Trauma Dumping Culture on TikTok is DANGEROUS -THINGS SOCIAL MEDIA HAS NORMALIZED BUT AREN'T NORMAL

[@808woofwoof]

I deleted the app. Tik tok can be so informative with skincare, new products, life hacks, and reviews but it also has the same toxicity of twitter on an adolescence level. I notice so many people on the app no matter their age have the mindset of a young person. It is also made to be highly addictive (with same science as casino slot machines). It can also make users believe they are being more productive than usual educating themselves on about certain topics when really they are wasting time doing nothing (with no actual physical action or “doing” the thing that needs to be done). Edit: My advice if you love something do the ground work to learn more beyond your social accounts. Go out and see the world and meet new people. Follow people who can elevate your prospective. This is why I love Lucy’s channel. Such an educated, elegant and beautiful person.

[@Electra9797]

I also deleted it and I feel much better in general.

[@tinojoramu9016]

You’re so wise

[@dorahmulinge3800]

Wise remarks, I deleted tiktok Nov last yr and I don't plan on going back as well. It's just a time waster

[@Sarah-kv3qs]

I deleted it too kinda sucks though as a lot of makeup girls and skincare people/educational stuff is mostly there now. Yet it’s an overload of beef, random debates and nonsense

[@808woofwoof]

@@Electra9797 Right, feels so refreshing doesn’t it! Keep up the good fight lol. 😂

[@celeste8157]

The word narcissist IS overused, but there are a lot more of them than I think people realize

[@Snookyboo]

Definitely, especially if narcissists are accusing other people of being narcissistic to deflect, it definitely could be overused, lol they would probably love it if people just stopped talking about it too

[@celeste8157]

@@Snookyboo well, nearly all narcissists don't know they're narcissists, so when they deflect and say somebody else is narcissistic, they really believe it. A true narcissist will never even consider that they are a narcissist, no matter what. Whereas, if you confront a non-narcissist with their bad actions, they would consider it.

[@GabbyTeAma]

I'm so glad someone has finally spoken about people inventing new insecurities and passing them on to other people. This phenomenon has trickled down to the children. I work with kids and my 3rd grade girls are quite literally obsessed with their body image, skincare, "leveling up", and fixing imperfections.They should be carefree kids enjoying life but they're constantly comparing themselves to others and trying to get prettier. I really worry about how their mental health is going to be in a few years.

[@lunav9827]

Wow that’s just sad I couldn’t even imagine growing up like that

[@BagLadyy_]

3RD GRADE???😢😢

[@InMarieNailz]

I was climbing trees in 3rd grade. This is crazy

[@fran791]

This is on the parents, children should not have access to social media before middle school. It should be illegal

[@JordanS-ww4eu]

Me too BFF❤❤❤❤❤

[@mariahd.carbaugh3590]

Trauma dumping starts on social media and carries on into real life. I work as a front desk receptionist for a children's gymnastics facility where a majority of the parents are millennials. And they are WAY too comfortable spilling to me all the intricate details about their divorces, custody situations, medical conditions, and other adverse family situations (such as death or their children being bullied at school) when I'm just there to process their payments and enroll their child in classes. Being obligated to listen to all that- when it's not part of my assigned job- really WEIGHS on me when I have my own life to worry about.

[@emileenix6311]

I stopped using social media besides KZbin and I was absolutely floored by how much TIME I had during the day. It felt like I had an over abundance of time. Suddenly I was able to have enough time to do my make up in the morning before work, I had enough time to read before bed, I had enough time to do homework (And complete it in a reasonable enough time that I was actually able to enjoy my weekend!) It was absolutely insane just how much time that social media took up. I never noticed how much of my time I spent scrolling before that. I also noticed that my mood improved and I was able to establish a routine and find hobbies that I enjoyed doing. Scrolling had taken up so much of my life that I didn’t even have hobbies anymore. I was never “bored” enough to actually take the time to learn a craft or invest in an activity. There is so much world to explore outside of the digital realm. I’m so, so, so glad that I actually got away from it and I’m not sure if I will go back.

[@leanaam.5385]

I left social media for these reasons. I am not coming back. KZbin is already enough. Thanks for the gem Lucy! ❤

[@RaeLeeann]

I just deleted the app last night and decided to start with a 30 day detox and go from there it’s too much going on with social media

[@Hestia134]

I did the same last year, It was so worth it. I did it with all social media except Pinterest because I use it for vision board purposes. My new habits has been doing self care things, journaling and reflection now trying to tap back into reading books. I also utilize screen time for 1 hr for all social media apps to help with setting boundaries.

[@GwenDoll]

im not completely against trauma dumping... some people genuinely have no one to talk to and no idea what to do with everything theyre feeling. you may not care about whatever that person is saying, but i definitely do and try to help the best way i can.

[@123paramorefan]

I think I’m these cases therapy is the solution. Because then you can get constructive feedback and assistance on dealing with the trauma. Rather than talking into the void.

[@AG-hx6qn]

Same. Also...people should scroll on by!!

[@Snookyboo]

I do the same. I went through a lot in the past, and even therapy did not help. If anything, therapy made things worse. I don't know why people think therapists are always the answer. I studied it, and I was passionate about it until I realized some things that didn't make sense and switched over to business

[@icequeen7025]

@@123paramorefantherapy isn’t always helpful

[@tiagonthego]

@@123paramorefanyes, why don’t you go ahead and pay for their therapy then???

[@javonniatiyya5168]

I left social media last year and any time I’m tempted to go back, I hear about a trend going on that reminds me that it’s a literal hellscape. Trauma dumping on strangers???? Sharing S*Ds?!?!?? Where are the parents?? I’m a big 31 years old and I promise my mother and father would STILL show up at my door to collect my devices lol Bring back shame 😩

[@nananyanba]

Wow amazing you don't look at social media anymore!!! I really do not blame you! By the way what's S*Ds?

[@VannaMae]

Isn't KZbin still social media?

[@StarBitAngel]

​@@nananyanbaS*xuallly transmitted diseases

[@StarBitAngel]

​@@VannaMaeIt's not really like other socially media platforms like twitter and Instagram tbh, much less toxic in my opinion

[@VannaMae]

@@StarBitAngel we are all commenting and talking to eachother about the content, just like other platforms

[@crazycatlady312]

I only use tik tok to look up vacation destinations. I can't with all the depressing videos about how people went no contact with their ex or they dont know what they're doing with their life at 35 years old 😂😂😂. Like get a therapists or life coach folks 😩

[@jgemini3202]

Omg yes!😂😂

[@thelashayway8250]

It be so draining

[@tyturner7110]

And if that weren’t enough, people are out doing themselves with these full broadway production level “skits” about cheating ,or worse , just straight emotional abuse masquerading as “pranks” ,like babe, you can gaslight us all you want with your “ he’s a good man you just don’t understand our humor” but we saw what we saw😐

[@BubuEsho]

I remember in secondary school I was bullied soooo much for having fuller lower lips. Oh my gosh it was crazy. I would cry all the time when people would call me names. Only for me to get into university and people would stop me on the road just to compliment my lips and I was shocked. Like what universe is this. How many years down the line, people are overlining their lips and getting fillers. If you follow the trends that people set ehn by the time you look at yourself after fixing everything, you won’t recognize yourself

[@wherethequietbeingsgo]

I think i have a decent pair of lips and no one compliments me. Then again I have literally no reason to smile as last year was the literal worse and it’s still carrying into this year.

[@wherethequietbeingsgo]

But there was this one time when I went to this outdoor concert hosted by my college and I was complimented but I couldn’t tell if she was high or being genuine.

[@neicygoldenvlogs]

It’s time we bring back shame and pride some things should be embarrassing to talk about.

[@Cryonic7740]

Lucy, this was a topic that needs to be happening at a wider scale. It is absolutely atrocious the things that were normalizing at this rate and the downstream consequences, especially as it relates to the children (skincare, makeup, being made to labor if we can call it what it is)

[@Hardarsarr]

First off you look really stunning and those earrings suits you too welll😻😻😻❤️

[@iamb.i.n.a.h_kay]

You're my favorite lifestyle coach ❤❤❤❤

[@Shenesecase]

I agree I agree!! We’ve lost touch of reality just for any kind of attention.

[@yeahokwatevr]

I deleted my social media because i was over listening/reading peoples bs. Its wild too because my own sister doesnt even talk to me anymore but shes quick to tell social media everything and the people on there arent even real friends just people she grew up with/used to know. People don't really give af; people want attention/validation. If you can, delete your socials and youll realize how many of your online 'friends' are really your friends.

[@Abwavey]

What grinds my gears is when people complain about their partners on social media and when someone says "hey maybe you should leave" they back-peddle or just straight up get offended at the suggestion that this relationship you just dumped on in a 3 part tik tok video should end.

[@tyturner7110]

I deleted the app after that puzzle lady swore up and down that her husband didn’t actually derive pleasure from destroying something she worked on. If that’s the case then where was the joke babe? Because, it seemed like we supposed to laugh at him smashing something you worked on…

[@Abwavey]

@@tyturner7110 exactly!!! If you want your puzzles destroyed in peace then keep it off the internet because he was very much weird for that. But knowing the internet these days, that video was probably a joint decision between the two of them to incite rage and get engagement.

[@AdamahawaBarry-m6v]

I totally agree, social media is really a toxic environment for kids

[@suzdelly]

also, when you started talking about hip dips and you said that there was nothing wrong with them i started crying. i needed to hear that thank you.

[@daishahall2139]

Young kids should not be using a ton of skin care products because they don’t have skin issues that come with aging yet. If they started puberty and have bad acne they should only be using what the dermatologist recommended not all these tiktok products

[@styrineamissah-quaye3723]

Finally someone has said it!! Thanks for addressing this issue

[@mahoudakamara1858]

Everything you said was facts I totally agree. Kids are not kids no more. Social media is good but it also has been bad too.

[@esethu.]

The consistency 😍❤❤love it for us!

[@MyLucyBenson]

Thank you 😊

[@benitaulom6266]

Especially people that talk about being molested,it scares me

[@shaneilhenry]

you should get an award for this video! how do i like this a million times

[@aestheticvoyage9174]

Whats crazy to me is people post their homes outside & inside all the time now im too private for that 😂

[@purplepuff6300]

I deleted my tiktok in 2022 I felt like it was just too much the pressure for genz yoooo even though I am 16 I'm so feed up with social media 👀👀👀👀

[@nabilaxu]

facts only here! so agree with all of these. another thing that i find abnormal is people who are on live 24/7 including going to sleep on live!

[@tundun8365]

I couldn’t agree with more on the makeup routine for children. My daughters think am a strict mom for not allowing them to have a routine at 12 years old.

[@iamb.i.n.a.h_kay]

You're a great mom❤❤❤❤

[@ladylorp2738]

Not even gonna lie I had no social media etiquette when I got on social media whewwwwww I’ve learned so much and now I simply use it to make money n that’s it. I even deleted my Facebook account, barely be on IG and TikTok I simply post my videos of braids or nails I do n that’s it. I’m grateful I didn’t do major damage where my kids would b embarrassed in the future so I’m grateful 🙏🏾🙏🏾.

[@meroro28]

Your’re my therapy ❤️❤️

[@Stephan__o.x]

I’m conflicted on the child star thing because we (the audience) won’t exactly be told if the child said it was ok to film (even just for 1 day) we don’t know. Also, there are the ‘local’ KZbin children who actually make it from basic videos (e.g. Chloe & Halle) I think if parents are actually savvy enough not to exploit their kids into easy cash cows but use platforms wisely (I also DO NOT watch any kids on KZbin)

[@onyi__]

Your vibes are immaculate ❤️and your self assurance is honestly a grace from God

[@usakoraw]

OH man... I realized recently that sometimes I "trauma dump" but didn't know that I was "trauma dumping" lol . So embarressing. It's like I did it on random posts on people's videos about their videos, like a short story or comment about an issue, like a POV, or experience in a way.... I guess to explain it. But the filming thing!!! There is a fitness guy who will do response videos to people that are fitness influencers making a big deal about working out and getting upset that people being in their videos - when they are in a public gym!!!! Or there was this 1 video of a woman telling a guy that she wanted to work out on the bench he was on - in the middle of his work out and that he should go to another spot in the gym because she's a "fitness influencer", who cares!!! The fitness guy calls them all out. I am so happy he does. I don't work out in public gyms because it's embaressing to me cause I ain't athletic at all, and I don't want to be filmed and I have health issues. Too self conscience and if something goes wrong with my health, I don't want it all on social media. Nope. But also another thing with the filming thing... You are right about NOT WANTING TO BE FILMED! We have a right to swat someone's camera away because they don't have our permission to take our photo or video record us! Especially in some states and even some countries, it's ILLEGAL TO FILM SOMEONE WITHOUT THEIR PERMISSION! I found out recently that it's ILLEGAL in Michigan. 1 of my friends was in court for a custody agreement and his ex filmed him and his wife 1 day WITHOUT their permission, she also couldn't figure out how to send it in to the court before hand and when she said she had this so called video of them, the judge stopped her talking and told her "good thing you couldn't figure out how to send it in for evidence because it's ILLEGAL IN MICHIGAN TO RECORD SOMEONE WITHOUT THEIR PERMISSION!" and my friend and her husband didn't know that either and told me. I didn't know it was ILLEGAL either. It's so interesting to find these laws out. It's not worth jail time to me. I keep to myself in public and I agree with you too, others should as well.

[@Alma_mawanza]

I’ve been following and watching your videos since 2021 and I just want to say….Thank you ❤

[@cl22550]

two things my momma told me growing up: don’t open my damn door for nobody and don’t tell my business outside. in other words, what goes on in this house stays in this house. tik tok makes me realize how many people were never told either..

[@Anaisha277]

I’m so glad I followed you ❤ Keep the good work sis.

[@Reckoning2943]

Seeing TikTok evolve into this behemoth from afar makes me so relieved of having been a teen during a time, when TikTok did not exist. I can perfectly see my younger self up on that app, acting like a clown. The most concerning trend that goes beyond TikTok for me is definitely the growing apathy towards each other. It’s not only invading other people’s privacy for content but when everyone and their aunt is trauma dumping, and many overdramatize it, follow the current trend of being ‘troubled’ and fake it very convincingly for attention, validation and money, then it becomes harder to recognize a genuine cry for help. I even caught myself being completely unbothered by yet another crying face and yet another terrible thing that supposedly happened, I just scroll to the next video and would forget all about the content of the previous video because I legit do not care. Most of us won’t admit how little we care because we don’t want to be judged for it, but deep down we all know the truth. Considering how there’s desperate people out there who truly need support and help, this indifference towards each other is a really scary development.

[@asmaa7490]

I love ur accent so much. when u were talking about hip dips and how ur a “fine babe” regardless it was music to my ears. both in terms of what you said but how u said it ❤️

[@frya7794]

Girl i just came across your chanel and now im binge watching your videos. You're such a gorgeous, reasonable intelligent young woman that it's pure pleasure to listen to you, I so far agree with everything you've said. Keep going sister, sending you lots of love ❤️

[@Vanitydreams]

So funny I was in tears 🤣🤣💖 The lack of privacy plus everyone filming definitely brings a little bit of paranoia 😅 i’m thankful phones werent a big thing in HS because giiiiiirl 🤦🏾‍♀️🤣

[@georgebalsesay5750]

I always watch your videos with my book and pen close to me So much to learn from this channel

[@leah8112]

I just think you are awesome! The accent makes everything you say sound better!❤

[@metal_affairs]

I left all social apps except youtube for the very reason that nothing is private anymore. I would prefer to be a ghost than have everyone somehow know something about me without having to talk to me like a normal person. “If you don’t have my phone number or know my address than you truly don’t know me. “ really comes into play and people should think of that before posting intimate things on the internet. Do you really want someone knowing something so private? Also the loneliness epidemic is because we can just find out whatever we want about a person without having to sit to get to know them because of this oversharing and this is why people struggle with meaningful connections. Lastly what bothers me is the amount of people posting home videos of their children’s funniest or most memorable milestones in life. Those should be private. You never know if they become famous one day and everyone can look back to something when they were a child and didn’t have the ability to consent to.

[@k_aanastasiiaa]

Girl, you look so good! Wanted to listen to this video as a podcast while doing some work and just couldn't take my eyes off you, literally glowing!! And what you say is on point as always, addicted to your videos❤ Love from Russia

[@Jackiesdaughter84]

"I think other people are scared to have certain experiences because everything would be online" I whole heartedly agree with this!! and not just with dating but with friendships, family, coworker relationships too. People get bored and decide that they need attention(want to go viral) and just start blabbing about any and everything🙄

[@yogurlhan]

My spirit animal 😍😍 We love the consistency btw ❤️

[@Lilmsnikii]

Just found your channel, Great content! 😍

[@doreenbenson2197]

That intro was fire🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 darling Lucy. The words were flowing 💋💋💋

[@marvannie]

You don't have to jave kids to talk about parenting. As long as you have had children grown under you, either a s cousins, nephews, nieces or children around. I feel you can say your perspective.

[@ginasandile]

Real. TikTok is always coming up with things to make us insecure and now they have made having an asymmetrical face a huge issue meanwhile it’s not even noticeable 😭. Of course some people do have it as a big problem but guys this is exaggerated 💔

[@onyi__]

Your videos like medicine…😍a new hobby of mine atp😂😭

[@MyLucyBenson]

Hahaha Thanks for watching hun❤️

[@vivianomega-njemnobi325]

See ….you killed it. You said my mind. I can’t get on board with all this craziness right now

[@islandgal7031]

I'm not a parent either, but when I see kids dress up like an adult 🙄🙄I'm like, seriously 🙈🙈🙉Lipstick, sunglasses, and all.....I'm like, child slow down 🙄😂I rember when I was 9yrs old, I apply coconut oil on my face and body and ran off to school 😅😅 Btw,you look gorgeous and funny, too 😂

[@AnaFB9696]

I love lucy! words of wisdom!

[@hellotomi_]

Permission to digress, your wig is gorgeous 😍😍😍

[@ElledotOh]

I love this series! I agree with everything you said.

[@AmberQueen3]

I’m genuinely worried for the children when it comes to their privacy bc of the amount of over sharing online rn mixed with the children being online and exposed to story time-get ready w/ me’s gives way to them talking about elementary and middle school drama that they should have privacy and grace bc they are CHILDREN and need to have their own spaces

[@Abbas_Daughters]

This is really damaging and soo sad 😢😢

[@BellaStrong]

I love all you do Queen. And your videos are always on point ❤

[@solomonvictoria5432]

Lucy is always right on time, I’m your biggest fan Lucy ❤

[@omoboladeosinowo6889]

Speaking facts only. I'm glad there's someone on this app talking about this. x

[@thelmanwankwo4165]

Always speaking the truth😙

[@jasontutorials4809]

Goto a licensed therapist. Posting on social media or sharing in real life only gives way for people to judge you, say worse things to you about it, or tell you that they don’t give a shit about your problems. Social media has also allowed unqualified people who are content creators to give relationship and life advice. Too many self appointed experts.

[@oliviarodrigues4814]

Lucy is soooo necessary these days, you guys❤❤❤❤

[@BarbaraKibira]

I watching an interview of Nick Canon explaining why he picks a certain look for the women who appear on his show "Wild n Out", he said that he wanted "exotic" looking women. I thought that one day I as a dark skinned woman will be one day deemed "exotic" the desired type, because it seems everyone wants to look like this. Finally, as a mother of a 9 year old daughter you are right with the skin care stuff, even me I do not use retinol because it is HASH. Children's skin is thinner than adults, please be the adults in your own home.

[@marvannie]

Spot on ma'am ❤

[@StephanieHouston-cl3ph]

Louder louder babe 😅😅 the toxicity at this point is extremely alarming

[@melisadogan-br7zn]

Girl what is the lipliner or lip combo ? YOU LOOK STUNNİNG ❤

[@TheRealCalypso]

I’m 25 and I don’t even touch retinol 😂😂😂 what wrinkles are they correcting at9?!!

[@ellaschannell]

I actually thought about all this and at some point I was beginning to think I was loosing it............ thanks for making me feel normal again I love this video 💯💯💯

[@obireoghenetega]

Lucy is blessed with so much wisdom

[@glam2gobeauty811]

Yes shut up and get therapy!!!!!!! Like geesh... social media is not therapy! To me it shows how much people crave attention. Bring back decency and privacy...the oversharing that turns into viral moments has gone too far

[@abigailimediegwu5251]

It’s getting crazier by the day,I hope this 2024 people get a lot sense because omg

[@thobekamantshongo4458]

I agree Lucy, we have lost it and don't care.

[@nwabisiebere4252]

Great job, keep it up dear

[@julietjohn9465]

My love ❤😩

[@MyLucyBenson]

❤️

[@idarapeter]

Hi Lucy please did you take down the perfume you reviewed? I’ve been searching your page for it ❤

[@OfficiallyMichele]

I am with you with all of your points because these apps are getting weird.

[@georgebalsesay5750]

My love for Lucy ❤🥰

[@kiwimelon288]

I love how she says fire ❤❤

[@Luchisam]

My big sis and bestie in my imagine....Beautiful Monday morning.... Hope you are good? Just checking on you, now let me watch and digest 😊😊

[@Divineomosivwe]

Lucy you killed this video 😂

[@carenasmith7]

When I was 10-20 I didn’t have a skin care routine. Even at 33 I still don’t lol my skin is mad sensitive. So I have three steps: soap, water and lotion. That’s it. if I try to spice it up, my face will def let me know to chill by breaking out. These young kids doing too much

[@BagLadyy_]

Can I start by saying, wheres the lace ??? my goodness your hair looks good😍😍😍😍

[@twothousandandchew]

i hate tiktok so much when i was on it and i got on anyone’s fyp they acted like i was forbidden from wearing anything but a oversized trash bag because oh my skinny waist is triggering and it’s “bodychecking” waawaa whomp whomp but like anyone else did what i did but was just twice my size and it was fine

[@IAMCHYANN]

Just like how you do day in the life’s of yourself, you show people in the background, the same is for the gym that’s why we have fitness creators, I don’t see nothing wrong with recording myself at the gym. Also with trauma dumping, not everyone shares their business for fun most of the time it’s to educate, you can learn from others experiences. I think it’s good to protect yourself however it is good to share Lucy it’s more relatable and helps people know they not alone.

[@abigabaangel7782]

Wow girl you 🔥😂 new year more happiness for all of us😊

[@suzdelly]

you are easily one of my fav youtubers. i love your content and it resonates with me sooo much. I'm turning 27 this year and getting married, and deleting instagram and staying private has been the best choice I've made. while everyone else is sharing their wedding, new home etc, i will be enjoying it silently and privately. evil eye is real. thank you and please keep sharing

[@margeyb.8665]

This video says everything in my head!😂😂😂😎😎

[@ebibenjayebibenjay395]

Very thoughtful

[@kaarentamm6423]

Even in school they aren't allowed to be kids.

[@defibaker]

Damm Lucy, I love you ❤️ ❤

[@firedaisi]

They may not even have a face 😭Lucy😭😭😭

[@olamisco5625]

Omgg your hair 😍😍 details pls?

[@tashsmart1397]

🤣🤣🤣🤣yhooo I just love you

[@TheCelaccytv]

Lucy ❤❤❤❤❤!

[@Sylvia_Wilson]

You’re such an inspiration I really love the way you speak

[@GlamorousKiema.]

They need to ban TikTok