The BULLETPROOF Response When She Says She's "Not Ready to Date"

[@MetalCooking666]

I don’t believe anyone who says they’re “not ready to date”. It’s the kind of thing people say just before they go out with someone else. If you ask them why they say “oh, it just happened…”

[@sdvogo1520]

I totally agree but keep in mind that hard times will come as you have to be around (if you want her at all cost) but you MUST NOT fall in friendzone

[@NicholasNgecu07]

There are some truths to what you are saying but I respectfully disagree with you partially in that, almost all of the times a lady tells a man she's not ready to date, it means just that (she does not want to date him specifically) and the worst mistake a man can make is continuing to pursue the lady in question. I twice made this mistake and it ended badly.

[@snickerdoodle794]

Your office looks like we’ve traveled back to the 1950s. I love the nostalgic vibe

[@statma4274]

Literally just used this earlier today in a cold approach. Had a great conversation with a girl in a clothing store, and when I went for the # at the end, she said she just wanted to focus on school, had just gotten out of a bad relationship, and didn't want to think about dating. I just told her something like "Well hey, I really don't want to overwhelm you, you really seem like an interesting person. I'd just like to get to know you better sometime." Something along those lines, and I got her #. This video definitely helped me out in this situation.... great stuff!

[@FluidSocial]

That's awesome to hear brother, congratulations! How is everything going for you two months on?

[@statma4274]

@@FluidSocial things are good man. I’ve been staying pretty consistent w/ the approaching and have been happy w/ some of my results. Doing my best to integrate it into my everyday life which is the new challenge for me

[@uncle_salty_3675]

Chad

[@biggusdickus7089]

Did you eventually meet her out in person after you got the number?

[@andyfangaf]

If she's not ready to date I'd respond with: "I've never liked the pressure of 'dates' either, but I find you interesting and didn't know how else to go about getting to know you. Any ideas?" Then you can either go with her response, or if she's indecisive, suggest a low-pressure hangout like a walk in the neighbourhood. What's often not talked about is that commitment comes from investment, and that goes both ways. So instead of being the pushy car-salesman, you can be the honest, understanding partner who shows her that social connection is all upside and no downside. But I think this starts with auditing yourself. Do I really need to get her in that casino bar? Or ~ do I have the confidence to bring the party to any situation? Do I genuinely want to get to know this person? Or am I just being deceptive to get laid?

[@FluidSocial]

yeah that could work! Good idea mate. Any other topics you want me to discuss?

[@andyfangaf]

@@FluidSocial one topic that my friends and I struggle with and I don't see talked about is: An attractive girl usually has no shortage of rich, good-looking, well connected men in their circle who would gladly date her. How do you compete with that and set yourself apart? I've recently started meeting these girls and it seems like they assume you are those things and judge you on it. What is it that women want to feel that most guys (even "very successful guys") can't give her? In other words, how do you not play the commodity game and instead have her see you as uniquely compatible and amazing? I'm very curious to hear if you've discovered any secrets to this mystery.

[@andyfangaf]

@@FluidSocial actually I just watched your videos on "Being a lover of women". Curious if you have anything to add to it or if you have any book recommendations?

[@FluidSocial]

Ready the alabaster girl by Zan Perrion

[@Paveldude]

Happy New Year! Thanks for consistent good content. Wishing you, and everyone watching, a successful 2022

[@FluidSocial]

Welcome man! Likewise man!

[@guillaumebenoit362]

hey Sam if she says that she's not ready to date I'd suggest to grab a cookie and walk together along the docks early in the afternoon

[@tevinjohns5965]

You are the shit bro. This is so powerful. Something so similar happened to me. And I responded like it was said in this video - how ironic - and she still didn't respond too well. The thing is, I am not sure if she understood it properly.

[@arse_nal0079]

Firstly, I wouldn’t be going out with a girl who tells me she isn’t ready to date. Secondly, She said she wasn’t ready to date, there can be several reasons for that. You are making an assumption about her being under pressure. She could really be uninterested in dating or dating you. In summary, you might be prescribing meds for the wrong ailment. Never make assumptions about women-speak, always ask ”what do you mean?”-Corey Wayne❤

[@FluidSocial]

Actually agree with all of that. If I had 2 hours to go into the nuance (whilst keep everyone’s attention) I would mention that. Sometimes you’ve got to make some assumptions to get the content out and get eyes on it! But You’re right ! 👍🏼

[@hx4zx]

Happy New Year Sam and all the best for a successful 2022 for us all.

[@FluidSocial]

Welcome brother! Happy New Year!

[@LeadingInnovations]

hey sam, much appriciate every vid from you! thanks for delivering so valuable information about such difficult topics as dating and man to woman. ps: i already subscribed long time ago!

[@FluidSocial]

Thanks bro, anything else you'd like to see from the channel?

[@minimuffledcrackles]

Hi, what about something along the lines of "I'm not planning on growing a relationship with anyone anytime soon?" She mentioned that the reason she said this is that she just says this to every guy she meets "just incase" and leaves it at that. The reason I think she said this because I sent a text message saying good morning to her one time and told me that right off the bat. I need help. Thank you.

[@jeroenkooij3951]

Hey Sam great content and thanks for the insight. For me and a lot of guys this is really good to keep focus on her instead of your own. Greetings from Holland

[@FluidSocial]

You’re welcome brother! Thanks for the support 🙏🏼

[@johnbingaman3645]

What it means is.I'm just not ready to date you.. If she was attracted to you she would be saying yes,, Hey , why should at home and look at The four walls When I can be entertained She rejected him anyway.Attractions , not a choice

[@mauricemboula5869]

This is a great advice. Thanks

[@LJYouTube1981]

Ehhh.. as a woman who is currently in this situation I would ask bluntly Are you not ready to date or are you not ready to date me. I met a great match for myself but I was separated & didn’t feel comfortable until my divorce was final. I told him I wasn’t ready yet but that I was open to seeing him again. He backed wayyyy off so then I regretted saying anything at all. I had other suitors come in which I just wasn’t interested in at all so in that case I would’ve said I’m not interested in dating you vs I’m not ready.

[@39utopiaman]

I wouldn't advise this it's to easy to mess up and end up in friendzone and also saying I don't see it as a date is lying and manipulation. Best thing I can tell yall is don't beg and walk away with a door open in the future for her cause you have options.

[@calebwade2834]

What if you did this at first and then confronted her about not hanging out? How can you re-correct this behavior?!

[@doubleespressoshot]

Love that perspective. However, what I dont understand is when I reframe it as "not a date" and then try to do all the things on the meetup and possibly even try to kiss her or get her home, it is a date for sure and therefore perceived inauthentic. Which she will realize as well I assume. Or should we then go for multiple dates before trying to kiss or pull her (with risk of being friendzoned)?

[@FluidSocial]

Not perceived as inauthentic. The point is is doesn’t ‘have’ to be a date. You go to meet up, and it happens that you find her attractive so you express that, with no expectation of anything from her, and she does or does not reciprocate. Either way it’s completely clear to her that you don’t mind either way.

[@ollyredding6933]

Haha literally just said this to a girl because she said “im not ready to date yet, maybe one day” she was showing lots of interest with voice notes etc Wtf never had this said to me in my life

[@MrXbox36022]

Nah im good,if I have to convince her she can stay she at,

[@benjaminbuadi6640]

Great info,like that

[@CertifiedGigaChad]

Sam, what you say sounds logical, but the fear / problem is: Won't you be spending too much time girls who want attention but nothing more, rather than moving on to find girls who are open to dating? There is a book called "High Probability Selling" which basically drills the point that spending time on people who aren't qualified is the worst use of our limited human life. I am curious about your opinion on this, because for every 1 girl who could take things further, you'd probably end up with 9 other afternoon dates that will stay platonic. Or is this an "unjustified myth"?

[@FluidSocial]

Interesting point. My experience is that if a girl says she is not ready to date, that is how she feels right now. But how she feels changes moment to moment. If she (right now) isn't ready to date, but she finds herself with a guy whom she likes, who makes her feel sexy and relaxed, then her actions and feeling will change. Men lose many women by not adapting to the woman, by not following her vibe and becoming what she needs in the moment, and this is a very obvious example of that failure to adapt

[@javo10ful]

@@FluidSocial too much chasing here. If she finds you attractive she will be interested in going on a date with you. If she is saying she not ready, she could be one of those peoples that need to heal first before dating. In that case, don’t deal with those women and just move on because it will be a headache and waste of time. You thinking that you can be mr knight and shining armor and try to heal a person is going to backfire. This isn’t some telenovela or Hollywood romance movie. This is real life, none of that stuff you see on tv works. So you just need to move on and find someone else. It’s called being a man with high value. You recognize that you can find other women to date and that it’s okay if one women turns you down, then you simply find another women. If she isn’t interested, then don’t settle for less. Don’t think being her friend and changing her mind over time will work because it probably won’t. You’ll just likely end up on the friend zone. A high value man makes their intentions clear from the beginning. In other words have some fucking balls and stand up for yourself on what you want rather than just simp like the majority of men do.

[@FluidSocial]

​@@javo10ful who are you speaking to brother?

[@javo10ful]

@@FluidSocial I replied to you brother

[@javo10ful]

@@FluidSocial god bless your eternal soul

[@julietteahraribas5731]

Great video Sam! But aren't you putting yourself into the friendzone category and she says you as a friend instead of a future boyfriend or a quick f*ck?

[@FluidSocial]

Nope. That frame is down to how you behave when you meet her. Nothing is set in stone at the start of a relationship (when you don't know one another well)

[@diego6697]

Everything is so common sense but we lost it on the way somehow. We just need to reencounter it.

[@iainsmall9748]

fantastic video!

[@mohamoudadan390]

what if she says lets get to know eachother better first b4 we date ?

[@Daquan0394]

That’s impossible Bcos they’ll be nothing to talk about… might aswell start fucking

[@Daquan0394]

Broooooo I wish I seen this came out 2 years ago 😰😪😴

[@21Strikerz]

She could be saying that as a way to soft reject you. Otherwise, I'd go with a persistent approach of asking her out often instead of pressuring her to go out somewhere. It's likely she would attach the connotation of date anyway. Otherwise I'd be a giving her the control of choosing the location/activity - this way she is committing to the fact of having a date. Then ofc, it's unlikely she would do this if she doesn't want to in the first place.

[@zatarawood3588]

I thought at the end you were going to say as in the Kipling poem ... the world will be yours and whats more you will be a man :) Gave you a like.

[@FluidSocial]

Next time brother, next time. I’ve done the Robert Frost in a previous video!

[@danielefusca8927]

Straight to the point and fair enough. Very good content !

[@FluidSocial]

Thanks 🙏🏼

[@kristobonanni7678]

Are you serious!! So your advice is to go on a date/non date by agreeing and settling to not only her terms but going under false pretenses to mask someone’s true intentions in this case the man’s. You’re using a formula that is used for business on a woman/women…. Where did you get your degree from “Capt Crunch”!! Red Pill Alpha/Sigma men, say, “Hello, I’d like to take you to (wherever).. If she says anything other then “Okay” the man replies, Okay cool and walks away, the strongest position at this point of a confident man is to walk away, period. And if she comes running or calls in the future great if not her loss. You don’t use these “Used Car salesmen tactics” on women. Read some books, go back to school your advice is ridiculous.

[@FluidSocial]

If you can put this in 1 sentence I’ll read it and get back. Too long

[@GoldF4TE]

2:15

[@shabuddin4723]

Hey Sam. If she was not ready to date I would probably introduce her to this Messenger group I'm in with cool link-minded people!

[@FluidSocial]

Someone's been doing their homework ;)

[@Daquan0394]

What?

[@FluidSocial]

The FCS, link in description, qr code in banner 👌🏼

[@21Strikerz]

Was watching alex hormozi vid before this one. Pretty cool lol.

[@FluidSocial]

That guy is the GOAT

[@21Strikerz]

@@FluidSocial He definitely is. His book $100m offers - changed my agency entirely.

[@FluidSocial]

What’s your agency ?

[@21Strikerz]

@@FluidSocial Heyy sorry for the late reply! I usually have my notifications turned off with unhook... So I run a email marketing agency for ecom stores.

[@חייםכהן-ע6ט]

👊🔥👌

[@banarbasobiajunwa5523]

Beautiful