The Internet and Your Mental Health

[@cibrig8719]

Mental health is something many people overlook on the internet and it's rough, it's hard to help yourself when you don't realize the path you need to take

[@transientlattice]

and at it’s worst it gets PRAISED on the internet, and seen as “qUiRkY”

[@AlexsTheCat]

True i still have it sadly :(

[@deppo436]

At the very least, mental health has been taken a lot more seriously in recent memory than ever before. Yet, it's still not quite enough.

[@BlutoToMars]

Hey bearded. Another 19 year old turning 20 in a few months here. My dad passed 2 years ago from yesterday. I've shared this online with many people in an attempt to feel less angry or sad. I've also shared about my sexual assault and several other traumatic things in hope maybe I'll grow comfortable or learn how to cope. These are things I'm very guarded about at times. But I usually talk with my friends about them when they're on my mind. Everyone always talks about the internet as some positive when referring to online friends and such. (usually at least) But even still I feel incredibly lonely, and unable to cope with what's in my head; and it's one of the main causes of my suicidal thoughts at the moment. I've had no real life friends for 4 years. I've been lonely every day stuck in my home. With hardly anything to do. I still have absolutely no Idea what I'm going to do with my life, or how I'm going to get out of this hole I'm in. And my online friends have done their best to help me, but I can't keep just dumping these things on them. Not saying I don't love or trust my online friends. I absolutely do, and they've kept me afloat for very long. But something in me has to change. They don't understand my trauma and they've never lived it or they've never been through anything like it. I have to find some way to get myself in check, without bothering others sometimes. And how I've been doing that lately is watching videos, and or music, whether they're yours or others. It's been a huge help to remind me I'm not alone in these incredibly dark times I'm in, and I hope that one day I can do something similar for others. I'm hoping some day I can drop needing the internet. Like you said, It's like a demon that just goes back to sleep. But for now, I'm keeping myself afloat until I can figure something out. And I'm going to come back to this video when I need to get some motivation to try something new. So thank you man. I know I'm sort of rambling and I apologize if this lost some meaning in my attempt to vent what's in my head. I've read over this several times to try and fix it up some. But I appreciate you reading this long ass message. Thank you, seriously. I hope your struggle will ease up and I hope you'll be recognized for how hard you're working in your own head. Love you all. Alex 💙

[@BlutoToMars]

@@BeardedExpense I appreciate you sharing this with me. I think what you said about " As long as you haven't drowned yet, you're still in the fight." Is probably one of the most uplifting things I have been told in recent memory. Thank you so much. For all you do. I'm glad taking a break worked for you, I'm actually considering taking one myself. I'm so sorry to hear about what you've dealt with. My struggles are similar and seeing where you are now after seeing the similarities inspires me to find something to keep going. I hope you're well. Thanks again man.

[@catmaksimus]

even if, i personally, had a lot better life than your's (probably), i still got left with mental disorder and laziness/burnout, after my parent's divorced. also, cool fact: just recently (few weeks ago), i talked my mom that she cannot "fly", while she had a breakdown. (Partially, because of those videogames that had like a "Choose correct option to help your teammates survive" stuff)

[@madmonty4761]

@@BlutoToMars to be honest i see enough sob storys on the internet i dont really get anything from them i just look at em say huh this person is fucked up

[@BluminousLight]

Hell yeah. MENTAL HEALTH IS IMPORTANT KINGS LISTEN UP

[@KRUSH-R]

Scover?

[@ape7130]

This feels like a wake up call many people needed to hear, myself included. I’ve been putting off talking about my issues with parents and asking my doctor for referring me to a psychiatrist or something like that for some time and each time I don’t do it I feel idiotic and just submerge myself in distractions on my computer. Luckily as of recently I’ve felt more comfortable discussing issues with my parents and friends and not laying it upon my them constantly making them feel negative along side me. Talking to people around you and remembering people care about you is vital because I forget that people do sometimes and recently it’s helped me feel a lot better and crush a lot of the issues I’ve been facing. Thank you for spreading this message Bearded it means a lot to hear from the mouth of someone who’s brought me and many others so much positivity 👑

[@vepply]

this is the ice bucket to my COMA. Thits hard to help no hobby gonna do nothing maybe for NOW but then you sit in a 6th year and realize the life is a coma

[@cooleecoolee9504]

You saying this with a fumo profile picture feels like a meme

[@Pudding404]

I really appriciate Bearded getting serious with us. As the humorous guy he makes himself out to be, you have to be serious sometimes, especially when addressing serious issues.

[@vidiottheowl2825]

I hope other youtubers follow and make videos like these. people need to know that they're capable of changing and getting better, but that they cant have someone else or some magic pill do it for them.

[@madmonty4761]

@@vidiottheowl2825 then everbody is depressed

[@vidiottheowl2825]

@@madmonty4761 I'm not sure that's how depression works

[@madmonty4761]

@@vidiottheowl2825 i mean every youtuber being serious and not funny

[@vidiottheowl2825]

@@madmonty4761 do youtubers have to be silly and funny in every video they make?

[@Mazerwolf]

It’s a very important topic, and i think it’s pretty important that people talk about it, especially a big sorta masculine guy like Bearded because some guys think they aren’t allowed to feel emotion and that’s not true at all

[@Mazerwolf]

Very true

[@oimate3632]

Hey man I don’t know if your gonna see this comment but you are a big role model for me. All your videos and stream have made me laugh and made me have a good time. You’ve made me want to change to be a better person, and to make people laugh. I want you to know that I really appreciate all that you have done.

[@axiom8073]

"[Your friends] would rather listen to your situation than your eulogy" banger line

[@chib_chig]

I agree with the part that the internet is not a void to be filled, as usually once that void is filled it tends to regurgitate on you the more you fill it

[@RedL39]

thank you friend

[@letmeshowumypkmn]

I'm glad that you mentioned that you have to force yourself to change for the better. It's hard to hear but it's what needs to be said. A lot of online friends will coddle people, thinking they're helping them and saying that their past traumas justify their actions, but in reality, the more you let someone act irrationally, the more they'll think it's okay to behave in such a negative and self destructive manner. It becomes an expectation for them, and when confronted with someone who calls them out for their unhealthy negativity, they become coddled even more by their yes-men and refuse to change. Tough love is tough, but it's way more helpful than comfortable stagnation.

[@rdsabroad7528]

Didn't expect this from Beard, but that doesn't degrade it none. I myself have only recently realized how bad I've been, for my whole life. My emotional and social growth have been so stunted, I didn't even know how bad I was until I became literally bedridden from malnutrition, dehydration, and buried stress and anxiety. And only then did it click for me, "I'm not just mildly annoyed with my life, I'm dying from it." So separated from society that I was afraid of interacting with people, not only expecting rejection, but fearing sabotage. I greatly appreciate seeing this kind of content and work from creators I respect and enjoy, because it helps me, if even just slightly, solidify my understanding of myself, and what little steps I can make to create a life I can enjoy.

[@kjr05]

I really like the change in tone with this vid Bearded. Gotta remind everyone that you're still human. I love the message too. At the end of the day, we can't just sit and lay and let all this stuff just pile up on top of us, we have to get up and do something about it. YOU have to do something about it, you can't always rely on someone else to fix your problems, because when it's all said and done, it's still your life. I'm glad you're spreading the message. It's good getting to see someone get over all these road blocks in life. I know your story Beard, and I'm glad that you've been able to write your own chapter these past couple years. I wish you nothing but the absolute best, and to those who are struggling in life, I wish you the best too. I hope you're able to find the help and answers you need, stay hopeful, though it seems hard, life always gets better as long as you keep that hope in you. Thanks for the vid Bearded, keep it real big guy ✌️.

[@lyretxx134]

About 4 weeks ago, I had a mental breakdown at my job, it was probably the best job I ever had, but I just.. broke. I yelled at my boss, told them I wanted to die, and seriously considered driving my car down a local train track. I’ve been struggling to find another job, to not eat my feelings and keep getting bigger.(I’m the fatest I’ve ever been in my life, even my clothes don’t fit, and I don’t wanna spend money to replace them, since I don’t have much) I spend my day usually held up in my room, feeling like a burden and a waste of space with no passion. Everything you just said, I honestly needed to hear. A part of me is familiar with this stuff, but the bad feelings keep winning. To hear someone else talk about it, while showing and expressing their own struggles, honestly gives me a glimmer of hope. Thank you bearded. I hope life gets better, and you continue to be the wonderful influence on people.

[@JJ-ip7oi]

It's just so hard to find a balance. There are times where I feel so alone and my friends aren't really my friends. And it's painful to see the things you used to like doing no longer bring you motivation.

[@JJ-ip7oi]

​@@BeardedExpense Thanks man... And I really do plan to get professional help in the future (when my family has the money for it). This video hit me hard, by the way. Made me cry.

[@WizYT]

“Nobody’s better than me, but im not better than anybody else”

[@Cookie-ps2yh]

i love having a mental health chat with bearded as he casually splatters people with a car.

[@beewoman]

I've had my terrible experiences on the internet, they've really affected me on my way to 18, it's caused me my muteness, I would believe my nymphomania, and definitely my panic attacks and anxiety. Watching this video has made me look back on myself, my friendships both online and IRL, and I feel like I have more than enough room for improvement. My boyfriend recently had over 10k stolen from him which I'm still taking in a week later, I feel like I'm not prepared for adulthood, my willpower is very low at this point, I feel like I should be doing more. Hearing about someone else's experiences and what they say people should do when in they're in similar situations has really put things into perspective for me. I really hope I can turn my life around before it really starts. Thank you for making this video, Beard, from one stupid idiot on the internet to another, thank you for helping me put things into perspective, and for keeping me laughing even when my mind's not in the mood to, as odd as that sounds. Light side note here, Spore's OST really feels nostalgic to me and my friends, even though I'm practically the only one who played it. Great choice.

[@biggamer7001]

This is one of the only mental health talks Ive heard from people i don’t know personally that have actually had an impact on me. Thank you bearded.

[@thecorruptedbit5585]

Yesterday I had a rough day. I didn't even realize it until the end, when I didn't do as well as I wanted to in scrims - I just logged off and cried, because the day was over, and there wasn't any time left to fix it. However, I resolved to make today different, to waste less time, to get as much as possible done to help me get back in motion. As part of my goal to work I'm limiting the amount of media I consume, and KZbin is no exception. But your video is different - I put it on in the background as I cleaned up, and I realized that the message is important. I can't imagine the lows you've been through, and though mine felt like the end of the world - I know that I'm doing the right thing now, that I have the power to get myself back together. Thank you for this video. It's helping me keep going.

[@valetc6479]

There's so much wacky memes you did and yet hearing you being serious is the most impressive I've gotten from you, I would have shed a tear if I had the capability.

[@ultra6189]

I'm just gonna share my story here if nobody minds. Two years ago, when I was fourteen, I didn't have almost any friends at school, I got bullied (nothing physical, but bullying is still that, bullying). One day, I got to know about discord and I joined a server of a youtuber I will not name. There was this venting channel, just so people could have the chance to speak to one another, searching for comfort. Like the big dumbass I was (and still am), I just couldn't allow myself not to help someone I know isn't doing great. It was a daily thing, all day, all night. It really affected me. I used to have nightmares every single night about one of those friends just... kicking the bucket you know. That was when stuff was going downhill. People noticed something was VERY wrong with me, and so I talked to them about it. I knew that, otherwise, they would be even more worried about me. One day, I decided I've had enough, I hated thinking of not being able to help people, but there must be priorities to everyone, the first one being themselves. I didn't need help, I just needed time and winding off, focussing more in my actual life. And they understood my position, and decided that the best to help me, was to just do the same as me, and focussing on the problems of their life they can control. Nowadays, nightmares are no more, none of those people killed themselves nor anything. Yes, some of them self-harm, but all of us know it isn't something you can change instantly. Now we are still friends, or at least most of us. But still, one must know when it's time to just grab your life from the neck and overcome your problems. If you need help, ask for it, seek professional help. But if you have no chance to, know what makes you happy and make of it what you like doing most of times. If you are good at nothing, it's okay. Everyone needs to learn at some point so they get better at it and, it doesn't matter if someone is better than you at something, just know that you are better than you were before. Everyone just, take care of yourselves. Ultra loves y'all

[@blackfox5413]

Dude is so right on the part when it's you who has to start solving your problems by asking help from specialist when you can't solve them yourself - you can't help alcoholics if they don't admit they suffer from alcoholism. Yes, sometimes, I make myself to sit through the week and think about what have I done and what do I want to do next (it helps to get rid of a feeling I'm doing nothing productive, no man, I've done something, maybe small, but did nonetheless), not like planning impossible stuff and scold myself for doing nothing but like accept that you just a human being and have your limits, trying to find a balance between your responsibilities as a human and your personal life. No one is perfect, and neither should be. It is what it is.

[@sherlockhomeless4928]

When I feel down in the dumps, I always come back to this video for some reason. It's just that good and helpful. Thank you for making this.

[@Airwolf_]

I really needed to hear this. Some may think that online vent channels are the way to deal with it, but all you are going to see is text on a screen behind an avatar and username. They will most likely not understand the gravity of what is going on in your real life because they only see you as you see them... A line of text from a digital picture and random alias. Don't get me wrong, there could still be a few people out there on the internet that can be there and do the best they can from their position. I met a friend through gaming almost 2 years ago, and the friendship has strengthened, and we hang out and play games together a lot! But in the end, the people that can truly help you in any situation is the people you put a real name to a face and see them as a person that will have your back, someone that will come over at 2 in the morning to help you with whatever emergency you're dealing with. They won't say "oh i can't help right now, maybe come back to me later" like a lot of online people do, the real friends would tell you "Give me [period of time] and i'll be right over. That is what matters in life, not the stats in your favorite video game or how many followers you have on Twitch or Instagram. The real friends you make along the way of life can get you far, and give you that push when you need it. Sorry for the wall of text, but this video hit home on the topic at hand. I thank you, Bearded, and keep on making all that hilarious content for us so we can have more to destress and take a few moments to laugh at a T-Posing heavy on the screen, and just keep being you!

[@nathanthecanadian9444]

It feels good knowing that I'm doing something similar to what you did to help you get through shit and get better. I'm about a yearish younger than you and see you as a role model, you're so... real, so down to earth, and on top of all that you're one of the funniest people I've heard of. I honestly dont know how to put to words how grateful I am that there's people like you in the world.

[@nathanthecanadian9444]

@@BeardedExpense Again, thank you so much man. I've went into voice acting and impersonations because of you, and watching this video made me realize how much creating content and being an entertainer helped with my mental health, and it's motivated me into getting back into creating content for my channel and to continue making digital art. You've helped me realize not only how much of my journey I've completed, but also some things I can try to do to complete it. And even though you may not be an expert, sometimes all someone needs is someone who doesn't know everything.

[@patrickfarfan2281]

To a TF2 enthusiast to another- Thank you for reminding not just me, but to our Community that we have hope to flurish in our near future. Improvise what we can. Adapt to what has been done. Overcome and learn. Thank you Mr.Bearded Expense. Have a good rest of your week.

[@KoolKyurem25]

As a 20, almost 21 yr old dude, I relate with ya. Beginnin of 2022, I almost went down the road instead of just across it. I realized that it was just an impulse and wasn't somethin to give into. And I'm glad I saw that and fought it cause, well, it meant I was still around to help my dad til the day he passed, October 11, 2022. I can't imagine the sheer pain my mom and lil sis would be feelin if they lost me, then him, in one year. Even my aunt, who lost her husband not too long ago, would have lost two men she cared deeply for. And yea, I see him in my dreams. I miss him. But I can't give my life up because his life is over. I didn't have the best or worst childhood. I grew up pretty lonely though, since my mom worked night shift and my dad was a disabled vet with a crushed pelvis and back vertibrae out of place. THat man never took pain killers for something that puts 99% of people into a bed for the entire day. But it made me lonely and independent. I butted heads with both my parents numerous times growing up. There were times my dad threatened to put me up for adoption because I was too unruly. But because of my dad, and myself, I've become a decent person. Ain't none of us are perfect. We're all works in progress and some work better than others. For about 3 years now, I've been working on myself so I can call myself a "gentleman" and have that statement be true in every sense. I picked up on men's style and manners and reflected so much about myself and worked to fix my faults where I can. But the two most helpful things I think I've done since then are realize that I'll always be there for myself and be my own friend and to learn about the teachings of stoicism. I used to have a cruel inner voice. Partially brought on by things my mother said to me out of anger while I was growing up. "Why can't you do anything right?" "Why don't you just leave?" Those words until fairly recently tore me apart. Being such a shitty fuck up of a human that my own mother hates me. I'll never succeed in life. I don't deserve to live. I learned to cry silently to not be scolded. Writhing in pain at night in bed, berating myself, all without noise as to not wake my family. "Why are you so mean to me?" I'd ask myself. Idk how but I shed that cruel inner voice recently. I think it was when I accepted myself as a friend and decided to love myself unconditionally. I didn't do all the chores I was supposed to. "I did some and not doing them all hasn't created a problem. It's okay." Both my parents have anger issues. I have anger issues. Me and my dad have ADHD. ADHD can create anger issues. Anger issues can be passed down genetically. I was basically guaranteed to be an angry little shit. But through stoicism and learning that not controlling my anger will lead to my body and mouth doing and saying harmful things to people that don't deserve the pain I'll inflict, that I must control my emotions, without suppressing them. With stoicism, I've come to accept the cruelness of life as a universal guarantee. We'll all face shitty times. So why complain when you can just deal with them instead? That which is not within our power to change is not worth torturing one's self over. I did the best I could to help my dad but we just didn't realize he was gonna pass so soon. Death is the guarantee of life. Dad lived. Dad died. C'est la vie. I am alive. I will die. C'est la vie. I can control myself today, and tomorrow, and every moment up until I die. I can act to make my life and others lives good. I have found happiness within myself. Enjoyable youtube videos and friends and family and pets all add to that happiness. They don't make me happy. They make me happier. Because I am at peace with my situation. It's not the best but it's far from the worst. I will be getting a good paying job soon, one that will give me what my dad wanted for me. My family won't have to sacrifice too much financially even with the loss of my dad. To those who've read this far, become your best friend. You'll always be there for yourself until the end. Do what you can to help yourself. If others can help you better, ask for help. Return the favor as well. Keep peace within your heart. Life is filled with bad but with those, we become strong enough to enjoy the good for what it's truly worth. I remember one dawn after being up all night with my dad at the hospital a few months ago, that I was alive, my dad was alive, and the sunrise was beautiful. That was a good morning, I told myself. I felt peace and joy within my heart. Now I find joy even though that second statement is no longer true, because in spite of it, I've still got a lot going for me. The sun will rise tomorrow, even if I don't. It will be a beautiful morning.

[@notexactlygameplay]

First off, I assumed this whole time you were older than me: I'm apparently 2 years older than you? That's not a bad thing, I just was surprised by this. Second, this video came to me exactly when I needed it. I just started a job like 2 weeks ago that's put my mental health in a dark place that it hasn't been in a long time. As of a few days ago, I started getting into your Team Fortress 2 videos (go figure) and subscribed to your channel as well. I got back from a shift that wasn't that bad, but I did beat myself up for leaving my big thermos at work. After a hot shower and making myself dinner, I saw KZbin recommend this video and I decided to watch it instead of an hour-long video. I don't want to get too preachy because I've already made this comment way too long, so I'd just like to thank you for making this video. I'm glad you put this video out for all the people who feel like this. It's inspiring to hear your story and it makes me respect you even more as a person instead of just seeing you as a content creator. I'm proud of you.

[@clay28000bce]

The internet is a utility, an assistant to a main subject matter. Whether the utility is for betterment or impairment, it does not decide for itself. It is up to the individual. For everyone to stand even if just a little bit, to see who they are and what they can do to improve, it takes a single step to start. One's mental wellbeing is a big part of the list of things to improve, at any given moment. To have the power to enact on doing anything to improve your mental state, be it at the moment or for long-term, is always a welcome step in the right direction. Progress is progress, no matter how little it may seem. Sincerely, A viewer just a year younger than yourself

[@theengineerinabox2385]

ASMR: jersey mobster's son comforting you during a rough time jokes aside, this is a great video man. the message is real, and I just figured a bit of this out myself not too long ago. I'm definitely gonna send this to some people I know who are going through some shit, thank you for doing this. you're a good young man. :)

[@Bendytube72]

This is beautiful. Hopefully youtube doesn't censor it for having substance.

[@fpsvoltage3005]

i will say, you're a trooper bearded. I wish many people your age and even higher would share your outlook on life. People are too focused on their own misery

[@HaydenTheHistorian]

I feel like I had this exact argument with a friend about a week ago. It's a tough thing to go through, but it's so important to value those around you as well and not treat them like a free therapist.

[@matiasgaming4971]

Been deep in a depression for two years now. Been unable to get proper help that I need. So yeah, I get it. It's not easy, and I always just hope tomorrow is brighter

[@acorn5687]

while im not exactly going through anything bad, really i just came here to say you sound like my father despite being a year older than me, i can definitely relate to this. being a raging individual, one that generally gets angry and whatnot. you help people like me with your frequent and hilarious shitposting and i am proof. i managed to channel my rage into comedy. you're a good guy, man. even though you've never heard of me in your life. thanks.

[@SharkOSix]

You know for someone who made this at 19 your choices of words are just incredible and it really is a sign of experience I hope your doing well Bearded

[@frythechip7930]

Couldn't of spoken truer words. Personally, I don't think I've gone through as much crap as Bearded but, I have been in a time before where I felt like I was stuck and didn't know how to progress in life. It went on for a long time, and it felt like I just wasted some of my youth being stuck just playing games because that was all I knew what to do. Now however, I still have no idea what do, but I'm at least trying to take steps forward now. Yes, I am absolutely terrified and everything overwhelms me, but I know that I just can't let myself stop. I have to keep going regardless, and you can too my friend. Bravery is not about doing something with no fear, it's about doing something even when you're terrified. So get out there my friend and be brave. God bless you all

[@theslimeassassin3287]

Man, this hits more than home since for a while i coped with being a negative asshat by using social media like youtube, hell even toxic games i dont really play anymore. Now i just use it to be with friends like you bearded, albeit when you’re streaming but whateva, i’ve made some good friends recently like Drummajor and his significant other, I wouldn’t want my life any other way rn although i still have a few mental issues here and there but when it starts kicking in, i just shy away cuz i dont want them to see that which isnt healthy but it’s something i’ve been working on, im glad you’re here and im glad you’re opening up about this. If i meet ya in person again, i’d give ya a big ass bear hug

[@AVGFurri]

I like the TDR2000 gameplay by the way. I've loved Carmageddon for a long time. It's been keeping me sane.

[@breezeless_7665]

Really happy to see more people with a brighter and positive perspective in life. There’s been many times where some of my friends would compare their life struggles with someone else’s and saying that someone is having an easier time when in reality this shouldn’t matter because we are all struggling in the end of the day and searching for happiness. I’ve struggled a lot in my life and I’m about to turn 20 in a couple of months too, but I’m positive and looking forward to it, I know that there is more shit to come that I haven’t experienced yet so I’m ready for all of the shit, but I’m also ready for all of the good things that I can cherish forever. I’ve gotten out the negative abyss that I once was and came to accept who I am and who I want to be. It doesn’t matter how great your parents are, your friends are, your conditions are, if you don’t find that peace in your heart, you can’t be happy about yourself no matter how great your environment is. It will help for sure, but it isn’t the end all solution. So get out of social media, stop looking at people and comparing yourself, sometimes watch a funny video like every Bearded video except this one to cool off your mind, and go find enjoyment in your life, it is hard, but not impossible. Cheers

[@Zanox-bp3ob]

your way with words and the way you put them really woke me up Bearded. I love how you had empathy and an honest proper way with your words, really opened my mind and made me listen to the whole 9 yards. I'll admit, I have been putting off a lot of that stuff, but I will keep using your message to get me started, and to remind and push me to be better, and heal, and anchor myself for those I care about. thank you very much Bearded, much love to you.

[@grum7140]

Great video man, I really like how you were brutally honest and didn’t censor yourself. It’s pretty awesome to hear the raw truth. Keep it up!

[@kainredeye736]

Great advice. I was depressed when I was 20 and drowned it with alcohol for 3 years, I was miserable. After I stopped drinking, I spend another 2 years trying to find my place, still feeling sorry for myself, still depressed untill I broke. It finally hit me why I was not happy with myself. So I started working out and beeing more active outside. I got into cycling, started going to the gym and over time got more confidence and a more positive look on life. I'm 26 rn and I will say that this year I was the most happy since my 20s. Sitting on the Internet while listening to sad music is not the answer to your problems and nobody has the answers to them but you. Great video, made me reflect on my past abit.

[@PurpleSpie]

Good on ya, man, hope you’re doin’ aight. 💪

[@w-lf.]

theres a LOT i want to say since my respect for this topic (over other fields of study) is unmatched. its difficult for many to present, yet very beneficial to be aware of. perceived mental health, for some people, can be one of the most devastating factors to their personal living conditions. no matter what though, its always good to let someone close and willing know about such negative situation(s). the fact that someone cares enough simply to listen and to give feedback to obtain help/motivation is what they should, at most, be expected to do. they love ya. yet, as you mentioned in the video... continuing to abuse the fact that they listen is not going to help anyone and will have a high chance to bring them down with you. i can say from personal experience... the influence of traumatic experiences should not destroy the mentality of those who surround you. no one deserves that to be pushed onto them over several instances of conversation (if you dont agree, take beard's advice and try to reach out for help past just letting people know about such negatively influencing issues.) moving on from that harsh yet honest truth, this video is a great example of a genuine way to vent (not like what happens in those vent channels) and conquer the buildup of such painful concepts. so many individuals coming here to learn and overcome possible roadblocks they may be having in their personal lives, while for bearded its a strong way to benefit those who surround him without being invasive (the way an uneducated individual may act in these tough situations throughout life) i could keep typing for hours honestly. ive always been extremely interested with the overall topic of psychology, especially with so much reinforcement of my interest in these studies and how learning/applying - and possibly even progressing - them will be affecting me in my future. very very exciting since its also been one of my major personal motivators for my current 17 y/o self. thank you for your insight bearded. youve benefitted everyone with this video. wishing ya lots of good nights with sweet dreams.

[@athy8763]

a video like this is needed in this day and age. i feel like a lot of people dont really think much about their own internal problems and let them just creep up again and again. its nice to see im not the only one who feels this is an important issue.

[@funtimechess5987]

Hey Bearded, thank you, I'm pretty sure I'm younger than you... And this helped, you've opened my eyes a bit more and I'm gonna take the advice you've given us. Thank you for being a good person, thanks for the advice, and please, stay safe. I recently cried to my friends in a move because I thought I wasn't gonna be able to move in time, but me and my friends got everything moved in one day, we're cleaning up our old house and making sure everything is pristine... I'm gonna have a talk with them after we're done, gonna let them know how much I love them as my friends and tell them how much they mean to me. Again, thank you, and be safe.

[@ej2u545]

Hate is like a poison. You drink that poison thinking its going to harm some one you dont like. Even if it's your self. Life is a gift, you can do what ever you want with a gift. You can give it away, you can utilize it to the fullest, by all means a gift is a gift you can throw it out. But what matters is what you do with that gift that will do good for you and others, thats what matters. Listen to the wise words of Bearded. I can tell he has been threw just as much if not more shit then me. God bless you for making this video because people need to hear it.

[@yellow-tf3jf]

“They’d rather listen to your situation than your eulogy.” Someone cooked here.

[@bladeswell5364]

This actually made me cry. Thank you bearded, i kinda needed this.

[@Chiefspartan117.]

We all need a good cry every so once in a while. It's ok

[@Lexxyy]

hey man, personally as of late ive felt really bad, unmotivated and couldn't get much I wanted to do, done. And just being down to earth with this video still hit me and made me realize I have been struggling with stuff keeping me down without me knowing or seeing it too clearly. Like even waking and wanting to finish anything I want to do or feel happy during it is really hard at times, but your advice and words do honestly mean a lot and I want to thank you, I've always loved your content but you as a person above all else, besides youtube, you seem like a really cool guy at the end of the day and I appreciate you for this video It definitely does shine a light on my problems and ways I can push through them and continue with my hobbies and be grateful for what I was given, so thank you beard, genuinely this does make me feel alot better in general and I know I'll have a good life regardless of whatever's trying to chain me down or chain the feelings down that I want to feel, thanks man. (:

[@SuperElon]

yup. i have some of this shit too. i realized my problems a time ago, i hoped to hear smth new, but still, im glad this video exists.

[@CasualEnjoyer701]

Thanks man, this is a real talk that not many people can do. You’re right that the internet is a real enabler with no limiters, it’s tough that way and it’s hard to realize when you’ve gone too deep. You’re right about that and I hope it helps some people

[@Toopys]

Absolutely huge video, great work

[@themonkeymang]

love the music choice for this video. Thank you Beard you're one of the realest people.

[@emexrpg2462]

thank you for making this video. I have spent way too much time on places like reddit browsing depressing, repetitive political and drama stuff, and it honestly really eats your mind. it took me a long time to realise just how destructive it really was to my mental state, and im still trying to get out of it. but I will keep trying this really is real talk. thank you once again

[@MediaMunkee]

There were some comparatively minor incidents and consistently poor social experiences throughout my childhood that left me with some underlying trust issues and general antisocial tendencies, but I had the fortune to spend my teens in the "golden age" of the Internet, when forums and instant messengers (or if you were a real rebel, IRC) were the accepted formats for meeting and interacting with people instead of the popularity-driven hellscape we know as social media these days. Point being, I was fortunate enough to make some real, meaningful, lifelong connections that way. I'll probably never meet most of them in person, but they mean the world to me. One circle I was a part of in particular inspired me to practice my art more and be more comfortable with my own eccentricities, and managed to passively build me up to the point where all at once some things clicked and I, in my mid-20's, finally decided, alright, I'm comfortable with myself. I'm starting to be more comfortable with other people. I'll actually start applying myself, be more supportive, more outgoing, more productive, for my sake and everyone else's. And the moment that I did, in the most critical pivot point of my life, multiple people I had considered friends took advantage of that to corner, betray, manipulate, exploit, gaslight, and traumatize me to where I was a hair's breadth from jumping off an overpass. Instead I finally lashed out to where it damn near incited the same reaction from one of them. Thank crap for the support of the people who _weren't_ a part of that, because I wouldn't have had anything else to hang onto. Still, the less said beyond this point, the better. The exact healthy behavior and creative hobbies that had built me up became absolute poison to me for fear of replicating a scenario that I _still_ can't make heads or tails of. The professional options have all failed me, which has left me to try and figure it out at my own pace. And a decade of figuring it out at my own pace has only yielded one general bit of life advice, so I'll share it here: *_Don't allow yourself to be cut out of the conversation, and learn to recognize when someone is doing that._* If there is a conversation that needs to be happening, no matter how uncomfortable or inexperienced you may be, don't trust anyone else to make it happen for you. If you think it needs to happen, don't take anyone else's word that it doesn't. Even if they're more experienced, even if you trust them in general, a surprising number of people are _awful_ at communicating to where it might even begin to manifest as controlling behavior to try and shut down the communication altogether. If it "doesn't concern you", if it's "just between me and them", _think really carefully_ on whether that is true or not before doing anything else, and always get both sides of the story if applicable. Maybe in another decade I'll have something more substantial.

[@Leon_Portier]

Very true, if the inner problems are not dealt with, they'll sneak up again and again

[@ai_dan50cal73]

You're a big wonderful lad Bearded, I just put this video into my discord bio. Sending good vibes your way

[@M.J44]

This is advice I could have used years ago. I've long since went to therapy and have gotten far, far better. It really helps every facet.

[@universalshyguy3369]

Thank you for the motivation and great words, funny tf2 screaming man, I needed to hear that and genuinely wanted something to keep me going from the depth of me, thank you Bearded

[@skag4696]

man you really came just in time, your situation is the most relatable id ever heard. i wish you knew how much I NEEDED THIS, THANK YOU from everything i have, Thank You.

[@finn488]

thanks man, it's important to remember to take a step back and assess your situation every once in a while and try to understand see other perspectives

[@benturtl9076]

Why does this hit so hard right now...

[@LordBloodpool]

It's MY mental health and I need it NOW.

[@vivikmimik4000]

I slso had a nasty childhood and you've nailed what I've been going through for years, the same bad habits, same crap cycle. I even fucked up a few friendships due to my mental instability, I've been on a big road to recovery and mended those friendships, I'm only 22 so hopefully I'm doing something right! Thanks Beard stay cool.

[@fatbutterimp4166]

Everyone has a right to a healthy life, no one is gonna provide that for you, so you have to do what you can to make it so. I’m glad that you had this talk for the people that greatly need it and I hope things get better for everyone who is going through shit like that, stay rad beard

[@EonTheBrono]

I have a friend of mine that i think really needs to hear this, I appreciate you making this video

[@lavalord96]

Wow... Bro... I'm speechless... Well, the only thing I can really say is, thank you. Thank you for making me and other people laugh all these years, with tposing heavies, terrorizing soundsmith, and keeping the dead rat economy flowing. Despite everything thats happened in this world, you've been able to give some really good advice in addition to your positive content. Thank you. Thank you so much.

[@SmokiStyle]

I appreciate you taking this topic. From the big funny guy that make others giggle to the big bro that everyone wants. thank you alot it's very pleasing to hear you talk about this

[@0bashie]

Never thought a hilarious screaming Heavy would one day tell me vital mental health advice. Good shit dude.

[@mistyleo]

kinda just gettin back on my feet again after another fall and kinda doubting myself for trying again. was nice to hear from someone, especially from who doesnt normally do serious content. some how makes it feel more genuine, definitely helped how raw and open you were too. mainly do these things for the people i care about (even though i can end up hurting them while i try to better myself), so it was a nice reminder what im here for. hopefully some non tf2 fans can end up seeing this too.

[@CoralCopperHead]

I, too, enjoy being patronized about issues I already know I have and being told that it can get better if I just "do the thing." Wait, no, I don't, I hate it, because I already know I have these issues and telling me how to solve them doesn't matter when I *_don't want help._* _"You cannot fix those who do not want to heal..."_

[@smntha195]

Hearing this made me feel a lot better about my situation and I think from now on I'm going to try and motivate myself more to do stuff that I wanna do and have fun with, I have been unconsciously avoiding this video from the title alone because i think im scared of talking about every feeling and thought i have and now I really feel like I need to push myself this really does mean a lot and it shows that you know it, im very confused with myself personally, i dont know what i want to be when it comes to what i wanna do for a job or a personal hobby, only recently ive had issues with my gender and feel so stuck because of it, but i really need to try and do something, you really are a good guy doing a good thing, thank you so much

[@NP-bo3ds]

I normally don’t watch your channel, videos or anything but I’m glad I got recommended this, I don’t normally comment or share my thoughts but I really needed this, I have therapy and hobbies but this video reminded me of a lot of important stuff, Thank you so much

[@endro555]

i'm glad to see you covering this topic- maintaining mental health is an extremely crucial part of our lives, and is unfortunately overlooked a lot of the time. we really need more people to cover this topic, due to its importance; you shouldn't fake your personality, talk to someone about it and see how both of you can find a solution

[@yourgoldenboy585]

great to see someone call out a huge problem with the world that needed addressing thank you so much bearded thanks for keeping it real

[@vidiottheowl2825]

when I was out of highschool I spend about a year just doing nothing and got fed up with it. so I started doing duo lingo and exercising and it helped. it gave me some normalcy in my life.

[@themoddedguy7765]

Bearded, I gotta say, this is one of the best videos you posted on this channel. You did inspire me. You're a good man.

[@naomeencheosaco8595]

This year has been absolutely unforgiving, but this week alone ive managed to get my stuff togheter and try to change it, and just hearing all of this encourages me alot planning on getting professional help sometime soon!

[@razielhendrek2974]

This Video is something I understand, to be both in your shoes and to have dealt with things online. In the end when you deal with it your wisdom about it all becomes a tool to help, and comfort everyone. I wish I could play a game or two with ya because I feel like we're kindred Spirits buddy I love you, we love you.

[@bowlofsalad8777]

Personally I've been stuck in this cycle and being an introvert is just an anvil on top. Listening trough this entire video it just...let's say made me think about it. Had these like depressional moments, used them for motivation and began to make art. TLDR, awe to you, voice of reason. I hope many would understand and think about it more. As for yourself, you've climbed fuckin rocky hills and you haven't tumbled severely, toughest son of a gun here.

[@Roach_Dogg_JR]

Funny this vid came out today when I finally told my parents some of my problems after keeping quiet for my whole life (19 years)

[@PrimarySweeper13]

I appreciate you talking about this. Beard, you are a good man with a heart of Australium

[@Wario_B]

I remember watching your undercover pubber video with Big Joey and being able to relate to you a ton, so hearing you talk about these issues is a big help to me Thanks big man 👊

[@fuster7605]

Beard, i feel you man. Even quite recently i've been in quite the shit situation where school was slowly destroying my mentality, my whole little world. I wasnt a burden to anybody, everyone, my friends teachers stick to me as these friendly figures but i have an issue where i just care too much. I worry myself to sickness. Notoroiusly wanted to vomit but never did, was shaking cold in warm rooms, thought of violent shit and killing myself and all that despite being liked by everyone. No enemies, lovely parents and i still felg like a piece of shit. At school i joked around, the biggest comedian on school, that made people love me i was and still am charismatic proud and optimistic but as soon as i got home i started feeling like a piece of shit again. I realised that i somehow had like some mental mask in public so people didnt see how i felt but ended up crying at night when everyones been sleepong for 4 hours already. I opened up to mom, she let me stay in house for a week, not go to school and it helped slot! I was feeling good for the first time in like 2 months. I restarted my excercise program that stopped 10 months ago with great results actually. I only could do 10 push ups and here i after 4 weeks i can do 45 and after a 2 minute break another 20! Arm muscles are hard asf and almost twice as big than when i was in bad times. Didnt jack off daily, held it back. I also found my long lost passion. Made a fucking katana lut of a mossy ass piece of wood with 3 nails in it and a crack on the side. I have it on my dresser now. I also made a throwable sword that Has a hole for a chain in its handle. Its not as pristine but it Has to stay somewaht crude and big do it doesnt break in half when you throw it. Now i'm happy, strong, help others, better grades at school, and thankfull to you beard for being such a funny, honest to hell, lovely Man. I wish you the best. Thank you for this and mamy other uploads :)

[@birbneedsumseed143]

Thank you for this, a lot of people (myself included) needed this. Your a true legend, hope you know that. :)

[@JC747]

Hey man, mental health is probably the most important thing in one's own life, I'm in my 30s and this past year, what's gone wrong, has went wrong, but that's where my mind has dwelt at when I was having issues, not really focusing on the positives that happened in my life, I forgot about people who cared about me, and I was in a very low and very bad spot At this point, I'm almost to a point where I'm about to do a hobby that I'm actually excited to do, the end result of this thing I'm wanting to do doesn't matter, just the prospects of doing something I never done before is just exciting to me. Will say that chronic internet usage is probably a huge factor of depression with other users on the internet, and you're right, we say and say things, and never do anything about it, vent channels on discord/message boards/forums/etc, it's just what, you're reminded of your other issues you find to be failures, especially you're the only one who's using it. I don't want to be reminded of the things I find to be failures of myself, and I am trying fix those things, I know I don't have things down, and there's been a stumbling block here and there, but that's okay, I'm still going through it. I believe while we are creatures of habit, I think we benefit more from change, we might not like change, but we always adapt.

[@yeetermcskeeterTF2]

Really inspirational shit here Beard, I've had very dark times in my life that I had thought I would never get out of. But I did get out and pushed myself to be better, and I do believe to be better you yourself must push toward a better future. Hope to see more things of you in the future.

[@dgfjdfgjfdgjfdgjfdgjfdgj]

I dont normally watch you, havent watched tf2bers since I took a break from tf2. I respect the fact that you took the time out of your day to dedicate a video for this topic, I like the gameplay you chose for a video dedicated to this topic, I feel like you somewhat done this video to yourself. Either way I am going to forward this video to a friend of mine.

[@mrfishy_04]

Hey man I have maybe seen one of your videos before this one and have found myself here watching this video off a discord server and I just want to say thank you for making this. I really needed this.

[@admg2005]

not something I was expecting, but something necessary to hear, thank you.

[@ruooir]

i might not have any dramatic problems in my life, but that does not mean i have no problems at all. i have been dealing with physical pain that doctors cant find the reason why iv been getting it for the past year. and i cant get proper treatment until more months pass by. this physical pain that i wont go into much detail about, has stopped me from what i enjoy such as dashing, trampolining and especially parkour... i have even lost weight (which is bad because i'm already kinda skinny). this problem of mine only now has started to mess with my head, i have found myself in what i can only think are minor mental breakdowns where i would start crying for no reason. these solutions you bring up in your video bearded i already do most of. im a quite guy online, the idea of showing my issues to the online world is not my thing. hell i dont even make a bunch of comments, but i want to make a exception here because this fanbase is smaller (not to be rude or anything bearded expense deserve a bigger rat infestation of subscribers). for the people who read this you can learn a thing or two from what the epic greased caveman has said. do not be afraid to ask for help, don't lash out at people. especially online, do whatever remains that makes you happy, for me thats playing video games like TF2 and others. because one day. maybe, just maybe we can escape all our problems once more and live a life without the pains that have lasted for far too long

[@theta8529]

Im Glad you Spoke About this, Im Sure many People Know you as the Loud, Chaotic, SCP-Like Entity From Many a Soundsmith Video and More. But im Glad you Decided to Talk about this. Im not much of someone who Likes Sharing stories etc. But having Recently Lost someone (And is still holding out for hope that a friend who i assume is Missing comes back). I Feel alot of What your Saying. So Thank you. Thank you for Showing us the Calmer Bearded Expense. Thank you for Bringing This up and Talking about this.

[@Mister_Fate]

Theres alot of toxicity on internet when i was new on utube i thought to myself...whats wrong with people and i found a way to make myself feel better...and others...i started not caring because everyone is disrespecting the thing others like...u might be like wtf is this guy talkin bout his name is cookie enchanter but im serious theres alot of people in pain on internet i wish them luck its hard to get used to it

[@finn488]

this is genuinely the best video like this that I've seen

[@ContentBuffet]

Even will how silly or horrible the internet can be, mental health is always first. Take breaks, stop toxic relationships

[@goof8837]

Hearing you give these encouragements felt like sitting fireside with extended family I haven't seen in a while. The smirk that says, "Cousin, it's good to see you." That's the kind of energy I try to give in those same venting channels. The useless part about it is that it seems like they've given up and want to tell a sad story without finding a solution. I'm grateful to get this fireside chat from a funnyman on the internet. Thank you, Beardedweaponsguy.

[@Biddybud]

This video made me reconsider my habits, and now I should probably start getting the help I need. Thanks for no expense, bearded!

[@t.nippes]

Bearded, I have known you as the internet chicken invaders music funny man, but you are a very mature person and honestly the best person on the internet