The Death of Dating!

[@ingridhavnen3303]

That was a really brave chat Mark. Would love to tease this subject out but unfortunately your subscriber numbers would drop dramatically because I am a western Women. l have followed your channel for a very long time but never comment. Take care and best wishes to you, Jen and beautiful Bub 🇳🇿👍🏻 I like your thinking and all though I don’t always agree with your opinions or views, your not a Misogynist.. Your son will be raised with a healthy respect for women. Please delete this message because the majority of your male subscribers will be incensed and I don’t want to cause you any harm.

[@everymanhasastory]

No. I am thrilled that you watch my channel. And I value your opinion. Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to share your thoughts 😊

[@L4P-Monk]

Nothing to be incensed about. You offered a fair opinion. The thing everyone should remember is that we all have different experiences in life. Things are not always what they seem. These days I resist judgment and comparison. I leave that to someone else. My time is better spent traveling and exploring. Take care. God bless.

[@messer1096]

Incensed by your comment?! Huh?!

[@Koza480]

@@ingridhavnen3303 I am an American male and I am not incensed about comments. I respect your opinion and you certainly have the right to express your opinion.

[@josephsassone3753]

There are not a lot of female subscribers on these expat KZbin channels. We appreciate the female perspective you can bring to the subject. We especially want to hear from Western women because we're Western men. We know what Filipinas are all about. Many of us have been burned by our own women. That's why we escaped to Southeast Asia. I'll stop pontificating now. 🤫

[@TimmyCramer]

Best decision of my life was not getting married!!

[@thylacine1962]

Best decision i ever made was getting divorced and staying that way.

[@AGent0pting0ut]

Marriages offer very little over what a relationship can offer but with an endless amount of existential outcomes

[@ScooterOnHisWay2024]

Western women are 100% to blame. Next question! 😊

[@Koza480]

Good video. Very good prospective. I was married to an American. Our marriage fell apart. I don’t blame my exwife for everything. No doubt a lot or even most of it may have been my fault. I have since married a Filipina in Dumaguete in 1987. I decided I was going to try and be a better person. We are still married and we are living in the U.S. I am a human being and I know I have made mistakes in this marriage but not like the mistakes I made in my former marriage. My Filipina wife is a great person and she has made a lot of sacrifices for me. When I die she gets every cent that we have because she deserves it.

[@Sweet-T-Mama]

Thanks for doing this video Mark! You're Exactly 💯 right! Thank you 😘

[@Jrmyf77]

My ex wife took care of the mechanic that worked at the shop next door while I was at work.

[@marksjourneytothephilippin9574]

9/10 divorces are Initiated by women and the #1 cause of divorce is over money. And #3 or so is if he gets hurt. Men are easily content we’re happy with a bean bag chair and a tv. Women are the ones who need the big house, the nice car, the big walk in closet for all her clothes and bags. Her expensive bags and shoes etc. If a man isn’t happy in his marriage he tries to work on it and fix it. If a woman isn’t happy she finds a new man.

[@michael_Jon7]

Speaking the truth, on point, my brother 🙌 I haven’t been here that long, but I can only imagine somebody’s older gentleman that could never never in 1 million years get these type of women back in their own countries when they come to the Philippines and I say never. Always lead with a kind, caring heart 🙌

[@everymanhasastory]

You are 💯 correct on all points. Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment 😀

[@stevef5812]

3 F rule. If it flys, floats or f**ks; rent it. It will always have diminishing returns.

[@deanvoss7098]

😂so true

[@victoriatorcolini4410]

Excellent analysis. Well said, well done, Mark. You see both sides. 👍🏽👌😊

[@antoniochevalier797]

Thanks Dr Phil.

[@herbigp]

Truth!

[@shvedas]

Taking responsibility in destroying a marriage can be way too painful. It's easy to blame the other person. I know I nuked my marriage with the love of my life. I wish it was all her fault, but it wasn't. Living with regret is very hard

[@everymanhasastory]

It takes a real man to accept responsibility. You will do better next time. Thank you for watching ☺️

[@alannemeth3293]

Yes, makes sense to me, great talk.

[@les8518]

Excellent video and long overdue.

[@davem8898]

Great honest topic!

[@RetireandGo]

Good video, Mark. As cultures change I don’t see value in pointing fingers at groups or people. I just make the changes in my life. Traveling to Southeast Asia was part of that process. I changed my circumstances. I changed the environment. The culture around me. We can live in frustration or we can act to change our life for the better. I’m the only person I can blame if I don’t act to change my situation. :-)

[@Davirdcarrol]

Well basically no young western woman will date a old pensioner or old western men only young western woman will date a old rich man and i when i say rich i mean rich and the thing is they nit do things a young flipina will do thats is cook clean wash and take care of her man no matter the age

[@napoleonmdusa8877]

Social Media proliferation is what's to blame for the way western women have changed. I blame western women for not realizing how damaging & distorting Social Media can be and not stopping their participation in it or at least cutting way back on it to regain a sense of reality in pursuing relationships.

[@zoraster3749]

Social media is the male equivalent of pornography and it’s just as damaging.

[@MrElliottjc]

When a user looks in the mirror he doesn't see a user and never will so there's no possibility of change. Spot them and avoid them.

[@everymanhasastory]

Unfortunately I have to agree with you. Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment 😀

[@curtis9115]

I think that goes for both men and women.

[@danielhuntington2116]

I'm 67 in the USA and divorced now for about 9 years. About 2 years ago I got a golden retriever mix....A great decision and such a loving boy and enjoy his companionship. I leave it open for a relationship with a female...but it is not absolutely essential. Thanks for sharing.

[@everymanhasastory]

Thank you for watching and for sharing your experience. Beautiful and friendly dogs

[@robertburnston6586]

Good video ... true.

[@TheSugmad]

Every relationship of mine that failed I was there.

[@everymanhasastory]

Funny.

[@LifePlusRice]

Great video helping some to take responsibility for themselves.i prefer this reality based video. Can you do a video on lessons learnt whilst working in sales.what you learned ,what worked for you and what did not please. Thanks

[@nicolassaich1051]

I've been watching your videos for some months now. In this and previous videos I have been impressed by your contents. Yes, men who have been divorced and I include myself need to take a good hard look at themselves.

[@driftwoodsmittyasia1286]

Just don't get married ..and tell your sweetie that up front.... and show her the door that it's not locked and we both can walk out that door anytime...

[@dougparson4407]

I was born in 1961 and grew up in the 60s & 70s. I remember how things were back then. I went through 2 divorces and stayed single the next 21 years. The 1st divorce bankrupt me. Yes - I went through a chapter 7 and lived with my father 2 years to get on my feet and worked 2 jobs most of that time to rebuild. I am now 63 and retired and 4 years married to a beautiful Filipina 25 years younger. My biological daughter is now 34 and treats everyone as a financial asset, including me. My filipina step-daughter treats me with love and appreciation. While nothing is 100% I would say based on my experiences of the past 45 years the main issue is definately western women. Until 80% of western men have foreign wives - I do not expect anything to change.

[@bratzdol]

Actually, I am well aware of why I did not make a good husband, divorced for couple decades because I know openly non-monogamous me would be a difficult boyfriend/husband. Married years were the worst years - and least sex - of my entire life, love the peace of living alone now. Loved having s*x in Phils but Filipinas still women as much as Western women. I personally find young Filipinas interest suspicious while rare from American women. Before trying to be a “better” man learn who you are, think hard about your expectations, then be fully upfront honest with all women, which I think OP would agree.

[@philomenamagill700]

Enjoyed your chat Mark

[@loosegoose2466]

Fair points. Its takes two to tango, life is rarely black and white. That being said in the anglo west (australia canada usa) all we hear is how men are to blame

[@SoupNazi-x2o]

I prefer to have a live in care taker depending on my health. I'm not relationship material. I love ❤ my freedom too much and prefer a dog 🐕 for my companion ❤

[@MeditationsbyICEMAN]

good channel thank you

[@johncarlson6472]

Sorry for the long rant...I'm in my 60's and am reasonably comfortably retired. I was divorced right around the time the internet and cell phones started gaining traction. Since that time, the internet has helped me improve my life tremendously. However, IMHO, you could never, ever create a better machine for destroying relationships and/or the dating/mating dynamic than Social Media. Social Media, especially in the West, has thrown rocket fuel on Western women's proclivity for hypergamy (always searching for a better deal/man). Before Social Media, a woman's mate selection was limited to men she met through work, school, friends etc. This was great for average men who wanted a relationship. As an average guy myself, I remember pre-90's, if you were an average guy with a decent job, getting dates and establishing relationships was a no-brainer, or, as my Grandpa used to say, "shootin' fish in a barrel." Now, women's online mate selection pool is so huge, 80% of Western women now view the lower 80% of Western men as unattractive, undateable chumps. Mark's right...some Western women over 50 still have traditional mindsets. However, thanks largely to Social Media, many, if not most Western women have become demanding, entitled, imposssible to please and generally insufferable to be around. Of all the women I dated since 94' after my divorce, not one woman was worth commiting to a serious relationship. Sad.

[@everymanhasastory]

Thank you for watching taking the time to share your thoughts 😊

[@philaman1972]

"Money changes everything" is a song written by Cyndi Lauper and germane to the subject matter discussed here!

[@carolinewick9496]

I'm so suprised so many American men say American women are after their money on these Philippines youtube channels.I'm Danish and we believe in equality between the sexes. In the West, women are educated, earn their own money, and are therefore independent. Roles have therefore changed. I had a great marriage with my American husband and we were like a partnership both equal. Both worked. Now I'm a widow and I am not planning to remarry. Why should I? I had a great husband. Don't want another one and risk getting a lousy one. Its nice being single. I think the issue most men have on these channels is that they want the traditional roles back. Well that's not going to happen with western women who are liberated. So if that's what they are after then yes look for traditional cultures where women are still dependent.

[@L4P-Monk]

Good video. I was married for 28.5 years. Throw in the dating and engagement period and that's 30 years with one woman. She died of cancer. That was almost 8 years ago. I have never been divorced. I came over to the PI 2 years ago when the country opened up. I tried it with a Filipina less than 20 year age gap. She had 2 twenty something year old sons. I thought I treated her pretty well. However. I couldn't do anything right. I like to run in the morning 7 or 8 km every day. She didn't want me to do that. I can't just sit all day in a house so I like to go out for a walk in the afternoon. Nope. Not allowed. If I did she varied between shouting me or giving me the disappointment lecture. I'm in my mid sixties. I. Don't. Need. That. I'm definitely no saint and I probably have no utility to a woman these days. I figured ok, fair enough, this isn't working out and maybe it's me or it's cultural or whatever. I do not have a lot of time left to live so I tried for a year without any improvement... and I decided to leave. Now I don't even consider relationships. I love the freedom. It makes no difference East or West. I am done. I only have my problems now. You add a lady over here in the PI and you add her problems, her family problems, the neighbor problems and so on. I'd rather just be free of the whole mess. This is officially... my time. Ayaw ko na.

[@johncarlson6472]

In my 60's, divorced 27 years and retired. I love being able to choose what I put on my plate each day. Helps keep the stress level way down. I just can't see taking on a Western woman or woman that has a proclivity to create DRAMA, which, unfortunately is many, if not most women. I've come to the conclusion tha the reason many women push so hard and fast for commitment/marriage is deep-down they know how fickle, restless and easily bored they are and they erroneously try to project those negative traits onto us men, when in reality, it's us men who tend to be more loyal and commited.

[@jtraveler888]

It's definitely the western women, but that's only a problem because of weak western men who let their culture become eroded.

[@johncarlson6472]

Yep. We, as a society have spoiled and coddled Western women beyond the pale, to the detriment of EVERYONE. Throw in the deleterious effects of Social Media and they've become so entitled, demanding and impossible to please it's almost comical if not tragic. Sad.

[@chrisbunka]

I am staying neutral in the current male-female battles happening here in the US. In my area of the US, I have met many wonderful "Western" women in a platonic sense. I just haven't met many women that I can vibe with intellectually and thus haven't been on a date in the last 3 years. With that said, I still get out to do things like go to anime conventions (I did live in Japan for 9 years) and art museums. I just think I have gotten pickier about the type of person I will get involved with in the future, whether that be in the US or somewhere else.

[@johncarlson6472]

Hi Chris. You stated, "I have met many wonderful "Western" women in a platonic sense." While I have no female "platonic friends," IMO, in a "platonic" relationship the woman has no (pardon the pun) skin in the game, so there's no push on her part to level you up to "close the deal" and/or create drama for effect. On the other hand, women I've dated were wonderful the first 3 to 6 months, but when we became more intimate, they ALL changed. When dating, IMO, the reason women push so hard and fast for commitment/marriage is deep-down they know how fickle, restless and easily bored they are and they erroneously try to project those negative traits onto us men, when in reality, it's us men who tend to be more loyal and committed. I made a pact with myself after my divorce in 94' to date a woman for 3 years before considering marriage. Not one woman made the cut, and I'm not picky...smiles!

[@jeminigemi]

This is a very well adjusted and healthy perspective. We live in a modern world. Men want "traditional women", but most men aren't traditional themselves.

[@Max-oi9es]

@@jeminigemi Good point, so true 👍🏾

[@Max-oi9es]

About time one of us stands up to tell more of the whole truth about us men. This red pill movent seems to be for myopic men with little confidence. Thanks for keeping it real, it's not always a popular position to be in. Valor and Truth✌🏾

[@everymanhasastory]

Thank you for watching ☺️ And for your support. I really appreciate it 😌

[@jong8876]

Good video

[@JurassicJerkyAmazon]

Great persective! They’re not per se golddiggers they just have the highest of standards so the guys who are medium and low value do not have any real dating opportunity’s !

[@everymanhasastory]

Agreed

[@amigo2k10]

This is a touchy subject. i disagree and agree with some stuff said, but this subject is more complicated than we think there's a lot to say about this but i will say men are the cause of these issues

[@booboolips6053]

I’m 59 years old and financially comfortable, now I just want to be left the hell alone. Is the Philippines the place to go?

[@AnthonyCataldo-ez5ej]

No need to blame. Just vote with your feet. I did. My Filipina feels bad. One in her family just asked for money. Not good. She's holding firm, so far.

[@xyzxyz4575]

have a relationship, not marry and no kids!

[@MichaelTheDane]

Things are not black or white, faults on both sides, like hearing a guy say I have been married 5 times and been so unlucky to find the wrong women, maybe someone should look inside himself before blaming others. The old guys in Philippines sounds more they want a caretaker/sexslave. 95 % of the guys have a gf that is 25+ years younger and from the province. A young Filipina that has a good education and well paid job will not get an old guy. I don’t blame anyone, if both are adults no problem, he get a young beautiful girl, she get a better life and economic safety. So go for it, but don’t call it love, it’s a business deal a win win for both 👍

[@tessab.2065]

EXACTLY!!!

[@Fortran66-d7n]

Hello Mark would you comment on the women's Tampo action aka the silent treatment when a guy does something the girl dislikes

[@everymanhasastory]

Yes. Ignore her. Take a nap watch whatever you want on TV eventually she will get over it. Act like it never happened. Don't react

[@Man-In-The-Home-Stretch-60]

I've been married twice. The first one lasted 12.5 years and she left because we just "grew apart." Still, I put the blame 50/50 on that... She took me to the cleaners in the divorce, and that stung. The second time only lasted 2.5 years, and I put the blame about 85/15 on myself for that one failing. She was (and is) a fine woman. I think the PTSD I had over my first marriage left me so guarded, it made me have severe attachment-avoidance issues... I'm back in the dating world at nearly 60 years of age. I stayed in excellent health and am very fit, probably even more so than when I was in high school, so I do get my fair share of attention on the dating sites, but - women sense how "broken" I am, and they understandably avoid me as if I were radioactive. Not sure how to fix it, but - there I am...

[@docjnsn73a]

Time and forgiveness of them and yourself. Unfortunately that's easier said than done.

[@paulmiller9997]

FWIW I don't think any side is to blame. At least for me, not dating western women is a lifestyle choice. I just don't want that life. I'm not particularly attracted to western women anyway, and I'm certainly not prepared to compromise on my lifestyle to start incorporating a western woman lifestyle. Granted, there are exceptions, but I haven't found any yet. What I find most annoying about this type of situation is that western women commonly consider men to move to SEA to be 'losers', like they haven't been successful in finding a woman in the west, so they are moving to where it is easier. That arrogantly assumes that all western men SHOULD be with a western woman, and that you would only consider SEA if you were unsuccessful in that search. I think you'll find that a majority of such men move because it is their preference to date SEA women. That is certainly my reason for focusing on moving to SEA a soon as I can.

[@ronfesta771]

Me thinketh so many., frog's looking for their Cinderella and so many stepsisters looking for their......Prince Charming!@!?🤪😃

[@henryreinders3031]

Lol, lot of truth in that statement.

[@raymonddee1059]

time change women's work , put guys in shock especially they educated

[@JurassicJerkyAmazon]

It’s all about having status. Money …status and or good looks! Hypergamy means a lot of women wait for the winners at the finish line. Can’t blame them for having the highest of standards, but that just cuts most of the men in America out of contention.

[@bettywith2girls]

You don't have to be rich, have status, or even be good looking. If guys can make a gal laugh, are funny, and are nice, honest guys...we're all in. They did several surveys of women who all said if he is funny and made her life better...than he's in. Now these are NOT the 20-to-40-years-younger-than-the-men girls who are vastly younger than the guy...these are women who are the same age as the guys.

[@lokmanmerican6889]

8:30 I want to BUY a piano for the woman that I want!

[@josephbanys8396]

its me

[@Nole558]

good morning sir my name is Noel. I am from the United States Texas. I got here on 4 August. I’m living in General Santos with my fiancé and her children. I would really like to talk to you to try and get things set up but it’s kind of hard to explain why it’s not hard to explain. I guess you know, but anyway I would like to talk to you if you don’t mind God bless and hope to hear from you 😊🙏

[@everymanhasastory]

Sure we can talk in Facebook Messenger. Send me a requests

[@Nole558]

@@everymanhasastory So I’m really new to this. I will try and get a hold of you on messenger.

[@soiboi5151]

Is it crazy for a young man to move to the ph? I’m very confused and stressed about everything I’ve read lately..

[@marysmith3761]

The Phillipino’s are after money, not love with an expat.

[@WendDesaulniers]

We are up front. Nothing hidden. No pretend nicey nice up front. Honest and open. Men and Women are equal. Either get used to it or grow the hell up. Wendy from Canada.

[@everymanhasastory]

Well said. Wendy. Thank you for watching ☺️

[@messer1096]

Not all woman are up front. How would you know, anyway? "grow the hell up"?! Most men are grown up. Show some respect! You're as bad as the men who treat women with disrespect.

[@henryreinders3031]

@@messer1096 Agreed, that last 4 words sums it up in a nut shell - grow the hell up. That is the attitude that deters men from dating these days. And most women are not up front.

[@BeTheSuperHeroInYourOwnMovie]

Great options here!!! 📍Medellin Colombia 🇨🇴 #NewRich! 🛩️💃🏾💃🏾🕺🏾 Jurassic Jerky Amazon -

[@goldgeologist5320]

At a certain age “marriage” is not about love. It is a business contract. Be clear about the terms of the agreement. When young men marry for love, while women marry for resources.

[@jimmydee1130]

The most realist guy on KZbin.

[@PD55_]

It's a bitter pill to swallow realizing it's you that has screwed up most of your life. But it's never too late to become a better person. Just please be sure stop screwing up other people's lives too, that's part of redeeming yourself.

[@stevenwistort9903]

Mark, by what standard do you go by to be a better man? I say God's word is the standard. When he's taken out of the picture, all hell breaks loose. And what a sad, sad, affair this is when it happens.

[@stewartfamily2612]

Mark with any women IT ENDS BAD ! Even here in Philippines

[@alexjohnson4332]

Every circumstance is a little different. There are always excepts. The majority of the problems is women want to be treated like a queen. Of course men can expect too much also. Mark you were married once before correct ? Whats your excuse ? You had a very exceptional wife , were you the problem ? Careful not to project.