63% Of Men Under 30 Are Single

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[@ikilledthemoon]

Yup. People want to believe a lot of these women that are not single are gay but the truth is I've met many women that are 'gay' or 'lgbt' that are just extraordinarily picky about men. They present masculine as a way to deter men. But if you're 7 foot tall suddenly their only hobbies are cooking and cleaning.

[@TheRahsoft]

you need to look in details into those stats because many women will say they are not single because they are dating( eg many of them are dating the same 5% man thinking he will marry them) or worse they think divorced does not mean single, whereas men will be realistic and consider nothing less than a wedding to mean a marriage.. men are not bothered about being single, but women are because the years of "i don't need a man " now has bad lifelong its all a game by various activists, media talking heads and feminist idealogues

[@anthonynelson4015]

I get why they would date the same men at 34% if those men don't want them and don't think that they are viable options either, it's weird and funny.

[@laidoffjournalist]

Honestly, at this point, women are overrated. Today, we know too much about how modern women operate. The most telling statistic is as follows: 'within the first three months to a year and a half, a woman will get bored, sexually, in a relationship, or marriage. Within the forth to the seventh year, she will be cheating, and/or planning her divorce. This pattern is like clockwork. The only thing that seems to disrupt this pattern is if a man can be lucky enough to marry a religious virgin from a traditional family. In the end, when it gets bad enough that the government desperately needs children to survive, then they will be forced to rush the development of fertilized-human eggs from skin cells, artificial wombs, and DNA CRISPr technology. If that were reality today, I'd already have 10 kids by now. But, I refuse to give my power, my wealth, and my future into the hands of a flaky-western woman. The danger is just too great!

[@decentrik]

Dating Apps cause the most suicide. If you do the research, you will see a common link.

[@dragonmark9092]

A lot of men watch porn as a CONSEQUENCE of being single not a replacement for women. A lot of us, myself included just gave up on dating entirely.

[@sally.g.]

It's a loop. People watch porn because they lack physical intimacy and they lack physical intimacy because they watch porn (which isolate themand give them just enough satisfaction to not persue)

[@Stoogie]

@@sally.g. It is technically more tied to lack of purpose than anything sexual.

[@Coreisus]

@@sally.g. lol. You're wrong

[@Liam-bi6lm]

@@Stoogie are you a troll? Or do you ACTUALLY believe that?

[@bishop51807]

Right, porn is a symptom not a cause. It's like treating a headache with aspirin not realizing that it's a brain tumor.

[@LeeEverett1]

-Women are dating older men. -Women are dating other women. -Many women are prioritizing career over relationships. -Many women have insanely high standards where they only want the top 10%. -Many men are addicted to p0rn and video games to the point they don't even approach or try. -Many men have approach anxiety and zero self esteem to try. -Chads are dating multiple women at once. -Many men have simply given up and stopped trying.

[@tyshaq9286]

yeah, i think you've pretty much covered it all

[@asparrow9876]

21st century dating in a nutshell.

[@binofbread6975]

Spitting facts Lee, wish you lived in Telltale's The Walking Dead. Gonna go watch the end of season 1 and cry again. :(

[@jujuju20121]

Approach anxiety? Why would you approach if the odds of getting turned down is 100% because you are not a Chad?

[@Don-ds3dy]

Something else I'd add is how many tens of millions of women are/were involved in the sex industry, everything from stripping, OnlyFans, p*rn, even prostitution, not to mention all the girls that sleep around with dozens of guys for fun. These women all end up being used, abused, or degraded and no self respecting man is going to introduce such a woman to his parents or start a family with them.

[@Deknis]

I love how every time these stats are brought up, they always makes it sounds like it’s mens fault. They make it seem like we just choose to stay home and whack off.

[@Billy-bc8pk]

Yup. It's always -- "Here's how you need to improve as a man", rather than "Here's what's broken with the system". Basically, the cards are stacked against men, and they have to run an uneven and unfair race just to get scraps.

[@ComeAlongKay]

Yeah that’s society for you. No matter what it’s the dudes fault and the woman is a poor incident victim.

[@Ghostrider-ul7xn]

That's just how modern society works. There's no empathy for men's sufferings and problems. We are basically disposable like napkins. But society will soon realize the folly of their actions. Much of human civilization we see today is built on the shoulders of men, ignore their problems and treat them like shit, they are going to gradually give up leading to the collapse of civilization. Countries like Japan, Korea are already at this stage.

[@amin_baccari]

​@@ComeAlongKayyeah women think they're entitled to us men orbiting them, when they see us happy on our own, in charge of our happiness and life, they go insane, they think we don't deserve peace and quiet in their absence, they think that we must depend on them for happiness and emotional balance, they can't stand the sight of their control being dismantled by strong men choosing to put themselves first. They try to intimidate and shame us, ridicule and label us using all the slurs and slanders to get us to keep chasing them and inflate their ego, they'll call you not manly enough if you don't chase them, I say to them they can screw themselves, they can't just bend the definition of manhood to manipulate us, I don't care about what they say and I don't need the female approval and validation, because I know I'm a man, I don't need their confirmation. Instead of seeing the big elephant in the room, they would always blame men, they want men to chase them yet they get mad when men become uninterested and walk away, if you want a man, go get a man, long gone are the days of the princesses. They must understand that us men, choosing to walk away is a conscious, voluntary and consensual decision, it doesn't indicate a problem or anything, they see it as a problem because they think they're are entitled to relationships, we simply see no gain in that and choose to focus on our own personal life, personal development and cherish our peace of mind and find solace in solitude

[@ap-dh8md]

Yep, she spent the last quarter of the video offering worthless advice which was exactly that.

[@LeeYangDraw]

Being a man in the dating world is like finding a job that requires years of experience when you are just starting out.

[@JohnPickup-CDHS-ze6qd]

That's why you have to fake your resume. Don't be afraid to straight up lie to them about what you do. They're never gonna find out. If they do, just say you got fired and call up the next one. "Research developer" is a good one. "Entrepreneur", "Hedge fund manager", "Contractor", "Operations consultant", any of them are good. Women are dumb

[@iqqyplaysgames]

Ugly man with previous dating experience will do much worse than Chad with zero experience.

[@WilliamSmith-pf8eh]

Being rejected and ignored by women growing up, means we never learn how to date when we get a chance. So we come off as being undateable. The older we get the harder it is to learn how to play the game.

[@bobc9786]

not only that, but think of all the opportunities and support that most women and the popular guys get that the average or below average man doesn't. Much easier to become successful when you are part of the club just because of your genetics.

[@davidengel8900]

I didn't get married until I was past 40 years old. It was like a job interview at some points. Women at that time thought if you hadn't been married or living with a woman by that time, its because you are a loser. But as you get older and the women you are looking for are older, women are much less choosy. So maybe it will get better for you. Women in their 20s and early 30s have lots of men chasing them. Women in their 40s and 50s, not so much.

[@epic1053]

@@davidengel8900 oh boy I can't wait to bag women who are already too old to even give me children.

[@davidengel8900]

@@epic1053 If that is what you are looking for, then age is an issue. But women can have children into their 40s. My wife was 41 years old when

[@davidengel8900]

My wife was 41 years old when we had our daughter. But I think as women get older, they are more open to less than the perfect guy.

[@haroldfarquad6886]

The ugly truth is that many women would rather share a man than settle for someone on level with their own market value.

[@elonmusk7647]

sure buddy whatever helps you cope

[@forzajuve4935]

@@elonmusk7647 Actually the data reflects this man's exact point. Studies done on the primary dating method today (apps like tinder) show that 99% of the women on the apps like the same 1% of the men 🙂 Further studies show that the majority of single men under 30 arent having sex, while the vast majority of women *are* This means that a *minority of single men* are having sex with the *majority of single women*

[@elonmusk7647]

@@forzajuve4935 No not at all. Dating app websites are inaccurate since there are way more men than women there and the men just end up wanting quick sex so women don't wanna be in them. The majority of single men not having sex isn't true, the majority of them aren't in a RELATIONSHIP but I think that's fine since men should be seriously dating in early 30s and women in their late 20s. Remember, my friend. Stats don't lie, but a liar will always use stats.

[@rhanswhansuhn3266]

Father of three boys here, ages 22, 14, 12. I’m lucky enough to have all the time in the world to research and inform my young men. I’m up on it all, and I can hardly tolerate what they’re facing. It’s a very very consuming exercise to steer these young men well in the modern muck. I’m sure it has always been burdensome, but raising young men is a special kind of difficult now. That’s the high level from an informed Dad perspective, Courtney.

[@Siss01101]

U brought those boys to hell bro 💀

[@rhanswhansuhn3266]

@@Siss01101 I know. Seeing that now. Didn’t see it whatsoever when I was making them. Too preoccupied with career and chasing money.

[@samwiseganj]

Hey ma dude, good luck on this journey, I’m sure with your good intent they’ll be okay. Don’t take it personally if now. These times are tough for ,as we can see, A lot of people. If focus on their education, moral code, and importance on family and friends. Hopefully the dating scene clears up in the mean time 🤣 as for the 22 year old. Self compassion is a good start

[@cha0s1999]

We need more daughters not son, living as a man in 21st centrury is hell

[@aaromon43]

38, single, thin, 6'1, house/car are paid off, have a nest egg & plan to retire early. the majority of women that show me any interest are either divorced, already have kids or are overweight/obese. i'd rather stay single, thanks.

[@nodrinkingproblemhere9095]

same here, only 35, 6.4, no bad habits, house, motorcycle, shitty car and 80k mortgage left. Train wrecks I dated last year, oh boy. Let's just say I deeply regret that I ended my previous long term relationships that became stale, mostly through my own fault. You are spot on with either obese or single moms mainly available and willing to date at my age group. It is either that or trying my luck with 20 somethings. I already feel too old for that.

[@robinrising1834]

If you think the competition for a woman is harsh, competition for an equal partner is more high stakes than a million dollar deal. 5'11, talk about millions every day, million dollar plus value, vet, multiple languages, multiple degrees. Dated 1 person who was near an equal, the rest are basically young and average attractive for the non obese subset of the population. No jobs, maybe a college degree, maybe works out twice a week.

[@CarlemEllis]

😂😂😂

[@JinKee]

We did it boys. We went our own way.

[@Shah-of-the-Shinebox]

Yup. That pisses off women badly.

[@Zalifaxone]

The juice isn’t worth the squeeze.

[@d_pratik1]

I'm not even sad or feeling sorry for anyone. Hope the men who are single grow and thrive in their lives. God Bless my brothers

[@chairedf14]

😂

[@SubvertTheState]

I just work 7 days a week. Buy gold, silver and Magic: The Gathering cards for that one day a month i invite the boys over to play. I just can't stand that 1/3 of my work goes to the government. Also i love how "Experts blame online pron" haha. Ofcourse.

[@mll11730]

This is by far the biggest problem of our generation that gets zero attention. Young men are just checking out of society and doing the minimum to get by, and young women are somehow getting unhappier every generation despite all of their advancements and achievements. The more research I do about this subject, the more I side with the importance of biological differences and gender roles.

[@TomFox1]

Because woman should less work, make a family, not a check or chase a job achievement. Make kids. Men provide

[@arcticwolf8313]

Well, of course young men are checking out. Society tells men how unimportant they are constantly. Outside of reproduction men can take care of themselves and don't need to carry the weight of society to have a happy, fulfilling life.

[@shaun5047]

Not sure what you mean by doing the bare minimum but I think alot of men check out because of how society constantly bashes men. It someone constantly demonizes you for everything then you’re going eventually say peace out.

[@keithgraham9547]

With individual exceptions, women simply cannot function together. Let's be honest, there is huge job discrimination against men, as well as socially. You may have experienced first-hand women being unable to work together, and it carries over into being vicious with the men with whom they work. If you haven't seen it first-hand, there are any number of stories you can find. Or look up the story about an all-female company and how the women acted. I didn't use to believe this, but I believe the majority of at least younger women are mentally ill, and that phone in their hand activates and increases their illness. This is going to sound goofy until you think about it, but do you understand how different the world would be if women couldn't vote? BTW, I'm married to a great woman who is great in every way. But as a whole, women literally seem intent on destroying everything they can.

[@philbrutsche8928]

@@keithgraham9547 I actually think it's very simple: a lot of women have this need for drama and can be drama queens at any age.

[@RipleyEll]

Date, get a girl pregnant, have half your life stolen in court, get falsely accused of being abusive, have no power to stop any of it. Thats where dating leads, men have caught on

[@thundlur7289]

Yeah that’s the truth. Staying single is better. But some people just can’t accept it.

[@themoonbleu627]

Hold yourself accountable for once

[@watersnortmoment3734]

@themoonbleu627 You don’t understand what that word means. There’s nothing to be accountable about here. Marriage specifically is a raw deal for men in the modern day, you’d be an idiot to get married, ignoring how easily that decision can steam roll your life. The people that got fleeced in divorce court are the ones that need to be held accountable, since they willingly signed a contract that rewards the other party for breaking it. If you knew, you were signing a contract that gives the other party half of your entire life’s work for breaking it, knowing there’s a 40-50% chance of them breaking the contract, you’d genuinely have to be a moron to sign it. There’s no accountability to be had in just not getting married or not even getting in a relationship for that matter because there’s nothing to complain about other than the broken system. Please learn how to use words before you just send it.

[@Lonaticus]

Don't you love fourth wave feminism?

[@leonniceday6807]

or just have vasectomy first?

[@austinknows456]

Over the span of a year i approached around 80-90 women at bars, the store, the beach, restaurants, and i got rejected by all of them. I got 4 numbers and got ghosted by all of them. There’s no point in pursuing something that doesn’t want to be pursued lol.

[@APiccolo]

I have to tell you I have a similar experience in a way. I probably approached about the same number of people and got way more numbers (probably in the order of 20), but I don't think I ever converted more than 2 or 3 of these numbers to a conversation that lasted for more than 2 messages; I converted only one to a one night stand. Now, I'm a guy who's coming from the bottom and I'm really trying my best here, and I guess things are improving. I consider myself to be a fighter and very determined, but that's all I'm getting. I can only imagine and be sorry for the other guys who don't have an above average determination. I have a couple of friends who evidently just stopped trying completely. It's really a tragic moment to be trying to date someone

[@FiredtoFreedom]

How would you rate yourself in terms of attractiveness? I’m well to do and consider myself decently attractive and fit and I can tell you it’s not good out there in the US

[@hasiebambina8089]

How many women did you approach that were in your league? whatever men think, they normally overestimate their physical attractiveness, especially when they're very ugly. And guess what, if you approach as a 5 a 9, you won't score. So have you honestly approached women in your league? Most men aren't physically Sexy because due to mysogyne society they never had to just be stronger. Therfore there are more better looking women than men, therfore there is no incentive for women to date down unless you offer commitment - that's what most men never offer. Had 24.000 matches, the 1% conversion rate in sales is higher than in dating. Maybe 2.4 man that have a job, no kids and want to settle down out of 24.000. I'm so happy I'm engaged now and don't have to date men anymore.... Just horrible. Ah BTW he's 8 years younger, brought me roses on the first date (but still does), but he comes from a very old fashioned Muslim family - so he never pushed for SEX but was looking to marry. And he earns less money than me, is not highly educated, I earned 100k before my 30s in IT and I never bothered about pursuing an academic man because I knew they only date stupid trophy wife's. So I knew I always had to date down in money and education - for me was most important being treated respectfully, having good sex with one man exclusively from the beginning, not having to beg for commitment and me and him want to create a Family out of love and never wanna risk a divorce - We value loyalty

[@DavidTodor]

Hey Courtney, my wife cheated with many guys and left me and the kids. I have my own business, educated, very fit, and since the separation, my job has taken secondary priority and I am constantly outdoors camping / activities with the kids and I put in a lot of time to raise them with very little screen time. I dress well, outgoing and maintain great relationships, and despite all of these things, getting dates is nearly impossible. When women hear that I have kids, they instantly shut down all efforts. Im just taking the time to enjoy life and raise my kids properly.

[@georgedang449]

Join the Passport Bros and fetch a young, virgin wife from Vietnam or Philippines. No, it's not improper. You're not a pump and dump player, you're able and willing to be a provider. There's demand for you overseas, and it's not wrong for you to meet it. Dating market these days is global. Get with the times.

[@music-jj2pl]

You're living the life. A family yet no wife to nag, second guess you, and give you those little put downs that eat away at your soul. Enjoy your family.

[@michaelrodriguez3329]

Proud of you . Wishing you the very best

[@Evenmixer]

​@georgedang449 I have a lot of doubt with passports bros because it's obvious that in less wealthy countries, women are more likely to do everything to go with the guy. If you take a really beautiful women and bring back to your country, there's no guarantee that she'll stay with you. Hypergamy hits every woman, it doesn't matter what country she's from

[@TomFox1]

Honestly you living the life even with kids.🙏 u don’t need her, she a h

[@tankthepitbull520]

This is one of the first times I’ve heard a woman sound truly empathetic towards mens issues, this is remarkable.

[@2aenthusiastshallnotbeinfr273]

Yeah I know! And I can't blame her, she's a nice descent woman who's getting caught in the crossfire. She's feeling the heat, IF she's married maybe she's worried too and concern for other women that this thing is happening and it's getting worse.

[@randomdude2263]

Careful gents Chameleons adapt.

[@bupoe4796]

"This is remarkable."..... More like "this shit is fake!"

[@2aenthusiastshallnotbeinfr273]

@@bupoe4796 well I don't think so! What I'm seeing here is that she looks conservative or little bit traditional woman to me. The way she dress is Casual and Descent like what I'm seeing on other places Because IF She's not she would be dressing differently perhaps displaying her ass, boobies and legs. But I don't see any of that like what I'm seeing from some TikTok and KZbin Feminist channels. I mean she sounds conservative woman And the way she talks too. Bro not all women are bad, some or a few of them are Descent and Nice Women who's getting caught in the crossfire. Some of them are ending up with an Alpha Male asshole bad guy that they thought he was a nice guy. I mean not all women wants an asshole and bad guys, would she wants to be treated like a Bit¢H and a POS? Or be treated like a Queen? So I'm glad that this woman is addressing the problems and other issues about Feminism. So IF this woman is addressing the problems that means she is against the Evil Feminism that ruined a lot of women's lives that means she's on our side, she's fighting for us. She wants to help.

[@nicolaschaput338]

Its all fake, she make her money by acting this way, women are incapable of thinking about something else than themselves...

[@Zelly2001]

Even if you manage to get a girl, she secretly has a boyfriend. It’s so sad to see how normalized cheating is too.

[@jaredbardell7431]

Or has about 10 dudes blowing up her DM's that she responds to, it's seen as normal. It's sad being loyal is a rare trait.

[@elonmusk7647]

even tho men cheat more...

[@Ultimusvivi]

​@@elonmusk7647it really depends on what income bracket you're looking at. The less money a man makes the less likely he is to cheat and the more likely his wife will cheat. The more money a man earns the more likely he is to cheat and the less likely the wife will.

[@zanekersting9809]

@@elonmusk7647even tho woman play games more

[@lukas8708]

@@elonmusk7647 who hurt you?

[@DavidVelasquez9]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it

[@Kurt5Dobson]

there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@DavidVelasquez9]

@@Kurt5Dobson its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

[@Kurt5Dobson]

@@DavidVelasquez9 this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.

[@NeilHaskins]

Congratulations. I wish you all the best going forward.

[@navinsingh5819]

Don't scammers.

[@rainyriderr1112]

Women have raised their standards to a point where few men under 30 can achieve, which is why only 37% of women under 30 are single. Women in their 20s will date men in their 30s

[@CourtneyRyan]

Also true! Such a good point, thank you for sharing.

[@joaquin67]

And they're also either dating other women, they think that they're in a monogamous relationship while the guy is probably dating multiple women (all whom claim to not be single), and some women are straight up just lying as to appear more like presentable or something idk

[@IronmanV5]

They'll date men in their 30's AND 40's. Ones for whom those 2x year olds are just flings.

[@runningoutoftime7065]

People are forgetting the fact more women are dating women as well; women have more sexual and financial opportunities and very much compete with the average man

[@BLdontM]

Another contributing factor is most women would rather share a high status guy than be monogamous with a normal guy. If asked, most women would never admit it, but the numbers show it.

[@e.runxthis]

"Women are dating the same men" - that is all you need to grab from this video to understand the issue.

[@ricardodelacrvz1400]

if multiple women are dating the same men it doesnt mean they arent single. they are dating older men or straight lying. this is completly wrong data, women have reached peak single status in 2023 and will continued to do it in a 3% increase annually.

[@plau2007]

​@@ricardodelacrvz1400 Could be they are lying. But in 20-30 their are o lot of women. So lying I don't think is the answer. Historically 80% if women passed in thier genes and 40% of men. For example for 100 women that finish college their are 74 women. So 25% of women that finish college now in 20 years will be childless or single. And in several years for every 2 women with a college degree will be 1 man with college degree.

[@Siegfried5846]

Not necessarily. It has to do with the reverse demographic pyramid and lack of regulation to even out the dating market. There just aren't enough women out there.

[@e.runxthis]

@@Siegfried5846 not enough quality women to go around I agree.

[@Siegfried5846]

@@e.runxthis Not enough women at all. When you consider that women date up in age but not down, there isn't even a woman for every man.

[@RayadayaG]

EX broke up with me after 5-6 years because she wanted to be polyamorous. For a year after that, I was living alone with our 2 children (3 and 5 YO) and was struggling hard. Its been a little more than a year, and im still scarred from it, asking myself "why I wasnt enough" and "How could I let this happen" When I dont even know if I was fully to blame. Right now Im trying to pick up the pieces, and find someone new, but this dating landscape just leaves me feeling more useless than ever, when I can go months on end without even a single match. I just want one chance to prove to someone I can be loving to them.

[@bplayerr1]

Brother Im so sorry you are going through this. I cant provide an opinion on whether you were enough or not. But the stats would indicate it was her not you. Your case is paet of this new wave of women that dont love nor value their husbands and kids, wreck their homes to chase Chads. Stay strong for the kids ❤️✊️

[@bplayerr1]

PS: many other comments expericencing your same situation.

[@involuntarilychad4048]

My god you are in almost the exact same boat as my friend. The timescales and the ages of his two children are almost the same as yours. He went all in raising a family, while his wife went all out partying and sleeping around.

[@RayadayaG]

@@involuntarilychad4048 Thank you, yeah it actually feels more comforting knowing I;m not the only one out there that goes through this for sure.

[@victorrosales7565]

Delete that app man it’s ruining men’s mental help you have a better chance finding someone at work or just everyday life

[@mrnelsonius5631]

I was married to a woman with 2 children from a previous marriage. I adored them. I loved being married. She was extremely physically abusive and wouldn’t get help. So I left for good. She then went online, after my employer, my friends and family and told them I was abusive. A complete lie. The entire reason she felt comfortable beating me repeatedly is because I’d never strike back at a woman and she knew it. Her lies caused bigger problems than they should’ve. I can’t imagine ever even dating again after this experience. I miss my step kids but not being in a relationship. At all. I didn’t realize how much I had given up until I got it back. I’m enjoying taking care of me for a change. For years I took care of a woman 24/7, in every conceivable way all of the time. I got hell in return. Fool me once…

[@Fallensky17]

Jesus. That’s learning to avoid single mothers and the mentally ill the hard way… sorry to hear that man.

[@mrnelsonius5631]

@@Fallensky17 there’s plenty of great single moms out there for sure. It’s just as likely that they were done dirty. My side of this is that I really know how to pick them 🙃

[@ViPER5RT10]

I’m an average 5ft 9in man with a 9-5 warehouse job who lives a quiet life. I don’t go out to parties, don’t go clubbing, don’t go to movies, don’t eat out, etc. These things combined means I am unattractive to almost every modern woman out there. 🤷

[@BB-te8tc]

"Just be yourself" "No, not like that."

[@nathanlaing8441]

How dare you have values and self-awareness/respect!

[@innocentrage1]

Unless you are finding girls on tender you are never gonna meet anyone never getting out of the house.

[@crazyzombie9720]

@badofi True. I’ve been told that before.

[@malibu3602]

​@badofi What you mean?

[@212th]

24 year old here from the UK My problem is, most girls my age DONT turn up to dates WE organised. It's extremely rude and shows no self responsibility. Often times I don't even get a reason or any apology. It hurts, and I'm slowly giving up on dating

[@rjflores438]

Im from the UK and I think dating English girls is much harder than most other nationalities, and I am English. They tend to be way more status orientated, either that or only date in their social scene or social class, this is definately true of posh English girls.

[@michaelbloomer451]

UK too and I'm fully done with dating here. My life is happier focused on literally anything else in my life than the impossible task of women here I honestly hope if you do stay involved with it that things turn around, but I more hope you find contentment overall in life, with or without dating

[@user-ue1ji4du2q]

@@michaelbloomer451 34 UK too, I'm done. Feel like I'd be better off without romantic feelings or sexual urges to be honest, they have frankly only caused pain and mental illness.

[@jonathanritco9861]

This literally happened to me the other day when I tried to attempt to date again. I’m from canada, 33 so it’s the same here. Everything was planned by myself she just had to show up. But couldn’t.

[@Han-nk3io]

Because they can always date another man and most of the time women dont even need to pay for dates duh.

[@ghostofsparta1242]

The other thing is that men do not want to deal with the government stains In marriages. Like child support , family courts, losing half of your income, losing your business, losing your kids, losing your assets and house. Younger men see all that happen to their friends and fathers and it’s really stressful to deal with. It’s a big risk with little reward, and men don’t want to deal with that anymore.

[@GregoryM1]

My point of view among the many: 1. The last 2 times I approached a woman at work, I got into trouble with HR 2. The leaders at my church made it clear to not approach women. 3. Men who make a decent living but are not a gigachad tend to be absolutely invisible. Why should I bother dating when this is how it works?

[@bikwah90]

Something I think is a huge contributor as well is that men are now being told to *leave* *women* *alone* Don't approach. Don't even look. Not even accidentally. The rise of men being called out on camera for even glancing sends a powerful message.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Very true

[@mikecicero6177]

You actually have a really good point.

[@mohamedharris4325]

true brother because today there is no difference between creep and gentlemen for most of the western women's perspective. most of the western women thinks if he look good he is not a creep but if he is not attractive then he is a creep. the problem is this western delusional problems also taking over on eastern women slowly and i can realize it by living on the both sides.

[@OriginalTodzilla]

Oh you can totally approach women! You just have to be a 5% giga chad. If you are not, you are labeled a weird, creepy stalker. I may not be good at math, but MOST men dont fall in that 5% category.

[@Shah-of-the-Shinebox]

Those women who tell men to "leave them alone" also get mad when we do just that, and then it becomes our fault.

[@LargeGamer1]

I’m a 23 year old guy. I’ve honestly just stopped caring. I’ve tried tinder and all these apps and it’s never gone anywhere. I have a lot of guy friends and the vast majority of them are also single. Here’s the thing though: you gotta find happiness in your life. So many people (including my friends) get hung up on the mindset of “oh if only I was in a relationship my life would be so much better” when that’s not really the case. I personally don’t let it bother me. I stay positive and live my life to it’s fullest and hey, if I meet someone someday, that’s just a bonus 😎

[@Dany-gf9zu]

you got the right mindset!

[@originalmartin3682]

Amen to that! You are completely right. Only when you marry the right and honest woman your life can get some bonus but they are very rare. In all other cases (with most women) you will have a lot more trouble in your life. Be happy with your friends, that is a good life

[@musashiwebb]

I agree with what you've said. It is not all doom and gloom. The culture today shall not be able to maintain itself as it is for too long. The debauchery shall come to an end. It may be 5-15years, but it will end. And during that time, the men who choose to do the work now to put themselves in a position of leverage/advantage by then shall be rewarded. It's the long game that matters most. Optimal strategy for anything in life requires sacrifice. Some are cut out for the process. Some are cut out by the process. Best of luck to you on your Journey in Life.

[@kenl3805]

"Life can only get better, all you need to do is fall in love!" - Dead Kennedys

[@robertatkinson1347]

Well said!

[@chris_electrician]

I'm 25 and I'm going to stay single forever. The more money I make the more I want to be single.

[@Biaggiotti]

My opinion is that life itself has changed enormously in the last 10 or so years. The amount of information you have to deal with on a daily basis is absurd. An endless stream of e-mails, telephone calls, meetings, social media and so on. This takes a lot of my energy away. During my spare time I like to recharge by doing fun stuff with my friends, working out and enjoying my hobbies. The little amount of time left is so valuable to me that I would never consider sharing this.

[@crazyzombie9720]

63%. I’m one of them. I don’t even try to look for a date.

[@jaxonwoods8181]

Same. Stopped long ago.

[@navinsingh5819]

Well what else are we expected to do.

[@MintyLombax]

As a man, I have felt entirely disposable my whole life by women when it comes to dating. If I do not constantly appeal to women, if I do not constantly reaffirm that I was the right choice, then I am tossed aside like a used tissue for someone who will continue this process of constantly appealing and pleasing women. Dating has felt like a job application with little to no reciprocity. I am 31 years old and still single. Dating today is pretty awful but it generally always has been for me.

[@TywinLannister0]

have you ever had sex with a women?

[@gordongekko2781]

If it makes you feel any better, I'm sure the next guys in line had the same experience with your ex's. Once I figured out that women are never satisfied with anything, then I quit trying to please them. Free yourself from that burden. It's not your responsibility to make someone else happy.

[@pap4539]

ironically enough if you're constantly just trying to please women, then you come off super unattractive. I'd always heard people say exactly what I just said, and never fully understood it until it happened to me. I was on a second date with this girl who I was honestly just giving a chance to, and she was very nice, absolute sweetheart of a gal, but not very attractive. on said second date, she stared into my soul and said "I really like you, you know that?" That burned it for me, but I finally had a reference point for what people meant when they said things like "you can't try too hard" "you have to be indifferent" "you have to be interested but not too interested." etc etc etc. You can't, and you'd shouldn't care much about what women think. that changes to some degree in a long term relationship, but only so much. You'll still lose it if you're just doing every single thing she wants you to do, you never speak your mind, or you never stand up for yourself, or you never disagree with her. All these things and your endless desire to please her makes her lose a lot of respect for you. No one wants someone around who is only trying to please them. its super needy and weird, regardless of romantic connection. its also not useful... if all someone is doing is validating your every move and word (even when you're wrong) then they only serve to inflate your ego when you're correct, not give you ideas about better options, plans of action etc.

[@4Leka]

I've literally had a girl tell me that relationships are work. My response was and will forever be that it dating you feels like work, I'm out. I'm not interested in a second job, I'm much better off enjoying my free time alone than not having any with someone else.

[@thereisnosanctuary6184]

@@pap4539 Applebee's?

[@user-ui5se5bl1f]

My grandparents were married till my grandfather passed away at 88. They could not stand each other and my grandmother yelled at him constantly. Rarely a moment of peace when we were around them. Don't even get me started on my extended family's dysfunctional marriages. That is the alternate to being single.

[@michaelthomas1916]

I'm not a younger man. I just turned 46. The numbers aren't remarkably better for us middle aged guys either, at least not in my social circle. Of me and my six closest guy friends, 3 out of 7 of us are perpetual bachelors, so 42% singles. There's an anecdote for ya.

[@caseyjones3522]

Millennial here, um....things aren't looking good as far as I can see. Neighbors married less than 2 years on the brink of divorce. Another neighbor the same. Another neighbor the same. I know another couple that seems to be holding it down. Ratio is 3/1 you're getting a divorce. It's not good odds.

[@BAR-ct7ti]

True. The consensus is that somehow when you hit 40 as a man, the market opens up for you. This is completely false.

[@markypinto]

Men's struggles are invisible. We can't even speak of our struggles. We are quickly told to shut up, that women are oppressed, we are the cause and we have no right to complain. We are invisible. We are tired.

[@kapsi]

And yet you never shut up

[@robertdillon5331]

CRP Archive's Men are Tired has plenty to say about men being tired

[@bethanyboarder7751]

yeah and i noticed that at one point and everyone thinks I'm crazy or "a pick me girl" or whatever. my therapist even told me to stop observing the incel forum. like bruh i did it to see what they think its not like i intended for those guys to lowkey make sense. i send my heart out to all of you I'm so sorry. 😭😭

[@noobsmoke79]

Well said. Very well said - I would give you an award if this was a Reddit post. Current pop culture and MSM make it seem as if western women are living under Iranian Sharia law and every man is a patriarchal rapist out to SA every woman in his field of view (ex Barbie movie). And any person that questions or criticizes this narrative is painted by the main stream as being Adolf Hitler reincarnated.

[@apontutul]

Remain invisible. Work on yourself. Your value will automatically grow and show

[@christophergriffith3420]

No woman on Earth will EVER experience true, utter, and complete loneliness, hopelessness, and invisibility and the subsequent apathy that come along with it. There will ALWAYS be someone to give them attention. True loneliness (i.e, no DMs, no test messages, no phone calls, no dates, no friends, no one calling to see if you're even breathing) is a uniquely male experience and always will be.

[@BAR-ct7ti]

Powerful stuff

[@EmergencyChannel]

That's my life, If I had a heart attack rn, nobody would care or find my body until my rent went past due.

[@SeniorAdrian]

it does happen to women too, but not so much as to men.

[@Vortex_ICEcold]

Yea but when those women realize that attention is for a quick booty call then they hop on tik tok and ramble how men are degenerates. So you are wrong. This is both genders problems.

[@elonmusk7647]

You send immensely naive to think having a relationship means your life is better

[@Wings551]

Honestly, got cheated on way too many times. Women are tipically not trustworthy nowadays. Gave up on em

[@philipweismiller5135]

They keep blaming every BUT the real reason men have checked out of the dating market. Because it CANNOT be becasue of women.

[@sally.g.]

I'll share my point of view: It's not just romantic relationships that are on decline and have been for the past few years; its relationships in general. Like friendships or family relationships. There is a lot of studies that confirm that... The decline of human relationships has corresponded with the rise of social media. People have started seeing each others as easily replaceable and have just recently starting realising how damaging such mindset actually is.

[@miguels.b.2749]

Hello, I completely agree with your statement. I'm currently working on an article for a Spanish speaking publication... Could you please provide more info on the studies you mentioned? Thanks

[@ChocolateMilk..]

Also take into account that more and more people are aware of narcissism and psychopathy now then ever before, and many choose to end such relationships in this time, whether it's romantic or friendship.

[@curtcodein6486]

​@@miguels.b.2749THANK YOU I ALWAYS FELT THIS IS THE BEGINNING OF THE END I SAID NEVER WILL I MESS WITH ANTI SOCIAL CRAP MEDIA SINCE HIGHSCHOOL 07 FACEPOP LAUNCH AND I ONLY BEEN ON YT AND WHATSAPP I AM PROUD OF MYSELF BUT SAD THAT WE HAVE TO LIVE WITH INTERNET DAMAGED FEMALES NOW ITS TRAGIC

[@eugeniosarrailh5169]

Completely agree with this statement. Also, if you watch Courtney videos, you could easily apply her suggestions to relationships in general. We are being alienated , and no one is realizing this.

[@parker9012]

Underrated comment! True!!

[@Skidzzz222]

63%. Can't wait to see what it is in another 5 years or so. Stay strong gentlemen. Being single is the best option for men today. For those that risk it, we'll be here after you've been emotionally, mentally and financially wrecked.

[@inconnu4961]

For some of us, we didnt choose single-hood! single-hood chose us! LOL

[@martinbenes6086]

@@inconnu4961 that’s on point, what a mess we got

[@Jan-kw1qr]

Rather pessimistic

[@flowerpower7065]

Yikes

[@jayfasf6828]

Best options? Fk no lmao I crave intimacy and sex something I've never had in my life

[@timberrecycling]

Really appreciate your channel and style of presentation!! Very few content creators are trying to understand and bridge the gap between the sexes instead of leaning into toxic advice and encouraging games. Whether it's tiktok queens or red pill alphas spewing their sociopathies, hearing a balanced take focused on both genders being their best selves and meeting each other halfway is super refreshing, especially in these days. We all need to heal and be better because life itself is traumatic anymore, so thank you for putting your energy and thoughts into the world. Men AND women need to hear more of this kind of advice.

[@user-li2we1mq9n]

Hey young guys. Tables turn as you get older… I’m 59. Stay in shape, work on yourself and your mission. So much fun to show up at social events with my old friends… with a date 20 years younger…

[@CaptainHanneman]

It’s rare to see a woman actually acknowledge that women share men. It is a huge problem that everybody pretends doesn’t exist. Thank you

[@pycubs1]

Thank You. They keep sharing and always date up

[@michaeljeffery7466]

Lol

[@burntoburn42]

I think the women engaging in it play psychological games with themselves to avoid discovering all the other women. They're all masters of sniffing out real infidelity, and I don't think they can casually accept it without some pain.

[@greyfox4838]

I don't agree. Some women do share men, but it's such a minority case that it can't explain a 30 to 60% difference. I think the real reason for this disparity is because women date older, they date guys with security, high paying jobs and their own house, which isn't possible at 30. So a lot of 20 something women are with 30 something guys, and most 20 something guys have no one to date because women in their 30s don't want them either. They also can't be dating girls younger than them obviously (age of consent), which overall I think does a great job explaining why so many young men are single when young women aren't. Most of these guys are gonna reach their 30s and suddenly find an influx of women in their 20s wanting to be with them. The old school mindset that men are the providers plus the current state of the economy is to blame. Young people can't even afford a house and unlike women, men can't just marry into owning a nice house in the suburbs.

[@Chaoscthulu13]

@@greyfox4838if young women were dating older men as much as the stats say then the rates for single men above 30 wouldn’t be as high as it is. A lot of women are sharing rich and good looking young and older men

[@ivorbigun20]

Honestly i think the big thing most people skip on this topic is just how bad the situation is from an average guy's POV. Im improving myself not so that high quality women will date me, I'm working out, eating right, avoiding porn, avoiding sugar and alcohol working on my career, working on my mental health and maintaining good friendships in the hopes that one day i'll be worth TALKING to. The bar to get an average girls attention is so high that it requires years of consistent dieting an exercise before you can do anything that will matter, and those years of hard work are spent alone. I like you channel Courtney, and i respect the work that goes into your videos. But I'm still a couple years away from being able to apply most of your advice, because most of your advice assumes that women are willing to have a conversation or date you to begin with. The truth of the matter is that for most of us, that isn't the case. Even meeting people in real life doesn't eliminate the fact we are directly competing with dating apps. When you take into account how long and hard just the average man has to work on himself to be noticed it kind of brings the suicide statistics into sharp focus. Not everyone on my path will come out the other side.

[@BB-te8tc]

Exactly this. Exactly what we mean about being invisible. We don't even get the opportunity to be rejected.

[@ScottRadkeMusic]

I appreciate you writing this….. and I believe that many other men share this same experience 🙌🏽

[@SerasXHarkonnen]

Yeah and if you're below average you can kiss your chances goodbye.

[@jtvice1862]

Sigh, that's just the beginning. You're going to have to sift through the hoard of single mothers and their little chadlings. Then, determine if she is honorable ( which is rare). Which is like playing minesweeper on max difficulty. Out of the 1000 women i have known, only 3 were worth marrying. Of course, they had better options, and I am happy for them. I have found options, but they were not honorable. Pray and think long and hard before you make the choice.

[@Zestleysnipes2939]

Bro societies used to be conquered. After the men were kill what were the females supposed to do…. Fight the conquerors that beat the men… no offer their womb for life. A mans life sucks unless he make it worthy of living. You going the right way.. relax and stay the course!!

[@danielhausbeck9976]

I’m forced to give up on dating entirely. I’m currently 32 years old. And I asked out 20K plus women over the past 22 years. I got rejected every single time. Time to give up.

[@oliverranderson9292]

The problem is that both womens and men's standard have increased too much over the last decade, while a lack of social connections has also declined, meaning that the partner now has to be, a best friend, meet all sexual needs, therapist, and care giver and works a job that meets the other partners standards. This is compounded by social media saying that there is always someone else for you and your perfect the way you are. Being with someone who genuinely just cares about you should be enough, and if issues occur in a relationship then they should be worked on

[@universal3024]

Just goes to show that it’s 100 times easier for women to get sex, dates relationships with practically no effort than it is for men to get dates with all the correct effort ..

[@iancavon7125]

But the point is, men can NEVER do "everything right", actually the less handsome they are the less they can do right by default. And even if some could come close -- in the end there's always a bigger fish in the pond. A fish called Chad.

[@bethanyboarder7751]

@@iancavon7125 i send my condolences, keep your head up, king. 🙏🏻

[@jasonisjasondoes]

Facts. Don’t let them tell push you down to the level they want the high quality men to be at, so they can get control.

[@OGGuaves]

Man that's the reason why we gotta fight and become the man that women want to be with

[@user-uq3gd7dp9q]

Women don't need sex, just an emotional experience that comes with it. And most men don't offer us this emotional experience, just a dull physical interaction. But you guys say it like we should be grateful for your desire of making us something like toilets for your needs.. Not interesting!

[@StereoAnthony]

Happily single at 45. I've been trying for 25 years now to have a lasting relationship, but I've given up. I'm not putting anymore energy into anything that doesn't yield positive results. If it happens it happens. Also, that colour green looks great on you Courtney!

[@gordongekko2781]

Freedom from the dating rat race! I'm embarrassed to admit that I probably spent a couple hundred hours on dating apps in recent years -- what a colossal waste of time!

[@michaelmcguire3997]

Hi I'm 44 from Ireland. Dated women and had on on off relationships. Marriage and family just isn't suitable for me but I don't have any regret. Yes women today are very discerning about their partners and future husband. Middle class women with a university degree and masters degree or PhD will not normally have a child first and then marry. Charles Murray in his book coming apart about the working class and middle class from 1960 to 2010 has noted this trend. Well done to women for their success and achievement it should have always been this way. But your average hard working guy doesn't appeal to most women today. But at the moment in Ireland a large number of Ukrainian women have arrived and qualities that are seen as unappealing to modern Western women seem to be important to these women. Many decent hard working blue collar men who are highly skilled and practical are finding these Ukrainian women more desirable and approachable than Irish and western European women. Very interesting scenario. Courtney is a really good dating coach who is very in tune and aware of the current dating and relationship trends. ❤️👌

[@jujuju20121]

But still a simp 😂

[@michaellamont2605]

Rare

[@CynthiaAlorney-kh8hq]

Am single for 6 years now no boyfriend or any one am looking for a serious man white

[@Maverick33]

For me, I've given up dating entirely. I only interact out of necessity. I decided to put all my focus on racing. I'd rather watch a NASCAR race than go on a date. I'd rather be behind the wheel of a race car testing/qualifying/racing than in bed with a woman. Racing is where I feel the happiest and fulfilled. I'm not giving that up. At least in racing, your achievements actually mean something. You actually get rewarded for your efforts and hard work.

[@ryannishikawa1356]

Most of my personal experiences tend to defy these trends. Most of my closest female friendships are with women who are either socially conservative or have extremely low self-esteem; this means they prioritize long-term relationships, tend to latch unto the first man willing to commit, and stay with him despite feeling unhappy, being dissatisfied or having compatibility issues. They quickly view them as family and stick with them the same way one might tolerate a toxic parent/cousin/etc. However, this year I tried to venture out of my little bubble to try and meet new people; it was a culture shock that left me feeling very disheartened. I struggle to relate to my peers and I don't like that; however, I also don't want to engage with their practices either. I'm blessed to have very close friendships but anything beyond that is a world beyond the limits of my patience. I identify as very socially progressive but I also identify with the struggles of modern men; this disconnect is very isolating and it's hard to connect with others. Socially progressive circles tend to avoid these conversations, so despite my values aligning with theirs, I just can't connect with them.

[@davidbarr49]

I frequently hear people cite porn as a cause of men's isolation. The reality is that porn is not a cause, it's a symptom. Treat the cause and the symptom will go away.

[@Walkingadversity]

Amen

[@dnjdsolarus]

fax

[@rossdaveni9718]

Porn is a symptom not a cause. Men wouldn't watch porn if getting dates or even any kind of female attention was possible. The main cause is simply that average women are not interested in average men.

[@kre8noys]

32 and single here. The peace is overwhelming.

[@trentonparrish1136]

32 and I always have been single lol

[@Jim-zw7ul]

I want to share my experience: I used to think when I was 15-20 years old that getting rejected by every girl is just them having unrealistic expectations and being immature. And I told myself dont beat yourself up over being single and that I would date and have success in my twenties! Fast forward to now, i am now 24 and the past 4 years have been no different, the few women i talked to for a longer time all lead me on and effectively had no interest. I am not at the point of not trying anymore because its such a waste of time and even more important my mental. I am now trying to be happy alone, even though I feel a deep lonelyness every day and dissatisfication.

[@scott8934]

I gave up years ago. The stress and anxiety involved in worrying about intentional dating is such a downer on my life that I would rather just remain single. I am an absolute homebody. Always have been. When I do go out to enjoy my hobbies in a social setting, they are massively male dominated. Just a sausage fest. I have no idea where women congregate, and even if I did, what’s my excuse to start a conversation going to be? It just feels like the stars have to align, which makes it a stressful endeavor.

[@Bennysol]

True, and you know society is in dire straits when it's no longer a fun time to engage with women. Around 26 I gave up on moder broads. I'm 32 now and probably the happiest I've ever been. Just growing my home, my property, my skills, and my career is more than enough to keep me busy sun up to sun down

[@sirbughunter]

​@@Bennysol Sounds great. But for me this wouldn't be enough. I want to have children. And if possible a mother that helps me raise them 😢 So far no luck. Only meeting crazy girls or nothing lasting...

[@Bennysol]

@@sirbughunter either knock up a druggie or criminal so you can get the courts to give you sole custody or look into adoption. I'll probably end up adopting one day. Plenty of hopeless kids out there who need a chance. I have the money, skills, and a great home in a good neighborhood with good schools to offer a great life to a kid in need. Just for the record I came from a poor family, made pizzas and worked for uber until I was 24 then hit it big in the construction industry. So I know what determination, long term commitment, and long term goals can lead to. My only concern is from what I heard most adoption centers don't trust single guys. They let lesbians and gay couples adopt kids but often time won't let a single guy adopt a kid

[@sirbughunter]

@@Bennysol Adoption is something that I've considered already. But I'm not desperate enough to really think about this. I hope that everything will resolve itself and I'll find a great woman for me that suits my needs of being fairly attractive, humorous, warm-hearted and not stupid intellectually as well as emotionally. I know it's not that impossible to find. So I'll stay optimistic for now :)

[@foxfmx117]

Go to Target during the weekday, no joke. Literally 30 to 1 ratio there. A lot of people think it's just mothers during that time, but I've seen a lot of young ones as well. Music festivals, also farmers' markets.

[@DJWhiteDevil]

I'm in a 12 year old marriage but one massive contributor to dating, maintaining a long lasting relationship is the lack of feeling appreciated. I feel like most men are treated as an item/problem solver and once the needs are fulfilled we are dismissed to the side until the next requirement comes along. After a while it grows old and we get tired of the mental abuse.

[@xerr0n]

and dont you try to say anything about it...

[@russ9921]

@@xerr0nHe probably then gets gaslighted. His experience was mine exactly.

[@MakingYummy]

This is very true! I’ve noticed that women have become very transactional with dating. The biggest issue is difference in values. When no one sticks to their commitments then of course we’ll see divorce like we do now. The self centered mindset is king. I’ve seen so many grandparents that are basically raising their grand children because the parents need time to themselves. What we’re dealing with is a breakdown of the family and family values.

[@redfish3858]

BINGO! My ex wife...and my bio family that chose her over me cause "if it's broken it's the man's fault"

[@TomNook.]

Get out ASAP, you only have one life and you're wasting jt

[@williamthegreat5126]

Courtney I love your content because you provide actionable steps to improve one’s dating life. I agree with this whole video. I’m currently 29, a regular looking guy looking for the right woman who I’m genuinely attracted to and in my religion. It’s been very hard and the mental strain it takes saying if my muscles were bigger, if I was taller, if I was in a leadership role, making more money etc would help but in reality women’s expectations and lack of commitment are leading us men to move away from our authentic selves to fulfill one of the most basic human needs. Solution would be for people to detox off social media and get involved which is what I’m doing.

[@mr.sophistication3232]

Let’s get those numbers up to 100% boys. Don’t let me down.

[@ajtaylor8750]

While it hurts to hear that, I don't blame a lot of young men for being single whether it's by choice or not. It's harder than ever before for young men especially to find a woman to be in a relationship with because of social media, unrealistic expectations, and even just how much men are being told that women are the problem. Why try to date when you could spend time doing other things with your life whether they're harmful or beneficial? It's looking really bleak moving forward.

[@CourtneyRyan]

I totally get it too. Thanks for sharing this!

[@gustavsorensen9301]

Lol, why do you hate to hear it?? Who cares

[@dobermanownerforlife3902]

A man has to work 10 times harder than his grandfather, for a woman 1/10th his grandmother.

[@introvertdude99]

@@dobermanownerforlife3902 those aren’t your words . You listen too much to many influencers. But that is true .

[@aelfredrex8354]

If dating is a chore, you are totally doing it wrong. It's an adventure. Fun. You meet someone, you talk, you have a good time. If it clicks, it clicks. If it don't, oh well, you got out of the house for a few hours and did something different than your daily routine. Too many idiots out there acting like every single date is an existential crisis that will shatter their entire lives if it doesn't go perfectly, so they avoid that possibility at all costs by making up reasons not to date, like blaming it on the women.

[@dewey66904]

Courtney Ryan, I've been single 20 plus years. I'm 57. Just for perspective, I make 100k a year, Have toys (Boat , Bikes etc.) I am completely happy. I do get a lot of pushback on dating from coworkers about this, they say its not natural. Here is all I have to say as it happened to me. ONCE MEN ARE COMFORTABLE BEING SINGLE, ITS GOING TO BE NEXT TO IMPOSSABLE TO GET THEM BACK ON THE DATING SEEN.

[@geekiepooh808]

She's going to question your purchases "Do you really need all that?" "Another bike? You have too many bikes already"

[@thereisnosanctuary6184]

Impossable seen

[@MakersMark723]

I tell you brother, you just nailed it with your comment. Ex-Wife cheated and left me for another guy 6 years ago and I haven't been in a relationship since and I tell you, you are correct about getting into a "groove" or "lifestyle" that you get when being single. I buy whatever I want for the hell of it and I have no nagging or questioning from anyone. Hell, I bought my first motorcycle because I can and I've never rode before and now, I ride every damn day. I never had any notion to do this when I was married and once she exited my life for good, I have been doing things that make me happy and to be honest, I've grown VERY comfortable and content with my current lifestyle that I just don't see any interest in dating. Not saying that if the right one comes around, I won't say no but I am not actively pursuing. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, then it doesn't.

[@buckjones4901]

I understand what you are saying, I am almost as old as you, I am not as successful as you, but I do ok. I tell ya I find myself just enjoying the company of women at work, I like the company of women often, and the younger ones beauty/cuteness.

[@FU.DNG.]

🎯

[@ArthurRedoble]

30 years single and financially happy. My struggles are over. Dating is only a path of life.

[@brushed5252]

I love how you say everything without hesitation These are things we need to hear

[@misternobody9801]

I’m so proud of men right now. I didn’t figure out how much better it is to be single until I was almost 40. You really can’t beat the freedom and disposable income being single.

[@extra-samsaric3836]

The "freedom" and "disposable income" get old around the 1000th night coming home to an empty apartment.

[@matthewlucent7645]

@@extra-samsaric3836 No it doesn't.

[@sirbughunter]

It's very interesting if you think about it for a second. Maybe men are more single, because they don't settle anymore with toxic relationships like they did 20 years ago? Maybe men developed to the point where relationships on average mean more than "just being together" for the sake of not being alone anymore? And the same way women might think. So maybe it's a good development, after all? 😳

[@ReallyRyan.]

I can beat that: having a good relationship with someone else and experiencing all the good things in life together. Being single sucks ass and I have been single most of my life, had a couple girlfriends but nothing very long term. I hate absolutely every day of it. The loneliness and emptiness of having no one gets very old very quickly. The only people that say "AIN'T BEIN' SINGLE GREAT?!" are people that have problems with commitment or people that were hurt in the past and so they're overcompensating by putting on an act. Nearly any experience beats being single. Hobbies and toys can't fill the void left by being alone (no matter how much you want them to) you can try to but it never actually can (I know from experience.) The single life is truly no life at all.

[@shandorunia]

@@extra-samsaric3836 totally disagree with you there. I have worked hard to fill my life with things to do and the factI can actually afford to do them is a big thing. Plus I have never been able to work on me before. It's always been about my other half. If you are not able to live on your own, and comfortable in your own space - then you need to get up and do something about it. Being able to think about you and improve you is not an easy mindset to adopt.

[@jayc342009]

I am single and i love it, i've been in relationships and all they do is make me feel depressed. No children, no wife is a happy and stress free life.

[@CynthiaAlorney-kh8hq]

Am single I need a serious man white in my life

[@CynthiaAlorney-kh8hq]

Don’t say that you will meet you love am single for 6 years now

[@jayc342009]

@@CynthiaAlorney-kh8hq Is your life stress free and do you feel content?

[@leonniceday6807]

exactly!

[@sak1339]

I discovered you recently on KZbin, and I am very impressed. Thanks for the level-headed and insightful talks and good advice.

[@anttt13]

I’m good with dying alone. I accepted it lol

[@Matt-rw9py]

Hahahaha that's a good one. We could say you've literally transcended into higher state of consciousness

[@anttt13]

@@Matt-rw9py is it really? can’t be that deep

[@manny7662]

@@Matt-rw9py we all live among people but we die alone- just like how we enter this world.

[@Matt-rw9py]

@@manny7662 you don't need to die alone. You can try to convince someone to die with you at the same time while holding hands

[@DestinyAwaits19]

You're compensating. Love is something we all need.

[@pitrek121g]

Trying to be the best version of myself is kinda a total loophole for me, I am 30 and I am an artist, an engineer, I can play a guitar, I am reading books, taking walks, can repair everything at home, can cook, can bake but this got me to the point when I expect at least half of this stuff from the woman I look for and when woman is pretty then she is so praised by society that she doesn't demand anything from herself because she has all things granted. I feel being the best version of myself is leading me to being a single forever now.

[@MikeyP109]

"Best version of yourself" has no meaning. It's an indefinable term used by those who think saying it makes them helpful.

[@stevec3526]

Mikey, you sound like a damned troll. Grow up.

[@christiangreisinger2339]

"Im an engineer" There you have the reason. I literally never met an engineer that was sucessful with women

[@pitrek121g]

@@christiangreisinger2339 so you cannot be smart to have a relationship? :P

[@christiangreisinger2339]

@@pitrek121g Legit. The dumber I pretend to be, the more success I have with women

[@valentineedesiriefagene7565]

I like the research you do. I like that your content are usually data-driven. You're awesome.

[@annache250]

I’ve personally been on dating apps for 3 years but either because I’m a very average looking person or because my profile isn’t exciting enough, I’ve had little success. But whenever I would do a fun group activity (rock climbing or joining a club in college) I actually went on dates with women cause we already shared a common interest and they got to get know my personality

[@thedailyjules_]

In my experience as a 29 year old man... It's gotten to the point where it feels like you need to be an extraordinary man to get a woman to care. It seems like as a man I get more intimacy and interest from women that are in relationships. At least here in Seattle that's how it is. And when a woman is single how a days and expressing interest, it's always very subtle, rife with game playing and mixed signals and there's always an underlying feeling that you're competing with a bunch of other men (which is always the case but it shines through in their lack of complete interest and communication with you/I). Like you said, going out and putting yourself in new scenarios and spaces, especially activities involving people will always help expand options... But even with putting in that work, it's still VERY hard to date and find someone worth committing to. It almost feels like the more you treat women badly and like one of many, the more attention you get.

[@Coreisus]

Women love being treated like shit...

[@eatshityoutube3271]

@@spagooter1807 both genders lmfao these woman are still going after chads

[@covfefe_drumpfh]

See?! You're explaining the ways in which men are *also* oppressed by the _patriarchy._ I freakin hate that word, tbh. But it is true: from men feeling they have no purpose to men only seeing themselves as _work mules,_ the patriarchy also oppressed men.

[@sspiros1216]

The only woman in the entire world who will love you unconditionally is your own mother. If you want to keep a woman around you need to meet her conditions regularly. Like getting her to fall in love with you every day...like 50 First Dates. If you're not prepared for that or willing to loose everything you've invested in her in a blink of an eye, then it best to cash in your chips while you're ahead and exit the dating casino, my friend.

[@EbonyAMV]

Yeah same, im 29 and I feel there is nothing that's making me worth something lol. Going out and putting myself in new scenarios, spaces and activities involving people have just made it worse. I don't really want to do this anymore.

[@billcynic1815]

For me, a huge issue is "Where do I meet good women in real life?" Off dating apps, off social media? Especially as someone who doesn't go to clubs or parties, and isn't interested in the kind of woman that does. Post-college, there just aren't a lot of opportunities that aren't cold approaches. And from female friends and acquaintances I've talked to, single men are viewed with immediate wariness by women, and you should never approach a woman unless you know she wants it, which you don't know until after you approach. "Don't approach women you don't know," but there are precious few venues to actually meet new women.

[@patdoty788]

well said

[@optimalmen1218]

this. After college it's literally impossible. unless you meet a woman at a workplace or event... like it's so difficult

[@link3727]

Agree completely, people always suggest something vague like "you just need to get yourself out there" etc. but where exactly do you go? Randomly approaching strangers doesn't work for me and is usually not appreciated as you mention, same with coffee shops and places like that, I mean you can't just invite yourself over to a group of girls table, sounds good to suggest it but doesn't work in the real world unless you're some celebrity guy.

[@andrewjordan4811]

Depending on the size of your city, find local events going on. For example, I play coed volleyball and have met solid women there. Expand your social circle as much as possible, and you’ll be invited to more and more things. Cold approach is a hit or miss, but can be effective once you get the hang of it. I’ve met solid women from doing it. It’s not the ideal method, but can be used in addition to other things. I meet lots of women on walks and at the grocery store

[@richardtarjeft4884]

This is not true. Learn to read body language. If no woman ever gives you an opening or indicator of interest it means you need to spend some time invested in yourself. Consistent gym, healthy diet, improving your appeal as a man. Don't worry about women. When you do the right things the right one will present themselves and you will know. Also dating apps ARE TRASH there are only two kinds of women on dating apps. 1) Narcissistic ones looking for validation on their social media. 2) Socially awkward introverts that are NEVER going to meet you for a date.

[@leogeo8149]

lets make it 100% boys!

[@jdotson41041]

Guys I've been married 34 years. I am 56 we married around 25 and built a life together. Unless you find someone you love and loves you stay single. I am with you on this I will be telling my grandsons to do the same. Make sure you do not create any kids with them either. I believe our society is coming to an end. With out our seed it dies.

[@jamesdoss1211]

It's going to be all chads ruled over by the great GigaChads. Complete idiocracy.

[@roxorz309]

I've been single and sexless for 4 years now, its not unbearable but does suck sometimes. I'm at the point where my angry and bitterness are just replaced with the feeling of numbness, when I see women around me in public, a second glance is not given from me. I do suffer from porn addiction, i used to be a gym rat but suffered some injuries at work so I gained 50lbs due to pain issues. I've been cheated on, ghosted, or even attacked and builled by women I don't even know since I was a child so unfortunately, I can't help but feel like a bad experience and women are inseparable from eachother. Its sad that this is becoming more common, and my situation is not the exception but becoming the norm. Hopefully none of you reading this ends up like me, just do your best and dont let despair take away your desire for companionship.

[@Matanumi]

your doing this to yourself. the porn addiction is making it worse

[@user-es8tt4nr2z]

I herniated 2 discs going to the gym trying to get a woman, and gave up.

[@thereisnosanctuary6184]

Lose 10lbs

[@musashiwebb]

Try not to be pulled ever deeper into the depths of despair. There must be something you can do to bring yourself up again, to transform into version of yourself that, at the very least, can cast aside some undesirable(not only to others, but especially to yourself) behaviors/traits you have now. I am not you, I've never met you, but I feel like you can become what you were always meant to be. And it's probably not anything like what you've stated in your comment. This is not your final form. We are always in a state of Becoming. Make one goal a week, and work on succeeding at them, and maintain consistency. You are the captain of your Ship. It is up to you were you steer your vessel. Then, after a long journey out, you will choose to bring your ship back to shore, and the optimal woman will be there, impressed by your leadership, and choose a to be in a relationSHIP with you, because you've proved yourself worthy as captain. But, it will all be up to you. Women are the gatekeepers to sexual access, while men are the gatekeepers to successful/long-term relationSHIPS. I believe in you.

[@Jumpingjackflash123]

You gained 50lbs??? Bro that’s 175,000 EXTRA calories that you didn’t need. You also have a food addiction and discipline problems. You don’t get second glances because you have another human living on your belly. Do you watch BBW porn or right bodied girl porn? Girls watch tight bodied porn too. Try alternative day fasting. You’ll lose that weight in a 4 months. That’ll get you some glances. Don’t give up homie I’m 1 year sexless and I’m sober which basically mean I can’t do shit or go out. Plus I got mad drug addictions. I still try and keep my body tight and still get plenty of glances because of it.

[@B4DWrath]

"You no longer get to experience the entirety of another human" isn't that bad when that entirety includes getting everything you've worked for taken from you, and the heart you've handed to her on a silver platter gets stomped on.

[@jdanon203]

Most humans are terrible. You'll be much happier limiting your exposure to terrible things like humans.

[@MrGreenAKAguci00]

Or worse the things you gave on a silver plater are actively used against you and that plater is swung at your face.

[@tim_salotto_ND]

Nowadays, when someone asks “why are you still single” you say “Because I’m not giga chad”

[@kickblake]

Honestly, the saddest part about this isn't the stats. It's helpful to know the stats, because their are plenty of people trying to keep men down to elevate women who either think that men can just absorb all the abuse with no negative impact or don't care. The saddest part is when you realize this: all of these stats are the effect of men rationally responding to incentives.

[@CYBER_FunkER]

My biggest issue is I cannot get a single date. I'm nearly 30 and I regularly meet women and they only ever seem to want to be friends. I've had many close friendships with a bunch of wonderful women, but it only stops there, as friends. I've felt that now that I'm at the age I am, and since I have been unable to attract a single woman in my life, I'm practically cursed and I have no idea what to do with myself. Most of my female and male friends actually don't believe me that I've never dated either. It's all so confusing.

[@extra-samsaric3836]

That's harsh. Me, I cannot even get a conversation with a woman 😂. Being "friend-zoned" would be a massive upgrade for me.

[@stevec3526]

Don’t friend zone yourself.

[@musashiwebb]

Try not to fall into the nihilism trap. Keep improving your life and yourself, don't let small losses discourage you from seizing the big win. This time period we exist in has many flaws, but through overcoming them, we become the greatest version of ourselves. Best of luck to you on your Journey.

[@goncalovilhena2139]

mens dating life start at 30. altho dating while younger will help you have the experience to interact flirt

[@macmcleod1188]

As long as you are clean (don't stink) there are women out there. Take up activities where women are in the area. Note the ones that pursue you/ express interest in you. Ignore/ cut out those who want to be friends or who want you to pursue them. They will prevent you from meeting someone. Do in person activities. Do not use dating apps.

[@nelusher4]

I find it interesting that the transactional nature or porn and pay sites is a one way problem. Meanwhile 67% of women are being shared by 15% of men. And are literally for sale.

[@executor142]

Soooo adultery and fornication? Shhhhh, pr0n is bad!

[@JazzicalLiks]

I was blown away by those stats. I'd like to see more on this. It's tough when you've just lost your only parent, and have the rest of your extended family isolate. It's tough when during that time you get betrayed in a 2.5 year connection. And now.. I sit here single at 29.. feeling this exact way with the info mentioned in the video. Like what am I supposed to do you know? On the other hand, I don't fear commitment whatsoever. I'm more than willing to put in effort and work for a relationship. It's funny how it operates. I definitely feel emotionally crippled.. but i aim everyday to help others through my field. The whole cherishing, nurturing aspect of relationships makes perfect sense to me. However it seems today's hookup culture would disagree. I'm aiming more to get out there despite being more introverted.. guess all you can do is keep going.

[@leonniceday6807]

just recall that in childhood you found passions,pleasures that didn't involve chicks.

[@SeekerMissile]

Honestly being alone is pretty awesome. Once I stopped dating I've accumulated a substantial amount of income, enough to move myself into a much more comfortable apartment and buy myself a decent car. I fixed my teeth and work-out myself into a best shape of my life, I feel great, have way more stamina and boosted my immune system. I haven't been sick or depressed once since I stopped dating and on top of that all I have way more free time right now to spend on things I enjoy doing. I might try dating again sometime, but right now I really enjoy this part of my life and not willing to change anything.

[@leonniceday6807]

perfect! glad for you

[@neondystopian]

I've never chased after status or money and have always lived within my means. I knew that would be unattractive to women and made conscious effort to be okay with that. I moved on from women and have been single for at least 17 years. Now that the women my age are older, I am becoming more attractive to them. I've been asked out more in the last year than I have in my entire life. The problem is I have completely lost interest in women. The longer you remain single, the less appealing relationships become, your libido evaporates and then you simply begin to care about other things that don't involve women. I don't dislike women. I don't hate them. I'm just indifferent.

[@natskivna]

59 year old guy here and this is SPOT ON. The one thing though that worries me...who will look after me when I'm old and I can't do it for myself anymore?

[@neondystopian]

​@@natskivna the only thing I know to do other than whatever medical benefits I'll get at that age is to try to live in a senior community where everyone keeps an eye on each other. There will probably be plenty to choose from by the time I need one since the elderly population will grow. I have some family that may be able to take care of me when I reach that point, but I will more than likely have to pay some people. Is what it is

[@cassu6]

@@natskivna Medically assisted termination? When I gotta start using diapers just end me

[@RyanDavis-iq6tb]

I agree. It seems like after a while you no longer want marriage/a relationship. It's funny how the desire just kinda fades away. Over the years I have become desensitized to loneliness and even have been thankful sometimes that I'm single because of how so many women today act. I know not all women are bad people, but so many are just looking for a man they can use for resources. I often wonder how my financial situation would be if I had gotten married.

[@kamrudkd]

Muslim ppl get married from within our own tried and tested social circle, that is international in nature. Without playing expensive dating games that lead to nowhere. We do not cold approach random strangers, it is haram! And because of our matchmaking culture and importance placed upon marridge and family life, we get together and create communities. Could these laws more affect western ppl, who may have to approach ppl at work, in the clubs or go on dating websites to try and find a partner?

[@JuanVega-ns5ok]

From a men’s perspective, dating apps are a pain in the ass. While some dating apps are free for women, they are expensive as hell for men to use. Paying does not guarantee matches because men also have to navigate through the fake accounts intended to get men to pay even more. It’s quite sad, actually.

[@shaundesmond8005]

Dating Apps are scamming men. Don't pay for them. Don't use them would be my advice.

[@AlexanderSkinnerVids]

And women have the *audacity* to complain that “we get abused on the apps” It’s as if some of these women have never been on the internet 🙄

[@SLRModShop]

wait... guys pay for dating apps?! Damn... I didn't know that... No wonder it doesn't work then, it instantly puts you in the "desperate enough to pay" category. Being on a dating app to being with is hurting your chances in my opinion, but now that I know that you have to pay for the "privilege"... Damn... that's rough...

[@steveh5307]

​@@SLRModShop what a toxic response.

[@SLRModShop]

@@steveh5307 "a toxic response"... What's next, you're about to talk about the patriarchy and the wage gap?! Men don't bullsh!t each others. You know that the mere fact of being on a free app begging for women's attention instantly disqualifies you from being seen as a viable mate, I know that, we both know that. Let's not pretend, okay "steve"? Why do you think that they're only going for the "bad boys" on there?! Because they are the best offering... What does that say about everyone else? Picture this: a 53 years old woman claiming that her age doesn't hurt her chances. You got it? You're thinking "go ahead, you can think that, doesn't change the fact that your options have diminished" You are the male equivalent of that woman... You can pretend that it doesn't hurt your chances... But at the end of the day, you're picture, on a smartphone app, that is free from women to use... Don't you find that insulting? If not, it doesn't matter, women know that to be on there you had to swallow your pride... That's all that matters in the end, they'll control the outcome of your reality... You're that 53 years old woman. Deny as much as you want, use as many buzz words as you want. Being on that app alone made you a loser in their eye, by definition. Stating a simple fact isn't toxic. Denying reality is. It's pathetic to be on a dating app and don't count on me to pretend that it's not. Again, I know it, you know, we both know it, stop pretending.

[@seanshewman4127]

I agree with a lot of what she says. So my story is I was a virgin til 27. I am good looking and play sports and in great shape. Most people say I’m like 8-8.5 so it’s not a looks thing. I get it when men say they feel invisible. Even with my good looks I don’t get that much attention. I think another problem is guys assume most girls in social places are already in a relationship or have guys they can call. Like you said most guys are afraid to approach girls because a lot of women are unapproachable and the rest get hit with the stigma because of the other girls. You hit the head on the nail when you said most girls don’t know how guys feel and have to empathy for hard it is for them. I have still not been in a relationship or anything with a girl since my girlfriend and have had a few dates and many conversations that lead nowhere. Most of matches or likes on dating apps are with girls I don’t find attractive or are ugly. The reason guys turn to porn is because they are so sex starved and hopeless it’s the only thing they can do. I don’t want to give up but I see why guys are. It feels hopeless I can’t imagine guys that don’t have it as good as I do. I have a high sex drive so it is painful. I want a girlfriend or significant other but I also need sex so what are we to do bedsides use porn, go to strip clubs or hire a hooker. It’s just a pain in the ass. I put effort in and am not trying to be a player or fuckboy and I get nothing and barely any dates at all. Women don’t know truly how good they have it. They just all choose the same super handsome wealthy or famous guys but don’t realize that’s 1% of guys and most women will not keep them. It’s a problem for both sexes but women need to help men out a little. Communicate better and be more empathetic to the male situation. Most guys aren’t bad or players but the stereotype is killing good men just like the every women is a how stereotype hurts good women.

[@polpol1005]

why u using dating apps? Also, I don't think the biggest reason guys turn to porn is because they are so sex starved and hopeless... many are just too lazy to put any effort in real life experience as it would require different kind of interactions and social skills with women so it's easier to go online.

[@paulkramer9666]

Pursuing women is too expensive and too dangerous.

[@TheSingleGuy]

Sounds like a lot of the women that think they are in relationships are wrong.

[@extra-samsaric3836]

Dating is dead, relationships are dead, marriage is dead, social life is dead, tight-knit families and communities are dead, everything good about life is dead. It's OVER.

[@thereisnosanctuary6184]

Not true. Some are just comatose. Some diseased. It's only dead for some of us, but it's catching. 20% of humanity will always be happy. That is until the rest start the pillaging and raping.

[@djzrobzombie2813]

At least war is still in business 😂

[@luisdawnfinder3188]

@@djzrobzombie2813 That's why they're fucking around with starting one. It's always been the pressure release valve when men get left too far behind. It won't work this time though, because we have nothing to fight for. There's no patriotism anymore, why would there be?

[@Krzysiufpp]

Sad truth.

[@killy374]

why even bother with a job 😂😂😂😂 haha

[@JimmyMFP]

I think the whole “men who are single are single because they watch porn” trope is the most worn out excuse today. Men are single for a multitude of reasons, blaming it on porn use is just a cope; it puts all the blame on the men, and alleviates women’s role in why men watch porn to begin with.

[@poly_g6068]

What legitimate reasons are there for men to stop watching porn when statistically speaking every woman is in a relationship already, and going outside proves this? Plenty of men are still approaching women. They are not getting women. They are getting that same statistic repeated back to them.

[@edsonmrtezz]

Honestly It's been difficult for me to just get lucky with a girl. I'm 26 years old and I've never been in a committed relationship. And even if a few girls come my way from time to time... They ALWAYS give me the cold shoulder once it feels like we both were getting along, and it just makes me feel EVEN MORE isolated. Only thing I can control in my life is like you said; focus on my career, my fitness, my mental state etc. Guys like me fully understand that when a women pushes us away... We listen and receive the message very clearly now. And we just don't try anymore.

[@michaelrodriguez3329]

Take heart my friend. The majority of women these days Are not single but divorced with children. What man wants to get involved with a single mom

[@UGABulldog1234]

I'm also 26 in the same boat. I recently had a situation where I had a first date with a beautiful latina and the night ended very well. Things started well but off the bat she mentioned she didn't want anything serious. Should of stopped it there, but she was hot so....A few months went by as we 'talked', hung out a couple times, etc. Ultimately she told me she started seeing another guy 'sexually' (she made sure to say that), and we were done. Nothing came of it except false hope and rejection. I've now started going my own way as well. Gotta do what's right by you at the end of the day, and if women treat you as disposable, then good riddance.

[@m.hoffman2889]

Same here, 27 and never had one. I turned into that Charlie Harper kinda guy who stays relationships and only gets casual or escorts

[@jer1776]

@Michael Rodriguez No self respecting man. I'll fly overseas and find a woman before I date one with kids.

[@thechosenone7875]

@@michaelrodriguez3329 100%. Majority of women who have kids from a previous relationship or marriage don’t want any more. I want kids of my own instead of raising someone else’s.

[@614Michael]

I told myself I would try to put myself out there in 2020 and try to date. I dont mind being single but I felt ready to try. No success in terms of a relationship but I am proud of the effort I put in.

[@RealYRM]

I know the dating market is bad, and you might have to sort through a hundred or a thousand women to find one who is of a quality worth being in a relationship with... but aside from that reality, do you think there's some aspect personally holding you back? It sounds daunting to find 1 in, say, 500... but if you're taking care of yourself, have a good life, and you casually write back and forth with, say, a dozen women a week on a reputable paid dating site, it's possible to go through that number pretty quickly. Right away you can weed out a lot just on initial back and forth. You can weed out more on date one.

[@614Michael]

I do put some blame on myself as I can be an introvert at times. I would say with dating apps, I don't get that far. Overall, what I've experienced isn't what I hoped for, but it has been a learning experience.

[@dbf1dware]

The juice is NOT worth the squeeze. Focus on your hobbies and your friends. To maintain your safety and sanity, avoid women whenever you can. MGTOW.

[@sunnyvale2051]

Whoop whoop! Props to you Mike for putting your nose to the grindstone. Very true you can still enjoy life while being single.

[@EduardoPerez-ku5px]

It's vital to fight for having something whatever tiny it is, because its written "the one who has, more will be given, and he will have an abundance, but from the one who has not, even what he has will be taken away".

[@lanxy2398]

As a 19 year old I feel this, i’m a virgin and have never had a girlfriend and not necessarily for lack of trying. I know a lot of dudes in my position and i’m saddened and also comforted that their are dudes also experiencing this. My 20’s are gonna be hell

[@Maki-qw8he]

I'm in my 20s and also a virgin, have had a few gfs but they had problems..mentally, last one I had she was still in love with her toxic ex. You ain't missing much my g.

[@manosijroy8282]

I am in the same boat as you but I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and never even hugged or kissed a girl in real life. I got rejected very recently by 3 girls( rejected by 7 girls in total so far tho). These 3 girls were all in the same school as me but now in different colleges and we had been chatting on Instagram for months. One of them who is 19 turning 20 in August even agreed to meet up after I asked her out few weeks ago but she blocked me mysteriously after few days whereas another girl blocked me immediately after I asked her out. Few days ago I tried asking out another girl who is 20 now and we had been chatting on Instagram for 2-3 months but she rejected me saying that even though I am really nice, she just isn't comfortable to meet up with me and it hit me hard. But there is still some hope as I asked out my childhood friend too who is 21 now turning 22 after 3-4 months. We were very close friends when we were in elementary school in 2008-2011. But she isn't that active on Instagram so she still didn't see that message in which I asked her out so still no reply yet. I am still waiting for her reply and hoping a positive reply as I genuinely like her a lot but idk.

[@josiahbutler2254]

your only 19, boy keep living lol

[@adrianace1725]

I gave up looking for love and relationships a long time ago. Made peace with being single and finding acceptance. It's rather refreshing to be free of expectations and social constructs.

[@cgortz89]

Glad that you feel good in that setup too! As do many women. It doesn't have to be the worst, as so much of our well being is based on self respect and we can find other kinds of connections as well.

[@adrianace1725]

@@cgortz89 Thanks for your understanding. I only wish my family saw things the same way however there from a different generation with different values. I often get told I'm selfish for not giving them grandchildren. They just can't accept that I much prefer being single and free to do whatever I want.

[@cgortz89]

@@adrianace1725 It's not selfish to not have kids. If anything it's selfish to have kids. We put the problems of living on somebody else when we choose to have kids. Sorry that your parents put that kind of pressure on you. You just do you and do good and hopefully they'll get over it and see that it's not that important.

[@dershburns3321]

Ah Rousseau's savage.

[@polpol1005]

There's no personal satisfaction in accomplishments if nobody loves you. I believe this is true in most cases.

[@ChillOut1716]

Proud of these young men today. They are smart enough to protect themselves and they’re integrity. They seem to know they’re worth and don’t settle for anything less.

[@minabotieso6944]

Omg her comment sections are always garbage

[@Josh-gp8gz]

I think I'm giving up now. I was on dating apps since 20 and got nowhere. I'm nearly 30 now, still invisible to women, and my hair is going now. I have nothing going for me anymore. I don't feel like living in this world anymore.

[@advacoRRR]

The issue boils down to social media and internet dating. Men are thirsty, women are picky. These two dynamics create a huge imbalance for anyone who spends time online compared to pre-social media/online dating. If you look at the charts, the male loneliness epidemic trend started at about the time Facebook and smartphones came out. Women treat me 100% different in person versus online. Women approach me, pursue me, flirt with me, who would not give me the time of day online. Social media has destroyed dating.

[@stephengrant4841]

One of many reasons that I would severely restrict and then eventually abolish the internet entirely if I become emperor of the Earth. It does no good for society, even though by all accounts it should. Not even just in dating, but its the reason for rising political extremism, conspiratorial thinking, anti-science narratives, resurgence of misogyny, brain-rotted bums. Almost every societal problem in first world nations can be traced back to the internet existing as far as I can see it. We have all the collective knowledge of humanity in our pockets at any given time, and we use it to hate each other more, degrade each other more, and become more unintelligent than before.

[@mulatto2776]

My biggest problems: No time, Not enough money. I think you said it all when you said most single women are chasing the same few men. I live in a very wealthy area with a high cost of living. I have to work 7 days a week just to afford an apartment. The men women want can afford fancy restaurants and expensive vacations. I can't even afford a dentist. Without good looks and/or money, finding a relationship that I would be happy in is a lost cause.

[@victorrosales7565]

Same boat brotha!

[@Viewable11]

Move to a cheaper place. Don't waste your life!

[@mulatto2776]

@@Viewable11my place is as cheap as it gets unless I rent a bedroom in someone's apartment or trailer.

[@Viewable11]

@@mulatto2776 What was the biggest distance you moved your place of living?

[@mulatto2776]

@@Viewable11 not sure how the distance is relevant, but 1,000 miles.

[@jbenjami28]

I'll chime in from a male POV. I'm of the generation that came of age right before the rise of social media - high school class of 2000 - so all my formative experiences of asking out the girls in school I had crushes on with butterflies in my stomach, learning to cope with rejection and the whole gamut of wrapping my mind around the [birds and the bees] took place in a world before smart phones, before dating apps, before youtube, Facebook or any of these addictive digital drugs existed. I had tremendous anxiety and confusion about dating back then, but gosh, if I could open a spacetime portal and have a conversation with my former self 20 years ago, I'd smack 21-year-old me in the face and say, “Dude, listen closely. You need to stop whining, get over your bull@#$% insecurities right the %&@$ now and pour your heart out to so-and-so today, make your mistakes, learn, get your love-life in order before the future comes, because the dating scene of the future is a horror-show, and that future is speeding toward us like a freight train. If you think it's intimidating to approach the lady who sparks your eye on the other end of the room, imagine trying to navigate that in a future where everyone's looking down at this magic device in their hands like zombies everywhere you go, only looking up to take a picture of themselves to broadcast to people whom they won't see in person any time soon so they can predicate their self-esteem on some superficial stat of how many people clicked a digital heart icon responding to that image with instant gratification, where a common livelihood is making videos alone in one's bedroom and selling them to strangers abroad whose surplus of disposable income is surpassed only by their thirst for an illusion of companionship to numb their spiritual emptiness. If you think flirting with women is scary and confusing in 2003, JUST YOU WAIT.” I can't begin to articulate how lucky I was to come up in the analog age, how angry at myself I am for not making it a more urgent priority to conquer my dating roadblocks back in that golden age, and how profoundly lost, frustrated and confused I feel trying to connect in this toxic culture. HELP!!!!!!!

[@ScottRadkeMusic]

This ☝🏽 is so unbelievably true!! I was from HS class of 94’…… and was a bit of a shy “late bloomer”…… What I wouldn’t give to jump in a DeLorean & go talk to myself in say 7th grade….. drop some serious science on myself!! I’d say it straight- “Dude- get your head out of the Guitar Player & Thrasher magazines….. skateboard 🛹 over to where some girls are hanging out, and start working on your social skills- STAT!!”

[@executor142]

2007 here, I know what it is, beautiful times.

[@thereisnosanctuary6184]

Calm down, Millenial. You still had AOL and instant messages.

[@garypierce7380]

A woman having a bunch of social media accounts where she dresses up pretty and flirts would be a deal breaker for me. Is she looking for a man or running an escort service? I wouldn't be fishing in that polluted lake.

[@neil12011]

@@thereisnosanctuary6184 Yeah, but it came on a 3.5 floppy, and you had to pay by the minute. Just like yer mother.

[@allenmontrasio8962]

Women who date the same men may *think* they're in a relationship, but they're actually single as well.

[@slothape]

I find dating way too difficult it feels like everything is stacked against me