The main problem with bad women’s self-defense videos

Q&A with the coach

[@kingartifex]

this is the part where I blame the consumer more than the producer. The law of supply and demand, and there is so so much demand... I have had some experience helping instructors teaching women's self defense in the past. I remember at the time having the same reaction as ramsey "this will never work, its unrealistic, they would be killed and robbed" etc. But guess what? they loved it. Most of the women are middle aged soccer moms who don't want to actually wrestle, grapple, strike. They want magical jackie chan combos so they can cut past the heavy work and impress other soccer moms. If you make the lesson too "rough" (light grapple sparring), they leave and never come back. If you make them do uncomfortable stuff, they leave. If you touch the subject of rape, they get triggered and leave (even though that is a very important topic to discuss for self defense) so the attacker is always a thief 😂. If the instructor grabs them for showing the technique, they risk being sued and called a sexual predator, therefore they can only show the move conceptually and then make the women try the move on each other (which is not the same as a grown man bear hugging). If you do grappling techniques, they get bored and leave because they just want to hit stuff. If you teach a 4 week course twice a week, expect them to not show up for at least half of those classes. Many of them are not athletic or have no sport background, so you are basically working with physically fragile people who don't want to exert too much, or... they leave! The way I see it from these experiences, many women don't "really" want to learn self defense, they just go to self defense classes to be entertained, release some stress, and possibly placebo themselves against social anxiety. Everyone wants to be tough but nobody wants to pay the price.

[@blockmasterscott]

When I was teaching I ran into all of these problems. Everything you said is spot on. And the dismay in their faces when they find out that it can take the human body over a year of repetition do be able to become proficient in any physical activity.

[@JohnLoogleman]

You're entirely correct.

[@martialartsvocationalschoo3319]

There is nothing wrong doing "self defence" for entertainment. If they get a bit training in, even better. I don't think "bad" courses are a real problem. The participants couldn't fight before the course and can't fight after. And if you think you can fight but can't, you'll have to rethink really quick if you get into a real fight.

[@kingartifex]

@@martialartsvocationalschoo3319 not to mention real self defense scenarios involve 3 guys with knives ambushing 1 guy and stuff like that. Even if it were men's self defense I would be hard pressed to find realistic scenarios where "for some reason, one guy without friends and unarmed is trying to attack you, and for some reason you are in an unlit alley at 3 in the morning without any witnesses". Most scenarios are too "nice" compared to the reality of violence. In brazil they have 2 guys riding a scooter, they drive by you, one hops off with a gun and demands your wallet then quickly hop back on the scooter and drive away in less than 30 seconds flat. No self defense course is going to prepare you for something like that... not wrong to cash in on people who want to play fantasy fighting

[@xCorvus7x]

@@martialartsvocationalschoo3319 If you really think you can fight even though you can't, you might not get to rethink this, though. Knifes and guns kill swiftly.

[@BMO_Creative]

I remember the "booty bump" video you did and it actually worked! LOL

[@henrys3138]

I hoped someone would cover this.

[@maxgehtdnixan4913]

It works best if you take some Poppers beforehand.

[@achannel1818]

The Boondocks proved it first

[@BMO_Creative]

LOL I totally remember that too! LOL... Yeah RD did a video about this delf defense that looked like "jazzersizing" and they tried one of the moved where the girl pushed backwards with her rear and it worked! LOL

[@reveldeng2953]

Cant find the video can you please share a link? Really interested in seeing an effective booty bump lol

[@OfficialBeeswax]

Due to how the title was abbreviated in the notification, I first thought this was a video about the problem with bad women. Feared for just a second that coach had gone down the red pill rabbithole 😂

[@phredbookley183]

"A cure looking for a disease" is a frightening phrase. But I totally get it.

[@crubs83]

"A solution looking for a problem" is the one I've heard.

[@christiankalk4668]

Your bit about "fantasy positions" for using specific techniques brought to mind an actual incident that happened locally a couple days ago, which I think perfectly demonstrates how real-world violent situations are dramatically different from those staged self-defence scenarios. Guy walked intona Burger King, clearly under the influence of some substance, caused a fuss, was asked to leave. He pulled a knife, slit a random customer's throat, took a bow, and left. There is no training for that, other than to ALWAYS be on guard against ANYBODY within reach of you. Most attacks come from the blind side without warning. If they come from anywhere else, chances are you're better off running.

[@Altitudes]

Couple of years or so back, a friend of my Dad's was walking home from the pub one night. A bloke walks past him and just randomly punches him in the stomach and jogs off. Next think he knows he's looking down at blood. He'd been stabbed. Crawled into the road where he collapsed and fortunately was spotted rather than run over. Yeah. Not much you can do about things like that. You going to punch every bloke that walks on the same side of the road as you just in case they have a knife and use it? Self-defence, even the very best, only trains you for a really limited set of scenarios. The bulk of what can happen is out of your control.

[@minhducnguyen9276]

​@@Altitudes I guess people just don't want to accept that when it comes to extreme cases, they are no longer in control of anything, that's why it's a matter of probability. In my country a few months ago there was a gang of Teenagers driving around and attacking random people with machetes and homemade spears. When you are surrounded out of nowhere by people with weapons there's nothing you can do about it but of course it's very unlikely you'll ever see these kinds of people.

[@Altitudes]

@@minhducnguyen9276 Yeah, but I think it's also much more mundane cases too. I remember one instructor asking us when we're most likely to get into an altercation - is it when you've just had a good warm up and are ready for sparring, or is it when you've got a few drinks in you on a night out? Even if I'm a good fighter, I'm not going to he as good after a few beers and a kebab on a Friday night. Or how many clips have you seen where two people square up and then a third person hits them from their blindside? Doesn't matter how good I am if they get a free first shot. And if it is a one-on-one that you see coming then that's probably the type of situation you can de-escalate or avoid. The situations I might do well in are a fraction of the situations I might get hurt.

[@minhducnguyen9276]

@@Altitudes Hell, even in a controlled environment you might still get unlucky. Many Muay Thai fighters are superstitious, because one bad fight and they might receive a crippling injury, coupling with their financial background that could be a death sentence. Same with people who live on the sea, even with modern technology we still have a few people gone missing during the storm seasons. I almost got into an altercation once and I was high up in the sky. If it wasn't for my friends traveling with me I'd be in serious trouble, I couldn't even speak coherently at that point. It also helps that I was in Germany then, people are not used to street violence like in my home country.

[@DENVEROUTDOORMAN]

​​@@minhducnguyen9276 heard in NY women being punched by men

[@darthhaider2282]

The main problem is, those videos start with the fight, not with the prehistory.

[@KhajiitKharjo]

Hi Ramsey! When i first started to watch your channel, around 2 and half years ago, i was facing a very bad health condition, to the point that i couldn't even lift a bag with less than 1 kg. But today, i've lifted over 50 kg above my head! I know it is not much, especially compared to seasoned fighters, martial artist and weight lifters, but i'm very proud of my improvment! You was a key part that helped get motivation for my trainings, thank you Sensei Ramsey. You have no ideia on how much you helped me.

[@RamseyDewey]

Outstanding!

[@BWater-yq3jx]

I think the main problem is watching a video, maybe trying it a few times, but not training. At all. It's a bit like watching a video demonstrating guitar licks, and thinking if you're ever called up on stage for some reason... you can melt people's faces with your hot licks. But you never practise them. And in fact, you don't play guitar.

[@user-rc8br5sw6j]

That's why I focus just on commenting on videos. I am currently a fifth kyu in TMA video commenting

[@michaelabercrombie7698]

Even as a kid we always had the "now grab my wrists."

[@RicoMnc]

In many respects any technique video is not ideal for beginners. Without the context of more comprehensive, fundamental training they are next to useless. After a few years of training I've gone back to watch videos, and now that I've been there and know what it feels like, and have experienced both some success and failure, they help me with details I've missed before, or new ideas I've successfully used while sparring. Also, just like there is no "women's" fighting/bjj/judo/karate/grappling, there is no "women's" self defense. Fighting is fighting, and self defense is self defense. The fundamentals of "self defense" are awareness, avoidance, attitude, and always stomp the groin twice /jk After that fails, it's learning to fight. I think Amber from Fit to Fight has a few good videos, but they are not quick, easy to learn or master, especially by just watching a video.

[@MargieM10]

Our adult daughter has trained in jujitsu for years along with her husband and son. Makes me feel better.

[@reginafowler3517]

One problem with women's self-defense videos is the fact that they usually know they are going to be attacked while demonstrating whatever move or technique they are filming at the time. They know to expect the wrist grab or the hair grab or what have you. The 'attacker' doesn't want to really injure the woman, so he applies hardly no pressure and worse, just usually stands there and waits for her to perform part B after he's performed part A. I personally have never seen a self-defense video where the man comes up behind the woman and covers her mouth with one hand while grabbing her around the neck with his other arm and starts dragging her backwards. What is the part B to that combo part A? Instinctively she'll raise her hands to try and get both of his removed from her but she'll be too busy trying not to fall, she'll be too busy trying to breath and she'll be too panicked to think to tickle him under the armpit or whatever silly escape technique she saw that might work. As I've said in the past Ramsey, as a woman myself, I've learned more from you about what won't work than I've ever tried to be taught about what will work from the bad videos. Thanks for keeping this subject up front and center.

[@Meanpeter1]

Hey Ramsey could you make a video on how to get people to respect your range in striking? My gym does mostly light sparring and I'm finding it hard convincing my opponents not to step in on me without hitting them hard, if i throw a soft jab they just disregard it and continue to walk through like nothing happened. Thanks

[@Thecelestial1]

I think the vast majority convince women that they’re prepared for a violent encounter when they aren’t.

[@robertsutherland6162]

The actual real self-defense (if we can call it that) situations I've been in and seen are not static.....they are fast, often surprising and can be brutal. You dont have time to contemplate "if he does this I do this or that".

[@GWG-ib9cv]

A cure looking for a disease. I like this man he’s smart. There is a drug for everything now and the commercials are 20 minutes long. They want people to feel like they have those things very true.

[@ajshiro3957]

What I find silly about all these women self defense videos is how they portray women in them. Always clueless and unaware of their environment. Let that be my mom, and that attacker is catching the hands. XD

[@dukedumby]

Hey Coach, huge fan here from New York! So don't judge me but my only experience w/ self-defense was 3 years of Krav Maga (civilian version) and I dislocated my shoulder while sparring and stopped shortly before testing for my green belt. I'm in no way, shape, or form one of those idiots on the web saying how deadly blah blah blah is. I think I went to a legit school b/c we frequently did controlled sparring and weekly "all-levels" sparring where I regularly got my ass handed to me. We wore cups and shin guards and boxing gloves but I never got to the weapons training stuff beyond a few private lessons and the instructors always made it clear that in a knife fight we will get stabbed without question or fail and that anybody who says different is an idiot. Same for handgun threat defenses, the teachers were openly critical of them and said there is nobody stupid enough to place a gun so close to you that you could potentially try to grab it from them. I've been puched and kicked in every part of my body and i can say I made microscopic improvements but I learned that the adrenaline of a fight and the strength of a guy or skill can make a huge difference. I was 260lbs and 6'1 and I remember the first time I met our new grappling instructor who was a BJJ Purpble Belt and I had no idea what BJJ was and this dude of all 5'8 and 150lbs was choking the crap out of me within 1 millionth of a second every time I even started literally laying on top in full mount. Our chief instructor told us to always train in other systems like boxing, BJJ, Thai boxing, etc. and to lose weight and get into shape enough to run rather than think this was realistic b/c the first time we went to just practice falling on concrete I remember going "holy crap, this is NOT the same as the mats." We had one choke defense that was genuinely stupid and you should see "krav maga choke defense from rear with a pull" that I even as a student complained as being useless. I say all this to say, I feel like my gym was good at showing people, especially women, that if a guy my size jumps on them that they are basically SOL and is that a better lesson than these BS women's self-defense videos? I at least leared stuff like, how to realize a fight is a horrible thing and slipping and breaking your arm on ice or falling and crackig your head on cement or somebody pulling out a knife/gun/etc. you better only try to fight if you've got literally no way out of that situation and to always scream fire etc. Sorry for the long rant Coach, I love your channel and I love the messages and truth your promote. Very Respectfully, Me.

[@matthewsoares2824]

Ramsey! I would love your opinion on a new combat sport - we could call it MCS mixed combat sports. Start with the fewest weapons and expand as rounds go on: round 1 boxing rules, round 2 kickboxing, round 3 Muay Thai, round 4 mma, round 5 submission grappling rules!

[@RamseyDewey]

Sounds like a lot of sparring sessions I have run before- which were a lot of fun. Now, if the goal is to add more weapons each round, why does submission grappling come after MMA?

[@M.C...]

Here’s a question, going off from this topic. About martial arts schools that train for self defense. How would you go about telling someone who teaches self defense that the way they train sucks and is not practical, in a way that is « politically correct » and would likely encourage them to change their approach? Thanks in advance.

[@user-rc8br5sw6j]

Regardless of the dogma and with a martial arts school you gonna have a dogma. Its about finding a way to be assertive respecting boundaries without being aggressive and disrespecting boundaries. So starting from a position that i am the only person who knows the right way is the wrong way. Dialogue was the old money name for it. An openness to listening engaging and for both parties to allow the possibility to change or develop their position based on evidence and cogent argument. But just like martial arts is a skill to be learnt so is conflict resolution, mediation and getting someone to change their mind and go with your opinion.

[@stonecoldscubasteveo4827]

You don't. You just find a better gym. You will just make them angry 100% and the worse their stuff is the madder it will make them.

[@user-rc8br5sw6j]

@@stonecoldscubasteveo4827 Fair dinkum but no point saying you want to encourage self defence if you're too scared to make a gym owner angry by offering constructive criticism. Maybe lower your sights to I dunno perfecting the rabbit frozen by oncoming headlights. It is a self protection techinique and works a lot of the time too.

[@stonecoldscubasteveo4827]

@@user-rc8br5sw6j No bullshido "self defense" teacher wants to hear your "constructive criticism." It's a complete waste of your time and effort, at least for us mere mortals. A master of the "go outside and scream at clouds technique" like yourself, however, might be able to pull it off. The OP stated that the way this school trains "sucks" and is "not practical." My answer is to find a gym that doesn't suck and is practical. Any decent MMA or BJJ or boxing gym will be 1000% better than some trashy "self defense" gym. It sounds like whoever is running the gym doesn't know what they are doing, but somehow the addition of the vast wisdom of someone who knows even less is going to make it a top-flight MMA gym? Please. It's a fruitless waste of time. There is an enormous gap between being able to identify a problem (this gym sucks) and being able to implement a solution (we should use drill rotation A of techniques X, Y, and Z in order to integrate them with drills Q, R, and S that we practice on alternate days, and then have sparring practice, etc.) If you are qualified to "fix" a gym, then you should be the one running it in the first place, go open your own. OR, like I said from the start, find a better gym with competent instructors where you can actually learn how to fight. But hey, maybe your "honey those pants make your ass look fat technique" will work and will inspire a deeply rational dialogue on the merits of various methods of martial pedagogy, Instead of just making the guy defensive and emotional for no benefit to anyone. The best outcome I can think of for your method is that you make the instructor so mad that you get kicked out of the class, and so have to go find a better gym anyway.

[@stonecoldscubasteveo4827]

@@user-rc8br5sw6j OP said that the way his gym trains "sucks and is not practical." My solution is to find a gym that does not suck and is practical. It's not that I'm "too scared" to make someone angry, I just recognize that it's a pointless waste of time to try to convince a "self defense" instructor that his training "sucks and is not practical." He will just get mad and defensive for no benefit to anyone. The best outcome you can hope for is that he gets so mad that he kicks you out of the class, and then you have to find a better gym. But hey, maybe a master of the "go outside and scream at clouds" technique like yourself can make it work.

[@kayr0112]

Less of a question, but maybe more of a video idea. Context: my youngest child was born on 12.2023. I'm looking at how he's learning how his body works and at the stuff that he's doing - what baby actions and moves are good for exercise

[@JohnLoogleman]

Womens self defence must consider the most probable scenarios despite the overwhelming truth rhat fighting is a whole of body/mind/ spirit and well rounded skill skit situation. Domestic violence, SA, stalking and for younger females social violence. My two young girls dont want to train, my oldest did a couple years in freestyle karate but just doesn't have an aggresive temprement, bless her soul. From young I have conditioned responses to throat grabs, collar ties, punches, kicks, hammerfists, on ground they know to keep legs inbetween me and them, to get up under pressure ( I grab pants and even top of underwear) and run.

[@user-rc8br5sw6j]

Was it not possible to find another art form it can be difficult depending on where you live. Capoeira BJJ Boxing when they get to a certain age you can't really force them and I a assuming you don't live in a country which allows carry conceal gun licences because a ladysmith with training might also help.

[@sergejbjakow5891]

Hi Ramsey, I have this weird question where I'd love to hear your thoughts on. Why do you think there is no such thing as Fitness Jiu Jitsu? It's quite common to have Gyms offering Fitness Boxing where people just do same pad work, hitting the heavy bag and some guided shadow boxing (like Billy Blanks Tae Bo), but no actual sparring (not even light one) involved. And that's fine for people who just like to move that way and loose some weight while doing it. But I can't image a gym offering Fitness Jiu Jitsu where people do some drills and practice some falling techniques but always avoid actual sparring because they don't feel comfortable about it just like the Fitness Boxing people. What are your thoughts on that? How much sense does it make to start Jiu Jitsu for the pure Fitness and Mobility aspect of it? Best Regards Sergej

[@113uineo]

Athleticism, Running, Common sense, situationoal awareness,Parkour are best self defence, Coming to M arts Judo,Sambo, Boxing,Muay Thai, Wrestling are best or weapons Like pepper spray steel baton ,Knife etc

[@EsotericWrestler]

Hi coach, I have a question for a future ask the coach episode. My gym buddy is a very good / successful amateur boxer and has been boxing since he was 10 years old. He was state champion. I am a wrestler since I was 6 years old and have wrestled countless times. I have won several tournaments as a teen and one gold medal on small local competition 2 years ago We are both 26 years old. He challenged me to a fully serious MMA fight and our entire social circle, even people we went to school with want to see it so much they offered to pay money into a "pot" for the winner to take. I have never had ANY striking experience and he never grappled anyone. The fight would take place in 3 months. As you can imagine it's really tempting to agree, not for the little money but for thrill and social validation i could get. As a much wiser and older man, would you advise me against doing it or should I try to learn as much as possible about MMA and go for it? If it's relevant, he is 6 foot 3, 190lbs I'm 6' 210lbs. I'm stronger on whole body exercises like deadlift and squat but his upper body strength (pull ups, bench press and so on) is ridiculous and surpasses mine easily. I wish you have a wonderful day over in China, greetings from a huge fan

[@user-rc8br5sw6j]

That would be an interesting fight. Neither of you want to kill each other so that adds to the fun. Wrassler should win if UFC theory holds. And three months isn't long enough for him to learn BJJ but should be fine for you to get the basics of boxing. Then don't get punched in the head or the liver and take him down you should win in theory. But I just watch videos no idea if that would work. And of course film it get sponsorship put it on youtube or rumble. It might become a thing

[@ajshiro3957]

Here's a question, if you were to have a few months to train for a tournament like Daniel in The Karate Kid, what would be your approach to training?

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Find someone who needs a lot of household and auto maintenance done.

[@user-rc8br5sw6j]

@@BWater-yq3jx Important to remember two choices either sweep the leg or wax on wax off

[@randyhetlage9202]

You Rock Coach...👍😁

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Definitely don't want a Spoonerism there. 😄

[@blockmasterscott]

I have a grappling question for you since my background is standup. With grappling styles like MMA, college wrestling and so on, do you guys place more emphasis on teaching the actual take downs or learning how to fall when you are thrown down? With us standup people we usually train beginners blocking and deflecting first, and later on the offensive aspect. I was just wondering if it’s the same with grappling styles.

[@user-rc8br5sw6j]

I'm on a roll so I'll go with. When teaching take downs in training it is essential to teach ways to pull up or ease the take down. Because if you kill or disable your training partner you won't be issued with a new one. And its a basic courtesy when learning a new skill. You can go hard foda streetz later. But before you start take downs everyone is expected to learn how to fall safely either how to roll or break fall even on mats you can break some ribs or all sorts if you dont' get the basics done right. But then people start complaining if they just learn basics and demand to learn the real stuff and get hurt.

[@cahallo5964]

Depends on style, I've done jujitsu (japanese one) and bjj, also luta livre (basically just Catch but by Brasilians) and in both luta and bjj breakfalls are rarely practiced, jjj was better, drilled more breakfalls in Karate than bjj lol. I've seen olympic wrestlers and judokas do much MUCH more breakfalls, granted I don't train those sports but I've seen it in cross trains and the internet

[@user-rc8br5sw6j]

@@cahallo5964 Sure the internet is about the pooling of ignorance so imo bjj doesn't do breakfalls because they don't like stand up stuff at all. If they start to roll it means they are already on the ground or one of them drops to the ground with their legs pointing to you. So there would be no need to learn how to get to that position since there is nothing before it. I don't have an inkling about luta so I'll go with its for mucho machismo brazilian men so you're meant to remove your T shirt show your six pack and real men don't do breakfalls they break bones sort of thing. Technically I train in shitoryu karate but the sensei and I have an understanding and we have a heatwave in bangalore for now. If my head drops below my heart or there are any big changes in position my arteries can't compensate and I faint. So not gonna do breakfalls. Nothing to stop us commenting on them mind. Damn fine thing if you're young and up to learning.

[@TunaBagels]

Developed grappling disciplines (Judo, all kinds of Wrestling) teach breakfalls first. If you spaz when getting thrown, you're dangerous to yourself and your partner. Most important thing about training is consistency, and you can be consistent if you keep getting injured.

[@blockmasterscott]

Thanks for the answers everyone!👍

[@bryanhenderson7101]

Question. Just discovered your cntent and enjoying it. I have just moved to Tokyo, almost 40, BJJ blue belt, back injury so can't really wrestle but ground work at 50%intensity is ok. Want to train for health, self defence and social. Looking to add striking as have never trained it so naturallt is a big hole in my abilities. Options- 1- Big kickboxing gym(Target Sugamo), fun trainers nice facilities, lots of people who speak English. 2 - BJJ gym(Triforce), medium size, nice trainers. 3- Small MMA gym (Katana mma), 2-6 a class, not much English spoken. Would appreciate your thoughts! :) P.s. the XMartial gear looks good. I john Danaher an affiliate?! Looking at my budget to see if I can afford 2. Tried Muay Thai and was really fun but the gym is allot further than these 3.

[@TunaBagels]

If you want to add striking why join a BJJ gym?

[@bryanhenderson7101]

To not lose my BJJ skills. Than add some striking like once a week. As opposed to joining a kickboxing gym and doing 1 day a week BJJ. Something like that. Even considered joining 2 gyms. But need to see if budget permits. @@TunaBagels

[@SlowDoomer]

Hi Coach. If you have a student who is training for their first fight, what do look for before you recommend that they have their first fight. Thanks!

[@RamseyDewey]

I don’t recommend that anyone have their first fight. If they don’t specifically want to, ask for it, and work for it,they don’t do it.

[@SlowDoomer]

​@@RamseyDewey Thanks for the response! I am very glad to hear that you wouldn't encourage someone to fight. However, I think that I may have phrased my question poorly. I what I meant was, if someone wanted you to train them for their first MMA fight, how proficient at fighting would you want them to get before the fight and how do tell if they have reached that?

[@toranotsumedojo]

The channel "Active Self Protection" is a great resource for viewing violent encounters of every kind.

[@calebworden2993]

Ramsey when I'm saying about you don't need a lot of size is I mean if you're small but very fast you can create a lot of force still

[@Sbv-25]

Ramsey can you still do a headstand split

[@Fitz2393]

100% not how the pharmaceutical industry works Ramsey.

[@RamseyDewey]

Well tell us how it works if not developing a product first and then trying to find a way to market it?

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Well yes generally there IS a specific application targeted, as drug development is a long & expensive process. What you do often see though, is repurposing of drugs that are found to actually be more effective for something else. Such as the first antidepressants, or ED medication. On the other hand, we have the last 4 years, lol.

[@Fitz2393]

@@RamseyDewey So what you said was pharma had a compound en mass and then goes looking for a way to market it. That’s now how new drugs get developed. Instead a fairly long process of first identifying anything of potential value in treatment is isolated. Then it is put through a long process of chemical studies, followed by lab studies, followed by animal studies and then human trials. At every poont along the way if there are signs that the druf either does not work or has a severe negative reaction in .00003% of use cases the entire study series is abandoned.

[@calebworden2993]

And as I said Ramsey they're also people with dense muscles not big and they can be equally as strong as people with big muscles or sometimes more

[@ericschaab5135]

There was a karate teacher who was also a cop, he had the job to teach self defense to other cops. One day, a big guy beat two female cops while being civilians and he got fired. The teacher was even mentioned on the news. It's a very sad story, because he is a good man and I'm sure he didn't mean to teach wrong on purpose or something like that .. I hope the forces hired an instructor who actually has fighting experience, and that is able to prepare people for the reality of violence!

[@daniel-zh9nj6yn6y]

I don't know what that guy was teaching, but a woman would need a lot of training to defeat a man. Gracie Breakdown has a video about a woman cop who does BJJ. She got called to arrest a college athlete who was high. She even had a dog, but her face ended up as one big bruise.

[@ericschaab5135]

@@daniel-zh9nj6yn6y He was teaching the same stuff that most self defense instructors do, You know, "When a person grabs your wrist, you do this" followed by some technique that would only work if the other person collaborates 🤷 Usual stuff they promote as "self defense" in Taekwondo, Krav Maga, Aikido, etc...

[@MissingTheMark]

There are a few women's self defense videos you've covered where the attack is at least vaguely practical as an attack but the defense doesn't work at all. Like there were a few where the attack was at least fairly close to a rear naked choke. I remember one where you got "choked out" like 3 or 4 times when you tried the technique they had for escaping. Presumably, though, there's some size and strength of person where the bad technique for escaping would work because they're so much bigger and stronger than their attacker. Like if Jordan tried a rear naked choke on Halfthor Bjornson or Brian Shaw, they could probably use the demonstrated techniques successfully. Leaving aside practicality and just nerding out, how much bigger and stronger would the victim need to be than the attacker for the women's self defense techniques against real-ish attacks to actually work? (Again, leaving off practical issues like there being much, much better ways to defend oneself from those attacks, the importance of training, etc.)

[@averyscott7442]

Do you believe that it would be beneficial for a self defense instructor to not only know the fundamentals of grappling/striking/weapons but also the fundamentals of self defense laws and trauma based therapy?

[@RamseyDewey]

A so called self defense instructor that doesn’t understand self defense law has no right interacting with the public. As lousy as most of those clowns are at making anyone capable of protecting themselves, it would be criminal to trust them with the responsibilities of a therapist.

[@averyscott7442]

@@RamseyDewey And if somebody were to put in the work to master both of those fundamentals martial and mental through actual training and college courses, if they were to center what they train around actual CCTV footage and recorded statistics, bearing in mind that no training will actually emulate the real deal, would you still consider them a clown? And if so why?

[@masoncornish6663]

Really flashy stuff can be surprisingly effective, HEMA taught me that, well dirk fighting did at least funnily enough it always ends in wrestling 😂

[@andymax1]

Watched one that was posted by a member from our BJJ club it must have been a friend of hers from another club that she trains at, it actually wasn’t bad in my opinion and it was some sort of combatives JKD or kali I think, it had the obligatory strike to the testicles before beginning the mount escape, but the techniques were of a good standard. I know our Ninjutsu school also run one off self defense classes for women, I can’t be to crtical about our coaches instruction as he has an amazing depth of knowledge on technique when and where to use it, and the focus is always getting away in any case, so despite not even seeing the class I know it would have been good, still I would almost guarantee he would also teach a strike to testicles, I pity the the uke for that class.

[@SteveJuszczak-dx3gz]

With Master Kang Hoon Lee we did the same tech as well ,so tell me coach when did this come along

[@blockmasterscott]

Omg I hate those women self defense videos with a passion. They give us traditional martial artists like me a bad name. My pet peeve is those videos overlooking the fact that you can't learn this stuff from one class. You have to train and lead a healthy lifestyle(eat your veggies) for years to get good at that stuff. Not only martial arts, but every sport under the sun, from MMA to golf to basketball to karate requires the same two things:eating healthy and training for years.

[@LimDulm]

Please Coach, tell us about your time in Argentina!!!!!

[@RamseyDewey]

What would you like to know about it?

[@LimDulm]

@@RamseyDewey I´m from Argentina, and in and old video you mentioned some not so touriststic places, and it got my attention! just curious I guess.

[@RamseyDewey]

@@LimDulm Ah, of course! I spent 2 years as a missionary in Argentina, mostly in the villas de miseria. I never saw any of the tourist sights, unfortunately. Perhaps I’ll make some dedicated videos about the experience. There’s a lot that happened.

[@LimDulm]

@@RamseyDewey Thank you for answering!!! Hope to see those videos soon!!!!!

[@EmilSavery]

Hey Ramsey! Have you ever seen a good women’s self-defence video?

[@RamseyDewey]

The entire self defense industry is based on power fantasy... so, no.

[@RamseyDewey]

I've seen less bad women's self defense videos, and more bad women's self defense videos... but good? No.

[@joekaminski8161]

The only GOOD women's self defense videos are the ones that Ramsey makes fun of! 🙂

[@bradanderson4192]

@@RamseyDewey What about the gracie's one?

[@SteveJuszczak-dx3gz]

Under Master Tsai we all did the same techs

[@Sbv-25]

Ramsey, are squats and deadlifts dangerous for children? Should a human wait till adulthood to lift?

[@RamseyDewey]

Bad lifting technique is bad for all humans. Good lifting technique, good programming, and observing the principle of progressive overload within reason is good for everybody.

[@Sbv-25]

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@RamseyDeweyi thought as much. I just saw a reddit post about a 9 year old indian girl deadlifting 75kg, and there were many comments saying it’ll ruin her health! Even going as far and say her parents are abusing her! Probably commented by people who’ve never deadlifted or did it with bad form. Her form was like 80% ok in my opinion

[@somebodyperson1741]

Have you ever heard about the 'chancery' wrestling move ?

[@RamseyDewey]

Yep.

[@somebodyperson1741]

@@RamseyDewey I think there is a takedown from the chancery position into the chancery neck crank using a three quarter nelson with an s grip

[@somebodyperson1741]

@@RamseyDewey also, have you heard about Joel bane, Erik Paulson, Billy Robinson or Josh Barnett?

[@RamseyDewey]

Yep.

[@xpallodoc1147]

Let me know when you’re in Florida I’ve been really enjoying you

[@micaiahelliott8821]

Have you considered making self defense videos of your own?

[@RamseyDewey]

No. I’m not interested in the power fantasy industry.

[@teeprice7499]

You can learn lots of what not to do watching self-defense videos in general. Or going to McDojos lol.

[@calebworden2993]

So I'm not saying no Mass I'm saying you don't need as much mass if you're fast enough

[@flamezombie1]

Solutions looking for problems! It’s such an issue pedagogically. Students that don’t know what they need help with are so much harder to teach. Well, I could randomly throw some stuff that COULD happen to you. But what has happened to you that you have trouble defending or mounting offense from? That’s way more constructive.

[@GuitarsRockForever]

Well, be honest, the term "women's self defense" itself is BS.

[@dbbdbdbdbd599]

Women cant fight men that arent extremely untrained and weak. An amateur fighter beat licia rijker female world champion and thats just an example

[@bradanderson4192]

He was the reigning new zealand champion with a 13-1 record (9 KOs); it's just a false narrative pushed by some youtubers that he was a random amateur.

[@dbbdbdbdbd599]

@@bradanderson4192 he still fought amateurs not pros

[@dbbdbdbdbd599]

@@bradanderson4192 and he also only had 3 years of experience

[@nternalPractice]

The reason Mr Dewey is so intent on debunking Adam Milner without ever having even met the man is because he doesn't really want to know. If he wasn't so afraid of discovering that his entire world view is wrong he would have the integrity to seek first hand experience with Mizner before "debunking" hime.

[@RamseyDewey]

Ah, an Adam Milner/Mizner apologist. I see your screen name is “@nternalPractice”, probably because you believe you practice something you call “internal martial arts”. Do you know what 内家拳 actually means? (Hint: it’s not the stuff Mr. Milner shows you in those videos)

[@nternalPractice]

@@RamseyDewey It's all just talk...why not just meet him in person? Are you afraid to find out that you don't have a clue?

[@RamseyDewey]

Why doesn’t Mr. Milner/Mizner just spend thousands dollars to fly across the world and put his whole life and career on hold and meet me in person? He must be soooo afraid. While we’re at it, you must also be terrified of learning the truth because you haven’t flown out here to Shanghai, China and challenged me to Mortal Kombat yet. Like, why not man? Why are you so skeeeeeeered?

[@nternalPractice]

@@RamseyDewey Wow! Mizner didn't take issue with you, YOU TOOK ISSUE with him. He doesn't know you or care about you and more importantly, doesn't have to prove a damn thing to you. YOU on the other hand should at least have the integrity to have first hand experience with someone you have chosen to slander.

[@RamseyDewey]

Wizards aren’t real kid. Taiji is not ergokenisis, telekesis, or any other such magical nonsense. It’s fighting ability. You’re mad because the magicians tricks have been explained and you wanted to believe in the illusion without having to learn how to fight. I get it. Literally anyone can do these tricks with a couple minutes of instruction- even you. That’s not slander, those are demonstrable facts.

[@SuperRainbol]

Honestly I think no matter how bad it is any self defense is worth simply for giving people the courage to struggle and not freeze (something that most people do in their first times being attacked). Unless you are learning self defense to go pick fights, and people who do that would do it even without the training, doing any fight exercise will at least give you a chance to escape since most attackers are not fighters and experts and usually rely on their victims, especially women, just accepting the violence without fighting back

[@RamseyDewey]

I do not believe any of those videos will stop anyone from freezing.

[@MargieM10]

Watching videos won't stop freezing. Getting on the mat, getting punched in the face, choked out, etc teaches you not to freeze.

[@donovankennedy1113]

I think these bad videos would give false sense of control and sending you in the wrong direction; basic wrestling, submissions, and striking, maybe strength training would be the way to go but I'm not going to tell a woman training these that she'll be safe walking down a dark street.