💯 agree, what people don't know they can't destroy 😊
@Bd-mq8td9 ай бұрын
1. bodycount on Internet/in personal life 2. material purchases/ things that you buy 3. past mistakes 4. career journey/ finances 5. arguments/fights you have with your partner
@vxunvlex2 ай бұрын
Thank you
@bellaelendu51719 ай бұрын
From a former oversharer, learn to keep your mistakes to yourself because once someone sees it They can't unsee it o
@gyallikeicky9 ай бұрын
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@its_cynthiandaipa9 ай бұрын
I just love how Lucy is pointing out that you could really be an influential person and still maintain your privacy! This is great advice
@fayvohigwe92469 ай бұрын
I completely agree
@justalina_S8 ай бұрын
Hi sis, I agree with you and would say that Beyoncé is a prime example of this.
@its_cynthiandaipa8 ай бұрын
@@justalina_S Exactly :)
@yasminebianca88209 ай бұрын
I'm not sure why I've always felt the need to SHARE things.. this was so helpful, wish I had learned this sooner.
@mz_marmar898 ай бұрын
Better late than never sis, life is a marathon not a race! We got this 🫶🏽
@TheeJasminDiaries9 ай бұрын
My guesses before watching the video: 1. Relationships 2. Money 3. Any good news 4. Future plans 5. Any hardships
@thathokoyana30379 ай бұрын
Please could you cover topics like : How to build a relationship with yourself How to talk to people or engage in conversation without over sharing How to build consistency and dealing with overcoming things you’re self aware of
@everythingdestany7679 ай бұрын
I love this. I have learned this recently. Most of my struggles were caused by projections from other people. Privacy is best.
@JustLouns9 ай бұрын
Same.
@TamaraMiller1118 ай бұрын
Same
@mz_marmar898 ай бұрын
Been in this transition as well.
@ngofashekinah61109 ай бұрын
Lucyy. the last point about not tellling your arguments with your partner to you friends and family is just soo true. I experienced this before, infact we had not even gotten into an official relationship and we had a big disagreement. I did not know how to handle it and I told my friends and till date they literally hate this person and see him as black as satan whereas he is not. I have tried so much to explain that he is not what they think he is but they would not budge. And fact is I never painted him as black to them. I simply only told them his view on that topic and now they literally hate him.
@anti-social2069 ай бұрын
Bruh this happened to me too now I’m so low-key and I don’t say anything in relation to my relationship
@Iridescentmelanin9 ай бұрын
I thought Satan was red
@justalina_S8 ай бұрын
I have learned to close my ears or to redirect the conversation when my friends or family try to offload to me about the issues they have with partner for this exact reason. I get a bad taste in my mouth over them then the next thing I know that friend/family member is back to being happy again in their relationship because they have now sorted things out but I'm still left with the previous image of them that was painted to me and can't shake it. Now, I want to stay out of what is not mine to be in, so as much as I want to be there for my friends/family, if it is of a nature where they are relaying details to me of arguments/issues in there relationships, I literally have a "drop me out" mentality. We don't just have to be careful about what we say, we have to be careful about what we listen to also.
@remmyofficial9 ай бұрын
Kindly, talk about how to protect or put a boundary on your personal space with friends and family
@Dirtylilac9 ай бұрын
I'm middle eastern myself but Black woman are so wise,I learn so many stuff from them.thank you
@thatssofathia9 ай бұрын
Even though I’m relatively private, I learn so much from these videos ❤. People exude the wildest energies out here…
@lush4real9 ай бұрын
I’m way too honest 😢 when put on the spot, the only thing that comes out is the truth 😭
@cm2033 ай бұрын
Feel this oneeee
@suzethnongo29362 ай бұрын
Same here... But if I practice over and over in my head to not say anything it works... I don't no how to manufacture a lie on the spot... I had to ask my pastor how to go about it... He said to practice pause before speaking and to be intentionally slow while speaking...
@justalina_S8 ай бұрын
I have learned to close my ears or to redirect the conversation when my friends or family try to offload to me about the issues they have with partner. I get a bad taste in my mouth over their spouse due to what I was told, then the next thing I know that friend/family member is back to being happy again in their relationship because they have now sorted things out but I'm still left with the previous image of them that was painted to me and can't shake it. Now, I want to stay out of what is not mine to be in, so as much as I want to be there for my friends/family, if it is of a nature where they are relaying details to me of arguments/issues in there relationships, I literally have a "drop me out" mentality. We don't just have to be careful about what we say, we have to be careful about what we listen to also.
@tracyehiakhamen9 ай бұрын
What if you’ve been an over sharer and you’re recently trying to become more private, but you’ve made a mistake of sharing certain private details of your life and you regret it, how do you go on from there? What’s the next step?
@carinebelle43569 ай бұрын
Hi Tracy, Firstly, you do not own anybody any information. You can change your mind at anytime and that’s ok. This is your life You can always create new boundaries and become consistent with them. Some examples that you can say : I no longer want to discuss this situation or event. I have moved on from this situation or event, let talk about something else. Hope this help
@tracyehiakhamen9 ай бұрын
@@carinebelle4356 thank you so much belle it was so helpful❤️
@dorahmulinge38009 ай бұрын
Forgive yourself, now you know better, you were in ignorance, but now you have the knowledge And hey, we all make mistakes, I've had instances where I overshared and regretted but I didn't let shame make me feel down
@tracyehiakhamen9 ай бұрын
@@dorahmulinge3800 thank you for this
@yasm29349 ай бұрын
I've been like this. Don't look back, from now on moving forward you keep it private.
@nqobilesimelane68219 ай бұрын
You have no idea how much I’ve grown from these kind of conversations you have with us🥺. You’re truly God sent and appreciated ❤️
@asmahahmed22888 ай бұрын
Agreed! Did you know that all these practices you said for living a happy life is also advised and encouraged in islam? Our Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) told us that we shouldn’t share any moment which is special to us cuz of the evil eye. It’s so real. And when there’s a conflict btw a spouse you’re not supposed to gossip and tell his bad stuff. In islam both spouses are like a garment for each other. Whatever is said in the house will stay in the house. You don’t go to people and tell your private details. - so girl all what you said are etiquettes and manners in islam❤
@SheriK9269 ай бұрын
Outside energy can throw off goals 🎉
@MiyahTiashai968 ай бұрын
I Love How You Pointed Out Certain Topics To Not Discuss About. I Am A Working Progress To Stop OVERSHARING With People. Like You Stated “It’s Unnecessary “ When You Do Because People Could Really Be JEALOUS , UNHAPPY , And Or Plain Out ACT FUNNY…
@jenovick41528 ай бұрын
Thank you for this bc we should all know this as early as possible. Privacy is really a powerful thing.
@jazzyjennshighway8 ай бұрын
Makes me think about David and his brothers in the bible.. he told them his dreams and he went through hell from jealousy . Had he kept that dream & vision to himself he might’ve not went through as much
@ItsHerLizzy2 ай бұрын
I think you mean Joseph. David was more singer for the lord and then became king.
@jazzyjennshighway2 ай бұрын
@@ItsHerLizzy yes I absolutely did mean joseph 🤦🏽♀️ Ty for correcting that
@NoryAgyei9 ай бұрын
What I’ve learnt as growing up is that let something about you be sacred to yourself and with your partner. I still stand that relationship and familiarity life should be kept off social media.
@missginawilliams69939 ай бұрын
I’m glad you you brought back this series. I really enjoyed this video. I found the simulation sections a bit distracting. I prefer when it’s you speaking in your natural setting.
@aaronaustrie9 ай бұрын
Exactly what I was thinking about this morning. You can’t trust ppl with your information 📌
@ebaidora-vs6rq9 ай бұрын
Lucy 100 percent I agreed with silence just that some people have not gotten to that point to understand silence
@inaramonigha9 ай бұрын
Omg Lucy this is 💯% true especially the fight with your partner. It just feels like you’re speaking directly to me. Thank you so much for this video
@Tabitha.O9 ай бұрын
Lucy is the big sister we didn’t know we had 💕💕
@AudAkos9 ай бұрын
I've made mistakes by sharing everything that you mentioned in the video. Thanks for the tios; now I know why it's important to keep quiet 😊
@karinam41159 ай бұрын
What you buy or you don’t, or what you do for a living is personal . Some people think you have to answer unless one is at an interview then I tell the interviewer. Society tries to normalize answering questions we do t owe anybody explanations.
@nicolew55269 ай бұрын
You’re a gem girl 💎👏🏾
@noraogechukwuedeh90979 ай бұрын
Always a pleasure watching and listening to you lucy
@solomonvictoria54329 ай бұрын
Love you so much Lucy,you’re my unpaid therapist fr❤
@alexandramdelacruz32189 ай бұрын
Thank you , listen to you talk it’s like receiving advice from a close one❤
@annvic39969 ай бұрын
Thats why on my social media, i only have people that i can actaully talk to in person. But not everything i can share with them but only the results of specific things that i know might inspire others.
@aprilsochic9 ай бұрын
They don’t consider as your past I truly believe they hold it over your head
@justalina_S8 ай бұрын
I really enjoyed this video Lucy, thank you. I have definitely shared on points 2 - 5 in the past and had it go left real quick so I whole heartedly resonate with this video and am working on ensuring that going forwards I am not just more private, but also more "selective" over who I share what with. It's ok to share, but know "who" it is that you are sharing with. Everyone is not entitled to these details of your life just because they are in your life. And likewise, if you're sharing is coming from a place of bragging, then take accountability that you were after some kind of attention in that moment. It's not that we don't deserve attention, but just keep it real with yourself and ask yourself why you feel you need the attention/validation from others. And sometimes it's not even that, sometimes you just want to share your good news with others simply because you're happy and THAT'S OK. Stay blessed, stay learning, stay growing x
@lesliealund2 ай бұрын
Your thoughts helped me come to terms with my late teen early adult years. The saying loose lips sink ships is exactly what I did to some people. Sometimes there is no restitution. These people are not in my life--too much time has passed-- but even saying I am sorry cannot undo the destruction. I never saw this when I was young but I see it now.
@Businessdiarieswithsaph9 ай бұрын
I love that we think alike!! Something I’ve been saying for along time people on the low be pocket watching you like crazy 7:30.
@Uncle.Krueger9 ай бұрын
They say that a fish with it's mouth closed never gets Caught...
@margeyb.86659 ай бұрын
Everything you said in this video is true! Thank you Lucy for always keeping us on your our toes. 🫶🏾
@beauphomasterpiece37958 ай бұрын
Let God use you
@ijeomaloveth83409 ай бұрын
Past mistakes love that part ❤❤
@MrsAngulaHendrina9 ай бұрын
Big sis came through as I start in a new journey of my life
@agunlejikaadeife57028 ай бұрын
Who are you gurrrrllllll? You are 💯 right, and I absolutely agree with you. Please keep up the good work
@kokowalker8 ай бұрын
This should also be for KZbin influencers as well as every day people.
@user-yn2io4bo4bАй бұрын
Am happy hearing this from you
@kadiatukamara65365 ай бұрын
Thanks Lucy I agree with you with number 5 😍
@blessingonoriode9 ай бұрын
This is a lesson am trying to implement in my life.
@Angell_Lee9 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Lucy, you are such an amazing soul! Keep shining ❤
@ewemadenosakhare52299 ай бұрын
Lucy I support u for d past mistakes ,I told my boyfriend wat I did in d past to feed but I already put a stop to it but at d end of d day till now he still uses it against me or make reference to it. The part of even talking about past relationships pls don't
@AdjS7739 ай бұрын
This is spot on Lucy ✨
@kimberleywalkin61789 ай бұрын
I love this! As a chronic over-sharer
@wendyekezie9 ай бұрын
I agree with every single point you made on these one Big sis,thank you fr, such an impact ❤
@ashleynorthover50849 ай бұрын
i love this series!
@jazzyjennshighway8 ай бұрын
Great advice& it is something I need to be work on practicing in which is why no believe I get blocked from stuff due to evil eye .. they watch my KZbin & the next is hell or hate emails sent from fake FB accounts etc
@kristinahall18028 ай бұрын
Hi, I’m a new subscriber I just came across this video. Thanks and these are true facts!
@khensk6 ай бұрын
This was proper sis. Definitely wanting to be a lot more private
@tracyehiakhamen9 ай бұрын
This was a much needed watch! Thank you Lucy for this❤
@reginaasamoah99409 ай бұрын
Hey girl you’re basically the older sister I never had🥺❤️ May I ask where u got your watch from, I really like it
@nicholeau79729 ай бұрын
Thanks for your wisdom Lucy ❤
@mirabelekong36479 ай бұрын
This is spot on! Thank you for this Lucy 🩷
@user-yn2io4bo4bАй бұрын
Thank you Ma❤
@happinessidowu30499 ай бұрын
Well said,Lucy! You're literally my therapist❤.
@MarfowaaDaily9 ай бұрын
Lucy and brains❤ love ur sit down videos❤ my 1st time commenting 😅
@GlowandGrowwithNaya9 ай бұрын
New subbie, girl I thoroughly enjoyed this. You’re so funny. 😂❤
@shayzx9 ай бұрын
I wish I found you earlier, it’s so true the things you say!!
@OwusuMarilyn3 ай бұрын
God bless you
@pauljonas45398 ай бұрын
Too true
@successchannelgh41473 ай бұрын
Please I have a journal I write everything in and with that I feel it very safe than talking to ppl anf I feel safe and able yo pour out everything in it n it makes me feel I have someone I talk to Us it okay too?
@Uncle.Krueger9 ай бұрын
I agree with all the video, I just think that there's nothing wrong with your partner o potential partner asking you your body count, you don't owe him an answer but he has the right to ask
@nietah3259 ай бұрын
i am a sucker for this series
@HotgirlVivss9 ай бұрын
Everything is spot on Lucy! ❤️
@lighthouse_alexandria8 ай бұрын
Thank you, Lucy. This was helpful.
@joyannb66018 ай бұрын
Subscribed. Love the video ❤️
@RammyRah8 ай бұрын
Trueeeee 😊
@nadirashields53579 ай бұрын
Hi Lucy this is off the topic your hair looks beautiful who did it
@PrettyPerfect-qm4xg9 ай бұрын
You are so wise mamas ❤ learning so much from you😊
@sonny_t_9 ай бұрын
Powerful, thanks for sharing 👏👏
@me_sheila9 ай бұрын
Hiii… as an upcoming influencer… I do not brag but sometimes when I want to create content maybe a lifestyle content n I get to show around my house n lifestyle I feel like pple are having insights in my life and I don’t like it. I am too private I don’t even want someone to know what my bed looks like. What can I do about this
@preciousmgbolu53355 ай бұрын
Hi, the fact that you don't like it shows that you should stop it. At least don't give too much information on what your house looks like. Don't show them your bed if you don't want them to see it. Stick to providing value and entertainment in other ways.I wish you the best on your journey.
@stephaniewilliams19509 ай бұрын
Absolutely 💯
@amakarhoda91478 ай бұрын
Thank You darling 💕
@rolandepambou8 ай бұрын
So true !!!
@damaris76879 ай бұрын
Your content is AMAZING. thank you for this one.
@joanpretty99109 ай бұрын
one cold drink for you , everything is on point 💯
@user-bz9lx6nr3o9 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing of
@kamaygotcheese87379 ай бұрын
Amazing video super helpful points thank you so much for this video ❤
@Omzzlove9 ай бұрын
Just came across this channel and everything you’ve said is apt 👌🏾
@itunuolukunle9 ай бұрын
Love every single point mentioned.
@Vee_kie019 ай бұрын
Guys that ask about body count red flag😒next caller pls😂
@akouelevi59019 ай бұрын
Just discovered your channel and I love it
@NALICE-tv7cw9 ай бұрын
I love your reasoning behind each point you make❤️❤️❤️❤️ I love the canvases in the background. Can you share the link?
@langaroyalqueen9 ай бұрын
You're teaching me honestly!
@Boredpatrick9 ай бұрын
I love your content ❤ and you right about evil eye!
@faithtemitope-babatunde99019 ай бұрын
You are literally the best..
@jessicaderah27369 ай бұрын
Thanks for this series Lucy
@Somoprecious9 ай бұрын
I made the mistake of telling someone about my man when we had a lil fight and guess who heard it? My man🥹 like I’m in awe of how the gist spread so much because she doesn’t even know him. I’m still living with the shame but I decided to stop talking because I did not even tell her that he knows about it
@aprilsochic9 ай бұрын
Everything said is very true, thank you for your video
@rhemamensah65829 ай бұрын
Amazing topic ,yet again Lucy ❤
@egar_chizzy9 ай бұрын
My favorite series so far 💖🤭
@AuthenticallyTee9 ай бұрын
😂I laughed so hard at this because you were speaking to me.