The Buddhist View on How to Handle a Difficult Person

[@feliciaagyemangyeboah2495]

Thanks so much.Nam Myo ho renge kyo Nam Myo ho renge kyo Nam Myo ho renge kyo.

[@margaretblaine5367]

My pleasure.

[@swatigautam4457]

No mam, i saw some kind hearted people who never even talk bad once,not even kill a mosquito accidentally, but they suffered a lot lot lot mam, They even don't get a single moments of happiness from their loved ones This is so heartbreaking mam Everywhere you said that our own past karma, but mam many kind hearted people are so genuine Y they suffered a lot, much more than limits??

[@margaretblaine5367]

I know, but you are seeing them in this lifetime where clearly they have learned some lessons. Yu don't see them when they created the causes which are manifesting in their situation. Remember the effects of our causes don't manifest until the time is right so it can be many lifetimes away from the original cause. Now they should chant to change their destiny and turn poison into medicine.

[@MyohoIsMe]

The causes that were made in past lives are hard to fathom, but the fact that that person is suffering, is a sign that negative causes were made in past lives. Or, the other reason may be that that person assumed that type of karma in order to transform his or her karma in this lifetime. There are 12 million people in SGI around the world, who can tell you the same thing, as they each experience change in their lives and in their environment. You would never know unless you are personally try it. When we meet someone like you describe, we share how we were able to transform our circumstances, by practicing correctly. Nam-myoho-renge-kyo is the Mystic Law of Cause and Effect. Margaret is very correct in her explanation, not only because of theories, but because she, herself has experienced, and those whom she helps, experience the same. However, that are some who will not experience, because they resist change. They are not willing to do human revolution. When you will be ready to change your mindset, and experience it, you will see change. But you cannot chant to change others. You have to change yourself. I am speaking for experience, as I used to be one who just could not take responsibility for my own happiness. I used to see myself as the victim of abuse and kept blaming the abuser. When I realized that as the cause of my suffering, I took responsibility, and transformed poison into medicine. You cannot say a strawberry is sweet, unless you actually eat it yourself. No difference here. Wishing you all the best. Nam-myoho-renge-kyo

[@adrianamirandabr]

Wooow you're so wise! I love to watch and rewatch your videos. They inspire me for SGI meetings and daily routine.

[@margaretblaine5367]

Thank you. I'm glad you like them.

[@jazzworkshopinc73]

Thank you so much, Margaret. I appreciate you so much and all of your profound wisdom and compassionate guidance. I am happily retired now and pursuing my dreams. It is important that we Buddhists continue to study and bring forth our own Buddha nature so that we can can see things clearly from the perspective of this wonderful teaching. Nam Myoho Renge Kyo 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@margaretblaine5367]

I agree. I think our practice is vitally important in the third stage of life.

[@missmaomi28]

This was pretty helpful for what I am experiencing right now 🙏🏾

[@margaretblaine5367]

I'm glad.

[@margaretblaine5367]

Your welcome and I hope the video is useful.

[@truluxury11]

Margaret GREAT VIDEO AS ALWAYS!! PERFECT TIMING!! can you pleaseeee do a video on fears and triggers-you mentioned in this video that jealousy may be a trigger bec of a previous partner. How can we use our practice to eradicate fear of karma repeating itself and 2) how to have all of our prayers answered! Thank you so much!!💕❤️❤️❤️🤗

[@zdoll12]

I'm so glad I found your channel. I've been chanting and a member of SGI since 2003. I am sharing some of your videos with members, friends and my Shaka bukus. I want to acknowledge that I love how you reference Sensei and the Gosho etc. I look forward to watching more and more and more! 😄😁🙏🏼

[@vinayakjain7018]

Thank you sooooòoooooooooooo much mam for perfect guidance 😊💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗

[@margaretblaine5367]

My pleasure. Hope it's useful.

[@jasminyulo4713]

Thank you so much for sharing this video🙏🙏🙏

[@JDLuffy]

barely slept well last night due to work relationship with my contractors at work. this morning woke up did my morning gongyo and decided to tune into your youtube again for some guidance and saw this particular video. i think the biggest challenge is this big shift from blaming or seeing the difficult/problematic person as the issue and looking back at ourselves to try calm down and chant to transform the situation. lately been trying to remind myself of doing my human revolution and go back to faith but when events occur, i still get suck back easily

[@margaretblaine5367]

It is hard but when we change, then the whole situation changes and other peple change. We have to start with ourselves.

[@JDLuffy]

@@margaretblaine5367 thank u so much Margaret, i will continue to try 💪🙏🌤

[@margaretblaine5367]

Good. Human revolution isn't easy

[@sunildharmadhikari1839]

Yayyyyy...finally the video is here...Beautiful question...thank you very much for such a wonderful guidance...😊😊

[@mariap9654]

Thank you so much for this video it helps me a lot to understand my practice

[@user-fb1ys2lj9c]

Margaret thank you I have been practicing for a few years. I often forget and focus on blaming I was raised in a society which blames others a lot and my past religious background also we were taught if we made negative causes it was consider a sin, therefore, we face punishment for our sins this sort of ingrained believe has confuse my Buddhist Practice in so many ways thank you for the reminder your absolutely correct and so relief I listen and refreshed my mind so many times I go back and forth with old beliefs blaming others

[@margaretblaine5367]

You're welcome.

[@jessicacole3167]

Margaret I encourage a women like you who wants to help others to seek true Buddhism at the base of mt Fuji in Japan. Nichiren Shoshu. The Dia Gohonzon is the most superior object of worship. I respect your Buddha nature be well

[@gaynelludohnichols1499]

Thank you!

[@lipikabora4774]

Thank you so much for this ❤️

[@kathycorey2836]

You are so right thank you for this discussion.

[@malizee2264]

Thank you, Margaret!

[@margaretblaine5367]

You are so welcome!

[@SD-369]

Thanks a lot for the guidance Margaret. Much needed. Thank you and stay blessed 💐🌞👍🙏

[@adrianamirandabr]

Thank you Margareth. I love your videos!

[@martaisabelvallini2967]

Margaret Thanks you for share 🙏

[@sonaliparida1044]

❤️❤️🙏🌿👍

[@user-fb1ys2lj9c]

And yes the other person hurt me with their words but I also take responsibility for the poor choices and causes we made to one another and I take accountability of my own karma

[@margaretblaine5367]

Good.

[@BrianJohnson-sv7dv]

Hi Margaret this is reanalysed helpful thank you. I wonder if you have info on how to deal with depression as SGI Buddhists? Brian 😊👍🙏

[@somodattabhattacharjee7597]

Margaret please help us understand the theme Gohonzon in inside us 🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@margaretblaine5367]

It just means we are one with the intelligent consciousness of the universe within. Think about it, we see it in one another's eyes. That intelligent life force is Nam-myoho-renge-kyo,. The Gohonzon represents it along with the ten worlds.

[@dioncallewaert1046]

I have no actual proof of a former lifetime

[@maureendunn79]

Or after life

[@MyohoIsMe]

The actual proof does not exist in the past or the future. It exists in the present! What kind of life are you living in the present? If you don’t like it, change your Thoughts, Words and Actions in the present, and if you continue doing that you can transform you karma in the three existences of past, present and future! It isn’t easy to do, if you have a big ego. I have been in hell and back several times because of my big ego! Then I made up my mind! And now I am happy no matter what happens!

[@jeangresham6397]

This is ridiculous because rh negative blood types are incapable of having karmic attachments, we are karmicless beings, so what is this really all about?

[@MyohoIsMe]

Jean Gresham I don’t know where you have learned that, but Karma does not discriminate by blood type or any other condition. Karma means action, actions are either negative or positive, those actions are stored in your being and although at death you cannot take anything with you, the only one thing that will follow you, whether you like it or not, is your karma.

[@jeangresham6397]

@@MyohoIsMe that is a lie.

[@jeangresham6397]

@@MyohoIsMe absolutely karma is reset at the GOD level before you come into this life, whomever told you differently is lying to you and only doing that to keep you in shame, guilt, fear and self condemnation darling, and that is the truth.

[@MyohoIsMe]

@@jeangresham6397 there is no such thing in Nichiren Daishonin Buddhism such shame, guilt nor blame, that is is something taught in religions such as Catholicism and other religions and probably even some forms of pre-Lotus Sutra Buddhism. But the Law if Cause and Eeffect (Myoho-renge-kyo) exists and cannot be denied. If walk in front of a moving vehicle, you get hit. If you walk in the rain you get wet, if you eat moderately you feel satiated, if you eat too much, you may some type of negative effect. Sometimes you do feel it right away, but if you keep eating too much, you may some type if disease later. All is is cause and effect. All create karma, some actions create good karma and others negative karma. Karma is not sin. Perhaps you need to research it a bit more! I take responsibility for my own happiness, I don’t leave up to to an external deity of someone or something! Wishing true happiness!

[@jamesmiller6427]

Son unos YOURGIRLS.Uno de los mejoresg conciertos Mañas no 8 se l 💯💞😍