THE BETRAYAL

[@claudeteswank7382]

Some days are more difficult. My narc sister put almost my entire family against me. And I was so stupid and believe on her, help her, gifts etc. it is my my only sister and I want her to be my best friend. Look at that she was my worst friend! Who could even imagine that your sister would be your worst enemy. Took me years of suffering and listen these videos to figure it out she is a narcissist. Thanks Andrew your videos is helping me a lot.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome..🙏💜🙌

[@Davinia77]

A narcissist will constantly betray you over and over again.

[@Dstew57A]

I was a naive optimist. I just couldn’t believe he would belittle, deceive and betray me. Who does those things to the person who says they love you and want to spent their life with you. My nativity was astounding…It was good for about 10 years…then it went down hill slowly..people, friends would tell me that he was one way, I could not see it and didn’t want to believe it…after another 10 years and the betrayal, I finally filed for divorce. I am not the same person. Life didn’t turn out the way I had foreseen, in many ways it is harder now but also I have peace. Thank you for your videos. They are life saving. Bless you.

[@gratefultobehere]

"Who does those things to the person who says they love you and want to spend their life with you" (couldn't say it better myself)

[@jackalicezornes2862]

God bless you !

[@retrogirl2443]

I’d rather be on the curb than trapped in a marriage with someone who takes, belittles, and deceives. You are blessed! Sending a virtual 🤗

[@frankdavf4599]

The trauma BOND keeps you to learn the true facs, refractary phase, cant registre that reality, cause you are eyewitness in your own death in the relation, the death of your dreams, of your life, of family relation, the relation of your kids and their protection, the ceiling of the sky squashes you. I ve suffered an amnesia episode! Its freakking bad awful.

[@michelledeaves7063]

Luv ❤️ you too, namaste 🙏

[@Over60sowhat]

"They care about one person on the planet and it's not you." Yes.

[@fancy357]

Betrayal destroys the vulnerable, steals the soul of an empath, lies to leave you with no one and isolated. Sounds to me quite similar to the Devil. Believe in yourself and trust that it will get better after learning and time. God bless ❤️🙏

[@hotscorpiorouge]

Couldn't have put it better myself @Fancy. Thanks Andrew, again just when I need it most. Meant to be here now listening to this message and taking it in! Got it! We are not alone tribe. 💜

[@gratefultobehere]

@@hotscorpiorouge not alone at all 🤗

[@helenshg4580]

I have added "Where there is trust, let me destroy it with betrayal." to the code of conduct which has been directed towards me by narcs. I wrote the below code of conduct which I think fits the narc behavior I have experienced as a result of being attacked by narcs. It is as follows: I am an instrument of darkness & destruction. Where there is love, let me sow hate. Where there is trust, let me destroy it with betrayal. Where there is pardon, let me promote slander & offense. Where there is unity, let me sow discord. Where there is truth, let me bring falsehoods. Where there is faith, let me sow doubt. Where there is hope, let me bring despair. Where there is joy, let me bring sadness. Where there is light, let me bring darkness & confusion. [ In my opinion, if they are not possessed by demons, they behave like self created demons. NOTE: I wrote most of this as a direct opposite of the words in the prayer of Saint Francis of Assissi which I regard as a code of conduct of empaths.]

[@gratefultobehere]

@@helenshg4580 wow. That reveals much about them doesn’t it.

[@eloisem3214]

@@helenshg4580 Truer words were never spoken. Bless you Helen. 😇🥰🙏

[@CC-br9qg]

I betrayed myself by remaining in a place where reciprocal love did not exist.

[@patriciastewart2537]

C C Yeah, I betrayed my own sleep cycle by not speaking up. What is this "obligation" I feel to DEMONSTRATE my sleep deprivation needs by hurting myself. "Suffering in silence the first time."

[@lacithedog5506]

Same here. She also betrayed me by my STBX being someone other than who she reprented herself to be. I would have walked long ago had I known what she really was.

[@hollylorn131]

C C, I did the same thing. I betrayed my intuition by staying longer than I should have in a one way relationship. 💯 🙏 🦋

[@jackalicezornes2862]

Thank you Andrew you hit it on the nail!

[@ladylaura93]

Me too!! I lost so much....money, time, resources, material gains, and opportunities!! Some people you wish you had never known. The conversation should have stopped at hello. A very toxic relationship. There were people who tried to warn me, but I didn't listen!!

[@ustulo3488]

Betrayal...in the context of being involved with a narcissist...involves betrayal of one's soul, of one's perception of reality, and of one's commitment to something that never existed in the first place. This is a one of your more poignant videos Andrew...thank you.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Good afternoon Andrew. WOW! BETRAYAL! All I can say about that is every single one of us was betrayed from the time we met them, till the time of discard. Every word out of their mouth was a LIE! Being future faked, gaslighted, etc...LIES! The narc does not have a HEART...Also, my 5 friends that I lost bcse they couldn't stand him? Well, what about sticking by my side and being with me when I really needed you all the MOST? THEY BETRAYED ME TOO!

[@beara2482]

My thoughts exactly! When I finally put the depth of my betrayal together, it was a breath taking moment, I was in a business relationship with a partner I had put complete trust in.The truth was revealed nearly ten years ago. It was a gut punch difficult to comprehend. It stole a hard-won positive reputation from me , my family and a beautiful company built from scratch.. These day my narc prances around town dancing on my scattered reputation. A 12 Step Program has saved my life coupled. with daily prayer and meditation.

[@KadyPowellAEROPOLEONEKD]

Betrayal is part of the narcissists pattern, it is required for mortifying them in order to individuate from you, and gain the ultimate supply: breaking your spirit.

[@marybarton5651]

Yes, they break you, but like Andrew has said in his videos, you are stronger than you know. It takes time and lots of hard emotional work, but if you really want to heal from the brokenness that the narcissists brought you to. You can and will put the pieces of your life back together, one fragment at a time. Yes, you will have emotional scars that never go away, but those scars serve as a reminder for you to be selective in whom you allow into your inner circle of people that you can fully trust, and the scars are a clear reminder to ALWAYS, ALWAYS trust your intuitive abilities and NEVER again ignore those "red flags". God bless. 🙏❤🙏❤🙏

[@sunshinelalu]

It's time for me to remove myself from my toxic work environment. Betrayals galore amongst a hundred others, too many to list. I'm on a different path now and I'm wading thru a sea of red flags. Taking care of myself for once before they break my spirit.

[@marybarton5651]

I was blinded by my love for him, and he repeatedly betrayed me. I gave my all to him and received crumbs from him. I am at a place in my life where I refuse to allow myself to be treated like less than the dirt beneath my feet. I would rather be alone than to be treated that way again. I now know that I deserve better...love, respect consideration, fidelity, etc.

[@retrogirl2443]

I love this affirmation. I feel the same way.

[@jeanalexander5635]

I am there with u. Those of us that are recovering and healing, can relate. I often refer to 'crumbs". That's all it was the last couple Of years. God bless you. I trust inJesus and He never leaves or forsakes you!!

[@pollyjohnson-allthingsgood]

👍🙏💙🙏

[@vvvvel]

The Narcissistic Betrayal is a game changer, once you've been there you become aware of it and it's scary☕👌

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@jennielai2459]

Totally agree!! It feels like a part of me died!! They are flat out evil demonic monsters!!

[@katies.2478]

Absolutely & completely accurate on every point.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯🙏

[@lenihassveasphaug9634]

Betrayal. Worst of all.. Worst Ever!. Besides all stolen years. Thank you Andrew 🌹💯

[@patriciastewart2537]

Nearly my worst painful effect of narcissistic abuse.

[@sherryslilark]

Same here OMG

[@carolross1517]

Same here....horrible

[@dianarobertson7319]

Same

[@smarternow]

As I learned here my protector became my perpetrator. Being afraid of your husband is the ultimate betrayal….

[@donnahodgins9382]

I agree. Being afraid of the one who is supposed to keep you safe. The aliment betrayal. I know that fear.

[@shanieceshelby]

Same 10 years with mine

[@VioletOne88]

Definitely. Especially when he EXPLOITS u for money! Soulless.©️

[@susanlina1070]

I’m so thankful for the betrayal because that was when I realized it was over for me!

[@jennielai2459]

That’s true it was his betrayals that woke me up!! One knife in my back to many!!

[@dianacordova9554]

Thanks, Andrew. One of your very best videos. The narcissistic betrayal is unlike any other and one of the main reasons why healing from this type of relationship is so hard to do. Recovering takes time and a lot of courage but it is well worth it. I appreciate your channel and how you so brilliantly explain every aspect of this bizarre experience we've been through. I wish you much happiness and good health.

[@hotscorpiorouge]

Beautifully put @Diana Cordova!

[@SG-nu7go]

The most pain I’ve ever had in my life, finding him cheating, sharing his body with other women while feeding me the lies that he’s not a cheater. Marriage is not sacred to them, nothing is.

[@debrastadnyk1351]

Betrayal is real! It hurts & when your trust is broken it destroys the relationship. Unacceptable behavior & narsistic manipulation. Quite the experience to go through. I'm so much stronger, healthier & a warrior today. Thank you Andrew💗you are the best!

[@heidilight3636]

I live in constant terror… because I’m terrified that I trusted such an evil spirited manipulator,..

[@heidilight3636]

I’m afraid of everyone now

[@heidilight3636]

They are demons working for Satan… deceivers and betrayers, theives

[@heidilight3636]

The betrayal devestates my soul

[@heidilight3636]

Thank you Andrew. My soul hurts

[@miacochina]

I think betrayal from someone you loved is the worst part of this

[@penneyburgess5431]

Everything you said is so true. From the first betrayal to the last. The hardest thing for me to forgive is I knew and understood from the beginning and kept trying. There’s a part of me that understands I was a child, but I really shouldn’t have been so nice, or blindly trusting. I wish I would have allowed myself to be angry. Well, it’s done now. I never knew how to talk about this. Thank you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌💯🙏

[@badforgiven1]

This is the poem I recently wrote about my narcissistic abusive relationship. Your videos are giving me so much clarity now. I've been going through this for a 2.5 years. Here's the poem. Spent like 40 hours probably, but there's much more behind those words. Dark night of the soul, what will you bestow? Don't know how much longer I can last..about to just let go. This is how you grow? You let your ego go? Give up all control just to watch it all unfold? That seems awful silly, yet so mighty bold. I'm not giving in, but forced to break the mold. Not like I had a choice, universe says let's go. Now something taken over me, gripped by stranglehold. Try not to lash out, but I've reached my new threshold. Precision words sharp as daggers, penetrate heart ice-cold. Can't control my emotions? Do you think I'm remote controlled? Part of being human is forgiveness and letting go. Still trying to follow through, though progress really slow. We say things happen for a reason, but I don't want to know. God, would never give you, more than you could hold. What you thought you were, left out there in the cold. No more ears for guidance, No more trust, blindfold. No more flashy armor, No more shiny gold. No familiar faces, No one for console. Your reign is over, you've lost your great stronghold. What you've seen in future, was everything foretold? All things seeping up, buried deep below. As I die inside more feelings start to flow. No need to keep quiet and no need to tiptoe. For everything is broken in this former world I know. Surrender myself to the void as ego takes deathblow. Firey passion lost as embers fade to glow. Tell me, how did I get here? How did I get so low? That's just part of life you will always reap what you sow.

[@roshmibanerjee4682]

murmurs of a bleeding heart❣

[@shanieceshelby]

That's deep and beautifully dark I almost lost my life to my boyfriend.god gave me more than I could control.i come back again.

[@thereallisa1]

Bravo

[@dianne7993]

Powerful! Thanks for sharing ❤

[@roseyc.5846]

I was the one who was betrayed; however, in true narcissistic form, I was accused of being the betrayer. It came as a HUGE shock to me, as it was a very close family member. The smear campaign, flying monkeys, everything. Thank you, Andrew..so on point, as always. 🙏🏻❤️🌹

[@Crystalblue58]

The betrayal is the worst I think. It comes from out of the blue and they use your deepest fears to do it.

[@gratefultobehere]

Crippling

[@franksimmons9242]

@@gratefultobehere yes. The breakdown of this process is revealing. Thanks to people like Andrew for sharing their unique gifts. Until last night I never inserted the word betrayal into any of these train wreck relationships. Very important piece to the puzzle! The best analogy for me is a Trophy Hunter. They track humans like hunters do animals. They have all kinds of snags jigs and lures. Some of them are more sophisticated but in the end they all want the same thing our life force. Money relationships whatever matters most to us. Sanity. Clarity, whatever. You all have a good day thanks for sharing. Until now our isolation had us convinced our experiences were rare and bizarre. These podcasts are one of the best things that has happened to most of us because we were terribly puzzled and confused. No one had the right answers until now. Thanks again everybody,!

[@gratefultobehere]

@@franksimmons9242 yes.

[@marciloni12]

They will wait years to use that info you entrusted them with, to punish you for no longer wanting them around.

[@vanessabean4233]

Dearest Andrew, I truly had incredible betrayal as after the narcissist had his way w/ my daughter...after he had the mask of a perfect family man & good father, I was so alone BUT ALL of my family said IT WAS MY FAULT becuz I married him...I still don't talk to anyone in my family...

[@marybarton5651]

He literally kicked me after knocking me down onto the floor. I will not go through that again EVER

[@RangoC808]

I was told a long time ago that there are 3types of people in our lives: those that want to hurt you - there should be none of these in your life, get rid of them; those that don’t want to hurt you, but are not truly there for you, they are indifferent and often fade when you need them, there is no room for them either; and those that have the capacity to care and carry you - these are the ones you hold close and invest in! 💕

[@Onibocho11]

I love this video man! Betrayal never comes from an enemy. You can expect vitriol from your enemies. But, nothing can hurt worse than your family and/or friends disloyalty.

[@indiesindie1984]

The betrayal was a blessing in disguise. It's what woke me up and made me take action. The Narc nearly sucked the life out of me, but not anymore! Now I am free 😌. Thank you Andrew for sharing your knowledge and insights on this topic. God bless you ✌️❤️‍🩹😊🙏

[@carlosgiron1246]

This one hits home. Well I was betrayed by the narcissist. We were together for 7 years. Some good times but mostly bad. I truly with all my heart loved him more than anything else. All of my waking moments were just thinking of ways to make him happy. On his worst day or lowest point, I would have never left him alone. So now comes the day when I needed him the most, I was alone scared and I needed him to be there, he gets on his phone, 30 minutes later a guy pulls up he gets in the car with him doesn't even look at me, and says I'll be right back. Drove away and left me alone with nothing and nobody to call no money. My heart broken and truly the lowest part of my life, I really thought about just ending it. Giving up . But somehow I didn't give up. But I almost did. Still healing, still hurts but I am here . Thanks Andrew and thank you everyone. Stay strong.

[@efish8147]

I'm sorry Carlos, never give up. My betrayer was my own Mother, so I feel your pain. Sending healing vibes, love yourself.

[@mikesims853]

I love and look forward to your videos each day. I listen to you on my drive home from work every evening. Very comforting! Thank you Andrew.

[@vunilla]

Same here, thank you 🤍 You are a beautiful soul

[@kayeb7809]

Just found your channel. Great insight. I was raised by a narcissist and then was married to one for 32 loooong years. Done with both of them.

[@gratefultobehere]

This one is hard. Glad you did it. Betrayals being uncovered as I sit here. Unbelievable. We have choices all the time to love others or hurt them. It does hurt and yet I am not going to stop loving. God bless you.

[@gretatheotherone4686]

I'm with you, love is the answer to healing❤️🙏

[@gratefultobehere]

@@gretatheotherone4686 🥰🦋🙏❤️

[@terrirobson9043]

Betrayal destroys a person on a deep level~~tough subject, you nailed it. It needs to be faced for what it is. Definitely comes out of left field, like you said, takes the wind out of your sails. Nothing less than shock. Then you can't help but reexamine what you had already felt in your gut to be "something wrong" but chose to ignore. Double whammy. And then, if you confront the narcissist about the betrayal~~it somehow becomes your fault!! Thank you Andrew for tackling the tough stuff and doing it with grace, respect, truth, empathy and love.

[@jackalicezornes2862]

Isn't that the truth

[@l.5832]

The betrayal is the worst aspect of narcissistic abuse. The betrayal by my now ex-husband I pretty much recovered after about 5 years away from him. But the betrayal of my narc sister cuts so much deeper because it went on so much longer, and she is a blood relation who apparently resents me so much that she would prefer I was dead. She tried to swindle me out of an inheritance, she constantly has lied to me, I was not allowed any input in to the planning of our mother's funeral and was told there would be no luncheon. At the funeral, a woman came up to me and asked me if I was going to the luncheon. Yup. I wasn't invited. She is my last living relative and I feel her contempt.

[@Tatjana.B]

I have 9 yrs younger sister and the same experience with her.

[@ladylaura93]

😣

[@amandakropen3273]

I was swindled out of my inheritane by the 2 cousins I grew up with. OUCH!

[@karenlacy8950]

The narcissists entire life is a betrayal. To you, themselves and everyone they encounter. Not the best thing in the world but it teaches you a lot about life thank you Andrew. Blessings to you Namaste 🙏🌏🎶🥰🕊

[@beverlytaylor1745]

Thank you for articulating the sum total of narc injuries in one word - betrayal. The murky waters of narcissistic abuse began to run more clearly through the 'filter' of education received from you, Andrew, and other mentors, that I view as a blessing. You not only level the playing field, you light up the exits. 🤣🌸🌷🌸💖🌸

[@deborahkalavrezou2385]

The betrayal is is the core subject of narcissism. It defines the character we were dealing with and the amount of hurt inflicted upon us from it. This is by far one of your best videos ever. I am choking back the tears of not only myself but you and the countless people who have suffered The Betrayal and your truth cuts like a knife. Sharp and clean. Nobody could ever thank you enough for your God given honesty and guiding light. God bless Andrew

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏🙌☀️

[@melm9810]

It’s the impact on the children that gets me the most, when people back or support the Narc and blame their children for “upsetting” the parent. That’s been the ultimate betrayal for me.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌😉

[@CC-br9qg]

They know they betray you, which is why they must flip the script. At discard, to remain with you is to remain with the shame of treating you the way they did. They cannot deal with shame.

[@Sally-ih6ls]

I Agree, they don’t give a rats ass about you or anyone else, just themselves and what they can get from others.

[@kathybradshaw3722]

Thank you. Your time and effort is healing a lot of people.

[@breakthrough1019]

Thank you for speaking about how betrayal feels .. it feels isolating like no one understands

[@_Louise__]

Almost didn't watch this because I thought the content would be too triggering. Glad I did. Where I've been going wrong all these years, is being so damned focused on the ultimate betrayal and overlooking the little indicators, the small acts of betrayal, that indicate whether a person is a good person or not. The drunken late nights out with dead phone batteries, the broken trust when things I'd shared in confidence were openly told to others, the not sticking to their word. These along with my intuition are where I will now be drawing the line. Thank you so much for approaching this topic in such a sensitive way Andrew 🙏

[@powerofgrace0419]

Healing starts with you learning to like you enough to give yourself time with you. Get to know you. Be a friend to yourself.

[@hollylorn131]

This video on betrayal is an emotionally laden subject on so many levels and from different relationships. I had to listen to it twice to really hear the parts of the video on the narcissistic romantic relationship. I understand why I got triggered during the video. I have more healing to do around the subject of betrayal. As Mary Frances Bourget mentioned in her comment, it would be helpful if Andrew could revisit this topic with any insights on handling the aftermath of a betrayal. 🙏 🦋

[@surlif]

I love you Andrew!!! "little Hollywood movie playing in their pea brain" This is perfect for my sister-in-law. Until I married into a whole family of narcissist I did not compare myself to others. I remember thinking after a few months of narc abuse... how every conversation was turned into a competition. It was all so awful. But, you have helped me to begin to laugh. And I need to laugh.

[@ladiebugs]

This is one of your best videos. Getting betrayed is one of the worst feelings. Especially when they discard you for someone else. Thanks Andrew♡

[@carabowman577]

Andrew, you are amazing! You have been describing my life.......betrayals repeatedly by " friends" I had known for 20 years, whom I really loved, family members, Co workers, where I would go into denial and overlook the betrayals, thinking that if I tried harder to be "nice", and forgiving, showing them more unconditional love, that they would finally reciprocate, just be nice and love me in return. Instead the betrayals got more frequent and vicious, and the smear campaigns became psychotic and put my life in danger. My health also went down the tubes and they ridiculed and insulted me to my face.I finally went no contact, but my Mom is THE worst and is trying to hoover me right now.I actually used reverse psychology to get her off my back. I could write a book about the varieties of Narcissists who destroyed my life. I forgot to mention the ex husband and boyfriends who are violent abusers and Narcissists. Society is infested with them.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this ☀️🙌🙏

[@annbolton5626]

Bless you Andrew!! Is it possible that the family court systems ( Judges, attorneys, court appointed counsler) be required to attend classes, lectures from you???? You truly are gifted explaining all the aspects of this complicated abuse. Most important to help them children involved and us. This would be very beneficial. I bet we all could raise money to support this to happen. We are all so GRATEFUL!! Blessings, Love, Light, Joy, Peace

[@annbolton5626]

oops! The children

[@debrastadnyk1351]

Amen💗Andrew you are the best!

[@retrogirl2443]

What a great idea.😁😍

[@annbolton5626]

@Kristi Swenson When I found the courage through the Grace of God to file for divorce of 21 years to provide a healthy environment for my children and myself. The Court systems were not educated about narcissistic, results were very damaging, trauma for my children and myself. My former husband has me in court for another # 10 years. I was shocked! While I do understand it is hard for people to comprehend this issue if they do not experience it theirselves. We understand more than anyone how valuable Andrew actions and efforts to help us 😇🌟💯 Court is responsible for the well being of our children and ourselves. They agreed to their choice they need to take responsibility to understand. CHILDREN ONLY LEARN FROM EXAMPLES NOT WORDS. Learned behavior. I am so grateful for all the love, support of Andrew channel and all of us finely having a community of support, love, grace, light. May Peace feel our Hearts 🙏 ❤️😇🌟Embrace Today! We have Overcome!!

[@charlielynn3674]

Hi ya Andrew. You look great and healthy. Thank you for the betrayal video. It's a very painful reality especially if you have one in your family. My dear your talent is mirroring the behavior in a way that hits home every single time. You are amazing Andrew. Hey thank you for giving us all your friendship because it's a generous gift.

[@1Tmally3]

💯 betrayed, kicked when your down. I think as far back as I can remember, in my life, I could never imagine treating anyone this way, and I've always been hyper sensitive to people who are this way. There is too much of this, in the world. Namaste, strength, love and light💚💫💚🤟💪🙌🦉🌠🌟🌟🌟🌜🕯🖼🖌🛡

[@ingerkokko6446]

Betrayal is such a hard thing to experience. It comes when you least expect it. I'm so grateful for this group. You have helped me to become stronger and helped me to love myself. I had a dream one and a half year ago. The Queen of Denmark came out from the church of my hometown. She gave me a necklace with 3 swords. I did'nt understand it then but know I understand it. She gave me strength to stand up to myself and the person I have become. It was only a dream, but after the dream I was ready to stand up for myself and people I know and hold dear and help others. Betrayals hurt, but don't let others hurt you. Leave such people if you can by going no contact etc. I have done so and I forgive those people and go forward. Those are unhappy people, even if that is no excuse. Don't let people treat you like crap. You are worth so much moore. Even my therapist betrayed me. She didnt' tell me she finished my therapy. She did'nt like me. But I am over that. Thank you again Andrew for a fine video🥰🌺❤🙏 Bless you all in this group. 🌻❤🙏🥰

[@mariefrancebourget1749]

Thanks Andrew, I was waiting for you to talk about betrayal because it is something that I have experienced a lot in my life and not only with my ex narc but with family members also. It is something that one can't see coming. Every time it was so insidious. Like a punch on the face. It hurts just as much and there is nothing you can do about it. That's why our trust issues are related to betrayal after narcissistic abuse. I am still trying to find the recipe to deal with betrayal because whether I like it or not, it might happen again. I wish not, but many human beings don't realize how much it is devastating to be betrayed.They flat out don't care. I am getting emotional just by writing this because I have never betrayed anyone in my whole life, but every time someone did it to me, I was in shock. I just couldn't believe that this person was that cold hearted. So Andrew if you decide to revisit this topic, let us know if you found more answers on how to deal with the aftermath of betrayal. Have a great evening. Love you. 😘🙌💚

[@hollylorn131]

I agree with your suggestion that if Andrew wanted to revisit this important subject of betrayal with recommendations of how to deal with the aftermath of betrayal, that would be very helpful to us all on this channel. It could be like Betrayal Part 2: The Aftermath. Finding the recipe to deal with betrayal is a worthwhile one to find and it would be very beneficial to hear how others have successfully dealt with it, whether from a narcissist or a non narc family member or friend. 🙏 💕 🦋

[@mariefrancebourget1749]

@@hollylorn131 Thank you for your support Holly. I hope Andrew will see our comments. 🤗🙌🙏

[@dodibenabba1378]

Shalom Andrew! These people are the seed of Cain. Blessings to everyone who has experienced this ♥️🙌

[@stevejohnson747]

Antichrist

[@dodibenabba1378]

@@vvvvel Don't be deceived, the New Testament is really a Renewed covenant, ie to keep the commandments of the Covenant with grace provided by the Messiah. You are saved by Messiah but Grace is not to voluntarily keep on sinning. He gives you a love for Him and His commandments, the divine plan. Sadly many refuse. Blessings bro

[@dodibenabba1378]

@@vvvvel well done you 🙌

[@vvvvel]

@@stevejohnson747 Fake prophet lol

[@retrogirl2443]

Sending love, light , and positive energy out to you, Andrew and all the healing beautiful souls on this channel. Your time and efforts are appreciated!❤

[@violetlaw8119]

So completely accurate. I thank the Lord I found this channel. YOU truly make my life better, I am learning what/how, to get through the fact that both C & J, horribly betrayed me, then left me for dead. Listening to your videos, I am healing/ recovering , actually learning to love myself, for the 1st time , ever. I am WINNING, in so many ways. Ty Andrew for the videos & the lovely flowers, with positive uplifting words included. Some real good people, in this community.....

[@jenniferb3200]

My! What an excellent commentary! It explains my whole past relationship and now every time I start feeling bad for my narcissist jobless user of my past relationship I will rewatch this video..Betrayal is now a boundary for me. I wish it was 6.5 years ago

[@TheMisssy2]

This is the most painful video I have seen. Looking back, I see all of it. I was the lowest I could be this Summer (I got Cancer), he then ditched me 3 months later, he was never there for the surgery and was the only person who didn't call me the day of the biopsy.....that's not love...I feel so dumb. I feel dumb because I loved him so much & even thou I knew (deep down) he did not really care about me as he said he did....I just ignored all of it.

[@morningglory3681]

The most beautiful part is that I did not have the ability to bond to anyone new and doubt I ever could. My Lord kept my heart in another place on purpose. ... 😁🥰

[@margaretrussell7202]

What timing Andrew......it is as if you knew what had happened......a phone call from a sister on Wed night full of utter betrayal. Won’t go into detail but I am so glad I am 200 miles away. Didn’t sleep well......but your topic this morning has put me back on track. Forever grateful Andrew....Thank You 🙏

[@tm6136]

It broke my heart and almost broke my soul.

[@emilywilson7308]

Yes!

[@roseannemelvin8501]

Brought my emotions to the surface, like a cleansing tool. The truth, and yes it is a deeply painful pill to experience and revisit the mountains of intential betrayal and toxicity you experienced from the one person or persons you truely believed had your back. But much needed to help the healing process. Andrew, please write a book on your knowledge and wisdom, it is desperately needed in the wider domain, possibly more than even yourselve are aware of. You are a beautiful soul Andrew Thank you. God Bless 🙏🙏🙏💛

[@Ms7of8]

The discard, and then finding out about the spectacular betrayal, has been devastating. It was and has been traumatic. I thought of myself as being a person who was very observant and aware, but I simply have an extremely difficult time wrapping my mind around the duplicity, the manipulation, lies, the CON, how I was systematically targeted and preyed upon, the future faking -- for years. It's been four months since the discard (I went immediately into NC -- I've never been one to plead, beg or cajole someone into being with me) and while I've improved somewhat, it's still blows my mental, emotional and physical circuitry. As Andrew stated in another of his videos, I have to practice radical acceptance. It's been brutal.

[@lisacormier2237]

Thanks. Awesome video. I just want to say your posts are short and sweet and to the point, perfect length, and you stay on topic. I don’t know how I found your channel, but it’s the best one on the internet. I want to go to Costa Rica to thank you personally, that is how grateful I am for your insights. ♥️♥️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always ☀️🙌🙏😊

[@mchave71]

Thankyou Andrew for these updates. I think of them as my personal daily pep Talks. They help me make sense of the past and serve as a constant reminder why I can’t go back.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@shivmc4466]

Hi Andrew just watching your video, clouser is a beautiful thing I take everything you say and learn from it. For us to of been involved with such disgusting people,toxic,nasty individuals 😒 I am blessed that I found you at the right time in my life. You have made the experience something that has been life changing ✨️ when a narcissist sets their eyes on you and you unknowingly fall into that trap. It's not something that you ever will or want to experience again in your life. But it has taught me so much you have taught me so much about this whole subject,it's crazy,dark,ugly but out of it emerged the new me never again will I EVER fall into the narcissist hands. 🙏🏽✨️

[@ChangeisGoodwithPam]

❤️Andrew, you are amazing. Im very grateful. I hope your generous giving of yourself about this topic, still allows you to close that horrible chapter of your own experience. If only empathic people more often attracted empathic people instead of getting used. You are a lovely soul. Blessings to you.🦋

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯😊

[@AlexaCBrown]

Their lack of love hurt, so deeply, beyond words...they also, made me a better person, and what not to be🙏💛🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌☀️

[@shanieceshelby]

I'm on a Spiritual journey.i just know it. Healing and growth.set backs and lessons.observing my relationship with new eyes. I will never EVER be the same. But I'm growing as a person and I love it.this year has been the most healing for me I'm years.yes I'm still stuck with him but my childhood wounds have been slowly healing in many different ways and let me tell you,it's scary and amazing and it's giving me strength to get out.im working on myself constantly and educating myself on all of this every chance i get.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Continue on the path moving forward everyday 🙏💯🙌☀️

[@fourandsixpants4276]

I am well into my healing. I will forever be Hyper-vigilant..... Upside is, I will 'See' things that most will not ✨

[@jowellrivera50]

Bingo! The betrayal was the most hurtful and confusing part. You think you know them. Even say great things about them to others and then. Bam! A punch in the face from them. It was like, who are you? Craziness.

[@fidelmashelton9491]

Absolutely Andrew so spot on. Vile behaviour from the narcissist, especially the covert type as they are so insidious.

[@astridbaumgart5493]

Betrayal is what hurts me the most. And finding out some family members are kicking in, betray me as well ...... That was the darkest time in my life. It allmost knocked me down for good. But here I am

[@fian1286]

And the cognitive dissonance they use to minimise their understanding of what they have done is truly shocking .

[@caraelsenoldenburg8848]

This…💔 Not one scar on my heart came from an enemy. They all came from people who said they “LOVED” me.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉😉💯💯

[@kevinowens6010]

That is Spitting Truth! Every Dammed one of them.

[@malapersad7310]

For all of us who have been betrayed by the narcissist. I came across this very powerful quote by mahatma Gandhi. (I will never let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet) wish I had seen this quote before I met said person. Blessings everyone and may God bless you always Andrew

[@computerdisco6171]

very funny my exgirlfriend called me after discarding me for 1 year and 10 month and told me that i am the greatest love of her life but she just had to discard me because making her happy wasn´t enough for her. i am very happy that i was able to explain to her in a polite way that i am not interrested in a relationship with her and i also told her that she looked better when we we´re together. ; ) Thanks to your channel and many others, especially You Andrew. In one way or another You literally saved my life with your Videos.

[@shantris4883]

Thank you very much Andrew!!! It's so true what you said here! God Bless you too.👍🙏🌻🙏💜🧚.

[@Artisane23]

The biggest betrayal I''ve ever experienced! I was astonished! Thanks, 💕🙏✨

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌💯🙏

[@lourdesecheverria6209]

Namaste! The betrayal begins on DAY ONE. And it ends hopefully at the point of discard or when we finally leave the relationship. The attempts to betray continue with the hoovers and any other contact with the person. Block and disconnect completely. I know is very difficult to accept the reality of these type of relationships with a narcissist and everything that it entails. Is like the a horror movie times a billion! Do not give up on yourself, slowly, minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day, and so on, we will eventually overcome and have our very best lives! Stay strong. Love and peace to all in this community. ❤ Andrew you are a true blessing!

[@rachelwilliams3108]

I have learned a lot from the narc. As an empath, this is tough for me, but I decided not to love him, deny he ever existed, maintain no contact, refuse to take any blame, or responsibility. Lololol,, why not,, sounds like a good plan. !

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌

[@rodneymartel452]

In retrospect, the true betrayal was not of another, but of oneself. Boundaries at one point in time were atrocious and not high enough for the present and the future. The inability to adjust to the current situation was a red flag in self. The toxic residue of their words is not a concern. The only concern is what one sees in themselves. Build from that perspective and gain peace in yourself.

[@newbegin1]

It’s needful, best, to acknowledge the betrayal. I experienced it 2 weeks ago. God gave me a calm, steeled ability to make a simple, clear statement to the once trusted person- and swiftly blocked him. Relief, followed by pain and disorientation. Now, I’m better. I credit my Lord. He always sustains me.

[@patriciastewart2537]

The ONE WORD invalidation.... The not funny making fun of my TIME boundaries. My great new friends....just another flavor of Narcissism.

[@blya8978]

I hear you loud and clear Andrew! Many Narcissistic inclined could care less about anyone else feeling or humanity it’s not their trait! It’s easy to just break the chain and set yourself free instead of hoping and trying they will change

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@QueenBee-fg1iz]

Spot on Andrew. Thank you for providing clarity on narcissist abuse. I gain strength from watching videos like yours.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@winniewinkles]

It’s true Andrew. When you’re a bright light type bubbly, empath person, the people who surround you often want to see you hurt and your happiness and life ruined. It’s vicious as all hell and can make you want to hurt yourself.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯

[@BeTheLight624]

Excellent truthful explanation of betrayal, the narc and you~Andrew truthfully reveals what was going on, the best way to rise above it and move on…the truth will set you free… God bless you, Andrew and thank you for this sobering truthfilled video. May we all heal totally, completely into the best version of ourselves. ❤️☀️✨

[@frankdavf4599]

Thanks Andrew. Few people believed in me, when I was discarded a year ago, they told me "You should had done something pretty bad to her", the cognitive dissonance kicked in after hearing those words, then the fog obliterating my mind... Nuts the dark night of the soul. You and other channel saved me

[@izawaniek2568]

Spot on! Thank you for This greatly supportive message to all of us who have been so badly betrayed by countless narcisists around. God bless you.

[@VioletOne88]

This is always a great video 👏🏼💯💯 Betrayal Trauma is 1 of the worst things. Being betrayed by someone close like a Father, Brothers, "friends", other family, even some local Church members is/was DEVASTATING. Excellent topic. And as u said, Narcissists & extremely TOXIC ppl, they truly DON'T CARE. Awesome Andrew 🙌🏼😘🫶🏼🔥©️

[@lired70]

Again I say if only! If only Andrew that I had seen this video several years ago, I wouldn't have given the Narc.,the time of day. Andrew, your video's are saving lives from destruction. Thank you for sharing your story and enlightening the unsuspecting victims that they hand pick!

[@user-xo1px6zk1j]

I am glad to have found you! Very informative! Thank you so much of sharing!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌💯🙏

[@peace_1973]

Thank you 😊 Andrew 🙏✌️❤️

[@alonzomosley7]

My ex had been sabotaging me for years .She spoke behind my back to my family and friends ,I was married for over 20 years .I can’t believe how naive I was

[@theteal123]

Yes, betrayal was an ongoing nightmare with the narc. I do not want to deal with that anymore.

[@tanyasaunders5843]

Betrayal slowly stared and why I let it go so far I will never understand. All I try to do is pull that family together. But I finally got away from them flying monkeys. So I had to stick to myself. I started to go to church and my children also. And the more I try the worst they try do like that. But they all got there cookie burnt. God always prevail if you put him first. Your exactly right Andrew. And I really appreciate your lesson. Thank you so much. Bless you Andrew you are a 😇. 🙌🙏♥️😇🌻🍁

[@cococarton3601]

Oh Andrew, you speak so wisely and explain everything so well. I lost my 23 year old son to cancer and was so sure my family, would be there for me. But no,,,,,,,,my sister and brothers treated me like I was the elephant in the room and have not spoken to me for the past 8 years. I sent a nice card to them all at xmas 8 years ago and tell them our mum would turn in her grave if she thought i was being treated like this. I just cant understand how I got people so wrong. I never heard from them and 8 years later after doing nothing wrong except that my son died......Betrayed is the most hurtful thing, espically when you never done anything to them. Thanks Andrew

[@davidorcharlottehermansen5839]

That is terrible! This is why they do not deserve to be your sister & brother - there is a saying “you can pick your true family vs. Being born into one” So true!!❤

[@cococarton3601]

@@davidorcharlottehermansen5839 thank you for your kind words

[@cococarton3601]

@@rubyjet8614 thanks ruby...I did not know that

[@kikianellaesther8118]

I have an ex friend who is a narcissist maybe even psychopath and an ex intimate someone who threated to have sex with my ex friend. So in other words they would both be betraying me just to hurt me. Like triangulation. My ex friend is weirdly jealous and so was this man because I wouldn't deal with his behavior even though I wanted to love him so much but he's deceitful. My sister used old friends to bully me and she's sadistic. So here i am with my little dogs babysitting and loving this little girl and trying to detach from my ex friend ex crush and ex sister. People always get jealous because I'm pure hearted. It really sucks. But I'm doing my best with God's help to start a life anew and to be honest I'm changing my name and moving out of state because I don't want them to come near me ever again. And I need the fresh environment where I'm totally free from my past life. I feel stronger and wiser and I know God will protect me from these people and ever being vulnerable with these kind of people again. Stay strong guys ♡

[@Joanna-np6fx]

You are spot on!!! Felt all these things 100% after the discard from my covert narcissistic father. Also he was my adoptive father from time I was 5 months old. A childhood of confusing narcissistic abuse. I’ve chose no contact for 3 years now. My adoptive father never tried to make contact with me which just validates he never loved me.

[@lindagodwin3680]

Thank you for opening up our minds and our hearts to knowledge that is life saving. What you describe in this video is so very important to know what is involved in the narcissists mind and how heartless they are. Very diabolical, demonistic traits.