The Benefits of Waiting

[@thingsilove18]

I hate that celibacy, virgins, and waiting til marriage is becoming (probably already is) a taboo....that's sad.

[@habbebalaila2713]

yep it's kinda pathetic

[@gigimoore4529]

thingsilove18 I know right...there's nothing wrong with being a virgin or celibate

[@moimeself1088]

Not taboo, just not everyone's choice. You do you. I'll do me.

[@catherineb5441]

I personally disagree I feel like you getting to know the person personality and loving that personality instead of just being with a person just because of sex i think it is beautiful and shows that you care and love the person soul and wishes

[@momemayb2747]

@@catherineb5441 i agree

[@mashkakiska005]

I don't get why it's taboo for a girl or a guy to be a virgin or at least to wait till marriage? Isn't that supposed to be a positive thing?

[@Lydiastrange95]

Preach!

[@nmoomoo]

It doesn't make them a better person than those that don't wait but it shouldn't be a taboo thing.

[@nityanandrampersaud773]

In america, they don't have any sort of culture and character...

[@LethoHali]

It’s worse that the hosts are Christian as well!

[@momemayb2747]

@@LethoHali exactly

[@TonyTurner]

Tamera be preaching. I always find that I agree with her the most.

[@JRob594]

Lol...the only thing she needed was a robe and a collection plate

[@houstonscott4362]

Always! She has an honest and consistent opinion and I love her take on any topic. And then she always looks amazing. I always look forward to seeing her here.

[@TonyTurner]

Houston Scott Yes !!! I agree with everything you said.

[@houstonscott4362]

Tony Turner lol she will always be the favorite here. ;)

[@TonyTurner]

Houston Scott Mine Too #A1

[@rinasweetness]

I like pregnant Tamera, she refuse to let anyone talk over her and makes sure that she finishes her point. #WWTD lol

[@becp606]

I know right, Its great!

[@LadyK007]

Same!! I am here for this more assertive (yet still very sweet) Tamera!

[@OneLoveRSR]

I think knowing she's having a girl is what's doing it for her. She needs to be the first example of what a strong woman is and, subconsciously, Tamera is laying the groundwork for that. Especially when you're seated between two certain people, you need to be able to hold your own and stand your ground.

[@megantiffany1225]

hhaha! #WWTD i died when Loni said that! too funny...

[@kintarri74]

WHY DOES HER BEING PREGNANT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH HER SPEAKEING HER MIND?

[@prettienini]

I love this segment. Tamera and Jeanie are speaking truth. Tamera is so beautiful pregnant lol.

[@houstonscott4362]

She really is. I think this show did a lot of good for her and her fans. Can definitely say I love who she is a lot more here.

[@candacedawn357]

Houston Scott Yes, she appears more confident too!

[@prettienini]

I totally agree!

[@Jan-bc3ed]

yes!! especially jeanie, she was on point with her side of the whole conversation!

[@nikky2939]

Right. I love her. Great personality. Wish her and her husband and kids the best.

[@jaybird5589]

honestly, people like loni are one of the reasons it's so hard to feel proud to be a virgin. she was making all those unnecessary comments while jeannie was trying to explain why it was good to abstain from sex before marriage. like, okay we get it, you LOVE sex, but respect jeannie and tamara's decision to abstain from sex before marriage. she was being so rude, trying to make them feel ridiculous for being a virgin (according to tamera) or celibate (in jeannie's case). idk, maybe it's just me, but i was like "loni, calm down, no one is trying to make you feel bad about how much sex you have, so stop trying to make them feel bad"

[@jaybird5589]

***** not really but agree to disagree:))

[@MeganSoba]

@jaybird5589 I agree! And joking or not, I thought it was really disrespectful when Loni asked Jeannie if her husband had a side chick while they were celibate. 😒

[@jaybird5589]

***** good point, i agree

[@august21xp]

***** Preach, LOL

[@ceeceedior21]

jaybird5589 she was just saying SHE couldn't do it.

[@Captain_Jes]

Tamera is Bae all day. I've been saying that for years I just love how she speaks things I think! "Sex is icing on the cake."

[@CKFIERCE1]

She is my FAVORITE! :)

[@wadesonmupudzi4769]

I like that....

[@avafreeman336]

Something clean about her spirit, Adrienne not.

[@LIFEOFAHEM]

Yes, I love Tamera too. My role model!

[@cynthiaclemons4987]

I think there should be balance because she seems beyond obsessed with sex now 🤣

[@sweetulip2004]

Through Christ, celibacy is totally possible! I've been celibate going on 7 years next January! I'm so thankful for the journey & I WANT to wait until marriage. God will keep you strong & honor your obedience every time!!

[@lifeisbeautiful9455]

Crystal Roland 10 🙏🏼

[@nomawethuphiri7636]

🥺🥺 It's 11 months for me and it's quite hard but I'm really proud of myself.

[@sweetulip2004]

@@nomawethuphiri7636 I'm proud of you too! I wrote my comment 3 years ago and I am STILL celibate unto the glory of GOD! 💥 I wrote a blog in 2018 about my celibacy & faith journey. I welcome you to check it out and allow it to encourage you! ❤ followingtheking199017704.wordpress.com/2018/07/10/no-sex-in-the-city/

[@saferides2474]

@@sweetulip2004 what if you never get married then you wasted some of your best years waiting on something that might never happen tomorrow isn’t promised .nothing wrong with enjoying sex with a good decent person.

[@sweetulip2004]

@@saferides2474 the wait is the byproduct of obeying God. I'm not waiting on a husband first, I'm obeying THE LORD first. I will get married but I'm not worried if I don't. And actually there is something wrong with "enjoying sex with a good decent person." The Bible warns us that fornicators will not inherit the kingdom of God and will be judged into Hell & the Lake of fire. God ordained sex for marriage (man/woman) PERIOD.

[@iiheartshanedawson]

I'm 20going on 21 and I am waiting till marriage. it's hard especially when all your friends are having sex, but I made a promise to God and I plan to keep it!

[@chelseajanette19]

Gonna be 21 next month, me too girl!

[@arinpatterson]

I'm 26 and still a virgin! No shame in my game! Follow me on IG, I have a book about how to live this abstinence life! @arinpatterson

[@TwistedSoulLOL]

Oh cmon, it's not about god... god isn't the reason to abstinence and chastity! the reason is to have a good relationship not based on SEXUAL PASSION that will pass some day, but on LOVE and FRIENDSHIP so your partner will not forsake you at the moment he wishes to "check out" another woman!

[@kelina2609]

+Zil Mi for some ppl it's religious Not everybody has the same reasons

[@kelina2609]

+John cage chillllle u need to chill first of all nobody said that we're NEVER going to have sex , some ppl for religious reasons wait 'til marriage if u don't want to wait DON'T But don't judge ppl who do

[@naiiiim]

"HOLD ON FOR A SECOND." I was like, guuuuuuurl 😍 I love Passionate Tamera is about these kinda subjects.

[@tashamack2781]

+Naim Hastings ...LMBO...I bout died whenshe said that!! LOL... I LOVE! LOVE!! LOVE!!! her

[@ellearnan]

I love this topic. And I very much so agree with Tamera and Jeannie but that's not new. I feel like waiting before marriage is always best. I really don't believe in this "testing the car before you buy it" stigma that society has told us is okay. One of the reasons people are cheating in their marriages is because they're thinking about their previous lovers and had good they gave it to them. More problems arise when you don't wait. Sex is the deepest connection you can have with another person. And when you're just doing it with anybody, you diminsh the value of it. Waiting is best.

[@LadyK007]

preach Danielle!

[@carlyb4827]

Well put! There's also something to be said about confidence as well. I believe women who are confident in themselves, know and appreciate their worth, and tend to use more discretion when selecting a sexual partner.

[@ellearnan]

Sally Riposte Yes I totally agree. When you know the respect and treatment you deserve, finding the right one will be putty in your hands.

[@carlyb4827]

Danielle A. Speak it! 👏👏

[@Twwistad]

Them STD's ain't no joke either. So im all in for waiting before marriage.

[@DearKeith]

They better stop testing Tamera while she's pregnant.

[@TiffanyTaylor.01]

I agree I'm 31and I'm still a virgin waiting until marriage

[@Piluttatingeling]

+tiffany taylor You go girl ! You'll find him :)

[@amyzimmerman8]

great- and when you finally are ready ut going to feel amazeballs. no pun

[@Queenceba29]

+tiffany taylor Stay strong sister! I'm on the same boat! God will bring us exactly who we deserve!

[@vice2versa]

CODE:USA1272362600572147669 0 neither is better or worse.

[@TiffanyTaylor.01]

+vice2vursa I think that god has a bigger plan for me being a preachers kid and having a parent in the military someone. will marry me for mind and love me for my soul, not just for my body, their is more to a relationship than sex. thanks for the comment God bless

[@msdpamela]

I think Tamera consistently shows that she is the only one on this show with class and at least has some wisdom.

[@Nica7195]

And Jeanie

[@Kainthemain]

+Pamela Asecret true

[@takers786]

SO FUCKING TRUE. this is why I love her.

[@jennyoyster5054]

Pamela Asecret and not Jeanie!?

[@Nica7195]

sweetandinnocent I’m actually not a “Jeanie fan” lol I just give credit where credit is due. Thanks

[@EsmeraldaSuPsTiCkLes]

Loni was acting so immature here, like girrrrrrl let Jeannie and Tamera talkkk

[@briapulenski5951]

+Necrosis Pain celibacy is great

[@ripvine7315]

Yeah she was! I love Loni but in this clip she was pissing me off

[@Tekkenesha]

Loni is always over-reacting and acting immature.

[@RM-yk1ph]

Ahhh why do I feel loni is the loneliest saddest woman. Her incessant bragging makes me feel she has never been with anyone...she is soooo annoying

[@ja9038]

It's a front. I'm sure she once did want marriage and all that but it's now easier to just joke about these things.

[@diarrawilson5994]

blessed are the ones who wait

[@ctinemanjaji]

yay :)

[@jeaniema2108]

true

[@aizenosaimafidon1119]

💯💯

[@CharreseMoniqueMusic]

💖

[@SamaraTrollero]

and give glad tidings to those who are patient..

[@drukpa6200]

i am 20 and a proud Virgin!

[@calebcampbell9059]

Drukpa I’m 30 and a Virgin. Keep yourself. You’re on a great path!

[@FriendshipIsMagic1998]

Lol

[@jelicianorwood24]

Drukpa Aww That's good hun. But you know you don't have tell the world. You can keep that yourself. God knows that's all should matter. #JustSaying

[@nallmanallma5568]

MashaAllah

[@hoodarobleh]

Yes me too😊

[@strawberriesncandii]

That little girl inside Tamera is giving her the preaching spirit. Love how she's more comfortable raising her voice. Yessssss Tam Tam!!!

[@sphesihlembuli5327]

God invented sex, He knows how it works so when he says wait until u r married I'm gonna listen to God

[@ebonigray90]

Exactly

[@mamoukeita443]

Yep

[@originalblessed]

well said

[@jaemukbang3725]

he also gave us free will

[@simplythebest286]

exactly, smart woman !!!!

[@britto7736]

27 and still waiting until marriage...and proud!

[@whitney6614]

Britt O 26 and waiting I actually have a video on it! Check it out! Be encouraged sister

[@TheJanayWellsShow]

@@whitney6614 link please? I'm trying to find it on your channel, but having some trouble identifying it.

[@whitney6614]

Janay Lynn hey hey! Here is the link! ☺️ kzbin.info/www/bejne/iXmag6djr5x0gbs

[@chrisbla7500]

Respect 😍

[@lalas3793]

😳🤯🤯

[@TheAmberbutterfly]

people who are laughing but couples I know that wait have the best relationships.

[@Faith_Ell22]

I totally agree!

[@isaax05]

i agree too

[@asiavernacobb8643]

Agree.

[@kat_trabue]

Whereas I know several who waited and then found out they didn't like the same things or had a lack of sexual chemistry and it either caused huge problems or actually lead to a divorce. It's more the value you place on it than waiting for a specific milestone IMO. Plus if you are doing everything but intercourse (oral, etc) then to me you are still having sex.

[@marcopolo2028]

so they waited, spent time together, and did not know that they did not have sexual chemistry or that they didn't like the same things how? If u waitin for marriage these things should've been spoken about.

[@ndlamont01]

This is my FAVORITE segment! Thank you so much Tamara and Jeannie! It's so sad these days how I often have to try to explain exactly what you both just said to others when I get questioned as to why wait. I will show this to any female (or male) who can't seem to get it. A relationship is just that, a RELATIONSHIP--communication, bonding, understanding, growing together etc. Sex is icing on the cake as Tamara said. I'd rather know what kind of cake I'm eating and the ingredients before just eating the delicious icing and finding out that it was just cardboard under it.

[@Yotuber006]

yesss! lol

[@jodiii122]

Tamera and Jeannie are preaching this morning! I love it! And they honestly need a stick or something to pass around at the table so when that one lady has it, she can talk. All this talking over each other and cutting each other off is getting real annoying!

[@Crysstein11]

I feel like Lonnie tries too hard to make it a point that she "gets around" is "sexually active" "has lots of men". I sense she tries too hard to prove in EVERY show with her inappropriate comments of this to cover up her loneliness. The ladies can never have a decent conversation without her trying to add those comments. Just my opinion.

[@doniellegreen9974]

+Crystal Segura I agree. But I also think she like's having a lot of sex.

[@Kelly-lo4uj]

+Crystal Segura 100% agree with you!

[@marypetrosino7502]

Loni is annoying in my opinion I love how she stands up for the plus size girls and body positivity, and as a women it's a double standard to men can have as much sex as possible and be a hero but when women do it we are sluts. But I agree like we get it you have a lot of sex, in the conversation to the girls waiting of sex I respect it because there is more to life then just sex lol In actuality it's really probably not that big of a deal and not that hard to comprehend.

[@ilovepeaches400]

+mary petrosino but one of the reasons why there is that double standard is bc a lot of woman lack knowing there worth therefore do not have standards. therefore a man could have a sex with mannnnnyyyyyyyyyyyy women and than marry a girl that only has one body bc we settle. men don't want women who have sex with many men but woman who have less than three or none will be ok with a man that had many. therefore , what is a man loosing by him having sex w a bunch of females. nothing. bc he will still get the good girl at the end.

[@habbebalaila2713]

yeah we all now how Loni gets down

[@ashleyykamau]

I'm 15 and I a hundred percent believe in waiting till marriage. It's the only way you can really get to know your spouse. How they deal in certain situations, who they are etc instead of just having the thought of how good he does it in the bed. Most times people fall in love with the sex and mistake it for falling in love with the person. It's an important connection between two people and that one person who truly knows you and loves you for who you are should be the only one who gets the privilege of sharing that important moment with you

[@4daluvofnikki]

Ashley Kay please keep those beliefs indeed. It warms my heart to hear you say such things at such a young age. Don't let any boy pressure you into doing that before he claims you completely as his own. Wait for Marriage. I really don't think you will regret it despite what people will tell you. God Bless.

[@queenbitch9422]

if you want to wait til you're married then that's your choice, but then again a lot of people aren't sexually compatible and that often leads to divorce (if you're waiting til you're married). i feel like the people who wait are usually people who don't really believe in divorce so might aswell test drive the car before buying it because you don't want to take it back to the shop do you?

[@santriciajones2579]

+holly b But people are people and they are not automobiles. I feel that you can teach a man how to please you. If you get to know your body (masturbating) then you shouldn't have a problem with telling a person what you want and how you like it.

[@blackbutterfly233ify]

+holly b by that "test the car" logic, you're not gonna but the first car you see either. Your gonna try out more than one car. I'm definitely not having sex with more than one guy until I found the "compatible one". What's wrong with teaching them how to be a better lover?

[@queenbitch9422]

blackbutterfly233ify i said SOME PEOPLE ARE NOT COMPATIBLE. doesn't matter if they're a good lover or not.. you could just be right for each other.

[@MsJay01234567]

"sex is the icing on the cake" Preach Tamera!

[@JRis44]

Judione Marshall hmm....and i love icing.

[@MsJay01234567]

***** icing is good.

[@lorealeze2518]

Agreed. But some men/woman act like cake without icing is a complete deal breaker.

[@leavocado3926]

Im not going to waste my icing on a man who won't appreciate it ;)

[@JenLizette]

Tamera is officially my new BFF!! I love her wisdom, the way she carries herself AND how she never bows to peer pressure from being on TV or the playful nagging of her co-hosts. I seriously want to know her personally, I feel like she would have great advice for me lol, but seriously!!

[@TheAmberbutterfly]

My boyfriend and I are waiting, because we want something deeper. spiritual connection

[@serena9763]

A guy is waiting?! 😱 so serious never heard or see something like this.

[@knight7se7en]

I waited 30 years to have sex for the first time with my wife the day after we got married. We may be few and far between but trust me, we're out there.

[@MegaCadette55]

^^^wow Morpheus!you rock.thats why am waiting myself at 24.I know it's gonna be worth it!

[@serena9763]

Wow, that's incredible and motivating. But, I'm afraid that in this new generation no one is gonna do that. Since everyone is doing it, and shame you, if you aren't. (My experience)

[@isaaclooper4260]

That's so sweet. I hope as a virgin 22 year old guy. I can find a virgin girl as well.

[@1me1life1love]

I'm gonna go ahead & speak for us few that are completely abstaining until marriage. From ALL sexual acts. You're gonna have to put a ring on it lol 💍

[@fiyinfoluwaaduke2025]

YASSSSSSSSSSSSS. Lol @ Jeanine saying you can get around it.. Girl bye!

[@bo-jf7nj]

Thank you! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! I feel so lonely sometimes. People who have no problem having sex always look at me like I should hurry up and do it (im in hs).

[@1me1life1love]

nissi .xo yeah don't cave to the peer pressure. i graduated 1 1/2 yrs ago. it doesn't always NEED to happen. all the more special when it does (: 

[@aleahcoleman1805]

Amen! Yes!

[@tupsberry]

Believe it or not, men (regardless of race) tend to respect, admire and want to marry women who set high standards and aren't willing to "give it away". So important to cultivate a relationship where respect is two-way. Take time to learn about each other, then if the relationship doesn't work out, both leave with their heads held high.

[@fly2724]

"Sex is supposed to be the icing on the cake" love it!

[@skatemusically]

It ain't easy finding a man these days with those values. I agree with Tamara and Jeannie. I think it's a turn on when men respect you enough to wait.

[@miranda0298]

Never lose sleep over the small stuff huh?

[@sugarspiceunlimited]

Loni is incredibly childish and ignorant. This segment is important for many to hear, whether you agree or not, I thought how she kept laughing and trying to divert the topic was disrespectful and she does it constantly!

[@saveyoursol5384]

CiKi why is it that a woman with a healthy active sex life is a hoe?

[@arabian8873]

She was funny.

[@saveyoursol5384]

Sarah Rodriguez because Loni works different and I don’t think she was looking down on people

[@royalking6425]

Because nobody actually fucks her

[@anwaaranwaar5453]

Sarah AAA Lonii sick!! She need a therapist asap!! lies

[@laurieepstein453]

I always like Adrienne's views on sex. She's very open and confident about her sexuality but also respects the other girls' opinions on sex even if she may not agree with them.

[@boyeesevilla]

Yesss that’s right!!! We waited until marriage and it was so worth it! Made us sooooo much closer!!! Our communication is on point and we know each other so intimately because of the way we dated

[@candacedawn357]

Loni: Please let Tamera speak without all your hand gestures and loud voice please. There's no need to be intimidated by women who have class.

[@brettjohnson6732]

It was funny. She's a comedian they hired her to do just that. She was joking they hugged afterwards

[@candacedawn357]

I know, but it always seems like she is making Tamera feel bad about her values. It gets annoying after awhile.

[@serena-ruiz]

Candace Dawn truuuuue!

[@tupsberry]

So very true! So glad Tamera is not letting her intimidate and talk over her. Jeannie needs to do the same and not let Tamar talk over her.

[@candacedawn357]

Ingrid Williams I agree, Ingrid.

[@XDLuLuXP]

This is a perfect for women who want to be married. If you're looking for someone who's serious this is a great way to weed out the others.

[@victoralbana3076]

I feel it's a way to weed out people that might not be compatible with you but not to weed out people that are unserious. I don't believe a guy or a lady isn't serious because s/he doesn't want to wait till marriage before sex. I feel it just means they're not compatible but I don't believe it means the person isn't serious

[@taylordowning2533]

I had been celibate for three years and it was a great decision. In that time of singleness and celibacy, I truly got to know GOD and myself. Celibacy and abstinence are incredible

[@christinalucas1002]

Taylor Downing amen!!

[@jessmars8943]

I think this is the first time I've ever heard anyone say that. That's awesome. Glad to see it is possible and positive.

[@lifeisbeautiful9455]

Taylor Downing its amazing!!

[@Signedthesavvyexpat]

Love how Tamera is taking control over this conversation!

[@chessissi8358]

Its kind of amazing sometimes. I would tell guys that I didn't want sex and they would ask why in a kind of annoyed way. They would try to change my mind in the matter to see if I caved but I never did. I now have found a guy that I told him I didn't want to have sex and he told me that he wants something real not something just based on lust. Its hard but don't let anyone change your mind in that whether its having sex or not having sex do what you believe in.

[@dbzfan200270]

+Chessissi That's great you found a guy who supports you. Sometimes I feel like I'm going to be single forever, but I'm not caving in. Have dated a guy before who also tried to change my mind and the asking in an annoyed way, but already sensed it wasn't meant to be before then, so it wasn't a big thing that it didn't work out. Know there must be a guy out there who will respect that with me too, but it is difficult to remain hopeful sometimes when society says that a man won't wait, or will cheat, and the idea that oral and anal sex isn't sex. It's in the name, sex is sex and I'm waiting until marriage. Trying to convince me that oral/etc isn't sex is a darn lie. It does bother me when people think that it isn't sex only because it's not the traditional method of intercourse. Long story short, glad you found the guy for you. I hope to be blessed one day as well.

[@chessissi8358]

+Laura Mills you will! I'm sure there's someone out there for you that will respect your beliefs and will be ready when you are!! :)

[@fatdooply5653]

i love guys like that cuz it proves that every guy is just about sex

[@charteezachary3271]

+Chessissi did you marry him?

[@chessissi8358]

Chartee Zachary No, I have not we are still dating. We're still both young.

[@Bombshell0810]

Love this segment! It's crazy how these days you get the side eye & the "whaaattt?!" For keeping your legs closed & saving yourself for the man who your body ACTUALLY belongs to- your Husband, yet high-fived for giving it up to random dudes. In my early 20's, I'm proud & not ashamed of being celibate & i take pride in being selective of who i share my body with.

[@floridagirl7093]

SB M your body belongs to yourself.

[@2KAYE9UNRULEY]

Not being racist or anything because I'm black myself, but I feel like white guys respect celibacy more than black men. I've experienced it myself & perhaps why Jeanie and Tamera fell in love with their spouses.

[@prettienini]

I can understand why u would say that but it isn't true. My husband would have respected it if I chose to wait. Which I tried and he was going to oblige but I said forget it lmao. But he was willing to wait because he had waited a long time for sex before we met. He lost his virginity at 26

[@KING090589]

You just haven't found the right black man yet lol I think there a men regardless of race who think sex is incredibly important in a relationship, while some value companionship. Just a matter of the man himself

[@2write2sing2dance]

It is NOTHING to do with their ethnicity, rather, its the man himself. Some guys appreciate a woman who hasn't had a lot of partners, and some guys don't care. You can only disclose what you're comfortable with and expect him to respect your needs. Don't presume about anybody.

[@CityandCents]

missadriannababy I agree because I know plenty of white men, Spanish, black etc that aint waiting

[@TheLovesnowangel]

Elizabeth Taylor, I have to disagree with what you said. I believe, just like KING090589 said, you haven't found the right black man. And I have to add, you surely haven't met every man of every race so your statement would therefore be false. IDK I just hate when I see people negatively generalize their own race. I'm sure if a black man said the same thing about black women all hell would break loose.

[@ScorpioSunScorpioMoon]

jeannie is the smartest on on the stage. Lonnie frontin'. She probably celibate now

[@DivineShelton444]

ScorpioSunScorpioMoon 💀💀💀

[@jen-a-purr]

ScorpioSunScorpioMoon aw don’t be a hater hunty lol

[@Madisyn7]

She celibate not by choice lol

[@MrDcrawfod]

😂😂😂 was thinking the same thing

[@antoinitaviolette4140]

ScorpioSunScorpioMoon I wish she would be because it’s not pretty presenting yourself as a low value woman. Our temples are the temple of the Lord.

[@loreah2794]

I didnt like how everyone was cutting everyone off. Big ups to tamera for being polite the whole time, and for hushing jeanie so she can wrap it up lol

[@Black-lioness]

jeanie spoke truth when a man respects your position of standing as whole person...

[@DarthFurie]

I was celibate for over 3 years, it helped me center myself and avoid a lot of heartache. I'm now happily married and we're blessed to share incredible intimacy... I'm grateful for the time I took

[@angelmushahf]

I think abstinence or celibacy in today's society enables individuals to identify someone compatible and worth waiting for, therefore, you can weed out imposters. If they won't wait for you, like you will wait for them, then you're not compatible. Also, "let's wait a while"- Janet Jackson

[@ctinemanjaji]

Accurate

[@eugeniyah8078]

Indeed ✊

[@antoinitaviolette4140]

angelmushahf sometimes people appear to be waiting but are into poem and other women who will give themselves freely or prostitute, and treat them like God, of the Which they are not. Stop. Listen. And Keep Learning. (All of us. And love the Lord, ourselves , and others, for, if we do, we won’t even want to pull the next person down with a bad and personal choice.

[@ineedhoez]

How did that work out for her? She's been married and divorced like four times

[@Mishy82193]

i'm almost 23 & still haven't even kissed a guy. Lonnie would be shocked when meeting me i guess lololol

[@E2013Dee]

me too!

[@lizzyxo9015]

Michelle O that's sad

[@Naomi-sy9lp]

Why is it sad?

[@Mishy82193]

a year later & I've gotten my first boyfriend, kiss, & first time! :O

[@beeberry8055]

Michelle O looool

[@zntrot3418]

Tamera usually always makes the most sense to me. I think she is the most real, humble and smart

[@candicejackson6070]

Thank you Tamera and Jeannie.

[@battambelly]

I grew to absolutely love Tamera after watching her on this show. It's obvious that she was raised by a Caribbean mother. I love the way Tamar and Loni make fun at her old fashion, innocence but it's truly refreshing. Getting rid of Tamar was a big mistake. She balanced out that table.

[@russeluc]

TAMERA.. keep speaking that truth. You're the one most of us relate to.

[@soleil2269]

Still a virgin at 20 years old most guys usually run when I tell them this

[@rae2457]

Don't mind them they don't deserve you continue God bless you . You are a precious gift from God🙏🏾

[@littlejoe9381]

Let them keep on running. If all they want is free sex, there are millions of other places they can get it. ( along with STD's, child support, broken hearts, etc. ) It ain't worth the troubles or the pain.

[@soleil2269]

Wow thank you this made me smile

[@knightgallade8431]

then date the ones that don't

[@soleil2269]

How to am I too if they all run dummy

[@itsjustasimplestory5007]

Tamar: "its all sex.. Stop it" Agree!

[@BabyC51085]

Tamera shares my views and morals. I genuinely love her so much. I watched a video recently on her and Tia talking about the Holy Spirit. I'm glad to see she kept her morals in HollyWeird.

[@tagaturnier5744]

I always seem to identify with Tamera, Jeannie, and Adrianne the most. They are able to bring insightful and good discussions to the table. I like how Tamera is now sticking up for herself and making sure she gets a word in. Also, I don't like how Loni and Tamar pick on Jeannie, cuts her off, and make fun of her because they don't agree with her opinion. Tamera and Jeannie please continue to educate others and give note worthy conversation.

[@alexysgonzales]

I'm 19 and a very proud virgin. Most people are complaining how they have kids and that their life ended or weren't financially stable or this or that, well should of kept your legs closed until you were really ready to settle down and able to support yourself abd your child. And some people who have sex to much with different people that end up with HIV/AIDS, shouldn't be be complaining because that's the decision you chose to make with your life so don't be complaining when you actually get HIV or Aids.

[@ctinemanjaji]

I like how you're being analytical about this rather than giving up for pleasure. More women should have this kind of mindset. I am one of them too. Just do our best to carry ourselves as Woman of Faith and God will take care of the rest.

[@antoinitaviolette4140]

Alexys Gonzales hard reality.

[@jasminmenzies9759]

Preach :)

[@sheeba8334]

19????talk to us when you are 30 until then take a back seat cos from I come from you are still a child ..

[@kayboy6055]

I seriously CANNOT be the only one that LOVES Loni's comedy and still LOVES Tamera's insightful opinions? Never get tired of any of them.

[@rexsmithehiggins]

4:39...*I. LOVE. Tamera being pregnant!* She plays no games when she's with child lol Sooner or later they gone know better than to interrupt her in the middle of a thought

[@AmberDennis001]

I am 22 and a virgin but most guys would run if I told them.

[@asli9812]

Amber Dennis I'm another 22 year old virgin 😂😂Praying for us lol

[@boujeecatsalem534]

Amber Dennis that's good keep it like that until marriage

[@ariellelabelle1149]

Let em run sweetheart it's a blessing. There are millions of men in this world but only ONE is meant specifically for you to be your husband. When a man runs or rejects you he just makes it that much easier to narrow it down and get closer to your soulmate.

[@_Bubblefly]

The right one will stay.

[@8luvbug]

No they wouldn't

[@Born2bglamtv]

soooooooo glad Tamera decided to be on the show, she has always been my favorite but now I'm seeing more of how level headed she really is...love her😘

[@mayratouchofglam]

*tamera

[@mixedprincess91]

I'm 25 and a virgin. I want a virgin guy and am saving myself for marriage.

[@mynamesjeffhardly]

Your body is a temple, don't allow thieves to see the treasures. I can honestly say, if you are easy you will be a toy. Some Pinocchios become human, some don't :/ just the honest truth.

[@iamieeesha9619]

+L Cha Wow! Those are some valuable words. A lot of people need to see this

[@iamieeesha9619]

L Cha I agree to everything you are saying I feel the same way about both genders but I'll be patience because I know the right one will come if you wait and stay humble. And thank you!

[@giulia2098]

"Your body is your temple, don't allow the thieces to see the treasure". - L Cha

[@charmedambams]

And it's so much better once you've really gotten that connection. The chemistry. Knowing one another on a deeper level - makes it priceless

[@dmell9456]

People act like if you're having sex in a relationship, you never talk or try to get to know one another. You can still get to know someone in an incredible depth and be having sex with them. There is no shame in choosing to have sex, or choosing not to have sex.

[@luckysharmsy]

I feel the same way! I wasn't looking for hookups to to get my first kiss and my first time over with, I wanted to wait to share those moments with someone I had strong feelings for. So I didn't have my first kiss or do it for the first time until I was 18. I have no regrets. I'm 20 now and I do have some friends who are a bit disheartened that they haven't had a boyfriend of even their first kiss and I tell them there is absolutely nothing wrong with that because once you find a man who you really like, it's more special to share these memories with them. It's worth the wait!!!

[@TiffanyRayneOfficial]

I agree with Tamara and Jeannie for the most part. I think society as a whole lost sight of those values, because everything is overly sexualized now days. You could be advertising a piece of fruit and a sexual connotation will be attached to it. And as people we forget sex has consequences too. Sometimes major ones.

[@shanice_a]

There are so many benefits on waiting. I'm 21 about to be 22 in April and I'm still a Virgin. I'm waiting to find the right man that I will have a Spiritual, Emotional, Mental and Soulful Connection with first. I'm waiting for the man that I know will truly love me. Then, We would both be worried about Sex.

[@carolynrubido8424]

everytime i want to give back into the hook up culture, i watch the video. thank you girls for being such great role models.

[@JJ-yu6og]

Let Jeannie talk!!!!! Gee whiz, girls.

[@HealthyAddictions]

"You should try it loni!" That wholesome shade 😂😂😂

[@roter13]

i doubt loni's sex life is as amazing as she tries to make it.

[@madmann1000]

Anyone who talks and brags that much about getting sex is usually exaggerating.

[@lluminascent]

+madmann1000 or not

[@Laila-fq7hk]

agreed lol

[@MegaCadette55]

lmao she does it just to entertain. I think she is actually a virgin.lol

[@Laila-fq7hk]

MegaCadette55 hahaha

[@mayratouchofglam]

Tamara is sooo dam right!

[@sunshinejanice30]

It's all in what you are comfortable with...you wanna wait, good for you - you don't wanna wait, good for you too. No shame for either side.

[@riademi7507]

When Tamera put her figer up and said 'hold on' I was like guuurrrrrrlllll. And the last part was like 🙌Preeeaaaaccccchhhhhh 👐👐

[@ajh1163]

Tamera was not playing! She got her point across. Go ahead Tamera! Lbs!

[@VanRoostand]

Big up to Tamara and Jeannie! People seem not to understand that it is harder to stop sex for a time once you have already tasted it, compared to a virgin who never did it. I'm sex free for 2 years and 4 months, because I decided to be sort of "clean'' before I get to meet my missing 12th rib, and it is not easy. Opportunities are much more and temptations so many compared to back then, especially once they find out you don't want sex before you get married.

[@jelicianorwood24]

I feel you. I am celibate and feels like cleanse.Its not easy but meeting the guy God has for me will be a good thing.

[@futurern375]

Real men respect and honor a women who respect themselves, and I totally agree it is the icing on top.

[@antoinitaviolette4140]

Future RN and even if women did t respect themselves men should either help them or pass them by.

[@Margaret.F]

Ok...so this is for my fellow Christians out here. *Sometimes I agree with what Tamera is saying but sometimes I feel like the things that she says don't agree with God's word*. For example, I think Tamera has talked about "foreplay" before marriage and here in this clip Jeannie seemed to mention something about foreplay and Tamera responded "I agree with you 100%".....Galatians 5:18-21 says: "19 *When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures*, 20idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, 21envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God." Things like foreplay and *ANY SEXUAL ACTIVITY* outside of marriage is a sin. God is not foolish. He will not tell you "Pre-marital sex is a sin, but it's ok to do everything else as long as you're not having intercourse". Absolutely not. Galatians 5:24-25 says: 24Those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to his cross and crucified them there. 25Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives. Let no one misunderstand my intentions. I'm not here to condemn anyone- everyone has free will. But I am here to stand up and support the *TRUTH* in God's word and to help others see the seed of deceit the devil is trying to plant in people's minds and heart. Dear reader, do not let the devil think that there are exceptions to sin. Sin is sin. There are no exceptions! It's your choice.

[@AirFire18]

Young girls who are watching. Please don't be afraid to stay a virgin or to stop having sex with a man. If you don't want to do it, don't do it. When its all over, you will not feel good (if you were not ready). Know that there are millions of girls around the world who are willing to wait and thats okay. If you can't wait and think you are ready, just know the consequences (unexpected pregnancies) and take what ever step you want. Until you feel ready and responsible, then do it.

[@tsubaith]

Tamera needs to write a life-guide book. I would read the hell out of it.

[@anaointa]

Yes Tamera!! So glad she's putting her foot down now to make sure her voice is her on the show because she has really eye opening things to say.

[@KLB1218]

Love Tamera and Jeanie's outlook. Sex can go either way but if whatever you're doing isn't working (usually sex too fast) then maybe another perspective will benefit a person! So great job you two! On a sad note, I am drained with Loni and Tamar's super judgmental perspectives.

[@KtotheB1218]

Love that Tamera and Jeanie are the most mature on the show...

[@marce999love]

I think Tamera and Jeannie always speak the truth and keep it 💯 which I respect. Lonnie needs to stop with her lustful ways. 😒

[@marce999love]

Misssophisicated 1 well I hope she's joking 😭

[@sallysmith9421]

marce m

[@lifeisrosyyy]

She wasn't celibate then, like Tamar said "it's allll sex"

[@donnelly5757]

At 41 years of age, it seems like the chances of me ever finding that girl I will fall in love with are almost non-existent. I believe I am more uglier than most guys plus over recent years I've experience more chronic social isolation. Meaning my social isolation is hindering my social skills. This has further worsened my mental illness. I am hoping in my campaign to train and compete in world cup downhill ski racing in my 40s that I can help raise awareness on mental illness and other factors impairing social interaction and maybe along in my journey meet that woman. For now, I honestly give myself a better chance at a podium finish in the 2022 Winter Olympic games in the sport of alpine downhill ski racing. That is the truth!

[@soniaflaggejack982]

Oh dont say that i am positive there is a woman out there like its never to late just pray to GOD and trust him alright its ok.🙃

[@melissajacksonmenny8515]

Preach on Tamera preach!!!! I'm 26, celibate and engaged a year in so I feel it Jeanie!!!

[@KSS236]

Tamar was so funny!! "You down to what...." lol

[@anewloveofficial9137]

Whether you wait or not, it's your choice but I feel like waiting has also a good benefit to your relationship because you're teaching yourself and your partner to be patience. Patience is so important because it determines your strength as a couple especially when you're tested with so many challenges in life.

[@3759938]

I don't think its ONLY better not to have sex in a relationship at first and that concludes your relationships in the future . I am happily married with children and that is how me and my husband started off and we connect on so many different levels so what works for you and your partner KEEP DOING IT !

[@becp606]

Tamera is my favorite on this show. She is a great role model for those kids who watched and or watch Sister, Sister. Not all child stars are crazy misfuts, some grow up to be wonderful people and great parents.

[@56manya]

10,000 Reasons to love Tam Tam!! There's so much in this beautiful woman.

[@redayvn]

That's right, Ms. Tam Tam, you and lil ladybug-to-be, let the ppl know......and keep learning to tell errbody else to "sthu, I'm talking! " in the sweet way that you do! I like ALL of the ladies, however, they always want to over talk Jeannie and Tamera because a lot of the time there is truth in what they are saying. Most people just don't like to hear the truth, they continue to have that one sided point of view. You can't knock anyone for holding firm to their values and because they came up in a different way. That's why it's called a different walk of life. #Ijs

[@mdiga515]

Personally, I think it hurts when they hear woman talk about celibacy because they probably lost their virginity super early (my guess for tamar is 14) and have slept with a lot of men looking for a stable relationship only to realize muchhhhh later that they may have gone about it all wrong. Tamar says all the time she wished could've erased some guys from her past.

[@Martina_E]

I know! I don't like when they talk over them. People need to hear their words!

[@rafaellayorke1991]

Amen

[@sullyluver1]

I agree I think once you've dated long enough to see potential in the relationship it should be important to try make a point to not have sex. By making that point to set that foundation by building that bond on something other than sex. I don't know about waiting for marriage cause all individuals are different and not everyone is looking for marriage but to abstain for as long as possible and to have your significant other respect that is lovely. When you're looking for a long lasting relationship (since a lot of people enjoy causal sex) sex should be had when both consenting individuals are comfortable and have no doubts about the decisions. I say this because to set that goal of waiting til marriage is amazing but a lot of people don't always wait and it that make me them feel like they failed. So the goal should be to do it with someone you loves you, is committed and respected your decision to not do it until you were ready.

[@vanessasaucedo87]

Totally! That was me and my husband, that's how we knew we wanted to marry each other because we dated without the expectations of sex and we entertained each other in other ways... and got to know each other and be intimate with eachother in other ways before deciding we wanted to spend forever together...

[@kalishadee8925]

I'm celibate and I joke with my best friend and say, "Go without sex for ... weeks/months" and let's just say Loni reminds me of her in this segment with her laughter lol.

[@nikiracarter]

+Brian W loool when did she say it makes her wife material?

[@nikiracarter]

+Brian W exactly she didn't, she just made a point too! you're coming for her for no reason making a "point" which is irrelevant to what she said, get a grip and stop tryna bully people in youtube comments

[@antoinitaviolette4140]

Kalisha Dee and so another friend would be better, especially if they are God, because if they are a brother or sister in Christ doing such things, we are not to hang around them so, hopefully, they will stop sinning against God and themselves.

[@houstonscott4362]

Loveeeeee this segment! The girls look beautiful and Loni is cracking me up. Great topic! I'd have no problem waiting for sex. There are several ways to please an individual and it's definitely fulfilling getting to know a person before delving into bed.

[@j-tenn226]

A male saying this? And you cute at that? Come to mama!

[@leomougot1066]

Tamera is finding her own voice ! I like that !!! PREACH BABY GIRL 🙌🙌

[@JennyLynnMinistries]

Sad that the women who were celebate before marriage had to explain themselves and stand up for themselves as the other made fun of them or cut them down. Such a twisted world, everything is upside down..