The death of the tomboy

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I confess found this video challenging to write and express - mostly because there's nothing super concrete to draw on to make these points. So, my apologies if this one isn't as fully thought out as usual. I'm operating from observation and my opinions. So, if there are any points you think I missed, or if you have a different view on the issue, feel free to add them down here in the comments. :)

[@wolfbane7497]

It's okay Sydney your videos are still great and you put your all in them

[@Blox117]

things always go bad when you let ♀think their opinions matter.

[@ScrappyXGC]

I'm so happy you got with family.

[@CrownOfRoses541]

Ok, let's put it to a vote: Who wants Nut Houses to make a comeback? 😃😃😃😃

[@Hiraghm]

Sydney, you know better than to EVER invite me to comment... So, for my first comment, I'd like to just point out that I think you're kinda cute when you're doing your intro. Take that.

[@TomBoyArtistQueen]

I'm a 19yr old woman who's a Tomboy I'm not letting the Tomboy die. My mom used to be a tomboy when she was younger I'll forever be a Tomboy. All my Tomboys shout out. ❤️

[@Comrade_Sammy]

Dude, same! I’m an 18 yo Tomboy and I too will not let tomboy die! #TomboyGang lol

[@Junodragon6780]

22 and a PROUD TOMBOY!😎

[@Brandelwyn]

Thank you

[@michaelcoulter1725]

Hell yeah I grew up in the '90s the 90s had a ton of tomboys during that era what a beautiful time it was

[@EmeraldEyes1776]

I was a tomboy growing up as well. Probably why I can say I'm my fiance's best friend as well as his girl. I can hang with the guys without problem and I know when to let the guys be as well.

[@shawnmeems3724]

My daughter faces this at school. She is a girl who likes art, computers, sweat shirts, and long pants. It is disgusting what society is doing.

[@kateshiningdeer3334]

That was literally me in high school, if you add electronics class to it. I was a super-nerdy geek gamer girl, and I had like 2 female friends. All the rest were boys, and it's still that way for me today.

[@uggaeb4921]

I have a 17 year old that is the exact same way. If she's not drawing she's playing either Minecraft or Apex chatting with her online friends.

[@Furzkampfbomber]

That is just one more amongst the many absurdities this ideology is producing on a daily basis. At one hand iti s claimed that girls and women are kept out of the STEM fields by the patriarchy, but on the other hand, when a girl shows interest in things like science and computers, damn, she _has_ to be transgender.

[@RJT80]

That sucks I guess. You know what sucks even more? The unemployment rate for prime age working men in the US is now higher than at the end of the great depression. Around 15%. These are people who hold jobs that make the world go round. Not email jobs in the throwaway service economy. So while we constantly talk about women's issues we might want to take 5 minutes to talk about men's issues as they slowly die off. Because the future we are ushering by ignoring these issues in plain sight in is most definitely going to suck.

[@JCSAXON]

@@RJT80 I agree with you but these issues coincide as we’re being attacked at our root structure. It’s a long-game plan to destroy the west without missiles. I hope people listen to you

[@rachelbuckley4499]

My son loves dinosaurs and baby dolls. He’s not trans. He’s a kid. He got a toy kitchen this year for Christmas. He LOVES helping me cook and clean, does that mean he’s a girl? No it means he’ll be an adult one day and he should know how to cook and clean and he may be a parent one day! He’s allowed to play with dolls. This whole thing is ridiculous.

[@amandawilkinsontarot7096]

Sanity. 👏👏👏

[@allthatsheiz]

It means some wife (if he goes that way) is going to be very lucky and always full of yummy food 🍲

[@rachelbuckley4499]

@@allthatsheiz yes!!

[@anablackwood6141]

I feel you. My daughter likes cars, T-rexes, Batman, ect... but she'll also get excited over sparkly pink dresses and shoes. She can't resist a good power tool LOL. I happily get her both.

[@rachelbuckley4499]

@@anablackwood6141 I LOVED dinosaurs as a kid and as an adult I still love Batman lmao. My son prefers Spider-Man, so I guess I failed as a parent in that regard lol

[@agenteggboy9526]

I find the misogyny of it all quite hilarious. How did we go from "we need to have strong female characters represented for our young girls to look up to" to "strong females don't exist, they're actually just men" in such a short space of time.

[@daniellele6195]

Patriarchy learns how to hide and sell itself to each new generation

[@cferracini]

In the first How to train your dragon book they joke that even viking women were a type of man. I'm scared to know what it would be said about it today

[@smokexsmoke99]

How is it, in any way, erasing women? Trans women are still women. Being trans is not an ideology. Stop trying to reduce people down to what they have in between their legs. It's dehumanizing. Women are not fragile little things that get erased or hurt by the very existence of penises. It's depressing and disrespectful af to women that you see womanhood that way. Trans women have done nothing to affect women's existence.

[@CommanderRedEXE]

It was a slippery slope indeed

[@seriouscat2231]

It's about an alternative reality. It's not alternative anymore if people start figuring out the real-world counterparts. So it must keep moving.

[@Kate-ct9ys]

I had a classmate suggest that I’m actually a trans man because there is a men’s cologne that I like to wear. She argued with me about it and kept saying I was suppressing my masculinity. It was weird. Edit to add- I’m 24 and in grad school. You can’t even escape it as an adult. I feel terrible for today’s kids and how confusing life must be for them.

[@LucaAnamaria]

I was also told by a trans person that I may actually be a man because I am cerebral, enjoy chess, and I'm good at debating. 😂😂😂😂🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ You can't make this ish up.

[@fionna_cool_girl]

Men's cologne smells so good and it lasts longer. I don't get how wearing cologne but still being a woman "suppresses your masculinity" you're just a girl that likes something more advertised for guys!

[@scotteskridge7460]

Don't take this the wrong way becuase it sounds like you have a decent head on your shoulders, but you're 24 and in grad school... your not an adult :) I've got a wife and three kids and am on my 3rd career and I'm fairly sure I'm not yet an adult :p

[@hallow6763]

@@LucaAnamaria its funny that the people who are so "woke" and "open" are the most stuck up person and categorize everyone and everything

[@Arvak777]

I wonder if it's a trick. Once you change your gender and you argue with her later you're part of the patriarchy and are misogynist and have toxic masculinity

[@CaptRavenous]

I loved dating tomboys when I was a young man. They were always the most vibrant, fun, and energetic girls I ever met. I remember each one vividly. I hate what our society is doing to them. Its sad. No, beyond sad. Its a tragedy.

[@valorie444]

100%

[@hinduismwithpremananddasbhagat]

Same here. I have always loved TomBoys. Jo from Facts of Life was the ONLY reason I watched that show. She was awesome.

[@paulinemillard8156]

Please tell me you married a tomboy though. In my experiences the guys I dated guys always ended up settled down with a girlie girl.

[@lyndi9719]

It's evil.

[@NelsonStJames]

I agree. The tomboys were generally the coolest girls around.

[@mattsmustang65]

My ex-girlfriend was on the left and had close friends who were trans. But once told me she was glad she didn't grow up in this day and age because she knows that as a tomboy she would have been pressured to be trans.

[@lordjames307]

So you’re the guy who stole the name I wanted. Jk, no hard feelings XD

[@daniellegenack69]

I feel the same way.

[@ReineDeLaSeine14]

Yep. There is some sanity on the left if you know where to look

[@kellyweber7094]

That's what I think... thank GOD I wasn't raised today!

[@smokexsmoke99]

Dear, less than 1% of the population isn’t erasing women. What are you smoking and is it legal where you live and work? Not erased at all and don’t know a single woman who has been erased because there are trans people. BTW trans goes both ways. Men to women and Women to men. So if you think less than 1% of the population is erasing the other 99% I would suggest giving up anything that you might be using that distorts reality.

[@TomboyGamerWolf]

TOMBOYS ARE NOT DEAD!I am a straight 100% female who loves wearing men’s clothes and playing video games and having short hair,and hates anything pink,girly or feminine.No matter what shitty society we live in now,WE STILL HAVE TOMBOYS IN THIS WORLD.AND TOMBOYS will NEVER DIE!Where r my fellow tomboys at?ARE U WITH ME TOMBOYS?!✊🏻🔥❤️‍🔥

[@swoodjaws]

REALLLLLL MEEEEE B]]] RAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

[@fastronaut909]

YES MA'AM

[@reservoirjessimagery]

Tomboys unite

[@paladinsix9285]

Huzzah!

[@Carissa2003]

same!!!!

[@EmeraldEyes1776]

I was the only girl my age in my neighborhood. I had to be tomboyish or I wouldn't have been able to play outside because there were only boys for me to play with. Thank God my mom had the sense she was born with and didn't assume that I "wanted to be a boy "

[@TheRisky9]

You mean, not wanting to be lonely is not a sign you want to be a boy? You don't say!

[@mfcobb1]

I'll show you mine if you show me yours! Things said by a tomboy in my neighborhood. She grew up to be US Prime Grade A, stamped guaranteed. The kind of woman that can wear the heels, or drink and play poker with the boys. She married Rick the blonde blue eyed version of Brad Pitt is our neighborhood. Tomboys, Cowgirls, and Country Girls rock.

[@mayowankenobi]

I'm a 42 year old tomboy who can classy things up if needed. The gender bending happening these days is utterly vile and disgusting. Liking sports, cars, and video games has nothing to do with wanting different plumbing.

[@MsTygame]

Thank God, your mom has a brain.

[@zxyatiywariii8]

I was a ferocious little tomboy, and I even sometimes said I wished I'd been born a boy. I'm just grateful I wasn't born in 2000, God only knows if I'd still be intact. . .

[@hm.3831]

I'm 18 and a tomboy, and guys accuse me of being trans, gay or "hiding my true feminine self because I'm scared of men". I also get told I should dress a lot more feminine, so men will "actually" be attracted to me. I think tomboys just aren't a normal thing anymore with this weird society we live in.

[@Hyuinn]

Some men like me still like tomboys, but they're usually lesbian or just want to be called men nowadays, so it's kinda hard to even try...

[@_Fighta_]

sorry for you about the area you live in but there’s so many guys out there who actually want Tom boys but never bother since most tomboys now days are anything but straight.

[@068067]

Wearing clothes that fit well is the most important thing

[@sarahallman1374]

I'm 19 and like clothes that are more practical and they just happen to be more masculine looking (Us poor girls lol) that comment about men not being attracted to you because of what you wear I totally get. I honestly don't care what I wear as long as I think it looks good and can fit my wallet, car keys and my phone in it's pockets, but even the shift in clothes is getting ridiculous.

[@symbiotex1751]

You damn right so lady society nowadays is hella weird lol

[@darktenor4967]

A friend of mine (someone I've described as a sister), lifts weights, does multiple martial arts and Viking re-enactment. I met her at university, where she'd terrify people by discussing blood eagling over breakfast, to which she'd regularly turn up wearing nothing but a hefty woollen cloak, with her short hair in a right mess since she genuinely didn't care about her appearence at all! She carried "tom boy", passed the line into full on warrior, even hoping she'd get mugged so she could beat up the mugger. Yet, the odd thing? She could also sew, helped a friend of hers make a wedding dress, loved 18th century fashion and enjoyed cooking. When she got married, she and her husband went to the altar in matching cavalier outfits, lace collar, leather waistcoat, riding trousers, complete with his and hers matching rapiers, yet at the reception, she wore a full skirted red ball gown, and had even grown her hair out for the occasion. Suggest to her that she isn't a woman, or that she should be a man, and you're likely too get a short answer, indeed in many ways she's one of the most aggressively, and violently female people I know, sort of a real life eon.

[@anthia1156]

She sounds terrifyingly awesome!!!! Give her my love!

[@darktenor4967]

@@anthia1156 Less terrifying in reality I suspect when not practicing Krav magar choke holds on people, or complaining that members of the larp community don't have the right killer instinct :D. In college people used to say to me: "You've been in her room!" As though they were surprised I got out alive :D. Yet for all this, my dad actually described her when he met her as: "A tall willowy blonde!" (though more like steel wires than willowy, as I said a real life eowin). Yet, she's been a person I always talked to about things, including romantic issues. My lady and I had a really complicated story of getting together which checked every romantic cliché in the book, including each of us being sure the other wasn't interested, dramatic trans-Atlantic flights, agreements to stay friends and confessions of doomed love, and my lady being pushed into a relationship with a possessive man fifteen years her senior. My friend's response to this was to tell me: "come on! You're fairly tall, dark, strong, gentle and handsome! You're what every girl wants!" Though my lady (who is now my wife), is tiny, extremely gentle and in many ways a polar opposite of my friend, they get on very well. My friend's husband is also a really nice guy, though given how straight forward my friend is, it wouldn't really be otherwise (lying to her is a good way to get walloped, if you've ever seen Babylon 5 and know the character Evonova, my friend is pretty much the same person, she was even born in Russia, though has lived in Britain since she was twelve. AS I said, nothing at all trans or masculine about her, she has little time for such things at all.

[@dollynina8992]

The cavalier outfits at the altar is stylish AF I love it😂

[@mchobbit2951]

Young girls need to see women like this. They need to know that walking stereotype of femininity or trans aren't their only options. You can be yourself in the body you were born in and be happy.

[@etrangray-mane8610]

I must find a woman like this!

[@rottengirl4046]

As a girly girl, pleaseeee don't let the tomboy die! Ilove ya'll, you are beautiful! Oh god, I miss the times when masculine girls and feminine boys could just exist and it wasn't a political statement, it was just people wearing comfy clothes...

[@samr.england613]

I personally never saw tom girls as, "masculine". I saw them as very feminine, but very tough, girls. My favorite girls. Beautiful girls.

[@jmaldo92]

I just hate that people keep calling Tom boys masculine. There's nothing masculine about me

[@funnytophatguy]

exactly, I’m pretty darn emotional and I like to cook and bake when I have the time.

[@N0k4hara]

@@jmaldo92 well that’s you

[@angelheartzz6350]

im sorry but conservatives have no right to talk about accepting feminine boys when conservatives are always the one discriminating and demonizing boys/men who are feminine .. like liberals and leftists were literally the first ones to break down gender norms .. it’s funny how suddenly conservatives or centrists are claiming that feminine boys and masculine girls are valid when gender norms are heavily reinforced on the right

[@minniemin1324]

i'm a woman. there are times i love being feminine and seductive. other times i love being barefaced, wearing men's hoodies and men's cologne (it smells amazing). it's not gender identity, it's called having a personality and interests.

[@theshermantanker7043]

That's the first I've ever heard of this, there are gendered hoodies?

[@anablackwood6141]

Men's hoodies are awesome and their cologne smells way better to me than most women's perfume ever does. Not to mention I like their shorts better because the extra room accomodates my "fupa" LOL. I'm working on losing that tummy flap right now but guys' gym clothes are all that fit without giving me a massive wedgie.

[@clovermark39]

Yes women’s clothes are not as good as men’s. That does not make me a man because I find men’s clothes more comfortable.

[@thiccredgyal3404]

I love wearing men's sweatpants and basketball ball shorts.

[@yourlocalgrande]

​@@clovermark39Men's clothes are best for comfort but when I'm feeling pretty I glam up!! That doesn't make me a man or whatever!! I hate what society has come to.

[@BonBonHassan]

It makes me so mad because they say we can't define someone based on what they like but then literally decide someone's gender based on what they like 😩

[@Xander1Sheridan]

they claim they don't believe in strict gender roles than enforce extraordinarily strict gender roles on everyone and any second of pretending to look like the other gender and all of a sudden that must mean a person is transgender. It's sick and demented.

[@JCSAXON]

That’s a perfectly clear observation. We’ve got a tough situation with socially/systematically infantilized youths who would rather scream hysterically than listen or even dare debate. This is manufactured

[@TheTricksterCoyote]

Seriously. I am a tomboy and I get misgendered all the time. It is infuriating! Especially because correcting the person and telling them to refer to me as she/her just embarrasses them more. I feel bad for all of us involved.

[@cerealkiller1031]

They tell everyone that labelling people is bad and then they go ahead and label everyone because they can’t fathom that people are individuals

[@mshbite]

Your kid is not having a 'panic attack' about wearing shorts. He's having a temper tantrum.

[@luzindro]

There's a high probability that in 30 years time, society looks back and says: "what the hell was wrong with us?"

[@Jestloo]

I’m a 29 year old tomboy. I’m very close to my father, and had two younger brothers, no sisters. Always preferred boy clothes, played with and got along better with boys, prefer male friends, my hobbies are typically associated with dudes, I don’t wear makeup, sporty, nerdy, big in science and math, hated pink and barbies, and dresses. I used to HATE being a girl. Mostly because I didn’t relate to the other girls at all, but I also couldn’t ignore the reality that I was a girl amongst boys. This made me feel outcast. I still have moments feeling like this sometimes. Thankfully, my parents nurtured my personality with the reality that I am a girl. Aka, I am me. How I am or what I like didn’t change what I was. I am a tomboy woman. I want to be married to a man. I want to be a mother. I sometimes like looking feminine. I’m also “one of the guys.” I am a woman

[@thetechnocrat4979]

You are an awesome woman and your parents are absolutely amazing. I hope that you will achieve your dreams soon. Not gonna lie, I am quite attracted to Tomboys as a man. Also, women who are closer to their fathers, have a positive and healthy attitude towards masculinity (I.e less chances of them having daddy issues).

[@heatherdale5571]

100% across the board!!! ❤️

[@Siel-bm7gx]

Thank you for sharing your story and glad you have a great realionship with your parents. I used to believe Tomboys were odd but my perspective was shifted. I hope you do find that guy who loves you for you and have kids.

[@phreedomphart4293]

Holy crap, there's hope for humanity

[@lautheimpaler4686]

good upbringing

[@sandraherrera7454]

Progressive mob: “clothes, colors and toys have no gender” Also progressive mob: “he likes dolls and pink, they must take hormones to transition to their ‘real’ self” Just plain craziness 😵‍💫

[@51_putusatyawijaya7]

Plain hypocritical

[@taliabutton1593]

I am trans myself and I say it's crazy. Let him be, he's happy. Later he may or may not continue to like pink, and he may even end up wearing skirts, but that won't necessarily mean he's trans. Maybe he is, maybe he isn't, but at the moment's he's a happy boy playing with his favourite toys, and that's what matters. Also, there are trans women who CHOOSE NOT to transition.

[@User71956]

Eh, I don’t care either way. You doing you has zero impact on my day to day life so fuck it.

[@leasagna2202]

Yea nobody is saying that the trans movement is in full support of masculine girls and feminine boys. I myself am a feminine trans man, i lobe wearing fresses and makeup but i am still a trans man

[@TedEhioghae]

@@taliabutton1593 Trans people are not born trans.

[@nyxnecrodragon4256]

My mother was a tomboy, I'm a tomboy and I refuse to recognise the death of the tomboy just to make some TikTokers happy.

[@thiccredgyal3404]

You sound awesome

[@amiraa_...]

Fr! Fuck them tiktokers

[@smokexsmoke99]

Trans women are not erasing women. Here's a comment I found on Quora: "I’m a woman. I was born a girl, grew up a girl, became a woman, and I identify as female. If I try to imagine being born male, I can’t even conceive of it. A couple of years ago, I was selected to appear on Jeopardy!. When I arrived at the studio for taping, I met the returning champion, and to my shock, it was a person who had won 37 games to that point. 37! Did I feel threatened by her? OH MY GOD YES! I mean, 37 wins! Talk about intimidating. She was more than intimidating, she was fucking terrifying as an opponent. Did I ever, for one moment, think that she would “erase” me? Nope. I thought “If I have to be a giant slayer, then call me Jack and point me at the beanstalk.” It turned out through the day that she was absolutely wonderful. She was kind, friendly, interesting, funny, and just altogether lovely. There was nothing about her that insulted or demeaned me as a woman or as a person. Her existence and identity does nothing to harm me, and causes me no difficulty whatsoever. Funny how men who never cared about a single women’s issue in their lives are suddenly so worried about us when transgender women are concerned. Maybe treat trans rights the same way you’ve always treated women’s rights - as none of your business."

[@hadeshades2365]

You show them. Tomboys as I know the don’t bend the knee.

[@Kay3Kay3]

I’m a tomboy. I like baggy clothes, short hair, and getting dirty. I’m still a girl lol. These things make me comfortable bc I don’t like fitting into the female stereotypes. My teacher tried to convince me I was trans and I kept denying it and the teacher pressed on and on until I walked out the classroom and called my mother. You bet she had that teacher fired.

[@samuraibeastwarrior2886]

do you like to play Grand Theft Auto

[@lemsip207]

It often starts in school and then mothers collude or not. In the Sex And The City reboot And Just Like That Charlotte's daughter defined herself as non binary but I heard that idea had been put into her head at school. Charlotte was aghast at first but reluctantly went along with it.

[@Lennykins3120]

As someone who was a tomboy and liked being the rough and tumble girl, I have been devastated to see the death of the tomboy. Even now, I go between no makeup, plaid and baggy jeans and sparkly sweater, makeup, hair done princess. Balance people. Balance.

[@melancholycollie1466]

If you go out like that, someone would assume your pronouns and sexual orientation somehow.

[@mayowankenobi]

It is infuriating how these people who claim to hate labels actually really just want to put everyone in a box...a small, asphyxiating box. Save the little boys and little girls who just want to play and be kids!

[@ab-gail]

I feel this.

[@crp9985]

In the Deep South the Tom Boy still lives on. Not considered a bad thing especially if the girl is smoking hot.

[@MountainGoddess314]

Exactly!!!!

[@keziavb]

i've always been a tomboy growing up but i never felt like i was any less of a girl. i wasn't "suppressing my masculinity" or "confused with my own gender". i was simply a girl who liked wearing boy-ish clothes and video games.

[@animetoonshd3889]

Yeah me too. Hats n cool clothes. Also a little game addicted. Good times.

[@raventay5838]

Absolutely the same 👍🏻👍🏻

[@magiveem]

sameee i def think im a girl and stuff

[@shellsopinion5837]

My daughter who is 12 is the same way. She also loves being a girl but boy clothes make her comfortable.

[@arielmarbury467]

Bring back tomboy!! Me and my twin were tomboys. I loved it! Boy clothes, boy toys, etc. When I got older it was boy shows. A-Team or anything that had guns and explosions! I was into Marvel comics on and on. I hated pink! By high school I would where a dress to dances, but that was it. No makeup otherwise either. I wasn't afraid to fight either. Thank God it was a time when it was okay to be a tomboy. I am 49 with 3 kids now and truth is I haven't changed much, but never, never, never, ever doubted my sex. Always female. Just rough around the edges. As a grown up. I almost never cry. I think logically not emotionally. Still a woman. I'm jeans and T-shirt wearing school bus driver now. I feel sorry for these kids. I really do. This is one of the many reasons the 80s rocked!

[@CronDon93]

"My 5yr old child is having a panic attack" no it's throwing a fit 🤣🤣

[@kerrzai]

Actually, it's possible that the kid was abused by this mother's coaching and was having a panic attack out of the fear of what she thought. Teaching a child to aim to please at that age is cruel and so many kids are victims of this now.

[@carltonbrice6065]

Several guys have mentioned that they thought tomboys were more attractive. I concur! My biggest crush in middle school was a tomboy. They generally were easier to talk to, had a good sense of humor, weren’t stuck on themselves, and weren’t vain. I’m not the only one who thinks a strong woman, physically and mentally, is sexy.

[@colourbasscolourbassweapon2135]

My brother from another mother my nigga now that's what i'm talking bro🫡😏😏😎😎

[@colourbasscolourbassweapon2135]

we need out tomboys yeah men💪🏾🤲🤧🥲😎

[@aleshahilburn9234]

As a tomboy I am so glad I am not growing up today, but was allowed to blossom into the woman I am today.

[@swiftguatemalanchili2301]

Same

[@mojoschmee9320]

My best friend growing up was a neighbor TomBoy who was a stellar athlete, and had absolutely zero interest in girl toys and games. As an adult, she is happily married, to a really great guy, has two wonderful kids, and coaches soccer at the college level. I often wonder what her fate would have been had we been born 30 years later....

[@demonkingbadger6689]

Same for my mom's sister, born in the 50s, and she was married for near 50 years to a guy until his death. They would have messed her up.

[@SophieOughton]

I've been a tomboy my whole life, and have always loved having short hair and dressing in more masculine clothing. I had tik tok for years and went through of phase of believing myself to be a trans man since that's the message that was being pushed by my 'for you' page at the time. Since deleting tik tok a few months ago, I no longer view myself this way, and am happy as just a tomboy. If you're a little different and confused about your identity (especially as a teenager), you're more likely to accept an identity that's pushed towards you.

[@TheGreatCookie1718]

Yeah, same for me. I am a teenage girl, a tomboy, and when I crossed this kind of content, I began thinking about becoming trans. Then I told myself, hold up, this is stupid. I will always stay a tomboy, and I am proud to be one. Now I will never let people on social media influencing me for who I am, and I hope other tomboys like me will understand it. The worst of all is that teenage brains are still in developpement and it is more easy to influenced. This small trans phase was weird, but I am happy to have take a lesson by myself :)

[@akankshadash7129]

TikTok is cancer

[@smokexsmoke99]

Women don’t see the problem with trans women because there is literally no problem, AND by age 16 they’ve stopped listening to men telling them what they should feel. And the harder you try, the less they’re paying you any mind. The fact that you don’t get this is all the evidence they need to ignore you.

[@sheffi01008631]

I’m retired and still a tomboy. I’m all woman but love adventure. I still am highly domestic, quilting, baking, canning, etc. All woman who likes my self, and incidentally, manly men. 😂

[@colourbasscolourbassweapon2135]

Respect sis😎

[@the.earthlyaquarius]

That doesn't make you a tomboy lmao I'm adventurous too, I'm a feminine woman

[@smokexsmoke99]

Women are not being erased by trans women. Because not that long ago, you were warning everyone about how not murdering gay people would lead to everyone turning gay. That was a lie. Not that long ago, you were warning everyone about how black people were going to destroy western civilisation. That turned out to be a lie. Not that long ago, you were warning everyone about how ending slavery was going to destroy western civilisation. That turned out to be a lie. Not that long ago, you were warning everyone about how universal suffrage was going to destroy society. That turned out to be a lie. Not that long ago, you were warning everyone about mixed marriages. That turned out to be a lie. Not that long ago, you were warning everyone about the dangers of educating women. That turned out to be a lie.

[@MrsBees]

I've been talking about this problem for years. As a former tomboy myself, I'm so lucky I didn't grow up now or have crazy progressive parents. My parents let me play sports, go camping, play with my male cousins, fish, get dirty, etc without telling me there was something wrong with me because of it. I'm really sad for girls growing up now. They are just getting shit on from all sides.

[@webyankee6558]

Ya no wonder they are confused, they do not need all that indoctrination.

[@NINacide]

Remember those movies where the high school tomboy goes to prom and she comes down the stairs with a perfect makeover and dress. Like it's the ugly duckling who grew up to be a swan sort of story. It's like, "I can do that, but I prefer not to, and that's ok because it's my choice and nobody else's"

[@emperorhirodripo5863]

Also the hypocrisy, the left used to be the ones fighting stereotypes. Now they‘re reinforcing them more than anyone has ever done in history before.

[@mitleid_en]

@@NINacide We need a tomboy glow up where she ends up in a tailored 3 piece suit 🔥

[@T.H.E.O.R.Y.]

@@mitleid_en I agree in the sense it would subvert an otherwise unfair and disrespectful expectation but I can't help but think they'd be considered something else they're not...

[@Shade7x]

Regarding that haircut story, it's actually really common for a girl to idolize a male relative (brother, father, cousin, uncle) and want to be just like them. Only recently have we pathologized that completely natural behavior.

[@annas4843]

I have an older brother, he is the reason I was the 2nd best Druid healer in my European server in world of Warcraft 😅 not that I didn’t like it, but none of my classmates and girlfriends played, and I wanted to play with him, so he let me join his team, I was the only girl and we made a lot of videos with our raids!!! And ofc my dad is not so good with girly stuff, when I was 5 he got me a PlayStation and a Barbie for Christmas, he wanted to treat me same as my brother but also acknowledge I m a girl. Still have that PS as memorabilia, love it!

[@Britsterplays]

Yep, this was me. My uncle is a cool dude, and I wanted to be just like him.

[@lovelymill]

this is an androcentrism for me, the another issue

[@wallylasd]

raisons ?

[@Crystalwolf953]

There's a theory in developmental psychology where a child will latch onto the parent of the opposite sex, in a way that is adoring them more, then become closer to the same sex parent later in life. Happened to me when I was growing up. Totally natural.

[@psycomantisaleem4424]

that tittle scares me tomboys are like the best aspect about this world don't let them go away like this FIGHT FOR THE TOMBOYS GODDAMIT

[@wardog6616]

As a guy who has always been attracted to tomboys this is quite sad to hear that they are being treated like this.

[@Comrade_Sammy]

I cannot stress this enough. I am so so glad I’ve been homeschooled all my life. I’m an 18 yo Tomboy, and I have no idea what people would have filled my head with had I gone to school nowadays.

[@riccardobarone384]

Your head would have been your last problem. Your main problem would have been doctor Aaron Cuttentittenstein or doctor Moses Removeggsenberg.

[@yourlocallesbian6448]

I was part homeschool and also a tomboy, school was pretty bad for me all the girls would make fun of me it was depressing

[@DiMacky24]

Every year that passes I say a prayer of thanks that I had parents who homeschooled me. Putting my future kids through public school is unthinkable at this point. I was a pretty feminine boy until about 16, and I am so glad my parents just kept treating me as a boy because eventually the hormones did kick in. I am now just a guy who happens to also know how to braid hair, serve high tea, and arrange flowers because I was interestedin involving myself in my sister's past-times.

[@struckpanda9284]

Same.

[@emmadilemma4177]

i was homeschooled in Middle and High and had that tomboy phase even before homeschool, I still sorta flop between back and forwarth but it sucks to see the tomboy shtick suffer :(

[@laurenfox1899]

I’m grateful every day that I grew up before this gender conversation really took off because I definitely begged my mom to wear boys clothes when I was young because they had more pockets and I loved “masculine” activities. If someone had told me I was a boy in the wrong body, I probably would have believed them when I was young. Thought boys were pretty cool so I wouldn’t have fought it.

[@TheBrandonn]

I was kinda around for part of it, but luckily it never had any influence on me. I was definitely very feminine as a child, making necklaces with beads, and big fan of "girls" media franchises like powerpuff girls. But yet, I'm a dude and always knew I was a dude. Imagine that!

[@Erectmygreenhouse]

My ex used to wear her dad's clothes. I thought it was sweet

[@JeepnJesusFreak]

Same

[@redraif]

Same.... heck as an adult I still love cars, guns & pockets. Lol. ;) but I'm 100% woman with no confusion on the matter, just tomboy thru & thru

[@SergioLeonardoCornejo]

I have seen many tomboys ruined by the current ideologies one way or another.

[@comicstripgamer1591]

I deliberately got my daughter into outdoor sports, getting her hands dirty. At the same time we would go dress shopping and clothes shopping at early age. She's now 13. She's a feminine Tomboy, loving both worlds.

[@smokexsmoke99]

It isn’t trans-women who are seeking to tell women what they can and cannot do with their own bodies. Taking away the right to bodily autonomy does more to “erase” women than anything a transgender individual has ever done.

[@theapachevikingnomadfromhell]

As someone who dated tomboys a few times, I'm really sick and tired of this trend. It doesn't mean I'm into dating trans or non binary. I means I like dating a FEMALE who doesn't confirm to the girly girl type. Much rather date Sarah Connor than Taylor Swift. Something about a REAL strong woman that's a true bad ass that's incredibly attractive.

[@ashleysbored6710]

When I was younger I was very uncomfortable being a girl and hated wearing dresses. Now I've gotten older, I still like some stereotypically "male" things but I also love doing my hair and wearing heels and skirts. Femininity is so stereotyped that we've forgotten what it really means.

[@loganw1232]

That’s true.

[@citylockapolytechnikeyllcc7936]

I like women to be feminine, but I don't want her wearing loose scarfs and high heels when operating a chain saw. "activity-appropriate"

[@run2cat4run]

Same here

[@rgerber]

what are "stereotypical male things"?

[@salvadortoscano2534]

As a guy I have no idea how girls can live with "fashion pockets" that don't *actually* function as pockets. Take our fucking cargo shorts/pants, use all the pockets you need!!! It's the best shit in the world :D

[@BBCEmily]

I struggled with transgenderism for a while. There was a solid period as a child where I wanted to be a boy and wished I could be a boy, and thought about ways I could make that happen after first stumbling across a transgender blog. Although my Dad always wanted me to be his "little princess," both my parents embraced my tomboyish nature and let me wear my brother's clothing and be interested in more "boyish" activities, all the while, still seeing me and loving me as their daughter. Several years later, I realized I did not actually want to BE a boy - I just had a lot of male role models I wanted to be like, while also having a lot of "masculine" interests. But that didn't mean I had to be a boy. In hindsight, it seems rather silly when I look back at that period, and my desperation for wanting to be a boy - but it is also alarming to know that if I had different parents, or a different philosophical background, I would believed I was meant to be a man and would've become transgendered. When I see clips of the "signs" from these parents that "my little girl was actually a little boy," I get shivers because I recognize those behaviors and "signs" from my own childhood. No, your little girl isn't actually a little boy - she's just a tomboy, and that's okay.

[@kateshiningdeer3334]

I went through a similar phase between the end of HS and during the first couple of years of college - and if I had been indoctrinated like kids are now... I wouldn't be happy with the results. Like you, I figured out that me interests and my gender don't have to align - it's ok to be a nerdy, gamer-girl, computer programming woman!

[@A.Martin]

this, to have interests like a boy, doesn't mean you have to become one.

[@imran8880]

Really feel bad about these kids. I'm afraid they lifestyle their parents pushing onto will leave an everlasting mark it'd be hard for them when reaching adulthood.

[@canyongoat2096]

I have had the similar thing happening but in reverse (boy to girl). I still have a lot of traditionally feminine interests but Im pretty sure I want to stay as a guy and not transition. I wear some women clothes but they arent really that feminine looking, what I wear more stylish and fit better and have nice fabrics but they arent some sparkly pink girly stuff. The problem is society and women dont accept guys like me as we are, we are either described as trans and people say its cool but women dont date us or just throw some slurs and... women dont date us duh.

[@freakctc]

So, to clarify, you wanted to be a boy, because the friends and family you admired were boys, and you wanted to be like them and do what they did. That makes sense. And then someone explained to you, or you figured out, that being a boy wasn't necessary to do those things or be like those people. That's a lesson that's being lost in the passing generations. This round of parents don't care to figure out how past generations dealt with things. And these college 'educated' people don't know how to process the information they 'learned'. When my niece tells my mother she wants a specific toy and my mother tells me 'she wants a boys toy'. I say in response 'what makes that a boys toy?' And she'll start babbling some nonsense. and I respond with (pardon the vulgarity) 'Do you need a penis to operate the toy? Then it's not a boys toy.' Toys and activities and interests are not about a child's SEX as it is about who they are trying to connect to. Parents need to learn that.

[@perrystrimpel5325]

To all the tomboys out there, please embrace your tomboyishness. I am a man that, as a young man, knew I wasn't and never would be gay but didn't like the idea of being with a girly-girl. My wife never fit in the girl box but was more akin to Velma from Scooby-Doo. Her family thought the worst for a long time. I am sure she had to endure endless shamed expectations, but she stayed true to herself. Eventually, God brought us together, just like he planned. Don't fall for the BS that is being pushed in today's messed up world. I thank my not-girly-girl every day I wake up next to her.

[@colourbasscolourbassweapon2135]

fr tomboy forever😎no cap bro 💪🏾🙏🏾😏

[@stephaniedye7580]

As a kid (1960s ) I wanted to play baseball, catch frogs, wear t shirts and jeans. I read some of my student report cards as an adult. Teachers expressed that I liked "boy" thing, and my mom responded that she was trying to "correct" my behavior. But no way! Until I saw David Cassidy! I knew I was a girl!(Though he was prettier than most girls😊) but omg, I started crushing hard on these male tv tigerbeat boys. But I did still continue to be independent and not hyper female, and I couldn't be that way if I had tried. My big sister says if I had been born now, the school would have encouraged me to transition! Ha ha. But seriously, I am glad to be a tomboy into my 60's.

[@nickelodeo.n]

I am a 17 year old girl. i work as a plumber in construction, i like working on cars, i like going to the gym, etc. there are so many people who try to tell me that i’m gay or somehow lgbt. I am definitely a female, that can never change and nor would i want it to. and just because i like traditionally male things doesn’t mean anything about how i “identify.” it just weird the kind of pressure that i get as a tomboy to be something else.

[@bigcconservativeguy2534]

Thankfully you are old/mature enough to have the understanding you do. So many are not and they succumb to the onslaught of the cult of the alphabet people!

[@futurefolk9919]

Honey, there is nothing wrong with knowing and learning skills that will help you (and others) in your life. I'm not super skilled on the engineering aspect of things, but I can troubleshoot. Why is this leaking? Etc. You'd be surprised as to the amount of ppl that don't know what a gfi is our how to check their breaker box. Keep learning. Keep conntecting knowledge. Don't trouble yourself with what others think. Something tells me you have a Dad that wasn't afraid to teach you skills you might need. You go girl 🥰

[@cheddar2648]

In all things, listen to your heart. It is more correct than the cacophony of the world.

[@isaackellogg3493]

I had a manager who was extremely blond/blue but identified as Hispanic. He was an orphan who had been adopted into a Hispanic family, and thought of himself as Hispanic. Yet because of his surface-level traits, the Aryan Brotherhood tried to recruit him in college. That was a no go, but apparently they were so insistent that he was actually triggered by the word “cracker” (we worked in food service), such that he would not allow me to say “I’m filling up the crackers” when he was around* (see below). Don’t let people put you into a box. You are your own person, and not just an object in the eye of some other beholder. You are under no obligation to fit into their view of you, only your own. *So I said I was filling up the “honkies,” because that word obviously never offended anyone.

[@SethEssington]

How the hell did you get a plumbing apprenticeship at age 17?

[@walterhorne5364]

This really upsets me. My daughter hated barbies. Hated dresses. Wore Batman and Superman pajamas. Was great at sports all through school and played college softball. She has a deep voice for a girl. She’s all grown up. She always liked burly guys and married a 6’ 3” lineman. Has a baby now. She grew out of the tomboy phase in about 7th grade. We would’ve ruined her life if we tried to raise her as a boy or if we would’ve forced her to do girly things. Instead she did girl things she would need in life and did boy things she enjoyed. She’s one of the happiest people I know. Always was.

[@isaackellogg3493]

Found the Shieldmaiden of Rohan.

[@rebelheart4824]

Don't forget Christina Ricci in Now & Then! Seeing that character as a 9 year-old made me feel ok about being a tomboy & helped me embrace that element about myself. I've always had both a "girly" & "boysih" aspects & never felt I needed to alter my entire gender in order to be who I am. Of course, I grew up in the 90s before that idea began infiltrating impressionable young minds - but now as a grown woman, I'm perfectly comfortable & happy with the fact that I have both feminine & masculine qualities while accepting the fact that I'm still a WOMAN at the end of the day! Its a shame we aren't "allowed" to have tomboy role models for young girls these days.

[@GFortz]

In the group of friends I've grown up with, there was a girl who was never into girly stuff - never wore dresses, swore with the foulest of us and was able to drink us all under the table when we came of age. These days, she'd be labelled as trans or at least gender fluid, pushed into a conflict that was never there to begin with. She's now a mother of two and never been happier. Still swears like a sailor.

[@madisonc8886]

She literally made a video berating men for being feminine and saying that men need to be masculine, while feminine men need to stay outliers. She even outright said "I don't want this" when showing feminine fashion trends among men. Basically the complete opposite of what she said here. She;s too stupid to see that people like her actually fuel why a feminine boy might want to transition, because being a feminine man is so derogatory and wrong.

[@iunisaur843]

This happened in the 90s too. I was a tomboy that was convinced by people I thought were friends that I had to be a lesbian. They're a very toxic community and always have been. I'm just glad I stuck to my gut and finally started dating men. It became very apparent that I was not on fact a lesbian but a tomboy that just like sports

[@lovelymill]

being a tomboy then: are you a lesbian?? being a tomboy now: omg are you trans/non-binary/etc.?? they just dont let us live

[@alisonjp2355]

Yet we'll be the people of trust on the floor cause they know we ain't joking and crying over a nail. We get the job done.

[@zarahsgarden2097]

Ya I was a tomboy when I was younger & people occasionally asked me if I was lesbian. Now that I'm older I wear makeup, feminine clothes, and am a mom, so no one makes that mistake anymore 😂

[@UnitedPacci]

@@lovelymill lmfao 🤣

[@marghea4008]

i mean, i too was a little tomboy and i turned out to be a lesbian, but that doesn't mean that all girls like us are lesbians, it's just a matter of who you're attracted to. I'm glad you didn't let anyone else define who you are.

[@TorviCrow]

I've been a tomboy all my life. When I was little I wanted to be a boy because I wanted to do stuff that the little boys did. My dad who raised me showed me I could still do those things and be a girl. He taught me to shoot, fight, hunt, fish and take care of myself. My mother thinks to this day I'm gay even after two kids. I'm glad I had a dad like I did and that I grew up in the time I did that allowed me the time and space to figure myself out without forcing this crap on me.

[@TipeONegatyve]

Your mom is like the one showed in this video.

[@TorviCrow]

@@TipeONegatyve my mom mostly nagged and pushed me to wear dresses or more pink. To wear more make up. " Make more of an effort" she hates the way I dress and the way I act because it's not lady like.

[@Paula-um3js]

@@TorviCrow Had a friend who was criticized by her dumb man with that exact phase. "Not putting enough effort". A dude can just wash himself to be clean, brush his hair and have clean, ironed clothes on and everyone is fine with it, but a girl doing the exact same isn't "putting enough effort" into herself. We have to be extra with all the stuff that by the way didn't even exist in the last century (I'm talking excessive makeup, plastic nails etc).

[@TorviCrow]

@@Paula-um3js sounds like some of my ex's. If they're into that type of woman that's fine but they shouldn't try and change someone to fit their needs. That's selfish. Alot of guys are intimidated by tomboyish women and say it's demasculating. I found a man that loves it how I am which is good because after 30 years I'm pretty set in my ways lol

[@Paula-um3js]

@@TorviCrow Yeah, thing is those women aren't even tomboyish. My mom for example is still quite feminine in the way she behaves or looks wearing dresses, skirts, long hair etc, she just dislikes makeup, heels, nails or "doing" your hair any special way. There's this way of thinking that "feminine" automatically means those things, when in fact it doesn't and never did.

[@nostalgicrobot]

Thank you! Finally someone is talking about this. It’s so crazy how we are evolving backwards. Didn’t we want to get rid of those stereotypes?

[@smokexsmoke99]

The only erasure of women going on here is males telling us how we should think, feel, and act. Which is precisely what you are doing, the asker of this idiotic question. I happen to have a friend who is trans and I do not feel in any shape or form threatened or erased by her, so I suggest you keep your opinions to yourself and go take a scenic tour of Tartarus.

[@nostalgicrobot]

@@smokexsmoke99 Well, I am a woman I and do feel erased by men who pretend to be women.

[@smokexsmoke99]

@@nostalgicrobot All humans begin life in the womb as females. If no Y chromosome is present in the fetus, then the embryo will continue to develop as and be as a female. That's why there is such thing as gender identity. Transgender people have the same brain structures of the gender they identify as.

[@loonflam8910]

i gotta say, i love that title. "Death of the Tomboy" sounds like the title of a sad rock song

[@Surreal452]

When I was 12, I hated my new "womanly" curves so I much I hid them under huge T-shirts, flannels and baggy jeans. I even told my dad once I wish I was a boy. Today, I probably would have been labeled "non-binary", which is ridiculous. I was just awkward! Imagine making permanent medical decisions (testosterone, deeper voice, etc) based on you feel about your body in middle school??

[@freakctc]

i'm pretty sure that's 90% of these 'trans teens' out there. You're (not you personally) trading your womanly curves for a deeper voice, and denser body hair. It's not like the opposite sex doesn't have it awkward during puberty. These people don't want to grow up, not be the other sex. Just like some kids don't want to lose their teeth, use the toilet, or get taller. Could you imagine people having surgeries to keep from losing their baby teeth?!? Or grown adults still wearing diapers and being changed by a nurse/attendant??

[@tonybenson82]

Good thing that you can't walk to Walgreens and get hormone injectors, right? Another good thing is that before you transition, you will have to talk to a trained medical professional and that hormones are completely reversible, right? Minus for the few patches of hair you gain and lose for ftm people.

[@Surreal452]

@@tonybenson82 you’re creepy. Go away.

[@thephilosopher5799]

I was in the same boat as you after the 10 grade I became more comfortable in my body. Still not that feminine and that’s ok. I’m still a Women.

[@lupinsredjacket3191]

​@@freakctc That last thing you mentioned about the diapers is a real "thing" nowadays. I'm being serious.

[@iamwhoyousayiam6773]

I was a tomboy because apparently only boys liked sports, GI JOE, ninja turtles, and badass toys. You can only brush a doll's hair so many times before you realize "this toy kinda sucks" ... thank God no one sterilized me for playing with super soakers

[@zuiiee]

I think this is an important statement... NO ONE STERILIZED YOU FOR BEING YOU

[@Mediados]

@Trinity M You literally give a wonderful example for the problem. "Person has an opinion other than mine, meaning they must be anti-queer."

[@tetelestai1919]

You nailed it! There is so much irony now. I can say that often the most attractive women were/are tomboys. They are great partners. They can appreciate both feminine appearance and activities while also enjoying more masculine activities. How many guys want a woman who can participate in typically masculine outdoor activities by day and then enjoy a formal date at night? (cf. the Instagram popularity of hunting/Jeeping women who also look great in a dress). There are two genders, and there is a spectrum of temperament and preferences within each. There is no man who is only perfectly masculine, and there is no woman who is only perfectly feminine.

[@minecraftwizzard2010]

I’m a male and I find tomboys cute, pretty, and interesting Tomboys are cool and awesome

[@JessicaLee.3]

I'm a mother of 3 kids (2 boys and a tomboy girl) and I'm a tomboy. It will never die!! The crazies may try to pigeonhole all of us tomboys, but we refuse to allow it.

[@murasaika2776]

not to be rude, but it's "pigeonholed".

[@gellister]

When I was younger, Tomboys were my favorite type of girl. Especially when you flirt with them and their feminine side comes out. Nothing melted me faster as a kid. I still love that dynamic to some degree. #justicefortomboys

[@rodiusmaximus]

I had a friend who was tomboyish. She was into football and kind of aggressive. I loved her but she was into hyper-masculine guys, not nerds. She also felt the need to feminize herself with collagen injections to soften her RBF.

[@rydaddy2867]

I married a tomboy, didn't prevent her from being "girly" when she wanted to be but also let her go hunting, fishing, shooting, and fix cars with me and enjoy it. Our daughter was raised the same; how could she not be? Raised by an outdoorsman and a tomboy? Now she struggles with gender identity because of these stupid modern gender pressures.

[@roadrash2005]

@@rydaddy2867nowadays if a girl likes hunting and fixing cars it means god messed up on genital assignment at birth

[@dylangtech]

I sort of observe that with friends’ relationships. It’s a lot more nature than nurture with both sexes. Nerds will become a lot more masculine too. If you take marriage seriously, nobody’s gonna make you fall into the role. But you will

[@TheBrandonn]

Why would u flirt with a tomboy lmao? Idk about y'all, but where I lived, tomboys were uggos. That's why they were tomboys bc they already looked halfway like a boy. Some weird praise for tomboys in this comment section lol

[@literaljones]

I'm a tomboy. Granted, I was told many times that I was too masculine and needed to be more feminine, but I still remain a tomboy and a female and a mother.

[@croftrider5191]

wow the world is going mad. i have always been a tomboy, and i never felt in the wrong body. i never questioned my sexuality or gender. im straight female, with a husband, and i still wear my baggy pants and dc shoes. i enjoy videogames and extreme sports, and cant stand make up and dresses. thank god i grew up in different times. cheers to all tomboys!

[@hamadraith4637]

The haircut story kinda got to me. My sister wanted to get a boy short haircut and loved cowboy hats and cars. Tomboy through and through. When someone said "what a cute little boy" about her and she immediately wanted to change her hairstyle because she knew she was a girl and wanted everyone else to know it.

[@wmarch88]

A few years ago a man told me "you have man haircut" because my hair is short, I didn't let people change my hair style, men use to say "don't cut your hair, I like women with long hair" some say "you should wear makeup" I don't like makeup

[@whyme16]

I have a friend who used to dress and look like a boy. She'd cut her hair short and didnt care if she was mistaken for a boy. We'd tease her about being a boy but she wasnt trans. She never was trans. She grew into her femininity and is definitely still a tomboy she just has long hair and wears femininish but still earthy tones. Im glad she didnt grow up now because she mightve been forced to be a boy

[@Dexamus1]

I miss tomboys.... A tough and often self sufficient girl, that grows to be a strong and confident woman... I miss sanity.

[@danteshollowedgrounds]

Ong.

[@mr.sinjin-smyth]

The 1987 classic movie Some Kind of Wonderful is one beautiful example of a tomboy.

[@Realcordy]

Lol you don’t have to be a tomboy to be that! (The way you worded that is weird like that’s the definition definition of a tomboy)

[@Dexamus1]

@@Realcordy LoL . I guess that's just the best way I could think to express that. So many people online look for any reason to find fault with what someone says..... I wanted to make sure I wasn't being misunderstood. 🤷😁👍

[@geeklybunnysan946]

@@Dexamus1 i understand you completely

[@crazitaco]

I was a tomboy as a girl, and still am as an adult woman! I was self-conscious and uncomfortable about my breasts during puberty (mostly because I actually ended up with stretch marks on them) but that doesn't mean I needed to chop off my breasts or permanently alter my body in other ways. just needed to accepted for who I was. And that's what I got, and I am happy as I am in my own skin to this day.

[@Regina061]

Idk for me it has always been women who targeted me because of tomboy tendencies. I have never identified as a tomboy, but it’s always SOME (not all) women who either claim you should be more feminine to attract guys or you are trying to be a pick-me (but I thought you just said I couldn’t attract guys, now you’re saying I’m attractive to guys?) Why can’t I just like dude things just because I like them? Why does it always have to relate to winning/repelling the opposite sex? Would the same kind of women like it if I said they were desperate for men’s attention ‘cause they wore makeup? Lol

[@Kellm93]

As a girl that grew up in the 80s and 90s and now has a teen daughter, thank you so much for this. I am so glad to hear someone younger actually speak about this and make sense. I think people think it's cool to have these labels and it is insane how far it has gone. It's only the past 8 or so years that this has blown up.

[@TheLadyDelirium]

I was a teenager in the 90s and I remember young people getting annoyed by labels. You could be who you wanted to be, people didn't want to be put in a box. It seems things have regressed quite drastically.

[@thatHARVguy]

@@TheLadyDelirium 1990s: "We're more than just labels. We're people." 2010s: "You get a label! You get a label! Everyone gets a label!" Us: "We don't want to be labeled. We're people." Woke SJWeirdos: "Shut you CIS mouth, Yahtzee!"

[@jmarra07]

Yes, kids with no real personality yet and no real sense of self (because they haven't like, worked or anything other than going to school, run by zealots) will latch on to labels and try their hardest to make it their identity. As a man who had low self esteem growing up, I am so glad I was 20 by the time the internet became popular or I would've gotten sucked into the incel rabbithole. Instead, I moved to a new country and started working out like a madman and got laid and got a job, etc. Kids needs fucking discipline and not wanton encouragement. Kids don't know shit, because they're kids, and it's mass hysteria that letting TikTok raise your children has become normalized. I am also kinda drunk, so sorry for rambling lol

[@Kellm93]

@@jmarra07 very true!

[@Kellm93]

@@thatHARVguy funny how things change so fast.

[@NelsonStJames]

A lot of people don’t seem to realize exactly how incredibly non-tolerant they actual are when it comes to how judgmental they are in trying to force people into the categories they want people to fit into.

[@christiana_mandalynn]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@ravensong7128]

I had fender dysphoria for years because I was bullied by other kids for my atypical interests and sometimes for random attitudes from adults who just assumed I was LGBTQ even before I knew what that even was. I was also sexually abused. I kept arguing that I was a woman and I just liked boy things and had masculine mannerisms. (My Dad had a big part in raising me at a young age because my mother wasn’t around for awhile.) I finally gave in after years of feeling disconnected from my gender identity and body-even saying I was a woman didn’t feel right coming from my lips, but that wasn’t originally the case at all! I was just confused by the way other treated me and I also wasn’t comfortable in my body because of the abuse. I really feel like you made a lot of good points about the gender non conforming and trans movement actually being a dual edged sword for those of us who are a little different than the cookie cutter stereotype for our gender-which is probably like, a lot of people, honestly. It does come a lot from the harmful stereotypes that were enforced systematically for our roles in society in the first place, which we were already breaking away from during the 20th century with-at least from what I can tell- only a little influence from the LGTBQ and trans movements needed in the first place. This whole, “you’re not a pretty princess so you can’t be a woman” thing is so messed up, especially when you never know if, like me, they could grow out of that not knowing that it’s a phase after many, many years of soul searching and discovery. The fact that we’re letting five year old medicalize themselves for the rest of their lives before natural puberty even hits just because they like pink and make up and dresses is kind of harmful not only for the child but, for a society that doesn’t just practice and accept it but even encourages this behavior, harmful on a number of different levels.

[@kiwimastermind4063]

no five-years-old are doing that. At absolute most they have hormone blockers for a little while at the start of puberty.

[@DannyPBell]

I’m male, my best friend when I was 4-7 ish was a girl across the road. We played with dolls, we also played families, and we also played at being spies. But as that was the late 1970’s no one battered an eye lid. I’m still male and never doubted my sexuality, and my friend Clair is still a women and never doubted that.

[@justaguy105]

From a guy's perspective, tomboys where the girls that you really wanted to end up dating because they could relate a little bit easier to you, yet still be somewhat feminine. I feel sorry for young guys and young girls in today's climate having to deal with this

[@liebe6970]

Its hard being a gen z. All the tomboyish girls are lesbians☹

[@bobneck1433]

@@liebe6970 Enter Anakin meme screaming Nooooooooooo

[@felippogaglianoneneto621]

I always wanted to have a tomboy girlfriend.

[@gumdeo]

Not specifically tomboy, but short-hair always looked good on women imo.

[@homeinvasion8615]

@@liebe6970 its just a trend, im gen z and knew/dated tomboys who weren't lesbians, itll return to normal soon esp since more people are talking about it

[@rosastraszalifebloom8809]

As a tomboy myself I want to say a big thanks for making this video. I remember back in the 90s and early 00s when the big thing was that “girls could do anything” meaning they could do anything and still be considered girls-they weren’t “less of a woman” for their interests. For what it’s worth, despite any supposedly “masculine” interests I might have or traits I might exhibit, I have never felt myself to be in the wrong body, and do not (and have never) genuinely considered myself a man.

[@salvadortoscano2534]

As a guy that likes tomboys I'm glad there are still tomboys around :) The bullshit messages that certain people try and shove down our throats about extra "genders" and not actually being a man or woman because of how you "feel" has completely undermined the message that men and women are created equal, and can do the same things while also being better at certain things unique to each other. I've come to infer that the people who want "equality for women" just hate men AND women as they currently are. They can barely even properly *define* "man" and "woman," now! It's fucking crazy. I wish we could all go back to the times where people were smart and had common sense.

[@omi8015]

That’s actually an incredible distinction that I had never thought about. Girls could do anything and still be girls. While as today, what even is a girl?

[@TopHatNat]

Every girl I've ever known was a tomboy when they were young. Every single one.

[@hotdog1214]

@Rosastrasza Lifebloom This exactly. It was, back in the 90s, a freer way of being, that you weren't limited because you were a girl to doing 'girly stuff', the world was your oyster. I'm still a tomboy to this day in that I prefer typically 'masculine' clothes and hobbies but as you say it doesn't make us less of a woman or mean we want to BE men, we just like being ourselves. Society today is regressing and it makes me sad to see it go in the wrong direction.

[@salvadortoscano2534]

@@hotdog1214 And one of the many ironies is they're calling it "progressive"

[@Breexbloodlust]

I've always been a tomboy since I was a kid in the 90s & 2000s. Yes I have my "girl" moments, but more so I am a tomboy at heart & have always been attracted to tomboys. I hate the demonization\stereotyping of tomboys nowadays

[@SidneyvonKatzendame]

Lipsmackers were a thing in the US. - 80s Tomboy who still liked Lisa Frank.

[@SouthernGothicYT]

THANK YOU!! THANK YOU!! THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!!! I was always a bit tomboyish and I know that if I were a kid today, they'd have already transitioned me. It makes me so mad and worried for this generation of kids that a hint of being masculine or feminine would justify adults to medicalize a minor.

[@CrypticHowl]

Yet according to these wackos behaviours and natural interests have no gender, but was culturally pushed on us. Ok so I don't agree with that. Whether ya agree with it or not THEY ARE SUPPORTING THE VERY THING THEY CLAIM TO BE AGAINST LOL 🤣

[@TrangDB9]

By Gothic in your name, do you refer to the style or the Goth (Germanics)? If you're interested in history, check Asha Logos channel the "conspiracy?" Series. It's about the germanic tribes. Very impressive is King Theodoric the great.

[@traceypowell9563]

i said this to my friends a few weeks go, the first part almost word for word into the bargain lol

[@kayleenagel3732]

Same!! Luckily I had parents and classmates that supported me for my personality and quirks without feeling the need to deny my gender. I was just “me”. I know I would have gotten sucked into that movement as I would have done anything to stop the depression/anxiety I had as a teenager trying to understand my place in the world, especially as a female who didn’t fit the generic mold. Now, as an adult, I understand that those feelings are normal for teenagers to have as they are growing into adulthood. My 30 year old self is so much wiser than even my 25 year old self, that it makes me feel sick knowing that the only thing that saved me was life experience, that these young ones don’t have yet.

[@mayowankenobi]

@@traceypowell9563 Same

[@soldiersis25]

My mom has, and always will be, a tomboy. She's a janitor at a school and she does get asked by kids if she's a boy or a girl (because she has short hair and shows off her muscles). She always gives them a look and says she's a girl, she's just tough.

[@oddfielder]

Very good analysis. Made me nostalgic. I do miss the days when a woman or girl could play with fashion without her sex being questioned. I had short hair and wore combat boots along with some feminine stuff in my twenties. I think there is a beauty and playfulness in what used to be called “gender bending.” It’s sad that this is now a gateway to mutilation and medicalization. It’s sad also that now short hair on a woman or colorful hair is a signal of leftwing politics.

[@smokexsmoke99]

Trans women are not erasing women. Here's a comment I found on Qoura: "Look, nobody is erasing me. Why? Because I have a lifetime of knowledge and experience and have learned to stand up for myself. Transpeople don't threaten that, they're part of the experience. Only 1.6% of the adults in the US identify as transgender or nonbinary. Nobody is erasing anybody, people are just trying to live in a way that makes them happy. Nothing threatening about that. Some men feel threatened by the mere existance of transwomen and they think cis women should support them by telling them they're right to be afraid/ disgusted/ threatened by that. Most of us don't see the need to coddle grown men who don't have a firm handle on their own personal identity. Ain't nobody got time for that."

[@keikonooner3756]

I think the thing that made tomboy a problem as as a child was the inherent hatred of anything feminine and Girly Girls. I had to learn to recognize where the resentment was coming from and how to love myself as a woman again. As an adult, I love and recognize that woman should be free to be whatever they choose and that we should stick together and love each other as we are... Sometimes that means hitting up a girly girl friend and bothering her about modern fashion because one of my outfits isn't doing what I want it to and she can help. That's healthy and normal. I am proud to be a tomboy.

[@byronn.2885]

You made an excellent point. I raised my daughter most of her life as a single father due to her mother passing away at a young age. She therefore had more male influences and definitely was a tomboy. She’s almost 19 now and still loves “guy stuff” but definitely took an interest in more of the feminine and beauty stuff from about 15 years old. I proudly raised a strong willed young woman that has a wonderful balanced view of what a “modern” woman should be.

[@Da1337Man]

You sir are a goddamn absolute unit for being able to raise a true woman as a single dad in a society that utterly hates fathers. It's thanks to people like you that we won WW2.

[@byronn.2885]

@@Da1337Man Thank you. Fathers have slowly but surely been devalued for decades now that’s for sure. The increasing norm of the rebellious and disrespectful wife makes it hard for a man to do his job as a husband or father. Although it is hard on my daughter not having the love of her mother there were some benefits by not having to bicker with her mother over how things were going to be while raising her.

[@Mediados]

I find it strange that people went from the message "You are great as you are, accept and love how you are." to "If you feel like it, change everything about yourself until you look like you imagine yourself.".

[@salvadortoscano2534]

I guess because some people are too envious of others and want to make themselves *feel* special instead of actually *put in the work* to stand out and becomes special by their own achievements and merits. They have to steal from others to make themselves feel comfortable.

[@varelmarais2222]

This sorta change isn't just occurring on the left, just look at all these people on the right promoting steroids and plastic surgery etc. Truly, vile

[@SugaryPhoenixxx]

Our society is sick, unfortunately.

[@lucasbastosrodrigues3111]

Yeah dude

[@smokexsmoke99]

Social gender dysphoria is what makes you trans, that is, feeling uncomfortable when being assigned a gender. Not as in "you should buy this thing because it's pink and you're a girl" but in simply being called "Miss" It's possible and it happens. Gender identity is developed on our first years of life, 2-7 depending on the source. On those years, we instinctively identify with one sex/gender - our dad's/brother's/male friend's one, or our mom's/sister's/female friend's one. Most times it is the same we've been physically born with, but sometimes is the opposite. And sometimes, it's neither. You simply internalise neither apply to you, and it's not about the gender roles "I don't understand why girls should do these things and boys these other things" but more like "I don't understand why I should be a boy or a girl". If you're a man and I tell you to call yourself a woman from today on, it will feel wrong even if you don't change your behaviour and hobbies. It will feel wrong when people call you Miss or tell you you should go to the female toilet - that profound feeling is (social) gender dysphoria. Binary trans people feel that towards their assigned gender. Non-binary people feel that towards both. There's a interview video on this by Anthony Padilla and I think they explain it a little bit better than the people in this video

[@kinglyone7172]

On Crunchyroll, there is a show called "Tomo-chan is a Girl" that I think does an excellent job of displaying the tomboy. I'm glad that it's still under the radar because I can see how, if this show was Americanized, it would be WAY different than the intended slice of life love story it was meant to be.

[@animelly]

Anime and manga (more specifically, shoujo manga) in general does a lot better when it comes to gender expression, especially tomboys

[@solarpanel9085]

I can’t believe they let your videos stay on KZbin!! There’s still hope. I love your videos.

[@hopewilliams4566]

I was a tomboy when I was little. As a preschooler I tried to convince my siblings I was a boy because I thought girls were boring. I've always hated pink, I would kick and scream to avoid wearing skirts and dresses. At ten I wanted a pixi cut. My parents just kept telling me I was a girl, and girls could do boy things to. Now I like to wear the occasional dress, love my long hair, and my main goal in life is to a mother. So thankful my parents let me be a girl in my own way instead of thinking something was wrong with me.

[@Blackhawk-ur4vx]

Oh Yes !!!!!!

[@allisonsmith1047]

Hope, you possibly just could be defiant to authority or counter culture prone. IDK. I know a lot of people like that, especially when they are young. So when your parents try to dress you a certain way, a teacher tells you to do your homework, or a babysitter tells you to sit still and be quiet you resist or do the opposite. I have a cousin who was diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder, because she had opposition to authority. I've read that when mothers smoke during pregnancy that can possibly cause ODD, and ADD as a matter of fact. I do know my cousin's mother smoked during pregnancy.

[@bunille]

It's SO SO SO NORMAL as a teenager to reject realism. Teenagers always want to rebel and wear clothes that aren't normal (which is ironic, because these "quirky teens" are basically all just wearing the same AeStHeTiC alternative outfits and acting in the same exact way). This is just teenage angst. A HEALTHY teen would rebel one way or the other and basically do everything that gives them attention and makes them fit in with the cool kids, rather than being mature and respectful. Ofc some teens are more horrible in this, and nothing excuses bad behaviour: in fact, promoting it and saying it's "okay" basically means that teen would grow up with a superiority complex and demand that everyone bends over to them and agrees with them with everything... as we're now seeing nowadays with so many adults stuck in it, acting like the world revolves around them. Every single teenager had, or thought about, phases. I wanted emo hair when I was 12 but I never got it. Not getting it didn't effect my future in any way. I loved twirling in dresses when I was a child. When I was a teenager I wouldn't wear dresses or skirts, but that was mainly because I thought I didn't suit them and my body was underdeveloped and I was very thin, so I thought of myself as pretty boyish. I got interested in women around then, too. But now that I'm an adult, I'm starting to go back into dresses in the summer months and for events. My body has matured a lot and that, unironically, has helped me to appreciate my body more, because it actually suits certain dresses. I don't know if I'll ever be a skirt person, though. But again, these are just stereotypes. Liking and wearing dresses doesn't make me any more female than I already am. And not wearing skirts, wearing makeup, high heels and having small breasts doesn't make me any less female. Being a woman isn't a costume. I guess I can be glad that ironically, the people that believe that genetalia and pronouns are related to what costume you wear, at least some are not transitioning because they're found quirky alternative styles that have newly originated. All the power to them if they wear weird clothes, but especially if they can pull it off. But one who damages their healthy body just to conform to some stereotypes doesn't deserve anything, nevermind the entire world.

[@wontonschannel]

hearing someone say "my main goal in life is to be a mother" is absolutely wonderful and a mindset that should be held more widely. Thank you, I wish you good luck in your endeavors

[@hopewilliams4566]

@@allisonsmith1047 Hi Alison, I had never heard of that. I'm certain however that isn't me. I am very respectful. It's just as a little kid I thought girls were boring, and skirts were hard to climb trees in.

[@CatyogaLuv]

The tomboy needs to make a comeback. Thank God I grew up in the 80s, 90s, and early 2000's. 🙏🏼

[@CaptinNabil7]

Ditto.

[@mr.sinjin-smyth]

The 1987 classic movie Some Kind of Wonderful is one beautiful example of a tomboy.

[@damienmoore427]

Went to school with a Tom boy my whole life I thought she was gay she liked me she got kids now

[@TedEhioghae]

@@damienmoore427 lesbian* Man = Gay Woman = Lesbian Both = Homosexual Also, LGBTQ+ leads to Hell Fire if they don't repent.

[@papabird4425]

Why does it "need" to come back? Is there a quota of them that we aren't meeting? Where is your empirical evidence of their required number?

[@canuck21]

I'm a tomboy. I'm so glad I was born during saner times.

[@simonfunwithtrains1572]

This feels like a modern day problem in the west. These gender types never existed in the past and most young kids would not understand or use the language associated with these ID's. Kids just need to be left alone to be kids. These parents need to take a good look at them selves.

[@tmntgirl4life]

I’m some what in between Tomboy and girly girl. I wear skirts and style my hair but I hate makeup, love superheroes, read comic books, etc. What I also think is weird is when media actually portrays tomboys now a days they either become trans or lesbians. I want my straight tomboy representation please!

[@mayowankenobi]

Right there with you my friend!

[@kathyp1563]

I recently introduced my 14 yr old daughter to the original "A League of Their Own". In the movie, they portray multiple types of women & their various struggles, as that type. Rosie O'Donnel plays a masculine woman who struggles with her femineity. She's a tomboy who only had boys as role models. The character learns to appreciate her type of femineity & eventually marries & has kids. I told my daughter that if that movie were made today, they wouldn't let her come to terms with her type of femineity. She'd just be a lesbian. Low & behold, they introduced an updated version only weeks after I said that. Her character is a lesbian.

[@halohalo86]

Exactly! I have nothing against lesbians, but I'm straight and want to attract men while at the same time being true to myself and not pretend to be more feminine than what is natural to me. I try to walk a balance to not get mistaken for a lesbian

[@TheLadyDelirium]

@@halohalo86 I think there is also an issue with the way society stereotypes lesbians as looking a certain way. The image that people have in mind are the lesbians that dress and act in a masculine way, but there are just as many feminine lesbians.

[@tmntgirl4life]

@@halohalo86 i don’t have a problem with lesbians in media as well. Just want a straight tomboy character for me to relate to. As a straight person I can’t fully relate to a lesbian character

[@jesusiscomingback8438]

I'm a 21 years old tomboy. I grew up with my father and three brothers, so I started to develop a very masculine personality. I played with cars, superheroes, soldiers, etc. I was raised by men and they were my only figures. After experiencing my first period, I started to hate my body so much and everything about me being a female. Suddenly all my brothers and male friends started to treat me in a different way, like I was delicated. And I hated that so much! To me, delicated was a synonym of weak, so if a woman is delicated, I DIDN'T WANTED TO BE A WOMAN. With that idea, I cutted my hair to a pixie cut, started dress more masculine than ever, swear, hung out only with boys to play videogames. I was "one of the boys" and I was extremely happy because everything returned to normal, but after some time, my school started to give talks about the LGBT community and I felt so identified with the trans community and I thought: "I must be trans! That is exactly how I feel about my body! I don't want to be a woman, so I must be a man then." So, I started changing my voice to appear more masculine, I used a binder to hide my chest, demanded to be adressed as "he" and even put a sock in my panties to simulate a crotch. I felt "like a man" and desired to start with hormonal treatment and transition surgery to be a fully one. All my tomboy friends that I made online were on the same path, but even with all of that, I felt that... something was off. Yeah, I loved being a tomboy, loved being masculine but I wasn't sure if I wanted to be a man. However I continued, waiting for that feeling to disappear. It didn't. Most of those friends started with hormones and talked to me about how wonderful was being a trans guy. I felt happy for them but I just couldn't do it. In this situation, I developed depression, I didn't knew who I was. I went to church and I had a personal experience with God, and after that everything was so clear to me. I was a tomboy, not a man, like the trans community told me. Yeah, I was a very masculine woman, but that doesn't make me a man. It was SO hard to start question the left ideas and realize how wrong all was. But it was possible, and finally I can say: let the tomboys be tomboys. Don't tell us we are men inside, don't tell us we were born in a wrong body. Being masculine or liking "boys things" don't make me a man! I'm just a woman with different taste! Don't mess with the mental health and the identity of other people. I'm still a tomboy and I don't think I will change someday, but once again, being a tomboy doesn't make me a man so, go away with all your toxic ideas!

[@oldgoat142]

Thank you for sharing your story. Too many people are too screwed up in the head to just leave people alone. You figured yourself out and personally, I'm so glad you had an encounter with God. That's the journey you should stay on. Never let anyone change you. Being a tomboy is cool. I wish you nothing but great times and a wonderful life.

[@bonniemathews3162]

Don't let someone tell you who you are. I am very happy for you! You found your path. You do your thing and enjoy! I had a hard time making friends as a kid because I was weird and I wasn't "girly". I loved denim. A revelation came to me that if they didn't want to be my friend that was up to them. I don't need fake friends. Eventually some outcasts found me. I'm good. I got married and had two kids. I am happy with my path. I'm a t-shirt and jeans (no makeup) kinda girl but a few times a year I have a reason to look cute in a dress and wear a little makeup. I wish you an abundance of joy.

[@gunfighterzero]

Bless you

[@user-pe9gz8si8k]

I’m so glad you found God and yourself. It’s a journey of enlightenment many people don’t undertake. Never let anyone else define you.

[@ottoginafiel5468]

To me, tomboys are still feminine they are just more genuine -- minimal make-up, dont put a lot of crap in their hair, not useless, less toxic femininity. Always preferred them.

[@LaCurlySue562]

I was in the "in between, " growing up. Just like it takes most folk forever to figure out what career you want to go into, it's the same figuring out these things. We should definitely give time to it before making life altering decisions! Decisions they can't take back.

[@MrRedkid555]

It's amazing how many assumptions people have about women, yet no one's making the assumption that women are just humans; Finding themselves just as men are.

[@LilyGrace1990]

My mother was a tomboy growing up. She grew out of it naturally when she was in high school. Most girls do, or they just grow up to be confident women who have strong personalities. We need more women like that, not less.

[@thewewguy8t88]

i agree 100% honestly i am not going to lie but i find myself kind of more attracted to tomboys then the typical feminine women.

[@mittag983]

@@thewewguy8t88 But still with feminine face. I know men like you. They don't even like actual tomboys. They like women with short hair who are into gaming.

[@fatimamebarki4599]

@@thewewguy8t88 I will never understand man that are attracted to woman that look like hardcore lesbians..

[@run2cat4run]

People use to say this about being gay, “you will grow out of it” not everyone is trans but you still get people judging the way you look

[@mistypedhi]

As a woman in her 30's who didn't "grow out of it." I am still a woman, always have been, happily married to a man, 100% straight and a loving mother to a little girly girl.

[@legs_11.82]

Most of my tomboy friends growing up all had older brother's, interestingly the boys who seemed girly all had older sisters. After puberty nearly all of these people boy or girl changed.

[@itskitty808]

Had an older brother and I'm a woman. I can confirm this.

[@greenlissy]

Lifelong tomboy here. The colour pink makes me want to vomit. So many of the thoughts you've expressed here Sydney are ones I've had myself. Never at any moment in my life have I thought I should have been a boy, I just figured I wasn't a girly type of girl. And I completely agree that all of this stuff is reinforcing stereotypes, not breaking them down. And I totally want to vomit when I see Dylan Mulvaney too, by the way. His silly act is just offensive.

[@akankshadash7129]

The world has gone insane nowadays

[@whitetipvelociraptor5759]

I also have come to abhor the color pink.

[@Ostara000]

I was a tomboy too and always went to school with sneaker, jeans, shirt and sweat jacket. I first started wearing skirts and dresses in college and dressed more feminine in general. I never would have called myself a man or boy. I still felt feminine. Weird that everything has to be trans now. I would have cried if my parents tried to transition me because of my choice of clothes.

[@smokexsmoke99]

Probably most women look at the reverse and reason out that such a reflex doesn’t quite make sense. Are transmen erasing men? This threat doesn’t seem viable in the slightest, except perhaps from the extreme fringes of “masculinity” who probably are busy disqualifying “soyboys” from manhood as their day job. The “transman test” is just in general a good sanity check, because claims of trans people ruining society should likewise apply to transmen. And yet, transmen by and large do not warrant the same kind of histrionics from the usual anti-trans circles; a transman in the bathroom has no perceived additional threat value and needs no additional barrier to “prevent perversion” or other means of assault. Why? Because a transman is just there to use the restroom, and while some men might find it flattering if a woman were to be caught staring at their junk, most are off-put by the idea of another man staring at their business. And therein lies the key to the hysteria - again, people are just there to use the restroom, and anyone staring at someone else’s genitals is likely to warrant a response anyways, their gender or presentation be damned. The issue has always been the intrusive stare, not who is doing it. (And of course our American society being the way it is, we have prioritized maximization of stares with our lack of proper stall doors and urinal dividers. Are these features of our infrastructure to blame then for the sabotage of our cultural values?) From there the rest falls into place. Are we bothered by transmen wearing undershirts and flexing their well-honed muscles in instagram photos? Is this a sign of the coming destruction of our time honored culture? Unless if the argument comes from some originalist puritan perspective, I can’t see why a post-counterculture USA would particularly care.

[@smokexsmoke99]

I accept no substitutions. This is the one true, god-fearing culture, and all others are impure imposters besmirching the good name of America. The argument against transgender ideology has never been against “transgenderism” or any of its concepts. Practically everything has to do with the special feminine, a set of cultural values in which we put the feminine on a pedestal, derived from a wide variety of considerations and reasoning. That a man dares to “bring himself low to the woman” and then “seek the special affordance of a woman” is really the cultural crime being committed here; most of the emotional reaction comes out of not wanting to be compelled to confer such people with that special care that should be afforded to the fairer sex. In insisting on our classical cultural values, we run into a basic insistence - all women are created inferior, and that only through civilized culture are they given a pedestal to be made equals (or greater). This, as it turns out, is not exactly popular with most modern women. And as most people are capable of rubbing two brain cells together, this insulting treatment of women is the real problem, as no argument really exists against the counterpart - the transman who out of his very existence threatens the masculine mystique. Within those “radical SJW” and trans circles, there is a common recognition that maybe there need not be an insistence that all women are “inferior” in ways that must be accounted for through those special affordances. Rather, that should be more or less handled on a case-by-case basis, determined by the presenting individual rather than the observing party.

[@smokexsmoke99]

Why yes, clearly as a gentleman I should do my utmost to protect this woman from the savages of the streets, for she is frail and I am not. And this bears itself out in even “traditionalist” American culture today! Few bat an eye at the sight of a tomboy playing with men’s toys wearing men’s clothes. Even fewer train their gaze to spot the transman doing the same. None of this is a threat because for the vast majority of Americans, the stipulation that maybe women are in fact equals of men is perhaps not controversial at all (and maybe even affirmative of some vague sense of human rights, such as “equality”). When nationalism comes to play, suddenly these traditionalists don the veil of human rights, castigating the problematic “radical Islamists” for their treatment of women. Real, civilized countries do not make women lesser beings. But then, it begs the question. If women are in fact not the fairer sex, but just mere equals, why then do we have these affordances? What is the point of treating all women as particularly in need of protection? Sure, a frail person indeed could use additional protection from society, but frail men exist right alongside burly women. Nothing is inherent to the female body here - only for the individual who presents in a manner that needs protection (whether that is forced by their biology or just a matter of choice is up to their circumstances). The observer need not dictate over the individual.

[@smokexsmoke99]

So again, to those who see transwomen as problems - where are the protections for the frail man being assaulted by the lascivious transman? Is it that we are here to address the “totally real problem of transwomen assaulting defenseless women in the restroom,” or is the hangup really around not wanting to change one’s understood societal norms? Because many women can tell that the issue really centers around that latter part, and quite often those societal norms insist on the feminine mystique being inherently inferior and needing special attention as a result. And to many, that’s just not something they care to reinforce anymore. It was a lie with only some partial truth to it, one that sits in the annals of “normative physiological differences of the sexes,” complemented by the necessity of women’s sports kept pure from excessive testosterone. Ultimately the position of OP is a mere transitional one. Nothing about it is particularly American, not after the deep slide from true American values that the Witchfinder General would most certainly balk at in his perfected Original Early Modern English Pronunciation. And yet, it deigns to die on a hill over a certain kind of mindfulness to women, while being willfully unsupportive of anyone else who defies their canon - the frail man, the burly woman, and the transman. It tells us that the issue is with “transgenderism” and deviance.

[@bitsnpieces11]

As I have said before: If a boy wants to do boy things, fine. If a girl wants to do girl things, fine. If a boy wants to do girl things, fine. If a girl wants to do boy things, fine. They are sorting out their feelings, desires and abilities. Even at 90 years old we should be doing some of it, it keeps life interesting and keeps you from going bonkers.

[@thewewguy8t88]

you are not wrong.

[@georgeray1906]

Simple yet effective so I must applaud what you said.

[@SquidGains]

Exactly my thoughts on that as well

[@VioletRaven.]

I'm a woman and a few months back I decided to cut my hair really short, for no other reason than becuase I wanted to and I like the way it looks. Suddenly people started referring to me as they/them and asking me what my pronouns are. No one ever did that when I had long hair. It was so confusing. I'm still a woman, I just like short hair! It's so strange that people's assumptions about me changed so drastically just because I no longer have long hair. No one looks at a man with long hair and automatically assumes they are non-binary, so why do they assume women with short hair are? Doesn't help that I just happen to have a gender neutral name, but I can't help that that's how my parent's named me.

[@51_putusatyawijaya7]

Well this is the sad state of our society nowadays

[@WeirdStyler]

it's nice that they ask what your pronouns are :)

[@unnamed3932]

@@WeirdStyler BS.

[@unnamed3932]

It is utter lunacy. Tell them you do not believe in the pronoun cult religion b/c that is what it is. The 'trans' movement only works if we all agree to participate in it, don't participate.

[@sir_slimestone3797]

@@unnamed3932 It's mass delusion, to think you are something that you're not, simply because you want to be that something. They can call themselves a member of the opposite sex all they want, it doesn't change the fact that their biology does not reflect that, and that their sex is defined by the genitals they were born with. They are deranged, they don't want the truth, they hate it, they want to live in their lies and continue to lie to themselves, and they can't do it unless we join them in their insanity and become part of the cult.

[@starkfaktory6920]

I'm 21 i think tomboys are as great as the idealized "princess" image to be a man's partner they're just so cool !

[@wyndow_seet3263]

Holy cow! I loved this video!! The way you came at this whole situation from the view of the death of tomboys was legendary!! I never looked at it that way and it definitely needed to be said! I love your views on things and I love your content!

[@ww-cg4zd]

When I was about 13, I thought I was a boy. For some reason, I just couldn't stand the thought of having to spend the rest of my life as a girl (which is my biological sex). Luckily for me, my family didn't put me on puberty blockers. Fast-forward 10 years and I'm comfortable being a woman. Through my therapist, I realized that I wasn't experiencing body dysmorphia because I was transgender, but because I was sexually abused as a 6-year-old and for some reason the 13-year-old me thought that if I were a boy , I would never be hurt again. I just can't help but wonder how many children who are going through transition have been abused and are not getting the help they need 🥺

[@Xander1Sheridan]

far too many of them sadly. They need therapy and love and understanding, not irreversible medical procedures and drugs that will wreck them.

[@smolsunikki8043]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm sorry you went through that. Puberty after that kind of childhood abuse is super confusing- I experienced something similar. I'm so greatful that when I tried to "come out" to my Mom, she told me to wait and consider where those feelings of rejecting my body were coming from, and down the road I realized I'd started feeling them after I was touched inappropriately as a kid, and the trauma resurfaced, causing an intense feeling of dysphoria as a way of distancing myself from it. It breaks my heart to meet teens who have told me they were abused when they were little, who are left to their own devices against the intense waves of side-effects, and in the end wind up running toward a world that tells them it's better to be self-destructive than fight the good fight to resolve what they've gone through. It's not an easy battle by any means, but I can't imagine much worse than waking up on the other side and realizing you completely destroyed your life running from something you could have faced with the right help.

[@Melanbrocolli]

Totally relate!!!! Thinking it’d be easier to be a boy and be safer

[@brucekeys4910]

The same goes for boys, escaping the horror, anxiety, and depression of abuse. To be expected to "man up" when facing adversity when you've been deprived of the opportunity to build any sense of security within yourself. I feel the whole gender fluid movement has the potential to bring about some emotional healing (without transitioning), but transitioning kids rather than just allowing them to process trauma by allowing non-traditional outlets will not fix them. Dolls, trucks, whatever your kid may be drawn to is an innate expression of how they feel about themselves and their place on the world.

[@anyalyssawest]

This is actually pretty common sadly. I personally know two, and only two individuals that don't identify with their birth gender: 1 m to f abused by a gay relative, and 1 f non binary also abused by a male relative. Both of them have lived with me, and confided in me after moving in here that they didn't feel physically safe where they had moved away from. And both times I took to researching online to try and help them. I've read so many accounts of this happening. In the case of the transgender woman, her own father started emotionally abusing her first for the accusations, then for attempting to transition to protect herself. This is what got her taken by the system, and placed with her mother, finally. The father had been using custody to control the mother after a messy divorce. Since becoming a girl had saved my friend, she just clung to that. My other friend has slowly started to reclaim a more female persona since moving in with us, but they are free to be whatever gender they want over here. They too clung to personifying the opposite gender for safety.

[@avivagodfrey]

Never let the tomboy die. I was peak tomboy energy for a long time as a kid, and it will never completely go away.

[@raypurchase801]

Tomboys are the BEST. (From an admiring male.)

[@thelbs6500]

Thank you for making a video on this topic, Sydney. It took me until my mid-twenties to recognise that it was okay that I was not as feminine as other female friends and sometimes had interests more commonly shared with male friends. Young people need the time and space to figure themselves out. This focus on labels and stereotypes that could lead to young people potentially making permanent changes to themselves before they've gone out into the world and done some proper living is simply not in their best interests. How those in positions of influence fail to grasp this is utterly surreal.

[@WeirdSnakeGal]

I find it absolutely crazy how people have become obsessed with labels. At some point people were pushing against labels and now it's 10 times worse. I can't stand label because I'm so many things at the same time and I never really feel like I belong. When I was goth I wasn't completely goth and didn't hang out with other goth or listen to goth music it was just one facet of the multitude of facets of my personality. I still don't feel like labeling myself. Most days I do feel like a tomboy because I'm lazy and like comfy clothes but at the same time I dream to dress up like a 50's pin-up because I love that style but it's too much effort 😂 I agree about options being restricted and you have been able to put words on things I've been feeling for a while but weren't able to describe. I appreciate that not everyone's lost their minds.

[@friendly.little.monster]

My sister is 28 and still dresses like a boy. She is not a trans or non binary. She is a woman who doesn't like wearing girl clothes. Also she's straight af. We grew up in a time where being a tomboy was cool and edgy, so all the girls did it. Then we all got girly when Avril Lavigne started wearing punk girl skirts. It's crazy!

[@JulieS261]

I'm in my fifties and I still considered myself a tomboy. I feel more comfortable wearing shorts and t-shirts but there is no way that I feel like I am a boy or that I was assigned the wrong gender. I feel sorry for the kids who are being made to decide whether they are one thing or another...unfortunately the fallout from this will be far reaching and horrendous.

[@thilobraun3440]

Would like to give you many more upvotes. All of us have masculine and feminine traits and this make us individuals. Perfectly normal and no need to put people in little category boxes.

[@amaryllisrelic9097]

My sister was a tomboy growing up. I was more girly in general. She (and the media) had convinced me that being a girly girl was bad, and that being a tomboy was far superior for a girl to be.