The 7 SIGNS He Just Wants You For SEX | Stephan Speaks

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Your time is precious, let no man waste it 💯 Get your copy of "He's Lying Sis" here 👉 www.heslyingsis.com 👈 This book has been helping so many women.

[@lynetteharris3303]

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[@faithegbe2456]

@@magictouch3417 can I come in

[@faithegbe2456]

@@magictouch3417 can I come in

[@faithegbe2456]

@@magictouch3417 can I came in

[@yasmeenmoore8782]

I think I have a problem, I need to address and issue i am having with someone I am currently dating and listening to you confirms all my accusations. However instead of confronting him I just stop speaking to him with no fair warning. I think its because I have addressed the situation previously and nothing really changed so now I have no words. Do you think I should address it again? the first time i just asked a question

[@angelsmith5185]

I believe I'm totally done with trying to have a relationship. I just want to be close to God...

[@lanmedsalopri]

Same girl

[@agathantlabathi5122]

Same here,l need Gods fire the rest will follow 🙏

[@tanyatanya9492]

Love Him first,have faith and He will provide what's right for you🙏❤

[@desievans6498]

Samehere

[@mmommo-hx4dx]

me too

[@iamkhnumaa]

It's best to just love yourself and stay single until someone comes along and doesn't make you question anything

[@ememobongnkana]

Or at least doesn’t make you question things that should be obvious or plain and simple…. Yes; I agree!

[@argentinaindubai8149]

True

[@Mr.BigBadWolf]

Well chase what you want. Your ok with waiting and hoping someone come along. But here’s the sad truth “he won’t come you got go to him.

[@iamkhnumaa]

@@Mr.BigBadWolf I'm a divine feminine I go after no man

[@ememobongnkana]

@@Mr.BigBadWolf with patience and God’s guidance and direction; any woman that is truly desirous will get a good man that is willing to put in the effort to pursue and keep her…

[@SincerelyDanielle974]

When the Devil see's you're doing good, he sends his worst demons at you. Stay prayed up!

[@Slaymayas]

Hmmmmm yup 💯

[@toniwilson8212]

Amen Danielle Charley 🙏

[@raychelsmith813]

@@Slaymayas so true

[@ryanarket9082]

True this 😔

[@Kodak_Ke]

This literally just happened to me, felt like a huge setback

[@mayamiri]

I actually met a guy who was serious from the start and I REALLY liked him. After some weeks he could have had sex with me but he REFUSED because he said he was afraid that he was going to hurt me. This is one of the most healing things I have ever experienced with a man. Even though it hurt me that he backed off and it didn’t work out, the fact that he did not take advantage of me and my feelings was 💯.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

[@tj-s6328]

What a real one! I had a similar experience and I'm grateful for him not doing me wrong like that because he easily could have. I hope you find the one meant for you! ❤️

[@mindyann8903]

Wow love this !

[@adriennerobinson1180]

Great

[@leahk.chanda4946]

Same here, he openly said; "don't love me coz am not just ready " yet way back I was the love of his life 😂😂😂 I'm grateful he dint hurt me but made me know he's not the one🙌

[@brittanyr1456]

Please remember ladies: How a man treats you or lack there of is NOT a reflection of your value or who you really are but sometimes a reflection of HIS shortcomings. God bless 🙏🏾

[@virgo1677]

Thank you.

[@msnavida2911]

Amen

[@Haterzarefans]

Thank u for this gem

[@laurawalsh2829]

THANK YOU!!!!

[@sweetheatt.8696]

BOOM 💥

[@efe3097]

Abstain from sex while dating and reserve it for only marriage. It saves you from a lot of troubles.

[@renumathew7144]

Very true

[@GQ-jv9uw]

I truly believe this

[@kathleenmann7311]

Didn't have sex until the wedding at the age of 20. Separated 2yrs later because he was a cheater and an alcoholic. 😎

[@Options23]

Hallelujah!!

[@celtcry78]

Nope. Was still cheated on.

[@lourdiacelestin2109]

“How he treats you is how he feels about you” I agree 💯. Thanks Stephan!🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

my pleasure ❤

[@ameliajohnson4454]

I agreed

[@amiecasados7490]

True I was blinded by what I wanted in him and he only wanted me for sex!! When he broke it off and died 4 days later devestated me...I'm having a hard time getting over him. Knowing he only used me, but I want the opportunity to slap him!!!

[@chinwe2507]

@@amiecasados7490 But he is dead

[@chinwe2507]

@@amiecasados7490 it’s not easy but and let him go

[@agnesalbarka5366]

I have met a man who openly told me "He only finds me sexually appealing and only needs sex from me" I still respect that man till date. Atleast, he didnt waste my time

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

You are well come 🌹🌹🌹 I m intrested with u Or u seriouse I love u so so much real and true I like u really meet me 👧👧❤❤😍😍🌷🌷🙋

[@dianeamaral8151]

Mo thanks in would dump the the bum don't need to get used unless if that's what you want good luck

[@melstarr1864]

I don’t respect people who use other people, whether they own up to it or not.

[@amandaebele2816]

At list he told you

[@BASOKO-Bantu]

@@melstarr1864 You should. That man was honest enough to not manipulate or abuse her. He got out and gave her the opportunity to make her own decision to walk away. Free will🤷‍♀🤷‍♀

[@kareeshasimonebenjamin5706]

An inconsistent action is a consistent answer

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Most definitely!

[@TiffLove01]

👏

[@jacquelineadjei6989]

I like that quote

[@kizmo1810]

💯

[@jenniferdeck5163]

Yes

[@i_c_e_555]

Another sign: when you tell him up front that you don’t wanna go to his apartment (especially when y’all just met) and he keeps asking you to come to his place and doesn’t plan any dates, even when you suggest somewhere to go, leave him alone.

[@irlandaise5631]

interesting and then they dont want to see you again..I also experience men not willing to even meet! makes sense now..my legs are closed until marriage..and I dont necessary say it..but men never go after me..and im pretty .

[@Meyouletsgo]

@@irlandaise5631 I’m virgin ! I’ve seen all different men ! And I don’t regret being that way !

[@irlandaise5631]

@@Meyouletsgooui.. its slavery for a woman to be with several men..doesnt benefit her..

[@Meyouletsgo]

@@irlandaise5631 I’ve dated many but many got so turned off when I told them I can’t have sex they run away ! Now I hide that !

[@irlandaise5631]

@@Meyouletsgo very interesting.. i only told one man I had a huge crush on .. I don’t tell anyone .. I feel they can sense you aren’t easy ..I wouldn’t mind telling at some stage but not in the beginning...

[@roshianderson]

There are a lot of men who say “I’m not looking for anything serious” or “I’m not ready for a relationship” and ooo girl when you hear that believe them. If a fun buddy is what you want more power to you but if you want a more serious relationship don’t try to change someone who is saying things like that! Wishing everyone lots of love and happiness!

[@emmarichmond7104]

Wishing you love and happiness too. 💙

[@deboraford1549]

Yes, thanks you are so correct.

[@ladennayoung2939]

When they say that they are telling you that they only want friends with benefits, and you have to reject that type of behavior/mindset.

[@Babygirl-gr5yv]

I'm on airplane mode I don't need a pilot until I'm married. Amen

[@MsElisMom]

You ain’t neva lied

[@subhra_lory]

Never ignore your intuition.. no matter how much feelings you have for a person !! Walking away hurting your feelings is much better than regretting later !!

[@angelawilson1633]

I strongly agree with you ❤

[@moniqueb3917]

I appreciate honesty. If a man can tell me that all he want is sexual relations with me he leave it up to me to say yes or no. I do appreciate honesty.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Indeed, it helps if we embrace honesty. Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@moniqueb3917]

You're welcome

[@katinalomack3086]

My feelings exactly. Just let me know upfront and stop with all the lies. I love u, I miss u, your the only woman in my life, yeah right!! Just stop already

[@jarethiafalkner5747]

I definitely agree

[@zelmahenry7300]

Facts

[@kaifran1973]

Ladies, stop giving your GOODS to a man that can’t do anything for you. I’m not just talking about financially, but I’m speaking for him being there for your mental and emotional needs too. Don’t be fooled by these guys. Stick towards your intuition .

[@janismhart6641]

YES!

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JULY2021

[@amandavictoriasewell7393]

Great advice. Thank you.

[@yvethajean6925]

And what if he's doiing all that for you buy still don't want a relationship with you though

[@louisakemp]

Well said 💌

[@mswestmoreland11]

When did dating become so difficult 😥 Everything has to be DaVinci decoded now 🥴

[@jksmith9161]

Girrrrrl 🙃

[@orubek355]

Let's adapt!

[@zvikomborerosuffer1304]

True neh

[@akilahmorris6154]

Honestly I think because the good people are either protecting their hearts and staying single, while the evil people are wolves and prey on the good men and women.

[@jos3993]

I swear man 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@Vetayahschild]

I had a male friend tell me after we failed in a relationship that when a guy tells you up front what they want, believe them.

[@tanyaholt7451]

Soon as he say “ I just got out of a relationship “ u already know

[@BigsmokeLee]

@Abc Def lol damn so basically he can’t just be single nor just not want a relationship rn either? 😂😂 What if he just finished his healing point in his life when he landed on u & wants to take it slowly?

[@lisasykes4922]

I know someone just like this he think he slick

[@candy5742]

That’s true

[@tanyaholt7451]

@@lisasykes4922 lol 😂

[@beautyswithinu8829]

Lol damn shole is

[@blkgoddess78]

Set boundaries and LISTEN to your intuition, it will never let you down. When you see the red flag don't delay walk away. Invest your TIME wisely...

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, alway listen to your intuation. Thank you for sharing I appreciate your response!

[@zimjun7]

Yes!! Something in an "Indiana Jones' movie, an old advisor said, "Choose wisely..."

[@chiquitamcduffy6727]

Right

[@elizabethpowell441]

Yepppp Yepppp

[@janaford1954]

,x±¹

[@jennicoop7998]

Just date the guy who is more in to you than you are to him. He will make you the happiest.

[@user52688]

sometimes we r too lonely to notice the red flags.

[@emmarichmond7104]

In my younger years I had a relationship with someone who hid me from friends and family. NOW in my mature years I would not allow that I know my worth! VALUABLE!!! 👍

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for sharing!

[@brittanyb5942]

Same!!!

[@johnburgess3488]

It doesn't mean that you're not valued

[@emmarichmond7104]

@@johnburgess3488 I do not agree. What is your meaning?

[@monicanath4859]

You go girl!

[@HindiLargo]

The guy that says he doesn't want a relationship, but acts like the boyfriend... turns into a situationship. So messed up and hurtful. I understand it's easier for a man to do this just wish it were easier to walk away from. Very confusing and unsatisfying.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!

[@kaytoyatheexplorer59]

Well spoken. This is just the type of thing I walked away from. He never wanted to make it clear what the hell we were doing 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@sexzegurrl314]

I felt this! Cuz i had a baby with him when i finally decided to let him go

[@kaytoyatheexplorer59]

@@sexzegurrl314 that's right sis . We as women are the prize anyway. We just have to be careful who we let in for sure ❤

[@deyannaclark9014]

@@kaytoyatheexplorer59 ain't that the truth

[@klickingkayasmr7585]

The beautiful part of this, ladies, is that you don’t need to sleep with him to find this stuff out. You can gauge the signs before--men are very transparent. Even if they’re confusing, that’s also a sign right there. 👍🏾

[@emmarichmond7104]

I agree 😊

[@LIDYAEIL]

I agree too, before I thought ofcourse everyone needs time to find out whether someone suits you but later I found it is much less likely that someone who is doubtful first becomes certain of you than someone who is certain from the beginning. The strength of the attraction rarely grows with time after the initial few months, no matter how well you know each other later

[@chinwe2507]

So right

[@chinwe2507]

So right

[@CBCH3575]

I agree, give NO grown boy your virtue. You are not created to have memory through sexual experiences short of a husband. 🙂

[@mirjamfj]

I used to «date» a guy who SAID in words that he wanted to be in a relationship but yet he did everything else listed in this video 😂🙄 he actually still does not leave me alone after we got our separate ways and STILL claims he wants a relationship with me🙄 this video helped me a lot to stay my ground and stay away from him

[@cheburrell3989]

Must be the same guy I know 🤦🏾‍♀️😂

[@nahjacutler]

Was his initials KL from South Florida in his 30s?

[@whatitdoppls]

Very frustrating. The attempt at gaslighting is insulting.

[@mirjamfj]

@@nahjacutler no

[@webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453]

“ Do not cast your “Pearls” before swine! Sex is for Marriage, our bodies not meant to fornication or spreading yourself around.

[@adriennerobinson1180]

Truth Indeed AMEN 🙏

[@rachelq5005]

I need to learn that it's ok to be alone and not just settle for the bs

[@uniyshalindsay2922]

Yeaa love! Trust, it’s a much better feeling

[@nombulelokhanyile945]

Well said

[@xomaiyanichole]

FACTSSSS

[@tabathagreen1313]

Exactly

[@Brownmamalife]

I wish you were around... 10 years ago.. when I was younger

[@elsh332]

I had a husband who cancelled the honeymoon because I got my period. The entire marriage was full of sexual abuse and degradation. If a man cancels because you have your period then run for the hills.

[@tukurisah9280]

My ex came back to me few days ago I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr effiong Who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg For a second chance. He can bring your ex back, and he also do a lot of work also like financial problem, and court case, etc..

[@cocochanel1881]

@@tukurisah9280 screwed you scammer

[@faithbishop1444]

Thanks for the heads up. I would track my cycle and plan my wedding and honey moon better with my man.

[@xodancerxo]

Omg, I'm so sorry

[@elsh332]

@@tukurisah9280 i don't want my ex back!! Why would I want that??

[@ruththompson2757]

He CANCELS when your on your PERIOD!😂😂😂 WOW!🙃

[@orubek355]

That's insulting!

[@katrinanunez1434]

It has happened to me although we had not had sex yet. So the next month when I started.. he avoided me.. unbelievable and now he is long gone yayyy

[@wanda01141]

Yup that shot be fucked up. I leave them alone

[@karaborabs]

Lol😂😂😂

[@caramelkimmiekim8272]

1. He doesn't take you anywhere 2. He doesn't want to be seen with you 3. He won't clearly state his intentions 4. He don't want to get into emotional stories 5. Talks about sexual subjects 6. He never spends the night 7. He keeps his cellphone on silent

[@maycuti88]

Make some adjustments for her convince

[@maycuti88]

I don’t met anybody in his world not to invest emotionally

[@maycuti88]

Bonus**** Never commits options open no title

[@mikadampeer1219]

Going through this 😪 time for me to move on

[@cristya2042]

Thank u!... I was scrolling down looking for this comment😂

[@oshun2866]

The man that only arranges to see you when they are in route to other activity in your area. (Example: family member or friends house or other business) you are not worth a separate trip.

[@LL-ip5mm]

Only calls u over to his house and as soon as u get there he starts sexual gestures

[@patriciapatton2531]

😭😭😢😥😭😭😢😭😡smh

[@oneof7billion627]

That's cold.

[@LL-ip5mm]

@@oneof7billion627 just like most men

[@unfathered_ke]

This one pisses me off so much cos its the only time he gets to see me.

[@cj8803]

The truth hurts...but it will set you FREE. I'm glad I watched this. I won't let ANY MAN play with my time, OR FEELINGS!

[@CamilleLoveOne]

I'm glad I haven't experienced a man that was solely sexually oriented, but what i can say that when a man truly value you as a person, he will be ok with you deciding that it's best to take a few steps back, take sex off the table, and work on being friends while you both work on your individual development & healing...

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@emmarichmond7104]

It sounds like you have had a strong value for yourself, which has helped you identify and attract the respectful and serious men. Well done! 💙

[@deidreolivas6091]

❤

[@janegardner7346]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks o

[@Sexiimariie]

@@emmarichmond7104 qqqq

[@amab1853]

What you said about a guy hiding you is very true. When a guy makes a woman feel that they're not proud to be seen with you, it's very hurtful & damaging

[@nombulelokhanyile945]

Now that is just sad

[@tabathagreen1313]

Exactly, that's so true,it can be very hurtful

[@tanyaholt7451]

Soon as he say “ let’s just kick it” “ see where it goes” etc

[@charmainephasoana6850]

Bruh, that's really the pointers

[@randeephantom355]

Lol. Kick it... I be kicking HIM 2 THE CURB!

[@ButterCookie1984]

Yes!!

[@Visualvette]

🤣

[@EntertainmentTadayyyy]

🏃 🏃 🏃

[@kimberlybeshears4785]

I'm tired of dating. It seems like the only thing I'm good for is a hookup but I refuse to have casual sex so I'm once again just on the side of the road talking to myself. I do have feelings and it's amazing how it's so easy for some men to discredit my feelings. It's so easy to get my butt chewed because I say I want a little bit of your time. I'm done with it.

[@newworldsaturncubedcontent2450]

Have you considered dating another female?

[@bobbijeanmoore8379]

Dido

[@jessicaj.358]

@@newworldsaturncubedcontent2450 😆

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

I love u I like u Well u merry me I m alone Same u m triad DATING 😍😍👧👧❤❤🌷🌷

[@SharlenesJourney]

Same here dating is not the same anymore it’s either they want us to accept their bs or they want to treat us like trash

[@TheTropics4]

I don't play games. When I met a man that I'm interested in and he's interested in me, I let him know up front what I'm looking for so we don't waste each other's time. I say, "I'm looking for my best friend and my soul mate & to fall in love. I'm looking for something real that results in a monogamous and committed relationship. I don't do casual sex, booty calls or hookups." If this is too much for a man to handle or if he's just looking for a hookup, he moves on and my feelings are not hurt. I live a full and happy life and I can wait until the right one comes along.❣️

[@hizway4ne]

Absolutely sis!

[@zelmahenry7300]

Absolutely same here

[@mariissa-zf5ty]

The problem is those mother*** act like they want that to and say what you want to hear to get you in that bed. Sometimes it's good to fake and say you wanne f***? Then he will tell you everything you need to know

[@zeynepcaglaguzel3272]

Not everyone is honest and upfront about their feelings, they are amazing liars they may tell you they are truly in love with you, they see a perfect future with you just to have sex with you, after they are done with you they leave you without any remorse. People pretend well so be careful

[@reneecornelius8924]

I got into a situation with a guy we met and basically the relationship was sex based. That's what he wanted and so did I honestly I wasn't looking for a relationship at the time. As time goes by we hang out chill, have sex, but with no expectations or commitments. Before I know it my feelings are involved 😩. I eventually had to cut him off because I was a whole mess over this guy. Anyways....for the ladies who say they only want sex too just be careful cause that can be tricky and could back fire.

[@SharlenesJourney]

Jackie S wow perfectly said you’re way worthy 👑 than just sex men like to use us a toys or props then put us back on the shelf’s when they ready for us again smh just sick 🙏🏾

[@goldie12577]

Fwb is 2 pple fooling themselves

[@EadsB7002]

women bond via time and sex with a man...this is why just even having something casual is dangerous.

[@redb.representing9903]

I was in the same situationship for six years. My feelings was so deep but he didn't want the arrangement to change. I walked away from it entirely I needed to find my worth again.

[@loriblythe6635]

100% agree with you. I’m in this exact situation.

[@kaifran1973]

he never initiates conversations about your interest.

[@SunnyDoesLife]

🎯

[@LifeisaBeautifulting]

Been with guys who have worshiped the ground I walk on and have also avoided commitment. This is 100% facts, when a guy wants you it's obvious and there's no confusion. It's that simple. We as women need to stop making excuses!

[@dorahkainew5238]

Thanx darling you couldn't have said it better....its obvious!

[@tanitrarobinson7477]

Or if hasn't/doesn't ask you deep questions to learn the core of you.

[@danipandaxo]

This one

[@mikadampeer1219]

Facts

[@libralady0220]

How to weed them out....”I’ve been celibate for going on 8 years now and if you want to get to know me, sex is completely off the table. “ Still single and happy! 🤷🏽‍♀️😂😂😂

[@skyejacques]

💕💕💕

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

I m intrested I m single ❤❤😍😍

[@nombulelokhanyile945]

That is actually a smart idea if you kinda think about it

[@pamelaobazee9977]

Me too!

[@c.l.888]

If it’s been that long since you found a good man you need to look in the church.

[@awakeandfearless4143]

Here’s one surefire way to weed out the bad ones... abstain from sex outside of marriage. You’re welcome.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!

[@Cherinecole]

Best advice!

[@josephine42901]

Amen!!! They drop like flies when u tell them! Very effective

[@awakeandfearless4143]

@@josephine42901 right?!

[@amp1984]

@@awakeandfearless4143 agreed 100! Im a virgin and will only have sex til marriage. Many bad weeds r gone and i can focus on the ones that r truly interested😍

[@racheljonesloverofscentsy3825]

This was very eye opening. I have someone in my life that treats me as though he wants to be with me, even TOLD ME he wants to be with me; even as far as telling me he wanted a baby with me; but in reality it was all a farce because his actions spoke otherwise. Never met his family, never met his friends, and our relationship was absolutely all about the bedroom. Even looking back at old text messages, now I see they were all of sexual nature. Thank you for this!

[@Emily-pv5iy]

Maybe he never took you to meet his family, because he's hiding something very bad from you. Or maybe his family have horrible secrets about him ???

[@nmc1859]

Wow. Good you got away. He was living in a fantasy land

[@racheljonesloverofscentsy3825]

@@Emily-pv5iy But I loved him enough to see through that. My love got him was unconditional. So if he would have trusted me to tell me whatever it was we could have got through it. Everyone has secrets and a past. I don’t judge ppl by that.

[@Emily-pv5iy]

Well you are way to good for him, You are a good woman and Carma will hit him bad for using a good woman like you. You deserve the best , not someone like him

[@happinesssomewhere18]

Me too!!!!

[@wildolive1637]

High value men are not hanging in a bar every night.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right!

[@12Messenger]

Facts

[@12Messenger]

Women also go there and put themselves in position knowing most guys are there to get laid...so if you meet your wife at the club dont be surprised later on

[@audreys3279]

I don't think high value men are single long enough for us to meet them, no matter where we look😕

[@wildolive1637]

@@audreys3279 High value men-they tend to lead their life first! You will feel them when you your self is leading your life also...

[@PhetteHollins]

I totally agree that it is worse to deal with someone who’s showing affection, spending time with you, doing relationship type things, having sex....but still doesn’t want to commit. It sends hella mixed signals. Thanks again Stephan for another good video.

[@MsElisMom]

The worse. Why and how can they do that to a person?

[@PhetteHollins]

@@MsElisMom I was going through this fairly recently. It blew my mind because I hadn’t experienced it before. I was so confused at first, then I just cut it off because he clearly needs to heal and got lots of work to do. Not a bad guy just wants his cake and to eat it too...without clearly communicating such.

[@leikelahramos2063]

@@PhetteHollins i just got out of this myself. Not quite a bad guy.. but for sure has work he needs to do.

[@dionnebarnett7210]

I totally agree but listen to men when they say “I don’t want to be obligated to anyone”. The time, gifts, and introduction means nothing.

[@PhetteHollins]

@@dionnebarnett7210 so true and, trust me, I’m listening.

[@virtuous_committed]

You totally describe the last clown that I was dealing with. When I really came to myself and realize that he was dragging me along, I had to disappear. He had about 6 to 8 months of my time and I walked away. I felt it was better to walk away than to get my heart broken.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad you walked away, your time is precious let no man waste it.

[@beefaye6861]

Good for you....I do not have years to waste wit you...my husband lookn for me 👀 😂

[@BE-nu5rj]

Same here I was 3 months in. And I chose to walk away.

[@juney18]

Same here, although I was honest about what I was looking for and he agreed, his actions after all these months aren't close to what I expect of a mate.

[@saritacolvin2383]

This is quite similar to the relationship I just ended. 6-8 months and I had to walk away. The signals were so mixed and consistently inconsistent. I had to silently exit stage left when I had the opportunity.

[@curlytopmorgan]

Huge eye opener and it honestly really sucks even if the relationship was years ago, I’m glad I let it go. I never want my daughter to go through the BS I allowed..I was only taught “you need to be with a man who can take care of you” the worst advice from my mom..I never had a woman actually talk to me about boys/men/relationships growing up, not my mom, aunties, cousin, nothing..I had to learn from heartbreak. I’m glad I will be able to teach my daughter what I never had.

[@adriennerobinson1180]

Yes,I wholeheartedly agree with you. I went through the same thing. SMH

[@mw7882]

Men don't clearly state their intentions because they are selfish. They want to use you for sex but they hate the thought of sharing you, even when they may be cheating with you.

[@wshelby83]

Makes no damn sense

[@jadec763]

True

[@iramsavir5631]

Absolutely 💯 true!! Bastards! Cheaters should hook up only with other cheaters.

[@jessiephilz7951]

True very selfish set of people

[@Emily-pv5iy]

Because those types of guys are not men, they just want power and control that's why they use women for sex, because they see every woman or girl as a sex object not as a human being, and God will punish them kind

[@zee_lolaj7382]

Yep no need for games... His intentions will Always Show. Some of us just tend to ignore or make Excuses for what's Really in our face

[@opalmarshall6333]

So true

[@staywoke8563]

You, are correct, you will clearly see a man's intention, if you pay close attention

[@MsRocka92]

Me 🥲🥲

[@nursejen1111]

How about asking the guy when you meet? What are you ultimately looking for? I've found most guys will tell you the truth! However you might not want to hear the truth. You can also tell if a guy is serious if he's putting effort in right from the beginning! If he just wants to "hang out" no dates, you have your answer period.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

it's definitely good to ask/have that discussion.

[@Sparkle444]

Yes hang out is definitely different than dates I agree

[@ashley9800]

Agreed!

[@ladennayoung2939]

Some people pretend well. Just set boundaries, learn your value and worth, and learn when to say no when you need to. Walk away from a relationship or things that don't have your best interest. Pay attention to red flags, and you will be fine. Find out who you are before worrying about developing a relationship of any kind.

[@bernardanum8494]

@@ladennayoung2939 my dear you're telling the truth, because some of we Guy's can pretend a lot , so you the lady have to be vigilant. God bless you so much.

[@betvdaytime]

Dating is so draining. That's why I always do the "stress test" preventing a problem to see who will help me with my bills first. And even than I'm selective! Please protect the children don't bring any lames around them and watch family members, friends or anybody at that.

[@thisismystone9658]

No.8, When he says something to you that suggests he wants a relationship with you, he can't remember it as it was lies.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely!

[@marydaniels8829]

I get turned off if guy wants it the first date

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you it definitely isn't an easy situation, but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!

[@beefaye6861]

Yeah....he probably has HIV....ewwww

[@greyonyx08]

I'm currently no contact with a former fwb. He came back in my life pretending that he wanted to change our friendship as in becoming real friends but ultimately all he wanted was sex. So I let him go for the last time. When somebody lies to me and plays with my heart then they get cut off and blocked. Simple as that.

[@kellim1976]

Mine is a little different he has a girlfriend and told me they have an open relationship but wants to be Fwb have to let him go I did lhis last time with him when we were 25 now at 45 I'm too old for shit

[@teshalandry7242]

Same thing happened to me knew him for years lied and said he wanted me n only me .it was all lies he has since walked out of my life yet again n will not admit nothing crazy 26+ years of history flushed down the drain I'm so broken 💔

[@staywoke8563]

Good for you, you go girl!

[@greyonyx08]

@@staywoke8563 Thanks

[@blckqueen6002]

SAme I blocked him for almost a month and then we just hooked back up and I had to kick him and his son out 2am 🙄 I deserve better and what he was giving was crumbs smh

[@jeaninepiper3591]

I love his honesty. It's what I needing. Especially at my age at 54. I'm so very tired of how my dates are only about sex.

[@thisismystone9658]

9. He pretends that you people have a connection and that you agree on things but in actual sense, only what he wants is what happens. He doesn't value your thoughts and opinions.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@rubycubez1103]

Yes! This also reminds me of agreeing on one thing and saying wow look how much we have in common! I can't lol

[@thisismystone9658]

@@rubycubez1103 you know!

[@accesstotheredcarpet]

That part that part. I had a guy I was seeing online said exactly the same thing to me. He claimed that we have a connection and that he feels it then sends me dick pics like a Batman signal hoping I’ll hop in the wagon with him. Nope I didn’t respond. He got mad saying I’m so closed off. He’s so dumb‼️🙄🙄🙄

[@maryhudson3727]

Covid is out there so many places are closed and so are my legs for 8 years so far im loving it

[@beefaye6861]

Mine are so crossed ....back up satan 😂

[@tailsthefox6568]

You go girl! Nice, clean and stress free!

[@accesstotheredcarpet]

Me for 3 years and loving the lord. Amen‼️ You go girl

[@akilahmorris6154]

I need your willpower! Thank you Jesus.

[@denisegreen6878]

I love that sis lol 😀😀😀😀😀😀

[@lesego5718]

One thing I've noticed myself when coming to guys only wanting sex is even when he does take her out, it's usually to the club. When a club is the first date, that for me is a red flag. It's an environment where there is going to be a limitation on the conversation. The woman will not be evaluating the guy to see if he's the one she wants. It clearly indicates that he's not even trying to get to know her like that. The woman will be more focused on having fun and drinking then later on he will ask her to go to his place. Well, let's just say I've experienced this. Again great video. Thank you Stephan.

[@noluthandocele4203]

That is AMS teaching, you smart for picking that 💯💯

[@WassupItsAnna]

Or for drinks.

[@lesego5718]

@@WassupItsAnna Yes, just to make you dizzy enough so you won't say no when he asks for a night cap

[@lesego5718]

@@shaneicebanks5958 don't worry sis, a good man will come. All you need is patience and the wisdom to discern which one is for you.

[@missj8145]

I have never heard of going to a night club for the first date... Oh my.

[@gracielou_flattbush22]

The same thing happened to me a few years back and I got caught up in my emotions and now realized physical intimacy was all he wanted. Talk about taking a stupid pill. Amen to all these points! Thank you! ❤

[@aprilstone9776]

Yes been there done the same thing!! I am watching this every single scenario Stephen said this guy did boy I feel duh 🙄 oh well lesson learned I will never fall for that again 🎉

[@kelligray1848]

Right there with ya girl

[@funnycatsandpetsvideos]

May God watch over us all who are here looking for relationship advices, may He give us the best life partners we would ever imagine of😊

[@la.reine.zairoise51]

The thing that is just mindblowing to me is: Why would a man who is only interested in sex go after someone who does not want the same, someone who is seeking for something steady, likea relationship. Why would you as a man putt yourself in that situation? It's like demanding sushi in a KFC restaurant. Doesn't make any sense. Besides there are oenough other women who do want the same thing.

[@Abby-yj9zh]

Men want what they can’t have. I’m in this exact situation. Told him we need two weeks of space, and he has to decide for himself if he actually wants to be in my life or not

[@sandrawright3988]

I feel the same if you know I want more and he doesn't why even spend time

[@jenimichelle]

I believe it’s their ego. Their ego overrides logic sometimes. They don’t want a woman that’s “down for anything” like they are. It feeds their ego to have someone who’s all about them, tending to their needs. I could be wrong....it’s just my experience with men.

[@OYah137]

And that's why it's essential for a woman to protect herself by having clear cut standards.

[@CC-pu6qn]

He doesn’t care about you that’s why. If he did care, he’d care about your thoughts, opinions and how things effect you.

[@tjaspire]

He never wants to take you out in public. Keeping my legs closed has served me very well in dating! You just have to wait. I'm not talking about 90 days or whatever, I'm talking about until marriage. Many of these guys play a heck of a convincing role. If you want to stop getting played, stay off your back. You'll see the real guy. And don't tell him how long he'll have to wait because he will just play a role until then. Legs closed is the best way to guard your heart. You do not have to sleep with the guys you date.

[@afrinaaest]

This man's mother raised him right way. A true gentleman

[@chaneldavis7984]

I just finished discussing this with a friend. These are the signs he has been giving her. She says she is going to leave him alone. Don’t talk to him for a couple days. He says what she wants to hear then the cycle repeats itself. I will be glad when she’s done

[@skyfall1481]

Cut him off and don’t look back. It’s a vicious cycle that she will continue to lose. Another man will give her the love she deserves. Don’t let her settle.

[@skyfall1481]

Delete everything and block. Once you over come the ‘missing’ stage you will be in cloud nine. Good luck.

[@charmainephasoana6850]

Im still missing the person, but I pray I get to that quicker

[@NycBeauty]

Very true ❗️

[@BE-nu5rj]

Great advise

[@SharlenesJourney]

So true can’t wait to get there

[@WhyCee74]

I just did that & I feel so relieved 😌

[@beverleyoflynn4896]

I am extremely direct, "I just want to see if we on the same page, do you just want sex or are you wanting a relationship that could lead to marriage?" I am looking for the latter, so let's not waste each others time."

[@dark-n-lovely338]

They will LIE! They will Title You, GF & in a Relationship to have SEX!

[@beverleyoflynn4896]

Well the only way to stop that from happening, is to not have sex out of marriage. Trust me, when they know they ain't getting it, they move on pretty quickly.

[@warrior4christ790]

Exactly...just let's put it all on the table.😒

[@chinwe2507]

@@beverleyoflynn4896 You are so right. Only 5% can still stay but it’s rare.

[@imher2679]

@@nanaspellcaster6186 Girl bye SCAM!!!

[@priscakadawati5858]

I have recently gone through this,and it hurts having to meet such kind of a man,Praying right now to completely heal from this

[@sheshab4431]

I cut a guy off because after our first few dates, he started to only text after 10 pm and always asked only for me to go to his house. I would be the only one initiating places to go. He would go with me but I don't like being the only one making an effort. I am not sure if he was only after sex or just a lazy lover. I just ghosted him anyway because it's a turn off dating someone who does not take charge on planning the dates.

[@staywoke8563]

Good for you girl

[@iam3035]

My current situation is like that he hasn't invested in one date since February no sex happened he just wanna hang outside walk around sight see I'm like when is the actual date going to occur bro.

[@wanda01141]

Right

[@lisettebrown8317]

@@iam3035 he may be broke.

[@iam3035]

@@lisettebrown8317 girl he was and we aren't together no more

[@OttawaBlonde]

“The penis pic is the Batman signal!” 😂😂 You are a breath of fresh air, thank you for this video!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Lol 😂 🙂 well thank you

[@accesstotheredcarpet]

That analogy is hilarious and perfect to describe the situation exactly

[@mw7882]

🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😭😭😭🎁

[@cynthiaviar841]

What’s bad about the penis pictures are that he calls it big and my wrist to the tip of my fingers are longer. And, I have really small hands.

[@Haterzarefans]

@@cynthiaviar841 😩😩😂😂😂

[@missjibbie24]

This video confirmed that my intuition was trying to tell me all along. The last 3 signs made me walk away from him.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Your intuition is definitely key, always pay attention to your intuition. Thank you for sharing I appreciate your feedback

[@racheljonesloverofscentsy3825]

Well I’m single now and playing the field, lol. No commitments until I find someone who treats me the way I deserve to be treated. And playing the field doesn’t mean sleeping around it just means I’m talking to a lot of men.

[@shristhiamla5761]

This video broke my heart and simultaneously gave me relief. This is an eye opener for me. Thanks I needed this💜

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help ❤

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

I like u I m single 👧👧❤😍😍🌷🌷🌷

[@reneittagray5323]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks a man said he loves you and wants a relationship as he wants some one to talk to and to keep him company, tell you you can visit and spend time or you can move in. But when you visit he doesn't talk when it comes time for sex he be like take off your clothes let me make love to you, no foreplay period. Plus he is very stingy he is 71 an will have sex 2 times per night and early in the morning, I enjoy the sex but can't deal with his selfish stingy none communicating ass so I split. Was I wrong for call it quits?

[@annekajordan6952]

That’s why it is wise to share your standards and values right from the beginning to ensure you are both on the same page and if he is willing to wait with you and the relationship remains deep and strong then that’s a good sign that he’s not just about the physical.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely!

[@emmarichmond7104]

I totally agree 💙 eloquently said!

[@annekajordan6952]

🙏💖

[@OraclesofDarkStarr]

He can still “wait” on you while sleeping with someone else in the meantime... like how would you truly know 🤔

[@treasurefrancis703]

@@OraclesofDarkStarr that's another thing, how will you know it's crazy

[@MsElisMom]

I just shed real tears because I just so happen to click on this video to see how many the guy I’m dealing with would tick off, thinking if it’s less than half of these signs then maybe I have a chance. Unfortunately he checked each and every one, and I just feel so hurt. I’m truly gonna give up. It’s not worth it.

[@detectivemittens3114]

Yeah, went on two dates with a guy, he starts lovebombing me, bringing sex up via text all the time, made it clear I am not at that point and told him it makes me uncomfortable. He kept overstepping this, so again I told him he needed to please just stop steering all conversations towards sex. So then he sent to me, "I think you are too serious for me"... LOL .. I simply deleted his number after that. Boy BYE! (I was clear from the start I was looking for a relationship)

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

[@gwendolynoliver4983]

Where were you so many years ago... WOW you just told my last relationship.. I'm to ashamed to say how long it was🤔... I've only been in 2 long relationships.. the last relationship took everything outta me.. 2 years later I'm working on me, my relationship with GOD.. and learning tools I can use IF OR WHEN I meet the next relationship.. THANK YOU...

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤

[@k-t2498]

Been going through this for 2 years..Guy played me around and wasted my time..Glad to know my intuition was right and I got played..Even told me i expected too much from him..Making excuses every time i wanted to see him..

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all that you have been through! 🙏

[@Lovepinkdress]

No one wastes your time unless you let them. Learned it the hard way and now I won’t let anyone do it again.

[@chinwe2507]

@@Lovepinkdress That’s so right.

[@msanja70]

You should never have to ask a man for his time. He should be eager to give it to you. That’s always been a big clue for me.

[@beatriceburleson5037]

I would try to look at it as 'LESSON LEARNED' never go back to that crap again..keep the book and you will keep the LESSON

[@cdurant14]

If you're planning one of your first dates and he suggests a hotel. Ding ding, creep on aisle 7!

[@beefaye6861]

Lol...clean up on isle 7 😂😂😂

[@diananeal4689]

He says booty call

[@randeephantom355]

Yea, that's a no Brainer!

[@cdurant14]

@@randeephantom355 yeah you would think so, but some young ones don't get it.

[@piyu2003]

What I love about men is that most of the times they just show that through their actions that they are with you for selfish needs. I see that as a plus rather than a threat. So I get rid of them easily

[@susanvantuyl2123]

This truth hit me up the side of the head and made me tear up - because it's SO truthful. Thank you for telling it like it is. If you don't want sex first from the man, keep the boundaries. Thanks again.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤

[@mariahjames8991]

Same girl, it stings but it's better than going through it and learning later "what it is".

[@MonicaMontgomery_]

I've had a Man act like he didn't want to tell me he only wanted Sex even though he knew that's all I wanted from him. Point is... A lot of Men don't realize that a lot of Women only want them for sex as well. Just be up front about it. It's simple.

[@zar-zarheabutler1276]

That’s so true!

[@luvlibabygirl]

That's it that's all shit it ain't like y'all doing something ppl ain't never done before

[@MonicaMontgomery_]

@@luvlibabygirl Right. 😂

[@maryhudson8531]

Right

[@adriennerobinson1180]

You got that right ✅️

[@12Messenger]

A girlfriend today is just a fwb with a title or a reliable sex playmate. You're either my wife or a stranger I don't see you in between.

[@Wonderwoman79G]

Fwb means?

[@WassupItsAnna]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@WassupItsAnna]

@@Wonderwoman79G friends with benefits.

[@Wonderwoman79G]

Why would someone be called a girlfriend but their bf thinks they are fwb? Don't fwb casually know they are both fwb?

[@LIDYAEIL]

@@Wonderwoman79G I think he means its either very serious or not. Anything that is doubtful is not his piece of cake

[@harshaprabhak9064]

Girls who got real men are really blessed in one part of their life❤🎉..congratulations qts😊

[@tanyaholt7451]

If you Dnt get in his house, meet friends n family or go places he is not it

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@imher2679]

He can still be a pos and liar!😒

[@toniwilson8212]

@@imher2679 true

[@toniwilson8212]

He can still be a waste of time & pretending , I been there more than once Tanya holt

[@yolandalumpkin1605]

Actions speak louder than words...real 💯.

[@amandavictoriasewell7393]

I am 100% in this situation. He admits It! I have just got to get our of this nightmare. Thank you, Stephan. He takes me out occasionally - very reluctantly. Doesn't want to be seen with me. Ashamed of me. Lies. Inconsistent. Zero effort. Tries sometimes - dangles a carrot from time to time. Promises holidays. Never delivers. I'm always last on his list. But, Stephan, the sex is great. But I'm done. He's told me he doesn;t love me or need me. Please God grant me the courage to dump him!

[@tereseday4060]

Girl, you're worth more.

[@daniellecobb6001]

So how's it going?

[@babaib3513]

Pls get out may the lord give u strength.my heart goes out to u. I don't understand this BC i cannot equate sex with out love

[@natthebratster]

Did you finally get yourself free?

[@tabathagreen1313]

You're stupid for giving your body to a man that doesn't care about you and your feelings, he's using you.

[@kala5810]

Very good point about being mindful of not getting blinded by your own desire for the guy and disregarding the way he treats you. Thanks Stephan!

[@Corry.Mupenda]

“He is not proud to be seen with you”😂😂😂

[@orabuffonge4435]

I was like sheeeeshhhh

[@accesstotheredcarpet]

That part

[@akosuaayim888]

I was like damnnnn ok 😂😂😂

[@shutit4024]

Damn that’s messed up

[@destinywright5627]

That shit literally has me crying right now cause I’m like damnnnnnn I never even thought about that. That shit hurts

[@mmhmm1974]

I had a guy tell me that a relationship is 95% sex, lmao, idk if that's true in the heart and mind of most men, but I just knew he wasn't the one for me to be in a relationship with even though I do rate sex high on the priority list. The one thing I thought was great about him was that he loved to take me out, wanted me to meet his sons, invited me with them (his kids) to go on a quick flight on his private jet just for dinner. But at the end of the day, I really want a man that values my mind and heart not just sexual get down.

[@orubek355]

He did dinner and introduced you to his kids? Seems serious.

[@mmhmm1974]

@@orubek355 I know that those things would make it seem so, however no conversation, not even one whole conversation couldn't go without it becoming sexual, it was very superficial, I have the feeling that if the only thing u really wanna talk about is when ur gonna get again it, you're not thinking about getting to me in other ways 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@orubek355]

@@mmhmm1974 Oh now I understand. We also need deep conversations with these men.

[@mmhmm1974]

@@orubek355 yes that part was completely dismissed, so when he stated the way he sees things no need for me to attempt to get deeper.

[@jaceem4175]

Right! SOME MENS NEED TO KNOW HOW TO TREAT A WOMAN WITH RESPECT.

[@pumpkins5390]

0:04 😂😂 the intro got me lolest

[@mandyhayes1950]

Wow. This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you for clarifying these signs. Time to stop wasting time. 🙏🏽

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, I appreciate your feedback!

[@mikeanthony7847]

Can i hit it

[@shelleymcdonald2672]

I’m glad you shared this. I went out with a new guy and I was attracted to him and vise versa. But he didn’t ask me enough questions and I felt he wanted a sexual relationship. He didn’t have a car and he was aloof about what our next date would look like. I basically blocked him.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!

[@sophisticatedmm3632]

Good for you, don't lower your standards

[@tailsthefox6568]

Your new guy is somebody old guy or somebodies old guy lol

[@Misabelle]

Just had the same experience on a first date today - He asked no questions about me and seemed uninterested in getting to know me at all, but tried to touch my back or leg when talking 🙄

[@landigb9481]

Makes me remember when I asked him, “If money was not an issue, where would you take me on a date?” He responded with, “Hmm, I’d have to think about that.” Learned later he was still legally married & had several side pieces.

[@Ms666ism]

I was seeing this guy and we had a trip planned. He said before the trip “I hope you don’t get on your period”. I put him in check and then immediately broke up with him after that. Don’t waste time with these 🤡 clowns.

[@joypressley4821]

This video is such an eye opener. Thankyou for sharing Stephen

[@marshaywalker4620]

I'm always on my period 😂😂😂🤩

[@migsmigs2027]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@marshaywalker4620]

@@migsmigs2027 😘😜🤑🥳

[@astropin-up7338]

🤓😜👑

[@OhSoCarmen]

😂😂😂

[@starseedgina]

I Heard You Sis 😭😭😭

[@CocoChanelle-1]

Men don’t fall in love from one night stands. If you give it up quickly, he just knows your cookie. He doesn’t even know you. It is what it is. If he wants you for you, he will wait.

[@zeemali4369]

Preach on

[@shutit4024]

Everybody trying to be like John legend and his wife 😂😂 no no no. I agree with you💯

[@saynotohookups]

Or he's pretending to wait for you when he's really playing the field thinking that there's a chance that he can still rope you into it.

[@CocoChanelle-1]

@@saynotohookups yes, I dated a guy that did that and his “ex girlfriend” called me from his phone. 😄 That was fine with me because he proved to me that he wasn’t trustworthy. I kept myself from heartbreak.

[@adriennerobinson1180]

Well,this is somewhat true.

[@katrinajackson7994]

One thing I need people to know is You should definitely take sex off table especially when trying to heal, because of soul ties which you never want an unequally yoked person tied to you as it throws off your destiny and purpose in life, So it's That part for me, because it takes that much more work spiritually on your part to break free from them. Reread and get that in Your spirit!💯🙌🔥

[@lovelove-jx9qt]

Thank you

[@katrinajackson7994]

@@lovelove-jx9qt your welcome hun.

[@Glori_nailzz]

Just ended a 12yr relationship w a serial cheater and now I'm chatting w 6 diff guys. Attracted to them all? No, just want attention that I haven't gotten in the past few years. I have slept w 2 but this soul tie I believe in. I feel bad abt where my fate as landed tbh..

[@katrinajackson7994]

@@Glori_nailzz hey love, I'm glad you responded to the Post let me encourage you to take some time to yourself to heal as I read your comment the Holy Spirit gave me the scriptures to share with you please read and I encourage you to fast and pray and if you are unsure how to do this please return back to this post to get the help you need I am here for you.❤️ 1 Corinth 3:16 NIV Ephesians 6:10 -8 NIV Luke chapter 11 NIV Matthew 12: 43- 45 Matthew 17:21 NIV. I am praying right now against any strongholds in your life and that every file joke of bondage is broken and that you receive the clarity in your time of prayer and what you need in Jesus name Amen. Jesus loves you and so do I be encouraged sister🙏

[@katrinajackson7994]

@@Glori_nailzz Luke ch11 had to get this in it pulls it all together in your understanding. The devil didn't want me to put this one out. I had to type like 3 times. Thank you Jesus 🙌

[@anointedmash7718]

I am going through that right now and I kept ignoring these signs. Sometimes I see through him but I don't have a courage to end it. Thank you for this, I appreciate it ❤️🇿🇦

[@user-jz8dp7ok5i]

Me too been with this man for 12 years