The biggest RED FLAGS in a relationship & what to look for in a good spouse

[@ToriAndChad]

Say a prayer for us! It's a big day with honestly everything. From furniture being delivered, to driving down to Boca for Promptus, and everything in-between!

[@Greg_Orr]

Absolutely praying for you both!

[@ToriAndChad]

Thank you we need it!

[@adelebeaucicot7342]

Praying!

[@shaughnsmit2076]

Covering you in prayer today!🙏🏻

[@shwetav]

Praying for you both!

[@alaynastewart0607]

I ended a 2 year relationship for alot of reasons but one of the biggest was I couldn't see him leading our family to the Lord

[@ToriAndChad]

dang that is powerful!

[@Chydova]

How did you k ow he wasn't going to be able to lead his future family to the Lord?

[@alaynastewart0607]

@@Chydova he told me he was an atheist 6 months (1 1/2 yrs into dating) before I broke up with him and I tried to dive deeper into that and see if he was just saying it but he got worst to be around and started disrespecting me and making fun of Christianity. He still tries to talk to me today (3 1/2 years later) and within a year of our break up he was married to another girl and they’re expecting a child now

[@cocosmith12]

@@alaynastewart0607 woww,you should be proud of yourself. He was not the one.#but again you could have figured it out long time ago that he was not Godly,so you did not talk about church, Bible, serving, or pray together?.for me before even go out with you,I have to know if you are a believer, Baptized, attending church or serving in some Areas ect...

[@nataliehhowarth]

Wow. That’s big! Good for you 😊

[@alaynastewart0607]

ever since i got to "dating age" my dad made me do a nonnegotiable list too tori! also i would add that my dad has always said with breakups that "thats why you date, to find the person God has for you. it it doesnt work out be grateful not upset thats Gods direction towards His person for you"

[@ToriAndChad]

no way!!! That is so so so cool!

[@mikkipaine3560]

It’s so difficult to find wise people who know how to articulate their wisdom in a way that makes it just click, and y’all are so so good at that. Thanks for speaking some life into my week :)

[@LouiseVisser]

Exacly this!! 🙌

[@katev2873]

Chad's accent slowly fading and coming back in the segment was the funniest thing to me

[@christinawatkinsyoutube]

same hahaha

[@allisonlucas018]

Thanks for choosing me as subscriber of the week! It's such an honour. I love being apart of the Masters Fam. You pour so much into me and my life. Thank you for the opportunity to be part of such an amazing community!

[@ToriAndChad]

SORRY ABOUT THE BIG MISTAKE LOLOL

[@allisonlucas018]

@@ToriAndChad 😂 It's totally okay! And one day I will be doing engagement long distance. But the same applies to dating long distance, so it's all good. 😊

[@ToriAndChad]

hahah i still feel terrible. But we appreciate you just the same!

[@allisonlucas018]

@@ToriAndChad I've had people mistake things a lot worse than that 😂

[@agentdiaz2103]

Lets goooo Alli🥳

[@zeneznaju]

I'm Muslim, I've just recently discovered you guys, and I'm looking forward to every new video you post. I love how you present the decent, faithful, religious way of life as something fulfilling, beautiful, joyful and rewarding in a midst of this huge amount of online content that is not good for our soul. I love the realisation I've had watching your videos, and that is that Christianity and Islam have a lot of things in common, regarding one's self-respect, dignity of a soul, and all of the (primarily premarital) behavior that can violate our relationship with our Creator. I love your work. Keep it up guys! Sending you lots of love❤️

[@Munnaly]

Same here!

[@auburnsunlight]

Same here! ❤️

[@padilicious627]

romans 5:8, romans 10:9-10 (NIV) 😀

[@noodleydoodee]

it really helps to see this right now. i just ended my relationship with my boyfriend of 11 months and best friend for 1 1/2 years. i was feeling God saying no to it and it really scared me at first, but i’m feeling a bit more confident in that choice because there were definitely some signs that he was not committed to his faith enough for us to stay at a level that made the both of us happy and secure, and i knew it was important for me to not be neglected spiritually. it’s really sad and hard to imagine anything better than our relationship, but i have hope God will allow me to heal from that and experience more beauty in the future even though it seems completely ambiguous at the moment. thanks for talking about these topics it really helps

[@nureyamiller7914]

To anyone reading this, you deserve the best, you deserve someone who will match your energy and lift you up when you’re down. You also deserve to be able to give and lift them up. If you’re in a dark place or feel like you may be contributing to the unhealthiness, then take some time to reflect and make changes within yourself before partnering with someone and expecting them to fill up your cup, this is where I am now and I want you to know that it’s okay to have regrets and acknowledge where you went wrong, bring your mistakes to the light and work on them so you can move forward as a whole person 💛

[@angelalumia3394]

The way y’all look at each other when you talk🥺 So blessed by your wisdom on this channel!!

[@heymegsilva]

THE SKIT 😂 Love this video! So good and so encouraging - relationships are not an accessory but a partnership in pursuit for His kingdom!

[@kasey-leighscheepers3142]

I came across your channel two weeks ago while going through such a rough time in my marriage and wow you guys and your content has inspired me so so much! You don’t just speak about Jesus you live like Him and watching your videos, the Lord just put it on my heart that we can have all the head knowledge but it means nothing if we don’t have the heart knowledge and the willingness to let Him lead our lives to even the smallest details ! Chad and Tori, thank you for letting Jesus echo through all you do. It is so evident that He is your guy’s ALL and I want to strive for that! I want to KNOW Him not just KNOW ABOUT Him. In two weeks the Holy Spirit has shown me so much through you both and to list them all on here would be impossible! Thank you for loving like Jesus! God Bless 🤍🤍

[@mollyswanton1950]

I can't with chef Chad hahahaha, what a smart way to do an add! TBH this is the only sponsor advertisement I have enjoyed watching. You seriously should be an actor you would be great Chad. Also the whole video was so great and very effective in helping so many people navigate healthy relationships. You guys are amazing as always!

[@mmag3980]

So, my husband and I have been married for over a year, we go to church every Sunday, we did premarital counseling, we pray together (pretty much just before meals and the “typical” times to pray). However, I feel like I am the one always trying to initiate prayer, devotion, fellowship with other couples, reading the Bible etc. I am constantly talking to God all day long, I’m in my Bible, and I feel like my relationship with God is the highest and best it has ever been. (Please keep in mind that I am not trying to sound like I am praising myself or anything like that because all the credit goes to God and God alone). My point is, I feel like my husband isn’t trying to lead us like Christ has called him to. I feel like he is just going through the motions. I don’t ever see him read his Bible, pray, etc. I know no one is perfect and I try to see the log in my own eye first, but it has really been weighing on me and I don’t want to tell him all of this and make it seem like I think I’m better than him, but idk what to do at this point except to pray. I could really use some advice from you guys and anyone who has experience with this. And if you don’t have experience or advice, I just ask you to please pray for our marriage and this topic that has been weighing on me. Thank you 💖

[@miaflaquita]

praying

[@kyashabotejue9780]

literally took pages of notes from this one! thank you for this! love you guys♥

[@milliedowney9759]

I LOVE THE HAPPY AND HEALTHY PODCAST!! I has noooo idea you guys were friends!! That’s so cool!!!!

[@MissKylieChristian]

This gave me so much clarity on my decisions in the past and to not settle. Praying for you guys for the furniture delivery and the drive!

[@nathancress8810]

the best definition of "love" I have ever heard was "Love does whatever it takes for however long it takes to see the other person benefit."

[@susalkasarahi]

I think this video is very convicting to people who are married, I’ve been with my husband five years married and a lot of these red flags were convicting for me, As in I am the red flag and so this is really compelling me to become a better wife to my husband so I want to thank you guys for this video

[@allisonlucas018]

Counselor Chad full of wisdom for Chef Chad! Love that segment 😂

[@ToriAndChad]

hahah yay!

[@ivyevers8713]

You guys seemed to be glowing today- praise God for how he’s moving in your daily lives

[@franz5714]

Watching this during single season is so so good!! 🙏🏼❤️ Hearing the wisdom y’all speak about in this video is honestly so motivating and makes me so excited for what in store for me after single season 🥰🙌🏼

[@ToriAndChad]

awww yay! That means a ton to us!

[@taylorburnfield404]

Loved this video SO MUCH!!! Coming from parents with an unhealthy marriage with no work ethic to improve it, I know what I don’t want, but you guys have reminded me of that I DO want!! My head was seriously nodding the whole time while I kept internally saying YESS!! THIS!!!

[@Jesse-vr1cr]

Don’t worry, Chef Chad is irreplaceable ❤️

[@maraisreynolds9688]

This was so good!!! 🙌🏼❤️ One piece of advice I heard that changed my approach to dating, is to ask myself if I am the person, the person I'm looking for is looking for?? I think Andy Stanley said it.. Instead of focusing so heavily on what the other person is or isn't, who are we? We all want someone patient and kind, but that person isn't always gonna be those things and make the relationship a breeze all the time. They still matter, but a relationship is a two way street!! We need to check ourselves out and ask for God to convict/change us in whatever way we are walking in relationships that isn't Christ like.❤️

[@ailynlopezarogante4367]

"A Godly man is the one who humble🙏". I hope someday in God's perfect time, I pray to meet my lifetime partner 💖🙏. I'm excited to know him soon and sooner.

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww yay! It is a special time for sure!

[@prrophetjonathandzugba9246]

I believe all of us will by grace God will give us our life partners who love and fear God. The season we're in you cannot marry anyone who has no fear or love for the Lord. Our wait will be fulfilled by joy when God brings that mate. Hod is faithful

[@ailynlopezarogante4367]

@@prrophetjonathandzugba9246 Amen bro😇🙏💖

[@AGSBallTrophy]

The Green Chef ad was hilarious. I love it haha!

[@yuliyalyube]

That green chef promo 😂😂😂 love it

[@bolivia.j]

I have so much respect for y’all. This is like the exact advice I give to my single friends. Me and my fiancé do our best to live by this to the best of our abilities. It’s so encouraging to see young KZbinrs speaking boldly about their faith in such a cancel culture!. Love from Indiana!!

[@HappilyAnonymousGirl]

This video is very reassuring to me. I already knew that I wasn’t crazy for the things I value in a relationship, but it’s nice to hear it from a healthy couple who can share their experience and points of view about it. Thank you for the video. This is the first time I’ve seen you guys and I’m going to subscribe because I love how genuine and positive you both are. God bless and keep up the awesome job!

[@Greg_Orr]

I always appreciate the wisdom and advice you both provide in these videos! You’re both genuinely such inspiring people with your love, grace and compassion and I’m so thankful for you both! Definitely praying for you today and constantly as life is busy! But super grateful for your commitment to us too by responding to comments and creating such amazing content through your videos and podcasts! Love you both!

[@ToriAndChad]

Thanks a ton, my man! I really appreciate you saying all of that! We love you too!

[@leslie7323]

I ❤️ this video. Literally paused to take notes because it's confirmation of what I want. The things on my "list" are what you mentioned and I had been praying for confirmation.

[@rebeccakings754]

I really love these videos from you guys! You feel like an older brother and sister, very wise. Thank you 😁

[@teapot6711]

Chad dropping honesty bombs - it's about peace, not winning the argument

[@ourdailygreg]

MY DAY IS AUTOMATICALLY SO MUCH BETTER, THANKS TO THE LOVELY CHAD AND TORI ❤️

[@ToriAndChad]

awww hahah we appreciate it!!

[@eemilee91]

Such good advice!! You guys are marriage goals. Just wanted to mention too: I love the little outro tune, hope you guys will use it forever. 😂 It ends the videos on such a wholesome and lighthearted note, and it's so cute how Chad always sings along to it!

[@agentdiaz2103]

The segment is GOLD😂😂😂

[@annkblog8888]

Awww the way she looks at him whilst he is talking🥺🥺🥺🥺

[@kristenbradley7040]

Thanks for being so open and honest! This video has some really great advice in it! It was so helpful for me as a 23 year old navigating the dating process.

[@serenityh.]

I don’t have a lot of friends and I’m grateful for that. When I was eight years old, mom told me, “The more ‘friends’ you have, the harder it is to trust them (or the more people you have to trust, something like that).” I agree with that. Something that the Lord told me months ago that was just so spot-on was, *“Any type of relationship you have with individuals such as family, friends, significant other, etc., if they aren’t leading to Christ, they shouldn’t be in your life.”* I was like, *“Lord, say no more, I GOT YOU.”*

[@bishnya21]

I totally get that but what about unchristian cousins that you grew up with and non believing coworkers, it’s very hard to have relationships with people that are Christians AND on the same level of Christianity as you because your constantly surrounded by all types of people. I’ve had questions about this my whole life so it’s def something I’m still wondering. God bless💕

[@Olamide-A]

The creativity and the wisdom in the green chef ad was everything!!!! Loveeeeeeee the creativity😂❤️

[@marcovforte]

This was so great. Thank you so much for this video. It was so timely and much needed. Also, I can’t help but notice how much Tori loves Chad. How she looks at him is just ugh.😍 I hope my future wife will look at me that same way; and I to her.

[@mandavvv]

Tori looks so happy in this vid!! love your radiant smile Tori💗 praying for your future little one! love yall

[@iuliaturcas4348]

Ever since I have listened to today’s podcast this morning, I was SO looking forward to this video! 😍 Such a great balance of advice, life experience and insight! Thank you for sharing your experience with us and creating valuable videos! Every time you post, I truly feel like I have a little meet-up with some dear friends- you two and this great community! 🤍

[@ToriAndChad]

aww yay! THanks for watching and listening to so much of our content! We really appreciate it! We love that it feels like close friends!

[@iuliaturcas4348]

@@ToriAndChad 💛🤍❤️

[@natashapinerostachita9755]

We all need some fiery Tory moments in our lives haha TRUTH.

[@ToriAndChad]

AMEN!

[@sarahviolinyang]

oh my goodness, yes please share behind-the-scenes or bloopers of Chef Chad!

[@ToriAndChad]

Wait I should do a BTS bloopers

[@GodisGlamorous]

Awesome video! Thank you both for your wisdom. Just to let you know, you forgot to include your “Boundary” video at 22:22 😊

[@RaizelDELB]

I agree! Getting me flowers for New Year’s Eve or just on a Sunday or a Monday morning- that’s a whole lot more romantic than on Valentine’s Day 🤣🤣🤣

[@shwetav]

What an incredible video.. seriously you guys just set the bar so high each time with such a finesse and effortless charm! This world can be such a magical place, we've just got to always be open to the potential surprises it can offer! Thanks for all the wisdom, crystal clear talks that speak straight to my heart! I'm so immensely grateful for all the sharings..missed this so much! Finding what’s really right for us is a long and tumultuous journey but just knowing what to seek and what isn't the real fruit is something we've got to watch out. Ultimately we all crave for safety, security, love and care! ❤ Lots of looovvee!! Am definitely re- watching this tonight again. Thank you for being living embodiment of kindness and consideration...! 😊 P. S - congrats on being close to having 100k family members ....!!

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww yay! Thanks so much for the love! We are happy that you liked the video and the content! It always means so much more when our content actually means something to people! And we cannot wait for 100k!!

[@CatDarrenC]

Love the idea of having accountability on our non-negotiables. Thanks for sharing 👍 🙏 Ya'll give me hope as a single adult to wait for God's gift.

[@kalanim9426]

🚩🚩Serving up good truths that aren’t spoken about often enough!!! Thanks y’all!

[@loriborntrager2635]

Just gotta say... God will answer prayers through you guys! He answered mine! Exactly what I needed. Thank you

[@chaelibrunotte1693]

As I ease back into dating since coming to christ I appreciate this video SO much!! thank you ❤️

[@lwllms3]

The therapist chad had a tiny hand!! So funny!

[@evegracevlogs]

I don’t think you have to know or discern whether someone is the person you should marry right at the beginning stages of a relationship, but of course there are red flags and things to look out for. Dating exists for evaluation, so we find out through the guidance of the Holy Spirit and spending time with this person, watching their character, etc. if they are the person you want to move forward into engagement and marriage with. :)

[@ToriAndChad]

amen! That is why it helps to know what to look out for and what could be potential red flags!

[@victorianavaroli1707]

The green chef skit!! >>>>

[@andrea-gs4dx]

Your content is always so full and quality. Wish you guys the best in this season of life. So excited for all the good things coming, and praying for God to continuously bless you guys and your relationship.

[@tabithaakoto4469]

9:08 this was so funny to me lol. Was not expecting this scene

[@Vee_K96]

The advertising part was perfect! Enjoyed it

[@amandachastain1884]

What an awesome topic. I was literally just looking the other day for something on this topic. I'm in a relationship where I struggle to know are we friends or more. I get so confused by the fact I feel like its a friendship but he says its more...but I struggle to get out of the friendzone. He says we're taking things slow but I just want insight into where we going. Prayers for you all in your adventures and ministry. You guys are amazing and thanks for all the ways you inspire and lead people closer to the Lord.

[@juleslloyd9162]

f you’re a woman being friend zoned and he isn’t sleeping with you but hangs out with you- h doesn’t fancy you. If you’re sleeping together and he doesn’t want an official relationship then you’re not friend zonesd, he just hasn’t been inspired to commit to you for whatever reason. Just know you can’t change a guys mind and remember your worth. If he isn’t giving you what you want, don’t settle!

[@christinawatkinsyoutube]

the green chef ad was AWESOME haha, I love ya'll! Thanks for another fire vid Chad + Tori!

[@carolwilliamsblog]

LOVED this!! It's filled with so much useful advice, thank you so much for all you both do! And I can't wait to see the next house update with the furniture 😀 I was laughing so much at the chef Chad part 🤣🤣🤣

[@ToriAndChad]

awww yay!!! We can't wait to share more and I thought you would like that chef part lol

[@carolwilliamsblog]

@@ToriAndChad You know me so well 😆 I've heard Tori mention her non-negotiables list before and although I've not managed to write a definitive list, one for me is he has to make me laugh. Maybe Tori can do a patreon Zoom where us single gals write our lists amd Chad can do one for the guys 🤔

[@ivyevers8713]

OMG the little hands at 10:24 had me dying

[@jlv61560]

Well, I'm going in for cancer surgery on Monday the 25th. I'm not going to ask for prayers for me, but instead that you all pray the surgeon has the best day of surgery of his entire life! 😁 Wish me luck!

[@adelebeaucicot7342]

I am excited to listen to all the wisdom and learn from you both!!

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww thanks a ton, Adele! We appreciate you!

[@camuyana]

Pursuing a person or persons out of loneliness is the most detrimental reason to do so. Desperation more likely than not will cause selecting the wrong person and anyway feeling very alone in the long run.

[@maolka-oe4wx]

I'm so glad that after a long day at university I can sit and relax watching your new video! LOVE YOU GUYS!❤️ God bless you both ❤️

[@ToriAndChad]

awww yay! Thanks for being here! We appreciate you so much!

[@kristenkittjuntunen]

You guys make your sponsored ads so fun to watch haha! So good and funny !

[@katherinedeoliveira8777]

I didn’t even watch it yet but I already KNOW this is gonna be good! Let’s get out the pen and notepad y’all

[@suttonhulse9373]

I'm here for german psychologist chad and chef chad. Just excellent script writing all around lol!

[@annak1371]

I loved hearing what y'all had to say. I appreciate you both and that you take the time to try to help other people. Thank you.

[@teapot6711]

I'm loving Tori's perspective from the woman's pov.

[@meganshank4800]

Super excited for this one! Prayers as you press forward in the work of today! Y'all got this!!

[@ToriAndChad]

Thank you so much!!! We appreciate the prayers!

[@angelavanoosten1]

this green chef part is killing me hahaha again y'all have the best ads ever

[@grace_and_purity]

Another red flag - he never starts conversations about God, it’s usually you.

[@catsaberhagen5266]

The green chef bit was so funny! Loved it

[@ludovicadiguardo1571]

Sending lots of prayers your way🙏 Also the Green Chef segment was brilliant hahah!! Just like the rest of the video♥

[@ToriAndChad]

awww I'm so happy that you liked it!!!

[@Elise_Coupler]

Love this! 😍 Tori and Chad thank you so much for all the great advice you give us in such a sweet and humble - but upfront when needed - way ❤ You guys teach me a lot and help me think about these topics while I'm still in my single season 😊 Big hug from a 23 year old sis from the Netherlands 🥰

[@beatriceanca]

Hi guys!! So excited for this!! 💛

[@ToriAndChad]

Hope you enjoy it!!

[@Greg_Orr]

Hahahaha. Lars is great! And of course so is Chef Chad!

[@ToriAndChad]

hahah love it!!!

[@emmam3416]

This video is just what I needed to hear so much truth and so good!! Loved the cooking with chad segment!!!

[@micaellyalves3367]

I'm new to the community but have been loooving your content! Already sent this video to a couple single girlfriends! God bless you two 🙏🏻

[@brinamarie9525]

This was too cute. I was laughing. Y’all are funny. I mean I liked the whole video and needed the advice, but the skit was funny.

[@kimberlykroemer2755]

Best cooking ad I’ve ever seen.

[@isabellalugada2328]

That green chef ad was priceless👌🏻😂 thank you for that hahah

[@katianegroni5974]

Praying for you both! Thank you for this❤️

[@ToriAndChad]

Thank you for being here! We appreciate you!

[@jamaalthompson2733]

That video was a blessing to me, thank you ❤

[@anaenns4912]

I got so excited when I heard to did a podcast with Jeanine! Can't wait to listen to it! I listen to her podcast a lot and I really connected with her story. Also I LOVE you guys and your content!!! God bless yous for all you're doing!🙌

BEST SPONSORED SEGMENT EVER😂😂😂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@ChelseaBarros]

Just found you guys thru Jordan and Milena and so glad I did! God bless you both 😊

[@natashapinerostachita9755]

“Your door!?” -insert mini hand gasp 😆😆 Chad I can’t…

[@oliviaholness7409]

Chad is hilarious. Absolutely love you both!!!

[@taniaannanil576]

Lots of Wisdom. Thank you Chad and Tori for investing time and giving us awesome videos. God bless and love you both:)

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww thanks for being here!!

[@jennifergonzalez9129]

Loving these conversations ❤️

[@tab6066]

understand where you guys are coming from @masters. maybe it's just semantics, but i do feel it's important to be careful with the ways we call things a blanket 'red flag' in someone/a relationship. if on the receiving end and someone says there is a 'red flag' - it can be pretty hurtful and unkind. everyone has issues and stuff they are working through. this does not always = red flag.

[@amylubrecht576]

This was literally the best and the most perfect timing - Thank you so much!

[@myagirl1997]

so cute, thank you guys, i got convicted but i needed this

[@cassiegibb1419]

I took SERIOUS NOTES😂 I feel like God keeps prompting this to me. Like little soft nudges. Like “pst hey Cassie pray for future hubs”. I can definitely relate to getting into a relationship and being in the sunk-cost fallacy. I didn’t see it that way at the time necessarily, but looking back I realize it was a big portion. It’s hard letting go, but God’s plans are so worth it. Without it I probably wouldn’t have found Christ, or it would be delayed. I really do look up to you guys as mentors, your love for Christ and each other is encouraging and uplifting. Sending love and prayers your way!🤍

[@abbyjoystudio]

wow, a signed non-negotiables list!👏🏼

[@keana._]

green chef and chef chad need a prime time show