The Ideal Muslimah: Superficial Beauty Vs. Organic Beauty

This is the 4th installment of the Ideal Muslim/Muslimah series. During this discussion, Imam Shadeed Muhammad elaborated on the superficiality of beauty that has been accepted by many sisters today. He also highlighted the danger of brothers marrying women who don't meet their personal preferences in terms of beauty and begin to overcompensate for this through polygyny and sometimes infidelity. Please LISTEN and SHARE with others.

[@SahraMahamed]

“Islam is an organic religion. It teaches us to stand in our discomfort and be comfortable with who Allah has made us.” Wow, that hit me. Thank you.

[@jamilamarr9771]

Truth! Keep teaching us Akhi! I know you said reputation is important but I've always felt that character is more important than reputation. This is because character is who Allah knows are while reputation is who people think you are. What Allah knows is always more important than what people think!

[@Preciouss5478]

The lecture had me cracking all the way up, maa shallah. Good information.

[@kiesharodriguez919]

Being single with duaghters has been hard, so i really and truly thank Allah for giving you to the uma

[@Ibrahim7872]

I'm glad that you posted this. May Allah reward you

[@FaatimahsDollsllc]

This is very beneficial! May Allahu Ta alaa reward you! BarakahAllahu Feekum!

[@ajjahautedecormore5269]

MashaAllah. I enjoyed the lecture and needed to hear this!

[@haseenahmuhammad2553]

Wow. MashaAllah brother Shadeed. I cracked up. Good information. All can be backed up. I know I struggle but this is the truth. This is eye opening.

[@noorb8060]

This topic goes both ways. Makes life torture. Please shed light on what to do after the fact. Asalamu alaikum

[@hassankhurshid8574]

Asalaam a alikum. May Allah reward you highly bro. This is stuff my own dad hasnt taught me. InshaAllah this will help me big time moving forward.

[@kiesharodriguez919]

And May Allah keep infused with the strength of mind to keep sharing your knowledge of islam with our communities

[@mard7880]

I have watch this so many times and each time I watch it again, it like the first time...Such a power lecture!

[@kiesharodriguez919]

May Allah bless you for the knowledge that you share, you have been so helpful to my dean and my childrens dean. Shunkran

[@dhaahirahbudgets1446]

Thank you for stating the truth

[@asiyahad-deenislam5289]

MashAllah. Definitely appreciate this.

[@rashidawilliams2563]

this is facts he's speaking i love that he keep it for real with the brother and sister he tell you how it is i need a brother in my life like that keep me on the right path giving me knowledge about islam.

[@ummnuh5203]

Mashaa allah imaam shadeed ..such an inspiring talk..

[@aisham1057]

SubhanAllah! It's 2023 now. This topic needs to be repeated again, again and again! Great job and eloquently explained. جزاك الله خيرا

[@ka1257]

MashaAllah very nice talk one of your best

[@loveneverends9605]

💯!!! Jazak Allah Khair, Brother! I truly enjoyed this video. What city are you out of? Allah bless you, and your family.

[@Abu_Bilaal]

This was brilliant! 1:18:45 1:26:00 1:28:00

[@rashidawilliams2563]

cant wait into ramadan come up i have alot to take to the rug brother and sister can you please pray for my family and pray that my mom get better she is a little sick right now.

[@nelljones5799]

Thank you

[@zakiyaray8587]

MashaAllah Shadeed

[@dhaahirahbudgets1446]

Some of the sisters who do that are now struggling with not doing.

[@shamsamohamed5541]

Asalaam Alaikum, I have a question. You mentioned that it’s not ok to wear weaves, but what about dying your hair? I’ve been told as long as you’re showing it to your husband it’s ok.

[@sandismile4503]

👍😇 Peace & Blessings 🙏

[@AbdullahNajjar]

Mashallah!

[@zakiyaray8587]

Haqq ! These are facts !!

[@keica6062]

Genetically Modified organisms. 🏆True Knowledge🙌 All Good😔👏👏👏

[@Marchmadness86]

Truth 💯👏🏾👏🏾

[@feefs2139]

Preachhhh stay on our heads because im far from perfect bit Allah says hide your sins.

[@TheCeelist]

So as for reconstructing ( tummy tuck Breast lifts ext) surgery are you Says it’s permissible in Islam? Tnx

[@rahilakhdar3647]

TheCeelist yeah he needs to explain what he meant about reconstructive surgery because child birth and breastfeeding would definitely NOT be Halal reasons for reconstructive surgery

[@muslimahmusings1536]

Rahil Akhdar why? What if you have multiples and you have extra skin just hanging there?

[@rahilakhdar3647]

Hijabi Jones what do you mean by extra skin? Like when people lose a lot of weight and have extra skin? Breast may droop or become saggy so a woman would need to exercise because that's natural. Bodies change over time so you can't just get surgery because now you've got a "Mom" body. Allah made all of us beautiful no matter the changes. We can't even pluck our eyebrows or wear wigs because it's tricky so going further than that into cosmetic surgery is definitely haraam.

[@jamilamarr9771]

Reconstructive surgery for medical purposes is ok not for cosmetic purposes. So a breast reduction because you are having spinal issues is ok. But a breast lift because you want your breasts to be more perky is haram.

[@mariambey6072]

I would check with a scholar sis...

[@sissyblackwidowspider7529]

With all respect, is this the same video on facebook?

[@fatimaazmi7878]

Ahmad Ibn Hannbal didn't care about the beauty of his second wife, when they proposed him to choose between two sisters, one was younger and the other was more religious but older and blind in one eye , he chose the second one.

[@Sunnahiman]

As Salam Alaikum I believe that the heart is true beauty. I came from a different value belief. I always been attracted to the mind. Married age 20, 1972.

[@keica6062]

🏆😔Real👏👏👏

[@keica6062]

Truth🏆

[@rabiakyinat2419]

Truth!

[@dhaahirahbudgets1446]

Reminder benefits the believer

[@Sunnahiman]

As-Salaam Alikum ☪️ everyone may not be Muslims. I agree that this is insanity. African American Muslimah 50s generation. Companions of the fire.

[@dhaahirahbudgets1446]

Some of these brothers go after that before they look us or they want us to look like that

[@rjjackson6414]

I would like to listen to Sister Izza too. Could you give her KZbin link? You had mentioned her around 1:14:05. New to your channel.

[@ye23.]

Brothers are doing their brows now too !! Address that. And the crispy hairlines and bigen ur doing that for beauty purposes! Works both ways. Also u say men want beautiful woman but want us to walk around with bushy ass brows cmon now.

[@annural_whitner]

They get lineups on their hair and beard.

[@anonymousanonymous870]

Their love to point at women but forget they are doing the same That's why I don't them seriously

[@mariambey6072]

Asalamu Alaikum, I’m curious why wouldn’t you say that women also have the right to preferences, a handsome man??

[@peepitsslayplaya5334]

Mariam Bey Because beauty is feminine therefore a man doesn't have to look good that standard isn't applied to us our job is to protect and provide.... I don't think good looks and superficial standards pays bills??? Yeah so u get the drill don't play with a P 😂💰💎🔌🕌

[@Heynow96]

Women definitely have that right as well.

[@peepitsslayplaya5334]

Imane Doei no they don’t they can only ask for a price and we make it rain habibi no stop playing with A P- PRINCE🤨🤪

[@patrycjaw8323]

Marry who you are pleased with. You should not care what others think. If other women wanna marry men who they don't find attractive. Fab. You don't need to. Follow ur own rules 😏

[@behaviorminecraftroblox6327]

@@peepitsslayplaya5334 someone seriously misguided you. Some of you Muslim brothers are stuck in the 18th century when it comes to sisters and their rights/ needs. Women like attractive men… and prefer that.. stop the foolishness please.

[@keica6062]

Yes it did🙌😔

[@KweenAshuntae]

How do you feel about nose piercings?

[@amaalahmed2652]

Baraga love you

[@SheedLordBear]

Hold on brother Shadeed… you telling me I can’t get a light skin sister with some hair ? 😂

[@Sunnahiman]

WOMAN OF THE HELLFIRE I ☪️

[@KweenAshuntae]

Are locs haram if they are not meant to imitate Kufr?

[@peepitsslayplaya5334]

Ashuntae Hunter they are haram because they block water from reaching within your hair when making wudu....

[@mariambey6072]

Ashuntae Hunter Kufr sistah?? We throw that word around waaaayy to much!!

[@peepitsslayplaya5334]

Vikkalynne Abdullah they do they are not washed more than once a week in Islam that’s nasty the water has to go thru to the skull

[@JudgeDredd_]

The RealLoon Prodigy lmfao shut the fuck up bitch

[@ye23.]

Theyre not haram there was even a hadith directing a woman with braids/locs how to do wudu/ghusl Why would it be haram lol muslims too focused on that word

[@SheedLordBear]

Your eating habits don’t reflect your beauty! Lawd!!

[@khabirahshabazz2170]

What proof do you have of witch vendor is going to hell or not❓

[@dhaahirahbudgets1446]

It's like acting out a part

[@zxcccccc1]

It's unnatural that a man can't touch the hair of a woman he's intimate with.

[@khabirahshabazz2170]

gheeba is a major sin more than wigs, which I didn't find under major din explain/proof❗

[@asiyaaazeen7031]

Reminder benefits the Believer.

[@falaahblackwell1535]

These comments are worse than the video he mentioned of the Muslim sisters

[@keica6062]

🙌😔

[@SsQ119]

Brothers hilarious. i be walking with my wife at night telling her the same things about all the Muslims women today caught up in wearing fake hair nails and so on is fake in her character in reality.

[@Kat-mn6zi]

The way someone needs to receive what you say is important as well. What you are saying is true but don't miss the point that the way we wish to receive the truth needs to be without curse, toughness and a lack of sensitivity. We belong to Allah. Some may need you to speak respectfully if you want us to believe you are respectful in your heart. I trust your message, but the words are harsh for me to let my children listen. They may think it's okay to say these curse words. No matter if they are the lighter ones. I am 65 years old and I am ashamed to say those words in front of my mother and children. Representation of Islam would not contain this type of delivery. Keep up the good messages, but be careful of your passion and delivery. Keep your intent in doing this for Allah and you will not lose control this way. Please don't get upset about someone being offended of how you are representing. Take your own advise. Be careful and humble. Love you for the sake of Allah..Barakallahu fik. Fi imaan Allah

[@dhaahirahbudgets1446]

Haqq

[@naajiyahjess7694]

As salaamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Brother Shadeed, I hope you receive this message. I follow you on FB so I know you are quite busy preparing for Ramadan, Alhamdullah, but when you get a chance can you address what African American sisters, in particular, can do to beautify themselves? Our standards of beauty are based on European standards, which are usually haram, therefore, when we choose to abandon them, we are left with nothing. I've been Muslim for twenty years and I've been told that almost everything we use as black woman is haram... for example... gel and hair grease should be abandoned because they don't absorb water when making wudu... perms and coloring hair are a no due to the toxic chemicals they obtain, no nail polish because, it does not absorb water. Dredlocks are haram because they are resembling the disbelievers, short hair is haram because it is resembling men and so on. And on top of that, many of the hair styles we are accustomed to, are destroyed once the khimar is placed on the head and their are all of about 5 Muslim hair salons in the United States, only. I've discovered that us sisters are of three... the ones who just continue to do what is haram in regards to beautification out of frustration and show that publicly, the ones who secretly go to non Muslims to get their hair done, doing these acts of beautification in secret and those who just choose to look a hot mess. You are notorious for addressing topics, in depth, about our community that has yet to be addressed so I hope you'll consider this one.

[@khabirahshabazz2170]

I agree about women & falsehood but I totally disagree eith name calling & bashing, sisters can't adhere to the truth through name calling & bashing. The truth can be said and explained without this harshness, be mindful of the people & their understanding❗

[@khabirahshabazz2170]

Allaahu Alim what people say 💭 to their people, your job includes being mindful if what you're saying yo your people because of your message is damaging our minds ob any level, then you haven't done a good job..

[@ShareseWoodz]

Not use $80 from the GO Fund me page to pay a bill and then use the rest to get high! sheshhhh cthu I can't with you Imam

[@aminah761]

Not wearing hijab 🧕 u said is not a major sin 😳😳😳 Astafiruiliah

[@andrewsmicka1978]

i feel the same way. Allaah ta'alaa told the men and the women to veil themselves. for men loose fitted clothes, women the same. only difference her hair is included. without it being covered, can lead to an unwanted attraction.her body from head to toe needs protection. to Allaah jalla wa 'alaa be our guide. from 'Abdul Jabbaar from my sister micka's laptop. Al Hamdulillaah!

[@deedeee6271]

It's not about how you feel, it's about what the scholarship says.

[@dhaahirahbudgets1446]

Stop stealing from your sisters

[@kimca8418]

disobeying Allahs direct command is a sin

[@khabirahshabazz2170]

Im coming for you, like it or not, while you're bashing your people at the same time, pretending you doing your duty to Allaah. TAKE YOUR OWN ADVICE

[@falaahblackwell1535]

Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome ad self hate at the same time

[@khabirahshabazz2170]

You, call 📱 people too many awful names for anyone to take you seriously, or as a Khateeb… No you're a peoole basher as though you're perfect or have a perfect vision for us, WRONG… YOU DON’T 🤔

[@dhaahirahbudgets1446]

Makeup is not haram

[@goodakh4047]

Yes it is

[@aminah761]

Exactly

[@KEMIBA1]

It's not haram but it should only be on display for your husband

[@ye23.]

Didnt they use to wear eyeliner back in the day?

[@ye23.]

Bruh so you want women to walk around all hairy and shit? Doing your brows is part of grooming

[@zxcccccc1]

We all don't have the same eye brows, it looks like competition to me, trying to shape your brows like someone else's.

[@falaahblackwell1535]

You missed the point, and would go to the extreme with it.. Nobody don’t even walk around like that

[@bgblkb]

Haqq