The Healthy Masculinity of Ted Lasso | therapist explains

A videoessay breaking down the masculinity in the apple tv show Ted Lasso, starring Jason Sudekis as a football coach. This analysis considers the healthy masculinity of characters such as Roy Kent, the developing masculinity of Jamie Tartt, as well as touching on the toxic masculinity of Rupert Mannion and Jamie's dad. This show teaches a lot about how strength and sensitivity need not be in opposition to each other, but actually work together to empower a person.
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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Intro
03:28 Roy Kent
09:56 Jamie Tartt
16:03 Empowered
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[@lostvarius]

It’s funny because I’ve always found that « healthy masculinity » basically means « being a decent human being ».

[@mylittlethoughttree]

Pretty much yeah

[@hayderneamah1323]

Even though toxic masculinity exist all over the world but I think Americans has a twisted take on that in which toxic mascy is/was celebrated . Watching Ted lasso felt normal to me all these masculine guys are normal to me I grew up different countries (Iraq, Norway , Indonesia etc.) and cultures and in none of them bullying is normal like in America . As I mentioned toxic male exist but they usually shunned noone want to be thier friend or celebrate them . The alpha male where I am from is thought of as a male who is strong physically and emotionally who protect his family and his friends and even extend to his neighbours etc.

[@tyrant-den884]

@@hayderneamah1323 yeah, we basically gave our whole male population PTSD in WW1, then told them to come back home, go to work, have a baby-boom, and act like everything is normal; twice; resulting in an entire country at war with itself because that's what happens when everyone has untreated PTSD. And that is just the last hundred years. This is a country founded on the wealth making potential of jack-asses and the dangers being nice brings to their monopoly.

[@Direfloof]

Yes, and! Healthy masculinity (I’ve been using the word “Tonic”) as a contrast to toxic masc is most noticeably a masculinity that advocates for strength and reason as complimentary qualities to vulnerability and compassion. It’s not just about having huge biceps and saving the day. It’s about letting go of competition as a path to validation, and it’s about supporting the people in your life softly when softness is what they need. This show is just overflowing with such awesome examples of humanity that I think most people are really hungry for. I love how it balances its wit with its emotional honesty. Punchlines and quips are used so often to create silliness without psyching the audience out of the reality of the narrative. Everyone gets to be on both sides of the humor, and we get to watch them grow while it happens. What a ******* delight.

[@jacobladder6165]

​@Hayder Neamah "toxic masculinity" is completely fabricated. Used to suppress ACTUAL masculinity which needs to eminate from an ACTUAL ma n acting correctly. notice there is no emphasis or mention of "toxic femininity" bc "they" who make this shit up view women as a tool and good men as a threat to evil

[@thisisnotausernameXD]

I love how this show not only has healthy masculinity, but it also has healthy feminity and well-written female characters. The female characters all have their own personalities and don't have to be extreme tropes to be distinct and interesting. This in turn makes all the female friendships work as well as the male-female non-romantic relationships.

[@emmathompson7706]

And the women LIKE each other! Much more like real friends, rather than a trope competing for air time.

[@thomasandrewclifford]

@@emmathompson7706 Was literally about to writ ethis but you took the words right out of my mouth.

[@tyrant-den884]

Seriously compare Sassy, Stinky, and Keeley to, say: Monica, Rachel, and Phoebe. Sure the Friends friends were there for each other and loved each other, but there was so much more backstabbing, lying, manipulation, and so much less building each other up. You swear that every one of the Ted Lasso ladies leaves every meeting with each other better off than when they started.

[@rehab_herr]

@@emmathompson7706 Totally, when Jack and Keeley met I at first expected them to compete for Rebecca's attention but was pleasantly surprised when they got along well.

[@seaturtle1181]

YES exactly what i was thinking. i was dreading sassy being made into the old friend who comes back to be a bad influence and make keeley jealous/concerned over rebecca, but i was very pleased to find that they become good friends too

[@evloh]

Ted is an NCAA football (university) coach, NOT an NFL coach. This is a super important point in the show as being a college coach is theoretically supposed to include being a teacher to student athletes; whereas, he is now dealing with professionals.

[@TomcatJones]

Roy doesn’t find out that he likes a wrinkle in time. That’s not why he gets pissed. He finds out that he is indeed the little girl from the book. Which is why Ted gave it to him. He’s pissed because he understands what he must do

[@naomilamont3277]

I didn't realise that a lessor show would have played the moment of Jaime punching his dad as triumphant. It was so clear in this scene that this was a sad, painful moment. I love this show

[@tyrant-den884]

And that if there is a triumphant moment in that scene: it's for Roy taking the initiative to give that hug

[@chloelittle7036]

Roy Kent is my favorite character because of his ability to understand his own emotions. Its not something that just men struggle with and it's really nice to see someone who swears like a sailor and is a bit of a rage machine also do things like soften himself for his niece or forgiving/supporting Jaime. I try to learn from his character because it's something I struggle with personally and it felt strangely validating to see a healthy version of on screen, I can only imagine how men who dont usually get that healthy representation feel about it :) What a great damn show

[@eileennguyen842]

One of my favorite scenes is the one where Jamie talks to Roy about how he told Keeley he loves her. It was so great on Jamie's part - he explains his actions but doesn't excuse them, clearly identifies why his behavior was inappropriate and expresses remorse, and generally takes responsibility and gives a good apology - and then great on Roy's, too, because despite the theatrical, "Fuuuuuuck," Roy recognizes that Jamie is in earnest and wants to make amends and the mature thing to do is to accept the apology and move forward.

[@fayesouthall6604]

Growth by Jamie

[@dafuzzbear7711]

@@fayesouthall6604growth by both Jamie and Roy. At the beginning of the show Roy 100% would’ve hospitalised Jamie for something like that.

[@nenegrey2282]

Something I noticed about Jamie is that even though in season 1 he was the epitome of an arsehole, he was always nice and nurturing with children. We know now it's probably because of his own childhood, but even back then it was really nice to see. And the moment he punched his father was not portrayed as a moment of triumph. Jamie was terrified, not only of his father, but of becoming like his father. That scene was incredible. Jamie Tartt is an amazing character, one that actively chooses to do better every day.

[@Trains_Travel_NZ]

This comment is under-rated! It's so true, no matter what was going on around Jamie, or how much of an ahole he was - he always put on a smile for the kids and fans to make meeting their hero memorable.

[@Mcgif21]

The aspect I love about the show the most is that it takes British realism and contrasts with it American optimism. The show ends up being a very genuine and authentic (albeit perhaps a bit too optimistic but that never hurts) comedy. Really good.

[@avabojaniwskyj1574]

I love that even some of the smaller male characters have their healthy masculinity Leslie is called Leslie and no one makes fun of him for it, it's even what Rebecca calls him, additionally he has a very healthy relationship with his wife and family and is able to apologize for his previous behaviour and call out Rebecca and stand up for his beliefs. Or Colin who is able to look around and say that actually bullying people to win over Jamie isn't worth it especially since Jamie is originally mean to everyone Colin included. And his mantra is another small thing that I like as it shows that he needs that small amount of personal support to keep going

[@okamiseven]

Leslie is the only one of the Diamond Dogs in a stable lasting loving relationship. In many ways, he's the only fully actualized character on the show. Most of the problems he faces are the team's problems or his friends' problems

[@usernameheath]

I watched this show twice so far. The first time, I noticed that it was a study of different types of masculinity. And the second time, I noticed how frequently characters apologize, how honesty and apology are the other feature of the show, alongside masculinity. Such a great show.

[@utfreak41]

LOVE THIS! Would be interesting to get your take on Ted having his panic attacks along with the therapy observations. When Ted has his panic attack in the club, it was so amazingly accurate

[@dominomasked]

I thought it was really interesting that his hostility to therapy was so feminine. He wasn’t afraid of being vulnerable, didn’t resent being “accused” of having a weakness… he was afraid of being vulnerable to someone who he thought didn’t care about him.

[@fayesouthall6604]

@@dominomasked spot on

[@killianmccluff36]

That’s the thing about Jamie’s dad and the familiarity of it. That’s what makes it interesting. It’s relatable. It’s real. It isn’t hyped up drama or unrealistic battles.

[@fayesouthall6604]

100%

[@Steve_Hickman]

This video hits on so many points about what it means to be masculine. You can be sensitive, you can be receptive, you can be expressive, and you can do these things and still be a man that can be admired, all without resorting to being immature, brutish, or intimidating to prove your point.

[@grife3000]

I would love a breakdown on Nathan. His heel turn was both completely unbelievable and slightly believable. Can't wait for season three to explore his character.

[@MorganScott82]

The signs are all there, they were just originally played for laughs. The first time we see Nate he's aggressively yelling at some he thinks has lower station than him (fan who somehow got on the pitch vs kit man), he shatters the clubhouse window, his roast of the players before the Evanstan game is brutal and cruel, when they hire Will, the new kit man, Nate lashes out hard at Rebecca until its revealed he's been promoted, and those are just examples from the first season.

[@fusion2128]

I don’t know if you’re still looking but it takes 2 takes has a very good video on nate

[@anathamon]

i thought it was completely believable. I’ve seen it happen many times in real life

[@dohadeer8242]

It was after rewatching the two series that I could see the inevitability of Nate's turn to the dark side, in retrospect he couldn't have done anything else with his psychological makeup and experiences.

[@karinalumen9722]

@@MorganScott82 start way before that, the first time we see him, he yells at Ted

[@Joshf4phan]

I've often told my friends (who are as hooked on the show as I am) that Roy is really one of the best examples of healthy masculinity going. The cliche "FUCK!" that he does is that moment of revelation, but the really big thing is that he never denies it or tries to rationalize it away. He can be obtuse, a product of his environment and upbringing, but as soon as he comes to a revelation about himself he addresses it head-on and doesn't try to make it somebody else's problem or responsibility.

[@twistedjosh14]

Dear god i love this show so much. It's absolutely has the most "human" characters I've ever had the joy of watching. No one is a caricature they just feel like normal people with normal people problems and dealing with those problems in the most healthy and realistic way possible. It's just such a breath of fresh air and I'm so excited to see what the new season brings.

[@safespacebear]

Please tell your dad you love him, as a dad, I can attest it makes one feel like a million bucks. My father was always awkward about such things but when I got to 19 one day I started making it a habit and he was thrilled to reciprocate. Now we end every call with it. It just took a little courage to get going and often times us younger generations are a bit more emotionally brave than men from generations before

[@Piketom1]

The way the show resolves conflict is extremely refreshing and I did not expect it to be so entertaining. The acting and writing really sell thee conflicts and resolutions. These feel like real people.

[@hambone.fakenamington]

Love this video! Love the characters in Ted Lasso, looove Roy Kent. You cut away from one of my fave parts, when the little boy asks about Roy poopin his pants and says “I do too, sometimes” and Roy says “well if I can work on stopping, will you try too?” Or something along those lines. I just love the way characters talk to each other and how Roy talks to kids like little grown ups. Edit: gaaah to go with the talk about showing a group of super masc dudes with actual depth, I looove Sam’s haircut scene and everything to do with him sharing with the team his budding dating app relationship. All the boys hyping him up while he gets his hair cut by Isaac who treats the haircut like a performance of art or reading over his shoulder when he gets a new message. It’s just so sweet.

[@mylittlethoughttree]

Yeah, I'd have liked to have played that full clip, but youtube gets funny with more than 9 seconds of uncut footage 😆 Sam's haircut is a great example, I loved that too!

[@phornsopheareak1837]

Ok o

[@victorialynn6004]

I love seeing essays which talk about how some shows are having such a healthy outlook and, hopefully, positive impact! So I'd love to hear more of your perspective on Ted Lasso.

[@dr.disappointment8400]

When Ted was talking about what happened to his dad, it was about 2 AM while I was watching. I started sobbing, I got up, walked into my dad’s room, and hugged him, and told him that I love him and that he’s an amazing dad and I don’t say that enough.

[@josephwirtz7120]

I could go on and on about the screen writing of Ted Lasso, but I can sum it up as great character arches. Probably the best character driven show I've watched.

[@linseyspolidoro5122]

The first time I misheard ‘macho side’ as ‘matricide,’ and was like whoa... this is taking a dark turn. Lol

[@clockside]

Omg ty for clarifying that! I knew I was hearing it wrong from context, but I couldn't figure out what it actually was. I haven't seen the actual show yet, so I was left confused on why matricide would be relevant. ^_^;

[@Trains_Travel_NZ]

Perfect summary of Roy! Yes, he is angry and intense, but he's never violent or unnecessarily hurtful. This show makes some of the most interesting characters I have seen on TV

[@EmmettF.W.]

I love this show for SO many reasons. - It’s characters; and their development over two seasons. - the story flowed beautifully and had no points that I thought were just filler or unnecessary. - It gives one hope for peace and the process for healing, when you see what they all go through and that it’s Possible to find acceptance and move forward.

[@aletsytorres2733]

Ted lasso is great at evolving their main characters were they don't become typical characters. I like that they show more nuance to their characters. People don't have to grand stand their politics. Very grounded characters that can be good or messed up. I like the optimist the show brings. There always a solution to issue it just might take a while.

[@marywhistley]

Yes!!!! I would love a whole series about Ted Lasso! It's such a wonderfully written and acted series. So many worth mentioning and analysing moments! Can't wait for part two 😊 edit: Watching the video right now, I had to pause to add that my favourite scene form the show is also the hug between Roy and Jamie after the fight with his father. The whole scene is so emotional charged with such a complexity, depth and variety of feelings. Truly a rollercoaster of emotions and wonderful moment of character development.

[@tulocalhost7914]

Fuck YEAH!

[@ema140]

this might just be the best ted lasso video essay on youtube

[@mylittlethoughttree]

Thankyou! 😊

[@mylittlethoughttree]

So I've gone on to make some more Ted Lasso videos since this one. Here is a playlist for them! kzbin.info/aero/PLIrZsx9CxvcGfUyo6EJK9GOjlEJt3-UWs

[@Anoki_S1]

I would love to hear more! Ive binged this show twice now... its too good!

[@NerdOManyThings]

I'd love to see more videos of your thoughts on Ted Lasso!

[@suzannax]

Yes please 👍

[@Pouscat]

I've been eagerly anticipating your thoughts and reactions to this show! I love it so much and it's been so thought provoking for me. Make as many episodes as you want! I will watch them all!

[@spewter]

Good stuff 👍

[@slaterrox23]

Never heard of the show till now but yes, please do make more of these. Will have to check it out

[@stephaniekuypers5006]

I'm late to the Ted Lasso party, but the portrayal of masculinity really resonated with me, and I loved your video looking at the different characters. You briefly touched on the positive femininity of Keeley and Rebecca, and I'd watch the hell out of a video on that as well. I think in general there is such honesty in most of these characters and I 100% agree the drama never feels all-encompassing, but isn't less weighty either. I'd also love a video just on Ted, because I think his ability to get out of the way is incredible at times (your point on how he deals with Jamie felt so spot-on) and his arc in Season 2 was so well-scripted/acted. Really loved this; off to watch your Nate video now! Thanks for creating!

[@MountWeissIntrigue]

“The most ordinary thing in the world” - that’s my favourite part about the truly groundbreaking way that Ted Lasso demonstrates healthy masculinity. In TV (and in life), most men can’t get away with straying from a narrow band of what’s “masculine” without someone having to comment on it.

[@scottspyra2168]

I would love a video on coach beard, and his manic breakdown/schizophrenic episode. That one in particular feels like a fever dream, and something I’ve never seen in film.

[@mylittlethoughttree]

Was a pretty mad, unexpected rollercoaster. Some people hate that episode, I quite enjoy it

[@leemolloy1112]

I skip that episode when I rewatch

[@tyrant-den884]

"If he [Jamie] can just become steam player, he can be a superstar" AND THEN HE FREAKING DOES.

[@keving8404]

I have thought soooooo much about this show. It happens on very many levels. People have described this show in many, many ways. But to me, this is a show about FATHERS. Think about this…. Nate’s fractured relationship with his father, Jamie’s toxic relationship with his father, Ted’s relationship with his son, Sam’s loving and respectful relationship with his father, the episode where Rebecca’s father dies and she confronts her feelings is the same episode we see Ted reveal his own father’s suicide aasnd finally begin to come to terms. Higgins is asked by Jamie about his father and Roy admits that his father is in his 60’s, lives in south London and is a bit racist. All of this is woven together in humor, in drama, or just so matter-of-fact that you don’t realize it is happening. They are covering every Father-child relationship. Even Ms.Bowen asks about Phoebe’s father.

[@starkravingmad9336]

Never seen this show but the more shows that highlight the more positive view towards men and showing their feelings. Have my own difficulties not feeling I fitted in with traditional masculine roles. Keep up the great work.

[@reverse_engineered]

I had never heard of this show before, but hearing you describe it, I really want to watch it. I agree that it's surprising to the point of engaging to see a show that depicts people not only with complex, non-stereotypical characters, but to the point where they act like real people instead of dramatic caricatures. It's all to easy to provide these idealized role models who are strong and confident and have a witty remark anytime they are challenged, but those aren't reasonable, healthy things for young men to strive for. It's nice to have our media portray a much more healthy, balanced, realistic role model that can be strong and confident without being above reproach and fault. Someone who works just as hard to help those around him improve as they do in trying to improve themselves. And most of all, someone who still has their own challenges, struggles, and demons to deal with. I really look forward to more analysis on this entire series, including the other characters and the therapy scenes.

[@fayesouthall6604]

I never thought this would be such a powerful show. Makes me laugh and makes me cry 😢 and makes me a better person.

[@petergreenidge2797]

I'd love to see you do more videos on Ted Lasso!! Especially exploring the masculinity of Ted and his initial pushback on getting help with his mental health problems.

[@callumdoherty7204]

Having just finished binging the show, I’d love a series of videos on each character! I’ll admit that I was sceptic of the show when I started but was gradually won over and am now very invested in where each character goes next season. The show is a lot smarter than I’d initially given it credit for and it would be great to see more in depth analyses such as this one.

[@christycyr]

YES! Please make more! I'd love to see this expanded into more TL analysis. There's so much to cover - the power of female friendships, male friendships, romantic love, leadership, mental health & sports, so much more!

[@mikeandersonwa]

This is honestly one of my new favorite shows ever, I absolutely love it so much. As I tell people, it's a great show that just simply feels good. Every episode just makes me feel good, and I love that.

[@abbymock3069]

Please please please continue this series!!!! As you know it’s such a wonderfully written show and there’s so many moments, especially in season 2, that I would love to hear your thoughts on!

[@nathanstewart_videos]

Thank you for making this!! I would love to see more Ted Lasso content, especially around his relationship with Sharon and counseling!

[@Gakido117]

I had watched through this series with a friend. I loved it. I'm going to watch it through again. Ted is a great character and I can't wait to see your analysis of the shift within nate.

[@celestebezerra9051]

PLEASE make this a series. Absolutely loved this video. Such a great breakdown of one of the best shows I've ever seen. THANK YOU

[@savannahhenley2116]

Totally want more!! I love this show. It covers so many daily things people just won't talk about

[@terezasanchez2981]

Absolute stunning character analysis. Now I love the show even more. Great, thank you.

[@damianspence]

Never knew what Ted Lasso was about, and no one I know has seen it, but it looks like I've got a new show to add to my list!

[@Dancersmakeup]

I will watch videos dissecting or just talking about this show forever it’s so amazing

[@lelandd.295]

I find it wonderful that in the last two years, show like Ted Lasso and Abbot Elementary, shows about trying to actually overcome real life problems and trying to stay positive despite great difficulties, these shows have won the Emmy's for outstanding comedies. But the lessons these share are so much deeper, as you have so accurately pointed out. Glad to see the shows of degenerates are not being seen as the best shows anymore. I hope this continues. Also, someone else pointed out that they had not realized that Jaime punching his father would have been seen as triumphant on other shows. This reminds me of City Slickers and the the character who said the best day of his life when he stood up to his philandering father and his father abandoned him and his mom and sisters, and then he said that was also his worst day. Too often, standing up to bullies is seen as triumphant, and in a way it can be. But, it is often only the beginning of a process of becoming better than who you are right then.

[@VagabondGuy1]

In need of more ted lasso vids, I can't get enough of this (or your channel for that matter)!

[@alexanderpreuss0701]

Ok, that's it... I'm getting AppleTV+ to watch this show!

[@utfreak41]

Definitely worth it

[@fayesouthall6604]

There’s other good stuff, I watch more on Apple TV than Amazon Prime.

[@wintorz01]

Just wanna say, watching the journey of your skills as a content creator, the growth, development and improvement, have been just as much of a pleasure to watch as the videos themselves. Keep up the great work, and I'd love to see more of this series even though I've never watched the show, simply because of the topics you're discussing!

[@mylittlethoughttree]

That's genuinely very heartening to hear, thankyou!

[@maggie4640]

Wow, you made me realize how much I miss this show. Hopefully your future videos can tide me over till the next season ;)

[@dmalinu]

Brilliant! You touched all the points. I am absolutely delighted when Roy stuns us with subtle unexpected things, like telling Phoebe he'll play the dragon if she got the wand fixed, and mouthing along from the audience with the karaoke song from Frozen. 😂 I've been surprised when I recommend it, to have a couple of people tell me they can't watch this show, and I wonder what it triggers in them.

[@everausten]

Great analysis, there's so much to love about Ted Lasso characters and dynamics. Please do make many videos on this wonderful show! ✨ 🌟🌙

[@alexanderpreuss0701]

I watched this video when it was released, then watched the show, and now I find myself watching it again and I gotta say it's a great essay about a great show! I somehow missed your "psychology of NATE THE GREAT" video when it came out, gonna watch it next and I'm looking forward to seeing the other videos about this show that you announced in this video, especially about Ted himself and healthy femininity. Also really looking forward to seeing the next season of Ted Lasso :)

[@jossspear]

Please do more videos on all this points you made near the end! I love this show and your analysis is really great. I really enjoyed watching this.

[@1dullgeek]

I've discovered your videos on Ted Lasso late. And I'm sad that there's only two. In part because I love the show so much, and mostly because I find your explanations to provide further value to this show that I didn't even realize was there. So yes, more please!

[@mylittlethoughttree]

Well that's good timing! There's one coming this weekend

[@1dullgeek]

@@mylittlethoughttree w00t!

[@sydisverytired]

Really glad you make a video about this! Excellent as always :)

[@Bobainthome]

yeah the Roy consoling Jamie scene is so powerful cause is shows vulnerability in two strong men and it shows the struggle behind the façade of strength

[@grimmliberty7447]

One of the best breakdowns I've seen so far. Well thought out and articulated.

[@ItsNotAXylophone]

I will faithfully be here for as many Ted Lasso videos as you can put out!

[@daltonsaylor7556]

One of my favorite series you should absolutely make more content around it!

[@clindholm9396]

I would really enjoy any videos you do on Ted Lasso because this one was so good. It is a great show, probably my favourite at the moment. Your upcoming topics sound great! I would also love it if you talk about: the women in the show; Roy’s (and later Keeley’s) relationship with Phoebe and the impact of non-parental adults on a child’s life; and most of all Roy and Jamie - I find it interesting that many “growth” moment for Roy happen because of Jamie. Is it because, as you say, Jamie is what Roy once was? And yes, hands down the best scene is the one where Jamie punches his dad. The reaction of the whole team, horror and compassion, reflects our own feelings as the audience. So good! I will look for your other videos for sure.

[@Elnont]

I think Jamie Tartt is Ted Lasso’s best character. The bravado, the abuse he endured for years and the growth that comes from such.

[@hatafritjof]

Started watching your video and halfway into your analysis of Kent Roy I started watching the show. Watch both season in 2 days and loved it. Would love some more videos on this show

[@mathiasjameson9574]

Amazing video ! Couldn’t agree more ! One of the best writing on TV from the last few decades honestly

[@randieshanesings]

Agreed, agreed! You’ve given words to one of my favorite things about this show!

[@bangarJb]

I already looking for EP 2 of this...such a good take. On a brilliant show! Love the work buddy!

[@jesterkay3430]

This is exactly how we solve this. Pointing out the good examples! Love it!

[@Swiftraid]

Haven't seen the show, but would love to see more breakdowns of it 👍🏻

[@TheStrangeBeef]

This video was great, i could not say why i really loved this series. But you managed the explain it perfectly :)

[@AbsurdNotions]

This is a wonderful breakdown of positive masculinity in this show. Much appreciated.

[@tomomatick117]

I loved this one, I would love to see more from this show. Thanks for making awesome videos!

[@lieslfrankpsychickinesiolo4906]

Thank you for creating this I'm so sick of men being bashed and the phrase 'toxic masculinity' being constantly thrown around It's nice to see and hear someone praise and sing the positives if masculinity

[@DrZaius3141]

You do realize that the term "toxic masculinity" is not bashing men, right? It's important to me to know that people don't fall for this idiotic misinformation. When we say "toxic masculinity", it's putting an adjective before a noun, meaning we refer to a specific interpretation of masculinity, one that is harmful to the men that perform it and more often to those around them. What Jamie does at the beginning of the show is toxic masculinity, everything his dad does is toxic masculinity. It's what you get when men are insecure about their masculinity and try to perform their gender in exaggerated ways. It's the old overcompensation akin to tiny dick = expensive car, just here: I am weak and I've internalized that weakness is bad, so I put everyone else down so I can appear strong. No one is "bashing men". But smart people are bashing men when they behave in a fashion that harms others (and even then it's less "bashing" and more "trying to educate").

[@mylittlethoughttree]

I would counter this reply slightly and suggest "no one is SUPPOSED to be bashing men" I think a very, very minor majority are, but regardless of that, a lot of the exact "toxic" men who might need to change, tend to interpret all of it as an attack on men as a whole. They'd respond "toxic masculinity isn't toxic!! Men need to be strong and fight, it's what kept humanity safe from wolves" etc etc. All those arguments. They see the exact traits often called toxic as being the greatest masculine virtues, and it's hard to change their mind unless we emphasize the positives and then highlight the flaws. Which I think is what you're both hitting on, really.

[@yjmantilla]

I love this show. I came to knew it from randomly founding this video. Thank you!

[@KalCounty]

My favourite part of the show is the friendship between Ted and Beard. The actors and the writing are so good at depicting a solid, healthy male friendship that you don't often see. They trust each other, they're not threatened by each other's successes, they never tear each other down, they can be playful and engage in in-jokes to help each other through tough times, and you can just tell they have a deep, loving bond as best friends. And the best part is there's no "gay panic-y" jokes about being in love or whatever, their plutonic closeness is just accepted as part of their dynamic.

[@trevork7420]

I am keen for more Ted lasso videos. Never heard of the show before today, but you got me!

[@nicolemadsen3463]

Please make more Ted Lasso videos. I love the show and your analysis is spot on.

[@jeffb.2257]

Spectacular, brilliant. Thank you for the helpful insights and making concepts clear to understand. More!, more! More!

[@Psyker1123]

Never heard of this show but now, I have and will definitely have to watch it. I'm interested and that's on you to which I'm grateful for.

[@mylittlethoughttree]

Ah well thanks! You're welcome ☺️

[@beckywiththebadhair8331]

Just saw this. See the show yet? Great, right?! Amazing show. Didn’t really know why but this video helps me understand why!

[@toddhollen]

You should definitely do more videos about this show. I just watched it recently and it surpassed the hype

[@tehlime]

Would definitely watch more of your videos covering Ted Lasso!!

[@Stucck]

It would be awesome to hear your thoughts on the other characters and situations in this show. There is so much to unpack that 20 minutes is just not going to cut it.

[@kristinemckeown1746]

Beautifully done. Thank you for sharing your insight into these characters in such a meaningful and succinct way. This is a great video. Cheers!

[@RaphaelAlejandro]

Please do it. And I'm sad KZbin didn't recommend it to me before. I'm subscribed for ages, and there's a huge backlog of videos I never new was released.

[@suzrock]

Excellent job! I love the way you broke this down. Thank you!!!

[@iRockManKind]

I love this show!!!! Thank you for highlighting it !

[@NicoleElliot]

Really love your intake on a wonderful show. We need more shows like this! I think you mentioned something about healthy femininity. I would be interested in hearing more about that if you ever go around to creating a video about that :)

[@hilarysmith6720]

I will literally watch as many videos about Ted Lasso as you're willing to make! Every time I watch it, I notice some other nuance I hadn't seen before. I would love to hear your thoughts

[@Smoked_Cheddar]

I have never watched the show but this feels so relatable

[@anarchobaby]

pls more ted lasso videos!! i love love love this show & it has touched me in a way very few other shows have, i'd easily watch 10 more videos on it lolol

[@thedugal1373]

I love that show exactly because of all the things you mentioned. I'd love to you see talk about it more!

[@ShinyHunterSolyu]

I’m late in this since I just finished the whole series, but I can relate to Jamie. I didn’t know my biological father, so when my mom married my future father figure. I saw myself in his shoes, being bullied by the one man who is supposed to be stood in the place of where your biological father should have. I only cried not just cause I related to Jamie, I cried cause I stood up to him one day when my mom left him and he still felt that we were the issue. Till this day I have yet to speak to him and all I know through my sisters is that he hasn’t changed, he even gotten worse.

[@chaosvii]

This looks like the sort of show that I should share with my mom :) Looking forward to the next discussion that ties together things for even more well written characters!

[@marjikarlgaard1231]

Great show, but forewarn your mother about the “fruity language”. 😂 @&}%*

[@fayesouthall6604]

@@marjikarlgaard1231 especially Roy

[@suzannax]

I've never told my dad I love him, I think he'd feel really uncomfortable if I did tbh. They never show how anyone can resolve conflict healthily on TV. The was pretty mind blowing to see.

[@jaydisqus3353]

Try it, he might surprise you. I say that as a father ;)

[@reverse_engineered]

I rarely did, nor did my father say it to me. But as he experienced losing his father, and losing my desire to stay in contact with him, he started realizing how important it was and opened up to me. It took longer for me to forgive him and to start to express myself to him. Thankfully, we both were able to be honest and open with each other before he was passed away. I only wished we could have done it much sooner; we missed out on a lot of years together.

[@mylittlethoughttree]

It's always worth trying to tell him you love him. He may find it hard to hear, he may push back and play it down or possibly lightly take the mick...but he'll still take it to heart deep down. It can feel like a rejection when people aren't yet ready to open up to us in return, but that doesn't mean he won't appreciate it

[@pchurch692]

Love this! Great show and great analysis of it, thanks for the content.

[@lydia4382]

Love this! Would love more videos about this!