The INFJs Most ANNOYING Traits To Others

[@PSYCH-O]

Hey PSYCH-Os!👋 *So, what do you think is your most annoying trait to others? * Comment down below 👇

[@artifundio1]

Guilty of all of the above. I am heartbroken for not knowing how annoying I am. I worked so hard to be independent, wise, and excel at my career, and nobody wants me to be those things? What do I do about all the things I still want to improve in me? 😢 I may die alone...

[@angelcakes1212]

I’m labeled a protagonist as well…🙄🥲😭🥺😩😎😏

[@artifundio1]

@@angelcakes1212 if you don't mind me asking, did you have to learn to take care and resolve your own needs and problems since you were a small child? It was that way in my case, and I don't really know how to ask for help to other people. I never learned. This video is going to fuel my insomnia 😭 (because it makes sense...)

[@angelcakes1212]

@@artifundio1yes; a twinless twin with red hair. My twin’s umbilical cord was wrapped around her neck. Also, my mother is the oldest child, who doted on her siblings soooo much while also being extremely difficult to deal with and mean to her own children. I am also the oldest child and grandchild. It’s a rather long story but to make a lss; YES 🙌🏽 ABSOLUTELY…❤

[@artifundio1]

@@angelcakes1212 ❤️

[@eliseintheattic9697]

This is why there is a disproportionately high number of INFJs watching videos about themselves. We not only annoy others, we annoy ourselves as well. Although, in my defense, I can say I DO open up to others, they just rarely understand, so I give up.

[@nmercenary]

This, so much this. Infj male here and at some point in my life i decided to take the initiative to open up to others. Biggest “i’ve made a huge mistake” ever. I found myself having to explain me as a concept. I got tired of melting brains so instead of opening up, i now only just show them who and what i am. I set out to be mythical and i succeeded.

[@cc1k435]

INFJs need to find each other in life, but it doesn't often work out that way. 😂😢

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

No we don’t.

[@andy1971williams]

Well, to be honest, I just piss everyone off all of the time , what I find most annoying about me is struggling to put thoughts into words and how folks expect me to put I lifetime of observations into a 10 second sound bite and I can't ! Some people can say in one sentence what would take me an encyclopedia britanica to say, and even then, it's utterly incomprehensible . Thank you and great observations

[@thefanone]

❤❤❤ yup spot on ...me 2

[@andy1971williams]

@djpearson5722 also very true , it's difficult enough trying to verbalise our thoughts without interruption .

[@andy1971williams]

@@thefanone it's nice when you find out about the MBTI and that you are not alone : )

[@PSYCH-O]

Lol well said, my friend. Articulating ideas/thoughts into words is a painful process for everyone involved 😂

[@eliseintheattic9697]

​@@djpearson5722This!!!

[@jemz4555]

I think the way I analyze/question everything and sometimes voice my opinion from a perspective that most people don't see. Most people in our society tend to just accept life as it's presented to them, so when I question the "normalcy" of society we've constructed, it tends to annoy or irritate others

[@Ali08]

Yeah, I think for the longest, this is one of my biggest reason for remaining quiet around others by playing it too safe by not speaking my thoughts out loud. Most people think they can tolerate a different perspective until they hear people like us speak. Lol

[@bargainbassist]

In conversations, I’ve often played devil’s advocate in defending the belief or point of view of a person or persons even if I have personally differed with very strongly or detested it otherwise. This is most definitely an INFJ sort of thing, as other types (ENFPs and INFPs come to mind) tend to be more judgmental, absolutist, and highly vocal in denouncing someone else’s beliefs in black-and-white terms. Would this make me a good defense lawyer? Perhaps technically I could reach into a deep well of sophistry and pull up what was needed in a courtroom that would comprise an adequate or even eloquent defense. However, I could not, in good conscience, defend someone who I am convinced is guilty. An INFJ like myself you would never see as a courtroom attorney for that reason.

[@paulorafael4777]

I simply stopped say out my thoughts to people they don't get till it's done.

[@ashleybennetts3108]

Trying to explain INFJ thoughts is like trying to find a starting point on a circle. Except the circle is multidimensional and still creating more circles within itself while trying to find a starting point.

[@starseed45]

Well said

[@filipgamer1390]

Its just undeveloped Si, missing link for expressing toughts with exact concise descriptive words at the spot because Si is recalling words from memory in real time. Because Ni is the main function and its represented by thinking in concepts, not in steps and details which is an opposite of Si.

[@nmercenary]

It’s not a circle. It’s an endless spiral.

[@ashleybennetts3108]

@@nmercenary in some ways I agree, but I do find a lot of things connect. So maybe an intricate pattern that loops back in on itself often 🤔

[@jessicachon7255]

It’s an ever expanding slinky that also has other slinkies attached to it because.. well, there are logical/reasonable connections😜

[@rajel2006]

You stop sharing the moment they start finding flaws to put a label on you. Like the more the know about me, the more likely they are to dislike me. Most people wouldn't like any of us if they knew enough. The less they know about me, the more they think I'm like them. It's a camouflage just to blend in.

[@asiasun839]

Feeling personally attacked by this entire video…all too accurate! 😂

[@blaiseaimee7098]

This is news to me that I could be annoying in any way!

[@starseed45]

Me too???

[@thefanone]

I tend to always vote for the underdog and this drives everyone around me crazy😮😮😊😊

[@ChristyAlicia]

Damn... I get accused of being a know it all and truly I rarely speak out unless I absolutely know something. I get called argumentative a lot.

[@ay-tj7pj]

INFJs also find other people annoying...always judgemental

[@alexfagnan7469]

Lol. People are great, but they also suck.

[@fiction589]

I loooove playing armchair psychologist and armchair detective 😂 guilty....!!!

[@kathleenbrady75]

In a conversation and always asking the question noone can answer😳

[@cc1k435]

Or taking a thought to some place they haven't been with it before. 😮

[@elkape1841]

Three words: DANCING KEYBOARD CAT!!

[@fiction589]

"I told you this was going to happen." 😂 i stopped using this sentence since it doesnt help my popularity 😂 i continue to think it though

[@bargainbassist]

As an INFJ, I cannot count the number of times I was in a position to say “I told you so” when a plan I had predicted the failure of (predictably) went south, but kept my mouth shut for the sake of peace and harmony.

[@smolville]

I told the supervisor this was going to happen and it did because nobody listened. You do it next time!

[@RielleLeigh]

The last one hits way too hard. For me, this is the biggest one on my list. I have such a hard time stating boundaries with others, to the point where I get frustrated with myself as well when I cut that person out, because I know it is partially my own fault for not making it clear from the beginning. And once that person has been removed from my life I don't feel comfortable letting them back into it again.

[@fabolvaskarika7940]

It’s especially hurt when you have to do with your own daughter…

[@thirstonhowellthebird]

Trust your instincts. Every human knows the basics of how to treat others with kindness, loyalty, reciprocity and good intentions. If anything other than that exists it’s A CHOICE! If they choose to surround you with deception or confusion, it’s A CHOICE! Door slam- no words could express how you feel towards their behavior. They won’t change anything. The door slam says it all loud and clear.

[@fabolvaskarika7940]

@@thirstonhowellthebird I believe in communication. One would think it’s possible to solve our problems with proper communication, to having an adult conversation. Unfortunately it’s not the case. Door slam helps you on the personal level. Basically ghosting is the same, just for different reasons to others. Where society goes, when people can or not willing to talk with each others? There must be a better solution! I really wish there IS. But it’s not to say that you are incorrect, when you say it’s a choice. When someone chooses not to understand you, then hardly can any explanation stuck with them. They hear what they want to hear. And maybe the silence loud and clear, it’s doesn’t make the situation less painful. At least for me. And they know it, which makes it even more painful 😥

[@christinemccoy4471]

​@@fabolvaskarika7940 Once communicated, over and over. I'm gone. Go treat others like that, not me

[@fabolvaskarika7940]

@@christinemccoy4471 I wonder if you have kid(s)?

[@terjegjertsen6361]

I find it very hard to not confront people who gaslight. This video vas very comforting to me 😀

[@erglelergle8476]

Too much detail when explaining anything. Inpatience with dumb people, which is most people. Difficulty being spontaneous. Always right.

[@lilhimer3361]

Knowing things about people, being sure of it, and making the mistake of sharing it with the closest people to me. They think I am being quickly judgemental. I am only stating what I observe. When it turns out I was right, they learn nothing about me. So 'being open' is a luxury I can most times not afford.

[@timskaggs3762]

Confession. My most annoying INFJ trait involves maintaining the balance of logic and emotion. I usually do well. When I’m stressed or overwhelmed though, the emotional part of me sometimes instantaneously jumps to the forefront (either internally or externally), before I immediately backtrack to the logical part that works toward solving the problem.

[@elkape1841]

Eh... that is normal to any INFJ... but... ¿Have you already used that trait intentionally for war? You must!! maybe... or maybe not... just... try to get fun in the process!!

[@angelajones6487]

I'm so glad I'm not alone. 😊

[@Keyboardje]

Everybody is alone. Most (in other words: the non-INFJ's) just don't realize.

[@Dagm1111]

Our authenticity drives others to envy/jealousy. Even though most haven't arrived at this awakened state, it should be noted that it's taken many of us most of our lives to reach this way of just being ourselves. We likely once wore masks as well.

[@francinegillett869]

I know I can come across as Mrs. know it all, I try not to,but most of the time I was right about the situation.

[@boblossie3192]

You're right.... This is so much on point! It's so very frustrating that I can't seem to change it ! ! ! I've destroyed my life over and over again - to the benefit of others.

[@yopestevens1505]

Here's a question. Are there just as many videos on any other personality type? I bet not, because no one I know is ever intropsective and wondering "who am I" about themselves. They just ARE. I envy that.

[@Keyboardje]

I envy that too, but at the same time I would NOT want to BE like that myself :D

[@yopestevens1505]

@@Keyboardje Oh, same here no question. I've lived long enough with myself to know all my faults and weaknesses. But I've also lived long enough to realize I wouldn't change a thing. I love my life and who I am now, feel like I'm aging in reverse, almost 😉

[@sirdopaminesjournal3292]

It kind of make sense that the rarest of personality types would want to know themselves the most. Not only is the personality already analytical and introspective, but because of how _rare_ INFJ's are, it's therefore harder for us to relate to other people, leading us to try and find out why that is. I bet that's what brought a large percentage of viewers here today.

[@bargainbassist]

@@sirdopaminesjournal3292Bingo! As a 66-year-old, I still am still engaged in the quest to find myself and what makes me tick. Even at this late stage of my life, I have found myself asking, so to speak, what I want to be when I grow up! Really! This is no joke.

[@drewford3205]

That i don't share much about myself but love listening.❤

[@WhammyBamber-wn2jv]

We walk in our truth and project it so...and others are envious of this and it's a target for these pyschos

[@Diane_McDon]

Sometimes I make express observations that come out the exact opposite of my real opinion ! and I see the blowback I try to explain’ no that’s not what I meant!” But by then this comes across as lying my way out of an offensive opinion.

[@d.l.gentsch5304]

If I have an annoying trait to another, then that tells me that they cannot appreciate my INFJ essence. I am 74, I have been aware of my INFJ characteristics since my 30s. i have focused on developing my other functions, like thinking, and my shadow functions. It's rare to find another who can grock an INFJ. That's why our lives are more separate from others. What I have found sad is that we can appreciate their essence but they cannot even begin to understand or appreciate ours. We cannot be angry over that, but at the same time don't make yourself a target for someone's insecurity. Do your best to find a friend even if they are not an INFJ. There are a lot of INTJs or INTPs who can grock who you are.

[@helenblandford8227]

I am unsure, but it must be something because apart from a handful of people that have befriended me, I'mnow 63 , no neurotypical types want to be friends with me. I've heard that many infj's are neurodiverse. Is this a reason people find us different?

[@ChaoticAnswers]

The normies hate the slightest ego bust. Someone can call them all the swear words and slurs but an infj can give an eye roll or say that's not true and it breaks them.

[@Angel-gb9gi]

We do ask for help when we need it but when we dont ask for it we really dont want it. Your way and my way of how to it may not be the same and it just throws me off. I am not used to team work so its normal for me to just do things on my own and I dont think about it.

[@alexfagnan7469]

I love working with some people, but I truly do best when I work alone.

[@SufianBabri]

Mine seems to be #6 because it has happened quite a few times that I've been proven wrong. I think I'm gradually realising that the hunch I have is after all my guess and not a fact. I think these videos are useful as they make you aware of your strengths and weaknesses. Acknowledging a mistake (or a weakness) is the first step towards the rectification.

[@rubynovel]

Nobody's perfect don't take yourself too seriously 😂❤

[@PSYCH-O]

🙌

[@airam-sj2172]

This video is so accurate that it is kind of creepy!

[@fabolvaskarika7940]

Paradoxical nature, idealism and perfectionism, the way I assume know people better than they know themselves or I know myself. Is that makes sense?

[@tahertz8544]

All MBTI videos use the same humans, wearing suits working in high-rises. Not a picture of real life. Nobody has ever asked me if I'm a Infj, it's not how anyone thinks.

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

None of these are annoying traits, actually.

[@MylezNevison]

🤣 5:42 before l pressed play l KNEW at some point the words "Know it all" would rear their head lol... It's a common misconception, but INFJs aren't "Know-It-Alls" per se, they are more along the lines of "Know-Betters"© And yes, l am keenly aware that l am demonstrating this very fact with my comment by attempting to give a *better* explanation of an INFJ behavior most confuse/don't know.😅 'Know-Betters'© (l'm copyrighting this btw lol) don't know it all nor do they posture as if they do. They just tend to be aware of different perspectives/mindsets on a matter which allows them to perceive the better one of them (note: they don't know all perspectives, just the best of the ones they know). Unfortunately, this "INFJ know a better way" modus operandi comes off to those who don't know better, as "know it all energy"... Nevertheless, *We don't know it all, we just intuitively tend to know better.* (Nota bene: Finally, pleeeeease don't conflate being right with knowing better; just because INFJs know better, it doesn’t make us right all the time. It is the "Know-it-alls" who think they are always right, whereas us INFJ "Know-Betters" are aware we can be wrong, we just know a better way of being wrong🤣...👈🏾 that's the distinction)

[@uckBayNguyen]

People often ask if I'm mad? I look mad. Ahhh, my resting bitch face. Caught off guard, I struggle to explain why I have to close off everyone else associated with the person I door slammed.

[@epicureaneternity]

i don't know which, because all 8 describe me; and using a qualifier like "most" would prompt a far too descriptive answer after much thought. i don't want to annoy anyone with my ramblings lol :)

[@christinagutierrez7694]

My kids and husband used to say i was a know it all slightly controlled.

[@roseannesolis1417]

This is truly annoyingly ACCURATE 💯😅😢😮😂😵‍💫🤯

[@LunaC101]

Spot on… if I could get my bf to watch this and gain some insight it would definitely clarify to him why I am the way I am… 😂

[@ikasugami8066]

I think number 4 is more an annoyance to me than it is to other people.

[@smolville]

My most annoying trait...I'm not a big talker. I'm hard of hearing but I still know what people are saying. I can get some one fired without saying a word.

[@KylieRollans]

Yes, English is my second language, and body language is my first and proven most accurate answer (for this topic ) In silence, we begin to hear all..

[@iartol]

I love how people think they know things about INFJs when really INFJs are INFJs instead of people thinking they know INFJs and when they finally find out that INFJs this comment was written by AI

[@lenoredavi6137]

Sometimes it's just the fact that we exist.

[@drewford3205]

The fact that I won't take any shit from anyone aught to piss sum people off

[@folday6169]

Most annoying trait? I don’t know. Maybe I don’t have any. 😂😂😂😂😂

[@kathleenbrady75]

Probably all of them...lol.

[@WhammyBamber-wn2jv]

If i have something to do...i like to do away from others ...jsur to get on with what i have to do...

[@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142]

You are gonna make a list I suppose ! 😊😊😊😊 1:02

[@ubergigglefritz]

I do reciprocate and willingly share about myself (when asked). I think thats my biggest dissonance to these videos. Or at least as I interpret that behavior in myself. 🤔 (Is that emoji and the frequency of its use another sign of an INFJ? 😂)

[@bargainbassist]

You have a point. I find this is the one I’ll use probably 6 out of the 10 times that I actually post a face emoji ~~~> 🤔

[@amyj.4992]

Sounds like an Aquarius to me 😜😹😁💓

[@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142]

I get easily bored !😊😊😊

[@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142]

“TOO SOME “not too everyone! 😊😊Yes you are reading it right , to SOME ! Ok ✅ 😊 2:41

[@KulsumaBegum-cd7ed]

❤ peace, am really sorry to piss you off today

[@lannguyen-pu1db]

Why are soooo many videos about infj? Are they the BIGGEST GROUP or do they just LOVE TO TALK ABOUT THEMSELVES more than other groups?

[@lauriblackmon9297]

Narcissists! Hallelujah Amen 🙏 ❤

[@rainchazzer6308]

Either INFJs are not the rarest since its the mbti with the most youtube content or they are egomaniacs with a god complex and youtubers know this and make easy views with content counting on it

[@Ayme1285]

Maybe my boyfriends boyfriend better stop calling me psycho 🙃 might help in his be half

[@maplenook]

Door slam

[@stevenhare927]

Silence

[@decapitated2368]

I would say my most annoying traits are my perfectionism, personality deduction, and my reserved nature. perfectionism; self explanatory. Personality deduction; sometimes so accurate it causes people (especially family and friends) to start covering over, deflecting, passing blame etc. That really erodes the relationship! I just can't with dishonesty. My aim is to help. You can't help those who are purposefully dishonest. Usually people are trying to preserve their ego or something of that nature when they don't admit their faults. Being open with those with those whom you're supposed to trust breeds formidable relationships. Dishonesty decimates them. Reservation; many times I just want to go to my local bar, great food by the way, and just chill with a book or bum off their wifi 😅watching music vids or psychology vids (with headphones) and be left be by the other patrons. (I know, odd place to go to be alone, but I live with people who don't give me peace. I figure strangers won't bother me; wrong). Same thing with my gym. People always wanna chat and shoot the breeze. Hello! I'm here to work and you're interrupting...! I mean... hi... how bout them Jays 🙄 and the weather or whatever. You can probably tell I'm a bit crotchety, but that's understandable when one is under stress. At least I get to be myself around my close friends and I'm 90% asocial. Sorry for dumping so much. I was wondering if anyone else has similar issues though

[@sajitha574]

😂😂🤣🤣

[@urlocalfolklorian]

being an infj is so annoying and exhausting i feel like i get everyone but no one gets me 😭😭