The Guys' Take | What It Takes For A Man To Stay In A Bad Marriage Ft The Aleph Cafe

[@bumploveug]

You heard from us the ladies....now its the guys' turn. Today they're laying it all down for us: from co-parenting to side chicks to the dreaded "We need to talk", the guys are here to talk about it all. PS: Tonight is a good night to warm up at The Aleph Cafe with a coffee. Or a beer! Thanks Gaetano and Marcus for joining us today! Subscribe to their channel here @Last Round Uganda #AskTheGuys

[@ruthn8991]

Most people think marriage is all about kuwooma, anfukira amazzi etc… There’re more pressing issues in marriage!!! I think everyone that wants to be in a long lasting relationship/marriage should have professional pre-marital counselling, credit check, take some time to know the person before committing, talk about things you can tolerate and not, but most importantly setting realistic expectations. Great episode ❤ Canada

[@britah-edwardstendo]

I like how random yet collected this episode is. Talking about expectations in relationships is very important indeed.👏👏👏

[@michellebryan1777]

That is so nice, that you're good friends with your ex wife...i was married in a relationship for 24 years...have 2 children...and we got divorced ,and i remarried and both my present husband and my ex husband get along great!! My ex husband celebrated his 60th birthday party a few months ago...and my husband and i went...its good to get along for our children and grandchildren...because our children are grown...and we have 3 grandchildren.

[@mwebazacharity1240]

This was one of my favorite episodes ....it's good to know guys talk deeply too! Those co-parenting stories were a shocker. Great show ladies fun & informative ! I love Manuela's dress!

[@sophia4christ]

New subscriber watching from Jamaica! 🇯🇲 Keep up the great job! 👍🏽💯⭐😁

[@theerinahshow2077]

These topics are everything for the young generation. We are dealing with things older than us, and this, is a guide! Thank you'll

[@eyvonndua8162]

True

[@Odondo23]

Thank y’all for having this conversation. It’s going to sit with me for a while…believe me you have fueled me for a lifetime. Merci 🍻

[@segawaivan5238]

Am Ugandan working in Rwanda Kigali, who always thought am far away from home, I have just watched just two episodes, I feel just close to home, thanks Pumla, your my favorite, mbagalanyo mwe❤

[@rachelnaigaga6634]

This episode was really fun with very realistic and candid conversations. Marcus' experience brought the point on co-parenting home! I really love Angie's mature submissions!

[@elizabethpromise86]

I like the way Racheal always brings back the conversation to the centre of gravity with her questions. Also kudos to Marcus for contextualizing the topic with your personal story.. please write that book

[@rachaelmwine]

❤❤

[@pumlanabachwa8668]

She is out North star for sure. P

[@kemigishajesicca8332]

The expectation conversation....very important 👌👌👌👌thank you Marcus for pointing it out. I wish every couple could embrace it instead of relying on assumptions.

[@linetkamau658]

From experience, most people have it but it’s forgotten and often no written evidence AND dating is often like an interview, people ‘pretend’ or are flexible to agree because they want the job .

[@doradoreen2557]

For some men, they don’t need to be unhappy at home to get side chics. It’s a few of them that get side chic as last resort

[@namugerwajuliet4633]

True dear some just get them just for no good reason

[@OchokoruLillian-gx1rp]

Hatty banange thank you for introducing me to bump love these ladies have really bright light back in my life iam just watching episode ku episode darkness in me is going slowly by slowly,I will be fine .

[@christinenakazzi280]

Finally yay I kept checking this channel since I woke up at 8:00 😍😍.

[@bettyapio5531]

Me too

[@ms.t6051]

Please do a part 2. What a beautiful episode! I have laughed so hard and so silly...thanks guys! You are just getting better everyday ❤️❤️❤️

[@alicealice4426]

What i took home from this amazing, yet hilarious episode was: Be honest from the get go. Talk about what are your expectations as a couple and of each other. Level up on your maturity. 🇰🇪

[@anitakomukama]

This is profound and a great revelation that men do talk to their guys and in depth 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Racheal_Aye]

It's been 2yrs since I landed on this channel. It gets better everytime. My baby will b two soon n I my parenting is top notch 🥰 I feel it. Tho my friends tell me too

[@babiryevictoria493]

Am with you on this

[@pumlanabachwa8668]

Cheers to Top notch parenting 👌🏾. P

[@catherinekamuli7756]

Hello Bump love and Lovers, i feel like you forgot to talk about finances, women kuguma because they have no where to start and they fight for their marriage because they have put in alot into that marriage to get what they have but a man goes and gets another girl and takes all what this woman has worked for or has been patiently been waiting for and he gives the best to the other girl. That is a blow to the head.

[@peshcadipearl]

This is the number one reason for 'kuguma' honestly, men think they are tired but the woman is thrice as tired. They just have no where to start after investing their all in the marriage. This point is underrated but makes so much sense.

[@pumlanabachwa8668]

This is true. We'll keep this conversation for another episode. Thanks for the reminder. P

[@ericauwimbabazi9524]

I think this ladies have understand that financial life can starts any think and any where that I agree

[@angellaUlevi]

True. Not just financial but physical as well. Women are considered more attractive the younger they are. Even more so if they haven’t had any children. So a woman who has put 10+ years into a marriage and had a couple of babies…her options on the single market are significantly lower if she leaves. So not only is it hard for her to start over financially, but it’s also a lonely path to take trying to find a companion. Women are incredibly disadvantaged in a divorce.

[@evelynkabahuma7035]

It's always good to have the guys' perspective on these issues!

[@helengracenamulwana2858]

This was a beautiful episode. Absolutely beautiful! Never have I seen the Mars Vs Venus notion come so true. Thank you Marcus for sharing your life with us. Very inspiring. It is possible to co-parent.

[@godsfavoritechild3187]

That part where BRIAN MULONDO came in was the winner 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@pumlanabachwa8668]

It was the winner for me too! P

[@sarahapio6887]

Bump love ,this is so good, also invite Salvado and Mathew Nabwiso to hear from them too on any dad edition, or else their wives

[@pumlanabachwa8668]

Good idea! P

[@godsfavoritechild3187]

Marcus raises a very vital aspect that’s usually ignored & down played by most couples before marriage; THE EXPECTATIONS CONVERSATION.📌👏🏽👍🏽

[@anonnona6433]

Anti the butterflies and wedding preparations take precedence. Honey have you eaten, honey can we meet up for some iig jig.....banange my gown....then it's all about sexual compatibility. What about ALL the other compatibilities that are needed in a long term relationship 😂😂😂

[@sharifanabachwa]

@@anonnona6433 okitegera 😂

[@pumlanabachwa8668]

And yet it's really the most important aspect. We do need to have more of these conversations. P

[@godsfavoritechild3187]

@@pumlanabachwa8668 couldn’t agree more.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@niwaherezaphionah8823]

Best show ive watched in a while. Kudos to you guys. Ive learned so much.

[@pitlycaevents9]

I believe I’ll be a good mother in future because of this channel 😘💪 big up ladies

[@sharonkomugisha9328]

You have made my evening! Thank you guys! Talking from experience!

[@prutebemberwa]

When Rachael's brain had a glitch at 34:43 while processing that scenario 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

[@rachaelmwine]

Mwanawe 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@lydiahjrgensen5412]

Thank you beautiful ladies for such an amazing show. I have loved this topic. Well thank you Marcus for being yourself and above all being good friends with your ex wife and co-parenting and big thanks to your wife for doing an amazing job, because most step moms in Uganda are not easy at all.

[@nyakatojulietsheila8930]

The way Brian walks in 🤣🤣🤣

[@ruthiekintu2109]

He was dying

[@carolinemayende7917]

Ahhhh this is now oba one of my best episode of bump love, Marcus is a rare version.... Ladies this was sp insightful and beautiful

[@lydiakisakye4779]

This was a beautiful episode…. Thx for bringing those gentlemen. My take home is, being ready to have the uncomfortable conversations n also managing expectations in marriage or relationships.

[@jenniferzawedde20]

Nkutumidde

[@pambaatimunghono9677]

Good to see Gaetano of Big Brother Africa 2003 from Uganda👏. I am from Namibia🇳🇦 and enjoying every show of Bumb Love🤣

[@martharinebiseko1457]

Uwalapo... Welcome welcome

[@pumlanabachwa8668]

Yes to Namibiaaaaaaaaaa. Karibu! P

[@yvonneayesige2007]

This was so lit. Marcus and Gae just fired up the conversation . Well done Bump love thus episode was amazing

[@justineroy8881]

How I have enjoyed this episode I kept reversing back and forth 😊 this is wonderful...but Marcus ur the limit 🙌

[@doreengift458]

Oh ladies! People raise their children well! Thank you for sharing this eye opener to mature difficult lessons!💕

[@kiconconyamwire6900]

I really enjoyed and learned, more episodes please,

[@MAN-yq9yi]

Most men, even when you discuss things & agree on a way forward . And then later it happens again - they will STILL throw in “the don’t bring it up again” line. They don’t seem to appreciate that the ONLY reason you bring up something again is because it’s happening AGAIN!! May be Not the same exact incident but the same principle is still at play. Eg of not communicating, or not sticking to the agreed plan…or something ..… and then Nolemwa…🙆🏾‍♀️😩.

[@anonnona6433]

That gender. 😂😂😂😂Some use it as an escape and to silence a woman. Any effort to discuss or have a difficult conversation is labelled nagging 😳

[@pumlanabachwa8668]

Then they call us nagging! Banange. Olemwa! P

[@nalongonambi2499]

Wow guys thx for the show

[@anntibwiita8340]

Favourite episode yet! Love y'all

[@NashHkville]

I do not know why I dint know abt bump love😮 it's my second month now following u guys, & am getting addicted that I have gone thru all yo shows in the past, good job ladies

[@perezmacdonald5720]

IT Feels so natural i like this show

[@naomifeeza354]

Well done ladies n gents the conversation was really amazing Thanks

[@Mvis580]

Yes. We need to see another conversation with these guys...

[@pumlanabachwa8668]

We definitely will. P

[@richauntie316]

True

[@kyokushabashine7193]

yeah Thank you Angie.indeed we need to see the journey

[@rushoslen7082]

Am always checking wheather you have uploaded a new episode 🤩

[@peruthmwenkanya2508]

Beautiful episode 🥰.. thank you guys

[@kukumyra5402]

This has been my best episode... Well-done. Plus I am waiting for that book by Marcus

[@shifamubiiru346]

Loved loved today's episode

[@belindabundi]

Woooow woooow, one of the best discussions ever.

[@raymondmakola5858]

I like this conversation. I have an ask, what is kuguma? By the way i'm from South Africa.

[@anitakomukama]

Loosely translated “be strong” “harden up”….

[@nansysherry]

Being patient in the marriage

[@phionakajumba3868]

Marcus Truth brings peace.U said it in the first place .Ur such a great Gentleman 🤸‍♀️Kudos

[@clarekenyena5721]

Marcus you're the best, I love the conversation

[@Avellino256]

I didnt want this show to end.......Damn Marcus...we need a movie and a book

[@anntibwiita8340]

Me either

[@joycenamulondo8665]

Thank you for the show

[@ShutamaNaNyamwiza]

Thank you ladies. And for having Marcus and Gae. Looking forward to your show on their end at Last Round UG

[@kasozicaroline1513]

I have enjoyed, thanks dearies

[@judithejangtravelblog]

Wow wow wow its a wow wow just for me, you ladies are too much. Thanks for the content 🙏 🙌 BRAVO 👏

[@connienamutebi9451]

I loooooooooooovvvved this segment guys...very informative and funnnnnn at the same time...thank you guys...

[@evolvemalesafrica256]

Wow! thanks Ladies and gentlemen!!

[@clarenimusiima187]

Next episode should be on how Men prefer being in "safe place" bar even when everything is fine back home. Like coming home late being their lifestyle. Otherwise m enjoying the episode

[@jemimahnakasanje9409]

Keep the guys coming they make the show better

[@atwinem]

Great talk....

[@grace30383]

Now this is really a ting....Thanks for having the men on this discussion.

[@godsveryowndaughter4009]

This was nice. Thank you

[@namyalojoyce8585]

Am not married yet but am learning alot from this platform 👏👏👏

[@Debby142]

Me too,I really love the show ❤️🇿🇲.

[@nama8221]

Alot to learn on here. Thank you always. You really hear us.

[@sherryscreativitycorner]

The link up that I've been longing for. Thank you

[@karene_B]

Loved this episode big time big time laughter and lessons....kudos 🎉😂😂

[@elviskatende4135]

Thank Bump love, I missed those two, great show. One of the best episodes

[@mweshyhaufiku2210]

i loved this episode so very much, hearing from the guy persperctive helped me fix my behaivours toward my partner,thanks guys very much

[@tshyllah]

This show ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Thank you ladies and the gents.

[@anitakomukama]

Wow Marcus - God has been good to you! 🙏🏾

[@kamesehilda3363]

This is very educative big ups bump love

[@preciouspamellah5306]

Bump Love yo inspirational keep it up ladies I Love you all❤️

[@nabaweesisylivia9188]

thank you so much we appreciate

[@kiizakimbugwe5789]

Really enjoyed this show! Well done girls...xx

[@fionamunabi594]

Beautiful episode. Laughed and laughed!!1

[@noormansourtawfik109]

Loved the show

[@brendakyokusiima817]

My best bump love episode so far ❤❤❤❤❤❤Bless you guys

[@nabidigido3765]

I enjoyed the show so much with the guys this time. Please bring them again..

[@ritahmaryivy4706]

Wooow I enjoyed these show... It was lit for sure

[@ngabojoel4752]

Bump love rock, your show today was awesome, Gaetano & Marcus made it wow

[@annekagere7564]

Beautiful show

[@sallyogutu5]

Very nice conversation I have learnt alot Thank you bump love and last round

[@kasubojustine795]

You people am in love with your work and ideas banange

[@dusingizeingabireclaudine5996]

My best episode ever! ❤from Rwanda

[@mercyahimbisibwe1485]

The best show ever , keep it up ladies

[@evejkay6749]

Very good episode it was and so enlightening. Thank you ❤️

[@ketrahvanderbaan3743]

I enjoy bump love Conversation and to be honest its actually one of my favorite shows from uganda on KZbin . but this particular episode is epic!!💯 Reason I am a divorcee and a mother as well. soon to be a wifey again and I have learned so much from this episode.

[@namyalojoyce8585]

I have been waiting for this Much respect guys🥰🥰🥰

[@paulturyamureeba5196]

this conversation, ur talking about marriage and really last week we talked about divorce and were in plans of it. plz pray for.

[@natukwatsalucky1628]

Wow my ladies have come let me prepare ma self

[@aureliakamwija4269]

I felt the another round element in there with the" ( angry sex)"convoy.This episode was totally different in a sense that it brought out a different side of the girls.iam rolling on the floor.

[@anonnona6433]

They are not talking as moms today but as lovers ❤ 😂

[@anonnona6433]

So, the BIG discovery is that men do not kuguma 😳😲 because they know the mother will take care of the children 🙆‍♂️

[@pumlanabachwa8668]

Gweeeeeeeeeeeeee it hit us too! P

[@akambasisamercy6158]

They're lying. They also kuguma

[@jacquelynemirembe3788]

Wow loved this guys ,Marcus !

[@thisenthat]

Ohhh Welkom Angie, I love that hair syle. Thanks for always being on point Angie. I just wish you could speak more. Much respect ✊

[@ayopamella]

This was awesome ladies and gentlemen ❤️❣️❣️

[@tenywajacobkiboigo3085]

Nice conservation