THE DELETED EPISODE! // RELAX

[@tonyxhyon]

The part where Erik doesn’t take pictures unless he’s not with Colleen was cute and touching 😢

[@jenniferconnolly8849]

The tint with driving is illegal due to police not being able to see inside your vehicle and nothing to do with you driving in general

[@emmashurter7342]

sometimes i feel like erik just doesn’t want to understand you because i think you explained the vertical and horizontal thinking perfectly hahahahha. y’all are too funny! love you both so much!!

[@alwayzjello]

I'm with Erik too. I feel like I'm invisible when I'm wearing sunglasses, and that's nice. Probably because I can't see well with them on, so it feels like people can't see me either.

[@Misshissproductions]

Totallly agree and literally just said to my husband….”I know I sound like an old person but I’m so scared for the future and the kids today between AI and scammers, hackers, etc” That is why I love how much non technology you do with your kids…. Dancing, music classes, crafts, being outside…smart parents.

[@kaylyn11]

I AM SUCH A BIG LIGHT PERSON. I’ve never met anyone else like that!! People get so mad at me when I watch movies with friends/family! I get that you can see the screen better, but I just like being able to see everything ELSE. I have to sacrifice this so often though to please others😭😭😂

[@createconsiderconnect3356]

Colleen 😍 You’re hair is beautiful! Perfectly on point in this episode!

[@larkrose]

THE LIGHT ! Everyone around me loves the darkness, but i need every light on always. Sunlight specifically. I want all windows open so it’s as bright as it could possibly be at all times. No sunglasses either. I very deeply understand you colleen

[@LisamarieNHtoTx]

Omg Collleeeen. I am a BIG LIGHT girl too. I open all the windows and turn all the lights on all day and the second my husband gets home he closes the shades and it DRIVES ME NUTS. Ugh!! Light fuels my soul. I get it girl.

[@prncssdck03]

Colleen, I just have to say I am HERE for your look today! The high pony? The comfy sweatshirt? The 90s vibes are fantastic and this just might be my favorite hair look on you!

[@cstump2005]

I absolutely understand the explanation of the TikTok. NT brains see a road mapped out of things to do, where ours is like a wall of “STUFF TO DO” that we slam into. It’s paralyzing

[@rachelthomas4276]

My husband bought me an Apple Watch and I hate it. It constantly buzzes and is a real distraction when driving. Also it absolutely does sweat underneath and it stinks 🤢. Can’t not wear it though because it was a present, but let me tell you when it dies, I will not be replacing it. I’m with Colleen on keeping things simple.

[@aylastyles1312]

Erik needs some crocks by the front and back door for real

[@Te7ka]

Hi! I think the thinking of everything at once is an anxiety thing, I also do it. I've been advised to write things down and not keep them in my mind, because my brain is anxious and is constantly "holding" the tasks and is trying to remind me what I need to do and this cost a lot of mental energy because you're holding onto everything (I hate writing tasks down though 😅 )

[@katiehanson6253]

OMG ERIC'S "well why dont you??"" I spit taked... 😂😂😂😂😂😂 i am finished! Soo funny!!!

[@katiehanson6253]

Honestly this moment from Colleen and eric you see the love in their relationship. Soo cute❤️ all the love:)

[@Sara-AnneRybinski]

The puppets 😂

[@imgabiireyes]

they feel like a fun little easter egg every podcast 😂

[@erinanderson1990]

Loving this new trend. Keep it going 🤣

[@klaraz.9861]

I have to keep the sun glass debate going because I think you missed the MOST important point: sun glasses are not primarily to look cute. Their purpose is to literally protect you from cancer. Eye damage and cancer in the eye are common and real bad. I don’t like the feeling of glasses as well but especially in places with lots of sun it‘s so important!

[@lizzyo6179]

" I bought them FOR driving" lol. Love you guys

[@omarkaakour4953]

I just rewatched colleens "reversed mukbang" and she mentions a habit Eric has where he says "you know what I mean" a lot between sentences and I just noticed how many times he says itt😂😂

[@abbywisher]

I love you guys and we’re all so grateful for you & carrot with the podcast! I hope you’re both well

[@RachelK4982]

I need to wear glasses when I'm driving and I have prescription sunglasses because my eyes are pretty sensitive to light. I love them!

[@ExitLight]

I don’t have ADHD and I think of a list as a chunk of things to do. I can’t even imagine just ignoring the rest of the list and concentrating on one thing. What’s that world like? And yes, I have anxiety and panic attack disorders so…..maybe my brain is neurodivergent? Great, I’ll be up all night wondering about that……

[@kimberbee70]

Erik’s big comfy chair reminds me of a maple bar donut.

[@arwensdorf8311]

Colleen i am WITH YA getting inordinately angry at any kind of object imaginable ESPECIALLY technology.

[@KatiBoBati]

Colleen, you don’t need a wallet but you would benefit from a cardholder! Wallets are too big and bulky to fuss with but a cardholder fits perfectly in your pocket and keeps your stuff organized at the same time!

[@Kittehcat3000]

As someone with blue eyes if I forget my sunglasses I can't drive it's so dangerous!

[@janiceFLORIDA77]

I love watching you enjoy each other’s company 💞

[@bosquetblues7919]

Oh, Colleen, the sunglasses thing… I totally understand what you’re saying and experiencing. AND I have light blue, very sensitive eyes and chronic migraines. So I kind of HAVE to wear the sunglasses even though they make me claustrophobic, make me panic and bother my vision. I don’t wear them often enough. When I’m on holidays, I can get used to them and benefit from the safe space that they provide (what Erik spoke about). But it always starts with some days of avoiding going outside or doing it while being panicked and dissociated. Oh the brains, why are they so… neurospicy.

[@Wendisty]

I think I know what you're talking about Colleen. It is called something like adhd paralysis, where you feel stuck and can't do anything because you're thinking too much about everything you have to do. Sometimes it makes us look lazy

[@melrox8809]

I didn't like sunglasses when I was younger but I need them when I'm driving. I have dark brown eyes too. I'm with Erik about sunglasses. I always wear them in the sun & on the beach

[@szonja859]

Erik freaking out that Colleen doesnt wear any accessories for 54 minutes straight 😂 ❤ loved it thank you for the fun episode

[@reenibeanie5812]

I saw the same ADHD tik tok and it made soooooo much sense to me! It explained perfectly why I have so much anxiety over having a busy day! It absolutely blew my mind.

[@jos4222]

Sitting here wondering if Erik’s chair reclines, but then I see the ottoman/stool, so probably not (?) Also, when talking about visualizing things vertically or diagonally, you talked about something similar but it was about how you see days of the week or the months, I believe. I just love the love you two have for each other and how you listen to and engage with one another. I’m lucky to have that with my husband too. If I was still with my first husband, I would be feeling like I was missing out, but now I can enjoy you guys and feel lucky that I have a good one too! 🥰

[@user-cs9kr2wl6n]

I do remember you talking about the vertical and horizontal thing!! You were talking about the months being listed jan-dec in vertical not horizontal

[@Alyssa-Michelle]

Lmao malls are only for Adults who go shopping for 1 hour and teenagers who stay all day. Malls are still popin just gotta go to the right one

[@savannahlowery4270]

I absolutely understand the thinking vertical. It makes it feel like you have so much to do it’s impossible and overwhelming to the point you can’t do anything at all instead of just getting it done

[@miikayla]

100 billion percent with Colleen on the shoes. absolutely one of my biggest trigger points hahaha, her logic is exactly what i'm trying to tell everyone

[@lorena-2508]

With Colleen on the sunglasses debate!!!!! It's like an itchy sweater, but on my vision. I was in the car with my brother the other day and I randomly asked him "how do feel about sunglasses" as I've never seen him wear any. He promptly replied "They keep me from seeing the real world". YES. We're team see the world in real time and real color. No sunglasses allowed!!! 💖🌟

[@alysiasmith7702]

Omg Colleen! Although I wear sunglasses cuz I feel the sun is blinding, I can’t be in dim lighting. I hate restaurants and places with low lights. Unless it’s like just a candle lighting a space, I feel like my eyes are not open! Especially in restaurants, how can I read this glossy menu in the dark! Excited you guys are back on the podcast. Thanks for that. ❤

[@Emjh56]

My husband is very linear thinking but my neurodivergent brain is anything but linear lol I get you girl!

[@Courtney813]

Ok…I NEVER comment on videos lol. But let’s get more into the ADHD convo because Colleen, my mind is the absolute same way. The first task I need to do is at the top of the vertical and then everything else follows. BUT, when I start a task I add mini tasks in between my already original tasks. Does that make sense???

[@heatherhinson5801]

I'm on Erik's side with the whole light thing lol during the day I will open the blinds or curtains and use the natural light but will not turn on a big light! At night I always turn my lamps on the lowest setting unless I absolutely need more light to see something 🤣

[@alicerice8506]

I think about my to do’s the same way you do Colleen. I’m not diagnosed ADHD but my mind is always thinking of everything I have to do next instead of focusing on the thing I am doing. I always tell myself “you have to focus!”

[@Savvy955]

Not me at 1252am laying in bed with my bedroom light and hallway light on watching this. I can NOT stand sitting in the dark

[@AlyssaB2552]

I’m definitely a big light person. I sleep with the big light on. Can’t stand darkness at all

[@aliyah6943]

I fear for the youth too in terms of technology !

[@destinygarcia4630]

Your list discussion makes so much sense. I am able to plan out each task I have and when I am done with my current task I move on to the next!

[@9gracie97]

I definitely prefer the big lights. I want to be able to see!! And if I’m looking at a screen it looks way too bright when the room is too dark. My husband hates the big lights though so we try to compromise. We changed all the big light lightbulbs to yellow lights and he can deal with those and we keep the big lights off in his office

[@theamanuel8825]

I totally understand the vertical thinking! You're telling me people think horizontally???

[@samanthabaxter8688]

I feel so seen about the lights 😂 I must have lights on until bedtime! My parents never have the light on in their living room just the TV, no matter what time it is and it drives me crazy being in such a dark room.

[@DeborahTyllack]

Eric: "...because you look cool." Colleen (wearing the sunglasses, completely dry tone): "Do I?!" 🤣😂🤣 Love it!

[@barbaramay97]

I think with the vertical vs. Horizontal thing, it's more like neurodivergent people approach all the tasks for the day at once and they are all unorganized so it can be hard to tell them apart chronologically or by how important they are to get done. Neurotypical people tend to approach the tasks one at a time according to how important they are and where they fit chronologically into their day. It's the difference between essentially a videogame tutorial that goes task by task and being handed a to do list with tasks in a random order.

[@barbaramay97]

I also want to add that the neurodivergent version is also a common thing for people with anxiety disorders so that may be why Erik doesn't get what Colleen is saying because they both see it the same way.

[@freya4729]

Colleen literally looks blind when she had sunglasses on 😂 Not making fun of blind people here. Just funny how Colleen's posture and movement changed after wearing glasses.

[@sharonzona4346]

Love the puppets this week! You are very creative!!

[@CryStealHeart]

Colleen, I totally understand about the list on the wall of things to do immediately. I think you were thinking about steps people take one after the other on finishing their tasks and picture it in their mind this way too. Erik may understand library horizontal catalogs of books before the net which is the opposite of long vertical lists. It's all relative of abstract thoughts and directions that connect your thoughts that do the different directions. I dont know. Maybe my comment is more confusing lol

[@savannahfance2038]

The audible gasp I gusped when Colleen said she was a big light person... I am SHOCKED! If I could never have the big light on, I would do it.

[@authorgirlpetparent]

I have indoor crocs and outdoor crocs... I REALLY don't care how I look 🤣

[@lindsaylobotomy4355]

I have blue eyes and they are super sensitive. I can't be out in the sun without sunglasses and my eyes water like crazy. I'm also scared of getting cataracts. I don't want any kind of eye surgery ! 😬

[@cleosworld9096]

Omg im same with lights. I looooove lights on all the time and no one else does. Colleen the more u talk the more I just love someone else is like me.

[@shelleyjacobs7871]

Also sunglasses are made for us to wear to protect our eyes from the UV rays from the sun. That's why they are called sunglasses.

[@ShannonPetrie-vv2cf]

Okay like a lot of the other sunglass commenters i too have never commented on a video but i feel the EXACT same way about sunglasses (obstructs my vision, feels claustrophobic, need to see the world in HD) yet i have blue eyes…so that combination just results in me squinting a whole lot and dealing with the fact that i will have deeeep crows feet around my eyes when i’m older. I sometimes wonder if it’s an adhd thing at least for me because they kinda distract me from what i’m doing and the same goes for lights, i need my phone brightness up, all the lights on around me, blinds all open, etc. it makes a big difference in how productive i am or else i’ll feel like something’s off the whole time

[@evermore5432]

Absolutely agree with the BIG Lights. I have all the lights on no matter what time of the day it is. Especially because I am not a fan of the dark. I also sleep with either the TV or a light on.

[@shannontaylor5094]

Colleen. Omg. I moved into an apartment without realizing there were NO big lights. I have to rely on daylight and lamps and it hurts my souls daily. Can’t wait to move

[@mariemarquis1467]

I am a no sunglasses and pro big light person myself. Maybe they’re related? One of the reasons why I usually don’t enjoy eating at restaurants at night is because the restaurants turn the lights down so dim I feel like I’m wearing sunglasses inside and I can’t see my food! Gotta have all the light!

[@jessicalicemily9030]

I agree 100% with everything Erik feels about sunglasses!

[@emmacollins454]

The lights! OMG I HATE THE BIG LIGHT! The big light in my house has only ever come on when I accidentally hit the wrong switch. Give me the dimmable light, black out curtains, the darkest window shade ever made! I love the dark… maybe that’s the depression talking 😂😂

[@GonniGettingFitter]

Oh, I need SO MUCH light! ALL OF THE LIGHT PLEASE! I need vibrancy and clarity in every inch of my environment at all times. It might drive my bf insane but oops

[@tracywestby2231]

I think vertically for sure. My husband very early on in our relationship was absolutely delighted to discover he could erase my mental list while I was making it. And erase my chalk board when I'm trying to figure out a math problem.... I think we visualize so accurately that it is like you are writing on paper.

[@jennygormanpratt96]

I'm almost there with you on the lights Colleen. I love NO window coverings. When the sun comes in I want the sun in my face. But I don't like bright lights on during a movie unless I'm working on a craft project. And I can't sleep with any mood lighting on. I like it dark with a night light in the distance. And I definitely use sunglasses when it's sunny out.

[@laurennlauren33]

I used to work at a decently popular store on the Strip in Vegas and having to ID people was the worst of the worst thing. At my old store, you CAN bypass having to scan their ID because customers do have a choice in the matter. You would just type in their birthday. Also, the cashier would have to be at least 21 to sell alcohol. Is that really too young for facebook?

[@Linilousuarez]

maybe i’m the only one, but i completely understand the train of thought about having things to do! i always think of everything at once and my boyfriend thinks of one thing at a time!!

[@talitha4076]

I never comment indeed. finally a person who agrees with me. I am a bright light person no matter where or how late it is, it needs to be all on full on. and yes everyone thinks I'm crazy for that.

[@nancykyle9803]

My husband turns off all lights to watch TV and doesn't necessarily want them on in the daytime. I abhor watching TV in the dark, need at least a lamp. I love light, especially natural light. Give me the sun on my closed eyelids after a dark winter and I'm reborn. By the way, Colleen, my husband is your cousin.

[@kylielewis6235]

Neurodivergent doesn’t just mean ADHD colleen haha. Erik can relate to this because anxiety qualifies as neurodivergence

[@alwayzjello]

I feel like wallets made more sense before technology, when most people paid with cash and we collected business cards and such. Now it's all on our phones. I also have a pocket in my bag for my credit card and ID and that's basically all I need (and my phone).

[@Tina_Rinaaa]

I worked at target for my first job and that EXACT same situation Erik was talking about happened to me!!

[@alwayzjello]

I like the big light too. It feels like a vacation to my eyes when it's bright. I can't see in the dark!

[@andrealuna8686]

Some people are sensory seeking and some are sensory avoiding. Colleen is a sensory seeker when it comes to “the more light the better” but Erik is sensory avoidant so a lamp with a sheet on top of it is less stimulating and relaxing. Also wearing shoes/sunglasses means there needs to be a separation to be less stimulated by sensory output but at the same time, wearing sunglasses/shoes can be uncomfortable and they are the causes of overstimulation themselves.

[@rhiannacreel2813]

Hi! Just wanted to throw out here why the tint of sunglasses reacts differently with different eyes: so, your iris has a certain amount of melanin (pigmentation) in it, that helps protect from UV rays. Generally people with lighter colored eyes will have less melanin, making them more sensitive to light, and people with darker eyes will have more melanin, which makes them less sensitive. I have what are called “amber eyes” and my eyes are extremely sensitive to light. I can’t leave my house without wearing sunglasses, doesn’t matter if it’s a cloudy day, or a sunny day, I’m immediately squinting and blind and it causes a headache. Just thought you’d find that interesting because I think Erik has light eyes and Colleen has dark eyes?

[@sailornamek]

Sunglasses: a nice little brain snuggle. Lol

[@hajara3214]

38:14 I felt this in my soul 😂 as a neurodivergent who is surrounded by neurotypicals Eric just being at a loss of words, is how all of my loved ones sound It’s pure love but genuine confusion 😂 Love you guys and team “least amount of accessories on my person, possible” alllll the wayyy With much love to “team accessories, always” because without you guys, we’d be in big trouble 😂

[@AlexD58]

I’m with Erik (Carrot) on the sunglasses. If it’s too bright, I get pain in the center of my forehead. I love sunglasses and I love my transition prescription glasses. I love your podcast!

[@savannahcasteel4403]

I literally always have the big lights on in my house! I can’t see if they are off and it gives me major anxiety…all of my friends think I’m crazy!!

[@abbey720]

Okay but Colleen you look so cool with sunglasses hahahaha

[@alwayzjello]

I also don't like wearing watches. I don't like things on my wrist. When I was in junior high school, I would carry a watch around in my pocket (this was before cell phones).

[@Liiszu]

I usually don't comment on videos, but I just had to say that I am the same way as Colleen- I don't wear sunglasses, don't have a wallet or a watch, don't were shoes inside (that's the norm in Estonia anyway). When we leave the house my husband has the keys and I have backpack with things for our three kids. 😂

[@kathleencrews3329]

Love the lights!!! Colleen you and I are same.. Don’t have a purse I don’t wear sunglasses I do not like watches However, I will wear my rings and my necklace that my husband bought me.. by the way, the lights make my house, feel warm, clean and cozy .. I do not like the dark at all .. I’m also the girl that has my phone on light mode opposed to dark mode

[@SweetieMcPetey]

I’m also a big light person. The rooms that don’t have a big light drive me crazy… I don’t want to be in a dungeon.

[@stephschabacker9590]

Back to the sunglasses thing- I relate to you, Colleen!! You know how people have to turn down the music in their car when they’re getting close to their destination? I do the same thing with sunglasses! If I really need to see something I have to take them off!! I wear them because it’s safer for my eyes, and I had lasik done on my eyes and was recommended to always wear sunglasses in the sun. Also because they’re cute. But for sure need them off when I’m looking for something lol!

[@joemaymayers2212]

I loved the last part and the chat about how kids are doing and what they like it really felt like old friends getting together and chatting about the fam ❤ love you guys

[@spottyty]

I hate when there's anything on me I don't like watches, sun glasses, necklaces, chains they all just feel so uncomfortable

[@amymc2257]

The puppets are giving me circus vibes today 😂❤ love it so much!

[@kanubhatia2304]

I am a big light girl too! I ll go to a restaurant and ask them if they can put on actual lights instead of their “dim/romantic” lighting!

[@emmabotsch3744]

Colleen!!!!! All lights on all the time!!!! Everyone in my family hates lights I just walk into a room and turn in on the light!!

[@itsdaksha]

I so agree with you Colleen. As a woman you kinda see everyone have these purses and wallets but girl i need the easiest access to my phone and money. Why would I open my bag then the bag zip then the purse zip and then take out money ugh too much work. One tote bag with all my stuff in there. Easy in easy out ❤😂

[@kimalexander4083]

The issue with window tint is that the police can't see you when they stop you. Seems not to be an issue in Arizona.

[@thlagerquist]

I am that person! I never comment on videos. Too shy. But I also love all the lights on. My house is bright all the time. I can’t see in dim light! Also light blue eyes here. The sun is agonizing. Still won’t wear sunglasses, I just avoid the Outside when the suns out. Which is easy too do because it rains a lot in the Oregon coast.

[@laurasotelo8088]

When i was younger i hated light. Now that I have 3 kids i need all the windows open to let all light in.

[@kaitlynncosta]

I AM A BIG LIGHT PERSON!!!! i’m shocked you mentioned you know ur wrong colleen because i am such a big light person

[@shannonrosado6453]

I cannot live without my sunglasses 😎