Sex, couples therapy, and household chores! Brutally honest Husband Q&A

[@viikase]

Lady’s take notes 😅

[@ToriAndChad]

hahaha you said it, not me!

[@jemimaabraham5329]

Oh definitely!

[@all4hm179]

I am! 😂🤣

[@thefirewithinministries]

"My wife is God's daughter, so am I going to treat or react to her poorly, knowing all of that?" This is such a great perspective! It applies to all of us, single or married.

[@kara-h5678]

I've learnt so much about good men from Chad honestly, he has the purest kindest heart and isn't afraid to squash what society wants a "man" to act like. Godly men are the best! Hug our lovely Miss Victoria for me, I missed her today even though I absolutely *loved* the video and think y'all should do some more!

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww dang you are trying to get me emotional again... very thankful for you, Aaisha... thanks for doing life with us!

[@dsophie7816]

Me too! Honestly, I admire how intentional you are, Chad, and how mich you value you Tori and your relationship, and that might really seem like such nobrainer for you, but honestly it gives me so much hope and helps me set good standards. I can't really put it into words but yeah I'll just say thank you. It means a lot to see what a daughter of God deserves, and it means a lot to see you put in so much effort. My thoughts be like wow this exists! Wow this is how it is supposed to be! Nobody is perfect but even if it is messy it can be so valueing and honouring

[@kara-h5678]

@@dsophie7816 Couldn't have said it better myself! He's an awesome role model - he isn't afraid to cry, talks about mental health struggles, confesses and works on his mistakes, actively works on improving his character....list goes on! There's a lot of young men (and women!) who could benefit from having Chad as a an older brother, he makes everyone feel like they're enough as they are and shouldn't be afraid to be open and vulnerable. Love that!

[@dsophie7816]

@@kara-h5678 so true- I am so thankful to be able to learn from him and Tori

[@americaleon9402]

I don’t think “learnt” is a word boo it’s actually learned. 💜

[@sofiaiwaszewicz4251]

it’s so beautiful to see you cry, especially you being a man. it actually motivates me to leave my pride and let myself cry in front of others. you are a beautiful person Chad, i’m so happy to know you and Tori!!

[@ToriAndChad]

awww dang that is so sweet

[@deepshikhaanthony7025]

Love how chad is always coming in through with such intentionality and realness, so glad we have such people in this community!!

[@ToriAndChad]

I'm thankful that yall allows us to be honest and real... not many people have spaces like this to do so and we are so grateful for it!

[@michellehandy4160]

I was definitely not expecting to see myself when I clicked on the video but, oh my goodness, thank you! I love getting to say hi to Tori when she comes through and I hope that I get to meet Chad soon too! It really doesn't feel like I'm meeting "influencers," it's just like I'm catching up with a friend! Love you guys!

[@SamuelJayakumar]

I’m really digging this background behind you Chad. Can’t wait for the background in the new house.

[@ToriAndChad]

yes dude! It's going to be so rad!

[@ciaraliane2751]

This video was awesome! I laughed and cried with you Chad. Thank you for loving Tori so much and for being an example of a good Godly husband. Also the Picasso hair art work was hilarious LOL

[@ToriAndChad]

awww you are beyond kind, Ciara... thank you for doing life with us!

[@SamuelJayakumar]

My dude is crushing it with these questions. Hitting them out of the ballpark. 🤙🏻

[@ToriAndChad]

thanks a lot my man! Can't wait till we can be traveling to an F1 Race soon!

[@SamuelJayakumar]

@@ToriAndChad heck yeah dude! I cannot wait for us to watch an F1 race together. Lord please make it happen soon!!!!

[@ToriAndChad]

IN JESUS NAME!

[@SamuelJayakumar]

@@ToriAndChad Amen!

[@Lynchevelyn]

Don’t put pressure, forget about getting pregnant; just enjoy each other’s company and it will come along💕

[@edwardkhoury2424]

Chad my bro. This is too good. A grateful subscriber. I can't tell you how much I have learnt from this channel and from this video. God is using your channel to influence people and their relationships greatly. God bless you and Tori!

[@ToriAndChad]

Thanks a ton for showing up for us, God bless you too my man!!

[@nahfrtho8967]

Oddly enough, watching this felt more like a conversation than when you’re both on. I’m a big fan of this style of solo Q and A video! Thanks again for the insight

[@RobereFlombere]

First time really watching one of your videos. My wife really enjoys your channel and sent me this. I appreciate your vulnerability as I can relate to a lot of what you said. Our generation is desperate for men to rise up to the challenge of being a husband. I love being married and was inspired to hear you speak so highly of it too. Keep going!

[@siennajohnson2747]

YES CHAD! Thanks for your willingness to share and use your wisdom and experiences to encourage others. Praise God for how he is using you and your wisdom and convictions to witness to others! Can we please keep this series going?! Talks with Tori and Chats with Chad!! Love you guys❤️❤️

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww thanks for being here!!! I really love your idea for the talks with tori and chats with chad! That could be so fun to make a series!!! We love you!

[@amystout5195]

@@ToriAndChad I LOVE THAT IDEA TOO

[@ToriAndChad]

any guesses if I get emotional in this video?!!

[@veritygrace1257]

I’d say a solid yes? 😂

[@natashapinerostachita9755]

100% going to get emotional 😅😅

[@SamuelJayakumar]

Yes you did!

[@cynthiasilaghi7790]

maybe, possibly ? 😂 definitely haha

[@shwetav]

Yes :)

[@HowCoolisIt]

Chad! What’s up, my guy? The videos have been so influential to me during this season of my life. Appreciate y’all so much.

[@ToriAndChad]

Dang we appreciate that, Christian! Hope you are doing well!

[@jillianlewis1989]

Woohoo! Study break, literally me every time you post... The first one Tori did was amazing so I'm super pumped for this. Your encouragement always means so much especially since i am newly engaged and getting married in the spring. I still have a quote from your last video on a sticky note stuck to my computer :))

[@ToriAndChad]

hahah love it! Hope this video encourages you and gives you a nice break!!! What is the quote you used?!?!

[@jillianlewis1989]

@@ToriAndChad "Strive for progress not perfection!" And definitely encouraging and a nice break:) so thankful for y'all

[@ToriAndChad]

YES LETS GO! Love that one!

[@WordsPictures997]

This was SOOO GOOD!!! 😭😭😭 Chad and Tori you really are the Christian big brother and sister my soul needed. God bless you both!!! ❤️

[@karen_hockaday]

On the question of the role of being the leader of your household; Chad men need you, they need more men like you. What an encouragement you are for others! You and the path you are choosing are much to be admired. So many lives could change because they have someone to look up to! You will mean so much in this world for allowing the Lord to work through your life and use it for His glory. What a great leader you will be, not only in your household but a mirror for others. I see God in you. I know there are many men that will be blessed by this! Much love to you and Tori!!!😘

[@corrineainley]

My husband definitely had ideas about our wedding he was waiting to be married too. He chose all the music for our wedding. So special.

[@Greg_Orr]

Yesss Chad! You always give the best answers! Loved this video so much! Also side note… the city I’m from (Melbourne, Aus) is finally out of lockdown so praise the Lord! I hope you and Tori have the best rest of the week!

[@ToriAndChad]

Thanks a ton my man! So happy yall are out of lockdown... I can't begin to know how difficult that has been!

[@kathypamplona4191]

Loved this video, loved how vulnerable you got, it helps us women understand a man’s point of view and respect it even more.

[@iuliaturcas4348]

So glad you did this video! Love hearing your perspective, Chad! 👍🏼 Thank you for being so open and giving such great insight! Such a breath of fresh air in today’s culture! Keep up the amazing work you and Tori do! 🤍

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww thank you Lulia! We appreciate you as always! And thanks for allowing us to open and share with you!

[@iuliaturcas4348]

@@ToriAndChad ❤️

[@corrineainley]

Praying for you and Tory's journey to start a family.

[@shwetav]

Yay to getting what we asked for so promptly!! I loved how you answered the questions so honestly and with so much integrity and sincerity. Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew the couple together through the years... And I see those threads binding you two so beautifully! ✨ It may require an exorbitant dose of strength and resilience but the messages you as a couple put out in each video is a masterpiece in itself! I mean this from the bottom of my heart, you'll are the kindest and most valuable humans I've come across! 🤗 Thank you for everything.. love you a lot!! ❤ P. S - 95.1k is awesomeeee.. 100k.. here we come!

[@shwetav]

What touches me the most is how you always make time to reply to as many people as possible.. your responses are soo lovable. Thank you for acknowledging and respecting us so much. Its so rightfully said, 'You may forget what a person said but you will never forget how he/she made you feel'. 🧠❤

[@ToriAndChad]

hahah we couldn't help but do so!! Dang I love that! Chains do not hold a marriage together, but it is the threads of experiences that knit us together! So beautiful! Thanks so much for being here with us, Shweta! We love you so much!

[@ToriAndChad]

awww I do my best! Thank you for noticing that!

[@shwetav]

@@ToriAndChad you consistently do better than the best.. I'm so moved by every reply I've got so far! :)

[@shwetav]

@@ToriAndChad Love and respect you a lot!! Thanks for encouraging me so much!!

[@luanagonzalez5441]

Loving the encouragement!! We need to be more intentional to have Time with God! 🙌🏻💞 So excited to watch the video! God bless!!

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww thank you for taking the time to read it!!! yay!!!

[@allegravet]

So interesting to see the guy's perspective haha. Thanks for delving into hard-to-talk-about topics - seriously soo helpful! 🙌

[@ToriAndChad]

happy too! Thanks for taking the time to watch this!!!

[@neoandlykkecat]

My wife is chronically ill and can't do what she used to love to do anymore. She can't go out. She can't do chores around the house. She can't cook or do loundry ect. How can I make her feel that it doesen't matter what she can or can't do? All I care about is that she is alive and happy even when she's in a lot of pain. But can I support?

[@nanaronhano337]

Awww so sweet.

[@pursue.godliness]

I am sorry to hear about your wife. That is hard for both of you... I would encourage you to verbally communicate and affirm to her that she is loved, that your heart is for her just the same way as it was when she was able to "do'" more. As much as possible, even when the times you are frustrated or have to take over the chores, what can help her is if you do it with a good attitude and with a smile. If she sees that deep down it is hurtful or bothersome to you to do the things that she used to do, she will likely be hurt more. Even if she continues feeling 'not enough', your physical, emotional, and verbal affection towards her can be a large strength of support. May God bless you and honor your desire to serve your wife.

[@JMKrech]

LOVE this video! LOVE the advice! Chad you are a natural at this even on your own! Thank you for being so open and transparent. 🔥👌🏻

[@ToriAndChad]

Thanks for helping me be real and honest, Jman! It's people like you that encourage us to do this!

[@ivyevers8713]

Thank u sooo much. Loved hearing how different women/men think at times

[@vassiask6340]

This video was soo good! Thank you Chad for being honest and vulnerable! I teared up a lot of times too😂

[@ToriAndChad]

Thanks for allowing me to do so!

[@daniellekaufman8929]

Such a good video!! Just wondering if you guys could make one about how women can respect men and how men can love women or something similar? You guys talk about it a lot but I'm not sure how to practically carry it out? Thank you, love y'all 💛

[@gabriellemattox1061]

Thank you Chad for answering these questions super open and honestly! There were definitely quite a few that were so helpful for me and some of the things I've been wondering and worrying about as a girl that's newly engaged and soon to be married. I really appreciate the videos that you and Tori make and I love that I can tune into your videos and feel like I have mentors/friends pouring into my life even when I may not have that physically in my community set up right now. God Bless you guys! :)

[@sianroxanne]

Chad absolutely nothing wrong with how you cry in videos! Love it. Thanks for being real!

[@SheEquipsHerself]

Just subscribed after watching Michelle Reed’s video with Tori! Love this video. God bless you both!

[@AGSBallTrophy]

I love how quickly you guys do requested videos! I love you guys’ channel! I’m actually in Lakeland for a few days & it’s beautiful here!

[@esperancacapelao2424]

We missed you Chad… Thanks for the outro, you didn’t get it right again! 🤣🙌🏼 #Lessons #MasterClass

[@allisonlucas018]

Looking forward to watching this on my lunch break! It's going to be such a good video! Hehe maybe it'll help prepare me for being a wife one day 😂

[@ToriAndChad]

Wooo! Thanks for checking in with us, sweet Allison!

[@elisakrt]

Woohoo we all got the video we wanted, and so quick as well! Thank you for your advice, its always great to listen en to take notes for the future!

[@emanuelarose6671]

Thanks so much for your honesty, I’ve just listened to your first answer and I’m grateful you’ve been so honest especially about the porn addiction. Now I know how to help my guy and not take it personal.

[@shaughnsmit2076]

Was just listening to happy and healthy today! You both spoke so well!

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww thanks my man!!! We had a blast on it! Just had some technical difficulties!

[@jemimaabraham5329]

Awww 🥲 no words to explain how inspiring it was... Looking forward for God's best in my life!

[@ToriAndChad]

yes and amen! Hold out for God's best!

[@katiewollan2]

Thank you Chad. And Tori! My soon to be husband has always been independent and had alone time away from family and friends like Chad and I know that is what he needs some days, it’s time to himself. Wonderful confirmation from the Lord. Thank you!

[@beatriceanca]

Love the description! So encouraging and true!! 👍🏻

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww thank you for taking the time to read it! That means a lot!!

[@lis5708]

This was fun to watch😆some of these are so weird though, I respect you for not getting mad lol

[@ToriAndChad]

hahaha it's real!

[@siennajohnson2747]

ALSO I COULDN'T STOP LAUGHING AT YOUR *SULTRY LOOK* hahaha.

[@ToriAndChad]

hahahah same.

[@kimberlycgentle]

I love this. I'm getting married in December. I'll let my fiancé listen to this.

[@cocosmith12]

Congratulations 🎊

[@yvetterodriguez70]

Chad!! Thanks for being YOU! God bless!

[@SamuelJayakumar]

Hello Chick-fil-A Michelle. Congratulations on Subscriber of the week. Welcome to the club!

[@ToriAndChad]

SAM IS BACK IN THE COMMENTS!!! hahah Love it!

[@SamuelJayakumar]

@@ToriAndChad in Joey’s voice : “ YEAH BABY!!! “

[@ToriAndChad]

hahah I heard that in my head!

[@all4hm179]

Awww 😭😭 thank you chad! Love you guys ☀️

[@youtubchannel3822]

I love your advice so much ❤, I wondered so many of these questions that you already talked about in your videos I watched lately, God bless you

[@jaanviveluguleti467]

Wow Chad!! Thank you for being honest and amazing as always! So so grateful for lovely people like you Chad and Tori❤️❤️🤗🤗🙏🙏

[@ToriAndChad]

Thanks for taking the time to watch this and encourage us! We are grateful for people like you that keep us going!

[@jaanviveluguleti467]

@@ToriAndChad Love you guys soo soo much💖🥰

[@ToriAndChad]

We love you too!

[@keziaabraham375]

was waiting for this yayay!! may God bless y’all

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww yay! That makes us happy!!

[@amystout5195]

"Get ready for the smolder" that's the tangled quote you were looking for Chad

[@ToriAndChad]

hahahahah

[@hannahjames2906]

Gonna send this to all my guy friends. Super excited to watch this

[@ToriAndChad]

hahah love it! Hope they don't dislike the video haha

[@emmry7134]

Ah wauw, this was so precious. Thank you guys for being so open-minded ^^

[@SamuelJayakumar]

The last question was way too joosy but the reply was hilarious! 😂😂😂 “ Praise God! Hallelujah!!! “

[@ToriAndChad]

hahahah it's real!

[@trinityottens]

This is so good got me crying in the club!

[@legendsMartialArtsLLC]

Glad you’re telling better, Chad. And thank you for the video. Just don’t overwork yourself as soon as you’re back! 🤦‍♀️ Especially if you made yourself sick by over working/stressing then decide to make a video all by yourself. Lol Take care Chad & Tori 💜

[@deliarebecca]

Left you a DM on insta with a video suggestion that I think you'll have so much wisdom about 🙌 Thank you for helping us in every area of our lives, Chad and Tori!! So thankful for youuu ❤

[@Songwritersbehindthecurtain]

Congratulations 🎉🎊🍾🎈 on 95.2k subscribers.

[@1012345MB]

Thanks for the honesty in these answers!!

[@the.victorgeorge]

I haven't even watched this but I know it's gonna be good and very insightful.

[@SamuelJayakumar]

“You could buy a watch or a new truck (Porsche would do but yeah a truck is cool) “ 😂

[@ToriAndChad]

hahahahah

[@pilarglg5484]

"There’s like art on the wall *Chad simulating*" Now I can’t stop rewinding 🤣

[@serenityh.]

Me: *Looks at the thumbnail and sees Chad crying* Also me: *Let me get my tissues ready.* 😭 we love and appreciate the vulnerability from you guys. 👍🏽

[@SamuelJayakumar]

That description! 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻

[@ToriAndChad]

my guy!!!! Let's set that temperature!

[@taylorsutphen]

Tori & Chad you have set the bar !!!! I pray for a relationship that is as intentional and Holy Spirit filled as your marriage is. Thank you so much for your example as individual people and Godly marriage. 🤍

[@jazzye_92]

Lol the face from Tangled is what Flynn Rider calls "The Smolder😙" 🤣

[@nannyheather5640]

This is so awesome. ❤❤❤

[@emulove777]

Hi Bro this was a great video .Thanks for sharing and giving us advice. The best think is his Faith in Jesus. Chad and Tori have always said Pray for each other. 🙏

[@josalmon4742]

This is so scary to me to know how many men look at pornography and struggle.

[@vivaeuropa]

Honestly as someone who got freed from it 2 months ago when I surrendered to Jesus. The men who struggle with it because they're lukewarm and haven't really full accepted Jesus to takeover their life because the holy spirit is what stops that habit when the spirit enters your body and you apply God's word to your life it'll shield you from it.

[@lailavipal]

Hey Chad! First of all, thank you so much for this video! And could you maybe talk again about having good talks with each other... because I am a girl but I struggle with just letting them talk and not having a solution everytime, even when I am just talking with my girls... :)

[@7magi7]

Tori is lucky to have a man like you :)

[@brendalara1210]

honestly I'm athiest and usually CANT stand Christian vloggers. They always says problematic things like "Well men are the head cause they're men" " she does all the housework " Morgan and Paul for example are extremely toxic. but for you you say its because its a greater call to yourself. I'm gonna keep listening.

[@cocosmith12]

Who else looking and praying for her Chad!! # God am ready whenever you are😁🙏

[@marcovforte]

Oh my gosh hahaha Chad! “I knew these questions would come. Oh that sounds like a double entendre.” You dirty boy haha

[@Ladybug12.]

Chad crying is so refreshing 🤣 Cool looking guy, crying whaaaaaaa you don’t see that a lot.

[@lizk3558]

Oooh! Can’t wait to watch this evening!!!

[@ToriAndChad]

wooo Let us know what you think!

[@lizk3558]

That was great! I appreciate the thoughtfulness in your answers Chad!

[@evajoannacedro7885]

You inspire me, thanks so much!

[@Miracleshappentv]

Great video, love you guys. Keep making that great content

[@salmon_sashimi5137]

thanks for keeping it real man!

[@ToriAndChad]

Thanks for showing up for us, my man!

[@mikaylavandermerwe4062]

This is so inspiring🌈

[@sunshineanddaisies_]

This was so educational 😂

[@viikase]

Part 2!!!!

[@ToriAndChad]

dang yall are out here!!!

[@Iou655]

I love that you shared your struggle with pornography before getting married. That takes guts. But most of us get blindsided. Married for years with children before this comes out and its very traumatizing. wives neeed that support. Its called betrayal trauma

[@vivaeuropa]

Katie I'm curious if you don't mind me asking but how does that make a wife feel when their husband does this? Also does this affect your sex life in the way that your man desires pornography more than being with you?

[@ItsEverythingEuodia]

Just wanted to say i love you guys and thank you for your videos

[@arlettezempoalteca7040]

Amazing advice!!!! 😌😌😌

[@unciaciapanca]

The world Needs real Christian men/husbands!

[@veritygrace1257]

Chad in the houseeee

[@ToriAndChad]

V IN THE HOOOOUUSEEE

[@adoriahrichardson2684]

Loved this

[@aurorap.7578]

I'm not a man but I do know that men want to know that they have what it takes to do or be xyz and getting help is admitting that they don't have what it takes. If they can admit it though that opens the door to receiving what it takes.

[@SamuelJayakumar]

Chadwick takes over today’s video! Iykyk 😛 For those of you who don’t understand this comment, join the MastersFam Patreon and discord and you’ll know 🤓😉

[@kara-h5678]

Aww sounds so fun, y'all are awesome! One day when my bills are secure and debts paid, I'll drop by haha!!

[@ToriAndChad]

hahah SIRE CHADWICK

[@SamuelJayakumar]

@@ToriAndChad yes your majesty! 🤴

[@ToriAndChad]

hahahah

[@angelavanoosten1]

@@kara-h5678 would love to see you there one day!

[@keziahmukuhi6798]

Hope you are feeling better Chad ✌ lets goooooo

[@ToriAndChad]

Thank you sweet Kezzy!!

[@yihuiwang3494]

i know you mentioned this a few times, but how do you show respect for your partner?

[@peteysrib]

I'm at piano lessons I'll watch later. Have a good day!

[@ToriAndChad]

you have a great day as well!

[@peteysrib]

Thank you.

[@keana._]

lol it’s been way too long, loved the video man!!

[@lynnetnjokiwainaina4492]

The video was dope

[@samcashdan1255]

I think the reason why men are "afraid" of couples therapy is because men are told they're supposed to spiritually lead their household, their wife, and to be the man of the house, but then are instructed that "leading" equates to following the directions of a third party, i.e. the couples therapist. This of course is not leading at all, its letting a third party lead your marriage and your household. On a limbic level, a man's brain registers this paradox and incongruity, but being told by society and the church for so long that couples therapy is basically necessary and to not engage in it equates to "not loving your wife/household" or "not following Christ," there's an inner conflict inside that man's brain. And so his inner frustration is registered as "fear," and he is then shamed for it and psychologically coerced into going to couples therapy . . . or else ;)

[@RRMstudios24]

Bro finally someone I can relate to about random hairs all over the shower. Gross. haha