The ADHD Emotional Rollercoaster | Emotional Dysregulation

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In this video, I am going to talk about...
- The common challenges ADHDersa face when it comes to emotions
- The concept of alexithymia and its implications for ADHDers
- The impact of emotional dysregulation and impulsivity on our daily lives
- How ADHDers can manage our emotions
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Chapter Titles with Timestamps:
00:00 - The ADHD Emotional Whirlwind
00:39 - Three Main Challenges with ADHD Emotions
00:56 - Alexithymia
01:55 - Emotional Dysregulation
02:59 - Impulsivity
04:00 - Understanding The Feedback Loop
06:43 - Managing ADHD Emotions
10:40 - Developing Self-Awareness
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[@BeUltranormal]

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[@jenA9026]

Emotions and emotional dysregulation are my greatest challenge with my adhd.

[@BeUltranormal]

Emotions can be a tough nut to crack! Probably the biggest thing I work on with the members, aim for progress over perfection!

[@lotion5238]

Holy hell I did a double take looking at your subscriber count. You obviously put a lot of time and effort into this video and I'm glad I found it. I thought it would have been like 1 mil. But 1k?! That's criminally low for the effort and professional nature of this video, you even made FULL CAPTIONS. That takes so much extra time to do. It was very informative, straight to the point, and bullshit free. I will subscribe and I cannot wait to see more!

[@BeUltranormal]

Honestly that means so so much! Thank you! I try to keep things BS free as much as possible. Definitely let me know if there's something you'd like to see on the channel, I'm always open to suggestions :)

[@tweetshagi7305]

So I have ADHD I’ve always suffered with emotional dysregulation I am a doctor now and on my way to bring double certified from US and GMC but still to this day I have not found away to regulate my feelings this is how I have been diagnosed in the first place

[@BeUltranormal]

Firstly congrats on becoming a doctor! That's an incredible achievement, and yeah I struggled with regulating my emotions for a while. It's certainly not a one-and-done effort, it takes time and work to do it. The one thing I would say that has helped me and my members the most is that trying to manage emotions in the moment is often a losing battle, it requires going to the root belief and working on changing that, thenong term as a result your emotions will naturally shift. E.g. I used to feel very angry when I got criticism from anyone. Once I took the time to deconstruct the belief of why criticism=bad then it became much easier to reprogram my belief which meant that as a result I stopped feeling angry. If that kinda makes sense?

[@txryze8889]

Great coverage of the emotional rollercoaster that im trying to make sense of. Currently been faced with ups and downs and this helps everyone here to work on these problems. Keep it up

[@BeUltranormal]

Thanks for stopping by! :)

[@crearoosje]

Thank you for your video’s, so helpful!

[@BeUltranormal]

You are so welcome!

[@KattMurr]

That was me today. Had a crying breakdown right before work and had to pull myself together before I got there. Luckily I didn't have to drive. But my reason for my meltdown was my boyfriend and he drove me to work...and was a half hour late picking me up after work, so...almost had another meltdown....good times....not!

[@BeUltranormal]

Ouch! 🥴

[@trancekingpj]

I've found that externalising emotions isn't always an easy thing to do sadly. I have set out with good intentions to journal regularly and then find that when I'm going through a depressive cycle that it's (psychologically) impossible to get the motivation to pick up the pad and write. I've also mentioned before on here about suspecting that I have ADHD and have had this since childhood. From other research I've done I've noticed that ADHD symptoms]behaviours also closely match those of childhood emotional abuse/neglect. So now I don't now whether it's therapy that will be the best solution to deal with childhood trauma or whether it's ADHD and I need medication to help deal with poor dopamine cycles. Interestingly I've noticed that I have highs and lows roughly every two weeks, so I'm "high" currently, but then in a week or two I'll experience a crushing emotional low filled with negative emotional spirals. This world of living that we experience is certainly an interesting and challenging one!!

[@BeUltranormal]

Therapy is great and I will always be a supporter of it, same with medication for ADHD I will always recommend talking to your doctor about it to see if it's right for you. And it's good that you have started to recognize patterns in yourself and paying more attention to how your mind/body work. Oftentimes our brain can convince us that the best thing to do is not the best thing to do. E.g. when we're feeling down, our body convinces us to stay in bed, but often doing the opposite action and simply getting started on the day is best. This is why externalizing, especially in a guided, systematic way, can really help get thoughts out of the 'feelings' fog and into the 'logical' world (i.e. in front of our faces!) One of the reasons I became a coach was because I realized that despite both of those things being helpful, there are a lot more skills that directly impact our lives, our work and our relationships. So, the advice I would give to anyone (ADHD or not) is to look to embrace the discomfort of developing more self-awareness, and keep learning the skills to grow. With those two things constantly happening, you'll be set for life :) Keep growing!

[@adamcotton9657]

Meditation is very good the muse s headband I would recommend it can help build a positive mindset.

[@trancekingpj]

@@BeUltranormal I've been on this journey for a number of years now (since I separated from my ex-wife as I finally have the actual time to do this work) and it's certainly been eye-opening. It's forced me to look more inwards and I've finally been able to answer questions about myself that I just didn't have a clue about a number of years ago. Things like the impulsivity, my lack of focus mixed with periods of hyperfocus, brain fog and an inate inbility to really organise myself (despite holding a job at the time where organisational skills were essential!!) are all things that I just did without any rhyme or reason. At least now I have been able to put a finger on a reason why. Now it's all about getting the right medical support to help deal with those things I endured in my younger years. And I'm still not looking to get back together with my ex. She's got a partner now and I don't want to go back to the abuse I experienced whilst with her. I'd much rather be single whilst I sort myself out and maybe, only maybe, I might consider having a new partner in time to come. I appreciate my own company and, quite frankly, could easily live on a deserted island if it came to it :) I do enjoy the companionship of women so it's a given that I'll enter into a relationship at some point, just not just yet is all ;)

[@debihuber2123]

I don't think I have the ADHD and I'm recognizing that these skills presented here are good for me (as the ex-wife of someone with ADHD). My emotional and communication shortcomings certainly did not help me be a better partner. I have much to learn and forgive myself for the way I showed up with someone I truly love and adore. 😢

[@bonniedavis9076]

All these things are learned.

[@BeUltranormal]

Absolutely! Learning and growing self-awareness and managing your emotions is the key to... well... everything!