The Difference Between Male And Female Depression

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[@michaelanthony4750]

This is why monasteries where so great back in the day. People with mental issues could just check in, till fields, brew beer, and work until they got their head straight while still being a benefit to society. When they felt better they would just leave or maybe stay and help others.

[@SmartestDumbGuy]

That's actually a really interesting thought.

[@scottydog9997]

Just gave me a few ideas.

[@helgaioannidis9365]

They still exist.

[@jordonschwedas4621]

​@@helgaioannidis9365 where ?

[@helgaioannidis9365]

@@jordonschwedas4621 do you ask me for a list of all monasteries of all religious groups world wide? I'm not able to provide that, that's a lot of stuff to type and research to do. But if you really consider living in a monastery, I'd recommend searching for a monastery in your area through Google and contacting them.

[@CatsCantSwim]

Quote of the Day: "Give a man a purpose and the ability to achieve it and he will crawl over broken glass with a smile." -Adam Lane Smith (as quoted by Chris Williamson) Brilliant.

[@misterdeluxia5948]

i got chills when he said that

[@flyaway6671]

And when I repeat that quote it becomes mine. yeah baby

[@AmeliaBodilia]

He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.-Friedrich Nietzsche Nietzsche said it better.

[@CatsCantSwim]

@@AmeliaBodilia Agreed. Smith's version is a bit verbose but still lands on the same sentiment.

[@KanyeT1306]

Brilliant quote, but I would add: "...with a smile on his face.". Just sounds like it rounds it out easier.

[@mathgodpiextras]

I'd never truly feel respected by a woman if she didn't love me, and I'd never truly feel loved by a woman if she didn't respect me. To me, the two concepts go hand in hand.

[@radhiadeedou8286]

If you have to choose between love and respect in a relationship, get out of that relationship

[@maggiesmith979]

Excellent!

[@StninkyBoi]

A feeling of love will have it's ups and downs, you can't feel in love with someone all of the time. The second respect goes however, you're screwed.

[@Harry._.Thompson]

Bruh that wasn’t the point

[@flyaway6671]

Yeah both men and women need both. A man respected but not loved is basically trapping a women in a relationship she's too scared to get out of.

[@scroopynoopers9824]

Not the point of the clip

[@MidasCat]

As a man…..I don’t want to have to choose respect or love, I want both lol

[@alex-c808]

exactly man, i thought one comes with the other lol

[@fdhhdhdueve8222]

IF you had to chose between one of them, the answer is respect, I don't care how others will respond that my take, that's what I want more then love because love is just chemicals, respect is power Can you love a man(no homo) and have no respect for him? Can a woman love a man without respect for him? Yes....his mother. Nowone else. Same for woman if you love her but don't respect her, you probably just want to fuck her Woman love men, don't respect them That's called "Guy best friend"

[@loyalninecoffee2024]

If a man does not feel respected first, he will never feel loved either.

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

That man then needs to earn the respect he wants

[@LordHaragnok]

@@wyleecoyotee4252 If you don't respect the man why are you in a relationship with him lmao

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

@Duke McDaniels There was nothing mentioned about me. This has nothing to do with me. I was stating a point but you went and made it personal. Lol

[@LordHaragnok]

@@wyleecoyotee4252 The generic "you" is a thing

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

@Duke McDaniels Generically statistically fewer women are marrying and pairing up. They choose career instead.

[@BrockLanders]

“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” - Friedrich Nietzsche

[@Junkdrunk247]

Yes,Victor Frankel man's search for meaning.Nietzsche said to live is to suffer,to survive is to find meaning in the suffering,which is a great quote as well

[@bridgetky657]

Victor Frankl!!

[@Burn143]

Respect and love go hand in hand imo. Both women and men want to be loved AND respected.

[@beianimeyah24]

🤦‍♂️

[@Burn143]

@@beianimeyah24 Is there a problem?🤔

[@valiancesteadfast9550]

Woman NEED love. Men NEED respect. Love and pity can go together. Is pity respect? Love and respect are not a single package.

[@Burn143]

@@valiancesteadfast9550 No. Women NEED respect and Men NEED love as well. It’s not an or situation and I don’t know why people try to push that narrative. That’s how successful relationship work, when the partners in question has and is satisfied with BOTH. The two aspects are supposed to coexist. Then we wonder why people’s relationships are failing, because of these false beliefs.

[@writtenroses3416]

@@valiancesteadfast9550 This is some shit guys say to justify beating their wives, I swear to god. “She wasn’t respecting me the way I need, your honour.” You’re JUST and ONLY men - not gods, not heroes, not masters of the universe. Just soft, pink little mortals. You’re born screaming, shitting yourself and terrified like every other person on the planet. And the only thing that gets you to survive to adulthood is love - certainly not respect. Go to therapy and work out the differences between your needs and wants. Clearly y’all don’t know.

[@MissDLinx]

People like to say that men crave respect and women crave love. I would actually argue that, while yes, those things are true, the driving forces for men and women are not respect and love, but purpose and stability. Men thrive when given purpose. Women thrive when they receive stability. The difficulty is in defining and determining what purposes and stability are for each individual and then how to go about achieving them/ putting them into the practice.

[@acetrap]

You make a great point to be fair but I do thing from experience men still want respect and women crave love and attention

[@thekramer1097]

This 100%. I loved my ex with my life but her idea of "stability" was like a house of cards. She broke up with me because I was going for something durable, stable, based in trust. She just wanted a quick Disney drama

[@just-a-fella3212]

@@acetrap That is what Sarah said, that it is true that men want respect and women want love, but that _the driving force_ underlying those wants, is that men seek purpose and women seek stability.

[@yzma6142]

This is so true I’ve never thought about it like this

[@beemel5734]

Absolutely! My husband has said that, while he still has occasional anxiety about work and such, he knows he can overcome anything because he has to. And he has to overcome anything because he wants to give us a good life. He says I give him purpose, which is the highest esteem I think I've ever been given, personally. Meanwhile, he gives me so much assurance and stability, which has really solved a lot of mental as well as trust issues I've had for a long time with no aid in sight, until I met him. We help each other with the things we do for each other.

[@BasementBerean]

Living things are "loved" by getting what they need. Men, women, cats, dogs, guinea pigs all have different needs. You "love" a being by giving it what it need whether you feel like it or not. "Respect" is a critical way a wife can love a husband. It's a kind of love, not an alternative to love.

[@cynthiajohnson9412]

Well said. They can never be mutually exclusive.

[@user-hp3bo5mt1d]

I completely agree. Respect comes from love as love also has to have respect, both for men, women or any living thing.

[@alaakela]

Thank you for including guinea pigs :)

[@toplobster1040]

I like that

[@marymiller6188]

I love this!

[@dingfeldersmurfalot4560]

There is no real love between adults without respect. Without it, one of them is denigrated automatically in being thought of as a child. And they will know it soon enough.

[@DavidSmith-pn8ll]

I love plenty of adults without respecting them

[@MeshachKanyion]

People say stuff like this because they don’t understand what love is. They think it’s a feeling or something like that. We all crave love! And being respected is a part of that.

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

Any respect wanted must be earned.

[@TheShredtube]

How do men earn respect? People have different standards to respect.

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

@@TheShredtube Assessing him through his actions and words.

[@agpie9]

​@@TheShredtube what kind of respect do you want? For your accomplishments? Be competent and have something to show for it. For your intellect? Be intelligent, articulate, but try to avoid arrogance. For being a good person? Be kind, empathetic, and charitable. For your leadership? Take initiative, follow through, and guide others toward mutual success. For your personality? Have charisma and a good sense of humor. There are so many ways to earn respect.

[@DarkWing494]

Nah huh, that is misogyny. Women should get respect without have to earn it🤡 (yes I'm trolling don't @ me 🤭)

[@christianriddler5063]

Alright, time to look at how women must earn love.

[@honeylamb24]

I'm a woman and Respect is EVERYTHING to me! Once I'm Respected daily by my partner, his love and admiration follows by default!

[@fayekalantzis4523]

I always thought you can't have love without respect

[@sarahrobertson634]

Neither partner can be healthy without both love and respect. Duh, manosphere m0r0ns.

[@falleneldor]

​@@sarahrobertson634 "duh" "morons". so respectful of you...🙄 This is the problem. you, right here right now. If your saying rude things online, how much more hostile are you to the people who you engage with daily. your man? your father? your sons or nephews? i wonder what they would say about your level of respect for them? common courtesy is dead. courtship is dead because women expect the world and nothing ever meets your standards...

[@sarahrobertson634]

@@falleneldor I don't respect red pill males. It's not rocket science. The men in my real life, in real time, are not red pill. They're actual alphas. The quiet kind who are stoic and don't complain. Shhhh.

[@falleneldor]

@@sarahrobertson634 Red pill, blue pill, one pill two pill, no matter. I am Just making observation is all. There was no disrepect intended. I was just making a point is all. You think perhaps they just avoiding the drama in your daily life? You only know what they share with you. Might be easier to avoid battles and tell you what you want to hear? (That detroyed a friend's marrage because no matter what his wife was never content.) They gonna talk to the boys about "how women be" thats life... same as women talk bout thier men. No relationship, of any kind (husband wife, farher daughter, friendships etc) are devoid of strife. One of the things you said i agree with whole heartily. Respect is a two way street. I think open communication is indeed key, but also letting the small stuff slide so long as the major problems are assesed and dealt with.

[@sarahrobertson634]

@@falleneldor What I want to hear is silence.

[@Handle70770]

I left my man of 10 years because he didn’t show me an ounce of respect. Love is respect. If you need to have a podcast to argue that it’s not, it’s no wonder you’re alone..

[@jenniferlynn3721]

As a woman, love and respect is equally important to me.

[@Patrickdaawsome]

Same for me

[@SHIZZLE71]

They’re talking generally

[@chakshumalhotra3897]

So you want the drink and desert too . Women need to be pampered men don’t. Men needed to be respected for their decisions. Women GENERALLY are not making decisions in a relationship let alone ordering for food in a restaurant.

[@yzma6142]

You can’t be loved of you’re not respected

[@irishcountrygirl78]

​@@SHIZZLE71 they are talking crap.

[@sherlock7898]

I quote Dr. Laura Schlesinger a lot and I read this in one of her books a when I was a young girl. A man will happily work all day every day for the rest of his life for the woman he loves. Men are capable but they need something to do the work for. Women can be their cheerleaders; encouraging them along the way and praising them when they succeed. Man or woman, we need to be appreciated for the work we do.

[@gulammurtaza3851]

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[@gulammurtaza3851]

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[@gulammurtaza3851]

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[@duruyucel]

As a woman I believe I'm more inclined to choose respect over love though.

[@aliceandfriendsvideos]

Same. This is bullshit. Plenty of people who supposedly "love" me have disrespected and even abused me. If I feel disrespected in my vocation I lose motivation. If I'm disrespected in relationships I start losing interest and affection. And EVERYONE needs purpose.

[@duruyucel]

@@aliceandfriendsvideos hear hear!

[@bubullibooooo9928]

They don't know shit about women they always wanna tell us what we want in relation to what they want out of us...

[@dab0331]

​​@@aliceandfriendsvideos "Greater love hath no man than this, to give his life for his friends." - Jesus A woman needs a man who loves her and willing to die for her. Even if he doesn't "respect" her and fucks a side-bitch (who he doesn't love). A man doesn't care if his woman is willing to die for him so much, because he understands that he is suppose to be the sacrificial lamb; he wants her to respect him and his boundaries by not embarrassing him in public, and not fucking other men and putting his bloodline into question.

[@ratsandbats]

THIS! men will still try and tell us we’re wrong though 🗿

[@kathleenkirchoff9223]

Define the difference between love and respect. We all need both.

[@dab0331]

"Greater love hath no man than this, to give his life for his friends." - Jesus A woman needs a man who loves her and willing to die for her. Even if her doesn't "respect" her a fucks a side-bitch (who he doesn't live). A man doesn't care if his woman is willing to die for him so much, because he understands that he is suppose to be the sacrificial lamb; he wants her to respect him and his boundaries by not embarrassing him in public, and not fucking other men and putting his bloodline into question.

[@Elise-tq6hc]

@@dab0331disgusting.

[@nmesomambakwe1076]

I am a woman and I choose respect Over love any day and most women I know do. You can’t claim to love me and not respect me. It’s why men still beat up women they love. So it goes hand in hand, love and respect

[@happygolucky3450]

No that's just cos they didn't dry the can opener properly

[@LionXV1]

Beating up women has nothing to do with having no respect, that is just a lack of true care and love. What you likely mean when you say respect is that you just don't want to be treated badly, which is a perfectly healthy thing to want. Respect is tied to fear and admiration, men don't fear or admire women but they do love them and if he truly loves you he'd never beat you up, that's the truth. A man that beats up women for no reason is a man that never learned to love anyone, because he hates himself.

[@nmesomambakwe1076]

@@LionXV1 please check the dictionary meaning of respect. It has nothing to do with fear. It is rather admiration, honor and deep regard. I don’t think a man who honor, admires and has a deep regard for his wife would ever touch her harmfully or a woman for her husband would ever speak to him in a contemptuous manner.

[@LionXV1]

@@nmesomambakwe1076 I was referring to the root of where respect actually comes from, not what respect means. It usually comes from the feeling of fear or admiration towards something. Obviously a man who "respects" a woman wouldn't hurt her but that's not the point, it's that instinctively men don't respect women because women are smaller and weaker, so asking men to respect women isn't going to work. Instead men need to be encouraged to love and care for women, so that they will have no desire to hurt or mistreat them.

[@bubullibooooo9928]

​​@@LionXV1 So you think you can abuse your wife with respect? You can't love someone you don't respect...

[@katharina1439]

So many men LOVE their wife. But they don't respect her. She tells you a hundred times and you never do it. Then you have an affair. You still love your wife, but you fuck another woman. RESPECT GOES BOTH WAYS‼️ You have to give it, to demand it!

[@KD400_]

Are modern women wives. Are you a good wife. Do you respect your husband. Because sexually we are completely different so don't bring cheating in this discussion. Men want respect women want love. Deal with it. Its biological

[@dab0331]

​​@Alice and Friends "Greater love hath no man than this, to give his life for his friends." - Jesus A woman needs a man who loves her and willing to die for her. Even if he doesn't "respect" her and fucks a side-bitch (who he doesn't love). A man doesn't care if his woman is willing to die for him so much, because he understands that he is suppose to be the sacrificial lamb; he wants her to respect him and his boundaries by not embarrassing him in public, and not fucking other men and putting his bloodline into question. A woman's bloodline is never put into question by her man cheating. We're NOT the same. Just like female cowardice isn't looked down upon like male cowardice

[@katharina1439]

@@KD400_ 😂😂😂this didn't just happen to MODERN WOMEN!😂 You men do this for a thousand years. Having a concubine was fashionable for the rich, while the lower class didn't have a word for it. Traditional 1950's women have been treated this way! So don't make it out like you men have no other choice🙄

[@KD400_]

@@katharina1439 ur feminist mindset will never allow u to accept truth. So I will leave u to ur own devices. All I can say is that u will lose if u have this mindset

[@Respect2theFallen]

This betrayal goes both ways. Some women will not get told "youre beautiful" 50000 times a day and goes to cheat or hes busy at work PROVIDING for the family and she cheats smh thats a common thing and it's a stupid reason for women to cheat make that make sense and put some respect on that. 🙄

[@kari.ostero]

Paul said something similar in Ephesians 5:33 "However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."

[@Christoo92]

Facts

[@heydavid4883]

Wow

[@KJ-nv9uz]

I think the main way a woman shows love to her husband is via respect. Love isn't just being mushy gushy over someone.

[@jennaphage]

Truth.

[@Dedicated_.1]

I’ve been saying this - the Bible doesn’t tell women to love their men. It tells hm them to submit and respect him. Timeless wisdom.

[@gilded_spark_7022]

I don't think love can exist without respect. Admiration, lust, sympathy, empathy etc...those feelings can exist without respect, but love, no.

[@murphsviews]

Certainly not for women. They MUST respect a man in order to love him. Men, not so sure, we’re built different. I think we could easily love a woman we don’t respect. Just like how we can be madly attracted to a woman we don’t respect. Whereas if a woman doesn’t respect a man there’s zero chance of her being attracted to him.

[@getgot3461]

​@@murphsviews sure, but it's not about the man's view, it's about what a woman wants. A woman doesn't want a man that doesn't respect her either. What you speak of is what YOU allow, and it's reflective of your own value system if you're willing to "love" someone u don't respect, just goes to show you don't really know what love is.

[@valiancesteadfast9550]

Woman NEED love. Men NEED respect. Love and pity can go together. Is pity respect? Love and respect are not a single package.

[@marygard4608]

​@@murphsviewsYou have an overactive imagination.

[@murphsviews]

@@marygard4608 in your opinion

[@gumlus1257]

I was lost and sad. Then I got tired of it, sat down and wrote down a plan and purpose. Changed my life.

[@misskia5810]

Plan and propose? You just picked something?

[@sebsebski2829]

@@misskia5810 Why not?

[@zig8925]

Women can't love you without respecting you

[@crunchyflakepusssuk]

THANK YOU!

[@TranscendentalMindX]

False

[@ohdear2275]

I agree with you, Zig. I can't love a man unless I respect him first.

[@Jesei1211]

@@TranscendentalMindX If we talking about romantic love for a man who doesn’t respect himself that love comes from a place of pity instead of a place of reciprocated respect.

[@fredrikchristmansson3700]

True. It's part of their hypergamous nature. Likewise when a woman stops respecting you she will also stop loving you. Because women love conditionally, only men loves unconditionally.

[@subliteral1380]

Men can't love themselves unless they respect themselves, and that respect has to be earned.

[@BleedInAllColours]

I don't see a need to differentiate between the genders here. To chose an example from the same era: After WWII, with most of the capable men dead, imprisoned, disabled, women took over every single job that beforehand was done my men. Hard, manual labor like reconstructing buildings, they were called "Trümmerfrauen". Every human being needs a purpose.

[@heartig1219]

Cool. Generally i would say women want to be respected too.

[@shellymcgrew4412]

Wow! Married for 44 years and still learning about how to be his wife! Thank you.

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

Poor you

[@shellymcgrew4412]

@@wyleecoyotee4252 Not sure what you mean by your comment but while marriage is hard it’s also an amazing blessing.

[@RL0319]

​@@shellymcgrew4412 👍🏻👍🏻

[@PolishBehemoth]

​@@shellymcgrew4412 dont worry about hatefull immature trolls. You are doing fine shelly. God bless you and your 44 year marriage. Youre doing better than 99% of americans. I wosh i had a marriage that went atleast 4 years.

[@shellymcgrew4412]

@@PolishBehemoth 🙂

[@CC-pu6qn]

The thing is, men want respect and not all depressed men are respectable. Men often don’t want to do the inner work.

[@justjo4059]

Your own sense of self worth needs to be strong enough you don't NEED others to "build you up". If you have that need, you also have internal work that needs tending. We all thrive when we have the support of others... sometimes that looks like them reminding us of our own strengths.. sometimes that looks like them lovingly calling us on our shit. This is love and respect. This is support. This is human and genderless. Submission has nothing to do with love OR respect. If you need a submissive partner to feel powerful in yourself, again... you've got inner work that needs tending, male or female.

[@analozada9475]

Not totally true. We humans are highly social creatures, and from birth we need love/nurturing/needs met in order to survive and thrive. Men need love as well. Yet, the way men and women express and receive love may vary a bit, but we all need love and respect. Women want to be respected too, is not a "men" thing only.

[@dab0331]

"Greater love hath no man than this, to give his life for his friends." - Jesus A woman needs a man who loves her and willing to die for her. Even if he doesn't "respect" her and fucks a side-bitch (who he doesn't love). A man doesn't care if his woman is willing to die for him so much, because he understands that he is suppose to be the sacrificial lamb; he wants her to respect him and his boundaries by not embarrassing him in public, and not fucking other men and putting his bloodline into question.

[@analozada9475]

@@dab0331 Ok...lol

[@aakankinskywalker384]

by respect we are not talking about the inherent respect that a human being has, but the respect for the potential and the achievements of men

[@bluemountainw1789]

If you want a purpose and to feel capable go out and learn a damn skill. You can’t control being loved because you can’t dictate how others feel. Mens depression issues sound stupid. Every one wants love and every one needs purpose. This isn’t exclusive to men.

[@aakankinskywalker384]

women can get pregnant to get a purpose, they are biologically given a purpose, men not so much

[@rrx557]

“give a man a purpose and the means to achieve it, and he will crawl over broken glass with a smile..” true words

[@OneTwo-yw4ij]

So who's job is it to give him purpose?

[@aakankinskywalker384]

The society@@OneTwo-yw4ij

[@jacksoncowsert6964]

People need to understand the stupidity in speaking for an entire sex.

[@jaybot532]

Stupidity is not understanding generalities. There are humans with 6 fingers on one hand we don't say humans have 6 fingers though do we.

[@joshuablair252]

Respect is love. There is no love in disrespect in a relationship

[@badstar9670]

So true, give us righteous purpose, and we will stop at nothing.

[@valentinabodurova]

I'm a woman and I need both love and respect. You cannot show you love someone if you don't respect them - you can't love someone you don't respect. A healthy relationship needs both to prosper, 1 is not enough to sustain it.

[@susanpendell4215]

I'm a woman and I want respect too, esp. since it's so hard to come by. I get these men getting up and driving those ambulences, they were on a mission, they were needed, it was a call of duty of sorts. I hear that loud and clear.

[@whitemakesright2177]

Yeah, these are generalizations, but in reality it's a spectrum. Both men and women crave love, acceptance, respect, and purpose. Women generally want love and acceptance a little bit more than they want respect and purpose, and men vice versa. They go together, too - if you love someone, you'll give them respect.

[@dab0331]

"Greater love hath no man than this, to give his life for his friends." - Jesus A woman needs a man who loves her and willing to die for her. Even if he doesn't "respect" her and fucks a side-bitch (who he doesn't love). A man doesn't care if his woman is willing to die for him so much, because he understands that he is suppose to be the sacrificial lamb; he wants her to respect him and his boundaries by not embarrassing him in public, and not fucking other men and putting his bloodline into question. A woman would rather have a cheater who is willing to give her his seat on the lifeboat of a sinking Titanic vs. a sexually faithful man who's a coward and unwilling to die for her

[@whitemakesright2177]

@@dab0331 A cheater is not going to die for his woman LOL. What a bizarre hypothetical.

[@rachel14rod]

​@@dab0331 - wow your morals are really messed up. Who would respect an unfaithful man? There is nothing to respect there!

[@mananana1911]

Choose love and you’ll get both respect and love. If you love someone you’ll respect them.

[@kellymcque]

Both depressed men and depressed women need a purpose and people to encourage them to achieve their goals. Love from others is nice but it's hard to accept love from others that when you feel worthless and like you're burden. Purpose is key.

[@zinhle1627]

I think you're absolutely correct. I was thinking about this and it does boil down to purpose. But women and men look at purpose differently. Meaning it translates differently when applied practically what purpose means to them. I think the gentlemen on the video are also right, because what they're saying is basically unpacking purpose from a males perspective, it would sound differently for the woman.

[@kuenringeling]

Is there some more information about the guys from the psychiatry starting to drive ambulances during the blitz? Such a powerful story!!!

[@QuacklifeK]

The respect thing goes for both men and women. You can’t really love someone in a way that is meaningful without respecting them, and a person’s love means nothing without their respect. I think it’s just a matter of conscientiousness, and how much love and respect you have for yourself. If you love and respect yourself, you won’t let people stomp all over your boundaries, and you’ll also only really be inclined to lead, make decisions with, and follow those who you respect as well. And you don’t tend to waste time caring for those who you don’t either.

[@anttikettunen8601]

I never understood the distinction between love and respect. Like what kind of relationship is one with respect but not love? That's a friendzone right? I seriously doubt men want that ... Or vice versa, love but no respect? I love you babe but go fck yourself and I never wanna see you again? Weird relationships.

[@awakeinthedream1111]

Both are needed in balance. Without the driving force of love, men are just capable animals who can’t achieve anything truly beautiful. And without respect, women have low self esteem and make destructive choices.

[@Thegraylady]

I think both men & women (and anything living, for that matter) craves love & respect. It just LOOKS different and the delivery is different depending on the needs of that person.

[@Billiard-cp1my]

I am a woman and want respect from my partner as well. I always give respect. I would like love and loyalty as well. Actually all 3 are crucial in a relationship imo.

[@sarahrobertson634]

You think women don't want respect? Or to be treated like we're capable? We're not just comfort animals, gentlemen. We demand respect.

[@TheTurinturumbar]

But, you're not capable. You've tried being in the work force and your minds are crumbling. More than half of liberal women under 30 are on head meds.

[@theinfinitevoidiscringe2819]

That's the difference between men and women. Men know they have to earn respect, women demand it, and do nothing to earn it. You believe you are entitled to it.

[@sarahrobertson634]

@@theinfinitevoidiscringe2819 Women earn respect every day. Don't be daft. It's often men who want to be respected just because they're male, you your projection is showing. You also have to account for women's inherent breeding value, as assigned by nature, and men's lack thereof. Even considering this value, most of us are still willing to earn the respect we want. Every day.

[@sarahrobertson634]

@Joshua H. I didn't qualify my statement at all. You're just putting words in my mouth based on your own ideas. Of course capability must be proven. Are you coo coo? Do you know how many intelligent, capable women are not given the respect they deserve, even though they've proven themselves? Proof of capability is always a given. I think your common sense has suffered because of an excess of delicate male ego.

[@sarahrobertson634]

@@mary-cate5994 Thank you for using common sense, girl. I appreciate your comment. What is wrong with these other commentors, I can only speculate.

[@albertlevins9191]

Exactly man! The part of my life that I dread the most is near the end. When I am useless and without further capability. If a time comes when I can no longer help anyone, I will be the most lost. For now, I will do what I can to help who I can. Being useful is a blessing that doesn't last forever.

[@incarnationstudios4335]

That's is when you pass on your wisdom my friend

[@albertlevins9191]

That is brilliant. Wow, man. Very deep. I appreciate that comment. You are completely correct. 😁

[@mikosapps2476]

'Being useful is a blessing that doesn't last forever' That's gonna be very motivating when I'm feeling lazy - thanks! 👍👍👍

[@shonamcwilliam2842]

You sound like a lovely guy.

[@st8tch790]

Men want suffering but without meaning to it is pure hell. Words are windows

[@jakester5272]

Men need a "why".

[@MyHam-os4bq]

I see the point. Both men and women obviously want both love and respect, but men and women thrive on each of these differently. My husband loves it when I tell him I love him but when I tell him he’s really good at his job or being a dad or that I want to learn something new from him he absolutely lights up. And he does literally everything for me to make me happy, more so when he’s feeling appreciated. Men are wired to please and provide but they need someone who is receptive and appreciative of their efforts.

[@liviam1497]

You think women don't want respect?allright....

[@Kaffeeklatch]

Respect is earned. As as woman, I won't respect just any man because they need it. But I will respect a man who earns it through his actions.

[@jakester5272]

I agree. However we live in a society that has lost that healthy balance. Most women now a days lack any respect for men even when they deserve it.

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

Same

[@TheShredtube]

Which actions are those?

[@themeroman]

@@jakester5272 nail on the head

[@aleio8233]

​@@jakester5272can you give an example?

[@COOLSAUCE21]

As a woman, I'd say both are important. Love is something that's there sometimes, not so much at other times. Respect is always there. If a guy respects you, he will treat you like a person. If not, he'll treat you like a pet dog.

[@mrs.t4382]

When I build up my husband, I see his eyes light up. It’s wonderful.

[@marygard4608]

Is he a fellow adult or a glorified child?

[@cinder2085]

And you do it because you love him and he sees you building him up as an act of both love and respect, I don’t understand the need to separate these things . Both men and women want to be loved and respected

[@normanquednau]

It ´s absolutely true... My life summed up. So what I do as a 54 year old teacher is to encourage boys and young men. Just encourage.

[@sztypettto]

Again, that's female treatment. You need to make them feel employed, activated, utilised, capable. Engage them into physical activities or skill based activities. They will feel encouraged themselves

[@normanquednau]

@@sztypettto Exactly. I do exactly that. That is what I call "to encourage"

[@AE-nz2cj]

This has absolutely hit the nail on the head, the voice inside me just wants to feel useful and someone that can been seen as a person who can be trusted with an issue to fix or help. Being seen as incapable is like the ultimate kick in the dick and worst thing to me

[@sng9846]

STOP trying to be above LOVE. No man or woman is above love, respect in a relationship is a result of love, adoration in a relationship is a result of love.

[@toyosiogunsori4452]

That's a lie men need love. As a woman I'm here to tell you that if I don't respect a man I can't love him. I respect a man who is responsible and proactive. If you don't have this too respect can't come out of me towards you.

[@cauliflowerhead2735]

Respecting each other is oftentimes a way of showing love, so I don't agree that women only need love and no respect. There cannot be a healthy expression of love if you don't respect that person. I think this assessment of male depression tries to convince people to give men unearned respect and give women none. Silly and wishful statements made by the gentlemen.

[@AlabasterClay]

You can respect someone without loving them. But you can't love someone without respecting them.

[@aqqibabs]

Imagine the Bible having talked about this 2000+ years ago... yet no one wants to listen

[@warbler1984]

I mean Deuteronomy and Leviticus also had an awful lot if bad shit in it too

[@aqqibabs]

@@warbler1984 yes because people are messed up.

[@amyholcomb8620]

I was just thinking this!!

[@petermozuraitis5219]

​@@aqqibabs What books or verses are you referencing?

[@amandamilobooks]

@@petermozuraitis5219 Ephesians 5:33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. and Colossians 3 says this: 18Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

[@johnlondon5516]

Every Manosphere video : We're special us men, we're so unique and special. It's our specialness that makes us unique and it's our uniqueness that makes us special. Women are also special but not as much as us men who are super special.

[@petergusev999]

One and a half braincells floating around in your head

[@sebsebski2829]

Every feminist video: Women are special, men should be slaves.

[@johnlondon5516]

@@sebsebski2829 Two peas in a pod. It's all so fucking sad that we're doing this. Your "well they started it" rhetoric represents accurately the level of maturity of the back and forth between these two online groups.

[@sebsebski2829]

@@johnlondon5516 What's sadder to me is your rhetoric of 'they do this but you can't because I said so, and if you do I will call you immature' lol

[@johnlondon5516]

@@sebsebski2829 Can you pinpoint where I said you can't say what you've said? I'm not about policing speech, just calling it what it is.

[@personne7542]

Wait a second. War pulls people out of comas?

[@candycolriv]

Not comas, dissociative state. Beyond depressive state. People retreat into themselves, some stop speaking, stop eating etc. long term effects of being severely depressed

[@articulateit-andgetwhatyouwant]

Men need to be needed, valued and appreciated. NOT respected.

[@rosbob7819]

not entirely wrong tho, man can go through many things, have higher tolerance than most women but they still want love as a remind, where most of men got loved they don't feel it as necesary, they just want to protect the things they love, as women love works differently, if u grow being loved as much, u will became dependant of that love and approval from others and it can go worse because women are emotional, but if this women didn't feel loved but got through it and became aware how to handle her emotions, she will be a stronger woman capable of doing things most men do, but deep inside she'll want a man who understand and loves her the way she wants, because at last we all look for love and appreciation in any form, while men can get love from anything even it its purest form to keep going like a pet id enough to have the willing to live, women usually suffer more from love, since they can't fill the hole because is deeply connected to their emotions.

[@Franz19970]

I would pick love because I lacked it growing up. I don't think a woman would love me without respect

[@RareGem369]

These types of conversations are so powerful!

[@anastasiiatsapenko6695]

Respect is a basic component of love. Women need respect just as much as men. Please don't overgeneralize. Men and women aren't so different as people say. I feel like these are really outdated and old-fashioned ways of perceiving men and women.

[@lolaWWEWWFpunk]

Thank you! This is so dumb. Why the hell would I want love without respect?! We should need both. Lol!

[@murphsviews]

You ladies are living in a make-believe fantasy world. Masculine and feminine are OPPOSITES. Yin and Yang. As such, they have very very different needs. Men need respect, women need love. Note that I’m talking about NEEDS here. Not wants. I’m sure you WANT respect, just like how men WANT love, but both can do without those wants. The needs on the other hand, are needs. The only reason you’re all banging on about respect so much is because that’s what society is shoving down your throats all day long. It’s just political correctness. That’s all. There’s no actual truth to it. Also a news flash. Respect only has value because it’s something that has to be EARNED. If everyone just got handed it automatically like you ladies all seem to want, it would CEASE TO HAVE ANY VALUE. The only reason it has any value or had any value was because it was something that WASN’T just handed out to everyone just for showing up and being born. It had value because you had to first show up, and THEN you had to earn it.

[@lolaWWEWWFpunk]

@@murphsviews Political correctness lol. I am not American and can ask tribal women and they would say they need respect as well. You men need to stop shoving down our throats YOUR idea of what we want after we clearly stated. We are not delusional for y'all to come and TEACH us the difference between want and need. Misogynistic thinking at its finest!!

[@valiancesteadfast9550]

Woman NEED love. Men NEED respect. Love and pity can go together. Is pity respect? Love and respect are not a single package.

[@valiancesteadfast9550]

@@murphsviews THANK YOU. Very well said.

[@briananderson1246]

Love and respect go hand-in-hand

[@murphsviews]

Woke nonsense.

[@Capcoor]

Define respect in a relationship.

[@TheAleatoriorandom]

I think there is truth in this but I think it's probably less extreme and most people definetly need a balance of both. Love without respect and respect without love are incomplete, inadequate for someone to be fulfilled long term, but it may indeed be that in average men and woman have a different "ratio" of one and the other that they need. Always having in mind individual differences of course.

[@shaunjonesfighting]

Yeah it's more so a spectrum. It's not that men want only 100% respect, they just would prefer more respect than love if they had to choose. Some men more than others of course.

[@rainemonet]

True respect from partner comes from a deep sense of love. Love is the root of all things. No man or woman for that matter can live without it.

[@jakester5272]

The root of all things you say

[@BurriedTruth]

From my experience its not exactly true. Most women can’t love men they respect , that’s why they date up. That’s why you see so many women leave relationships where everything is going well, love in the air , completely synchronised but destroy it because the guy isn’t higher status or hasn’t got their financials together etc… For men we respect after love, we do not care about a woman’s job, social status or finances.

[@atishsingh8926]

People can respect each other without love. It happens all the time

[@sarahrobertson634]

@@BurriedTruth If a woman leaves a relationship, it was probably not a loving relationship to begin with.

[@sarahrobertson634]

@@BurriedTruth If you didn't care about a woman's job, social status, or finances, then you wouldn't be crying about women being hypergamous. You're ret@rded.

[@JamesBlack.177]

Put this in the context of men with PTSD from military service and they would still return to that service.

[@uknikmartin]

Do you have a link to any more details of the Blitz story? Incredible. Why don't we hear these amazing stories?

[@alexandraalbertz1442]

As a woman I want respect before anything else

[@kakarotwolf]

What...no...I want love! 😂 I want my woman to respect me, but I also need love. Love, kindness and respect is all.

[@theinfinitevoidiscringe2819]

The point was that if you had to choose ONE. most men would choose respect whereas most women would choose love.

[@nmesomambakwe1076]

@@theinfinitevoidiscringe2819 😂😂 why do you claim to know what women want. A woman cannot love you, if she does not first of all respect you. And healed woman cannot feel love without respect. In a healthy relationship, Respect and love go hand in hand. You cannot choose one over the other

[@tigerheart5087]

@@nmesomambakwe1076 Shut up.

[@blueanima8623]

Hahaha I think if you’re more passionate and nurturing as a man or more dispassionate and ambitious as a woman, you might not fit into the generalizations in this clip. Find you a woman who lavishes you with both, and problem solved!

[@KD400_]

​@@nmesomambakwe1076 because biology is biology

[@anewagora]

I've had female therapists in the past who did nothing but complain I was "putting myself down" when my health was horrible. It disgusted me, they were denying the suffering and struggle I was going through desperately trying to get strong and healthy. Nobody wants to suffer a weak, broken body in extreme pain all the time. If you DENY that truth, you do nothing but reject reality of that patient. It's not supportive, it's cruel.

[@levi-ly5vg]

You can improve yourself without being brutal. Desperation and self loathe are not healthy states of being no matter how true you think it is.

[@djVania08]

But what do you do when there is nothing to do about that weakness in the body, right? Plus therapist won't heal you I guess. The can maybe just provide a platform for you to do the job.

[@levi-ly5vg]

@@djVania08 If you don't have some sort of debilitating condition making better food choices and consistently strength training is obviously what you do. Self hate doesn't produce muscles, food and exercise does.

[@helgaioannidis9365]

As a counselor I'm really sorry you had such bad treatment. During my training I was explicitly told to pay attention to the way men express their suffering, because it's often downplayed or patients can even try to hide symptoms. So if a male patient of mine talks about his pain and difficulties, for me it's really important to tell them how much I appreciate that they trust me enough to share that with me. Next step is trying to se what resources are available in my patient's life to help with the situation and alleviate the pain. I hope you are better now!!! ☀️

[@sarahrobertson634]

​@@helgaioannidis9365 A therapist telling you not to be too hard on yourself is not that far out in left field. My male therapist tells me not to tear myself down all the time. WTF is wrong with you, lady. Are you just going to smile and nod like an empty-headed robot when some guy tells you he wants to off himself? "Duh...Thanks for sharing, John. I'm so happy that you trust me". Friggin useless.

[@aishwaryasudan1290]

Are these people in decent relationships? Everyone wants love and respect. If you think men don't need love you have never stayed by a man when he fully expected you to leave. I will never leave my man during his misfortune and that is love. I will also never make him feel like he's not capable because that is respect. I also need my husband to not disrespect me by treating me badly and not prioritising our family. I need him to love and adore me when I'm not at my best and just need a moment. Everyone needs both. How you approach it may differ.

[@sampsonlittle7368]

Top of my list as a woman is respect. From a man, respect equals love. Disrespect from a man equals hate.

[@blakejames9743]

I agree in most cases, but sometimes the "love" therapy is needed for men as well. Alot of us were not properly raised as children and had terrible examples of parents. No amount of purpose and ambition can cure a wounded inner child. You could make a million dollars and raise a successful family, and never feel the genuine warmth from your wife/kids, because you either never grew up with that form of communication, or you have a skewed perception of what it is.

[@blakejames9743]

@RatPfink66 lmao, we wouldn't have a society if that was the case, that would include you as well. Thank God your not God.

[@missinterpretation4984]

Depression is unmet emotional needs. He even says men need to “feel” respected. If you don’t feel respected ask yourself some questions. Am I respectable? Do I respect myself? What is my criteria to feel respected by others?

[@ThePossumone]

A lot of women would prefer trust and commitment and friendship - love is only a word without those three traits in ACTION

[@az9498]

I never understood the idea of going to talk about your problems to a therapist... Never worked for me as a man the whole thing just felt too fony. What worked better was getting myself into good enough shape and becoming interesting enough that made people curious of me enough to want to come and talk to me. Not me go out and seek conversation. Let them come to me.

[@SmartestDumbGuy]

Therapists should only help you discover some insight about yourself your ignoring. They try to elongate the meetings forever because that's how they make money. Men should be done after like 5 sessions. Women go for years because they just want someone to listen to them with undivided attention. I dont think women get any results from therapy... but they think just because of the fact they are going that they are getting results. Truth is that they are getting played by the therapist.

[@justacoginthefkery]

​@@SmartestDumbGuy no. Therapists have schedules of clients so they often can't prolong the sessions. That would cut into someone else's time & throw everything off, INCLUDING the therapists schedule. Most bill by the hour, not by the minute anyways. Putting a limit on number of sessions is ridiculous because everyone's problems & journeys are unique. There is no one size fits all or some magical playbook. No matter how badly guys want the easy way, there isn't one, especially when it comes to self-improvement. Much of therapy is about learning how to connect the dots... how past experiences or familial relationships relate to how one responds to the world in their current state, issues around self-image, accountability, boundaries & I could go on.

[@SmartestDumbGuy]

@Just a cog in the fkery I've been many times and gone to 3 different ones. My wife has also gone for years. I've received no benefit. I've learned so much by simply watching KZbin videos... especially on attachment styles. My wife also finally admitted that she realizes she was mainly going because it felt good to have someone to talk to... hoelwever there wasn't growth happening. Once again all her growth started happening when she learned about her attachment style as well. The therapists was helpful for her in a few sessions by looking into her family history. Everything after that was just meeting and talking about the week. I finally stopped when I challenged the therapists on what we were doing every week because it just seemed pointless. He got mad and ended the sessions when I needed answers. He is highly regarded and invented a system that is taught to other therapists. I've studied this stuff heavily for 8 years now everyday since I retired at age 30. The last therapists I met with I even started teaching him more about attachment styles since he was aware but not very well versed in the subject. He was very interested in my thoughts... but I also realized how sad it is they are charging $150 for a 50 minute discussion when they aren't even up on the latest research.

[@justacoginthefkery]

@@SmartestDumbGuy therapy truly only works if you put in effort, have patience, have goals for improvement & of course, find the right fit for individual needs. I began studying psychology myself as a teen to manage ptsd. I got a taste of therapy, couldn't continue for reasons outside of my control & studying that plus the neurological aspect became a personal hobby. I've still gone through therapy including couples with my ex (he received no benefit because he didn't want to deal with personal accountability though). So self-learning is fantastic, but often times requires a catalyst to get a person to want to dive deeper. If therapy was your catalyst, you still got something out of it in the long-run. Regarding your wife having someone to talk to, that alone highlighted an unmet need for her because she still continued to go for a while. She would have stopped on her own if it wasn't meeting that that need which wasn't being filled in her day-to-day life for some reason. Sounding boards & having a judgement-free zone to vent are an emotional & social necessity for a lot of ppl... Men talk about having that unmet need themselves all the freaking time. Same goes for women. Hopefully she still has access to fill that need outside of therapy whether it be with you, family or friends. Regarding the cost, you absolutely could have found cheaper options. I've never paid more than $75/ hr session myself & definitely got my money's worth. If we did have to go a few minutes over, I was never charged more than the base cost. I'm glad to hear that you did learn about attachment styles. Figuring those out can be incredibly helpful towards recognizing childhood baggage, the subsequent relationship cycles/ patterns in adulthood & most of all, how to improve, address & navigare certain behaviors. They've only become more understood in the last couple decades though, but, of course, learning requires ppl to be willing to learn more.

[@wanjahe8749]

So what you are saying is you didn't feel like doing the work of getting to know yourself and you chose to make yourself more attractive instead and fill your inner void with external validation? I hate to break it to you but women do that every day too. Lol

[@Thelady30]

Honestly, I feel like this is a huge reason as to why I haven’t found someone I wanna be in a relationship with. Because I can’t find a man and I respect. I liked the guys that I I’ve dated and they were fun and all. But I can’t take them seriously. Most men that I have known make really stupid decisions and I would not want them to lead me into some dumb ass shit. And I cannot be with a man that I don’t respect. I’m looking for a man that inspires me in a way that I can look up to him, and I just haven’t found that yet. I’ve come from a rough life and I’ve had to take care of things on my own. I’m not a materialistic person. I want a simple life, but I haven’t met a man that has been faced with enough adversity in their lives for me to truly respect them. And if they have been faced with adversity, they’ve come out on the other side as bitter assholes that hate women.. what’s the Lady to do?🤔

[@kreigalm7381]

10 commands 5 vertical/man to God 1-5 5 horizontal/man to neighbor 10-6 #5 Honor/Respect leads to long life #6 Love, the opposite of hate/murder These two come together to make up the middle, the spine of the 10 commands. Respect and Love

[@user-nr5ut2hc9y]

If a woman respects you, love follows. So basically, respect and love go hand in hand for a husband . If a woman doesn't love you. You know she won't respect you. Respect and love can be separate outside of marriage. But in marriage, love and respect are both essential for men.

[@YoungSantasGroupie]

Psychotherapy is fully geared towards the female-typical way of expressing and dealing with emotions. And psychotherapy is actively hostile to “traditional male behavior”. Not only that but there is a very large service gap for males, much more funding and services for females.

[@banbangu]

A very limiting and deceiving statement. Simplifing sounds well, it even might work for some people, but it becomes a dystopia when claims to be universal.

[@brandnew4451]

Hierarchy and rank are also important especially when earnt, men don't follow men they don't respect

[@CJ-ft9yo]

definitely, for men it’s all about being given a purpose and to be trusted over their capabilities, even for women it’s powerful, but for men it’s crucial

[@sarahrobertson634]

It's exactly the same for women. There are certainly gender differences, but a desire for respect is not one of them.

[@KD400_]

That's masculinity and testosterone. We need something or someone to support us to conquer

[@sarahrobertson634]

@@KD400_ What a terrible idea. Men are ruining everything.

[@gswm747]

​​@@sarahrobertson634 Thank you... This constant and needless separation of the sexes has become mind-bogglingly frustrating. Having a purpose and having respect from your peers and loved ones in your capabilities is universally crucial to all human beings' happiness. Not only that but, depression is depression and there are many nuances from person to person; not just simply "men's depression" and "women's depression." Wish more of our brothers and sisters would realize we are not so incredibly different from one another as they like to believe.

[@anastasiiatsapenko6695]

​@@gswm747 Great response! I also don't agree with this separation based on gender. It's called generalization. All human beings need respect and it's actually the basis of love. To me love is made up of respect, kindness and patience. Respect is one of the components of love.

[@hotties3v3n]

Women need respect too.

[@joyandpeacefullaughter5307]

Women don't need respect - Some dude on a podcast.

[@harounabid22]

😂😂

[@aleio8233]

Men, what kind of behaviors do you read as "respect"?

[@tamarasky2043]

You need both for ying and yang

[@hello-kj9ff]

Both men and women want love and respect I don’t think it’s one or the other.

[@Dawson-Wargin]

You are right. However, men feel more loved when shown respect over anything else.

[@jakester5272]

Respect is a subcategory of love. When they speak of love in this video the speak of affectionate love. However affectionate love and respect are both under the category of loving actions.

[@aks1993kumar]

He just differentiated the two. There’s a difference.

[@hello-kj9ff]

thanks for context

[@yodamaster757]

Yes, but it’s slightly more complicated often times.

[@arkmangato870]

Put that last sentence on a t-shirt and you'd be financially free

[@josueveguilla9069]

I'm happily single. Loud and Proud.

[@aprilwashington3150]

🙋💃💃💃

[@throwacnt7603]

Cope, but hey if it works it works!

[@josueveguilla9069]

@@tliltocatlalbopilosa1513 Awesome. Thank you.

[@Oyuki-Mayonesa]

Can a healthy man love a woman without respecting her? Yikes sounds like a disastrous situation. And does this video imply that a man can happily be with a woman who doesn’t love him as long as she is respectful? Like the love part is not there and he’s fine with that?

[@candycolriv]

I think people keep missing what he said initially. “IF they had to choose…” it’s about what men would prioritize & what women would. Obviously, both want & need both . He was creating the scenario of having to choose, to highlight the inherent differences between the sexes. Along with, a different approach to combating mental health issues. Again, of course both are necessary & wanted. But, like he said “if they had to choose between…”

[@christinewoodland5127]

I disagree, both genders need love respect and purpose. It’s not exclusive for either one

[@candycolriv]

I think people keep missing what he said initially. “IF they had to choose…” it’s about what men would prioritize & what women would. Obviously, both want & need both . He was creating the scenario of having to choose, to highlight the inherent differences between the sexes. Along with, a different approach to combating mental health issues. Again, of course both are necessary & wanted. But, like he said “if they had to choose between…”

[@r.1.336]

Why tf is there so many incels then why can’t they go find a purpose instead of whinging about women if men aren’t bothered about love