The 7 Best Gay Dating Advice Tips for Love

[@PenandPurpose]

Having a full life outside of looking for a relationship...that hit me. That‘s one of my 2020 goals...living fully! Thanks for the reminder. Thanks for this video!

[@ascott2168]

This was awesome guys !! Too often, GBTQ men hookup as a way to combat loneliness ! Glad you both spoke about the endless GBTQ quest to find the “trophy” guy ! He will have flaws even if his appearance and finances are “ideal” ! Date ppl who don’t look like you also and learn new things !

[@ulyandernesto]

hookup culture... at some point it will change.

[@ascott2168]

Uly & Ernesto, people have to separate love and lust !

[@thomask9272]

This was actually what I needed to hear... I've been on the dating scene for two years now, and I've already almost given up. People have given me over generalized advice, but you two gave practical advice. I like how, instead of saying, "You have to communicate," you said, "Communicate your emotions as soon as possible." :)

[@nodnarb3540]

I’m 36 and thank god every day I met my husband early. We’ve been together 17 years, since we were 18 years old, and I have no envy for anyone at our age having to be in…or worse, suddenly re-enter…the dating world. I would have absolutely no idea what to do! The whole Grindr thing didn’t take off until a few years after we got together, so I would be completely lost! Not that my opinion matters much, but I will say I didn’t meet my husband until I WASNT looking for someone and I had just gotten comfortable with the idea of being single. Life is weird that way!

[@SURENITY]

You are very fortunate.

[@juliankg]

Lucky af

[@oceanwonders]

This is SO GOOD. So many "tips" articles / videos either only skim the surface, or present tips that are so basic as to be totally unactionable. It is clear that you're sharing your hard-earned experience.

[@loveislove4879]

This just makes me realise that i need to really work on my own life before having someone come into it and join me.

[@kayzatv7344]

I need gay love please

[@rqrjq4iari4]

The more I fall into fake love is the more I'm afraid to fall again, it suck that you keep crying to one person when they are enjoying with other ones they meet online

[@kennethkauzlaric8948]

Hey guys, thanks for being honest about relationships. Being honest and open with each other, being able to work through the rough times and being able to love each other afterwards is what a relationship is really about.

[@ulyandernesto]

Awe thank you Kenneth.

[@DiamondFlame45]

Thank you for this straight forward advice. Gay guys need to accept the reality that sex is not the default. What is scary is this mindset bleeds to their 30s and beyond! Then they wonder why they are alone in their 40s and 50s. Relationships are a compromise and hard work!

[@loveislove4879]

Yep im about to be 38. I just had testicular cancer and it is hard to deal with that change and feeling unlovable and incomplete. It gets harder as you get older and more set in your ways i think too.

[@ForgottenKnight1]

Relationships are about respect and vulnerability. Social media today is the exact opposite of that. Of course LTRs are fucking hard.

[@Rich.Staples]

Thanks for the reality check guys, I'm over 50 and came out recently, everything is still kinda scary and uncertain. Your advice is very helpful.

[@andrewjackson5805]

I want to be with someone who wants to be with me!

[@olivermiller1375]

Sure you will find someone Babe

[@kayzatv7344]

Am here bb

[@kyliann627]

Yeah, I agree with you Uly, self love is such an important thing, I know that I got to be self confident but sometimes I kinda give up, it sometimes feels like everything I'm doing at this moment is not good and doing good things 😅 but yeah, self love is the first thing to achieve in my opinion too 😃 It was such a good video ! Gonna think about all the things you said, and try to apply them ! Thank you a lot ! Your French fan 🇫🇷

[@ulyandernesto]

You're the sweetest! We hope the advice helps.

[@vsqc888]

The algorithms have been throwing up a fair few gay dating vids for me and this is by FAR the most valuable. Sincere actionable advice. Thanks guys, keep loving each other.

[@dugald56]

Excellent advice. Especially the keep working at the relationship. 44 years in, we’re STILL working on it! It’s worth it.

[@erickz7433]

These tips are practical and down to earth and most importantly, keep at the center of love between two people. Especially holding off on sex, that's such a big red flag when it comes to the beggining stages of dating someone. Make sure that person is in it to care about your heart and you for theirs ❤️❤️

[@loveislove4879]

Where have you been all my life haha

[@erickz7433]

@@loveislove4879 In San Francisco. Don't come here. It's a hot mess 😂😂😂

[@markodejanovic1635]

Ok, now when you said the secret, let's hope I'll found someone in 2020 😂 fingers crossed

[@ulyandernesto]

This is your year! Go out and live life and love yourself and good things will happen.

[@hobbs1443]

You guys are spot on. I wish I'd had your maturity when I was your age. But back then, gay men supposedly weren't capable of having meaningful relationships. (Oops, outed myself 😳) I'd add one more axiom which falls in line with everything you guys said: Don't go looking for love because you want to be in love." Hugs guys! 😘

[@ulyandernesto]

It really was different back then - especially when everything wasn't so open. LGBTQ+ peoples are definitely capable of love and deserve it too!

[@ron8578]

I personally think when you focus on loving yourself to the point where you realize you no longer need a relationship to make you happy, the right one will be just around the corner. It's a bit of a paradox.

[@DanielBorson]

When I found myself single again at the age of 46, I deconstructed all the things I wanted from a boyfriend: friend, companion, activity partner, emotional support, sexual partner, etc. I realized that I didn't need to get all these things from the same person. I lead a very full life, and while I would love to have someone special to share my wonderful life, I know I don't need someone to be fulfilled and happy. Of course, since this video first posted, the pandemic has thrown a wrench into everything, and for the past year and a half, I've never been more lonely and touch-deprived in my life. And desperation is not a great place from which to find a partner.

[@davidhesse7246]

Wow, guys! Those are some of the best and most honest dating advices for gay men I ve gotten so far on the Internet. Thank you very much. :D

[@JeDindk]

This video is brilliant and you guys are very wise. I share a lot of your opinions, fx about honesty when dating. It is so important. Like you said - we all have defaults and it is easiest to reveal those as soon as possible. But I have been single for almost 15 years and sometimes I lose hope. However, in future, when I feel that it's just hopeless, then I will watch this video again and again and again ...... it is full of hope, optimism, wisdom and common sense. 😀👍🏳️‍🌈❤️ Thanks for a great video! 😃

[@loveislove4879]

Im in the sa.e boat right along with ya!

[@ComputerGuitarVideos]

The top things that I found prevent dating is people give up to early, want fun, don't respect the other person.

[@machoman6969]

I've noticed most aren't mature enough to have a successful relationship. Hooking up is the easy alternative. Remember that we didn't have a "normal " life. No first kiss, dates in high school etc and most importantly emotional validation or a social structure that str8 enjoyed. We aren't emotionally mature yet.

[@augustsage7265]

Thank you for this helpful video. There is a guy that I have a crush on who I have been hanging out with for the past 6 months. Initially, we hooked up once the very first time we met but we haven’t since. But I didn’t initially get involved with him to date, but the feelings developed over time. We have held each other, shared passionate kisses, we go out dancing sometimes. Plus I have hung out with his friends multiple times… I am just hoping that first night hook up didn’t change the dynamic in a negative way :/

[@newagehero9605]

Advice number 1. Stop being so picky and don’t throw someone away that because you see someone more attractive

[@HikiOmo]

My response to the intro was "A lot of things, a lot is going on."

[@justozapon5816]

Thanks uly and Ernesto i will check this video every day love u guys

[@ulyandernesto]

We hope it helps!

[@justozapon5816]

@@ulyandernesto 💚💚

[@andrewjackson5805]

Gr8 advice, Ernesto and Uly!!!!!😗😙😘😚😍😎😏😌

[@olivermiller1375]

Hey am Oliver 38 years old and am a single gay

[@mohammadkalantary2073]

I was completely discouraged,no hope for finding love any more,but this video changed my mind,again, thank you so much guys

[@JetBrews]

How do you love yourself first, confidence. etc?

[@loveislove4879]

I struggle with this too.

[@machoman6969]

See yourself in the mirror. What do you see? Write down your strengths and weaknesses. That's you. And there's nobody else like you.

[@fabiosp43]

As a gay man from South America, it's been quite hard for me to meet my soul mate. No one is interested in a steady relationship...unfortunately...

[@boredutopia]

every person with who i been in relationship i met outside apps, like in a real time, real life, totaly unplaned, friend's birthday, school mate, camping trip with bunch of friends whos other friends came, protest against goverment decision ( wich counted 100 000 people) , at work. craziest thing is that on apps i only met people who became friends lol, maybe coz i dont use apps for hook up, coz i actually not able to have hook up. think i just realised that, hm.........

[@SeanShimamoto]

OMG, can’t wait for this! I’m definitely open to all suggestions ‘cause meaningless sex multiple times a week is fun, but I’d much rather find ❤️. 😍🏳️‍🌈🤙🏽

[@ascott2168]

Sean Shimamoto, hookups/chasing can get old !

[@SeanShimamoto]

A Scott LOL. Tell me about it...I’ve been doing for DECADES!

[@ascott2168]

Sean Shimamoto and even when we’ve met “the hottest guy” with the best 🍑 and/or🍆, we still get back on the apps in search of the next best thing !! I’ve been there man ! We can’t custom build love like its Build A Bear!

[@ulyandernesto]

it's tough because fun is so fun... but if fulfillment is what your after "fun" won't get ya there at all. Good luck cuties!

[@ascott2168]

Uly & Ernesto exactly !! Can’t have your cake and eat it too unless..you want an open relationship and that’s another vlog 🤣

[@andrewjaney]

Oh so y'all coming for the girls! 🗣Category is Netflix Documentary: Tough Love! I hear y'all and receive it! Well done!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@ulyandernesto]

haha some people need to hear it

[@epicmage82]

This seems like very good advice. I think it will help a lot. Thanks you!

[@cho1090]

Your talk is very clear, deep and brief

[@yongliangyao3856]

All valid advice! When this pandemic is over, I’ll move out LA cuz it’s just so hard for me to have a relationship here! Easy to find hookups but HARD for relationship at least for me. Whether you believe or not, this city is full of fake and superficiality and I’m done with it :(

[@loveislove4879]

Move to the East coast. Its more relaxed

[@rossp7779]

There's nothing wrong being a gay single :)

[@ulyandernesto]

Absolutely!! Live you’re best life!

[@michaelthomas172]

The two of you are too damn cute! Some good advice, here. Thank you.

[@ForzaTerra89]

Can you talk about your honeymoon phase and what that was like and fast it can and how long it lasted?

[@georgerivers6042]

Love you guys.....i agree with everything you said......i enjoy your dynamics with each other..... Blessings to you guys

[@ulyandernesto]

Thank you George!

[@JJExtra]

Great advise for those looking! Great video as always guys 😊🌈

[@erickherrera5675]

He said 2020 but now is 2022 and I’m still single 😢

[@kuyaac743]

I just found this video and Its 2021 and Im still SINGLE awww 😭 hehe but its fine. I know the one will come at the right moment hoorayyyy haha

[@HI-mz9st]

Poems about new beginnings 😂😂

[@maureenval1047]

I love watching your videos Cos I laugh,learn a whole lot and awwwwwwed to your love🤗🤗❤️❤️❤️

[@ulyandernesto]

Awe we're glad you enjoy them.

[@ZLHo-pg4hc]

Everyone’s either hookup+LTR or hookup. Can’t even find one who is really looking for LTR 😢

[@Booboobanana]

When you hear a gay couple tells you " It's 2020 and you're still single!" ...I just wanna smack them! 😃 Great info tho👍

[@TheYago93]

this video kinda made a good feeling in my chest. but im really unlucky so it seems when it comes to dating... long time relationships not really happening to me at all and its very frustrating v.v

[@NikStratus]

I've spent the last 2 decades phlyin' solo in my own backyard. The dating market here in the western world is absolute garbage, no matter how you look at it. You guys got lucky to find one another...enough said

[@Raulgermont]

Excellent advise!

[@marianosin93]

lovve this guys

[@angelpotatoe1]

Oh yeah Im gonna be single til I die😚

[@MykRaffy]

GREAT VIDEO LOVE U GUYS!

[@ulyandernesto]

Thanks as always boys!

[@oskrmirattia9886]

Wow, se que quizás no me van a creer pero igual necesito compartir esto con ustedes. Verán, en los últimos 6 meses he sentido muchísima presión, ansiedad y depresión porque ya hace más de año y medio que no tengo ningún tipo de contacto emocional de tipo romántico ni de cualquier otro tipo con otro chico y eso me ha afectado porque hace tres años que me vine a vivir a otro país, lejos de mi familia y amigos. No se imaginan lo mucho que me ayudó su video a salir de desesperación, creía que yo era el único con este tipo de problemas pero sus consejos fueron muy acertados. Voy a poner en práctica esto y ya luego les contaré.

[@ulyandernesto]

Nos da mucho gusto que nuestro video te ayudo! ♥️

[@isidrogarcia1997]

Needed this

[@ulyandernesto]

Awe glad we could help

[@naomiroos1159]

hello guys I am back I missed so much but now i can wacth many videos. ❤❤🏳️‍🌈

[@ulyandernesto]

Welcome back!

[@dugald56]

You are very wise young men.

[@black-sg3lb]

Are you single

[@84GKAllDay]

You two are adorable!

[@vittorio3744]

Almost end of 2020 and still single; I am 52 y.-o., which equals "out of scope" in the gay world.: I am SO discouraged!

[@Artsloverinlr]

Don’t give up. I am 53. I am working on myself (exercising, eating well and seeking therapy to address depression) and I am determined to stay positive. You are not over the hill. I am looking for a guy in your age group. Some others are looking too. Good luck.

[@vittorio3744]

@@Artsloverinlr thnx ☺

[@dwaynebaker9793]

Uly & Ernesto. This was a great video guys. Thank you for being transparent regarding the highs and lows of being in a committed relationship. Hopefully, this year, it will all work out. Cheers.

[@ulyandernesto]

It's gonna be a great year!

[@josegnz4763]

Best video I seen 👍👍♥️

[@timcarlos]

Excellent advice

[@ulyandernesto]

Thanks boys!

[@kayzatv7344]

I need true love gay

[@kayzatv7344]

❤️😀thank you so much sir.i love your advice am real not scan I need please if you any introduce me

[@annikadollevoet13]

Haha thanks for the tips... the guy I was “seeing” didn’t really work out for me. :)

[@ulyandernesto]

Awe sorry to hear but on to the next one! Don't get discouraged!

[@stevenhaywood6027]

Thanks for all the good advice, lovely ones! It is essential to love oneself to attract a good relationship for sure! So easy to say, but oh boy does it take a lot of effort to achieve! sttgaegoaktd

[@ulyandernesto]

E for effort! It's definitely key.

[@obiphil8672]

Everybody hates dating apps and everybody stays on them. Why? Becos there are NO alternatives.

[@MH-wf3qz]

do you know dating app or website for asian to find white man or white man to find asian??

[@heyitsajmartinez]

I dont believe in love i dont believe in forever sorry we're all gonna die one way or another

[@echoeddra8on]

But hook-ups are so much fun...

[@ulyandernesto]

Lmao we give up

[@johnfuture4328]

Hey there,, I'm from California 34 yrs old single gay,, are you???

[@antonio576]

Excellent video

[@ulyandernesto]

Thanks for watching Antonio!

[@antonio576]

I love how you guys just keep it real. I wish I lived near you guys.

[@mrzoukdotcomzouklambadaboo8212]

Best to get off the apps. Fucking waste of time...

[@JCD196940]

Yes Jesus preach it 🌈

[@ulyandernesto]

lol we're just trying to help

[@LoveThomas07]

The video doesn’t apply cuz of quarantine

[@frooogust]

No guys (I’m attracted to) my age are interested in relationships, or I just suck lmao!

[@ulyandernesto]

I think it’s the first part. 😝

[@frooogust]

Uly & Ernesto yeah I commented right before y’all said not to take it personally lol. 🙊

[@jamesjr2006]

I would love to DM you guys on Instagram, because I have a few questions about the "relationship" I'm in now. 🌈😁☺️😄

[@ulyandernesto]

Of course!

[@xadam2dudex]

alrightie..live stream coming up ! I bet I don't have any popcorn

[@ulyandernesto]

Haha not a live stream! We'll do one soon!!!