The Critics are WRONG when it comes to Being a TRADWIFE

[@michelletackett9489]

The funny thing is, the people who love to stereotype traditional women, hate it when people stereotype them. Hypocrisy at its finest.

[@CynthiaL]

I definitely do notice a lot of stereotyping, dismissing. I’ve already had ppl on this video even comment like they didn’t even bother to listen to my perspective. It’s very dismissive

[@TheAudMom]

This is what really makes my jaw drop when I see influencers ragging on SAHMs and acting like we are uneducated, lazy, etc. I’ve had hard jobs outside the home, I have a master’s degree, and take on countless new homemaking and homesteading skills every year. None of it was as hard or as rewarding as watching my children grow and keeping a warm, loving home. It is the most beautiful sacrifice AND gift to empty ourselves out of love. They just don’t understand, I guess. Why can we not just champion moms for wanting to be their best for their families? Love the video, Cynthia, it made doing the dishes even better. 😎❤

[@CynthiaL]

I find arguing with these types of people really odd, because I once got into that same debate and noted that I have 3 degrees actually… but they always find something to gaslight you about. Anyway, I agree with what you’ve said 🩷

[@thetoybox4333]

No one should ever be criticized for living their life the way they want to.

[@jamiestanley9234]

Totally agree!

[@sarahweber9181]

I wish more people would talk about having a job not protecting women for bad relationships or abuse. I have known and experienced very well educated women that are not in good/healthy relationships or are experiencing abuse. They have jobs and sometimes are the only income earner. I growing up I was told “just get educated and have a job and you won’t have to worry about abuse” (in so many words). Not putting up with abuse has to do more with healthy confident women that value themselves. And in this economy you can’t always leave an unhealthy relationship because even though you are educated and have a job you can’t support your children alone. So much more to say on the topic, but as much as I want to be a stay at home mom I can’t and even if I could, I would want to work from home to some degree.

[@CynthiaL]

Exactly, if we truly care about women and abuse we have to look at other red flags and factors, not just tell them that their dreams of marriage etc. are invalid. Also, working from home is a great way to set things up in your life as well! Thanks for your comment Sarah 🩷

[@jamiestanley9234]

I never thought I’d want to stay at home. Then I got married and had a child and love being home. I do have a degree although I’ve never used it. We do have multiple life insurance policies and we have built a close community of friends that would never let me fall. I see the value of every woman in society whether they work or stay at home. We’re all important 🙂

[@melindaroop1346]

Having a baby, changes you.

[@jamiestanley9234]

That’s the truth!

[@lupita6450]

Thank you for this video !! My biggest dream in life is to be a traditional wife and a sahm, but it seems like it’s not a valid dream for anyone, watching your videos is sooooo inspiring!!! Thank you so much for sharing ♥️♥️♥️

[@CynthiaL]

It is a valid dream! Don’t lose hope🩷

[@lupita6450]

@@CynthiaL aaaw thank you so much!!! Women like you always remind me that my dreams are valid and possible ! I know I can be discouraging for you to hear all the criticism but there’s the whole oposite side where your are a huge inspiration for many of us♥️

[@bunny_0288]

It is valid! The key is to always budget off of whatever your husband makes. That's what my husband and I did. We have always lived off of his income... Since day 1. He made $12 an hour and we lived in a tiny one bedroom apartment. We shared a car, but it was important to us that we never relied on my income to live. My income has always been "extra." I've never worked more than part time because homemaking was always my priority. Just know that it may take sacrifices. Living in a lower cost of living area, not being able to go out to eat as often as you want. Buying things second-hand, etc. But for us, my husband has been able to quadruple his income over the last 13 years of marriage. And he says a big part of that is because I stay home. I allow him to rest/recharge so he has more energy to pour into his work. Studies show that men with stay at home wives are more successful than men with working wives.

[@lupita6450]

@@bunny_0288 woow thank you so much for sharing!! It’s so inspiring and encouraging to read this! ♥️♥️ I will take note from your experience! Thank you! Have an amazing day!

[@lilygreen4000]

You do not look rough you look beautiful! I am a traditional wife and mother as well, and I loved this ❤. People talk smack about this lifestyle however, every single friend I have who is unmarried with no kids and working absolutely hates it.

[@CynthiaL]

Thank you!! 🩷 i too have many friends who wish they could be married and have kids. I’ve heard it’s really hard out in the dating world the last few years

[@quartzidot4202]

​@@CynthiaLIt is because of horrible women like you why we don't want to be mothers. I want to be a mother, but you make me feel like a failure. I resent you.

[@rachellemini8632]

Oh my goodness, I was watching Tamron Hall the other day and this was the topic of her show.. I was thinking of you! I hadn’t realized how hot this topic has become.

[@CynthiaL]

I heard that she talked about tradwives! I haven’t watched the segment yet, although I do feel like a lot of media gets it wrong when it comes to tradwives

[@gemsandpearlswithlove]

I love how perfect you addressed this!!💕🎀

[@bunny_0288]

As a homemaker, what's interesting to me is that the number 1 comment I get is that I should have a career just in case something happens to my husband. It makes me sad, because it shows me how many people live in fear and make life decisions from a place of fear. For us, we have life insurance and disability insurance and money in savings just in case anything were to happen. I choose to live my life in the way that makes me happy, and if something were to ever happen, I would pivot and figure it out then. And I always wonder what someone does if you are relying on 2 incomes and something happens. That seems way more stressful. Because how does 1 person make 2 salaries?

[@wolfsmaid6815]

We don´t have any insurances, if something happens to my husband then we will figure something out. I believe in going with whatever life/god throws our way.^^ All the best to you and your family.

[@CitySlickerButtKicker]

Its not living in fear. Its preparation, just like parents who put their toddlers in swimming lessons, is it done out of fear or for just in case situations. We all hope it doesnt come to that, but if it does, at least you have the skills to swim through life.

[@wolfsmaid6815]

@@CitySlickerButtKicker giving a toddler swimming lessons doesn´t take anything away though. Pursuing a career "just in case" robs you of thousands of hours of your life, makes you have to put your children into the care of strangers etc. So I´d say pursuing a career when you actually want to have a family is not the best way to prepare.

[@CitySlickerButtKicker]

@@wolfsmaid6815 I am telling you this because I had been married for 22 years, 3 kids myself, on and off SAHM and a TradWife. I have 3 career skills under my belt plus a business of my own and I didnt sacrifice my motherhood for it either. None of my kids went to PreK, all learned how to read a whole book by 4 because I also was able to homeschool them when I had time. I am glad you're happy now and you seem to have life all figured out. But it seems so many young moms and newlywed wives are so quick to be experts in this, you hardly see older women in their 40s and 50s pushing this. Almost all of the older moms with adult kids will tell you, have assets of your own or a valuable career skill. I used to work in a law firm and many divorce lawyers, including few I know personally who worked the field 30+ or 40 years will tell you the ones who struggle the most post divorce are SAHM, yes, even Christian wives and they make up a big percentage of clienteles in their offices. The "critics" are not criticizing for the sake of disdain for the lifestyle choice you make, many were in those very same shoes. It actually hurts them to see another women who pushed them away for being haters, suddenly put in the predicament that they were warned about. I worked in an all womens spa facility and gym in my 20s for 10 years prior to working in law, all the perosnal stories you hear behind closed doors about their marriage and family life, many were traditional moms, stories like yours and others, but its seldom a sweet one if youre lucky to hit the 15 year mark, without the spouse cheating, being abusive in anyway (physical, emotional, or even financial), or playing the weaponized incompetence and the wives do everything. Thats why 75% of all autoimmune diseases are of women, many wives and mothers and this is developed from emotional and mental stress. Content creators are not traditional btw, they sell the idea of women not working to care for their children while they work on social media as a supplement to their families income. If you are against women working, then where are your comments to tell them to get off of social media and go take care of their babies.

[@bunny_0288]

@@CitySlickerButtKicker Like I said, we have life insurance and savings and disability insurance, but I'm not going to have a career that I don't want just in case something may happen to my husband. That's what I'm talking about. I've literally had people tell me I should not be a homemaker at all "just in case." It just makes me sad for people who don't live their dreams because they are so scared of the "what ifs" in life. I agree that it's a good idea to have a reasonable level of protection. That's what life insurance is for. I would rather enjoy every moment of my life now doing what I love. And if something ever happens, and I need to get a job.... I will figure it out then. I do have a college degree, so I have options. But I refuse to live my life now based on something that may never happen. I refuse to make myself miserable with a job and a life that I hate based on just in case. I won't live a "what-if" life.

[@tinagrady7209]

I'm a traditional wife for 31 years now I have been able to raise my children and now my grandchildren 2yr and 3 and the other 3 yes I worked sometimes while my kid's were in school part time I now get paid a minimal amount to babysit full-time my youngest two grandchildren we have a 26yr autistic son who still needs me and always will my husband and I don't go on date's I'm off on the weekends and he is off on Thursdays but he works 3rd shift so we are together all day long and we love every minute of our time together ❤️ the only date we go on is our anniversary one of our children watch our son and we make a day of it. I wouldn't trade my life with anyone else.

[@thegreatdusky3305]

I love staying home. For the first 6 years of my marriage I didn’t stay home I had a full time job. And now I cook and clean and do some odd stuff on the side to generate some extra income but my husband never made me we just talked about me not returning to work after being off and we are much happier for it.

[@br7990]

I saw a video by Stephanie Lange dissing trad wives & saying they were creepy, among other mean & just not true comments she made. She showcased mostly odd “tradwives” that would of course make all trad wives look weird in the way she presented her weak argument. It was such a ridiculous video & just mean. She unfortunately showed clips of you & Estee as well.

[@CynthiaL]

A lot of the Tradwife criticism is actually bullying and not objective feedback, sadly

[@Mrs.Deanna_Ember]

Lange and those like her don't realize how crass and hypocritical they can come off, or how extreme many of their own views are. Much of that crowd went so far to the left that they are practically in another dimension and look like they don't bathe half the time, so it's difficult for me to take them seriously or to regard them as "logistical" people.

[@Hyliea]

Stephanie Lange is a hypocrite. She shames people for views.

[@Rzr543]

Cynthia, there is absolutely nothing you have ever conveyed on any of your KZbin videos that could be legitimately criticized in any way, shape or form. In my opinion, your KZbin channel should be required viewing for all girls and young women worldwide. You are a magnificent spokeswoman for the messages and ideas you passionately promote. Don't change a thing. Mike

[@jaysee8349]

Thank you for being here. I've watched you since before your kids came (and before I was married). I see your content in a whole new practical light now!

[@sugarywords]

I like to watch several perspectives from women and what i love with the definition of traditional woman os that you can keep this 50's idea and it's beautiful but i also love the definition of Jen Fulwiller because it just makes sense, and she actualy got that idea from interviewing old people about their moms and grandmothers.

[@CynthiaL]

I vaguely remember what she said, I’ll have to look it up! Also yes, different perspective are good as long as they are all respectful

[@Sawsan351]

I'm a traditional women, not a housewife yet...

[@jovabarris8789]

You're right... being a traditionalist isn't nearly as common (or isn't nearly as common to broadcast to others). There is a feeling of loneliness as a homemaker. The only homemakers who I know of are those who I've never met but follow and socialize w/ online. I've attempted to initiate some conversations w/ just a couple of women in our small town regarding my "career" and the backlash hadn't been great... these women seem to believe that only women w/ children should be homemakers. Though, I've noticed their inability to clean their own homes as to prioritize social media and falsified eyelashes in comparison to embracing traditional gender roles within the home. Seems like jealous women.... from what I've gathered. Regardless, I count my blessings everyday... hopefully, I'll become a mom within the next couple of years... just because I'm childless; doesn't mean I don't want children... patience is key. I'm happy that you may be able to relate when considering your fertility journey. Anyway, thank you for your informative content. Always enjoyable to watch.

[@orchidswithnina]

Hi Cynthia, lovely video, thank you for it. I randomly thought of you and wanted to catch up. So nice to see some new uploads from you. God bless you and your beautiful family. Nina xx

[@CynthiaL]

Nice to hear you’re checking back on the channel, thank you 🥰

[@floralfaun]

Shut 👏🏼 them 👏🏼 down Cynthia!!! 💗 Thank you for this video, we all know these things unfortunately those "critics" probably dont care to actually see our perspective and just want to feel superior 😅

[@Amy-i1g]

The haters should worry about themselves🤪. That baby is so adorable and happy 😊💐 you have a beautiful life and family. 🌷

[@ladykathrynperry9094]

Hi Cynthia, respect is the key. A man needs to respect your choices as you do his.

[@TheWellNourishedHomemaker]

Well said sis!! ❤

[@lindaleclair8938]

Lovely to see you again, Cynthia!

[@Zbird123]

Great video and points! Your amish comment made me laugh😂

[@heyiamsarahb6774]

Out of topic ,your baby is too cute 😊 I hope I ll have a baby girl soon ❤❤

[@cleopatrablackwell3414]

No offense meant but we need Trad Wives from our Yellow collar workers. I'm one of them, and there's zero representation for us on KZbin or anywhere else. Honestly it makes me want to start my own channel just so Wives with husbands making less than 70,000$ a year. Families are being forced to live on 40-50,000$ a year. I don't have room in my budget for seasonal decorations or fancy products that someone pays me to push. But I'll show you how to stretch a chicken to make your grocery budget easier and how many uses that Dawn dish soap truly has. We are tired of fake give us the real grit on Pioneering a living in this dystopian America.

[@cleopatrablackwell3414]

I feel like truly for the most part, homestead and peppers are still seen as middle class. This is not that kind of comfortable lifestyle. I'm talk about the true Grit life of the Southern American people right now. I'm pioneering a path for homemakers during a time when Big Daddy Government has most of the control over low income God fearing families, trying to live as He intended. ​@@AW-zp7od

[@EllenDocker]

Love this video Cynthia!

[@TheButterflyFairy]

Being married to a man who doesn’t protect and provide for the woman is the real financial abuse but anyways I digress !

[@CynthiaL]

It can definitely feel very lonely and vulnerable for a woman

[@Hannaheh94]

The funny thing about women who mock/criticize trad wives is that they would NEVER DARE to criticize a traditional woman from a Middle Eastern, Asian, or African background. They would call those women's acts of service and modesty beautiful and defend those women's choices to live how they want. Double standards!

[@eternitysafro1083]

BINGO!!!! It’s so backwards and disgusting how they think. When Christian/Catholic women in the Western world/popular first world countries do it then we are demonized.🤦🏿‍♀️

[@melissa9075]

Great video. Agree.❤

[@HomemakerDaze]

Im a great cleaner buy learning to cook is hard i better hurry up and improve!

[@CynthiaL]

It takes time, I’ve improved so much these past years

[@wisewomanhealing]

Don't you just 'love' it when people who are not part of a movement try to set up the rules for people who are in the movement to follow? NOT

[@ambersummer2685]

Idk why but finding a traditional man seems like a rare find. Feels like I’m looking for the 2% of the male population.

[@CynthiaL]

It is rare, but also a lot of men are afraid to talk about it because they get labelled as abusers.

[@ambersummer2685]

@@CynthiaL I’m afraid to talk about it because I don’t want to be labeled as delusional or a gold digger😅

[@stephanie4718]

I think a lot of them don’t advertise because like Cynthia said they get labelled as abusive, oppressive, etc etc, but also I think a lot have kind of given up on finding a traditional woman. I listen to a lot of my husband’s friends talk about this and lament how hard it is to find traditional women and how no women want to be treated like ladies anymore, how women now just want to bust ba//s and emasculate them… it’s depressing. I think traditonal women need to make it clear that they are traditional and that that’s what they want to any potential suitor so men who want the same but are losing hope feel encouraged to reach out.

[@ambersummer2685]

@@stephanie4718 I think that’s why some traditional women kinda give up and give in. The men don’t know or don’t seem to care.

[@alexanderhummel8949]

Man here. There are many outthere. Just look at the passport bros. Those are mostly well educated upper-middleclass men, who go to Asia to find a tradwife. A wife who is willing to stay home as long as the kids are young. Millions of passportbros! Not 2%!

[@Laure__Line]

I don’t think the people who criticise traditional wives have women’s best interests at heart. I think they’re more irritated by traditional wives stalking the feminist agenda by « going backwards ».