the art of detachment

[@JourneywithGigi]

If you’re reading this, just know the best is yet to come - and YES, the pain will 1,000% fade. You will feel at peace again. 🤍 There is so much to look forward to on the other side of heartbreak. 🤍 Lynette, thank you for another incredible video 🥰🫶

[@LynetteAdkins]

yesss exactly, & thank you❤️

[@amyelizabeth4058]

Even as someone who's in a relationship, I needed to hear this -- I need to ground myself & remember I'm still the main character of my life.

[@marciemarcy]

This! I feel like I need to learn how to ground myself and be the main character of my life while in a relationship or it makes all of the growth pointless if I will just forget all the work later on.

[@s.rogers5773]

Perfectly timed. Not going through this with romance, but with family. I felt guilty for temporarily distancing myself to be able to clear my head and work on myself. I needed to hear this, thanks girlie 💞

[@amarraa.l1]

For all the women out there, I would strongly recommend to read "The Art of Seductive Power by Juliet Arden"

[@justabrwngrl2821]

Literally have this book! I’m about to read it

[@LadyDee_09]

I keep seeing this book pop up. Taking it as a sign! Thank you.

[@crassbmt]

11:32 yesss im always telling my friends this, their musty ass bfs have no problem being the main character of his own life, centering his self and his lame friends they need to take notes from him

[@burmakara]

the fact that nobody talks about the book called Hidden Manifestation by Oliver Mercer speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance

[@LynetteAdkins]

ok im getting it now

[@therunwaypalette]

Thank you for this video! I’ve been in a season of being alone & focusing on myself, it’s been peaceful and I learned a lot. The first relationship you must have is with yourself, self love/care is the best!

[@therunwaypalette]

Also, boundaries are essential for me. Putting myself first, you hit the nail on everything

[@jackiebuie9543]

Same girl same I’m over here sick asfffff tryna push thru

[@LynetteAdkins]

we got thisss sending love

[@chideraSimeon-m3m]

Blue looks amazing on you girl❤❤❤

[@kelseycreating]

Impeccable timing dude

[@yashkhakharia]

Girl. Believe me, november is going to be the magic month. Just before Beginning of September I manifested that Sept is going to be a magic month for me and 3rd sept is when she broke up with me. So to be honest I then told myself, this is the freedom, this is how I can feel myself again and freed myself again. So Believe me November is going to be your healing month, it's the magic month, everything will be super fine, better than what you'd thought

[@LynetteAdkins]

claiminggg thank you🙏🏽 also i love this for you! sometimes ppl have to be removed from our lives when its time for a new chapter

[@f23222]

currently single for the first time in a few years and its rough but also so awesome ty for being on this journey with me

[@LynetteAdkins]

Ofc love you got this❤️

[@selinbaila]

Lynette--thank you so much for opening up about your journey dealing with this breakup. I am in a phase right now where I'm not dating, and even though I miss companionship (who doesn't), I know that deep down, I can't take that on right now. I'm focusing on building a strong emotional and financial foundation, and bringing value into my next relationship is important to me. I want to be secure and confident and add to our dynamic in healthy and positive ways. I do get insecure in my process though, as we live in a world where people are terrified of being alone. So yes, I feel so odd when friends or family ask me if I'm dating or on apps, which makes me second-guess if I'm odd, missing out, wasting time, or gets me into this frenzy of wanting to make time go by faster and get to the "other side." Ultimately, in the end, I know that all good things come with time, and I really needed to hear this reassurance of it being totally fine to take time to be by yourself and work your shit out by YOURSELF. This reminds me that this work is worth it to attract a person and experience where we can support and bring out the best in each other. Thank you, always 🩷 Sending love

[@desstiineey]

yes girl, i respect this message so much!! thanks for sharing your perspective on this topic. something i definitely can relate to lately

[@Monique-ur7mf]

Yess don’t get stuck up in anyone who makes you forget who you truly are!! Sending love 🩷🩷

[@mkpetros]

resonating with this! I also think it helps so much to act on a feeling within 24 hrs (re:set boundaries) so you can address what’s bothering you in a relationship and get back to prioritizing your own needs 💖

[@KroniclesofKatera]

wow I really needed this right now, thank you.

[@cyjanekpotasu9208]

I really needed to hear that today. Thank you so much. I've been single for 3,5 years, however today and from now on - I prioritise Myself. Finally I'm ready.

[@PepaWaaia]

As someone who was diagnosed with BPD when I was younger, learning to love myself without the need for external validation has been and still is a hard process. I’ve been single for almost 5 years and only the last few months have I released the need for a relationship and started to embrace and romanticise being alone; I’ve been depressed and life’s been stagnant the last few years even though I’ve done a lot of inner healing from trauma, recently moved to a new town by myself to save money so I can travel cross country solo & work as I go next year. This video was the validation I needed to keep moving forward on my journey. Love and appreciate your videos, it’s like getting words of wisdom from a friend or big sister 🫶🏽

[@victoriaborch951]

I really needed this rn

[@thehealtrix]

Divine timing it defenitly resonated! I’ve always loved your genuine talks & how you effortlessly process your emotions🩵👏🏽

[@LynetteAdkins]

aw thank you so much, i'm so glad to hear it resonates! sending love

[@user-xf2wg5re8j]

it’s crazy your talking videos like this always come at the best times ❤ thank you

[@Danisandwich]

This definitely resonated. I feel like this year has just been a so foggy

[@yutoob6181]

You’re a beautiful soul. Thanks for the insights

[@sportlams]

just read : "unveiling your hidden potential" and you will realise everything

[@Jonnysosa]

i loved this video. going through a break up and this helped reinforce what i've been thinking about.

[@lelita333]

I feel like you’d be a rlly great guest on the balanced black girl podcast

[@mskiarazhane]

I really enjoy your content ❤! It helps me to reflect.

[@AmyaBourgeois]

I loveeeee listening to future. He puts me in a very confident and ready to take on the world mindset. I watched an interview about him and it was so so inspiring.

[@azailialankster657]

Much needed to hear thank you Lynette 💕💯

[@LadyDee_09]

Needed this!

[@rpp2590]

You are incredible

[@LynetteAdkins]

thank you❤️

[@danisilva23]

I needed to hear this. I´ve been learning a lot from you. Thank you . A friend from Brazil.

[@aastha647]

Hi, I’m about to watch this video. Would you say this would apply to someone suffering without their uni friend group? I lost them a year ago and I’ve been stuck in a terrible depression since, it feels like life is no longer worth living without them. I just don’t understand how I feel so much pain without them and they’re all living their lives. Also,I love your video about not taking life too seriously!

[@LynetteAdkins]

im so sorry you're feeling this way, sending you so much love. this vid def applies to friendships as well. i went through something similar with my college friend group, just remember there is so much more to life & you will meet so many more people!

[@aastha647]

@@LynetteAdkinshi, I’m bawling my eyes out- thank you for replying. I’ve just seen the video and it’s so good. I just find the idea of taking time for myself to be mind blowing, because I don’t see the point if I don’t get to share it with the same people. I don’t know how to explain the pain, but it’s like I’m always walking with a dagger in my chest. 18-20 was the happiest period of my life, they changed me. And now I’m 21, I can’t tell you the last time I was happy. The impending doom, the feeling that I’ve ruined my life is hard to get rid of. I just don’t know why I’m taking it so seriously. I’m so sorry for the rant there’s just a lot on my chest. Thank you once again for responding and your video was like a warm hug

[@inmyalabasterbox]

So funny I was just appreciating Future today for the same reasons 😂❤😂

[@divinelymoowah6104]

definitely resonating, a separation from a sister though this time I was on the receiving end of a closed door. a lot happened this month lol October /scorpio season really be that time for death cycles, and thankfully without hanging onto the grief and heartache yet also surrendering to the feelings to move through ‘em faster 😔😣🙃🤪😌

[@ericabaker7704]

After 4 years is crazy 😢 im trying everyday.

[@goup_III]

great advice 🔥🔥

[@Appeal2Heaven]

Sounds like my job! My work life has become my life. I need to take my life back!!!

[@LynetteAdkins]

Ok I feel that

[@angellombness4371]

2023 ws a life launch [comment engagement]

[@Jasminetw]

Needed that ❤

[@Immanuelm.8]

Thank you😗🔥

[@SannaKartau]

I disagree with the deep individualism of this one. "The more attached you are to someone in a relationship, the more of a sign it is that you're centering that person in your life instead of centering yourself." How do you completely sidestep the possibility of actual real connection between human beings, negate the responsibilities we have to each other in our communities and societies, avoid mentioning the very real need we have for connection and for being seen AND the beauty and value of the transformation love, romantic or otherwise, can offer? Mind you, I am not talking about unhealthy codependence. Solitude is safer for you, that's why you argue for 'detachment'. It is love, vulnerability and safe connection this world needs, not detachment.

[@LynetteAdkins]

Ok this is so true, thank you for saying this! Community, connection & love is def what we need. But I do also think it's about balance. Emotional independence & being able to be alone at times is important, so this video is more for people dealing with unhealthy attachments within relationships

[@SannaKartau]

​@@LynetteAdkins It's very kind you took the moment to read and respond, thank you.

[@RP-tp1ct]

I love your bed set!! Where is it from if its ok to ask?

[@LynetteAdkins]

Brooklinen!

[@TheDavid96987]

Interesting topic

[@Maria-gd4vf]

are you anxiously attached?

[@LynetteAdkins]

Anxious avoidant 🙃

[@svitlanablyshchyk537]

💗

[@missjilese]

Can you talk about trust issues in one of your videos?

[@LynetteAdkins]

I have major trust issues that seem to only get worse each time I interact with men loll but will def make a vid once I work through it

[@BilalAhmed-fg7nl]

Cool video. If i may Nettie, without wishing to seem too captious, advise you, that 'theirs' is a possessive pronoun, and thence an apostrophe should not be used.

[@LynetteAdkins]

Wait that’s actually so helpful thank you

[@174mars]

Wait you had a bf 😢

[@LynetteAdkins]

🫣

[@SLANDERONLYVEKEURA]

Wait you were dating someone I thought you were in your celibate state😢

[@LynetteAdkins]

i was for over a year & then started seeing someone after moving to ny

[@celestefriendofwater]

the word is accomodating, unfortunately

[@enoirbri]

Have you ever thought about doing an advice column type of series? Set up a free email where people could send in their dilemmas and you address them via video? Idk, just an idea. You are so wise and grounded and I personally would love your advice on some stuff 🫶🏽 Keep being amazing!