The Lies of Situationships, Hook Up & Babymama culture-COMMITMENT ISSUES OF OUR TIME|LUCY BENSON

The Lies of Situationships, Hook Up & Babymama culture-COMMITMENT ISSUES OF OUR TIME FT LUVME|LUCY BENSON
Hey Guys todays video is about commitment issues in our present day, Situationships, Hook Up & Babymama culture. i hope you enjoy💜
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[@Opioidmoon]

Monogamy used to mean one person for life; now it means one person at a time.

[@RACHAEL____]

Point on!!

[@A_Girl_Named_Biscuit]

I don't get how marriage is a huge commitment but a whole child isn't, like where's the logic!!!

[@chelsea9641]

It’s just excuses that people say. A whole baby is a lifelong commitment.

[@OlhaKovalenko-n6h]

Cause men saying that actually are not going to take responsibility for their future children. Average absentee farther behaviour, unfortunately

[@missree4932]

“You don’t have to experience everyone and not everyone have to experience you”

[@vantasticvego]

situationships just leaves you with more insecurities than when you first started 🤐

[@taybee4653]

Having children is a lifetime commitment! Even when the child is an adult, you never stop being a parent. Once you have a baby with someone they are in your life for LIFE.

[@kikash7549]

Recently ended a fwb situation and will NEVER go through that again. I’m getting back right with God and going celibate from now on

[@nandytikiso229]

This is exactly what I've done... I'm proud of us sis❤️❤️❤️

[@elani9624]

Gods timing is the best timing💕 sending you prayers and love💗

[@Ultimate_Onyx]

Amen sister, I love this for you

[@kargboalima]

Same here sis! And I was on my abstinence journey for a good while and then I fell off it because of a cute smile 😮‍💨It’s time to get it together

[@silekiweaudreymwenelupembe6126]

Congratulations. That's the way to go. You did yourself a favour. Besides, sexual relationships are the number 1 cause of cervical cancer in women. Men transmit the HPV Virus which causes cervical cancer and you dodged a bullet. Continue taking care of yourself and seeking God. All the best.

[@idarapeter]

“ you don’t want the person for yourself but your child????? Seeing this way makes alot of sense and difference

[@Tatteh_tp]

To us who like before we watch 🥂🤭😘

[@Esiri_Joy]

Especially exclusive to Lucy ❤😅

[@ElledotOh]

I am she and she is me.😅😅😅

[@Chinecherem_1]

🥂❤

[@Dimmsy_84]

Yes @tatteh_tp. I’m guilty pls❤😅

[@GraceDoglo]

Yeah cos we always have a good time on this channel 😊

[@SweetNeece23]

out of all the content i see, i finally feel like i found someone of quality that truly resonates and speaks out on how unnormal a lot of these normalized behavior has become!!! thank you for speaking the truth!!! stay on our necks!!! we need to hear it!!!

[@chinesefood2222]

Do you know how hard it is to find someone who’s genuine nowadays?? We don’t even have FRIENDS, let alone soulmates or people we want to spend the rest of our lives with.

[@Ajlatango]

I’m 37 and have been happily married for 6 years. I met my husband when I was 29 and he was 34. Within a couple or weeks of us dating I told him that I’m looking for a husband and that I want to have kids (I have two now) so I wasn’t going to sit around and wait forever so if he wasn’t on the same page we shouldn’t waste each others time. He was definitely caught off guard but was also impressed by my directness because he knew what to expect and what I was expecting. You have to be true to yourself because nobody else can do that for you.

[@margeyb.8665]

That Baby mama culture is getting out of hand. Don’t even get me started on situationships and hook ups. Real big problem!! Our generation is the worst really!! 😩🥹

[@Ultimate_Onyx]

I feel the same way

[@liahlove8297]

I love this. I'm at a point where i am frustrated when it comes to dating. I try to date with the intention of actually getting to know each other better and eventually get married if we hit it off. But girl... i keep meeting men who just wants hook ups and situationships and nothing else. I am at my wits end and I've decided to remain single and date at a later time. Or if I meet someone great. It sucks out here. I just don't feel okay with casual sex.

[@itsbeeva]

If you keep withholding sex and stand on your standards and boundaries, you’ll find the right one!! Stay strong and have faith🙏🏽

[@AdamahawaBarry-m6v]

Yo for real, you be having the intention to know the other person but they're just in for sex 😮‍💨

[@cxvisha]

I agree with you! But it is excruciating hard to find someone you like AND have same viewpoints in life with. As a woman it’s so hard right now. I’m single rn and probably forever will be, I love my peace and own space so much 😂❤

[@YochanaIrie_FineAppleStylez]

As a woman that’s about to enter her 30 soon, I love this message! Keep your foot on their necks because the young people need to know, and even people my age and older need to recognize, the impact that all of this has on them and society as a whole.

[@Omotayo.Adeyemi]

God bless the day you picked up a camera to start a KZbin channel ❤❤❤

[@faithwdeng]

YES! After one miscommunicated situationship (I thought was a relationship), I was done. A few months later I met this guy and told him on date one I was looking for a husband, and wanted to be married young and a young mom. I figured if it ran him off it was saving me time lol. I even mentioned wanting to be at home with my kids rather than working, and I wanted to homeschool for a few years. We talked about everything important on that first date. religion, how we wanted our kids raised, wanting a marriage with traditional roles, etc. Fast forward four years later, we've been married for almost three years, have a beautiful one year old daughter, and another baby on the way. After we got married, I asked him if me saying that stuff on our first date freaked him out. He said it actually was what made him take me seriously and felt like a breath of fresh air. He wanted marriage too but hadn't come across anyone he thought was worth getting serious with. He had his heart broken when he was younger and after that was way more critical and just had situationships until we met. If I hadn't told him that on date one, we probably wouldn't be married right now. I wouldn't change that conversation for the world.

[@thandekamasina5673]

Not me feeling like I am being reprimanded by an African mother 🥺 we hear you sis 🤞🏽

[@Xo_eve_]

Yes I agree with you doing hookup and friends with benefits is just a waste of body count

[@Xo_eve_]

Deep down inside me I know I deserve better every time a situation ship is placed in front of me

[@kaylabean3693]

@@Xo_eve_you absolutely do!

[@deboraed5557]

Thank you and God bless you! ... I'm 26 and finally gotten to a place of acceptance towards myself ... that I am not and don't have to partake in this delulu hook up culture ... God protected me this far ... and I have Made my peace in knowing what I want! Thank you for speaking on, what a lot of woman deep down know and feel, but because of wanting to be a part of that culture, they will play a long ...

[@lucyonateh6908]

I literally choked while laughing when you said you're going to hell. Some people don't know this things.

[@enniey0036]

Hi Lucy I am 19 and I really love your videos I have been watching you since I was 17 because I just love to listen to older women because you guys obviously have more knowledge and experience I want to ask if you can talk about advises for girls in their teens Thank you ❤️

[@Esiri_Joy]

Am a teen as well, I think it would be great ❤

[@kaylabean3693]

It’s going to be cliche, but focus on you right now. Heal any childhood trauma or trauma period, learn your own hobbies, learn your own style. Learn you, learn what boundaries you have and don’t let people walk all over them. Remove yourself from people and situations that no longer serve you. I hope this helps💖

[@Sxlly2008]

i discovered her channel at 14 but am not not committed to it yet,now that am turning 16 i want to fully commit to her channel and watch every video...... Do you have any channel recommendations?? because i'm trying to build myself into a calm and reserved young woman..

[@kaylabean3693]

@@Sxlly2008it depends on what you need/want. I used to watch a lot of Dr. Ramani’s channel because she helped me understand my dysfunctional family. I also watch a lot of natural hair videos because I am a black woman, some channels that help me are Tatiana White, Coilette, Mare Meets World, and I used to watch a lot of Michelle McDaniel’s channel because I used/still struggle with bad eating habits. It’s all about what you need. I’m not sure if that helps because I’m not too sure exactly what you may need at this time, but if you want you can let me know and I can try my best to help you get there💖and I almost forgot! The Shumake way he’s a black man who I believe gives a healthy perspective about navigating the dating world as a young woman but gives it from a man’s perspective, I love love his videos from like two or three years ago and he’s married now

[@kaylabean3693]

And yall whatever it is you do, please please be gentle and kind with yourselves. Idc what anyone says we all are learning and life is a journey, a marathon, not a sprint. As you embark into womanhood you’re going to learn so much about yourself and the world period. Some mistakes may happen, and when they do, do your best to learn the lesson from them, dust your shoulders off, and keep going! No matter what, keep going for you, always!! Some days may be terrible but there’s a chance that you can have a beautiful tomorrow. And do not ever give up on yourself, please, it does get better. And the fact that you guys are even asking the questions that you are, says so much about you! You guys got this and I wish you guys so much joy and blessings as you take off💖💖

[@defiantlypinki1107]

I deleted dating apps months ago. I’m tired of trying and men are becoming less and less worth it. I’m done.

[@samcarmen]

I was talking with someone about Barry Keoghan and how he is technically a baby daddy because he broke up with his girlfriend that he had a kid with. I made an offhand comment that it's a little sad because he probably wanted to be a husband not just a baby daddy but it didn't end up working out. but also congratulated him for taking responsibility and that he seemed to really love his son because his eyes glow everytime he talks about him. the person literally said that my views were "archaic". like, huh?

[@Brown_Shuga797]

It's so tiring dealing with all this uncultured men

[@rebeccaOmosebi]

I love your mindset so much, very similar to mine, I'm quite intellectual, 16, and I'm so glad I'm listening to such wise women like you who know it, not a lot of good role models are out there you are amazing! God bless you and all your endeavours

[@Chiagozie-io7vf]

Please take your flowers 🌺🌹🌺🌹 that's raw truth

[@emmamrh1956]

“You walked away from evil and made space for good to come into your life” 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@phitolyfancy6561]

I have this guy I'm dating he is such a good guy and so caring I'm 24 and I'm so worried when people say being in love at this age is not being serious,,he loves me and he's serious believe me cause i have met players..one thing about social media is ruining everything.

[@lelo46]

Just be cautious. I’m not trying to scare you or make you weary. But most of us have felt this way, not all of us have dated horrible men, or men who were horrible at first and we just ignored red flags. No, some of us were cautious and still ended up in a sticky situation. Take it slow, keep your eyes and ears open, don’t give up your body before a commitment. And of course, let love in! Definitely enjoy it, learn, and LOVE❤

[@phitolyfancy6561]

@@lelo46 thank you I'm just scared to love again because of what i went through in love, and i feel like I'm judging him over other peoples mistake..

[@lelo46]

@@phitolyfancy6561 don’t judge him. Use your wisdom to help you make better decisions and to love better. Don’t have your experience work against you. Like I said, be cautious, but also give him a fair chance.

[@itsbeeva]

Maturity is not about age, so it’s very well possible that you’re with a wonderful guy. Have discernment and take it slow, yes, but also don’t let bitter and jaded people ruin a good thing. I’m happy for you, I love love, so let’s bring real love back🥰

[@itsbeeva]

@@phitolyfancy6561I feel you, but we can’t let our trauma and everybody else’s trauma allow us to self-sabotage💛 Good men do still exist, I promise!

[@crazycatlady312]

Amen sister 🙏🏾❤❤👏🏾. & if you have engaged in these self destructive activities ask God for forgiveness, repent, and change your behavior moving forward.

[@Ultimate_Onyx]

You’re speaking straight truth, if I get back out in the dating game. I’ll have this video saved, downloaded, and ingrained when I get disappointed by males

[@sunnybunnyfunny]

I love this video so much. I appreciate learning from the elder women in my life and online. I am 18, going on 19 this summer, and I can say I have avoided many disasters because of it. I love well versed/educated women. It pushes me to do better for myself and my family🩷🩷🎀🎀✨️✨️Much love!

[@noirefit5954]

A lot of “baby mamas” did not go out seeking to become pregnant. Any woman out here having sex could easily become a single mother. The only way to really avoid it is to wait til marriage for sex and even then, cross your fingers and hope the man does right. It’s very easy to fall into the trap because God forbid it be you one day. The whole world will look down on you whether you’re a good mother or not.

[@Ultimate_Onyx]

But let’s not act like baby mama culture isn’t glorified when it IS! That’s the sad part about it, you have kindergartners wanting to be pregnant just “because”. It’s SICK

[@cashyyvibez]

I’m 24 and yeah I be having sex buttt take all precautionary measures and threats like if a dude keep saying weird shit like they gone get you pregnant I leave. If I’m unsure just take a plan b early on (but now I’m on birth control) but if you know you not in the place to want that or with that person then do what you need to do. I have so many friends that ended up pregnant but ask if they did anything to stop it.. yeah you wanted to be this position imo

[@Ultimate_Onyx]

@@cashyyvibez exactly! They can take the precautionary measures, plan B is wayyyy cheaper than a baby!

[@lee-kaylynnerobyn-nick6245]

BIG LUCY HAS SPOKEN!

[@lindiwejacobs702]

this is really good content,please keep sharing more of this advice. more love and great support from Botswana 🇧🇼

[@nontsikelelonoruwanahealth8035]

Indeed truly speaking

[@BCBeautystores]

Gather here if you are always waiting for her to post... Love love her❤❤❤

[@TersaWang]

Period sis you don't have to match people energy ❤

[@alyselovett297]

you’re not letting up!!😩 i love it!

[@itschriss357]

girl we need a detailed makeup tutorial because damnn!!😍😍

[@AlieshaNigea]

I love these topics!!! So real!

[@yy.unlimited]

💐Ma'am please take your flowers, you have hit the nail on the head 🥂

[@Beegoldff]

Hey Lucy. Thanks for sharing this with us. Please, keep up with the sisterly advice. Like you have said, we just have to keep hampering it, if not for anything so that young teenagers won't grow up making all these mistakes. One thing i have also noticed in our society is that, once you are not doing what they refer to as norms, they see you as being weak but me right now in Lucy"s voice. I'm not bothered, call me anything you like. Thank God for the gift of Lucy, i love the woman I"m becoming.

[@nontsikelelonoruwanahealth8035]

Everything you say is true.

[@ngumatjiuatjituka]

Lucy is like a big sister here, guys. Who else feels the same? Thanks for being open on such topics. We get to learn and take home a thing or two from watching yoyr vidoes😊

[@tosin1018]

Uncomfortable truth that we all need. Thank you Lucy.

[@Prombabyyy]

Lucy is the big sister we never had 😊

[@onyekweresisca4474]

Wow! Girl seeing a beautiful lady talk on this and really making a point is very interesting!❤

[@EzenwaUjunwa]

Kudos to d woman dat born u my queen

[@karis.asemota]

I really learnt a lot from this video and now I have some things to change and stop doing. Thank you very much💖

[@Efyapeprah00]

Luccyyyy❤❤❤….love love you girlll🔥

[@Lolami206]

Thank you Lucy for this wake up call 😁 I learnt a lot and changes would be applied accordingly 😌 Ladies needs to wake up and see the truth and stop lying to themselves and hurting themselves in the process . It’s a needed video

[@glorywobidi]

Gurlll you literally hit the nail on the headd I really really needed to hear this

[@Stacey316]

I really enjoyed the video. Very refreshing to watch especially now that a lot of nonsense have been normalized.....❤

[@jacksonprecious20]

I found peace on your page❤️😍 Love u ma 🫶❤️

[@naijalink5541]

Beautiful girl! Love this talk girl 🔥

[@AnaFB9696]

words of wisdom. That kind of relation is not for me.

[@ejilechi]

Someone who speaks the truth❤️😍I Stan

[@juliamae8994]

you keep me sensible

[@Philisa_TheChildOfFavor]

Wise words 🙏🏾 I have learned a lot from your channel 📺. Keep the positivity up

[@LifeWithChristiana453]

You inspire me Lucy❤❤❤

[@LifeWithChristiana453]

I really love this one ❤❤❤❤❤

[@Evelyn_Ampah]

I feel like we have the same mindset sometimes wow

[@Somto_e]

Love you Lucy❤

[@thenewgeneration2378]

Fr! i don't understand it. why don't people want a commited relationship? I want someone to do couple things with and work toward marriage, but these guys just want to f every woman they can. Finally got my first situationship to have a relationship and possibly marriage but he doesn't want kids and asked if he could get more time to basically f around before tying the knot forever. Honestly I'm Letting him get it out of system. i just don't understand, i have no problems being with him and only him

[@stellaobia8161]

You bring very brilliant topic to the table all the time, thank you ❤

[@brendaluhanga4190]

❤ love this

[@kansiimeagneslivity6188]

Girl thanks for the truth

[@nietah325]

📌📌📌📌📌📌📌📌 you're not the only one thinking it❤🧠

[@carineakebeawah5330]

Thanks darling

[@goldempire023]

Thank you so much Lucy ❤

[@estherakarigbo2225]

Lucy's content is always 🔥

[@Stephan__ox.]

americans (not all) have that trial kid from the one relationship they should've walked away from

[@Its_aletha]

I love LUVME HAIR 🌹✨

[@safarijames7746]

New subbie !!!!

[@seawilliams7068]

Honestly thank you for this

[@kossyokoye17]

Thank you so much Lucy❤❤... You are definitely speaking sense. I love it ❤

[@alexisbutler8418]

Today is my birthday 😊😊

[@MyLucyBenson]

Happy birthday girl ❤️🥰

[@kendrawilliams5703]

Happy Birthday!!

[@SophiaEzele]

Thanks mama I love you so much

[@kaylabean3693]

This was good!!

[@anitarich6863]

Finally first to comment 💃💃

[@StylezOfCole]

Keep it up Lucy. I love your content ❤❤❤❤

[@susannannozi6637]

Thank you Lucy🙏🏻

[@Dabbie_Neli]

You're very wise Lucyyy❤

[@missginapromotestv]

You are always on POINT ❤️

[@shakeragibson4916]

You make sense

[@gracedressman]

If you get ghosted, and you in turn refuse to text back to ask why, and you intentionally start your healing process to move on, does that mean you’re matching energy too??

[@RAIN-BEER777]

Yes I agree 💯💯 and hook-up culture don't benefit for women only males 😢 i don't know why women partake in it 💯🗣️

[@mariamasum4191]

Lucy does dating has to involve going out or it can be done on phone as in chatting nd all cause at times u can’t have a chance to go out ?

[@usakoraw]

Not husband material but good to have his baby.... what??? I know I am the same way... I just look at them like they need a trip to the therapist office. If they just want a baby so bad - go to a fertility clinic. I think it would be best if the woman doesnt know the father. Cause I guarantee over 75% of these women won't have anything to do with the "father" after they get pregnant or have the baby, no matter what he says. Cause a lot of times he will say "oh I will be involved"... Have they seen "Teen Mom"? My main thing is a lot of relationships are rushed! Especially during Covid. Have you seen the famous TikToker "Who the F* did I Marry?" ? It's just 1 thing after another with her and the guy. She rushed that relationship. I know in the old days and even now it can work out... but a lot don't.

[@othniellawilliams439]

love your videos ❤

[@spusulri]

They don’t u derstand the psychological and emotional Responsibility of teaching and raising a freaking human being enough for them to be a good person. to them, their mothers neglected them so that’s the only style of parenting they know so they think that’s all it takes to raise a child. And they’re not introspective enough to figure out their faults and figure out their own issues so they’re perfect in their own eyes. Basically “ I was raised like this and i turned out fine.” the variables through which they make their decisions are already biased and weighted a certain way due to the environment in which they were raised and who they associate with.

[@stellaolali]

LET'S BE FOR REAL

[@bb_somtochukwu]

Please Lucy can you show us the process of how you make your thumbnail

[@aheartolove]

Preach !!!

[@maryjanechisara]

Lucyyy 💐

[@simphiwecyprial901]

Excellent video❤❤, but wat u are saying can go either way, man or woman

[@elianeaziza954]

I agree

[@bebeface9822]

Flown out***, respectfully it was bugging me.

[@lisa.222]

Im a black girl...imma stay being a hopless romantic. Ill stay waithung for the day i can deeply love and be loved. Ill stay beliveing i can have my love story if im patient. When i watch romantic movies or shows, it makes me dream of a day i can experience such love. Im tired of this tough love especially wirh blk ppl especially women. Im a soft girl. I hooe to be with soemone who genuinely loves me qs well as i love them back

[@maryammuazucriesofmypen5722]

Every girl teenager adult needs to watch this video. Lucy speaks a reality that everyone refuses to accept. This is not to shame men or women it is uplifting you as a person as a woman. Go for what you want. Don’t go and be selling yourself for scrap. You are valuable. That is what this video is telling you.