The Harsh TRUTH About Finding LOVE In Your 30's!

[@denisselee6544]

The purpose is attract the right person who will align with your present and future. Dating with a purpose rather than just dating random people. Work to be your best version of yourself. Do not focus on what is happening with dating right now, pointless. Take your time and everything will come at the right moment.

[@alekpiercedraws6571]

Great. But to find that you have to date.

[@lizb4156]

You love who you love and people over 30 and a lot over 30 don't even think about people in their 20s. The older you get the less old age sounds.

[@V_II_IK_I_IN_G]

I’m 30, no kids, never engaged / married. I’ve spent the last 5 years working on myself, the gym and my career (Covid was a pain though) and became a baptised Christian… I REFUSE to date a women under 30… I want a mature, beautiful, driven Christian women who’s got enough life experience as me to understand what really matters… what value really is… and start a family…. That is the women I will risk all of my hard work for. Not some under 30 women

[@SarahKowalczky1]

I’m 28 years old with morals and manners and unfortunately no one man want a girl like me. Some of them want a woman who give them problems and issues.. what I can do ? Is very difficult for me to find nice man especially in the country where I live.

[@mr.increediblle7964]

@@SarahKowalczky1 This is not true and i hate seeing people talk this nonsense. No man wants problems or issues.

[@SarahKowalczky1]

@@mr.increediblle7964 is fact!

[@siphosamibusumamwape874]

Am 29 soon I will be 30 it’s hard to find a partner of my choice

[@mr.increediblle7964]

@@siphosamibusumamwape874 It is hard to find partners for both genders

[@daniellenothmann7534]

As a 27 year old single pringle, this was something I NEEDED to hear! Preach!

[@jsluva8808]

I really needed to hear this. I'm 31 and I feel the pressure 😭😫🤣

[@nakia4230]

This video makes me feel better. Jsut had a break up while I’m 29. So there is still time to find someone 😊

[@kerstinschiavo2426]

Being over 40 is even harder

[@bradleymaravalli2851]

I am a guy and I personally don't like dating people younger than me due to a difference in maturity.

[@TheLaird123]

I bet you are below 30!!

[@bradleymaravalli2851]

@@TheLaird123 close, about to turn 32

[@heatherjeffrey8997]

Begin your best self, inspite of your age could make a difference thanks Stephan for this video 🙏

[@girlwithnotalent8214]

Thank you for the uplifting conversation for women over 30. You guys are funny, and yea it’s true if you can be your best self, you can be successful in finding a partner.

[@chikamsoodume3601]

I’ve understood that goal in this life is alignment!

[@shintu_monnies]

in my country, they believe 30 is the deadline for marriage for a woman. so, those of us, myself included who aren't married in thirties, we just embrace single-hood for life

[@zah936]

Honestly try to go to a different country. Get married in your 50s if you want

[@NthabisengNgomane]

I needed to hear this😢

[@PassportInspired]

Yes!! I wouldn’t want a man who based his requirements on age being below 30 anyways! Already not a high value man if that’s the only way he’s thinking anyways in my opinion. Next!

[@mass5904]

Cause that's what society pressures men into a provider men have to rich n provide stuff to family if that's expected from a man why would he choose a low value woman to provide he would want someone of high value n higher beauty it's only fair isn't it if he's expected to pay for shit it's his right who's he's going to pay for ?or do you want to say earn the same as a man and give him same respect and be equals?

[@katrinajackson32]

This is amusing to me when people(society) goes by age on some things rather than the reality of whats in front of them. Over 30 more likely to be mature with a fully developed frontal lobe, life experiences and a relationship with God. Ive seen women who walk in their full femininity and every age male in that room is smitten with her from male babies smiling, teens, young and middle aged men to grandads absolutely loving the essence and presence of her. Then age is out the window with the exception of Laws!!! Cause we should abide by the laws.

[@farhanahossain8629]

this takes so much presure off! 💓

[@Justyouraverageguy172]

another thing to keep in mind when dating is if men and women would want to have children or not in the future and find someone who matches that desire and plan for them. A woman in her 50’s would not be able to have children as successfully as a woman in her 20’s and 30’s and that’s a dealbreaker for some men and women. Just something to keep in mind from the perspective of a man who would want to find a woman who loves children and raise them together with me one day.

[@lizb4156]

But the 20s and 30s won't want you though.

[@Justyouraverageguy172]

@@lizb4156true I have been rejected by women who didn’t want me in those age ranges and still now because I am not as wealthy and financially successfully as they would like me to be as that was their first and main priority. That just means those women, who prioritized money and material possessions that anyone has the potential to acquire and have room to grow in, are not fit to be in a life long partnership when those things could disappear at anytime along with them divorcing and prioritizing the feeling of love over true love though commitment and action. However that is why it’s important to look upon the heart, values, faith and morals, character, and actions of the person you are interested in. But those same people who value the material wonder why they can’t find anyone later on in life when they realize there’s more to life than what they valued and placed their trust in the most. It’s so brutal to start building and learning about character being a long term indicator of a successful relationship at the age of 30 or 40 than earlier on in life. A man can have money but be terribly evil, manipulative, unfaithful, and a gaslighter doing a great job of hiding it. That’s why there’s so much “men are this or that when women just value the material only in stead of judging men for their character, and women are manipulative and shallow this or this from men” on the internet.

[@MaggieCano-wu1ek]

That’s not true because a women in her 40s and 50s has the experience of knowing how to raise children so she is most likely to be successful

[@Justyouraverageguy172]

⁠​⁠@@MaggieCano-wu1ekI never said that women can’t raise children successfully in their 40’s and 50’s, but maturity matters most regardless of a woman’s age to raise kids. What I meant originally was that after menopause women aren’t able to conceive children, and it can come early like it did for some unknown reason like my mother at age 40 with abnormally heavy periods right before. My mother had me at age 37. If a man wants children and is family oriented, which I can’t speak for all men as some don’t, and he is with a woman that does not want children, then it’s a dealbreaker from the man’s perspective, especially if she is more career oriented than family oriented the older she is while approaching the age range for menopause.

[@MaggieCano-wu1ek]

Actually it’s been proven that women can still have children at 60 it just depends on the women

[@Honeyluvssteph]

True indeed

[@bas_aisehii]

Lucky are those who find true love in their 30s. All my cousins are getting married even my neices are lined up for marriage. I dont know if i will find anyone

[@AlaaNasinza]

Am also in my 30s have seen gals i grew up with are married but let me be patient God will find me mr right

[@maxmeza4859]

Mid 30’s here. Most attractive girls are half my age. Since I’m not rich, I ain’t gonna get the girl I want.

[@nickykatjiuanjo7958]

True 💯💯

[@jayc5756]

Very True

[@patrickstogsdill74]

I cant seem to be my best self veru often co sidtely enough without suffering

[@waterforgizmo3232]

I’m a 35 year old man who refuses to date women with kids or overweight women Therefore I’ll be single forever

[@giveitatry951]

In my case im not so sure about that: Never been on a date, have zero romantic experience and im male over 30.

[@AlaaNasinza]

Never lose hope my dear,am also in my 30s have never find love of my life

[@awesomeninja9178]

people is im a man in my 30's and my gen the dating life is if you are 13 - 17 you got a gf, 18-20 you propose andad her to marry you, 21-29 wedding day, 30 onways you live with her as she is your wife and i keep trying to get a girl and sadly nothing has worked and i have sadly giving up

[@AlaaNasinza]

Then try your agement girls are there who needs serious relationship

[@awesomeninja9178]

@@AlaaNasinza issue is no girl takes me and im rejected for no reason

[@AlaaNasinza]

@@awesomeninja9178 ok let's try on each other bcoz am also single

[@AlaaNasinza]

@@awesomeninja9178 ohh sorry, but in my country many girls are looking for serious relationship

[@AlaaNasinza]

@@awesomeninja9178 sorry but here in my country girls are looking for serious relationship

[@dinahummels5189]

It's disgusting that it is common accepted knowledge that a 'highly' or even not so highly successful man ALMOST ALWAYS prefers a woman under 30. What's even more disgusting is that it doesn't matter if said man is 70 or 30.

[@josephtoombs305]

It's a man's natural wiring to be more attractive to the younger women. Younger women are more fertile and carry less emotional baggage. A 39 year old woman can get pregnant by a 24 year old young man and y'all call that getting the bag, not disgusting. The hypocrisy is real

[@JJ-vp3bd]

younger is better usually prove us wrong

[@Shukke1992]

There is nothing disgusting about it,women are usually attracted to older,more successful man so let's not be hypocrites.Both have preference.

[@dinahummels5189]

@@josephtoombs305 garbage

[@salhimoussa4930]

​@@josephtoombs305I saw women in their 50s with men in their early 20s and no one said anything like if it's normal, and when a 30 year old man dates a 22 year female It becomes disgusting 😂

[@7Karis]

1:03 😂

[@InspirationOverImitation]

I know Stephen Speaks means well when he gives his enlightened perspective/advice on dating, marriage tips, and relationship dynamics, but his advice is good in perspective, but sets women up for failure in practice. Although there is some truth in what he is saying, it's a reason why men overwhelmingly will choose women who are under 30 vs 30 and over. It's not just because of the drama aspect. Fertility and youth are the other major components on why men prefer women under 30. Also, women who are 30 yrs old and older have more baggage and are stuck in there ways a lot of the times, which in turn makes it hard for them to submit to a man(especially of a high caliber/status) because they are so used to not needing a man/being independent of a man(although you shouldn't get a pat on the back for being a functioning adult/congratulations you're an adult), the task of learning how to depend on a man to be a man and allow themselves to actually ACT LIKE A WOMAN becomes an overbearing task for them to complete. This is why they women end up alone and miserable. I literally watched a tik tok YT breakdown reaction video of a woman who cried on tik tok saying she is 45 yrs old and is about to go into surgery and when the reality set in on her, she cried. She had no man by her side and I think she also had no children. She only had her mom and her sisters. She is one of many examples of women who are stuck in their ways and either think they can do better, think time is on their side, or think she don't need a man at all, or think she is "the boss" because of her financial status and men need to kiss her feet or hit the streets(not letting a man lead because she believes stupidly he and her are equal). Stephen Speaks means well and I know his heart is in the right place but he needs to start giving the entire truth and stop omitting some of the truth so women can wake up and actually see what is really going on. I don't want him to get closer to being like Devon Franklin because that last pandering message he made for women with his Adam and Eve speech really exposed him more than what he realizes because the real traditional women that know God's word know that he what he did was wrong and he is setting women up for failure in relationships for years to come with that sermon.

[@StephanSpeaksClips]

Thanks for sharing your perspective

[@kayjeffs3741]

Well judging by the amount of single mothers and absentee fathers...it can't be about fertility and youth because yall don't do right by the women who are young and fertile. The women who are over 30 were once under 30 and didn't get any better results by being under 30, which is why those women are stuck in their ways. Men age as well and at the same rate as women...its not like women age faster. I notice when men talk about younger women, its never about who she is, her personality or anything. That's how we know this is really about control because a woman in her 30s will see through you.

[@InspirationOverImitation]

@kayjeffs3741 @kayjeffs3741 @kayjeffs3741 I was waiting for some unintelligent keyboard woman warrior to try to come with emotional bs facts(MEANING NOT FACTS BUT AN OPINION YOU "FEEL" IS RIGHT BECAUSE YOU'RE A WOMAN AND THAT'S WHAT Y'ALL DO... GO OFF OF FEELINGS, but let us continue)If you're a single mother and the fathers are absent, it's y'all FREAKIN FAULT. WOMEN ARE THE GATEKEEPERS TO SEX. MEN ARE THE GATEKEEPERS TO RELATIONSHIPS(And since I know you don't have common sense, I'll help you out. A WOMAN IS NOT GOING TO TELL A MAN WE ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP OR RATHER SHE CANNOT AND SHE INSTINCTIVELY KNOWS THIS NOR IS SHE GOING TO GET DOWN ON ONE KNEE AND ASK A MAN TO MARRY HER... THEREFORE... MEN CONTROL RELATIONSHIPS AND WOMEN CONTROL SEX. Also, no real man... the men that you want a long term relationship with... is going to accept that either... so let me clarify that before you come at that dumb azz angle saying men want to be women because y'allsay dumb ish like that but let's continue). If a woman is single mom, majority(meaning more than 50% of the time, but by society standards 70-90% of the time) of the time IT IS HER FREAKIN FAULT. Y'all choose the men you want to lay down with and majority of the time YOU KNOW DAMN WELL THOSE MEN ARE NOT GOOD MEN NOR ARE THEY RELATIONSHIP MATERIAL. Y'ALL GIVE Y'ALL BEST YEARS TO THE DOGS AND THEN EXPECT SUPER SIMP OR BETA MAN TO COME SAVE THE DAY WHEN YOUR BEST YEARS ARE BEHIND YOU. THEN WOMEN LIKE YOU HAVE THE AUDACITY TO SAY MEN ARE THE PROBLEM. WOMEN CONTROL SEX. Y'ALL ARE THE PROBLEM. STOP GIVING SEXUAL ACCESS TO NINJAS THAT AREN'T BOYFRIEND MATERIAL OR HUSBAND MATERIAL. Y'ALL GIVE UP Y'ALL BEST YEARS TO THE POOKIES, RAY RAYS, CHADS, TYRONES, ETC, BUT THEM NINJAS DON'T EVEN SEE A FUTURE WITH YOU. THEY JUST LIKE WHAT'S BEHIND YOU 🍑. AFTER THAT, NOW LOOK AT YOU. YOUR BEST YEARS ARE BEHIND YOU. GOOD MEN ARE NOT CUSTODIAN WORKERS AND DON'T HAVE TIME TO CLEAN UP Y'ALL MESS. And you said men age at the same rate as women. You sound dumb asf and let me tell you why because dumb women like you love to equalize men and women when WE ARE NOT THE SAME DIP 💩! WE NEVER WILL BE. YOUR PEAK IS BETWEEN THE AGES OF 18-26 AFTER THAT, YOUR DECLINING AND EXPIRING LIKE MILK. Can a woman push the clock back and keep up her looks, sure, BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY, KEEPING UP YOUR LOOKS DOESN'T TAKE AWAY FROM YOUR AGE AND BIOLOGY BECAUSE YOUR BIOLOGICAL CLOCK IS TICKING. Once you hit the age 30, MOST OF YOUR EGGS ARE GONE and by that you come WITH MORE BAGGAGE AND TRAUMA THAN THE WOMEN WHO ARE YOUNGER THAN YOU(LET THAT SINK IN INSTEAD OF RESPONDING LIKE A DUMMY SINCE I'M NICE ENOUGH TO GIVE OLD LADIES LIKE YOU GAME). A MAN HITS HIS PEAK AROUND THE AGES OF 30-35 BECAUSE WOMEN VALUE A MAN WHO IS MATURE, FINANCIALLY STABLE, COMPETENT, STRONG, AND IS A LEADER. WE! ARE! NOT! THE! SAME!!! STOP WITH THAT DUMBAZZ FEMALE IDEOLOGY AND FACE REALITY INSTEAD OF LYING TO YOURSELF LIKE YOU'RE RIGHT. LASTLY, YOUR EXPERIENCE AND WHAT YOU SEE IS THE FREAKIN EXCEPTION. IT'S NOT THE RULE. MAJORITY RULES... MEANING... JUST BECAUSE YOU SEE MEN WITH YOUNGER WOMEN AND HE DOESN'T CARE ABOUT HER PERSONALITY DOESN'T MEAN THE MAJORITY OF THE MEN DON'T CARE. FURTHERMORE, WITH ME DESTROYING YOUR STUPID IDEOLOGY, WE DON'T VALUE THE SAME THINGS!!! MEN CARE ABOUT YOUTH, FERTILITY, FEMININITY, AND LESS EXPERIENCE(MEANING NOT A SLUT OR A REFORMED SLUT THAT USES STEPHEN SPEAKS AS A SAVING GRACE AND WORSE OF ALL... USES GOD AS A SAVING GRACE). STOP REACHING LIKE YOU KNOW WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT BECAUSE YOU CLEARLY DON'T AND THE ONLY REASON WHY WOMEN LIKE YOU HATE IT WHEN MEN WANT YOUNGER WOMEN IS BECAUSE YOU DON'T LIKE THE FACT THAT THEY HAVE MORE PROMISE AND MORE OPPORTUNITY THAN YOU OLD WOMEN TO FIND A MAN THEY CAN TRULY BE FULFILLED WITH(IF THEY UNDERSTAND THEIR VALUE AND WORTH... BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY UNDERSTAND WHAT MEN TRULY VALUE INSTEAD OF WHAT THEY "THINK" MEN SHOULD VALUE LIKE WOMEN LIKE YOU WHO TRY TO PUSH THAT BS NARRATIVE). Also, men value purity and a nuturing woman who puts the family first, NOT NO BOSS BABE OR OLD TIRED WOMAN WHO IS STUCK IN HER WAYS NOR A MASCULINE WOMAN WHO DOESN'T UNDERSTAND HER ROLE IS TO BE "SUBMISSIVE" AND LET HER MAN "LEAD". It's not about CONTROL, BUT DUMB WOMEN LIKE YOU WOULDN'T UNDERSTAND THAT. SIDENOTE: WHEN A MAN IS THE LEADER, ISN'T HE SUPPOSED TO BE IN CONTROL??? OH, OK! It doesn't mean his woman can't have an opinion, because he may like her idea better than his, but if he is the leader, HE IS GOING TO MAKE THE RIGHT DECISIONS FOR THE FAMILY AND HE IS GOING TO GET. THE. FINAL. SAY. SO!!! YOU DON'T HAVE MALE PARTS, SO PUT YOUR IMAGINARY MALE PARTS UP AND LET HIM LEAD. *TAKE THIS L*

[@InspirationOverImitation]

@kayjeffs3741 Also, women like you want and expect men to die for you, take you on dates, treat with chivalry, BUT DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO BE A FEMININE WOMAN TO THAT MAN. WHY TF WOULD A MAN WANT TO PAY FOR DATES, HELP YOU OUT FINANCIALLY WHEN YOU NEED IT, PROVIDE FOR YOU, PROTECT YOU, AND LEAD YOU WHEN YOU CAN'T EVEN FOLLOW FREAKINH DIRECTIONS, COOK, CLEAN, DO EXTRA THINGS TO SHOW THAT MAN YOU REALLY WANT HIM, GIVE HIM SEX INSTEAD OF WEAPONIZING IT, AND TREAT HIM LIKE THE MAN YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO LOVE, ADMIRE, AND "RESPECT"(AND MAINLY RESPECT BECAUSE Y'ALL SO CALLED "LOVE" AND 💩 UNLESS THE RESPECT COME FIRST). LET ME GIVE YOU SOME MORE GAME. RESPONSIBILITY WITHOUT AUTHORITY IS FUDGING *SLAVERY*. DON'T NO MAN WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR A WOMAN IF SHE CAN'T LISTEN TO HIM WHEN HE TELLS HER HIS BOUNDARIES AND THE THINGS HE DOESN'T WANT HER TO DO. YOU CAN'T BE IN RELATIONSHIP AND OPERATE LIKE YOU ARE SINGLE AND THAT'S HOW YOU WOMEN OPERATE. GOING TO CLUBS IS SINGLE ACTIVITIES AND ANYTHING SIMILAR TO THAT. Y'ALL WOMEN ARE HOPELESS TO BE HONEST AND WHEN YOU'RE ALONE BY THE TIME YOU REACH 40, THEN YOUR REALITY WILL REALLY HIT HARD. SIDENOTE: SINCE MEN ARE THE GATEKEEPERS TO RELATIONSHIPS, WHEN A WOMAN SAYS SHE IS SINGLE BY CHOICE, IT'S CAP AND IT'S A COPING MECHANISM FOR THE MOST PART. WOMEN ARE NOT SINGLE BY CHOICE BECAUSE IF MR. RIGHT CAME BY TO GIVE YOU A RELATIONSHIP, YOU WOULDN'T TURN IT DOWN. I REST MY CASE. *HOLD THIS OTHER L FOR ME*

[@ingrid5944]

​@@kayjeffs3741Amen!!!! They want a younger woman also because they are easier to control. In general, men don't like women with strong personalities, because they won't put up with the crap they do.

[@Evelyn-lw5kg]

I'm 35 years old and I still hope to find that special person to grow old with 👣❤️‍🩹👫

[@daviddacosta9133]

Im right here

[@mscurvy6922]

It’s not about statics it’s about the individual man and woman .. the connections !