one 😊

[@MadRedCarnelian]

​@@PSYCH-Oindeed one of the real ones, and not an *NFP who goes on about what good heart they have.. other people may say we have good hearts, and will probably be shocked when We don't think we do, but we try to Be good. I've gotten a few friends upset with me for disagreeing with them saying that I'm a good person. Good is perfect, and I'm not that. (Truth type Pokémon, I can't agree if I don't think it's True) We're like an odd mix of strange alien and friendly robot, stern looks that turn into open and warm smiles with amused eyes. I didn't think I was an INFJ because over 70% of INFJ content is inaccurate, all light and rainbows; I mean empathy sure, but missing analysis, we are Hot and Cold and it comes off as warm. Judgemental but accepting. Like an ancient wise child, and young at heart silly grandparent. Ever notice people never guess your age right? I'm 42 and I get 28, til we start talking. When I was a kid it would be the same but in reverse. Wait you're only X? Why do you know about Y then? And how people trying hide things make them easier for us to see, but when Stressed can't find your real physical keys on the table in front of you (inferior Se). It's like a lot of what people find hard is easy, but a lot of what people find easy I find hard. My best friend is an ISTJ, and what he considers mundane "yeah but everyone can do X" is practically magic to me. But he thinks I'm a wizard when it comes to people, and understanding situations, and motives. Anyway it's nice to be seen. Camaraderie is rare for us, at least for me. So thank you, it helps.

[@laurabarber6697]

​@@PSYCH-O🔥🎉🔥💝🥳

[@liumei3615]

Is it why strangers, for instance, online driver or anyone I just met/I just knew could easily and instantly share their really personal experience or even secret to me? 😬 it happened many times tho'

[@costoncr]

Not just upon first meeting… BUT ALWAYS!!

[@waynesmith2287]

I was known as "The fountain of knowledge"

[@truepeace3]

There’s such an overlap between INFJs and ENFJs. I’m an ENFJ and my grandson is an INFJ. We are so much alike and have a very strong bond. Yet we can have intense moments whenever there’s conflict. It’s like we’re both caught up in deep emotions and have trouble getting out of our heads. He’s an old soul, as was I. As I’ve gotten older, I have a young soul. He’s also highly intelligent and perceptive beyond his years, yet a bit socially immature at times.

[@pixel9548]

I'm 71--and mature for my age!

[@NANASplash]

Me, too!!!😂

[@chrislim7976]

We are not judging but reflecting what we see back to you. If you feel judged that is your conscience speaking to you through us.

[@Wellch]

Observing is a better word than judging(as most define them)….I am an INFP..not a J.

[@MalinaJohnson-b3p]

True facts I really appreciate these videos ❤

[@MM-sq5pf]

I found out through these vids that I'm not a depresssd person with social anxiety disorder. I'm an INFJ-T, and proud of it! Good thing I never got on meds

[@airam-sj2172]

My nicknames as a child in my neighborhood in Hispanic America: "that child is the Bible, the teacher...

[@bongzsnoochy4712]

😂😂😂😂Oh my 🤭

[@Suedetussy]

How sweet!

[@jeanross7430]

Apparently display a disconcerting stare however I was unaware of this. I let people talk and then speak, I am polite and expect some degree of courtesy b

[@roslyncerro1263]

Appreciate yourself.❣️

[@Luthien577]

My highschool classmates used to tell me I should smile more since apparently I'm too serious, turns out I'm just too intense. Maybe they felt intimidated?🤷🏼

[@veramariecano289]

I've been told the same thing! Too intense!

[@irethfaelivryn7065]

I usually like to be around INFJs, I find them compatible with me. I am INTP.

[@brennadickinson2920]

I'm an ENFP/INFJ ambivert. I first took this test about 45 years ago, and tested high on both these types. But as I got older I've become more noticeably introverted and judging. I enjoy meeting people and I consider my solitude as precious time too.

[@veramariecano289]

What does ambivert mean? A bit of both?

[@brennadickinson2920]

@@veramariecano289 Yes.

[@Ela29653]

This is very very true

[@mschlund1]

I get sooo many people in public that will just start telling me their life stories, some other customers, some, it's the person ringing up my items... I don't mind at all, I also seem to notice when someone is looking at me, for no reason I know of...

[@lpc3622]

Spot on

[@hjgreg2]

Well done.

[@charlielondon722]

Please don't try because we will wonder why and then you'll get more frustrated we will get more uncomfortable and we already knew the second we met you how your feeling and can see and so it confused us you can't tell anyhow you get the drift be yourself as much as you can add as honest and you'll get the same in return and a lot more or you'll get nothing and you'll go on a smear campaign making a fool of yourself as the truth needs no defense ❤️🙏😇

[@r.michaelfisher7930]

Useful at some level. The bias of imagery to young people only and all 'beautiful people' stereotypes is disturbing beyond measure. I guess I am not one of those, so there you go with my INFJ flaring up to see the problems of personality-type discourse added to imagery. I'd prefer no images and just a good talk on the topic. So, that said, I am a septuagenarian INFJ and so more needs to be in these types of videos on INJFs that distinguishes and distributes across age (at least). Also, when an INFJ becomes a writer of non-fiction for example, and thus a teacher mostly through their writing...like myself, I became a Ph.D. and social critic/activist. This is not conflict-avoidant as the video says. As well, we ought to be talking about the impact of when people first meet the INFJ writing(s) and how do they respond to that. Writing communications are a whole other game of what gets triggered for people. Simply, now married for 33 years, my wife (not an INFJ) tells me that people are way more intimidated by my writing than when they meet me face-to-face. Problem is, I don't like to be face-to-face out in the real everyday world much at all anymore.

[@isabellareed1234]

Thank you

[@WhiteCatShirataki]

I always have to laugh when you say "welcome psychos."

[@Court-H2O]

When im by myself I come out of my shell. I can talk myself through surface level thoughts, feelings, and process information and come to solutions and understand answers from God that i may have overlooked because of how fast i think. Bejng that INFJ'S are think as deeply as they do and process things differently from the POV of other personality types they may think it crazy but if you've never been around an INFJ and personally know them that misunderstanding is completely normal but the truth is most INFJ'S play db so they don't seem arrogant and prefer to let other people shine. IF an INFJ actually revealed everything they knew ... Again, insecure ppl would think them arrogant but small communities would make comparisons to some of the smartest ppl that have lived.

[@deerlylove]

just bc i spot things doesnt mean i care lol

[@anthonylemison2233]

Talking can get u a lot of attention 😊 expectully when u tell her ur there with someone else 😅 and she never stop with new conversations 😊

[@SeemaWrites1000]

Jeopardy O Jerk U. That's the impression

[@Wellch]

I am an infp myself and felt drawn to those I think that are infj….

[@eknockonxbox4900]

I just noticed how the views went up as i was watching this video

[@SallyRoma33]

💯

[@KS-ne5mq]

Yes 🗣️👏🙌🏼👊🏼

[@shirleylewis4207]

this so real ya ll

[@Stumpybear7640]

I don't know if i project these qualities when they first meet them. You'll have to ask them x

[@cspace1234nz]

...you're probably not an INFJ, most people who think they are, are not, they just like to think they're a bit special. An INFJ wouldn't write the comment you have written

[@Sunset553]

Well I had no idea any of that might happen. I’m usually memorizing names

[@Yaamphcas]

Awe, masekinnes

[@marshallgiles6255]

Infj here, best option give your life to Jesus Christ immediately. Mark 16vs 16 Acts 2 vs 38.

[@veramariecano289]

Absolutely agree! I did in 1988 - have NEVER regretted my decision to begin - life!

[@Wellch]

I am an INFP…..and agree.

[@drewford3205]

❤

[@erglelergle8476]

I am stern and judgemental

[@cspace1234nz]

...yeah being an arsehole doesn't mean you're an INFJ, most people who think they are, are not.

[@erglelergle8476]

@@cspace1234nz you have met all those who think they are and you have determined most are not... how silly.

[@szl5068]

Cool

[@jenniferchaney3019]

❤😊❤

[@Love10_22]

💯❤️✨✌️

[@michaellawson6533]

Jy kap die spyker oppie koppie.😄 Now tell us about INFJ Sigmas.

[@irishnz_9558]

So we're supposed to know what infj means now? Lol

[@bongzsnoochy4712]

I couldn't help but laugh out loud when they mentioned AVOID WATCHING THE NEWS 📰 coz I don't, i have a TV but watching the TV on it, is the last thing I do, I'd rather change the channel, I don't listen to news on the 📻 nor watch em on 📺 but the information I have is mostly the truth than the lies told on radio and TV, not even newspaper 🗞 😅😅😅. That was the highlight of things I project from the qualities mentioned 😊

[@dchristiansen1]

I used to be a news and talk radio junkie, then I realized how irritated and distressed it made me. Now I just pick and choose what news I want to hear, usually on KZbin. Much happier now.