The Awful Truth About Weddings - Podcast #3

[@ErikaNicoleChat]

At my wedding, both parents walked me down the aisle and when asked, "Who gives this woman away?" my parents both said, "She gives of herself with our blessing". I loved it and appreciated that sentence from our officiant.

[@L4Nii895]

Aww

[@mj4389]

👏👏👏👏👏

[@sarahangel3495]

this is so sweet and beautiful and will 100% be using this at my wedding

[@LameTurmeric]

Aw that is so cute!! I love it

[@alyssadeakins]

I love that!

[@babs255]

Every episode I can tell Erik gets more comfortable, and he’s literally so funny

[@lisahall2790]

Colleen has always been a person/place I go to for a laugh and cheer-up, but Erik is quickly becoming the same! Them together on this podcast, has been one of the best things to happen for me in quarantine! LOVE THEM!!! 😂❤

[@brookefrost_random8072]

I know ! Even in her vlogs 😁

[@TheSharandJoeShow]

AGreed!

[@aarguellez1803]

@@lisahall2790 yes he is such a jokester 😂

[@shailiganatra3510]

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[@KM-ur8ki]

I appreciate that Colleen says a couple getting married is “becoming a family.” So many people don’t consider a couple to be a family unless they have kids. I just appreciate that.

[@ApeEscape7]

Seriously. Like, say it loud for the people in the back!

[@houseofbows]

Ive been married almost 18 years no kids only 5 nephews but me and my husband def are a family

[@morganiskewl697]

Yesss

[@lindarichards520]

Same

[@queengeorgia8594]

Also if you aren't married but still in a lifetime relationship it's family as well!

[@baileyflynn4059]

When my husband and I got married we changed our last name all together. He came from a family that brought him much trauma and abuse and my last name was from my biological father who is estranged. He didn't want to give me his and we decided we were going to start our own lineage and a fresh start for both of us..And so after finding out our heritage and seeing where we both came from we picked our last name based on our ancestors in Ireland. I think it was a really cool option for us.

[@rhiandt19]

Bailey Osborne love that you did this 💜

[@baileyflynn4059]

@@rhiandt19 thank you it was the right thing for us.

[@baileyflynn4059]

@@Octobris thank you. Were very happy we did it too.

[@irenejosie23]

This is such a great idea 💕 My boyfriend has thought of changing his last name but doesn’t want to offend his siblings. However he also doesn’t want to give me or our future children his last name because he doesn’t have a relationship with his father at all..

[@baileyflynn4059]

@@irenejosie23 that was a concern of his too. He is one of 6. And ill tell you the truth. It was hard. And some of them don't get it. Well 2 of them. And once he explained everything they understood. And showed support for him. We've been on a mental health journey together and it was one of the last things he felt he needed to support his healing and im glad he made the choice for him. But it was hard at first.

[@UpNorth3390]

Erik's Acts of service: Turning off all the lights, putting away cookie sheet, folding and putting away clothes, and vacuuming cat hair. This was cute and a good podcast.

[@callenharris2959]

My BIGGEST parenting pet peeve is when people say "is dad babysitting the kids" no he is PARENTING HIS OWN KIDS!

[@707Bubby]

Yeah, or even when someone will be like, "oh it's really nice he could HELP OUT", like yeah sure to an extent, but they are HIS children. Someone I know was separated from her husband, he lives decently far away because he is in the military and he had a chance to come visit and see his kids, and she was dealing with a bunch of things she needed to get done and take care of for herself, so that week he was able to watch the kids and change diapers and take care of them and she was able to go to doctors appointments and get her stuff done and she was saying how nice it was that he could HELP out, and I was like, absolutely that is nice he could be there so you could do all your stuff....but lets also not make this more than it is, they are his kids, he took care of his own children for a FEW days (while she was there too), which is something she does EVERY day. He isn't doing anyone a favor, he is never around, and he has CHOSEN to not be around more, he doesn't get a gold star for doing the bare minimum.

[@alphabrenna]

He changed a diaper! Strike up the band!

[@callenharris2959]

@@alphabrenna 100%

[@callenharris2959]

@@707Bubby This is so true. Why do we still expect moms to run themselves into the ground and not get any praise for the five million things they do all day, but dads are applauded for the bare minimum? It is changing in the society outlook thankfully.

[@gabbydavis6349]

my stepdad treats it as babysitting his kids. my mom will watch her kids with no complaint when he goes out (well not to his face) and then when my mom needs to do the littlest thing he flips out and says I'm not doing that. he says take them with you. even when she goes to get groceries or his dinner that he wants. and its so frustrating.

[@hailiepac]

when she said “and erik’s gonna deny it” after he shook his head I LOST IT

[@paigepopple8735]

This podcast is like “Erik confirms Colleen’s adhd for an hour straight” the washing thing is brilliant 👏😂

[@joeskunk8774]

Them: "I hate phone calls! I can't answer this, they called out of the blue!" Also them: Prank calls Rachel at 11:00pm... I love them so much.

[@elizabethanne8927]

This is me

[@elizabethanne8927]

Hahaha I hate random calls. I won't be in the mood for a long conversation and I'm like 😩🥴😭😭😭😭

[@mandylam5439]

"we have a very physical relationship" erik:😏 colleen:😉 This called me single in 5 different languages

[@padfoots_paws]

In every love language 😂

[@brunettealesoda]

TIME STAMP?

[@sarab6580]

@@brunettealesoda 29:11 :D

[@ayushiaishwaryapanigrahi2484]

only 5??? i think infinite languages xD

[@makenzienolt3840]

“When we pass each other on the stairs” THE BEST QUOTE OF PANDEMIC LIFE 😂😂

[@diapermoneyy]

i’m obsessed with erik’s cardigan

[@madisoncoleman6626]

Frrrrr me toooo 😂😂

[@lauravanderheide]

I know you started this out as a “funny, silly podcast”, but can I just say I love it when you touch on serious topics? I love the funny/informative balance in this episode especially! Love to hear your view on things!

[@TheSharandJoeShow]

Yeah I like that as well

[@wildanniemal]

I was guessing that Eriks top love language was physical touch. He’s always touching Colleen and snuggling into her and kissing her. It’s super obvious in the videos from her early pregnancy.

[@micahwoodard]

Erik talking about Colleen stomping around the house and asking if her knees are okay cause she "walks hard" had me in tears😂😂

[@jjjdwarren4]

My husband says the same about me!

[@MeredithKochanMusic]

“Do you know where the light switches are??” literally almost spit out my coffee

[@distefanomollyx.]

Where

[@kayleeashburn1487]

@@distefanomollyx. 10:36

[@distefanomollyx.]

Ohhhh i get ya

[@distefanomollyx.]

@@kayleeashburn1487 get ya

[@heidishideaway1613]

😭😭😭

[@musicbyshara]

I can't believe how respectful erik is when you're talking about that list of common misogynistic things. It's so shocking to me because all the men I've known in real life would just patronise me and say "ugh you're overcomplicating things nobody thinks that anymore🙄" whereas eril is having such a mature discussion about it and NOT ONCE did he talk to colleen or respond to her statements in a condescending way like I've seen *literally* every single man I've had a similar conversation with, do. Seriously I don't know why this makes me emotional as i don't really have any male figure like erik i can actually look up to. I look up to incredible strong women like colleen (especially colleen) and now i look up to erik as well. I love you both sm

[@MrsGretchen123]

I'm sorry you don't have someone like that around you. Honestly it should be the standard reaction. When I hear about things like the gender Data Gap or women are statistically more likely to have ptsd than soldiers because of assault and stuff I think everyone should agree with this. We need to stop praising men for doing the bare minimum. Fits with the "wow he's so great for looking after his children thing I guess"

[@deliciafernandes3532]

Omg yes!

[@Brittabug]

This made me tear up! I'm sorry to hear about your experience, I've had the same thing happen to me. But there are men out there who want to listen to your experience and will treat you with decency and compassion ❤️

[@desiraesherwood]

Colleen: We don’t fight about this Erik: WELL.....

[@sedonagallardo8581]

CONSTANTLY 😂

[@danigeo83]

I just wanted to say for the love languages, the gift giving is not always an extravagant expensive gift, it could just be easy as a picked flower or a cool rock that you found that reminded you of the person you are giving the gift to. I think it's more based on the thought behind the gift than the actual gift it self.

[@danip5578]

Yes! I wanted to see if anyone else was thinking this! Gift giving is not being “materialistic”, it’s the joy of knowing someone thought of you by getting something.

[@CapturedOccasions7]

Hey Colleen! I’m a wedding videographer and just wanted to let you know that actually A LOT of the traditions are changing. For instance, at my wedding we didn’t do a garter / bouquet toss. A lot of people are doing away with that. Instead we did an anniversary dance and the couple married the longest got the toss bouquet. Also I’ve filmed many weddings where both parents walked the bride down the isle, and I’ve always heard husband and wife. In my experience no one says man and wife anymore. Another thing is that first looks are being widely more popular so couple aren’t even waiting till the walk down the isle to see each other anymore. The list goes on and on about all the “traditions” that are changing. Just a little encouragement for your day!

[@maddymoester]

There’s also just the plain fact that if you don’t like it don’t do it. Don’t put everyone else down because you feel it’s “sexist” Like pretty much everyone knows that it’s not the father passing over his property and such. This entire section just really upset me. I thought it was gonna be more like “the planning is left to the woman” or something along those lines not knit picking phrases.

[@eclecticsteak]

@@maddymoester I don't think she was putting anyone down for doing these things, I think she was just pointing out that it's important to learn the history behind the traditions youre choosing to keep alive and the impact they have, however small or subtle they are. Some people do still take these things literally though, usually very religious families.

[@brooklyn2120]

Who else is obsessed with this podcast

[@dreamyari8557]

Me!

[@xo_katelyn35]

Meeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@bellar.1824]

me!!

[@lu_rose08]

Frr

[@bethx7090]

Meee

[@anniken5730]

Who wants “Flynn’s truck of the day”?

[@chrmdchild]

Yes I was waiting for it and so sad it never came!

[@cayleenicole939]

Mee

[@CookieCat2310]

Same!!!!!!!

[@Kevin5262]

I was mildly sad there wasn’t a segment for it this week.

[@florado22]

Yesss me!

[@rx7133]

It’s so weird seeing Erik’s face so much. I know it’s stupid but I didn’t realise how much Flynn look like him and has the same facial expressions

[@et490]

okay but THIS! I never realized how much either, it's wild

[@erinoleary4831]

Colleen, you should take some women’s studies courses. I think you would find them super interesting and it would be great for you to learn some more info and theory to share with your audience

[@DanielleSnyder]

I like the more serious topics. This podcast doesn’t always have to be lighthearted. You both have great perspectives on life. It’s interesting to hear.

[@kyliemarie4130]

erik talking about the cats is my favorite thing lmfao.

[@khristinabee]

I remember when Eric made Colleen smoothies in the morning when she was pregnant and she was so touched. That's Acts of Service!

[@llamalover5791]

Ok, my dad is a "stay at home dad" and one time at my school he signed up for "room mom" which meant you would come into the school and help out in the classroom. I was so proud of him for going in there and showing them that he would go in there and do whatever. Then a week later another dad signed up... Guess my dad was a trend setter of sorts

[@MakeupByBeck]

Fuck yeah, your dad is amazing!

[@Carlex05]

Yas!!!! Love your story!

[@katabrams5566]

Llama Lover I love this!!

[@amay4203]

Lol Erik was right, this is couples therapy 100%. He's opening up much more, it's so great to see his personality

[@petrapaul1592]

The way Eric looks at Colleen when she's talking about APOSTROPHE at 15:40 ...my heart is meltingggggg

[@bethanymears]

I really like how Eric is agreeing with Colleen with all of the gender inequality things but that he is still giving his own input. I also like that he is expressing his feelings on the different examples she is giving and Colleen is completely understanding about it. I worded that weird but whatever

[@coraaaaaaaaalllllllll]

I want more of Colleen talking about sexism. She’s so passionate about how unfair it is to women (and some men) and I want to learn. GIVE. ME. MORE!

[@jennjebi8660]

It's so weird and sad to hear, that it's "special" that a woman is the Vice President of the US. I'm from Germany and we're represented by a woman since 16 years, taxes don't variate depending on the gender they were made for (what's nonsense anyway). The word "Fräulein" (the equivalent to Miss) is outdated since 1971 and it's normal, that women keep their surname or that men adopt their wife's surname. Here, it's not Husband (Ehemann) and Woman (Frau) but "Ehemann und Ehefrau" (Husband and Wife) or "Mann und Frau" (Man and Woman). It's also normal, that fathers stay at home for up to a year after birth, the phrase "working Mom" (Arbeitende Mutter) or "Stay at home dad" (Zuhause bleibender Vater) doesn't exist here, at least I never heard them. The word "bitchface" is used for all people and you can breast feed as much as you want to, no one cares. I just had a bit of a culture shock.

[@MissCookieness]

Yeah I know where you are coming from some things are a bit better here in Europe but generally they are not. ;) Love from Austria

[@MrsGretchen123]

Germany had a pink tax on pads and tampons etc. up until last year. It was deemed a luxury good as well with 19% taxes. It's changed now but only for companies to raise the price to the original and make more profits 😭 also if you go look at hygiene products (bei Dm, Rossmann etc) the ones that are supposed to be for females are more expensive even if it's the same brand. I think razors and deodorants are the best example.

[@ajthegoalie]

man i wish the usa was like that

[@TheSharandJoeShow]

Love all these facts!

[@malloryfallon6394]

Dang now I wanna go to Germany 😂😂

[@TheMulle999]

"I'M THE KING OF THE-" "The forest!" NOOO no no no Colleeeeen xD

[@FuriousDinosaur123]

Your "married name" as a couple should be Stockinger. It's the perfect combination of your last names AND has "stocking" in it since Colleen loves Christmas so much ❤

[@dulce9797]

Fun fact with marriage/names, a few decades ago, women would be referred to as the man’s WHOLE name. For example Colleen would have gotten mail addressed as “Mrs. Erik Stocklin”

[@taylalinden1999]

That has always made me cringe

[@kristibohara6381]

I still get mail like this and I’m only 36

[@dane2858]

To each their own imo

[@kellybrown9524]

My nan and grandad get addressed as mr and mrs victor Horsman and I don't get why

[@siromarrudbergthethird]

omg i never questioned that till now.. thats awful >:ccc it makes it sound exactly like she's his property

[@ari-ki2tp]

colleen: NEVER call me i HATE phone calls also colleen: literally calls people 30 minutes later on the SAME PODCAST omg i love you

[@stephiedawn04]

You’re just confused about the love languages Colleen. You can have different ways of receiving and giving love. Like Eric may have SHOWED love by gift giving, but RECEIVES love through physical touch, just for example.

[@CookieCat2310]

This!!!!! I was thinking the same thing!!!

[@Mica1]

Yes!

[@kristibohara6381]

Exactly!! Everything ☝🏻

[@madeline.ojcius]

YES THIS

[@tali.galaxy]

And also their physical touch is off the charts! I first noticed in the bg of the hawaii vlogs last year, but they were almost always embracing. lol colleen is just so used to it she considers them to "not be a PDAy couple"

[@maren8999]

I love hearing Colleen talk about how supportive Erik is of her career. She obviously has had some bad experiences, and I think it's great how she's becoming more and more comfortable talking about it. She probably has so much great advice, and I really hope she'll share even more one day. So happy you have him Colleen, you deserve a wonderful, supportive husband!

[@gabriellamcknight9483]

I just melt at the way Eric looks at Colleen when she’s doing the sponsors .... pure love ... LOVE YOU BOTH

[@JenKnee423]

When I was younger (in my 20s) I had a man tell me to grow a pair. I told him I had a pair, mine were just up higher than his, and bigger. He stood there with his jaw on the floor and walked away. Go Women!

[@ryleeburgess7181]

Hell yeah!

[@bellaaalalala]

omg i love this

[@varanchio]

you're cool😎😎

[@daisy_png]

something ive noticed this episode is that colleen isnt picking at her fingers so much, last episode she did it so often. I feel so bad for her, I can't imagine having a compulsive disorder like that, it sounds and looks so painful!

[@lauracasara4506]

the "you're now man and wife" thing is so interesting to me because here in brazil the sentence they say at weddings is "you're now husband and woman". and that's because in portuguese "woman" is a synonym of "wife", which in my opinion is also sexist because then the man can say their wife is "their woman". so basically here a married man is called "husband" and a married woman is called either "woman" or "wife", and i find it so weird. anyway just wanted to point that out

[@meredithbisioski471]

yeah in french femme means woman and wife

[@raquelmarques3012]

Totally agree! But actually “wife” in Portuguese is “esposa”, so they have all the right words to use but sadly, at weddings, most people say “husband” and “woman” witch just annoys me

[@yjh1659]

yeah in spanish is woman too so man say "my woman" all the time, its weird! no woman ever says "my man" to refer his husband

[@vaane321]

Same in Spanish. And that's why instead of saying "marido y mujer" (that would be "husband and woman") I say "esposo y esposa" which is another way to say "husband and wife".

[@isabelamuzzi3096]

Lauraaa!! eu pensei a mesma coisa!!!ai meu deuss, eh bizarro, eu odeio qnd as pessoas falam isso. Tipo, eu sou gay neh, ai eu nunca chamaria minha esposa de "minha mulher" pq eu acho mto horrível, sabe? eu acho a palavra esposa tão linda, queria q eles dissessem "marido e esposa" ou "esposo e esposa" seria mto melhor 😓😓

[@Siena.Cmusic]

I love when Colleen was talking about feminism and sexism because I think this topic needs to bring to so many more men and so many more people. I DO NOT stand how men can just without no hesitation treat girls like this and when I tell you when she said we are men’s “property” absolutely not me. I don’t care who you are, but you men better not think we are item or properties. I just need to tell anyone that GIRLS are absolutely AMAZING, STRONG, and DO NOT deserve any gross and disturbing actions towards men (just to be clear). Thank you Colleen for bringing feminism to my attention because I truly believe we NEED to talk about this a lot more often world wide.

[@lilyoconnell3940]

Colleen I really appreciate u pointing out all these sexist problems I never really noticed as a male teenager thank u

[@elisabethmellott9993]

Can we just talk about how if they had combined their last names it could be Stocklinger

[@symoneatherton6958]

Or Ballinland (Balland?)

[@houseofbows]

@@symoneatherton6958 his last name is stockland its stocklin

[@neolov3]

my wattpad username!!!

[@jadecollins7693]

Ballin?

[@neolov3]

@@jadecollins7693 nope, stocklinger

[@TheSkinnyZ]

Couple things: -I was interested in the sexist traditions in weddings and I wanted Colleen to keep talking about it. -Men actually do sometimes get shamed for shaving their legs, but funnily enough that goes back to misogyny cause shaved legs are 'feminine' and 'gay'. -Also and this is probably a controversial stance to take, but I still stand by it: I feel like a lot of things Colleen mentioned is also female on female hate. How do we change that?

[@LosingYouNever]

Yes! internalized misogyny! Women and others need to call each other out, educate, and get on healthy track!

[@meredithbisioski471]

You are so right! I was watching videos of celebrities calling out sexism, and Taylor Swift said women really need to join together more.

[@Missakiah]

Yea it’s really sad when women bash other women but the point is that most of it comes from men.

[@eveisawesom3803]

Its just like the traditions and misogyny being rooted in our head at an early age and we love to talk shit about each other its just the way it is. So I think just more education on the meanings of things will kind of like "ruin" it for others and ourselves.

[@siromarrudbergthethird]

Same!! I wanted to hear her go through her whole list, because i think its rlly important to educate others and its interesting to hear how many traditions and customs were rooted from sexism way back then, and how we dont realize that thats where they originated from. I LOVED that part of the podcast! It wasn't boring at all to me ☺️ and yeah, it's rlly sucky that shaving legs and other body hair is seen as "feminine" and "gay" like you said :( why cant we all just be who we want and not be judged for that? Why cant we have equality? And i fully agree with the last thing you said as well; it definitely is also female to female hate :(

[@ivyrizzo8972]

“do you even know where all the light switches are” colleen: yeah how do you think i turn on all the lights🙄

[@Jenna.Borden]

I was told that it’s called “mrs” because it’s meant to show that you are a male’s possession so it stems from mr’s, as in mister’s possessive. The apostrophe was just dropped for simplicity.

[@jennybreanne3611]

That’s interesting that we now pronounce it as “misses” even though it looks like misters

[@stephanieblenman6004]

I was told that master is the unmarried version of mister and that it has just fallen out of favor. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@izabellalafuente4039]

although i’m only a teen, lol, i wouldn’t want to be considered a mans possession. that’s my opinion. It almost seems like he owns me if people say it like that. idk maybe it’s just me?

[@Jenna.Borden]

Izabella, I completely agree. I plan on remaining Ms. even if/when I get married.

[@reenilangkamp9837]

Erik pranking Rachel was everything. I had actual tears running down my face. 🤣

[@sydneybane5139]

i loved when Colleen talked about stay at home dads. when i was first born, my dad stayed home with me most days while my mom went and worked. it was so amazing to grow up in a household where my dad supported my mom in her job and how successful she was in her work. i’m lucky to grow up in a household where i have an amazing hard working mom who is the owner of her own company. i loveee the topics your talked about in this podcast and am really enjoying it so far.

[@barpoe1]

It’s not that I don’t feel loved when we hug and kiss, it’s that I feel more loved when you call the pool guy...

[@guadamelon]

Get you a man that looks at you the way Erik looks at Colleen while she does an Apostrophe ad read 😍

[@ecwhitzy]

Totally not surprised that Erik's highest love language was physical touch! Look at any of the vlogs where they are out and about (at Christopher's house or parks or even the ranch they rented for her birthday), Erik is always so drawn to touch Colleen. Maybe not hand holding, but he's next to her or touching the small of her back. Almost like he's literally drawn to touch her. I've never understood physical touch being someone's highest love language until witnessing it from Erik to Colleen. Anyone else?

[@hamilsteins]

THANK YOU for the entire conversation about sexism. Literally every point you brought up has been discussed by my husband and me. Everything freaking sucks. I never wanted to change my name when I got married and was thrilled that my husband supported that decision. Later I was mad that I even had to question that at all… it always makes me happy to find other women who didn’t change their name because I always feel slightly judged for keeping my name. Thank you for being awesome ❤️

[@abigaildickson6598]

As someone who is afraid of the dark, I completely understand Colleen. It's scary and you just can't turn it off because the second you turn it off you are vulnerable to all the scary monsters

[@alphabrenna]

Monsters and murderers are ONLY there with the lights off. Doesn’t he understand!? 👀

[@chloebeansmom]

yes i feel like if you turn them off th3n when they go off theres always a animal that could kill u

[@hannahleth9038]

Does anyone SPRINT for their life up the stairs when they turn the lights off downstairs!!! Everything is fine until you turn the lights off!!👀

[@chloebeansmom]

@@hannahleth9038 omg yes i feel like im getting followed

[@kellywright7]

@@alphabrenna WELL YEAH!! lol

[@jillvertes1532]

The beggining was so cute when she leaned on his shoulder 😍

[@animerox118]

I remember hearing about a wedding where the couple flipped a coin on whether they took the wife’s or the husband’s last name at the altar. It flipped for the wife’s last name so they took her last name.

[@alaskawashington]

I think it’s really funny that Erik keeps being like “oh this random internet quiz” even tho it’s like... a very well known and pretty significantly validated book and study and like... legitimate science bahaha

[@janellet8003]

I love being able to see Erik more then we say the 10 seconds we saw him in the vlogs . And I love seeing Colleen and Erik together.

[@PinkPoodleCrafts]

Wait.....Erik isnt allowed to be sarcastic anymore? I LOVE LOVE LOVE when he tells colleen shes right about something when shes actually completely wrong.... it makes me laugh so damn hard. I wait for that everytime I watch the podcast.... please dont stop doing that cause it will ruin my life.

[@margaretrose9371]

you should invite a women gender and sexuality professor to come and chat with you about gendered language, misogyny and feminism and all this stuff!!!

[@AngryHalfBlkHottie]

YES

[@meredithbisioski471]

Hi Colleen! i just wanted to say real quick, I wrote a thing about feminism for a class at school and am working on a collage of influential women who are feminists that I look up to and I put your picture on it. :)

[@brianaburris21]

Love that! You should post a picture to her Twitter :)

[@heidishideaway1613]

Nice 👏🏻👏🏻

[@eveisawesom3803]

My ❤

[@sophiakarina5322]

I LOVE how Colleen went off, keep it up queen 👏🏼 it honestly made me see a much more thoughtful / serious side of you in a good way!

[@christinaparker3307]

This was not boring. Y’all have educated all of us. Thank you for sharing. Please keep doing podcasts like this? Love y’all

[@celestehill4251]

Erik referring to this episode as one of his "top three", when there only is 3 episodes lol

[@wendylomeli-garcia]

That's the joke

[@Maraike]

You can turn off the automatic trailers on Netflix in your preferences. It changes everything!🙌🏼😄

[@kgz5582]

no way??? where at?? settings?

[@01Elvi]

traditions like that not only have a history rooted in misogyny but they perpetuate all those ideas by simply wording things weird. plus outside of woke l.a., the ideas they perpetuate still play an active part in society simply because they're not refuted or changed. it's still assumed in a lot of places that the wife is subordinate to the husband precisely because that idea is reflected in common language at weddings and in other customs.. maybe we're not actively thinking "oh this woman is my property", bc by now we all now that that's immoral, but the way we view women is still perpetuated by sexist traditions imo..

[@cosmicjules]

exactly! people may not actively believe in the ideas those traditions are based in but they will still affect people on a subconscious level. just the fact that these traditions are expected shows so much.

[@MakeupByBeck]

1000000%

[@R-ose0.0]

This really is the first ever podcast that im in love! I’ve watched colleen for 10+ years and this podcast really feels like we are hanging out haha

[@bxdge13]

I'm binge watching all the podcast episodes! I'm loving it! This one is so important. Thank you for talking about these issues and educating your audience. Keep up the great work!

[@karikeckler58]

i clicked faster than colleen could say “RELAX!!”

[@likeasandwhichbutnot]

YOU CAN TURN OFF THAT NETFLIX FEATURE. YOU CAN TURN OFF THAT NETFLIX FEATURE. YOU CAN TURN OFF THAT NETFLIX FEATURE. YOU CAN TURN OFF THAT NETFLIX FEATURE. YOU CAN TURN OFF THAT NETFLIX FEATURE. I HOPE YOU SEE THIS BECAUSE it changed my life.

[@Anna-ev6hk]

HOW?

[@oxbrizzlemynizzlexo]

wait how

[@r0_xana]

So you’re gonna say this and not mention how??!??!?😭😭😭

[@baileybarrett4104]

Literally in the settings

[@meredithbisioski471]

how? where? tell meeee

[@jxs8747]

This has been filling in the space that’s been left in my heart after Jenna and Julien stopped podcasting I literally cried when they announced their last episode... - thank you! 💜

[@melisasolis4617]

Omg mine too, I miss Jennas videos so much as well as their podcast; but this podcast is soooo good, I love it! ❤️

[@meganjosterhout]

so true!

[@mfp4523]

Yessss!!!

[@ryleeburgess7181]

me too 🥺💓💓💓💓💓

[@lindai4215]

The most frustrating part about women's body hair expectations is that we do have to spend more money to upkeep ourselves. This is just one area, and I refuse to put money into nail salons, hair dressers, makeup, feminine clothing, etc. but shaving I cannot totally avoid because frankly im not that brave. I hate this so I shave only once a week, so my cost is like maybe $5-$10 a month on hair removal. so $60-$120 a year. I shave so little solely because of the expense. Honestly thats like a few days pay for me and I swear to god even this is just too much. Why do I need to do this thing and pay for this thing. I wouldn't feel the need to if i wasn't told that we're gross for it.

[@lindai4215]

@SaskiaSims It is not a cleanliness thing. Hair is not dirt.

[@lindai4215]

@SaskiaSims Unless you’re an adult with your own job paying rent @go away lol

[@lindai4215]

@SaskiaSims i’m sorry you feel that way towards your own body

[@lindai4215]

@SaskiaSims I hope you have a good night 😘

[@amypollard3198]

Not sure if anyone else has commented about this, but you can go into your Netflix setting on your computer and turn off the previews for shows. By the way, y’all are hilarious and I enjoy all of the silly craziness that you share about your lives. It lets me know I’m not the only one out there dealing with craziness!!

[@lilabrat]

I feel like history itself is completely corrupted by the fact that woman had to change their last names... Think of how many woman had to change their last names unwillingly, it’s such a shame!!

[@kat2025]

Totally. It should have and should still be a choice. I know loads of women who would love to keep their last names and on the other hand I can't wait to get rid of mine lol. This seems to be the issue with basically all traditions, the option rather than the forced nature of something because its 'always been done this way'

[@asherbarel-stout5772]

I clicked faster than Eric could say “I think beans”🚙💨

[@alaynaegan679]

😂

[@miahannah3196]

😂😂😂

[@claireconnell4497]

This comment sent meeeeee

[@asherbarel-stout5772]

@@claireconnell4497 LMFAO

[@kcassar921]

Colleen is queen. She should literally do talks about this at colleges. How does she make it so interesting??? I’m so proud of her for using her talents to teach important lessons. Thank you Colleen for making a difference in this world. You are going above and beyond. So impressive!!

[@rubyrose3828]

I couldn't agree more, she is a WONDERFUL human, the reason she makes it so interesting comes down to the fact she is genuinely SO passionate about it!! Love you Colleen!!

[@kaitlyn4081]

Hey Colleen! Hey Eric! I have a really hard time falling asleep due to stress, and I turn on your podcast at night and I forget about it all! I just wanted to say thank you for everything you guys have done, and I love you!

[@abigailm126]

I’m beginning to think Colleen’s coping strategy for when life gets stressful is Christmas. Its January and she has done two advent calendars since Christmas, and in the vlog from two days ago, she made a treat that she normally has around Christmas. (No hate, I think Christmas is amazing and I just took down the Christmas lights in my bedroom today lol. Love this podcast and your videos, Colleen!)

[@NotTheDrugMolly]

I always re-quote Betty White saying, “You should always grow a vagina instead of balls, that thing can take a beating!” 😹😹👍🏻 Hell yes equal rights all around ✨

[@lealemieux-dube4366]

The pink tax is almost the same as paying for period products... like we didn’t choose to have periods. And men don’t have to pay for these things so it should be free or at least not taxed🙄

[@stephanieholcomb2399]

By that logic no one should pay for toilet paper because no one chooses to use the bathroom, but it’s just not really possible is it.

[@ApeEscape7]

Right!!

[@ApeEscape7]

@@stephanieholcomb2399 yeah but you use toilet paper every day and one gets a period once a month for a few days

[@heyhey_mikaikai]

Menstrual cups and cloth pads have been my preference for that past 7 years.

[@kat2025]

Insurance and government aid should help or fully pay for all genders sanitary goods. We shouldn't be counting pennies to get essentials.

[@sunjemnagra]

It’s frustrating that “girl” items are taxed and charged more yet they pay women less than men!! 😡🤔

[@xyz2813]

This is always my question. If they pay women less than men, why don't companies hire all women? It would save them money, right?

[@DianaD113]

@@xyz2813 bc diversity, a company full of women or men is looked down

[@phoebewang5402]

@@xyz2813 bc lots of people don’t believe that women are competent lol

[@danielmase285]

Okay the thing that gets me mad about women claiming for equal pay is the women athletes asking for just as much money as the men's athletes do your research men get paid more in sports because they bring in a hell of a lot more revenue the difference between the NBA and the WNBA when it comes to revenue is millions and millions of dollars each year that's why Lebron James gets paid more

[@danielmase285]

And then not to mention you talk about the everyday workplace statistically men work harder than women men take more dangerous jobs that pay more and men seem to be more ambitious in their career path if you want to see change change the statistics instead of becoming a statistic

[@cdf0032]

Colleen laughing at Erik when he’s talking about how he puts the clothes on the bed THINKING she’d fold them😂

[@alexiswilson4275]

Omg the prank calls were so funny at the end😂😂 “u call me” 🤣🤣

[@sidneywedge2477]

The Netflix issue is annoy to me as well BUT there is actually an option to TURN IT OFF lol look and you will find it.

[@callmeclaireee]

I knew Colleens love language was acts of service solely because of how she talks in every single vlog about how Erik takes Flynn in the morning to let her sleep. And not in a “it’s your turn” type of way but in a “I want you to get sleep so let me do this for you” type of way and she appreciates it so much. Every single day. 🥺🖤

[@carrieleajenkins]

And how she talks about him making her smoothies in the mornings when she was pregnant every day

[@cleosworld9096]

I am obsessed with how Eric looks at Colleen.He is so proud of her

[@Jbird54247]

When you have to turn the light off downstairs then run up the stairs as fast as you can thinking something is chasing you. I hate that. 😂

[@el_grac]

I totally get being afraid of the dark. When I turn out my bedroom light I still run and jump into bed... I’m 21

[@cjacks430]

On the topic of last names: my husband and I combined our last names to create our new family name. I didn’t want to give up my identity and he didn’t want to give up his, but we wanted to be a family unit, so we compromised and took the first part of his name and the last part of mine! In the beginning, not a lot of people understood it, but now they think it’s cool and unique 😊

[@ingridlopez8546]

Is it Anderson? Bc that’s like an actual name too haha

[@cjacks430]

@@ingridlopez8546 haha yes! But our names were Anders and Jackson originally. Obviously it won’t work with everyone’s names, but ours happened to make an already known name, so it was easy!

[@LoveLiyah849]

I think that’s a beautiful idea

[@karasmills3415]

Mills and Conk is a bit hard to combine 😂 Monk? Cills? I think not lol

[@SherryBaby1107]

So Colleen and Erik would be Stockinger or Ballinton it would be so cute!

[@marijkeduplessis2981]

I'm a stay at home mom and lots of people look down on me for being home with my kids. But for me and my husband this is the best thing to do.

[@TheBlissfullyDandy]

Videos go viral of men literally just brushing their daughter's hair... it's absurd

[@madisonm5736]

the podcast has improved so much since the first episode i love it

[@beanieboocollector101]

I have how Colleen says this stuff is “political” because it shouldn’t women’s rights should not be politicized

[@ytsto7494]

Certain issues about women's rights are political though, but she didn't really get into that.

[@annastaton6228]

Respectfully, maybe you should get some motion sensor lights for Colleen.

[@emiliegoldstein977]

They for sure already have some. She has mentioned them in her blogs before

[@emiliegoldstein977]

*vlogs

[@Mica1]

Get her more lights! 👏

[@mc.km.555]

You guys need those automatic lights that turn on and off when you enter and leave a room. It will ward off the murderers guaranteed

[@thelittleadventurecrew3489]

“ does that mean we aren’t compatible “ 😂Eric’s panic face

[@mauraschatz5395]

i think this s just me realizing how much I relate to colleen buttttt every single ad in this podcast I'm interested in. i went and looked up every single one because I was genuinely interested. and I love that lol

[@jessicaandie823]

Ok! I love how Erik looks at Coleen with such love. My heart is squishing! They are too cute!