I’m 51. Yesterday my 12 year relationship came to an end because I decided I couldn’t keep focusing on a one sided relationship. I finally got to the root of our issues and she was turned off by me as I’ve become bitter at work and I’m always negative. She’s 💯 correct. I went from positive and enjoyed playing rugby to being miserable and on the couch. I hate my stalled career and was trying to keep her through acts of service when I knew she had no desire for me any more. The good news is I’ve picked myself up after much worse places in my life and will go back to the gym and a regiment from my military days and start studying more to kick start my curiosity again and travel solo to where I want to go. I never got the kids and happy marriage I always wanted but have accepted that life can still be good when a person decides they want to change their mindset. Never give up on life. Fight for your happiness to the very end.
@randomno010 ай бұрын
Best wishes to you in your next adventure! I’m 50, have been with my wife for over 31 years and in the same situation (with exception to rugby.) The timing of your comment is strangely perfect and exactly what I needed at this very moment to motivate the quiet resolve for balance. Ray Dalio mentions leverage in this short video. In a healthy, balanced relationship, the fulcrum of leverage is approximately in the middle. That is not the case for me and her. I need to find happiness and discipline for myself towards that end. When I can regain my own balance and happiness, only then can I seek the same with another, if that is what brings more happiness and balance.
@jimbig399710 ай бұрын
Did she really have better options than trying to work things out with you? If so then fine. But I think we failed to defend our women from (((media))) and society-induced mental illness. Hope you at least let her have the cat.
@babyspice020610 ай бұрын
Leverage what? Time? Money? Relationship? 😅
@7budfox10 ай бұрын
good luck my man. Peace from italy
@jimbig399710 ай бұрын
So your Ex, after 12 years, has better options than you right now? If so fine. But I suspect you didn't honor your obligations. We need to take care of our women and the mental illness that is inflicted on them by our society. I hope for her sake you at least let her have the cat...
@focusdecorating363710 ай бұрын
Im 43. I have no kids or gfriend. I have a good relationship with my Mum. I set myself goals all the time to give my life purpose. I try to help people where I can, without it hindering my own happiness. I have managed to start loving being alone and spend a lot of time running or hiking in the mountains alone. Its very liberating and highly addictive. I used to chase girls and spend all my money on them, but now its just all on me. Lifes so much less complicated this way. I should also add that I am a big believer in quality of life. Maintaining good mental and physical health greatly enhances this, with deep sleep (when your body repairs itself) being critical to successful health. Having a decent diet with minimal alcohol and lots of water also greatly helps too.
@TheThinkingMathematician10 ай бұрын
thank you
@ej705210 ай бұрын
True that. Health is so fundamentally essential to us all (imo) throughout our life, no matter a baby or a senior It's like we can't even live proper life without health
@focusdecorating363710 ай бұрын
@@ej7052Yes, absolutely. Long term good health should be a foundation goal of all humans in my opinion. But this is getting harder to do in the western world, because we are dealing with a mainly contaminated food supply with all the bad food out there readily available and constant adverts for it, its not easy.
@focusdecorating363710 ай бұрын
@@TheThinkingMathematicianCheers mate
@GlennMarshallnz10 ай бұрын
@zoran6850God is like Star Wars, fictional.
@bluedottenant535110 ай бұрын
Rarely I have seen an accomplished individual, giving free life lessons and advice at the scale you are. Thank you Ray!!
@Hs568710 ай бұрын
He Speaks with Benefit of Priveledge…
@moh641010 ай бұрын
i also believe you have more privilege than Nick Vujicic@@Hs5687
@Twyscape10 ай бұрын
I’m 53 and I am totally in that not enough hours in the day to get things done. Had kids a little later in life so we dealing with the early teenage years, we have a special needs kiddo (mental health) so that involves therapy time, social service’s time to name a few. Add this to all the other day to day normal stuff like holding jobs down, running a household, 2 dogs to walk, feed etc and before I know it I’m done for the day. I never thought of meditation so I’ll give that a try. Thank you for the advice.
@biritsimonsen10 ай бұрын
I'm 10 years ahead of you - 62 and the kids are 18 and 20. Special needs and LGBTQ. Pets. I'm single now and have my own business. Sadly, when people tell me to meditate (which I have tried many, many times) I just want to slap them. : )
@srini965310 ай бұрын
I guess I'm kind of in a similar boat. I walk almost daily for 1 to 1.5 hours. This is my personal time, get to meditate, some physical exercise. I'm getting calmer and feel like I'm gaining the control back. Hang in there!
@dg-hughes10 ай бұрын
I'm 54 my tips are #1 health maintain it as much as possible #2 share your life via a spouse, friends, charity don't fade away with nobody to remember you.
@martingoldfire10 ай бұрын
I'm turning 49 soon. I was sick my whole life, until about 3 years ago. Managed to have two beautiful kids despite the constant hell, it made it worth the struggle. Now I have almost nothing, but yet I am the richest man alive, living a simple life in a cabin in the woods, content with the present, which is all anybody actually has. Philosophy, breathing techniques, psilocybin, and getting back up every time you fall, that's one answer for some, it was for me. I hope to help others in my remaining years, because it makes me happy✌️💚🖖
@Bloombergizzle10 ай бұрын
🫂🙏🏼💪
@focusdecorating363710 ай бұрын
Well done mate.
@noelmoodley200310 ай бұрын
Powerful
@WilcoxNotreallythere10 ай бұрын
The spice melange will show you the way but children will change EVERYTHING.
@sidsingh930310 ай бұрын
Im turning 50 next year n i wud lk to tell young ppl out there it does get better.. ur life will improve.. its just a phase.. not everyone move at the same pace.. just one little step at a time n keep pushing forward.. The key is not to give up
@rodsalvador360810 ай бұрын
middle life is like middle management: pressure from all sides. definitely feeling this. have to learn how to triage and outsource many things as you can
@MarkDhamma10 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Ray. I’m turning 39 and this video has helped confirm a decision I made today
@beisun47610 ай бұрын
Thank you for providing guidance in your books and social media. I am in my 40’s feel totally different challenges than my early years with in-laws, parents, kids and work.
@syedarmaghanhassan465210 ай бұрын
Ray is just an angel.. such a wise guy. Weather or not he knlws it, he is one of my mentors. He is so sensible, and truthful, and I love to learn from his experience...
@николайгеоргиев-с5о10 ай бұрын
Ray more concretely advise-1-Should you help your children whit money? 2-Are you happy whit your life? 3-Pay your debts and dont mess whit banks! 4-Shold you enjoy life or keep woking hard? What about adictions in life- sugar, cigaretes or alkohol or the big one-loans?
@dheerajsharma952510 ай бұрын
That little little Laugh of Uncle g in between while explaining the Midlife Crisis...My father does it and I get to know the SCARY PART is yet to come😂😂😂😂😂
@comeconcon56910 ай бұрын
My advice for those in their 40s and 50s is to just stay physically active if you want to look good as you age. the less physically active you stay, the fastest you age and your flesh and muscles become flabby (hanging down). Go out there and enjoy the outdoors. staying indoors the majority of your time doesn't do any good at all and it just leads to a state of depression and laziness.
@babyspice020610 ай бұрын
My life start from zero again at 49 after my mom and brother have been scammed their whole life savings. I hate them so much, life is tough, but luckily I have a gifted Mensa daughter giving me mental support. Now i have found a new job, hopefully things will get better after 50!
@soulchorea10 ай бұрын
I'm currently 90 but I've figured out how to reverse myself to mid-40s, so this info is a lifesaver
@JulioCezar-we9zo10 ай бұрын
you need to try be the president. I heard they are now looking for old men like you
@tonderaimudege209010 ай бұрын
thank you my mentor,thank you so much.your reward is great in your other phase of life.
@parry110 ай бұрын
Always golden tips! things that we know, but need reminders :)
@py553410 ай бұрын
Thank you for care about those in 40s.
@milton776310 ай бұрын
This guy is a great speaker! Can fill two and a half minutes talking without saying anything
@KT-zx9jr10 ай бұрын
Great comments Ray, Thanks and have a nice week.
@s.el.501810 ай бұрын
Sometimes, I can't meditate. That's when I run until it's hard to breathe. And then my mind and emotions become clear. I know what I need to do and what I can let go of. I'm not afraid anymore. I have come to realize the importance of having faith in my choices. Thank you so much. 🙂↕️😌
@vashts71810 ай бұрын
Thanks Ray for the advice 🙏
@CC-kl4nh10 ай бұрын
Ray is brilliant.
@alexkuvalja677010 ай бұрын
I am 57 and put Lord Jesus Christ first and central in my life. No any materialism can give me so much happiness and joy
@PaulWashington..10 ай бұрын
Love Jesus. Never knew joy or peace before knowing Him, What a love. :)
@Designer1-ProjectManager10 ай бұрын
These are some good points, and practices to implement.
@brianpso10 ай бұрын
Leverage got it, gonna 50x long my savings on binance tomorrow
@chungbongwong669310 ай бұрын
You are a good mentor. Thank you.
@Emperor-Inker10 ай бұрын
I'm in my mid 20s but I'm here for listening for the present & future
@pauljohn601710 ай бұрын
Ray you are my hero. You teach me so much. But I must say you make the mistake most American men make. They talk like there is no difference between men and women. But this difference is huge, men and women deal with very different problems in each phase of their life. Women bloom in their teens and twenties . Men dominate in their 30s and 40s etc.
@1patula10 ай бұрын
Thank you Ray
@RMM9810 ай бұрын
good advice for all ages 💯
@I_dont_want_an_at10 ай бұрын
God has blessed me so much. Name of Adi Da
@thecitizenjoan10 ай бұрын
I would suggest reading Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle and building a relationship with our higher power Jehovah God. Also build good friendships and become a forgiving emotionally intelligent person. Eating well, working out and working on staying away from negative people. At 31 Im such a happier person since doing those things.
@NathanHarrison710 ай бұрын
A very uniquely spectacular human being.
@Mark2Legit10 ай бұрын
Great, Thank you
@isipwater10 ай бұрын
Thank you Ray.
@orutrayandex10 ай бұрын
Thank you very much Ray I appreciate your advice
@oscarleyva648510 ай бұрын
i’m in my 30s and i need to hear something to get me going. after my twenties going bust, i’m at a loss.
@lupiscask10 ай бұрын
Buenas tardes Ray. Saludos cordiales de MÉXICO LINDO Y QUERIDO.🌄🐯🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽👍
@soulfrost10010 ай бұрын
Please remind me to watch this in 12 years, thanks!
@bbrahbboul274810 ай бұрын
I am 53 years old , and just starting over with nothing . Because of a terrible marriage , I had a wife wich I still love but financially it was a nightmare. Now with no skill I am working a normal warehouse job . Any advice wi be appreciated
@Ambugginfly10 ай бұрын
The phrase 'life begins at 40' is often misinterpreted as being the time for freedom and fun, when in actual fact, it is the time when the real slog begins and you are no longer coasting through life.
@karimmoussa349010 ай бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@RoboPalInc10 ай бұрын
🙏👍thank you for the insight Mr.Dalio. Yes the power of leverage and intense introspection.❤😊
@inesferre187410 ай бұрын
Love this advice
@dinkeydink937610 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing!❤❤❤❤❤
@TamFam-o3n10 ай бұрын
Thank you.
@sandorturoczi541410 ай бұрын
Mr Dalio. You are talking about leverage. In financially what is your rule of thumb? 20/80; 30/70: 40/60 So what is a good leverage which benefits you and lowers your risks. How you are making these decisions? What are your principles? Can you talk about this in one of your videos?
@AYPFitness10 ай бұрын
Thank you! 🙏
@elijaprice10 ай бұрын
Mathematicians and economists will tell you: happiness is U-shaped. As a general rule, people are happy when they're young, becoming increasingly unhappy into middle-age, and then once through middle-age, start getting happier again. Apparently this phenomenon is so widespread, it doesn't just apply to humans - chimpanzees experience the same 'dip' in happiness in mid-life.
@winsome670510 ай бұрын
Right on! Ty❤
@heymisswest10 ай бұрын
I appreciate this advice
@_taxman_10 ай бұрын
TLDR; -Meditate -"Get leverage" to get more done in the time you have
@DonJuanDM10 ай бұрын
I think when you reach 50s having a loving family and earning enough that don't need to skim the savings for the rising living cost, then take that as a win.
@ThomasSchick10 ай бұрын
…word up dawg!
@MackMTNZ10 ай бұрын
The goat 🐐
@TannerStarr10 ай бұрын
Do a book signing please Ray1 (day 1)
@icecreamforcrowhurst10 ай бұрын
What is this ‘leverage’ he’s referring to and how does it work?
@huunguyen411310 ай бұрын
I am inventing a new meditational technique. It is a combination of technique that are out there. I would like you to try it out and let me know if you notices any changes. It is 12 mins long The first 3 minutes: You would listen to your internal thoughts with compassion, non judgmental non critical, like you are listening to your friend talking to you. but don’t get involved with your thoughts and idea. You are listening only. The second 3 minutes. Bring a feeling you have and wish to have for the day. For example calmness, peaceful. Bring that thought up and watch your feeling come and goes. Try to have that feeling come up in your mind and imaging how that would feel. The last 3 minutes. Place your thoughts on your breath coming in and out. Any thoughts come up thanks it and let it goes and refocus on your breath. All up 12 mins do this. Give one week and see how it goes. I am trying all these variation of meditation and it really helps
@TimberXX10 ай бұрын
My biggest takeaway, Ray Dalio is a billionaire. He could have done anything with that 30 minutes to think about and execute this KZbin clip. But he chose to help others. Has me reflecting how can I help others.
@MrLennart197610 ай бұрын
You realize he's getting paid for these videos right?
@TimberXX10 ай бұрын
@@MrLennart1976 good point, think about the opportunity costs of his time. A KZbin clip is pennies.
@MrLennart197610 ай бұрын
@@TimberXX It amazes me how many people don't realize that youtubers get paid directly for their videos. KZbin is not what it was 15 years ago, it's monetized now. With a few hundred thousand views, he gets a decent payout from youtube for 2 minutes of saying nothing concrete.
@dentonjordan69929 ай бұрын
I was at a place where I spent all my money on liquor and women, and the rest of the money was wasted. I have now stopped wasting money
@maxb595710 ай бұрын
Max was here
@johnhenderson814910 ай бұрын
Ray write them down,,keep the best discard the ones that are too difficult to explain,until you can word them better,but fo not give up trying to teach.
@shutupandrun10 ай бұрын
I’m 40 and I have it all figured out
@NormieWeimarican10 ай бұрын
hell yeah
@void________10 ай бұрын
My advice: buckle up!
@usmansheikh771710 ай бұрын
Meditate on that
@syedarmaghanhassan46524 ай бұрын
Kinda same advice for 30s ans 40s. Makes sense.. kinda same situation.
@karencameron22010 ай бұрын
In 2024,don't set new year financial goals without consulting a financial adviser.there expertise ensure a solid plan for success.Building wealth involves developing good habits like regular putting money away in intervals for solid investments.
@HendersonBarkley10 ай бұрын
*Hallelujah!!!! The daily jesus devotional has been a huge part of my transformation, God is good 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻was owning a loan of $47,000 to the bank for my son's brain surgery (David), Now I'm no longer in debt after I invested $12,000 and got my payout of m $270,500 every months,God bless Chloe Linda Henderson🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸..*
@aleishabryant10 ай бұрын
Hello how do you make such monthly ?? I'm a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down 🤦 of myself because of low finance but I still believe in God.
@HendersonBarkley10 ай бұрын
Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Chloe Linda Henderson.
@SAINT-uq5gw10 ай бұрын
She's a licensed broker in the states 🇺🇸
@SAINT-uq5gw10 ай бұрын
After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.
@GodSent55910 ай бұрын
Wow that's nice She makes you that much!! please is there a way to reach her services, I work 3 jobs and trying to pay off my debts for a while now!! Please help me.
@anniesshenanigans381510 ай бұрын
recognize that you are not going to suddenly become rich, or famous, or popular if you aren't already.
@anoshya10 ай бұрын
Don’t chase money and fame but devote time to your family and appreciate this life if possible ….Ive found the spiritual life is the only sane life
@allstarmark1234510 ай бұрын
Meditation? Like you did at the Taylor swift concert?
@jessejames496710 ай бұрын
Was he really at a Taylor swift concert?
@issenvan105010 ай бұрын
Leverage?
@dude417310 ай бұрын
Basically just means maximizing your time, output, or results. Google it
@rajl889010 ай бұрын
He's the only billionaire guru I can think of. Bezos is too busy with his new woman.
@yashagar444310 ай бұрын
Impeccable
@HailCaesar-lm4bq10 ай бұрын
Hormones more powerful than drugs 😆
@cxa01150010 ай бұрын
Make as much money as early as you can.
@npa246810 ай бұрын
Telling people to start meditating in their 40s or 50s is not a epiphany. Lol There are so many different forms, levels, and reasons to meditate. Most who haven't done internal work by these ages can't even find a starting point or purpose to really meditate effectively.
@jdt898310 ай бұрын
My youth was spent nearly on disability - But nobody has an easy life. Due to that I feel out of touch with any version of normal. But overall - our culture is weak and stupid. Strength is about remaining calm as possible at any age and circumstance
@olga745410 ай бұрын
My middle life is combined with war in Ukraine 😞
@7s2910 ай бұрын
A bachelor doesn't suffer these issues.
@snehsharma498310 ай бұрын
You must be right because you are rich.
@DTM4510 ай бұрын
It all sucks after 50. Kids are gone and your health sucks.
@augustoliver277910 ай бұрын
It’s not an advice for the average Joe. We are stretched too thing. The unhappiness levels, aggressions, etc. are through the roof as a result. The need to make more and produce more for less has killed us.
@PaulWashington..10 ай бұрын
Knowing Jesus is love, joy ,peace like none other. Eternal Life is in Him and none other John 17:3 And this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent. John 3:3 Jesus answered and said to him, “Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.” Jeremiah 29:13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.
@gropatapouf599810 ай бұрын
Asking people to meditate with a business background/view was kinda weird.
@huberto98910 ай бұрын
Free advice: FREE PALESTINE
@bluesun200110 ай бұрын
Yap, add divorce on top of everything that drains you 😂 Gosh, I just need millions of dollars and peace haha
@mzaki494910 ай бұрын
I like Ray but like most of the wealthy that give advice, he only focuses on this life when it's short and ignores the next that is eternal. Read the Final Testament of Allah, His Qur'an and insha'Allah He will guide you to Islam. Those are the truly successful.
@billjohnson790410 ай бұрын
That was just a bunch of rambling word salad, people think because they made some $$ that all of a sudden they are Aristotle.
@delasantos10 ай бұрын
ahahaha
@BingtheLizard10 ай бұрын
Dang... its going to get even harder than this?
@snakeplissken306310 ай бұрын
Stop spending money to impress other people. Get out of debt.
@dillonc19009 ай бұрын
I don't believe meditating is truly going to help anyone as our currency & Empire currently collpases. Peoples problems, the threats they are currently facing and will be facing in the future, is much bigger than the normal historical midlife issues in years past. I assume meditation wouldn't really do much for people in Weimar Germany, Venezuela or Zimbabwe, not really.
@w1s867 ай бұрын
You clearly don't understand what meditation means.
@eggspanda247510 ай бұрын
useless information
@MrLennart197610 ай бұрын
Man, people are desperate for the guidance of a father figure
@tazanteflight867010 ай бұрын
Meditate, your advice is to meditate..... I want my 2 minutes back....
@eagleeyemind480010 ай бұрын
Why is this all just generic fluff. I guess it’s good if helps someone
@DuncanL797910 ай бұрын
Because it is more about his own personal branding and marketing than it is about providing people with useful, substantive advice.
@loubob2110 ай бұрын
Did he really say try to get more from an hour than you did before. Try to be more productive. That's terrible advice. That is probably one of the major causes of midlife crisis, the realization that your time is limited and you wish you had more time to slow down and enjoy what life is left.