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[@christinainthecity]

Yeah, love languages are really interesting. Remember my father. Growing up, he never told me that he loved me. He never said how proud he was. But what he did do, was showing love through acts of service. Driving my sisters and I to school, picking us up, helping us with moving, taking us to our friends houses. For the longest time I wanted him to say that he loved me and that he cared. But he just showed his love in a different way. maybe not the way I needed it, because we speak different love languages, but I understand him now

[@christinainthecity]

@@Takiki Like I said in my comment, I always wanted him to tell me that he loved me. Even if it was just one time. Which isn't that strange? Now that I'm older, I've realized that people show love in different ways :) One of my needs is that people show love through their words, and not only actions. It can be confusing when you're a child/teenager.

[@Northstar1989]

@@Takiki please don't attack the love languages you don't understand. The whole point of this idea is that people express and NEED affection in different ways. For instance, Gifts mean NOTHING to me (I score 0% on Gifts on the love languages quiz), but are the MOST important language to my younger brother- I know this, and try to give him tiny, inexpensive gifts that show thought when I can. My mother is very much an Acts of Service person (another love language that means little to me), though she also enjoys Words of Affirmation (something we both share). I, myself, am very strongly a Touch person (37% on the quiz) though equal parts Words of Affirmation and Quality Time beyond that. So, it's painful to me if a girl doesn't even want to hug or hold hands on the 2nd date. It's worse if that plus she's on her phone (violation of Quality Time) or doesn’t say kind words to me. Those are the only 3 love languages I receive affection in. As a Touch person, I am CONSTANTLY mocked and denigrated as "touchy-feely" by many individuals (who don't know they're mocking me, just make negative comments about this type of person). It hurts- especially since Words of Affirmation matter a great deal to me too, and my need for Touch can often become an excuse to isolate me and leave me with no Quality Time (somr girls will freak out if I lightly, non-sexually touch their hand or arm on a first date, for instance). Don't judge, lest you be judged. That is a key lesson of being a good person and a good Christian.

[@Northstar1989]

@@christinainthecity I feel for you. For what it matters, you're a stranger to me, but my heart goes out to you, and I love you as a person (I love all humanity).

[@veliciahiley7652]

And run. Some would think that's strange. But for many people learning a behavior that you do not know can be very uncomfortable. And I believe if that is done enough times, a couple can at some point laugh and talk about it. But the one would see that an effort is being made, even if it's not easy in the beginning. 😊👍

[@muchgoo]

Now I understand.........All this time I thought that telling my wife "I Love You" was one of the best things I could be doing and I also I thought my love of cleanliness and organization and my helpful nature in the kitchen and in doing chores was earning me big points. I thought my niceness and kindness counted for a lot and I thought that when I came home at 4 O'clock in the morning from a long work night and greeted my wife first thing with a kiss and hug that I was really being a loving husband. But now I know my wife was speaking a slightly different love language and that coupled with my faults that she could not accept which I did not fix right away, resulted in lot's of upset and then separation. For her, it was action that was the most important and that was what I did not do so well at that time. The Bottom line as the author says is that we all speak a different love language but we can all learn the other persons language and have to in order for there to be a happy marriage. Try harder and do not give up all you who are still married.

[@framboise595]

@ Chris Holding Women very esily become the masters of those betas Nice Guys. And you were one of those betas that women hate deep inside . Sorry to be so harsh but as a Christian , I have to speak the truth. Never tell a woman that you love her if you do not master her first . Or you're done . And so is your marriage. Wiomen take over with the love stuff. Men have no idea how the female psyche works anymore. Maybe you need some wisdom from the past ? Here we go : “Woman is a violent and uncontrolled animal, and it is useless to let go the reins and then expect her not to kick over the traces. You must keep her on a tight rein.... Women want total freedom or rather - to call things by their names - total licence. If you allow them to achieve complete equality with men, do you think they will be easier to live with? Not at all. Once they have achieved equality, they will be your masters.” Cato the Elder

[@littlefrog9553]

I'm learning to provide my partner's love language needs. I feel like that last example. Say it and run. That's exactly what I'm like currently. But it comes from a place of sincerity. I'm just so awkward and not used to expressing or receiving affection.

[@annisaarthur-castro6227]

I applaud your effort and in time, if she isn't already or just an ogre, she will too!

[@tishataray]

babybeluga how did it go

[@thereseember2800]

“Run, Forest, Run” Love!!!! ♥️

[@faizmohammad9248]

i like all 5

[@0326hkim]

best thing you can do for yourself is to speak all of them

[@premapoojitanananda7947]

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