The Animus: How To Integrate Your Inner Masculine I Jungian Psychology I Inner Work Library [67/500]

[@jordanthornton]

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[@JennyBesserit]

So many books and talks about the anima/animus have a huge emphasis on the anima and barely touch on the animus at all. Thank you for making a video specifically for it

[@jordanthornton]

It's tragic! I'll make more videos on this in the future!

[@M.H.S.W.818]

Right

[@nicoleconnor_]

As a woman who has been consciously healing and embodying my healthy feminine energy, I have deep gratitude for this conversation. After a lifetime of masculine programming, the truth of your words cut through the cultural noise that is more focused on biology than energy. Women must also soften into their feminine in order to cultivate the self-trust required for the balanced masculine to make itself known. Women point > Men Lead > Women follow. I talk about this often on my podcast and would love the opportunity to connect with you.

[@jordanthornton]

This is an excellent reflection, thank you! I’m not currently open to collaborations as I focus on my course creation process, but I appreciate the effort and who knows what the future holds in 2024 🌲 Wishing you all the best in the meantime, and feel free to DM me

[@andrelehner7887]

Thats a brillant way to describe the situation. Thanks a lot ❤

[@igam8251]

I am currently reading The Invisible Partners… what a gem Thank you for the recommendation

[@jordanthornton]

Excellent choice!

[@anipapikyan]

KZbin recommended this video and I couldn’t be more grateful. It’s such a rare thing to see a man talking about animus integration in such a sensitive and understanding way at the same time. Healthy masculinity has such a calming effect on feminine energy. I enjoyed this video both as a woman and as a jungian analyst. Thank you for talking about this important topic. You’ve got yourself a new subscriber here.

[@jordanthornton]

Welcome, great to have you here. Good time to find me as well because this channel is now nicely fleshed out for you to enjoy. I appreciated your comment and likewise have a lot of love for depth psych. Looking forwards to hearing more from you, Ani. 🌲

[@LaisCordiolli]

I've waisted the best years of my life trying to perform like a robot at work. I'm 35 years old and I've been working from home for 3 years now. Being self employed and having my own schedule has had a huge impact in my life, I wish I could've done this earlier, but it's neve too late❤

[@jordanthornton]

Grounded mentality here, Lais. I'm glad that you're finding your right balance at this important time in your life - make sure to checkout my latest shadow work playlist for some more on this. Got some videos in there on balance and boundaries which could be useful.

[@yes7855]

Hey! That’s lovely really ❤. Can I ask what you do? I would love to know what worked and didn’t… I’ve been thinking about this a lot

[@Elvira239]

Perfect timing! I was just reading 'The invisible partners'. The moment I heard the term animus possession, I instantly knew that this is exactly what's happening to me and I can't wait to know everything there is about it. I've been wondering for so long what's this strange male-female dynamic within me that no other term fully explained. One more video, one step closer again. 🎉

[@jordanthornton]

Perfect timing for sure! Happy to be here, sounds like you’re figuring it out 🧠

[@illiJomusic]

Not even a minute into this and i cant express how needed this is. Thank you for your efforts

[@jordanthornton]

Cheers, brother - be well this new month.

[@Dragonprana]

I am very grateful that you made this video! Thank you!!!!! Precisely last night I realized that I dont have the slightest idea on how to be in my feminine energy because I've been functioning in masculinity my entire life. Excited to read your recommendations. Looking forward to the epiphanies.

[@jordanthornton]

This video wasn’t even meant to be public yet! Haha! Hidden link - but I’m glad it helped lol

[@Dragonprana]

@@jordanthornton well glad I found it because it was just what I needed.

[@jordanthornton]

@@Dragonprana Out on Sunday for everyone else hahah

[@beckymagnolia1]

Of all your videos I must say this one is calling me the strongest. I had never thought deeply about my inner masculine, but now as I am single for the first time in my life and having to play both roles for myself I'm seeing the crucialness of this. It also explains my history of codependency and flightiness so well. Looking forward to diving into a few of these books. Thank you.

[@jordanthornton]

Happy to have supported your process here - feel free to scout my channel for other masculine psychology videos too, good thought experiment to relate to ‘inner man’

[@akaHanndalf]

This video is both clarifying and reassuring! 🙏 What’s funny is even though these may be deemed more “traditional” roles of masculine and feminine, it’s ultimately about embodying and consciously using them with more fluidity than we may have ever been able to in recent history. Key word consciously………. That being said I’m still convinced once I find a way to turn into Aragorn and/or Ragnar that life will finally make sense.

[@akaHanndalf]

This actually made me think of a question for you. Not sure how relevant it is, or perhaps you have a video relating to it already. It’s about the role of war consciousness in humanity’s history. It’s obviously something that still resonates strongly with many or shows like Vikings wouldn’t be so popular. But what role should it play going forwards? Is it something we can and should actually shift or is it needed? What would its healthy expression be? I ruminate on this quite a bit.

[@jordanthornton]

Sending you a message on IG!

[@Alinda1308]

I was waiting for this! Thank you, Jordan!

[@jordanthornton]

Hope you enjoyed it!

[@wegotonelove]

I see feminine in culture represented by focus on physical appearance, makeup, dressing up, doing nails and hair, wearing heels, being affable and liked etc. These things can be grouped as agreeableness as they are tied to cultural acceptance. It doesn't interest me so I'm rather perplexed by it. I'll check out the books Thanks, Jordan

[@jordanthornton]

Enjoy the reading - you’ll find great value there!

[@wegotonelove]

​@@jordanthornton the penny dropped - they enjoy these things because it makes them feel confident and sexy. I get it now. That was probably obvious to everyone else but I just didn't get it for the longest time 😅. Thanks :)

[@gailaltschwager7377]

Thank you, Jordan! Balance is everything.

[@jordanthornton]

Always!

[@momocita77]

I hope to see more psychology things like this in 2024 become popular instead of people diagnosing their partners or themselves as borderlines or narcissists

[@jordanthornton]

Totally agree - I’ve rejected every video request to make these style of videos. They don’t help and we can do better 🌲

[@jendonnelly7637]

I feel so bamboozled. I bought the lies. 🤦🏼‍♀️ I recently had a hysterectomy in hopes it would make me less”crazy” and hormonal in order to be higher performing. Our generation is in a difficult place. Women realizing and experiencing men will often not protect them so they can be their feminine selves. Our laws are even structured in a way to protect men’s property rather than the safety of the vulnerable in society (women & children). At the same time I experience day after day all men being seated at the table making decisions for women and wishing more women had a voice. What a confusing time to exist.

[@jordanthornton]

We’re certainly working things out individually and collectively - I see reasons to be hopeful, however!

[@nobutterinhell]

Creating Union by Eva Pierrakos is a book that highlights the unique qualities of feminine and masculine aspects

[@jordanthornton]

I've read two of her books, but I didn't know about this one - cheers, will check it out now.

[@Babysteps1000]

Thank you for this

[@Pink-wf9yj]

I’m so glad Twintuitive717 suggested your channel… Need to hear this…

[@jordanthornton]

Saw this, great to connect!

[@sapposejane]

Great reading recommendations, new subscriber :)

[@jordanthornton]

Welcome aboard!

[@jordanthornton]

(Make sure to get these golden books 😉)

[@lechatleblanc]

and here i was thinking this film was for males becoming real men.... clicked on it to watch for my brother ! and it ends up being a video for me !

[@jordanthornton]

Happy to have helped! I always try to speak to both genders where possible ✌🏻

[@melissajon2011]

Youre so smart! thank you!

[@jordanthornton]

I appreciate you being here, enjoy.

[@missydarnell3933]

Thanks!

[@jordanthornton]

Appreciate the tip, thank you! Happy to have helped and will use this money to buy another yellow highlighter to keep the research going 😉

[@mitullala8857]

Ty Jordan good timing 🙏

[@jordanthornton]

You are so welcome

[@paulbenne3689]

Amazing content as always and ... a nicely trimmed beard, though! ;D

[@jordanthornton]

Tidy 😉

[@lechatleblanc]

❤❤❤ love this guy ...

[@mhyunsook]

it's like yin and yang sign integrated each other.. it reminded me of eastern philosophy.. your lack of energy of e.g. 5 elements needs to get complimented by opposite characters ..

[@jordanthornton]

Yes, that's the idea. Nicely said.

[@SaporahLuna]

Hello, I would love to share that these videos of yours have been so mind opening and heart opening to me. I feel so in awe At what you teach and how it is taught I feel curiosity and a desire to go deeper within myself, understand myself know myself. I just stumbled upon your videos and when I first started listening I was really impressed and intrigued, as I have been longing to go deeper And these do just that. I didn’t know others were on this journey to! I loved seeing someone else go deeper and explore this May I ask, where did you start to learn all of this work? For I would love to know how you started on your journey So I may know for myself how I can start. Thank you for making these videos! I like to sit and work on art as I listen.

[@jordanthornton]

You’ll love the video on anima/animus which I just uploaded this minute! In terms of starting points check out my ‘24 books for 2024’ which I uploaded at the start of January. Will be very helpful 🌲

[@SaporahLuna]

@@jordanthornton I just listened to these two and I am awed! I love how you explain it You helped me understand a lot. For I have struggled being too feminine and not tapping into my inner masculine to get things done and have structure. Getting a bit lost. But to Have a balance. And you surprised me with your knowledge and education. I did not know a female could experience physical side effects from being too much in go and masculine energy. And the one for men to tap into their inner feminine. I was enraptured. And felt surprised at so many points This work is so interesting to me. You have inspired me to continue learning. I feel like I have a place to start now. Thank you for the recommendation I feel excited to watch that video next. ✨

[@Strobis666]

Could you make for men to integrate theirs animus properly? I see lot of my generation suffer on too much softness could become parent who cannot stood up.

[@Strobis666]

I also see it myself not having good father figure and my masculinity in early life skewed.

[@DaLeeza]

K, so I can’t find our previous conversation and it quite frustrates me. I had mentioned that I was able to get ahold of The Shadow King and you had said something along the lines of “have fun with that” which at the time I had read as offensive 😅 till I started reading it and realized…

[@jordanthornton]

Hope you’ve been finding continued value in your studies ✌🏻

[@DaLeeza]

@@jordanthornton I struggle to continue reading the book, something about it is maddening when you see it happening all around you and not quite knowing what to do about it besides observe and feel all the feelings it brings.

[@aimeeh8670]

Thanks Jordan for your last two anima/us videos… interesting noticing my reactions, particularly to this one… how frustrating it feels to have neither my feminine or masculine very well integrated, I’m not the expressive, creative, flowing woman I sense I can or want be and have no point of reference for who she is and my masculine is kinda picking up the slack but in a weird, skewed not particularly helpful way 😂 both are limping along in some sorta clumsy three legged race hampering each other but also desperately wanting to do better, and help each other. Trying to not give myself too hard a time about it, think that’s partly wherein lies the problem!

[@jordanthornton]

Worth finding a definite lane of expression to practice each within - I found that my feminine got the most development from dance, embodied movement and ecstatic dance; whereas my masculine feels especially fulfilled in making these videos & lifting at the gym. Somewhat simplistic advice, but it might help you to close the distance and develop both at greater depth - action and expression!

[@aimeeh8670]

@@jordanthornton thanks Jordan, simple advice yet sounds very sensible, practical and do-able and makes a lot of sense! Perfect 🤩 I will definitely embrace it 👍🩷

[@fannyyogadessaisons]

I was wondering, if anyone reads this, what happens to her relationships if a woman starts to integrate her animus? What's happening to the other one (the man)? Can he still project his anima on her? And how does she see him now?

[@The_New_Abnormal_World_Order]

I resent the fact that I grew up in a world that forces women to be like men. (I'm a woman, indoctrinated by hardcore feminism as a young child, which I now see as very harmful. Also, the world I grew up in, girls and women aren't protected and made to feel safe. That's why we are forced to be tough and man-like. In childhood, my Mother and Grandmother were very angry people, so there was very little divine feminine energy there.)

[@jordanthornton]

Important reflections, it’s sad to notice the chain effects that we were conditioned with although I’m certainly optimistic for the future of men and women - great work taking place 🌲

[@obliooberon3679]

That is the ANIMUS of society , the feminists railing with their own Animus, barking at the men calling it the patriarchy when in fact it is the ANIMUS of society , the left brain patterning by the rules and institutionalized entities! Way off base , it's all been sexualized as men vs. women, No ! It's about masculine and feminine archetypes , the yen and yang , not boys and girls ! Society is matriarchal in nature patriarchal by the rules !

[@selmathornton5489]

What does this do for women who HAVE to be independent and striving on their own??

[@jordanthornton]

Great question, and it depends on the individual and their unique stage in life. Wouldn't be able to give too much nuance in a general comment, but I hope you're well.

[@dianeclayton4936]

I recently caught myself wanting to take my ex male partner to task...fortunately i recognized i was acting from an authoritarian space. Much like conditioned patriarchy. I caught it and sat with what is healthy masculine. How do integrate that espescially with few to role models. I could see the same issue applies for men. Healthy role models are in short supply imo.

[@jordanthornton]

You’ll like The Shadow King book by Hal Stone and Sidra Stone… speaks very well to your issue here

[@laravladimir493]

I am a very gentle submissive women and I find I have lots of more masculine females in my life. They have a strong life drive and are more confident in their opinions. I find it rude and intimidating. Something I need to work on lol!

[@laravladimir493]

Oh and they have more submissive men as partners. They completely shut down their men when talking. I can't stand it. I know this is an imbalance

[@jordanthornton]

I hope you continue to find the right balance for your personal path this year, keep at it and good luck.

[@harleennnnn]

what do you think about animus repression? and why does it happen?

[@jordanthornton]

In short, it’s usually about unpacking negative narratives / experiences related to the masculine. Often father figures, but for women it can be former partners too.

[@harleennnnn]

@@jordanthornton Thank you for your response. Do you think a woman with a repressed animus would prioritize others first, frequently placing herself last?? To better understand this concept of Animus repression, which book would you recommend?

[@jordanthornton]

Check out invisible partners by John Sanford, as well as the Eden project by James Hollis ✌🏻

[@M.H.S.W.818]

I know it sounds weird but i can always feel myself surpressing my animus in a sense like im afraid its going to get out of control and it has before😅people dont wana see that side of me i dont even want too😭

[@jordanthornton]

Makes sense, we've gotta find that right balance when it comes to these kinds of aspects of ourselves. Always a fine line between healthy containment vs unhealthy repression, however! Wishing you well.

[@wegotonelove]

Thank you!!! 😁 Why are we doing this??

[@jordanthornton]

Good question!

[@Desh-o7b]

Is it possible for a man to be possessed by his animus and vice versa?

[@jordanthornton]

Perhaps, we would call this ‘machismo’ or being ‘overly masculine’!

[@DaLeeza]

Darnit, the list of books is gone 😅

[@jordanthornton]

The Invisible Partners & Shadow King! Enjoy, Reesa.

[@fistikcisahap7268]

when women integrate their animus are they going to be more muscler, autoimmune illnesses going to be cured, healthy, happy, free, dissolute and financially independent ? what is the use if not ? life is so meaningless to a point even there are no causes to anything. it just is. it is or it is not. no one knows this.

[@jordanthornton]

Feel free to try for yourself 🌲

[@Pink-wf9yj]

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[@fistikcisahap7268]

şimdi de bu tipler çikti ortaya 10 yil once neredeydiniz.o zamanlar /anima/animus/ integration yok muydu gecmis yillarin erenleri eksik mi erdiler x) hani bir kerede bitiyordu hepsi kundalini mundalini awakening enlightenment... iki kitap okuyan genc firlama bir seyler ogretmeye calisiyor.. sagolun dunyalari bahsettiniz resmen.

[@reemsaif3105]

🌼 🌸 🌼 🌸

[@jordanthornton]

Cheers!

[@rshicks256]

🔥

[@jordanthornton]

🌲🌲

[@buntobilli]

Seriously though, I appreciate these masc fem energy differentiations, but it is a fun imagination tool to work with at the end of the day. When you take it into the domain of over developed masc expression in women causes cancer/menstrual irregularities you are stepping into basing biology off of psychological tools. It's a bit dangerous because it might lead people into not seeking timely medical care.

[@buntobilli]

To clarify, it's a complex psychological framework for one part of the even more complex psychology of being human. Then a further level of complexity in the interaction between the psychology and the biology. So if we are studying one component of our psyche, we may have an assumption on how that component of psyche may influence biology, like overidentifying with the male anema for women causes cancer, but we can not say that assumption is truth. When talking about medical concepts, I believe more responsibility gets added to not pass of assumptions as truth without evidence. It also limits the entirety of a person's psychological expression and its biological interaction to one specific character of that person. We are just more complex than this.

[@fistikcisahap7268]

you cannot do inner work by talking or reading or listening are you all a joke?

[@jordanthornton]

Yes, I’m kidding lol

[@fistikcisahap7268]

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[@legoanimania]

all you need to do to integrate your inner masculine is binge watch andrew tate

[@jordanthornton]

He certainly represents some distinct aspects of masculinity, though not the whole story! Appreciate you commenting 🌲

[@legoanimania]

@@jordanthornton I was just kidding. But I do think he's alot more integrated than what people may think at first glance, still I think he has ways to go on his journey but all in all, not the worst rolemodel to look up to

[@Lisagriggsofficial]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Lisagriggsofficial]

Or become a single mom. That will take care of it. 😂

[@Twintuitive717]

I agree that he only represents “some” aspects of masculinity. Maybe reading King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine will help us understand this more. It’s the first book I’m buying since watching this channel.