The Invisible Victims Of Crime | Michelle Raymond | TEDxRoyalTunbridgeWells

When a crime hits the headlines, a light is shone on the perpetrator, their victim, and sometimes even the surrounding community. The actions of the criminal, and the suffering of their accuser all receive publicity ensuring the world knows their story. What isn't so readily known is how all that publicity affects the perpetrator's family, and the forgotten victims of crime that it creates. Michelle Raymond shares her story of being married to a man accused of some of the most heinous crimes imaginable, and how she became an indirect victim of his crimes through publicity and stigma. Michelle has moved past the shame she felt for so long to become a successful entrepreneur with a supportive family and in his moving talk, shares the importance of extending compassion to all of the victims of a crime. Michelle Raymond is the founder and director of The People’s Partner.
Although Michelle has a strong background in HR, her other passion is people empowerment and business networking which has led her to take on more mentoring roles. Aside from HR, personal development coaching and business building, Michelle is a singer, performing for the likes of Madonna, Tina Turner and even the Pope. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@danniblechnerbookjourneymentor]

This is so powerful Michelle! You have raised a good point. Nobody ever thinks about the invisible victims. Sorry you had to go through such a betrayal and judgement. More power to you that you rose above it all and are helping many to speak out! Power to you! ✊🏾💗

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Nope, its's always the perpetrators and the victims, but other people suffer too.

[@camelleilona]

Shared beautifully and powerfully. That was so moving Michelle. I know you gave a voice to many. Thank you for choosing to break out of that low place, so many lives will be saved and changed because you did. You are incredible!

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

I lie that Camille... break out of low places. It's so easy to stay trapped and just let life pass you by, but sometimes, we have to stand up and be counted even if we know it may open up old wounds. Hopefully others will be brave enough to stand out too.

[@Kineodance]

You are an incredible woman. This touched me so much. You spoke with such power, authority, grace and compassion. It really does make us think. Judge less and be more compassionate.

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Exactly.... Thank you

[@boothe870]

Thank you for sharing your story Michelle. You are an inspiration to many. Strength personified.

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Thank you Diane. I appreciate this

[@StellaMaher-ConfidenceCoach]

So powerful and so moving. It takes strength and courage to decide not to be a victim or not to be shaped by other people's opinion of you. Well done for sharing your story and being a voice for the invisible victims of crime.💗

[@NinaNaturals]

This made me so emotional! Such a powerful message...Well done!

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Thanks Neen xx

[@IsiavweO]

Awesome Michelle... Thanks for having the strength to share your story and pain with the world. This is a much needed contribution to the discourse

[@michelleraymond6260]

Thank you. Im proud to stand in the gap

[@lynnerasmus]

Such a powerful story of the invisible pain we carry every day! You are a true inspiration, Michelle!

[@lolabejide7364]

Extremely powerful and passionately delivered, applaud your bravery in sharing your story to empower others. Thank you for your transparency.

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

And thank you for watching.

[@nmodeste6555]

Simply amazing Michelle! Thank you for speaking out for the invisible victims! Everything you said is so true. You are one mighty woman! Wow

[@michelleraymond6260]

Thank you Nicole.... Theres so much more work to do but I'm ready!

[@yomiolupitan5609]

Wow! What a profound way to easily deliver a very powerful message. It's easier to judge than to complement or encourage. First, we should put ourselves in people's shoes and ask ourselves; if this were to be me, what would I have done? Thank God you were able to turn your life around, being there for your daughter and also making impact in people's lives.

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

You are indeed correct. It's so much easier to judge than to find forgiveness but definitely worth it

[@FitnessExplorer]

Powerful and something I just hadn’t really considered before. An homage to the hidden and invisible victim. Thank you for bringing this to the TEDx stage!

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Thank you Darryl, appreciate your comment

[@dlburnell]

You were definitely heard! You have given a message that needs to be listened to and passed on over and over again until we get it.

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Thank you Derrick

[@charcharpr]

You are so brave Michelle! Thank you so much for sharing. Man I'm speechless 😥 💕💕💕💕

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Yep.... I dont wear the pain Ive been through. I can't. Ash needs to see there's more to life than past hurt!

[@lyricalhealer]

Michelle Raymond you are one courageous lady. There is purpose in your pain. I am inspired to be my best self because you can share your core truth. When we speak on the phone, I can tell you have healed and turned your pain into your power. Thank you for your honesty of heart. I had no idea this was your journey. We have all learned a little more humility because of you. More strength, guidance and wisdom to you.

[@simonelisakennedy5357]

you are amazing Michelle, so proud of you and who are. x

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Hey Sim, thank you my dear. Really appreciate the support

[@veronicaebanks5769]

Thank you Michelle for your courageous public sharing! I salute you and your daughter for your resilience and desire to raise awareness about the 'hidden' victims of crime. Much respect to you 💕

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

And I appreciate this Veronica. This is only the beginning

[@veronicaebanks5769]

Michelle Raymond Awesome! 💕

[@sarahedwards3342]

Wonderfully spoken. Thank you Michelle for your sincerity and reminder to not allow us to succumb to victim mode.

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Yep, it's easily done, but too many people are hurting and living in shame

[@bearhandle81]

10 years going onto 11 years brought me nothing but grief to even think of walking away with my life to having a stroke

[@stephenbam3479]

I was lucky enough to have seen this live. So incredible and so powerful ...above all Brave!!!

[@adeoladisu5793]

This is amazing Michelle! You were very brave, courageous, you stood for TRUTH! Thank you. Very well done! xx

[@rebeccamorgan8101]

Powerful story that touched my soul. Everything you said was on point and true. Power to you Michelle, I admire your strength❤So happy you and your daughter are doing well within.😍 God is good🙏🏾

[@TjAtkinson]

Amazing. Well done Michelle

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Thank you. Appreciated

[@bi07bi]

Powerful and encouraging, time for my voice to be heard!

[@Sukiethenoodle]

Michelle I am soooooo proud of you. You continue to defy the odds!

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Thank you. I'm just here to lead the way for others

[@ckcogen]

Whoop Whoop! so powerful. How bold and brave of you. Way to go and congrats on you Tedx talk. Awesome topic and prezo. Love love love.

[@noahholmes7198]

It was a real pleasure to sit with you in the moments before you went onto that stage. You absolutely nailed it. Hoping your back is better now! :)

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Thank you so much. The stress brought it on but Im much better now

[@jackzufelt]

What an important message! I admire you for being strong enough to share you story. And now you are an inspiration and blessing that will help others to will know what to do with their situation and believe they can become limitless.

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Exactly this. I have had calls and texts and messages of people saying that they want to share their story too. I'd love to have the opportunity to interview different people and get it commissioned for a documentary; giving a voice to those that were once voiceless!

[@Insight2marketing]

Have watched this a few times. You’re very very brave and I admire you. Thank for sharing this as it is important Love the way you captivate and share your story so well. This right here is 💯

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Wow. Thank you. It wasn't easy but it's a story to be told.

[@Lydia-EveTMena]

Very powerful narrative. Well done to you Michelle for being brave enough to speak about it.

[@darrenmcintosh8471]

The difference between a victim and a perpetrator is that the perpetrator has tried to move closer to wellness by physically acting out in an attempt to no longer feel powerless by committing a crime. In effect, they project their feelings of powerless out onto their victim and in doing so, feel more empowered. It is a reaction rising from fear. They do not realize that any action taken from a place of fear (without first coming mentally into a space of freedom) will only produce physical results coherent with powerlessness, such as prison. The victim however, has merely stayed in the state of fear and powerlessness without acting out. But still, the victim and perpetrator share the exact same energetic vibration.

[@kambeinspired]

This is so amazing. We need to all teach our kids to not care what others think of them. Thanks so much for this amazing speech!

[@hananatmani5697]

Powerful message, the world needs to hear this.

[@MsQueendp]

Excellent..... powerful

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

As long as it makes an impact and people become slow to judge and love more, then it will be REALLY powerful

[@denicesealy6083]

Wow🙌👏👏 very powerful

[@mattierep]

So proud Michelle ❤️ ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Thank you xx

[@thatsmyboy9124]

Soooo inspiring Michelle

[@energy_thru_art]

What courage you have and how empowering for others Michelle. I have often wondered about the silent victims of perpetrators through association. As the spouse or partner it must be so heart-breaking but can't imagine how devastating and confusing it must also be for a mother and child! Thank you for sharing such a powerful message and so sorry that you had to go through that - but how amazingly you grew beyond and above that is truly inspiring.

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

It wasn't easy in the slightest and having it sprawled on the news didn't help either! I have a whole lot more compassion when I see thins like this now

[@energy_thru_art]

@@MichelleRaymondOfficial never easy indeed - especially when it's all so public. I am reminded of a time when we were going through a particularly difficult time as a family and there was a local newspaper article with photo of my ex 'doing good in the community'. What nobody knew though was what was going on behind the scenes! So at least for us - it was just our close friends and family who were privy to the truth of it all!

[@crystalpistey-lyhne3406]

So Compassionate, Moving!! 😍😌😭👪🙆💑😤😮💕

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

Thank you for commenting, I really appreciate this

[@bearhandle81]

10 years going onto 11 years brought me nothing but grief to even think of walking away with my life to having a stroke, but just a statistic on welfare not a statistic of getting paid up front

[@kindredspiritstea7259]

girl u rock hats off to u

[@kiranminer7955]

My son 20yo was hit by someone on two different controlled substances that are contraindicated for being prescribed together or for driving while on them, the driver was on the phone and drove into the oncoming lane and hit my son an army reservist on his way home from work on his motorcycle. She, the white driver ,who grew up in the area was not charged with a felony or DUI despite the toxicology showing both drugs present in the system. The officer told me "Your son is no angle I could hear him speeding from the barracks" sight unseen and knowing nothing of motorcycles and muffler systems and stating how he hates motorcycles. According to PA state law, this should have been an automatic felony when you cause serious injury. My son was life-flighted to a trauma hospital and had 14 surgeries to save his life and his leg and has permanent disfigurement, infection and injury. Wayne County Pa did not give access to victim assistance as the person quit and the DA never charged the driver or spoke to my son about his account and nor did the State police. Have my son's rights been violated? and certainly, the police officer and DA have extremely unprofessional conduct in both the law and enforcement as well with possible discrimination and clear bias. Who do I contact?

[@eldesgraciado6690]

If your son is a criminal, you're not a "victim". You're GUILTY.

[@tshepomatale]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@jacquelinedunn9591]

We need assessments as children through schooling not intrusive and a parenting learning skill to all somehow issued through the schools or G.P raised concerns in early childhood. Education system input of professional research in rectifying major problem. All things stem from parenting and ancestries. These need putting right commanding being listened not when there problems.Copied behaviour is a problem even if your innocent. lots more to say. Like smoking. Addictions research.

[@franchescapinamang8208]

Great testimony, love more judge less .❤

[@MichelleRaymondOfficial]

A simple message. Can you imagine if we were to really love more and judge less?

[@johnmay242]

des ivers. telethre. i am the victim of crow and crowery reversing grave yard slaughter. i feel very pain.