The INFJ Burn Down.

[@FrankJames]

If you leave a comment, don't go back and burn it down. 🔥 Unless it's got grammatical errors. 🤓 New podcast episode with J.J. McCullough: bit.ly/2o4jglE Subscribe 👉 bit.ly/frankjames

[@LuneWatcher]

How the heck is this post 3 hours old? The video was posted like a minute ago.

[@thisispi1491]

Frank James hehe 💁🏼the cover 👌🏼looks like the case of those action movie badass guys, who walk away slo-mo and never ever look back at the explosions.....

[@Julia-LArt]

Finn ·-· I'm pretty sure Frank uses a magical futuristic timer that detonates at his time to be on universal KZbin time 😏

[@tikaardhany7568]

You're right. Everytime I recheck my comment so if I find a grammatical error, I edit it. But if the error is too bad, I delete it 😁

[@dmcook333]

@@tikaardhany7568 ha, sometimes I delete the comment and repost it so it doesn't have proof that it has been edited....*sigh*

[@thomyschumaker9961]

I don't usually leave comments, 9/10 I spend 15 min writing a comment and then delete it without posting and move on

[@Valianthe]

I relate to you. I typed out a funny and researched comment to another FJ video, and after 10 minutes decided it was unnecessary and never posted it.

[@ashrathnaleem3029]

So relatable... Lmao...

[@fluffyclouds555]

Thomy Schumaker yup

[@squeakymcsqueakerson3512]

Me too, lol. But mostly if I do comment I then delete

[@Meshellyis]

Same. =D

[@annamarkovic3161]

I delete comments I've made in the past because one day I just wake up and realize that the things I've said could be used against me... or I realize that people don't care about my opinion and therefore the comment I left in the comment section must disappear 🤷‍♀️

[@LuanZeqiri1]

I think i'am Enfp but i do things that you said too ? ;)

[@arielaehrens2695]

Yes, amen 🙃

[@zain4019]

Anna Markovic I delete comments sometimes because I really that even though the person I left the comment for really is acting like a horrible person, my comment was harsh and not going to help them get their shit together:)

[@christinemiller1967]

Anna Markovic it’s the latter for me.

[@blogoosfera]

I exclude when I reflect on a new point of view and realize that there is a flaw in my thinking, or that I feel that I was too hard or unfair on someone. Sometimes it takes me a while to realize when I fall into some contradiction, or even when I feel that my comment sounds ironic or sarcastic. I don't think irony and sarcasm contribute to a high level debate, but I am learning to change this perspective so I can understand that each one communicates the way he interprets the situation, but at the same time I try to take care not to hurt anyone with irony or sarcasm.

[@londonj2911]

FJ: INFJ's want to feel *extremely* prepared. Me: Prepares for 4 years to start my own KZbin channel ...

[@drivethrupoet]

@@TobySpeedySP INFJ hates that question

[@TobySpeedySP]

drivethrupoet, they dislike their bad habits being questioned?

[@slusam1000]

I wrote the exact same comment as this one 😂😶

[@metamorph5286]

The more I watch videos about different types, the more I feel like many of them. And I mean the intuitive types. But I'm an ENTJ And I am extremely sensitive And I have imagination So it's like I identify with everyone

[@justinfalzon6854]

had my one yr anniversary four months ago. Anniversary of preperation of course. lol

[@MollyPorter]

I don’t like to leave evidence. 😳

[@metalboy7861]

ps. this is going to be deleted later xx Molly

[@BellaRigelOrion]

Same! 💯😂

[@nibi535]

Me too 😂

[@PoppinDan]

Me too. Me too

[@PoppinDan]

It's like if you leave evidence people will figure you out.

[@toquival]

I smell a touch of insecurity here and as an INFJ, I relate. I don’t like exposing myself in any way, unless totally confident of the ones around me. I get to know myself even more through you, Frank, and I appreciate ya!

[@Nunya-77]

I told my therapist today Id have been less open had I known something previosuly wouldve had turned out as it did, but because I was I was mad at myself.

[@3linkin10]

i guess Se inferior also plays a part when this happens, because of being insecure of what kind of experience we (Ni heroes) give to others, we sometimes delete old posts that's becoming irrelevant or "cringy"

[@YAMISOOLD2009]

I hate exposing myself publicly. By way of example, I am quite comfortable working on an outside project on the back side of my house where only two neighbors can see what I am doing if they even care to. But I HATE working on an outside project on the front side of my house where MANY people can see what I am doing and judge my work.

[@sarahleewatson]

I felt that

[@Massi94211]

Shoutout to all the comments I've deleted. R.I.P.

[@TheAworley1978]

Massi Mant 👍🏼👆🏼

[@FrankJames]

😪💔

[@srs1659]

Also to the likes that I unliked later

[@karo.0lart]

🤣

[@LindaChapman-u2c]

👍❤️‍🔥😂

[@Noueilaty]

Dang, Frank James always calling me out. *deletes comment*

[@jencgold]

Hassan Noueilaty 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤭🤭

[@사랑해-s7u]

@@AmyE89 Lol, I know I was just about to add that

[@kath1017]

Lol

[@evanescenthumor8052]

Totally didn’t write this comment 20 times before posting it...

[@wihh87]

Gah man you totally get me

[@summersunsets9556]

Evanescent Humor, Same I do that all the time.

[@tessrae.9346]

The number of times in the past I've posted a Facebook status only to delete it 2 minutes later is ridiculous. Number of times I've gone back and edited is even higher. I'm already regretting this comment as I type it.

[@annamarkovic3161]

Julie Puderbaugh same

[@riefkariefani7552]

I feel it too. Hahaha

[@_SY77]

But the amount of discarding the comment in KZbin probably higher.

[@jenniemashburn8037]

🤣 I relate to this way too much

[@blogoosfera]

Yes, me too! Especially when I think it's a very good joke and then I think, "This is ridiculous. No one will like it."

[@BrendaHouston_]

I’ve “burned down” an account on every social media platform I’ve signed up for. This is true!

[@basilbaby7678]

No regrets.

[@RuuhulHubbi_Laila]

It's been 3 years for me. No regrets... 😅

[@TheAworley1978]

Lioness same... several actually

[@ASJacob]

Same! Expect my SoundCloud, even took down my blog, where i wrote about 50 pieces (poems, pieces, haikus)

[@LaurenLinguist]

@@ASJacob OMG did you at least have a copy off all of that creative work?!? Please say yes!!!

[@mariob616]

You are best guide for INFJ's

[@noeller9187]

"Criticism, or even just anticipation of criticism, can cause an infj to burn it all down" I HAVE NEVER FELT MORE CALLED OUT IN MY LIFE

[@ifixthingsjr]

Lmao me everytime I put a story up on Instagram, two hours later I'm like, "Yep, nope I overshared, need to remove this immediately."

[@betterleftsaid3688]

Yep! 😂

[@estherbednar3260]

Wait, other people do this too?!? (and I can blame it on my being an INFJ??) yessssssss

[@TheAworley1978]

singthebodyelectric 😂🤣

[@nobodyknows3260]

lol 😄 that's great

[@BlakChloVer]

When I go back and burn it down, I soothe myself by feeling accomplished that I put it out in the universe in the first place. (Delete, delete, delete.)

[@NoniAyannaGobernRoach]

lol!

[@pituitaryglandisthemasterg1937]

Ohhh so relatable hahahaha

[@tigerex777]

what about this one? I bet you feel really confident about this one particular comment because it's short and not much room for mistake lol. I'm a weird a INFJ that deletes too many comments too.

[@BlakChloVer]

@@tigerex777 Ha! That's a good point. I tend to overthink the short ones too though. You sound normal to me!

[@tigerex777]

@@BlakChloVer ha! Normal, that sounds nice. I've always wanted to feel 'normal' for once. Take care.

[@kimbo7777]

One reason this happens to me is that I don't want to cause problems

[@purplelinny]

We don't do conflict very well. We prefer to be peace seekers, using diplomacy. It often works, but our ignoring of issues in the name of peace can also leave us feeling frustrated because we knew there's a better way... It's just that most people won't get it. That sounds conceited, but, I've learned the hard way that we deplete our energies in the name of trying to create order out of chaos, often, to no avail. We learn to discern when it's worth using the energy.

[@jenniferduncan-boyden8674]

@purplelinney I used to be a real conflict avoider but then I got into conflict with someone who hated it more than I did, and I learned what I really hated was not conflict as much as the lack of resolution. I think we tend to quit when it gets difficult and so there we are upset with all our feelings. This realization helped me to approach conflict very differently.

[@purplelinny]

@@jenniferduncan-boyden8674 My goodness. That is so true! I'm discovering that there are people out there who we can have very civil conversations with to get through very delicate and heated matters. So it's not conflict, it's resolution seeking. I like to reframe things and you just helped me do that with the thought of conflict. 😊

[@bluemiyuBlueBird]

When I comment about something on the internet, I always try to see my comment from someone else's perspective... then, I delete it because I imaging what the other must be feeling and I dont want their day to be bothered by a stranger's comment on something that could have been insignificant. To be honest right now I am trying hard not to delete this comment because I think it's too long...

[@vibrantpixels9465]

Honestly I can relate 100%

[@tigerex777]

It was so long I felt like I was reading a book lol. Just joking, INFJ here that agrees with you.

[@louiseavannorden4710]

Dan L I’m an INFP. I feel the same way that INFJs do. Totally...

[@landrybeck]

Hmm...thinking back to the moments I DELETED my Facebook, and dumped an ex boyfriend. There was one common thread that ran through both. I felt a complete lack of respect for all things me. I believe there may be a connection between the burn down and the door slam. It’s our way of passively aggressively proclaiming to the world that it just isn’t worthy of us. I realize that this sounds incredulously pompous, but it’s true. We might relate to you. Indeed, we can relate to you a lot. But if you refuse, or are incapable of empathizing and relating to us, we’re out like a migrating bird that isn’t coming back.

[@christinemiller1967]

Landry Beck I feel that.

[@evegreenification]

Well said.

[@basilbaby7678]

You 👏 nailed 👏 it 👏. If I’m trifled with, or hurt...I’ll unleash an Infinity Gauntlet level snappening on our shared reality...even if it eradicates an aspect of my life too.

[@landrybeck]

@Hannah, whenever I find the ability to talk 10 minutes or more without notes like FJ. And more importantly, whenever I find something original and noteworthy to say. I’m much better at reacting to content vs creating it.

[@AncestralGratitude85]

Same. Edit: Sorry guys. I'm new to this & I'm actually INTJ. I got confused. Perhaps, though, depending on your mood it influences how you answer the personality test & at different times one will resemble more of one type versus another.

[@singular9]

I hopped on Instagram when it came out and dedicated it to my photography... Deleted it and removed so traces.... Lost a lot of memories (1000+ posts in so many years) If no one needs us (INFJ's) we just want to disappear... Time to go work more overtime

[@terrylynn4231]

I did not know you had a podcast. That new info makes this INFJ happy.

[@mariposarae8366]

Thank you for not burning down your content and for being such a good example for your fellow INFJs! 💛

[@Angela-bw7sn]

And that's why I quit hairdressing; you can't burn down someone's hair.

[@ggresham4419]

Lol

[@fluffyclouds555]

Angela lol

[@ziyuki]

😂😂😂😂

[@elephantshrew6304]

You can; but you shouldn’t.

[@Marion89gr]

Of course you can! It's called bleaching

[@pyrogreg8]

Ha! I've been using the memories feature on Facebook to slowly delete all my old cringey posts

[@Marixpress2]

Greg Hornby lolol

[@ashleyrangel2061]

Me too! 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@CelesteSeeker]

Omg, same! Just yesterday! Lol!

[@ahesterman79]

Greg Hornby bahahaha same!! I was distinctly cringey before about 2012 when I apparently stepped it up. 😂

[@montanabirdmommy]

Greg Hornby me too!!!!!

[@sydwelltlhola4211]

we are like the phoenix. From the burnt ashes we hope to create something better...which doesn't always work

[@wingwaves940]

@Sidwell Tihola That was a Brilliant post! Thank you for the shift in perception of the ashes!

[@wentropy]

We burn ourselves down! :)

[@wingwaves940]

@@wentropy That's a whole lot of truth there!

[@rushpatriot2866]

Delete this immediately

[@christophertan6930]

😂

[@Zosio]

I used to be a major "burner" until my ENFP husband noticed that I was doing it periodically to my writing. He made a house rule against deleting anything. 😂

[@wintersstar5830]

Lol

[@monkihunta]

Friend of teenage me: Your writing is really good Teenage me: When I read what I've written I feel like I'm rifling through my own vomit

[@tigerex777]

We are so critical of ourselves, aren't we.

[@pink5345]

Jo Legge 💖

[@dallascade5085]

When you started talking about obsessing over a thing so much that it leads to a burn down, my own actions started to make a lot more sense to me. I do the biggie, absolute unit of a thicc boi Burn Down with my writing. I either delete it all/scrap everything or I just don't write because I feel like I'll ruin the image/fantasy that is in my head. I also started over on this specific comment five times now. Thank you for making the content that you do, Frank James. Stay healthy, hydrated, happy, safe, and memey as all hecc!

[@cookiekyung4635]

This is so relatable. When I write and end up not getting satisfied, I either delete everything or just give up. I don't like tampering my ideas with my poor execution. It just ruins what I have in mind.

[@strictnine5684]

Dallas Cade as an artistically gifted (or so my parents say) INFP, I relate to this. What do I hate most about my hobby? Being told it looks good when I'm done with it. People try to explain to me how I'm being too harsh on myself and not seeing the beauty in what I've done, this isn't true. I can tell that it has some good, I spent the past hour trying with my every fiber to make sure it did. Does it look like the picture I had in my head? Absolutely not. It's a hollow duplicate, a forgery of the original.

[@Theothermora]

As a writer with countless abandoned manuscripts, I truly felt this. My current novel in progress has 4 chapters written and I want to "burn it" but I must resist and soldier on or else I'll never complete anything. UGH I truly hate this part of my personality. Thanks, FJ, for the advice. It puts everything into perspective.

[@heidiv5720]

Brene Brown calls it something like a "vulnerability hangover" or something. This is me.

[@fluffyclouds555]

Heidi V yep. Great term. Been echoing in my head the moment I heard it

[@KTSierra001]

Omg love this term.

[@hazelold2882]

Nice to have one of your old style ‘FJ to camera’ videos 😘 I’m a sentimental girl 😊

[@moonmanmike69]

I burn down comments, but if I'm being honest i burn down my thoughts before i even verbalize them, all the time. I'll see an attractive women, I'll see that she's interested, then i will immediately try and find what is wrong with them, so i can convince myself why i shouldn't get with them. Usually because they're untrustworthy or they are an e girl and im not doing that bs. Thus resulting in never talking to them, and just confusing the hell out of them and myself lol

[@zain4019]

“Or they are a girl and I’m not doing this bs” Wow that seems unhealthy as fuck and quite undeservingly hateful.

[@moonmanmike69]

@@zain4019 no, i said "or they are an e girl" meaning they have an online persona, like streamers or something. I'm saying i don't do that bs, because it's thirsty af and so much more.

[@moonmanmike69]

@jo kingh yeah, i feel you there. It's like i don't want to be alone, but i don't want to deal with being misunderstood and being screwed over whenever i let my guard down and open up lol, so I'll just see bad traits and stay away. Let's not even beging to open the hypergamy box that comes with the female attraction...

[@John-ih7gp]

Hahaha. Thanks for bringing that up. I can relate to this so much

[@wihh87]

God damnit I do this

[@bleepbloopbleep87]

lmfao "crippling self awareness" I felt that in my soul.

[@mariajosefinavegaok]

I was talking about this with one of my friends yesterday! I've had many blogs but after a while I tend to delete them just because I think my content is not good enough. Which is really frustrating when you are a journalist... Wrong profession, I guess.

[@allyh.publico1823]

Frank, your channel is basically an ongoing manual describing the organized chaos that is my brain. Love ya and stay attractive

[@arisemylove]

If only we could "burn down" past verbal comments as well. 😫

[@andreabryant9979]

Yes, I believe this is why I’m a quiet person. & yes, I was going to say more but I deleted it. 😐😕😄

[@drivethrupoet]

Thank you for somehow breaking down my psychosis and making me feel less psychotic at the same time.

[@meganterry4070]

Retroactive perfectionism. Brilliant.

[@zzbellie]

"They just want to share stuff" Im a INFJ and i love to share stuff but i talk REALLY soft so most cant hear me unless i yell so the internet is meh thing Im am probably going to delete this

[@basilbaby7678]

I tend to lurk so long , in a group session, that by the time I want interject, the world has moved on.

[@louiseavannorden4710]

RandomゼロPerson { iM jUsT mIcHaEl iN tHe BaThRoOm } I’m an INFP. I used to love sharing things I was excited about, that meant a lot to me, but I found that nobody else cared,so I’ve stopped sharing. It makes me sad. But, oh well...

[@b4iwakeup]

✋🏼 ’feeling like an imposter’

[@pink5345]

b4iwakeup same

[@humminbirrrd]

It's so good to hear you articulate this, FJ. I relate. So many times I've gone back to burn comments. I never post on fb, twitter or insta because I don't want to put myself out there... I've never thought about this before, but now I think this is part of the reason I don't like texting with people I don't know very well/feel totally comfortable with/etc. If I say something wrong (ie, in the wrong way), or am too revealing or honest, or simply change my mind about what I said - there's nothing I can do. The person has the proof right there forever. I hate that 😫

[@amystarstimulusandcrypto4303]

I do this. If I get rejected, shot down, or insulted, I remove it. I don't want it just hanging out there. It can be embarrassing. I'm an INFJ. PS I do this all the time. I'm such a perfectionist. If it's not good enough, I just can't move on and I have to destroy it. I AM super sensitive. I'm afraid of criticism because I didn't ask for it. I don't like negative feedback. It makes me think my message isn't helpful. I went to college a lot. It's like having a professor who doesn't like my schoolwork. It's crippling. I know who I AM, but I don't like imposing on others. I'm shy. Who am I to put a message out there? So I burn it down. Symbollically 🔥

[@jennakirkby8672]

Being an INFJ is so much fun 🙃

[@el.lament]

Me: Posts a comment on this video. Edits it. Edits it again. Deletes it.

[@Jade.R3210]

Me 😂

[@arisemylove]

Friend: "I want to read your latest book" Me: "No! It's not finished yet!" Friend: "Wait, I thought you said it was published??" Me: "Well, it is, but..."

[@pink5345]

Spring Hellams 🤣

[@robertbrewer4164]

I always think I'm not a perfectionist, because I have no problem creating and sharing. But this makes total sense, because I've also burned so much down over the years. Love the term retroactive perfectionism.

[@shih_tzu_warrior]

“Gently tap the like button.” Brilliant.

[@jkcollisions5623]

Y the yin & yang dp?

[@shadownor]

Damn I do this a lot

[@tnn963]

me too

[@wingwaves940]

Me 3

[@ElvenWisdom]

You are giving away all our secrets Frank lol! This is especially true for those who score high in “Conscientiousness” on the Big Five Personality tests. I burn down a lot of things after sharing, because my intuition kicks in and I get a strong feeling not everyone will understand me...and it’s such a waste of my energy and emotions to have it out there in the world and not be understood and connect to others. If I am made fun of or insulted for the deepest share-I have a hard time with that because connection is so important. I don’t care if I am “liked” by others, I care that I can connect to them or make a connection. If I feel I can’t connect with anyone, then it’s not important. It must be the “perfect” connecting idea or thought. This is absolutely correct. I burn things to the ground (many videos, my comments, my posts) as if they never even existed without even looking backwards. 🔥 But then I find new ways to connect to others in its place. 🌱 ✨ At the end-you are right, I leave many videos out here in KZbin world now more because I have reached the age of not self doubting myself as much. You must value yourself to leave your thoughts for others to see. Somebody will connect to you and feel better for it, my fellow INFJs.

[@TheAworley1978]

This is exactly how I feel. Like I speak my own language and trying to translate it for others to under and is hard because I don’t communicate how most do and I just KNOW it’s not going to reach the potential I need it to and I feel myself cringe and it’s easier to delete it than sit with the naggin feeling I failed at one of the most important things to me... connecting inspiring being understood and accepted. It’s that along with the issues mentioned in almost every comment I’ve read about this video by so many, And it’s much easier to delete it and it become a habitual reaction to being so uncomfortable and OUT THERE 👀

[@CelesteSeeker]

I SO get this. I have made a few comments on YT videos that got taken completely the wrong way and I got trolled hard. It wasn't that I said anything wrong, it was just people looking for a fight. Instead of engaging with them or risking more people piling on, I just deleted the comments and unsubscribed from the channels so I didn't have to deal with stans continuing to harass me in the comments sections. I wanted to start my own country-living type lifestyle channel but this trait of mine has made me realize that I'm not ready yet, because there is no way I am willing to sit there and read people's hateful and toxic comments on everything from my appearance to how I run my household. ...I edited this 4 times before I was satisfied with the wording, jury is still out on the punctuation.

[@hollyp.8849]

Stop dragging me like this, Francis. ✋🏻 Being painfully (perhaps even excruciatingly) self-aware, I know that I have always derived an unhealthy amount of my self-worth from my work. And when you work in a helping profession like teaching, it’s hard not to rake yourself over the coals when people aren’t getting the message as you intend it. When I switched schools and grade levels last year, I was totally underprepared and felt like burning it all to the ground. Looking at it now, though, I’m so relieved I stuck with it. As rough as it was to have to self-reflect on all of my failures last year, it’s paid dividends this year. P.S. I deleted the first few comments I wrote you, because I was like, “Holly, you dumbass, why would you bother this random guy on KZbin with your tangents?” But nevertheless, she persisted 😏

[@wingwaves940]

You Must persist!!! You're very needed and each school year and class is very different and I've never had so much fun in my life. And I also just deleted half of my post to you. :)

[@FrankJames]

just don't mention your thoughts about burning the school to the ground or you might get in trouble

[@IYKYKtwins]

I am a pyromaniac, FJ 🔥 Thank you for your honesty. It is hard to put yourself out there, yet somehow you are doing it on a global scale every week. (And you are making a difference, even if your self doubt is screaming the contrary). 🤗

[@Vezmus1337]

I think most of this has to do with repressed extraverted sensing (4th function Se). From what I understand there is a strong tendency for types with dominant introverted intuition (including INFJ and INTJ) to think that if only we had the perfect hypothetical plan that nothing could go wrong while forgetting that plans require a physical execution in the real world to be tested. Perfect plans therefore require the experience of imperfect executions and real world experiential data so they can be reformulated. This is where the problem of "perfectionism anxiety" comes from. This sort of ties in with the reason why these types would be prone to not having a strong sense of identity since their ideas or plans are always being "updated" with new data. The healthy manifestation of this would be some old and purposeless part of the psyche dying off and being replaced with something new and better. The unhealthy version happens when we decide to throw the baby out with the bathwater just to be on the safe side. Interestingly this means that your identity is not static but is really made of whatever part of yourself survives each iteration and reinvention of yourself over a long span of time. This is where the "door slam" or "burn down" comes into play, as after you grow as a person, it seems you actually become a different person and want the exterior surroundings to match and mirror the interior change, and going back to the old thing after it has died off seems entirely unnatural and alien, giving the "imposter syndrome". Also interesting to note is that it takes a lot of discomfort to get to the point where you are willing to make that sacrifice, but once you have made up your mind about it there is a tendency to be 110% committed to it so there can be no reversing it or turning back. The idea of sacrificing a part in the now for the sake of the whole in the future seems like a very dominant intuitive process, and is why these types are generally the best future planners. This has a lot in common with religious symbolism such as a plant dropping its fruit only to regrow the next spring or cutting off a part of the body (hopefully metaphorically) to save the soul, which is the fundamental idea behind "faith". This "faith" in sacrificing part of the present for the whole of the future is what allows these types to make the key decisions that need to be made with total commitment so they can burn down the entire forest to catch the bandit who wants to watch the world burn.

[@kay1876]

INFJ Ni,Fe,Ti,Se,Ne,Fi,Te,Si INTJ Ni,Te,Fi,Se,Ne,Fe,Ti,Si It's quite fascinating how sharing the same 1st dominant hero, 4th inferio/aspiration, 5th nemesis worry, 8th super ego gateway but having opposite synchronicity with their group extroverted deciding functions "Te and Fe" results and such similar yet different proposals on the perfect outcome. Each hypothetically perfect proposed situation is impossible to implement in the real world due to extremely underdeveloped Te and Fe cognitive functions as a whole civilization that results in simply frankly whatever you want to call it poor choices... people are misinformed and they don't have the wherewithal to understand that!

[@basilbaby7678]

Why so serious?

[@Vezmus1337]

I think I agree, one of the most difficult lessons to learn in life is the limitation of our perceptions. Most people think they see the world as it really is but are really only seeing a particular perspective. The information that we receive first has to pass through the filter of our awareness which is determined by the fundamental beliefs that we hold about what the world is like, such that our beliefs shape what we see even more than what we see shapes our beliefs. So the problem is that we have to first be made aware that this process is automatically happening. Most people are unaware of the extent of their unawareness. If a person's fundamental axiomatic truth beliefs happent to be flawed, then everything they think they know is also going to be skewed in light of that cognitive bias, and because they lack even the awareness of the existence of the problem, it makes it almost impossible for most people to understand it, much less develop it so they can overcome the inadequacies of their perceptions and see more clearly. You basically have to explain to people how everything they think they know about the world is really an illusion carefully constructed by the mind that is based on values which are handed down each generation through our collective consciousness and the archetypal stories we tell. It's like explaining to a person in a dark cave that they only think they can see because their eyes have adjusted from being in the darkness for too long, and that there exists outside the cave light many more times brighter that they can't currently see unless they leave the cave.

[@thecatholicarsonist]

I didn’t realize how much I needed this...... Woah......

[@jennhendrickson8728]

I've done this my entire life because I am constantly trying to improve (perfect?) myself and find some kind of permanent self identity (to simplify and stop trying to "find myself"). So when I put something out into the universe - usually in the heat of a moment of NEEDING to spread wisdom or truth or express my very important feelings (is that arrogant?) or feeling desperate for support or understanding - I start to feel uneasy that there is something permanent out there that may define me in a way I don't want to be defined - needy, know it all, strange, cynical, neurotic, negative, weak, anxious - and I just have to destroy it. I dont want to be labeled as any of those things, whether it is a result of being misunderstood, or because im truly exhibiting negativity or whatever. INFJs, I think, are afflicted with a weird kind of narcissism. We care greatly about how we are perceived by others, but not in a typical narcissistic way. We just want to be understood. And while Ive always very much wished for stronger self identity, I also don't want to be attached to any identity in case I want to change or improve myself at some point. It's a horribly frustrating way to exist. Perpetual self doubt and questioning...

[@valkyrie_592]

I do get this! But first, yes it is somewhat arrogant as well as ignorant, but that doesnt necessarily mean its bad at that time. And the thoughts about it being arrogant coming up, makes you realise that it could be. So it has come fill circle. You cant control other people, so stop trying. Just as you burn things down because you care too much about someone's opinion or how it is not perceived, you should start using that intuition for yourself and tune down the things that dont matter. Learn to change perspectives and be your own critic. Thats what an infj is good at naturally

[@therookerybookery]

Makes me think Banksy must be INFJ - that picture he did that went up for auction, but had a shredder hidden in the frame that he triggered when the hammer went down!

[@FrankJames]

oh that's interesting xD

[@KarlaFlores-lt6xj]

Anticipation of criticism hahaha. This is so accurate! I can't even begin to describe all the messages, comments, videos, blog posts, tweets, etc. I've gotten rid of because of this. Hopefully, I won't delete this comment. 😅

[@sapphirus777]

I'm watching this after purging all my cloud storage last week. Lol

[@robynb1310]

I left a comment on someone's video yesterday and they already replied to it so I couldn't burn it down, I had to make a new comment apologizing for the other comment.

[@agoogler9251]

Imagine how hard it is for an infj to raise a child.

[@Ameliafromhere]

A Googler why? I’m an INFJ and I actually relate more to my kids and intuitively know what’s going on with them more than anyone else. And if they’re struggling with something and don’t quite know how to articulate it, I can figure it out pretty quickly and that has caused us to form a really strong bond. Plus I’m the cool mom in the neighborhood.

[@prntrfxr]

(ENFP) I think this person was referring to the feelings that many INFJs have which is whether they are really good parents. My mom (INFJ) does this a lot. All my ENFP issues with not being able to focus, concentrate or finish, etc...she thinks is her fault, no matter how I try to reassure her. My mom is my best friend and I think she is awesome! I'm not saying we didn't have our issues (that J thingy is a problem sometimes), but everything important for life, I learned from my mom. Example: When my brother learned to change the oil in his truck or rotate the tires himself, she said, "teach your sister, so if she ever has issues with her car she will not be helpless." Because of this,I can literally do just about anything and I am not afraid to try. I have done all these things including replacing my own headlights. I have also installed my own ceiling fans, power outlets, switches, circuit breakers, put up sheetrock, tile, roofing, concrete, and have done plumbing (Even replaced a section of main water pipe at work with a nylon cord because the maintenance guy wanted to wait until Monday to come in.) None of that would have happened had my mom not encouraged me to learn. She always said, "Never say no to anyone who will teach you something for free. You will never know what you will do with it in the future." My mom taught my brother to cook. He was on his own across the country, couldn't find an opening in HVAC work, and got a job as a short-order cook. He thanked her and said it was either cook or starve, but if she hadn't taught him it would have been the latter.

[@Dr_Nutrition]

Gives me insight into why I never had kids

[@imanitrobinson9485]

I want to start a KZbin channel, but I’m waiting for the “right” moment

[@stefanipicchi257]

I do this continuously. From an energetic standpoint it felt uncomfortable to leave my truth ‘open for attack’ by another; when in all honesty, it was never up for debate. I’ll delete text threads entirely days later. Making one appear they are only speaking to themselves but not wanting one to reread what I wrote previously. Another scenario, I’ll later feel my seemingly positive and empowering words left on another’s post could be viewed or felt as intrusive or misinterpreted altogether, and go back to delete to avoid this entirely. I find myself constantly deleting old posts, and writings. Viewing my life as a masterpiece and each ‘burn down’ as an edit to the creative endeavor of this soul expansion journey. Definitely a huge quirk of the infj and truly appreciate your calling out of such antics. I wonder if I’ll keep this up for longer than a day, in all honesty. I’ll choose to call this quirk, ‘living in the power of now’.

[@thornecezanne7096]

Thank you for this. I do this often. I share these grandiose thoughts and when people don't get it I get upset. I thought I was a bit off 🤣

[@lin9381]

I always wish I could burn down conversations in person so often!

[@amberwren]

When you become an ancient one, you'll create something incredible and people will ask where were you 30 years ago (hides in photos changes names etc...). I love this. Sculpting beneath the surface to bring something amazing at the right time. New everday.

[@TheAworley1978]

Ambe Long YES!!!!!

[@amberwren]

@@TheAworley1978yup 🙂

[@amberwren]

Dear @@prntrfxr Enfp'r, I understand. I'm an INFJ at work and and I/ENFP personally depending on life events and age. I'm 54 and have success in so many different forms but if I told people I think they'd be shocked. I stay low key, I morf, I research, I network when I have too, laugh a lot, pray and yes, new everyday. It keeps me happy and I can share with the world for the greater good. I'm realistic but have joy when people find healing or inspiration. Or something in society shifts. Too much to say here. My vlog will start as soon as I'm able. Hope to share then. God bless you with a purpose filled and inspired day. And don't let the turkeys get you down. Thanks Frank for your daily insights, love and care. Look after you too. You're precious. Thanks Enfp. Keep sharing the joy and here's a hug cause I know you love them. Bless 🕊

[@amberwren]

and then there are the Eneagramms@@prntrfxr lol Add to the mix 1 perfectionist reformer and that pretty describes me at this present moment. I've learnt that we are not perfect but perfectly loved. Yes I have changed throughout my life. Infj appeared via fundamental shifts in work, relationships and life. I was part of a team that won an Academy Award in the Arts on a film I see people have enjoyed visually and learnt from via the exquisite sub text it was made from. I've been a Church minister and helped run a homeless shelter. I've been in complicated relationships both at work and home. I do not shy away from what's real but still love deeply in my heart. When I'm with my children ah hello, they are where my Enfp moments appear and the joy is indescribable. I've experienced life in many different ways and interacted with many people who I've learned from, who really really did open my eyes and were catalysts for the 'flips' in core values and character. My Mom passed away a year ago and 7 family and friends all together in 2 years, and that fundamentally shifted and changed me at the core. I believe in nature and nuture. I have had times where I've been similiar to 'Ellen', bubbly but serious (using pop culture references here) at work and at home. But, life and experience happen. And yes Infj are the flip of Enfp. And that has definitely occured the maturer, responsible and more discerning I've become, especially in my career. When I write or have moments in reflection the Infp facet appears and I have lengths of time in this state. Like a diamond. The facets pick up shade and light. It's important. For that I can vouch. I'm Ambidexterous (actually both handed) too so have right and left hemispheres working overtime. I accept that these are ever evolving parts of a whole. I do note that conscioussly I realised the fundamental shift in my character a while back, and discussed this for feedback with my children. Because it was so obvious to me. Did the Myers-Briggs again and sure enough I had changed (its 5am here. Most likely re-write this again, burn, write again. Unsubscribe. Subscribe. Change my name again {no not again lol}& pray). Prayers are the most powerful thing. They go into the heavens and are understood even if they're just groans. Hmmmm. At this moment in time I teach Christian and secular meditation. Peace is success. Love is the answer. God bless.

[@amberwren]

@@prntrfxr I hear your take on the world and respect that. Actually was going to say I respect Frank for doing what he does. I'm a Messianic Jewess. Grew up living both forms of Faith. I worked for the Dalai Lama. Study as a Kabbalist. And after a long challenge with physical disabilities was miraculously born again and healed 15 years ago. Life's a challenge. My faith in Yeshua and His peace give me strength. I want that for everyone. I totally understand your viewpoint. I was an angry punk playing Bass in my late teens and heavy dark music before realising the anger I had was hurting me. I became a hippy (I'm far more conservative now). Had my children. We evolve. It's life. I pray you well on your journey. Yes, we could speak for hours. Years maybe lol. And here I am thinking of Frank. I'm sorry our commentary has taken a big chunk out of his page here. But as the Infj he is, I'm sure he knows that good Art creates dialogue. So hmmm, well done Frank 😉 And I know you infj guys. You want every woman to love you but secretly love one woman. I pray you find your joy 🦋😌🙏🏻🕊

[@EvieReddingWrites]

I burned down my first few KZbin videos for all of these reasons ... 😂 The self-doubt is very real too... Me: ::gives reason for patterns in humanity:: ... Also me: I dunno...maybe I’m not qualified to have this opinion... Other person: don’t you have a master’s degree on this topic? Me: yeah but....😬 ::has intense urge to burn it down:: Great video!

[@MidnightMeka]

Yes ive had so much trouble with purposely keeping videos up. Ive thankfully learnt that even though i dont hit everyone in the specific way i want to, what i create is enough, keeping it out there is enough. I'm really glad i found your channel :) it makes me feel a lot better and also helps me sort out my inner knots that i have to work on and undo. Its heavily appreciated

[@BellaRigelOrion]

INFP who decided to watch this out of curiosity and it is hella relatable. I've done this on your videos, but it comes from a place of wanting to be considerate & not leave anything that wouldn't be postive in case you read it. I do this on YT and social media a fair amount. Also, I tend to write paragraphs & have gotten nasty replies from strangers for doing so. Sometimes I leave without posting it. I consider it up there with your older journaling video, getting the thought out without leaving the evidence & dealing with the consequences. I'll restrain myself and post this whole thing, this time! 😝

[@zain4019]

Sigh. An an INFP, I wish I could go back to that more simpler time it was unthinkable for me to leave blistering comments for specific people. Their hatred gets to me (and I mean seething, deep cruelty) and I leave the nastiest of comments.

[@prntrfxr]

(ENFP) lol...I used to laugh when I was in grade school at my younger brother (ISTP). I would write an essay and he would write one the next year. Sometimes we wrote on the same subject. His essay would be 1 page long and mine would say the exact same information but be 4 pages long with diagrams and pictures.

[@basilbaby7678]

I wonder if over-explaining is an IN thing. It’s like, I have to include all of what I consider to be the essential parts. I have a concept, and it’s more of a web of interlocking knots, than a linear story. I’m doing it right now, aren’t I? lol

[@prntrfxr]

@@basilbaby7678 It is probably an NF thing in general. INFJs seem to have a more literary vocabulary, speak a bit slower, and stop in the middle of what they're saying to think about what they want to say. You guys think really deeply about things. I love listening to you and what you write blows me away, but I have to have patience and sometimes I don't. ENFPs can't get it out fast enough so we use short words, speak in run-on sentences, and change directions mid-thought (we love to contradict ourselves too). ENFP's ideas come so fast and our memory holds about 6 before it starts deleting, so we think out loud to save time. I drive my ISTJ friends crazy.

[@saras.5619]

"..........................." So now I don't have to deal with that evil retroactive perfectionism thing~

[@kimpastabowl1058]

sara s. pardon me, but did you just quote FJ’s pause?

[@saras.5619]

@@kimpastabowl1058 did I? No...actually it was just my "empty comment" (no comment=no burn down)

[@radiantraela]

Ugh I did this a few months ago. My videos were getting decent views for a new channel and then I freaked out one day and privated everything. This really inspired me to put my videos back up after work today. Can't thank you enough for this video. I need to get over myself and live my life.

[@connorphelan9825]

This vid is great But please take it down Just for the irony

[@FrankJames]

😂

[@claimyourshame6196]

LMAO!! My twitter bio literally says: “Chronic tweet deleter 🧐 #INFJ” And its exactly for this reason

[@gmikaleesangmibbvip]

This is so true... I believe it also depends how much INFJ believes in himself/herself... ech ...* sad *

[@DramaMaster]

7:45 I literally cried And I am not deleting this comment for sure.

[@nadinemacneil]

Drama Master I really loved this part of his message! It’s so true! He’s a great communicator.

[@teddysshow4302]

This is so true. Thank you for keeping your older videos up on KZbin, Frank. We love them. ❤️

[@Adelezie]

Man, how accurate is this video. It’s applicable to so many different aspects of my life. I am a gold star burner. Frankilini, if only there were more people like you, this life would be so overwhelmingly easier. Come visit us in Ireland man 🦄🌻🌈

[@pineapplequeen9582]

So that’s why I threw away my drawing books, and deleted most of my social media, and tossed my old phones into the toilet, and ripped out my yearbook pictures?

[@jenced80]

Man, I just want to thank you for this video. As a fellow infj, I have gone through a burn down many times. I'm an author, I'm a musician and a blogger, generally always feel the need to express. But everything you mentioned in your video is true. And it's so nice to have it kind of laid out so clearly. I needed the perspective on this. The perfectionism can be crippling. Thanks so much for these videos! I love them.

[@annatraynham7687]

Talking about how INFJs need to be prepared for everything reminded me of a time where I was going to meet this guy for the first time. Lmao I literally wrote down a list of conversation topics and memorized them in case I couldn't think of anything to say when we were talking. I'm a true INFJ at heart. (I'll probably delete this comment later)

[@diazzsama]

done this before. might delete this reply too.

[@Kashleighsays]

I did this in high school so I could talk on the phone...with someone who was already my friend in real life.😳Except I didn’t memorise it either, I just read from my little script😅

[@annatraynham7687]

@@Kashleighsays I've done that too 😂😂

[@Grapejuice111]

i do this and hate that i feel like i need to

[@JellyIsland]

I related way too much. 😂 I feel like completed things never leave me feeling as good and content as I wish it had 🤷🏼‍♀️ I'm always questioning my choices and often delete throw away. But I'm slowly learning to get around that perfectionism >< done is better than perfect 👌

[@tellingfishlynn4548]

Thank you for giving a reason to let imperfect works persist. I've often worried a poem could leave a scar on the cosmos. Narrowing the focus magnifies and skews the importance. Just having a clue that various functions, in action, will alter the tools of perspective gives me some assurance to not take each effort as a potential tragedy ! Thaaaanks! (Not an English major sorry!)

[@katrina4214]

"Gently" tap the like button?!?! Never tell me what to do again ... I SMASHED that thing!

[@IzziiElliott]

*stares into the past at 16 year old me deleting her whole youtube channel in one go* I'm so sad I don't have those now :(

[@haileyburroughs9014]

Whenever you post something like this I feel like I've gone to an awesome therapy session! Thank you for sharing your message! - From a fellow INFJ

[@Valianthe]

I agree with your comment so much. I felt like this video/topic applied to so much in my life, not just social media posts, but also relationships and career.

[@mysticat7652]

I remove myself before anyone else can. It's like I don't want anyone else to have the power to delete me (or anything I've generated) I delete it first so they can't. INFJ🤣

[@Arniqua]

As an INTP I can relate to a lot of this. I am always questioning my own ideas with this constant scepticism, that ultimately delays my decision making. Also a cycle of retrospective cross analysis begins soon after I take the decision. Read this 234 times before posting it.

[@sarahleewatson]

Hey Frank, I've watched this video three times since you posted it yesterday. Thank you so much for videos like this. You're extremely funny, and I love your comedy videos, but the work you do in videos like this has helped me grow so much over the last year since I've been following you. Thank you so much.

[@TJmusic24]

Yep I do and have done this with my music I make.

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

Please stop doing that to yourself man! :)

[@suncluster]

I have “burned down” my entire existence a few times especially at the end of a relationship. #IWasntHere EDIT: 😂😂😂

[@grumpyschnauzer]

Hey FJ! Can you make a video about INFJ friendships and the struggle to find someone who accepts you for who you are.

[@SifnianRhapsode]

I like being introvert and intuitive. On the other hand, social anxiety is part of the process.

[@NightsMay]

Yesterday I read a poem: "With every swallowed word, I am feeding the doubt within my soul. If only I could swallow the sun and flowers and force the light back in." - Courtney Peppernell I've realized I have this burn down problem all the time, mainly last month I've been focused on this flaw, you explain it so clearly. Last month I came to terms with it, and learned it's no biggy.

[@mx_fee]

That quote is amazing 💖

[@nyanshadow4491]

Video idea: Which personality has the least amount of problems? Edit: guys, it is not like every personality type is perfect and balanced with every other type

[@thisispi1491]

NyanShadow LOL None.

[@MidnightMeka]

Whichever is the most balanced in every concept and area of their lives.. which could be no one at all ever

[@beccaboo8356]

I just deleted my insta for the 8th time in three years. Now I know why hehe

[@sceptre80]

I don't even like to leave my edited comments up because I had failed to notice my grammatical errors before editing and now everyone will know that too. I also know that's not realistic but I can't stop. I'll comment while the video is playing and even after it ends I'll still try to revise the comment before I send it publicly just so I don't have to edit it afterwards.

[@kimlaurie4078]

You bring such light to this world Frank 😀

[@pooch7449]

I mean this one's so accurate like too accurate

[@OMKhin-lm3ky]

I always think I’m going crazy with reflecting and analyzing the conversations and interactions from the past ....I try to not think about the them but those thoughts just creep up on me

[@Aussie9er]

I wrote a heap of poems when I was 19-20, I kept them for about 20 years then threw them all out because I didn't think they were good enough. I now have some regret because a couple of them were probably pretty good.

[@Julia-LArt]

jbloggsie1 same, though I didn't keep them as long.

[@korezine3854]

I also threw away my diaries/journals. And I'm also thinking of throwing my poetry journals. I haven't done it yet, but I've been thinking about it😅

[@TheAworley1978]

jbloggsie1 kept a book I wrote for 10ish years - randomly and freakishly just deleted it all one day before I could publish it 👀 and felt RELIEVED afterwards?????

[@Aussie9er]

@@TheAworley1978 Did you let anyone read it?, I let one person read a couple of my poems, the feed back was good but I wasn't happy enough with them. Looking back in hindsight I wish I kept 2 or 3 of them.

[@Aussie9er]

@@korezine3854 At least keep a couple of your favourite ones, they are probably better than you think.

[@jaimereynolds258]

Perfect timing....3am and I can't sleep 😄

[@pennieh5456]

Great video. That was very helpful. You seem to have me pegged. People are always like "ya but u said this" and I'm thinking I WAS IN THE MOMENT TRYING TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE AND THAT'S ALL U HEARD lol God bless ya frank. Now u get to read this and be like I said all that and this is what u heard lol