The Harsh Reality of Livia Soprano- Soprano Theories

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Throughout The Sopranos' first few seasons, it is clear to Tony and the audience, that his mother Livia, is by no means a typical loving and caring mother. As Livia is the complete opposite of the typical mother that we would see on television. Often seen on screen yelling, complaining, wishing she would die, and eventually trying to kill her very own son, it was clear Livia was not loving to any of her children. But this is especially true with the case of her only son Tony. A few episodes stick out to where Tony realizes just how bad she was a mother, Down Neck, 46 Long, Isabella, and I Dream of Jeanie Cusamono are all standouts that reveal the true character of Livia Soprano and just how evil and bitter she was.
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[@valthestudio4886]

Probably one of the greatest villains in television history, tbh. The impact she left is unfathomable. Beside, she's funny and realistic as fuck.

[@bane8305]

reminds me of my pops i swear

[@mohan2304]

Cynical not realistic

[@Absolute_Goblin]

It's amazing writing. So many people know a women like Livia or at least women that have similarities to Livia.

[@Ashw1115]

Reminds me of my grandma. Like exactly like my grandma it’s wild. She abused my mom and uncles and aunts, me, my siblings, and my cousins. We all gave her respect but all know she’s batshit crazy and miserable. She comes to the family reunions every year and everytime we hate it.

[@sweetiepeach69]

I was raised up by a Narcissistic Mother who is exactly like Livia... It was HELL and left massive scars, but I'm healing 😩🤗

[@josephrhodes5025]

Nancy Marchand played this part to perfection

[@samanthab1923]

It’s hard to say where they could have gone with the character. Her diagnose with cancer came right after getting the role.

[@maylabrown4584]

@@samanthab1923You mean she played the character while she had cancer??? That is amazing, for her to go through something that terrible and still pull off an amazing performance is unbelievable

[@intellectic9155]

@@maylabrown4584 Yes, they actually used her CG face in one scene because she had died during filming.

[@maylabrown4584]

@@intellectic9155 Oh yeah I remember that, but i did not know that she had cancer from the beginning, she did her role so well

[@samanthab1923]

@@maylabrown4584 Yup, she was something 🙏🏻

[@Nickyeyes]

Could you imagine if Livia accepted the offer to move in with Tony's family? The psychological damage she could have inflected on all of them? Tony would've been passing out every 15 minutes. As far as Livia's involvement in the botched hit on Tony..."I don't know what you're talking about!"

[@DiocletianLarius]

Botched hit on Tony, whatever happened there

[@maylabrown4584]

Actually that would have been a bit life changing I think, since that would mean that Tony starts going to therapy sooner and that Livia would likely find out about Tony going to therapy since but this time she'd be living at his house, I wonder what a Pre-Season 1 Tony who already was going to therapy would look like.

[@Nickyeyes]

​​@@maylabrown4584 Yeah, that would have changed everything. I wonder what would've happened to Tony if word got out that he was seeing a shrink, while Jackie was still boss?

[@maylabrown4584]

@@Nickyeyes I think that Tony would still get a pass cause he was already like an unofficial Underboss for Jackie but I do wonder if that happened would Jackie look for someone else to take his place should he die from cancer.

[@HydraBill57]

​@@maylabrown4584 That could have changed everything. Tony becoming boss is what leads to his full turn towards degeneraicy. Tony probably could have lead a much more peaceful family life and been "happy".... If he could keep himself from whacking the new boss and taking over but who knows he might have always made a move for boss.

[@NorthDallasForty.]

It’s not a nursing home It’s a retirement community‼️ Livia was nuts

[@craigcavaliere6744]

She was a borderline personality.

[@GuidoLuzzi]

@@craigcavaliere6744 ok dr. melfi

[@coleozaeta6344]

@@GuidoLuzziNah, she actually is. Did you watch the show?

[@evelyntremble6791]

Amen. I’ve seen those women in their wheelchairs babbling like idiots.

[@JackBirdbath]

It’s not a nursing home, it’s more like a luxury resort at Captain Teebs!

[@sinistar3198]

Tony can't admit he hates his father. And he also can't admit that he wishes his mother loved him.

[@autonomous8108]

The scene where Livia goes from crying for attention to laughing at Tony's pain when falling from the stairs always trips me the fuck out. Like actually something out of a horror movie, especially with it being so realistic. Anyone whos ever dealt with truly emotionally manipulative people knows how true to life that scene was. They pretend to love you, going as far as sobing to your face about it, but do it just to laugh at your pain. One of her best scenes imo.

[@alk61695]

I heard if Nancy Marchand had not sadly passed away, they would have had Livia testify against Tony in court about the fraudulent airline tickets. That would have been something to see. They would have also never made Janice a regular character in the show.

[@GuidoLuzzi]

i heard the opposite. she was suppose to die on the show sooner than she did however since she was close to death in real life they didn't want to kill her off

[@keithharper1470]

​@GuidoL900 James fought for her so she could pay her medical bills

[@Dragonfury3000]

She could be always be recasted but that's always a hard pill to take

[@steveomac385]

​@@GuidoLuzziboth are true.

[@bobbythotimus1184]

Do you think Livia would've actually testified against Tony if they were able to actually follow through with that plotline?

[@jamesmorant1406]

When you hate the character the actress did a great job RIP Nancy Marchand

[@michaellrakes5521]

That's the benchmark of an excellent actor/actress. It's easy to play the nice guy/girl, the hero. But playing a villain, an ultra realistic and believable one, is extremely hard. The funny part is, most historical villains on film were actually the nicest people off set, including Nancy Marchand

[@robertlee4172]

David Chase based the Livia character after his mother's borderline personality. During interviews, Chase described his mother's sarcasm and criticisms as the cause, in part, of his own mental disorders. He spoke often about his long history of psychiatric talk therapy.

[@UncleRuckus_96]

Livia Soprano has to be the most realistic character in the show

[@Dragonfury3000]

Personaly I think AJ is the most realistic to the point I felt bad for the kid.

[@olofacosta3192]

​@@Dragonfury3000aj is realistic but also rare irl. Very few are wired as he is

[@hippo-potamus]

Listen to him with my darling, Im nobodies darling.

[@ejnorman8781]

Livia is so realistic it makes me mad. She reminds me of two people in my life: someone I know with BPD and my great-grandmother. The disorder doesn’t damage the person but instead damages everyone around them by sabotaging their relationships and using manipulation to get what they want. My great-grandmother was Narcissus in the flesh. She treated her husband like dirt but idolized him when he passed. She was so horrible to my grandmother, that after she (finally) passed, my grandmother had to go to therapy but not because she was sad. She went to therapy because she was happy about her death and felt wrong because she wasn’t sad.

[@cheycheyfriend247]

the disorder absolutely can damage the person, whats with these ignorant ass BPD takes on this video?

[@albertangeloro5832]

Livia reminds me of the evil, sadistic nuns that torture children in Catholic Schools. she would have triumphed as a nun or a guard in a Nazi Death Camp.

[@Aivottaja]

The disorder does damage the person, too. Most of the time, it mostly damages the person, in fact.

[@Iksvomid]

Had an ex like that. Still recovering, I had a pretty stable love life but now I'm single for 3 years straight and find it hard to even imagine trying to be close to anyone.

[@justforlaughs1982]

@@Aivottaja I can assure you that it absolutely damages and ruins the lives of these people around them too. I know all too well as my mother has BPD. These people should simply live in a padded room in a psychiatric facility if they are unable to control their nastiness!

[@Evatallica]

I'm of the belief that there was a possibilty for Livia to not utterly detest her son, but any potential there was destroyed when Johnny Boy got Tony to lie for him while Livia was going through her miscarriage.

[@bane8305]

Faxxx when he walked in that hospital room and the pops was like "right tony" and tony lied just to make his pops feel better but also made his mother furious that her own son lied to her... but she don't know the pressure pops had on tony in that moment if tony even hesitated he would be seen as weak .. its a lose lose situation damed if you lie damned if you dont

[@jakealter5504]

You’re forgetting that she threatened to kill tony when he was a child

[@timorthelame1]

She would've detested him either way. At best the lie was an unspoken pretext for her resentment but even without a pretext cluster B folks will resent you for some other reason real or imagined.

[@bane8305]

faxxxx@@timorthelame1

[@cheycheyfriend247]

when was this?@@bane8305

[@cloudbloom]

She reminded me of my own mom in many ways, which isn't necessarily a good thing lmao

[@L1qu1d-2qu1d]

Same except she reminds me of my dad

[@williamgass9242]

I like this show because that's my mom. And I hope she either fixes her bullshit or leaves us alone.

[@nahuelvalverde897]

same here, my mom hates me and i related to tony so much

[@amiblack8294]

it's mine too and i hope you're not holding your breath for either of those things because they won't happen. You have to either walk away from her completely or suffer while you wait for the angel of death to take her. I walked away and my life improved almost immediately.@@williamgass9242

[@matthewackermanaski9687]

This show has triggered me hard by how similar Livia is to my Mother as a narcissist and Junior as the Enabler (which seems he's also a narcissist)

[@pastapirate]

Everything Lyvia says to Tony is her saying what she's always wanted to say to Johnny Boy

[@timorthelame1]

A few of the rare moments where she expressed genuine joy were when Anthony Jr got suspended and when she was told that Ritchie supposedly left Janis. Once you are able to see this cluster B behavior it becomes hard to not see it. Livia was a fictional character but these kind of people really do exist and it's not as uncommon as people think. You can even see it in their "good deeds" that they broadcast for purposes of maintaining appearances. They only care about themselves and how they are viewed. They couldn't care any less about others save for their contempt for them. If you know anyone like this, keep a safe distance from them no matter how you know or are related to them. The only use they have for you is whatever purpose you serve for them. They will seek to hurt you unless you are serving their ego and even then you had best watch out for yourself.

[@dannylojkovic5205]

Sounds like my brother. He’s effectively removed from the family as a result

[@rodbelding9523]

Livia was honestly unbearable. If she didn't die in season 3 I don't know if I could've finished the series lol. But the fact she was so unbearable means the actress did an outstanding job.

[@jtmichaelson]

Shit! My mother did less to me and we became estranged for the last 15 years of her life. sucks we never got to make amends, but my mother wouldn't have cared anyway. So, it is what it is.

[@jackharle1251]

Mothers can be an anchor around their son's necks. It's a real thing.

[@njplr]

You've like an albacore around my neck!

[@jackharle1251]

@@njplr I hope so

[@Bluecollarasgardian]

people always choose the joker as the goat villain but this woman is levels above the joker

[@robertbusek30]

The Joker is, ultimately, a comic book villain who is by his nature unrealistic. Livid, on the other hand, is VERY realistic…

[@mmmghool]

She'd be a great villian for Batman. Batman's parent issues are just as bad, or worse than Tony's.

[@easy0828]

Her worst goodbye gift to Tony was Janice.

[@TheMasterQuests]

Yea thanks Olivia I appreciate that

[@alecnickel4572]

0:58 It's not a nursing home, it's a retirement community!

[@mopes2713]

I can’t believe she orchestrated a hit against her own son for sending her to luxury retirement home. Lol

[@Dragonfury3000]

Being senile in the world of crime does that. Victims of circumstance.

[@hardboiled2987]

@Dragonfury3000 Wtf? She was not senile. She was just absolutely detestable and despicable.

[@Csetnikke]

It's a retirement community!

[@hippo-potamus]

People let you down and I'm not naming any names. In the end you die in your own arms.

[@benjaminperez7328]

CAPTAIN TEEBS.

[@alienszez]

Me watching this to find out why my Nonna is so miserable.

[@Mechanosensitive_Zion_Channel]

My mom was exactly like this and I thought and still think it’s normal. My mom is Mediterranean, and many women of Mediterranean origins have this type of demeanor. The way they show love is not through hugs and kisses, but by coexisting with you and giving constant criticism.

[@elemperadordemexico]

What a miserable life that has to be for the husband

[@Mechanosensitive_Zion_Channel]

@@elemperadordemexiconot really, it builds a strong character.

[@hippo-potamus]

You're using mesquite, that make the meat taste peculiar.

[@AbrasiousProductions]

those women sound awful

[@travismiles5885]

The only well-adjusted woman on this show was Charmaine Bucco. She didn't marry into the life and had no regrets. I'm sure she slept well at night.

[@dr3dg352]

While maybe not well-adjusted, I feel like Angie Bompansaro had a lot going for her by the end.

[@mattdaniel9420]

Ha!

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

@@dr3dg352I agree. Angie had the best come-up out of all the women (except Charmaine). She made lemonade out of lemons, even though she had to do it by getting involved in “the life” as one of the players instead of one of the wives.

[@jakealter5504]

@@dr3dg352I’d argue the same for medow, she was pretty well adjusted

[@dr3dg352]

@@jakealter5504 Yes! She was a great point of contrast to AJ's depression in Season 6B.

[@AnthonyMonaghan]

I loved Livia...she was one of the funniest characters in the show. Nancy Marchand was pitch perfect in every scene. Thos put downs were so fierce. She should have been the boss of the family.

[@osborn.illustration]

She was a horrible woman, very well written and well acted. Like in Beowulf, the monster Grendel isn't the real villain of the story; the monster's mother is the real 'big bad'. I remember a literature professor saying about Beowulf, that the monster's mother is subliminally scarier than the monster could ever be, because that which created a monster must be even more powerful and frightening. It's something I think about a lot when I re-watch the Sopranos and see Tony suffering through dealing with his mother.

[@marvinthemartian9584]

I've seen short insecure men, that were in a supervisor position, go out of their way to harass and belittle tall employees. Later to find out that they were picked on by tall people in grade school and in their mind this is their chance to get even. So when I hear that Tony's mom was shitty to them to get back at her husband. I know that is entirely possible because I've seen it happen.

[@KRS2000]

That sounds like a guy who is a lead hand where I work. He is barely 5 feet, and he makes guys like me (a hair under 6 feet) do all the harder work, train every new guy, and do the more complex tasks. I'm not paid extra to train guys on the more complex tasks. He is. I even predicted that last year, when that guy applied for the position, he would make me the mule, and I was right. I'm off now because of a work related shoulder problem. However, the next tallest guy has now become the target. Same situation. It must be a, what's it called, Napoleon Complex? I'm probably wrong.

[@-AxisA-]

​@@KRS2000Why don't you look for a new work place?

[@marvinthemartian9584]

@@KRS2000 The best way to shut down guys like that is to make fun of them in front of others. Nothing lower the top, say stuff like you're a funny little man or give him a little kid's nickname like squirt, spankey, or peanut. You will see a big change in his attitude after that.

[@KRS2000]

@@-AxisA- I'm currently doing just that.

[@KRS2000]

@@marvinthemartian9584 I would do that. The only problem is that some people where I am would rat me out at the drop of a hat, and I could get two write up in one sitting. That's why I'm looking for employment elsewhere. Something with a bit of risk that pays well.

[@emperorpalpatine9897]

Livia was miserable because Tony never had the makings of a varsity athlete! 🤣

[@revolverrambles]

Small hands. That was his problem 😂

[@williamgass9242]

Neither did livia.

[@gtmxe494]

This joke is so overused

[@williamgass9242]

@@gtmxe494 people think they are clever and calling it fun.

[@bcatblues725]

She was one of my favorite characters in the Sopranos. She was great. To bad she couldn’t of been in more of the series.

[@theawarewolf8847]

I always thought of her as an evil Edith Bunker 😂

[@several6589]

i wish the lord would take me now

[@hippo-potamus]

Listen the time you're here taking care of my mother, no ganja.

[@RyanZe89]

Hey bud bless you

[@DrOktobermensch]

Why is this a mystery? She's named Livia, for crying out loud. Tony is Tiberius in this setting.

[@robertbusek30]

I just made this connection like five minutes ago!

[@Void7.4.14]

I think one of the brilliant things about her character was that it's pretty accurate to real conditions that don't seem at all logical cause they're not. I do think she resented her kids cause they were also Johnny Boy's kids and she felt slighted by him, but it was also that she had a personality disorder and refused any and all treatment and treatment for personality disorders are limited to non-existent, depending on the diagnosis, already. Tony and many other characters' antisocial personality traits are logical and exist for a reason, many seemed like normal kids and learned em as coping mechanisms to deal with the traumatic and harmful ways they (and often their family, friends, and acquaintances) feed their families while others did well in that world specifically cause they're psychopaths with no fear of death or prison and no feelings towards the people that get hurt with their scams and schemes be it other gangsters or civilians. Even when they're unrelatable they can usually be rationalized to some degree. Her's not so much and thats usually how it is with people like her, especially to their victims. And Nancy acted that role beautifully too so it was even more believable and impactful, especially to anyone thats been around people like that.

[@Gigibaby88]

One of my absolute favorite characters on the show, Nancy Marschand was just incredible in the role. I was so incredibly sad to see her go! 😢

[@thepragmaticwitch2608]

Her acting was impeccable like I truly hated her character so much.

[@connordelaney4087]

I always found Livia as an essential character to the show. She is the original victim. We see repeatedly throughout the series how woman are viewed and treated in the mob. On top of that, Livia comes from a time where men were dominant figures and woman were less respected in society as a whole. I almost feel like she treated Tony the way she did as almost a payback for all the pain she endured throughout her marriage. She is the root of all evil

[@intellectic9155]

Well, most women today should still be treated that way. Modern women (generalizing obviously) are feckless and materialistic.

[@Nibtarr]

It's also interesting to note that sociopathy/psychopathy expresses itself differently between women and men. This show nails the archetypes of horrible people to a T

[@JumbleJammyJokes]

Oh poor her

[@goodwoodBD]

Nancy Marchand was the best out of the entire series. Not only could you not tell that she was dying during the shows production,she played that part so good. She was even better than James Gandolfini.

[@hinatashimeluv7464]

Can we talk about how Olivia was antagonistic to Tony before moving her to Green Grove. Which was actually a really nice place

[@fyreleomh1896]

She resented Tony be because she saw her husband in him. As Tony grew up it was like reliving her early tears with Johnny Boy.

[@mebarkiimad8999]

But that's a delusional comparison, Tony never did anything to wrong her

[@AJCyalater-qv4ei]

So beautifully said!

[@TheMasterQuests]

Same thing happened in Boyz in the hood

[@MichelangeloVA]

Honestly, given the person she was and the men she was around. I'm surprised she wasn't clipped by Johnny, especially since Tony said she made his life hell until the very end.

[@robertlee4172]

He kinda gave her a warning once. When he shot through her beehive hairdo. So close.

[@nrlsan36_34]

It's hinted at sporadically in the show and in Many Saints that Johnny Boy was quite the narcissist himself. It's not touched on too much, because Tony himself with his rose-tinted glasses won't touch it, but Melfi picked up on it and would nudge him towards that reality. When two narcissists get together, they make each others lives and everyone's around them a living hell. A neverending game of fights, gaslighting, one-upsmanship, and abuse, but they'll very rarely leave each other. Unless one of them gets bored or gets their ego too bruised, they get locked into a cycle of toxic codependency where they feed off each other. Then once one of them dies, the other is almost idolized by the survivor, to milk others of sympathy and express frustration at losing their favorite punching bag. I'll bet you dollars to donuts that if Livia went first, Johnny would always go on about how she was "a sweet girl" and "the mother of my children", even to his goomah.

[@TurbidTG1]

Just imagine if Nancy Marchand hadn't passed away and lived through the entire series, I wonder what they would have done with Livia.

[@ratedr7845]

She was going to testify against tony for the airline tickets he gave her in the episode "Bust Out." You can see remnants of that plot line in the season 2 finale "Funhouse"

[@NKA0713]

I never in a million years thought I would relate to a mob boss until seeing what a monster of a mother Tony has. Having someone like this as a mom is something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy

[@ShadowNinja452]

For some reason, my mind simply wants to sum up Livia as: “Evil Granny”. That or just simply: “Witch”

[@amiblack8294]

That's why he referred to her as "strega" which means witch in Itailan

[@Johnnywiseify]

Livia reminded me of my maternal grandmother. She was bipolar, could be negative often, but she did have more instances of joy and happiness later in her life, even being alone in her house after my grandpa died, where it seems like Livia was never happy. She also had some old timey racist vocabulary (I.e. Blacks Mexicans, etc). P.s. her son, my uncle could be a real bastard but my grandma never tried to kill him tho. Lol

[@dewilew2137]

These Blacks...you never know what they’re going to take the wrong way. 😏

[@ohem]

My maternal grandmother was the same way, she did her best to ruin her daughter's life, sucking the joy out of her, manipulating her and generally being a human black hole. Her daughter, my mother, coped thru her abuse by beating me my entire childhood. That's how the cycles of transgenerational trauma works. I never had kids, that's how I finished that cycle, not the optimal response, but I'd hate myself if I ever hurt my child like she did her daughter and her daughter did to me. My mom and I always marvelled at the character of Livia, she even looked like my grandmother.

[@DrJ-hx7wv]

I was raised by a Livia. Her character hit me harder than Mike Tyson on PCP.

[@georgeworthmore]

"She's a monster"... Nancy Marchand

[@gingerjones111]

Anyone who says that you have to love your mother, I show them Sopranos episodes with Livia.

[@julesmasseffectmusic]

I just respond with a growled description of my childhood combined with the threat of being petrol bombed in your sleep. Makes them think twice before preaching to the victim that the crime was acceptable.

[@gingerjones111]

@@julesmasseffectmusic agreed

[@susanjaskulek4280]

Nancy m.was perfect as livia...tony tried his best to please her...but to her he was another version of her husband which made her misrable to be around.

[@revolverrambles]

Because she gave here kids her life on a silver platter and they still put her in a nursing home! 😂

[@hippo-potamus]

Listen to him, he knows EVERYTHING.

[@KARKATELCESARENVIADODESA-pv4yd]

This was when the show had life, Tony's crew against the old timers, really felt a sense of cohetion rather than the fragmentations and betrayals of later seasons.

[@louisdangelo9375]

I had family members, one being a grandparent that was manipulative and created rift in the family that to this day has left permanent damage.

[@davidharper8500]

Smother your Mother…now there’s a name for a rock band!!

[@tarantulagirl]

You can’t blame Livias outlook. She was a housekeeper and baby maker. She shouldn’t have pushed her bitter outlook on her children, but you cannot blame her for having it. She didn’t get all the trappings that we see Carmella has. They lived in a modest house and she wasn’t dressed as a glamorous trophy wife. She had a miscarriage alone because her husband was with his goomar. Her life was to be a maid for her husband with very little return. Her trying to have to Tony killed was messed up, but I think she was in the early stages of dementia by that point. She often didn’t know who her own grandchildren were, clearly she wasn’t of sound mind and she resented the mafia.

[@scoliosis9478]

so being a normal housewife and mother for the time justifies constant abuse and belittling of her children and husband?

[@cooperbourke7717]

Horrible Woman and Mother. She is a huge reason why Tony grew up to be a Sociopath. May she burn in hell!

[@murraykelm5691]

Goes to show just how strong the writing was on the Sopranos, considering that at the time of her death Marchand was arguably the second most important member of the cast, yet the show actually got stronger.

[@jezebulls]

Today is the day I found out it was Livia and not Olivia

[@SOS-ct9mv]

With all the comments made 1 month ago and the show being a decade old we must all be preparing for the holidays with our parents. 😂🙃

[@draingangscholar]

This is a good analysis but as someone who is specializing in BPD research, Dr. Melfi is wrong. The writer of the show has a stigmatized view of BPD because Dr. Melfi's explanation of BPD and her reasons for diagnosing Livia with it are based off BPD stigma and demonization. Not everyone with BPD is a manipulator or abusive. People with BPD are capable of love. Livia is more likely to have Narcissistic Personality Disorder than Borderline Personality Disorder based on how she is as a character. If she were borderline, she would not take any opportunity to shit on her kids, that's a narcissist thing to do. Borderline mothers who have untreated BPD are more inconsistent and fluctuate between being warm, affectionate and overprotective to being cold, emotionally withdrawn and hostile. If she's consistently terrible to her kids it isn't BPD.

[@justforlaughs1982]

totally disagree. Livia is the textbook definition of BPD. My mother was exactly like her without the funny bits and the emotional damage she has caused to all of us is just incredible. She should be in jail.

[@Qba888888]

maybe she was both BPD and NPD

[@justforlaughs1982]

@@Qba888888 Could be, but a NPD would never engage in self pity in front of others like Livia does, but if she has both then that could be explained I suppose.

[@armanisumter1225]

I’m not excusing her but that story of how Johnny Boy shot at her and made a hole in her beehive style…A man can hurt a woman so badly that she doesn’t even know what or who she’s angry at anymore.

[@brendanmuller7301]

One of the only good things about many saints and its deleted scenes was it showed Livia and Tony's early relationship. She clearly had moments where she cared about Tony and vise versa. She just doesn't quite understand how to show, it. She was also very fond of dickie with those two seemingly being the only two she actually liked being around, with tony obviously being her favorite child and the main thing getting in the way of them understanding eachother is tonys immaturity and both of their lack of any ability to properly explain their feelings. Until dickie dies and drugs are found on his body(meant for her) which lead to her disgust at dickie due to the assumption of him being a junkie. Then there's Tony who later as we see in the sopranos, lies about Johnny's absence during her miscarriage in an attempt to gain approval from his father which led to Livia feeling like the only remotely positive part of her life betrayed her. Leading to her doing her best to make the rest of Johnny and Tony's life around her a living hell. All in all I could fix young Livia she was hot

[@ta3-mnp4rk4]

"Who's to say there isn't another Mrs. Soprano or will be? Maybe not with the same fears and paranoia but the same"

[@harveypratt995]

My favorite character. She had me laughing at every scene she was in.

[@Fee212]

Carmella summed her up eloquently at Olivia's wake. 😅

[@hankgonzalez6074]

Livia “I don’t know what you’re tawkin about!!” Soprano.

[@ninaarroyo5850]

Livia "Oh, poor you!" Soprano

[@NorthDallasForty.]

Livia didn’t have the makings of a varsity athlete

[@hippo-potamus]

She gave everything to her children on a silver platter.

[@cyrysvonnachtseite4546]

Livia was the typical old school italian mother …. I see many traits like that in mine

[@Tier1GearEDCReviews]

She was insufferable! The actor did a great job portraying it too.

[@jessiestoss2687]

Livia was very intelligent and nobody can say the lady lacked strategy or diplomatic skills. She was the equivalent of a gangster. Tony saying a woman boss would never happen in the United States, I don't think it's a far conclusion to jump to that Livia knew about and helped her husband make decisions... Just like she did with Junior.

[@memesupreme2400]

did you change the title or am I hallucinating?

[@re11o]

Can you do a video further explaining The Cat that stared at the picture of Christopher?

[@hippo-potamus]

@@SwirlingDervish536 Its the abstract shapes or something.

[@user-jm6xy2rq5d]

Great video! Only you missed something very important. Livia’s miscarriage and tony lying to her to cover his father!

[@1940limited]

She was one of my favorite characters on the show. I'm sorry she wasn't on longer.

[@eljefemaximo5420]

Livia is one character I truly hated.

[@thereisnosanctuary6184]

Narcs get worse.

[@DaveSCameron]

Excellent theory once again Sir 👍 📚 🇬🇧 🙏 🇺🇸

[@williamgass9242]

What was the thoery?

[@DaveSCameron]

@@williamgass9242 Are you serious..

[@williamgass9242]

@@DaveSCameron Yes. Are you?

[@DaveSCameron]

@@williamgass9242 Then please search Theory and you'll answer your own question you blimp.

[@williamgass9242]

@DaveSCameron still waiting. Not so easy to find that theory, is it.

[@SuperNeos2]

I always wonder what would’ve happened if Nancy didn’t die before the show ended considering she was supposed to be around the entire series.

[@Notimportant253]

She was supposed to testify against Tony for the airline tickets Tony stole. Plus I guess Janice wouldn’t be in the show as much either

[@Djm8520]

Livia was the real OG!

[@DrLeroyGreen]

I wonder what Livia's father was like?

[@BartSimpson-lr8vz]

It's scary how similar Livia is to my grandmother.

[@petarmilich8684]

I’ve seen comments from people who actually defend Livia and even say she was a better wife and mother than Carmela. I seriously have to wonder if these people went in for an IQ test and the results came back negative. Saying that Livia was better than Carmela in any way, shape or form is like saying Denethor was a better person and ruler of Gondor than Aragorn.

[@protohass]

They wont have her back at green Grove!

[@rickandosca8262]

Nancy Marchand was the real deal as an actress. If you ever saw the 80`s show Lou Grant she was the owner of the newspaper, a very different character but equally believable.

[@mr.patriotjol]

I personally feel that Livia hates Tony because having an only son sends a resemblance of picturing Johnny inside Tony. Also, ever since Tony lied to his mom about the whereabouts of his dad when she was in the hospital, she started to despise him

[@EdDueim]

Not unlike the general perception of Livia Drusilla.

[@danielbergonzi7319]

She was beaten as a child

[@damirmclean5501]

I would love to see how her parents were that can fill in a lot of what made her who she was

[@topleybird2443]

Was this video written by an AI? The sentences double back on each other, points from the start get repeated verbatim by the end, what the hell even is this. Are you getting money off this channel or is it just for the love of the game?

[@travelingfool9096]

one, " MR Grant" would have been fun

[@baerhomburg6447]

she was a saint!

[@danielmcallister4816]

It wasn't a nursing home.

[@dannyahmed1273]

It’s a retirement community

[@Rome274]

Rip Nancy Marchand . A great lady and great actress

[@austin1fiddler]

She didn't get the Silver Bird Package

[@janiterinadrum1627]

I grew up in Kentucky my mother all the people I grew up with their mothers. All the people I went to school with or ever worked with never had a mother like that. Maybe it’s a New England type of thing because everyone up there seems to have psychiatrist to solve their problems for them,.. It’s almost like Woody Allen is their governor

[@jasonbodine6033]

“While she was certainly bitter towards her children, she was especially hateful* (not ‘hatred’) towards her only son, Tony.”

[@alnonymous2482]

It's a retirement community! And it's more like a hotel at Captain Teebs; that captain that owns luxury hotels or something.

[@queifjay]

She gave her life to her kids on a silver platter!

[@Lady_Boo]

I do believe that David Chase based the character of Livia on his own mother.