The Expat Who Married A Narcissist - NPD

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

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[@ChiIeboy]

In less than 18 minutes, you just described 40-50% of all women currently walking the planet.

[@spartanx169x]

WHY WHY WHY would a man get married once he is 50 years old or more? THERE IS NOTHING TO BE GAINED FROM IT!

[@majorronaldmandell7835]

Exactly! If you are lonely get a full time live in maid very cheaply. You will have constant company, some to eat with, watch TV with, talk to. She shopped for food, cooked, traveled to pay bills, everything. Then you can still date, and even bring girls home for overnight stays. That’s how I lived there for six years, and I was happy - very happy.

[@stevendavis8636]

I got married 10 years ago and am very happy. I was 65 ,now 75 to a woman 5 years younger.

[@JJ38255]

​​​@@majorronaldmandell7835was she an Arnold Schwarzenegger style maid ? 😂

[@spartanx169x]

@@captnhuffy Okay buddy, what is there to be gained from it? Change my mind instead of hurling insults.

[@spartanx169x]

@@Joe-mz6dc What is to be gained from it? You are not having kids, so what is to be gained?

[@josiah5776]

I was in a relationship with a Western woman who was a narcissist. Everything covered here is 100% spot on. Cut all contact and ignore all attempts by them to reel you back in, either with threats or by playing nice. It is all a façade. They never change and the fastest way to get them out of your life is to ignore them. They will eventually go elsewhere to get their attention ... but don't be surprised if they put out feelers every few years. Ignore those too. You may also need to cut off their flying monkey associates who spy and manipulate for them.

[@davebonar1]

Sounds like the voice of experience. It doesn't matter what nationality or where they are from because it's all a recipe for disaster for you. Thank God I did it when I was younger and learned a lesson but cost me a marriage and kids for awhile.

[@columbus7275]

I dated a DSM-verified NPD American woman for 4 years. Just watched your vlog, Reekay. I wasn’t expecting you to cover this topic, but truer words hath never been spoken!

[@lmcc0072]

As a guy that has been divorced for 17 years now, I’m an expert at making bad decisions and now I’m also an expert at not ignoring red flags. Most people tell me that my girlfriend of now 15 years is totally opposite of my ex-wife. I may have consciously or unconsciously done that. While I’m much better off being divorced, getting divorced and losing everything that I ever worked for was no fun. The key is doing your due diligence. A year or 2 may not be enough to really get to know someone. Fake people do slip up from time to time before they really pull you in. Don’t get married right away for ANY reason.

[@f1hotrod527]

I had a similar experience with a Chinese woman I dated. I had no idea what a true narcist was, I had no experience with one. I don't know how Rikay could tell with this woman so soon. Normally narcissists are actually very kind, congenial, interesting, and even loving......at first and around most people. They are usually highly intelligent, and they are true geniuses at mental manipulation. They don't even have to think about how they will manipulate you and your emotions, it comes as easy to them as breathing. But you will start to feel the effects as they start breaking your down, little by little. They will constantly probe you for information that they can use against you. They are completely incapable of the thoughts and emotions you have. In my girlfriends case, her father and mother cheated on each other when she was a young child, as in bringing over other partners and sleeping with them under the family roof to spite each other. This horrible childhood traumatized her and wired her brain to be a narcissist. Also, it seems to me like her mother was a narcissist, and narcissists' will not spare even their own children from the metal destruction they cause. And the author is right, there is no fixing them, no therapy, no event in their life will ever change them. I was lucky and someone I knew heard me talk about just a few of the things she had done, and she told me, "you are dating a narcist". I then did some research and it was just amazing how it all made sense. Even before I had found out about narcist personality disorder I often told myself about her "Its like the only thing that makes her truly happy was causing chaos and pain in other people". And I was right. I did always have a sense that something was wrong, and only my love for her kept me putting up with it. So I guess, do follow your instincts. If you come to the realization you are with a narcissist, you have to get out. You have to realize the sadness and loneliness you feel when you think about leaving them was actually engineered by them. Don't think that just because you know they are a narcissist that you can deal with them and overcome them, they are way better at this game than you will ever be.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

yes. it's a very sick and dark evil these people operate under. i had to endure it for years before studying up on it. they have no empathy, no remorse. it is the epitome of selfishness.

[@BradSabako]

I too had a horrible experience with a Chinese covert narcissist! It took me forever to figure things out, as she slowly destroyed me! She just about killed me, and still has such an impact on me after leaving her 8 years ago. I raised her two young boys, and she poisoned them against me once we broke up. Just a dangerous, sick women… and everyone on our small ski town thinks she is tge most amazing woman ever! It makes me sick.

[@KOMBUCHALOVER]

Is narcissism not exploding in the Philippines right now? I ask because PH has from my understanding an enormous amount of single mothers (ie. children raised in broken families) and has one of the highest smart phone/social media usage globally...the perfect ingredients to make narcissism stew. As others in this comment section, I have experienced the hell of unintentionally inviting a narcissist into my life...I cannot go thru all that again. Thank you for your videos...I enjoy them very much.

[@BradSabako]

I woukd correct one comment you made…. “DONT FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCTS”… that’s where we all go wrong. They manipulate and love bomb so much, your instincts tell you that this is the woman of your dreams! So do not trust your internal gut.

[@ostwelt]

Narcississm, along with its companion comorbitiies in ClusterB, psycho/sociopathic PD, have the key characteristic of charm and/or wit. If you are in a relationship with this sort of person it is most likely you have been blinded to their faults because of this. You enjoy being with them - mostly - because they are entertaining and engaging people. One wants to have a relationship with them because in that time they are the world to you. You are being love-bombed by a most marvellous person; perhaps the very best you have ever met... it is no surprise he, we, you, me (neurotypicals) get caught up and broken by these destructive PDs. I could never understand why friends and families never admired or thought as highly of my sociopathic wife as I did. Because they had the distance that comes from not wishing to have an an intimate relationship with her e.g. my friends wouldn't hit on my date so could just observe her much more objectively. My family, whilst finding her superficially charming and funny for brief periods, weren't at all consumed, as I was, in a relationship with her. That socially obligated distance provides the space for a more nuianced judge of character and thus an ability to call out NPD/ASPD. Becasue with that space then one can perceive the superficiality of the charm, the engineered and false nature to the interest/attraction, the selfishness and real lack of care (empathy). Upclose and in love, one doesn't have a chance. Best website for more help: outofthefog.website

[@CLCIII]

SO very true. No help for NPD. Run from them and never look back. As Always, May God Bless you and yours! 😇

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

Yes! Thank you!

[@michaelmorris1093]

When a narcissist shows you who they are, just believe them. Then get the hell out of there and stay as far away from them as possible. Maintain "No Contact". When they attempt the "Hoover" do not respond. It is finished, over and Final!

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

it really is the ONLY solution. there is no fixing these people. they only get worse with time.

[@patrickwilson3962]

Good advice i agree 100% with what u said in this flog . Thank u for sharing. 🇿🇦

[@richardwitherow5289]

I've been a nurse on a psychiatric ward for nine years, here in Australia. There are ten personality disorders, but the types you really need to avoid are the cluster B or "dramatic" ones: histrionic PD, narcissistic PD, antisocial PD and borderline PD. Get away from them! To all men reading this, commit to watching at least 20 or 40 hours of KZbin videos from reputable uploaders like Dr Ramani or Dr Todd Grande. It'll make the rest of your life sooooo much easier if you can spot these people and then make a quick exit. I thought I'd edit this for clarity: this applies to blocking anyone who is cluster B, not just a romantic/sexual partner, just as the uploader of this excellent clip instructed.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

i've had to get a restraining order on one NPD. yes, they can be dangerous. they are not operating on an even keel at all.

[@gregorylatta8159]

I have come to the conclusion that corporate America has malignant narcissism!!! The gaslighting style of management!!!

[@Barefootape]

High level narcissistic people can't be fixed because they have no empathy. They don't care. Thing is, when victims turn away, the caring victims appear to not care.

[@migueruta]

Alright, great advice indeed, but... What should you do, if those types turn out to be someone above you in the corporation that you work in? - Leave the company to avoid depressive mental illness and go live under a bridge once you end up moneyless to pay your bills?

[@hyena280]

Not Dr. Todd Grande. I don't know the other ones, but he's been discredited. He's horrible.

[@JohnTanquary]

A very sad story that could have happened just about anywhere in the world. And does, I'm sure. You were spot on with your advice on dealing appropriately with his narcissistic abuser. It's unfortunate that he did not follow your wise counsel. Love can be blind, sometimes deaf, dumb, and stupid, too.

[@robertkindla6429]

Reekay, I've got to tell you. This presentation IS SPOT ON. It takes a certain caliber of mind to recognize and understand this sort of mental disorder. I've done a good bit of reading in the subject myself. This really delves into a deep subject, unknown to average people. I myself, was a victim, the prisoner in a narcissistic relationship, here in the states. During special occasions at the family home, the narcissist will find a someone to vent to. And this subject will be a prisoner for 20 or 30 minutes. Talking about everyone else... A chameleon, seeming normal to everyone out in public… But behind closed doors, pure evil spews out. For the good person, the nice half of the relationship, it is a living hell.

[@KenOnaMission]

Great story ..had a wife that had no friends and all her colleagues at jobs hated her. She had a lot of red flags, but because she was younger and beautiful I put up with it. At the end the juice wasn't worth the 5 good days a month. I divorced her and live a calmer life now. 🎉

[@jeffbradburn3800]

Great Video and a good lesson for all of us. I was married to a Filipina exactly like this, finally divorced. Do not brush off the red flags.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

Website about Narcissistic Personality Disorder.. www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20366662

[@Richard-v4s4y]

Well Done . There is no fix for NPD.

[@YarFreedago]

I know from experience that you can NOT change a Narcisist. There is nothing you can do to stop them from emotional abuse. The only solution is to put distance between you and the person with NPD.

[@EasternDreamer615]

My grandmother who raised me has NPD. She’s 92 years old and still has NPD. There is no cure or solution other than to cut losses and get away from the person. They are incapacitated of change.

[@yasminreyes957]

Yes no cure for NPD

[@jessnevares7861]

Another wild story. 😮 I have family members that have NPD.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

i feel for you. the only real solution is to disengage from those people. don't let them push your buttons.

[@jessnevares7861]

@@Lifebeyondthesea your right. You cannot win an argument. The best thing to do is ignore or walk away. Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience. Mark Twain

[@fauntfrancisco]

It sucks that a friend would abandon you like that. Not inviting you to the wedding is a big slap to the face.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

she had him manipulated 100%, controlling him with guilt and fear. he was just too nice a guy to handle an evil, dark narcissist. in way over his head. but he knew i was there for him when he needed me.

[@lmcc0072]

A good looking naked woman can sometimes cloud your brain and cause you to make bad decisions. You may not know what’s happening to you until it’s too late. Those of us that have been burned by one can easily see the danger signs. If you’re in the situation for the first time you can probably see the signs, but choose to ignore them.

[@brandonguzman2757]

@@Lifebeyondthesea - He was a MORON!

[@honorquest]

I believe she may have poisoned him when they got back the last time, this is an issue with most born again relationships where you just overlook the person's vile character because the person asks for forgiveness or you can't fathom how can someone that loves "God" be capable of such despicable acts. It's a really sad ending, because he got away then went back. I have a very churchy friend that was almost in a similar kind of relationship, he felt he could change her with prayers, just fortunate it didn't work after she told him how she went to her ex's apartment, damaged the door and slash car tires. That was when his eyes opened.

[@LLCebuRider]

Wow, this story hits very close to home. I had a similar experience with my ex Filipina wife. We are divorced now.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

i'll bet it feels good to be free.

[@KOMBUCHALOVER]

Ditto

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

"How To Spot A Narcissistic Expat".. kzbin.info/www/bejne/qZusanafot5kjMk

[@gregpeterson3375]

My ex wife from Japan was a narcissist. With all the gaslighting, mental and physical abuse I had enough, divorced her, got an annulment and moved across country. I was just like your friend thinking I can make this work. I pray he is resting in peace now.

[@mauibuilder1239]

This was a very sad story, particularly because he passed away. I was with a narcissist woman for 8 years....never again. I stayed for our son but I finally had to get away from her. 8 years of pure hell. It wasn't until years later I even found out about NPD.

[@reflectioninthesnow7953]

This indeed was a classic case of someone who truly has NPD. The term "narcissist" has been thrown around the internet far too long without those who use the term really understanding NPD. As someone who has been involved with an NPD girlfriend I can tell you this.....the only cure for YOU the victim is as Reekay said in the video ...get as far away from them as you can. DISTANCE IS YOUR BEST FRIEND!

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

yes, i've had to deal with an NPD for decades (family member). one of the benefits of being in the PH is never having to see them.

[@MultiPasswordman]

i dealt with one of these kind of girls. I put her in her place by walking away. She gossiped about me to everyone she knew to try to manipulate me to do what she wanted. It didn't work. It was the best decision I've made.

[@ripley7t429]

BPD, NPD, very damaging. Been there, took years to recover. It can literally destroy you being in a relationship with someone that has a serious personality disorder.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

i had a manic-bipolar g/f in california years ago. it was traumatizing.

[@broGabiza]

So true👌

[@Gmantrini]

All these cluster B personalities have so many overlapping traits, just stay clear of them. Once bitten your never the same again

[@stevemorris3544]

Reekay, listening to the story. She was a big problem. You're a good friend. You called it right but still helped. Much respect. Smiles.

[@charlesjackson7127]

Great information and a great video! Keep up the great work

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

thanks.

[@boethius1812]

I was a victim of 4 narcissists and became one myself. Stay away from us. We choose vulnerable, kind people to victimize and they usually can't outwit us.

[@cathylake9072]

Why do you enjoy victimizing people? Why not seek help?

[@DeicideFreedom]

Thank you so much for drawing attention to this issue, globally it is becoming a larger and larger problem especially with humans feeding their narcissistic tendencies and becoming higher and higher on the scale of narcissism. Or Continuum, however someone wishes to describe it. It's important that people be educated on their modus operandi and how to deal with them when encountering them which is inevitable. I personally wasted years of my life with a narcissistic Filipina, after my divorce I learned a lot about narcissism and finally understood that that was the situation I was living in previously. Much respect and thank you for drawing attention to this topic!

[@franky3231]

Great story Reekay, I guess the silver lining I see in this story is that even though she was in his phone and computer, she didn't get into his bank accounts and steal all his money and leave him broke at the same time. I have heard a lot stories when the girls did that as well.

[@Mrvl0125]

I think the girl just needs more TLC, and reassurance. She could have hacked his bank accounts but she didn't.

[@lindastangelo1636]

​@@Mrvl0125Sorry..... you are sooo wrong. TLC is one thing, this situation is totally different. She was extremely manipulative. Being abusive is much more than needing a little attention.

[@slappy_pls]

I was married to a Narc for 4 years. I was so confused until I finally understood what was going on. Why do I torture myself so long.

[@johncano3972]

Good topic. Not too long ago, I broke up with a woman with the same behavior. Thank God for a bit of disernment. I understood her personality disorder.

[@philrose7716]

I love this channel!!!!!!! The stories ring so true on so many levels. Thank you!

[@BarnabyBarry]

The worst one is the covert-we think they are so cool or loving! And if someone says one of their parents was one of them- stand by because they also may have part of it! It is a spectrum-some mild some severe

[@muhammadsteinberg]

You 💯% nailed it! I've been married to a so-called christian narcissistic pinay for 25yrs. I've become indepth at working around her NPD and anger management issues. If it weren't for the kids, I would have been gone. Saying NO is my most powerful tool in dealing with her. Going no contact is a close 2nd. While not perfect, I've shut down some of the worst behavior.

[@nikkian9254]

Power to you! I can relate to this a bit with my mom since going no contact is extremely hard to do given her situation~ Counselling has helped a lot get me through this and changing my behavior, creating distance and saying no (in various ways sometimes just not responding or saying I don't like ___) has helped a lot.

[@carltonedwards8775]

If you can't handle the truth, you can never cut your losses.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

exactly.

[@Mary-zd8xo]

Just subscribed. Thanks for sharing your friend’s story. Very sad ending for the beautiful life he desired. I really admired that you are a computer geek and you were able to trace what she did on his phone. Through your expertise, you know the extent of her control. Too bad for him, she “pulled” him back. She was like a witch. Maybe she was. May your friend rest in peace.

[@jimnoble905]

Absolutely agree that you don't need toxic people in your life. If there is toxic people in your life get away from them. Regardless of how much you love them or how much you care for them or how much you want to believe them they will never change. When the victim starts using the excuse of "well you don't know them like I do" It's because they continue to see the relationship how it was when they very first met. So pretty much in this situation that you talked about in this video, the guy who clearly was the victim kept giving the girl chances because he kept flashbacking to when him and that girl first met He evidently thought that if he held out long enough that the girl would eventually be like that. Hindsight is 20/20 but obviously all the warning signs was obviously there. Unfortunately that man overlooked one of the golden rules. That being get to know someone before you have a relationship with them and see what is the consistent behavior over a course of time.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

absolutely. his weak point was thinking, "she'll change". i knew she wouldn't and spent so much time pleading with him to cut her loose. but, by the time he did the damage had been done.

[@lawrencelawrence3920]

I admire your perception in recognizing her condition. From his stressful involvement with her, it was probably a catalyst in advancing an underlying illness.

[@jujjeelf309]

Oh man, those were some strong, helpful words.

[@bobbypage4854]

Henry your a genius, wish I had your knowledge & ability to know the things you do & follow through once known. Thank you 🙏 😊

[@EdwinCV-dh8qc]

Great advice Reekay,with an extra good story who knows maybe I will run into you again in Cebu .

[@susan5429]

I feel sorry for him. I have a brother who is a narcissist. One thing for sure is you can't have a conversation unless you agree he's always right.😔😓He blows his top if you disagree or challenge him in any way.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

yes, i've dealt with this for years. they are like angry children with no respect for others.

[@ripvanwinkle3432]

This is a story where the woman actually sounds like npd. People throw the term around too much but this is pretty high level crazy.

[@acw2237]

My ex fiance Filipina was very similar. I was walking on eggshells daily

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

there is NO way to satisfy their demands because it is their constant goal to keep you dancing and defending yourself. they keep changing the rules to stay in control.

[@acw2237]

@@Lifebeyondthesea Exactly always wanting more and more and more

[@acw2237]

@Lifebeyondthesea Oh, my ex fiance would steal my phone when I was sleeping and go through everything. Trying to find something to justify anything in her mind but would never relinquish her phone to me to look at.

[@keith-kb1zl]

My friend was in a brief relationship with a Filipina he met online they both reside in the states.. it was an age appropriate relationship as they were both over 50, - right off the bat she confided that her recent marriage her husband had cheated on her. she exhibited some of the classic signs of narcissism , accusing him of still being in love with his previous partner and went so far as accusations that he was married to her!😂😂 he had seen his Facebook profile,- he caught her looking at his phone and computer. t(this was in the first few days of them dating) she noticed the photos of him and his ex which was 7 years ago and he had bought her an engagement ring but they never married he was living and still does with me and this nut job thought he was married to this woman while he’s living with me!!🤣🤣🤣 and she didn’t like me because I had a young Filipina girl and I was a bad influence on him it gets even worse 😂😂😂- she was on the phone for hours at night- the main topic was her repeatedly accusing him of still being married,which he never was to some women he was with 7 years ago 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️ this torture went on for a little over a month and he finally ran from her 😮😮😮. sorry for the long rant😆😆 but she was the strangest woman I ever met in my life😂😂 and I told her about my relationship with my girl 😆😆 too ..

[@keith-kb1zl]

@@acw2237it’s a universal trait with all women that they can do things to you but the same things you can’t do to them 😂😂😂 they all say men lie all the time but in my past experiences and based on what some of my friends have told me women lie just as much as men , it’s not a gender thing it’s just human beings nature🤔🤔

[@definitelydaphne777]

Wow, that’s sad , thank you for the lessons, I have had my share of crazy, no more , yes life is too short.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

Sorry to hear that

[@frankshaw]

This is really a sad story Thanks for sharing The story just made me a little bit wiser.

[@dolittle6781]

Good for you that you spotted a narcissist and called it out. The more beautiful the girl the more likely she’s a narcissist.

[@patrickmanley4943]

Excellent but sad video Reekay. A real reality check. Some people just think that they can always save someone. That and they can’t differentiate between sex and love.

[@Naomi-kj1cq]

Don't you wish they come with labels "Cluster B Personality Disordered" plastered on their forehead?😂 Been married and divorced twice from these type of men (yes, men can be also) has taught me how to identify them now but still. They are both from Europe and I am an Asian woman residing in US by the way.

[@D-E-Raptor]

I've met a few foreigners who can't, wont allow themselves to think that a Filipina can be like this woman in the story. Hopefully you will reach many of the men coming to the Philippines before they repeat this story.

[@0r14n583lt]

Previous exposure, especially as a child, makes one more perceptive to the presence of narcissistic personality traits. The one personality trait that can’t be subdued, no matter how hard they try, is their need to project to be self-important.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

yes. inflating their insecure ego is the end-goal of everything they do. and they are sociopathic in what they will do to achieve that goal, no matter how much harm it causes others. at their core they are incredibly insecure. their biggest fear is that people will see past their fake facade.

[@ardbegrules3973]

"A person pretending to be a normal person." Amazing comment. I think I will get all my close friends to vet for me as well, especially the truthful ones. But in all honesty your friend is a chump.

[@sisulowe]

Hey Reekay, I was just thinking of you the other day, that I had not heard anything from you on here, but glad your doing well. I live up in Orani Bataan, been here on and off, because of work since 2015. Retired twice now and have the want to work just a little more in Marshall Islands. Glad your well.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

wow, thanks! my wife and i are here for the duration. :)

[@YorkshireinManila]

Dated a chinese girl in Beijing. She became very possessive, very jealous , controlling about where we would go etc and it just wasnt fun any more. One day she demanded to go through my phone based on the fact her friend had seen her bf phone and discovered some messages from girls. . She then screamed if you dont let me see the contents of your phone Im leaving you. Opened the door and told her she could come back at the weekend for her things. She knew she would lose face if she started crying saying "Im sorry i didnt mean it " so she left. End of. No problemo. There was nothing to see on that phone but she didnt know that. Thankfully she didnt know about the spare phone lol. In this video, the guy was too soft. Boundaries should have been set. And indeed why an older guy needs/wants to marry.. doesnt make sense at all.

[@lynpascua7616]

Well that's why, some girls lost trust...possessive with their partner because mostly are not trustworthy...like my ldr...just got dump me after love bombing me...he said its my fault because I'm like this like that...not knowing that his still on the dating sites still looking for his perfect and his soulmate...mostly guys love lying playing woman's heart...I don't trust anybody now...those expats wants to marry filipina...I don't think so...they are old yet loves playing young woman...

[@scottsdialyadventure1338]

Divorced About 15 years and you just describe my ex-wife. She's still kissing me headaches. And so toxic ended up with cancer at the time of divorce.. Psychotically, vindictive, and it is always a mistake to stand up. Better just to run like hell. Truly unfortunate that I have a teenage son. And she now controls him a 100%.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

sorry to hear that. :( i feel your pain. been there.

[@James-mc5hc]

It is extremely hard and painful for your friend to excape the clutches of the narcissist because he fed her with all his mind body and soul. Through the times he separated from her , he was still yearning for her. It was easy for her to trap him back again. She played the guilt card on him having thrown her out. By this time what was left of him was just an empty shell. He could not stand on his own anymore. He saw her as the only way to live. The Christian card she played made it almost impossible for him to leave her without feeling extreme guilt. He will be scarred for the rest of his life. I know what I am talking about. I went through exactly the same and worse with parental alienation currently suffering it. I wish him all the best and God bless him.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

unfortunately, he passed-away less than a year after returning to her. but he did fly to usa to spend his last days with his family.

[@James-mc5hc]

So sad. I am sorry

[@Mrvl0125]

To be honest most filipinos men or women in the Philippines are a little bit narcissists. It's a culture here in the Philippines. They have a huge sense of self importance. Disregard boundaries, jealous, and have a crab mentality. It's not much now though due to the western influence. Slowly we have learned to embrace diversity and openess. People could just put on a facade that's why it's really good to get to know the person better before marrying someone.

[@leg414]

After hearing this I have wondered too...How many of these types of women are there, and how and why do they get involved with foreigners/expats? I would like to know in numbers, as there are conditions that are ripe there for such behaviors, especially in their pious, religious-oriented society and the attitudes to produce such women. No matter where you go in the Philippines, in my humble opinion, Asia is not for the very weak men, or gullible men. Peace

[@Thephilipcartmelexperience]

Something is wrong with me. I keep attracting these narcissists.

[@steve9901]

Hey Reekay. I listen to most of your stuff and this particular piece was awesome. You drop so much knowledge.

[@kennethsuggs2546]

Glad j were there to help him see the light it sad he died but if u hadnt been around no telling what would happen God bless you for helping him u good friend to him

[@davefarnsworth3020]

Been there, done that. Been no contact for 14 months now. She keeps trying to hoover with no response from me. Now I'm trying to liquidate, and get the hell out of North America. I doubt she'll try to learn a different language and follow me to where I plan to go.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

good plan.

[@pimpnsam1]

Good story, thanks man

[@alexandercharehjoo7744]

Excellent documentary, great life lessons 👏

[@vickycarlet330]

Very true about Narci. Everybody should be educated about narcissism.

[@davidlaforest1624]

He wasn't a nice guy, he was her ideal sucker and she played him like a violin. I would have run away as fast as I could have. Thank God I married a wonderful Thai lady and nearly 40 years ago and we are still going strong. Really sad that he didn't take your advice at the beginning.

[@RickG-kh5kt]

Thank you for sharing. I too was in a NPD relationship with my ex Filipina GF. I could write a book about what I went through with her.

[@realmil733]

Man this sounded so much like my marriage to my ex. Thank Christ I'm not a patient person. Tip for all men these days being extremely involved with the church and being very religious based is a huge red flag of the modern narcissist woman. They will use the people involved with the church, the Bible and whomever has a good perception of them against you. Good Luck out there Gents 🫡

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

a buddy of mine, just this week dodged the same bullet. saved himself a world of stress by dumping the filipina. it's interesting because, when i met her myself (a few weeks ago).. i told him, "she has the same voice cadence and overall attitude of one of my previous g/f's". a g/f i had to drop because i knew i couldn't trust her. as i said, fortunately this friend of mine saw it as well and broke it off in the first two weeks.

[@IrAbynormal]

Indeed, Church now is a Hunting Ground for woman hitting the wall, after riding the carousel for a decade. Gentlemen Beware.

[@KOMBUCHALOVER]

Sounds like a golden business opportunity to have your subscribers bring their girlfriends to you for a Narc voice cadence evaluation! @@Lifebeyondthesea

[@maygrantz4426]

A good example a wolf cloth in a sheep. The covert narcissist is hard to detect because they are the best actors, they pretend to be the nicest person but deep in their heart is full of hatred and jealousy.

[@ralphemerson497]

Being a nice guy doesn’t excuse you from ignoring red flags. Global story, man falls in love with a woman, she touches his pee pee, he then ignores everything. It’s tough, but men deserve what they get when they ignore red flags when the little head thinks for the big head. Life goes on. Another sucker falls in love…..

[@migueruta]

Poor guy!😢He move to live his retirement and he got sick due to so much built-in stress from that woman. I bet he would still be alive if he didn't had married to that psychopath with a warm p-sleeve.

[@brandonb9664]

My ex was the same way and was very active in the church She was south African and after 2 year of dealing with her gaslighting, controlling, lying, and egomania. I was like I'm done...wedding is off😂 🚶‍♂️

[@ostwelt]

Two years isn't so bad in the great scheme of things. Really would say you are lucky even if time and money gone your sanity is still intact. Had to go through 22yrs before my divorce from an ASPD wife. Still have to see her though to this day because we have kids for whom my greatest concern is that they are like their Mother...

[@alfonscoen3167]

@@ostwelt Is that hereditary or is that contagious? Who can give a scientific answer to this?

[@squealer42]

That's the best adventures to avoid vicarious tale I've heard since ... I don't know when. I'm likely not virtuous enough to act upon such wisdom gleaned through other people's mistakes, should the same shoe ever land on my foot, but I salute you for the education!

[@angryhd2976]

i can’t believe this guy kept coming back.

[@ATSFVentaSpurNscaler]

This video is so right on the mark and highlights the horrors of living with a narcissist. I know because I lived 16 years with a female covert narcissist from Mexico. I'm a good man, too, exactly the type a narcissist seeks to ensare, exploit and abuse. I married her and it almost killed me. She drained me of everything, including my money and dignity. Now I'm separated from her, live in USA again, and plan for my divorce. I'm 63 years old and hope it's not too old to start my life over. I'm seriously thinking of relocating to the Philippines and looking for true love there. What do you think? -from Tom Pilling near San Diego, California

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

i feel your pain, man. but now.. you are a free man. it's time for you to enjoy some bliss for a change. :) i am 60, and living in the PH. at 63 you can rearrange your life in the PH and have SO many more possibilities for a better, relaxed life. the main thing is having at least $1400 usd per month coming in, to easily handle living expenses here.

[@ATSFVentaSpurNscaler]

@@Lifebeyondthesea Thanks, Reekay, for your kind words. I really appreciate your encouragement and tips. I'd like to talk with you more about what you wrote. Is there a way we could get in contact, perhaps through Facebook or WhatsApp, so we could discuss a little more of what I'll need to consider before I make such a move to the Philippines?

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

yes.. you can reach me directly at my FB here, facebook.com/reekay.new

[@sandrabentley8111]

​​@@Lifebeyondtheseabut he first must learn to respect and love HIMSELF. Very important. Before committing to another relationship. NPD'S can spot a 'nice person' miles away and will hone in with the love bombing before he even knows what's happening. When you respect yourself and have boundaries, it's not really very appealing to the narcissist. They go after and hunt easy game.

[@keith-kb1zl]

@@Lifebeyondtheseafinally a vlogger that isn’t proclaiming you can live here on 600$ a month 😂😂1400$ is much more realistic imo but if you get involved with a girlfriend I would say 2,000 dollars would be a better figure..

[@johnp388]

I've known a number of guys that just couldn't be "happy" without having a girlfriend, Many of these men had grown up with controlling mothers, They become controlled dependents and "pleasers" and they seek these same controlling dependents to become their wives, I came across this one proverb years ago: I don't love you because I need you, I need you because I love you, Frankly, I find most people (men and women) falling into the former rather than the latter, Furthermore, I've noticed that these same men that are pleasers will seek out women that are significantly younger than they are in a second marriage, FYI: The "period" key on my keyboard is not functioning and that is why I used the "comma" key,

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

yes. a man knows he has women in perspective when he can look at a beautiful woman.. see her BS, and walk away.

[@dennisb7930]

Wow how sad it was nice of you to help him I’ve had experience with a Filipina just like this so hard to believe but there seems to be quite a few like this there it is unfortunate indeed thanks for this video Reekay👍

[@hoykuya]

Just got out of a relationship like this , never again, dont ignore the red flags @ Mary Anne Monte Cruz

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

it's hell. glad to hear you got away.

[@ma96782]

Yup......I once had a Pinay that was also that BAD/CRAZY. Well......maybe, not to that degree (technology, wasn't that much of a thing back then). BUT......I left her and won full custody of my son. And, I've moved away to avoid anymore trouble with her. So anyway, I'm glad to be rid of her.

[@acedjgaming6779]

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[@dr.richmann4477]

Great information that can really help subscribers...if they put the info to use. This guy had the info from you, but he also had some sort of personality disorder that made him come back for more punishment. Dr. Les Carter has a KZbin channel all about narcissist.

[@BarnabyBarry]

Not that easy you keep on giving them 2nd chances-you begin to think your crazy-you say what if I did it another way? If your licensed or you truly loved someone with a severe case you would understand-however at some point you as the victim becomes the problem!

[@ripvanwinkle3432]

Nice guys finish last. If you're a nice guy you arent ready for a relationship. Going to another country wont fix that, you'll be scammed anywhere.

[@davidtesler1198]

Especially Philippines

[@jesustorralba2360]

I have had experience with women like these and eventually I told them to their face get the F out of my life and if you won't I will make your life a living hell, you're not the only one capable of doing that.

[@keith-kb1zl]

yep 👍 sometimes you have to fight fire with fire . if you’re a simp and don’t stand up to them and show you have a backbone you’re in for a miserable life..

[@robertmeshew1935]

You cannot fix a narcissist nor can you fix stupid people! When they start accusing you for no reason, you can expect them to be the one fooling around!

[@stuartloggins3691]

I was married to one too. I'm afraid my girlfriend might be one. She's Filipina. I hate it but it's just like you say. Misery

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

it can't be fixed. you can't rehab her. best to make a clean break, from what you describe.

[@yasminreyes957]

Get away Asap

[@ByronWatts]

Don't forget the narcissist expat....it's scary

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

I put a link to that in the comments.

[@1George2]

wow, that is the most impressive and horrific story I have heard from you... unforgettable....

[@enzodimeco9121]

Nice to met you in Bohol. Enzo from Italy

[@WeslyFleurimond]

Wow! I feel sorry for him and thank you for this life lesson.

[@geoffb5813]

I was married to a woman who was a narcissist and yes, there is no way you can change them. It was horrible. I was a fool not to see it before l married her. It was hell at times. The daughter was worse. When l left the marriage, l was so happy. I am single now but have a Filipina gf. She is the opposite to my ex. Great video!!!! 😀

[@brent2438]

Wow .....I can't believe he didn't follow your advice. The last years of his life were spent dealing with a psycho Filipina. Sad! Good video!

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

he deserved much better. he really was a good guy. a good friend.

[@patrickmanley4943]

@@Lifebeyondthesea And you were a good friend to him. His first instincts were to invite you over to get an objective opinion but sadly he did not heed your counsel. A different set of eyes objectively observing from the outside of a relationship can be a lifesaver.

[@Notorious_Ajay]

Hmmm…it seems that some women bring baggage into a new relationship and take out their hurt on the new guy and unjustly punish him. Or sometimes their insecurities are off the charts to the point it would seem, that they’re not satisfied unless you confess to being unfaithful…even if you haven’t. As the age old adage goes, perhaps she’s the one up to no good, explaining her own unjustified mistrust. This behaviour combined with tampo is the ultimate red flag. Minimum dating Period…12 months.

[@johncarlson6472]

What a great, but sad story. Narcissists can be incredibly charming and are experts at "love-bombing" prospective mates. Your "nice guy" friend is just the type these NPD's seek out. Poor guy didn't stand a chance. She kept charming him back and he just couldn't get past his desire to "make it work." I'm curious as to what his illness was as she may very well have been instrumental in bringing that on. Be careful guys and vet your Filipina like your life depends on it...because it does. As silly as it sounds, something Psychologist John Gray said does ring true, "The way to a man's heart isn't through his stomach, it's through his penis."

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

yes, it is a machiavellian method of manipulation. offering reward from one hand, while holding a punishing stick in the other. very dark and evil.

[@johncarlson6472]

@@Lifebeyondthesea So true, and what's particularly nasty is how they (as you pointed out) alienate them from their friends and family in order to "divide and conquer." Kudos to you for trying to help this guy out. You would think after the intrusive crap she loaded onto his phone was found, he'd cut her loose for good, but, no dice. Crazy.

[@didierdenice7456]

Thanks for sharing 👍

[@henryvanderbeek2973]

Narcissists will actually look for someone nice that they think they can control.....I see it in a friend of mine...He's a super guy...very easy going......

[@henryvanderbeek2973]

That's such a very sad story.......He brought it upon himself, but still.....Nobody deserves to be treated like that....

[@tarwingrill4531]

People like that have ironed their ability to make believe, to project the sweetest possible face in public and make your life hell in private. Once they figure out your buttons, they will play you like a piano. Happened to me. With two kids and a business to run, I had to function, when all she wanted is to make sure that she pushes my buttons. She did the same things as this filipina and she is a westerner. She would sniff even in my car when I come back from work. I started feeling various pains at a young age. Until the day I cut suddenly. Then she tried to scare me. When it did not work, she wanted to come back. While she was playing circus, I was getting my act together, quietly. She was so sure that she had me in her handbag! I interpreted it at that time as a double personality, the way she can switch from one side to the other! That is the hardest thing that ever happened to me. Once out, you feel rejuvenated. 25 years later, I feel much better than then in every way.

[@johnlehew8192]

No one can change a true narcissist. No one. They thrive on harming others. Controlling and isolating behavior is a flashing, blinding red flag. Must cut all ties