The Most Chaotic Episode Yet | Chosen Family Podcast

[@nataliefenton6890]

This episode feels like mom and dad accidentally took edibles and now Mak is having to make dinner.

[@sliceolife865]

This is hilariously accurate. Also all the straight men virtue signalling in the comments somehow adding to the chaos. This is my favourite episode

[@sambradley3179]

And that’s what they had for dinner 😂

[@jn5859]

Seriously. Poor Mak couldn’t finish a sentence without getting interrupted for no reason.

[@docxen]

@@sliceolife865 lol wish i could but i got way too many problems in my past present and future to virtue signaling ...though maybe not having kids ...i think that is my virtue signaling cause lord knows they don't need another me running around.

[@eileahsims8092]

I gotta say: Ashley on the couch, Alayna solving a Rubik's Cube, and Mak frantically trying to keep everyone on track, simultaneously, is exactly what I needed this morning. Also, Alayna: you didn't ruin the episode with your Rubik's Cube. Keep practicing!!!

[@scottbuskirk6732]

Mak is a man

[@porcelainlis3732]

Pp

[@ariannanoble2859]

This episode is every neurodivergent individuals dream (well at least mine). I think my brain understood the chaos more than a normal episode

[@daijay9084]

As a straight guy, a little story. Some years ago one of my nephews fell and cut his forehead badly, so bad he needed to go to hospital for stitches. My sister-in-law instructed my brother not to inform me because she said I would drop everything and rush to his side even if it endangered me. I would for any of them including my brother and sister-in-law. My brother said at the hospital my nephew kept calling for me, the doctor even asked them who I was. When they were little I promised the kids that they can always trust me and I will always be there for them. Though not a parent I feel that putting their child first is in the unwritten contract. Unfortunately so many parents obviously can't read😞

[@4lovebysara]

I feel the same way about my nieces & nephews!!! And you'd think that parents would love having other adults that their kids can trust & turn to! I tell them all that they can tell me things they're afraid to tell their parents so they know they're supported no matter what by someone! I hope your nephew was OK & got to get uncle hugs quickly! 🤗

[@maf.eats2024]

They should be grateful that their kid has multiple role models for healthy masculinity. Some kids don’t even have one.

[@kurenno477]

This seems like disrespect by your SIL toward you and towards the child. Like she doesn’t want the child to get everyone’s attention, or like she feels threatened by your and her child’s rapport and care for one another.

[@oleska]

I was in love with a friend. Her saying that nothing will ever happen between us helped me move on and appreciate her as just a friend.

[@420Shortay]

I have a friend who i think needs this closure but I think we can connect in the future and I dont want to shut it down forever.

[@rachelomally4921]

it’s so funny to hear you guys worry about being boring but I’m just listening while getting ready to leave the house, so ashley laying on the couch eating a donut and alayna doing a doing a rubix cube and mak verbally processing her disappointment in father figure experiences doesn’t really feel that far off from me doing my makeup in the corner & parasocially participating in the hang

[@L1vRosie]

The way that Mak and Ashley flirt is giving platonic bromance vibes 😂

[@saralawlor8389]

I cannot explain how obsessed I am with the exchange "All I can do is cube" and "All I can do is egg"

[@joybubbles]

Straight man checking in. If any kid I was caring for crashed off the bike in front of me, I'd do something in between the two options. My standard with my cousins and niblings is to start off complimenting how good a job they did falling, then you give comfort and encouragement as needed. You don't dismiss the pain, but by saying they did a good job getting hurt, they know it's ok to fall sometimes, good to joke when things suck, and it's not dangerous. If you go too soft and worried, it can make them more scared, but if you go too hard, it can make them think you don't care.

[@jn5859]

One of my best friends told me she wanted a relationship with me, but I wanted to just remain friends. She was receptive to what I said and has respected my boundaries on that topic. We have a great friendship. She’s a grown adult who is fully capable of managing feelings related to receiving a “no” answer. I’m not going to ditch her as a friend when she’s been honest, sincere, and fully respectful of my boundaries the whole time. I do truly value her friendship.

[@scottclark1219]

OK, straight family member reporting, as requested. Yeah, the patriarchy is harming us all and, unchallenged, it turns that poor crying boy in to that dad (who, by the way, is also suffering as he cuts himself off from a more gentle form of connection with his son). The good news is that the rise of different voices and perspectives, including your good selves, gives all of us an opportunity to see different ways of being. I truly appreciate the voices in my life, both in person and people like Clementine Ford, Contrapoints, Akala and, yes, Chosen Family, that both give me a different perspective and challenge me on my values and behaviour.

[@4lovebysara]

Thank you for being a good human & restoring a bit of my faith in straight people!! I thought I had several straight friends, even men, and over the pandemic they proved themselves just as toxic as most men. Often times people don't see how the patriarchy affects men negatively but it really does hurt all of us! I'm grateful people like you exist in the world! ❤

[@Secrets4theMad]

Love to have you here!!!

[@terukoarimori]

hi, scott

[@saraellsworth3670]

"Alayna look, I'm an egg!" 😂 I love that these come out Wednesdays when I'm midway through my work week and needing a pick me up.

[@ameliamangham4460]

Idk how y’all can be more chaotic than usual, perhaps the black tank top is involved

[@sashamarie4449]

Ashley's "I'm sorry what?" to the eating grass had me laughing a little harder than I should have 😂. I love the group's energy and I look forward to watching every week 😊

[@WadeShoe]

To the viewer question: You do not need to get rid of a friend just because they have/had one-sided feelings for you. You just need to make sure they understand how you feel/that you don't want the same thing and respect that. Space can help make that more clear, but really, communication is the most important thing. I have like 3 great friends still who had that problem with me in the past, and I have one friend (an ex) who I could easily see myself feeling that way about again if it weren't for my understanding why we aren't compatible from her perspective and respecting that.

[@AniMin82]

Yes! This 👆 I've had crushes on people where I objectively knew a relationship would never work and I never planned to act on it. People can't help how they feel, but they can help how they choose to act. If you feel like you can trust the friend enough to respect your wishes, there is no reason to end the friendship.

[@maf.eats2024]

MAK has the patience of a saint! 👼

[@kassidyreece3072]

1) I’m so happy that Mak is in therapy, I adore her expressing more of her empathy and loving heart with all of us 🥰 2) As a mother who was raised by one of “those” dads it is so healing to watch my husband with our son and daughter. It’s like I’m seeing how me and my little brother could have been raised if our parents had been different. I think a lot of us are feeling this way as we get a better worldview of what good parents are REALLY like. 🩷

[@disorientedbear]

Straight (I think?), cis, male, 44yo here. The "walk it off" mentality was EVERYWHERE during my parents' and my generation. That said, I love watching these videos as they show that there is hope and positivity out there. Things are better and will continue to improve! It is an optimistic view of the world, and I thank you for sharing. Thank You!

[@nicolebacon2747]

Gen Z here (though not a cishet male). Growing up, my dad had the "walk it off" mentality and was often distant. I know he's always cared, he just struggles to show it. I think it mainly stems from how he was raised and our culture/society. I feel like his mentality has gotten better as I've gotten older (maybe my 2 concussions and very cuddly younger brother had something to do with that?).

[@disorientedbear]

@@nicolebacon2747 I don't even know how to begin unpacking that response. I think "sorry" "congrats" and "thank you" will cover most things. My sad attempt at being funny aside... The changes you mentioned in your dad match what I have seen around me. Aside from those far too old to bother changing their ways, people tend to adapt to better fit into their social circles. Now that this circle is made of "broader" minded, younger folks, I imagine he is adapting to a circle that is not dominated by the "walk it off" influences. In other words, he partially has you to thank for that growth. You can tell him I said that as long as you toss in my apology right after! 👍👍

[@ambiguousaesthetic4170]

Mak is incredibly fucking funny, her comedic timing is great and her one liners are so fire

[@jacobclater]

I SCREAMED when Ashley asked Alex, "Can I have a toasted everything bagel?... NEW YOOORK!"

[@likos803]

My dad was one of the 6 kids in the house and my grandfather was involved in setting up the business when my dad was a child. You could say my grandpa was almost absent from my dad's life growing up because of the business. My dad joined the family business when he was 17-18... the country and culture I come from... I could definitely argue and defend if my father was a shit parent to me because of how his childhood had gone.... like my dad had the "excuse" to be a fucked up parent.... Yet, he was the most gentle human I have ever met in my life. Forget getting hurt infront of him, if I got hurt in school I would refuse treatment from the nurse and would rather wait for my dad to do to my first aid because in my head my injuries only heal if he applied the ointment/did my first aid. He was THAT father... Again, he had all the excuses to be a bad father to me, he was a MD of our family business and was an incredibly busy individual... not only he took care of my immediate family he provided for my aunts (his sisters) too... he merely slept for 5-6 hours a day and yet was the most smiley human you would ever meet. He always had time to listen to my rants or how my day went. He has often picked me up from clubs at 2-3 am at night because cabs in my country can be unsafe... All this to say that, despite having all the reasons to be a bad parent to me... my father was the best father. And it all boiled down to the fact that he was a good man. His intent to make sure everyone who depended on him had a safe and healthy life... intentions is all that matters. A person after suffering can either make sure they don't let others suffer or they choose to spread their suffering which at the end leads to generational trauma.

[@kurenno477]

Beautiful how your father was/is. And well said, your last point.

[@kapowjam3462]

The friend date before the actual date has always worked for me. The asking or being asked to do something and completely recognizing it's a "try out a date without the pressure" (pressure as in if we're going to mess up the friendship bc if you don't want to date after the friend date it is usually easy to say "we don't want that but we're still good friends").

[@chechantal]

Lmfao Ashley “….there’s only two genders and I have to stop calling myself dad”. I am crying. Couch Ashley crashing after sugar and questioning her whole existence is me everyday.

[@theincredibleknuffibar4834]

So: About the falling in love with friends part. I value my friendships SO much, I think they're the most pure relationship a human can have and it would break my poor heart, if I would loose them, because they're in love with me. I would not break off a friendship, because someone tells me that, because they obviously deserve to still get my love in a platonic way. We're two adults who can work it out. I have fallen in love with two of my friends, one started out as kind of dating anyways, and I was so thankful that they just accepted my feelings and trusted me to work through that. I found that being in love with someone is such a great foundation for friendship because it means you just see how radiant and special they are

[@lilyLEP]

hahah radiant

[@williamfuss9211]

Straight White Male reporting for duty! My dad was fucking awesome. He had a triple bypass before I was born, so he was a disabled and became a stay at home dad while my mom had to work shitty jobs to keep health insurance. We were poor, but my parents didn't act like it and always put us first so my sister and I never realized that until we were older. Anyway, stay at home dad was great. Everything at school is always something like "The Cheer Moms" and "The Band Moms". Well, I was in band and my sister was a cheerleader so my dad was a Band/Cheerleader Mom and it never bothered him. He took us to practices and just waited outside because it was too expensive to drive back and forth. He volunteered to help with the other moms. He was fucking amazing. There are good dads out there and I was so lucky to have one.

[@ThatGirlShelbyy]

When Alayna called this episode unhinged, the same thought was in my head at that same moment 😂😂 unhinged is the perfect word for this episode for sure 🤣🤣

[@eldarloen9189]

Straight guy reporting: only 21 so a story with my dad. One of my favourite and most valued memory with my dad is from one morning in grade school. I had missed the bus a couple of times the previous weeks and my dad is always the one that would drive me to school, and he would most of the time be grumpy and tired so I would feel very bad. This time I asked if he could wait with the lecturing and not be mad until after school. His respons was to just smile and pat me on the head and say everything was fine. I didn't really know if he would let it go and it surprised me, and I really needed it that day. Afeter school I gave him a hug and he made hot cocoa for us. I think that is my first memory of my knowing my dad would step up and help me no matter what if I needed. I love my dad

[@lc360]

Ashley and Alayna are very much giving the parents from Easy A in this episode

[@sasha_bean]

LITERALLY

[@lipase90]

Early bird… you bring me so much joy. Your videos are running 24/7, after my ER shift you’re the ones that calm me down. So much love

[@thedepthandbreadthofseth]

In a million years, I would never blame my crying son for falling off his bike. He is my world and the owner of my heart. I'm crying just thinking about it! 😢❤

[@ragreen2]

30:54 Alyana: All I can do is 'cube' ... Ashley: All I can do is 'egg' ... Mak: [reaction shot] ... #priceless #loveyouguys ❤❤❤

[@cheyfae]

I usually listen to these episodes on Spotify, but every time I spontaneously choose to watch one here, it's one of the best episodes to have visuals for

[@stephtaylor6292]

"...and people are surprised by that but I've met the yellow and I'm not surprised by that at all..." 🤣 I don't fully understand why this is so frickin hilarious but I am rolling on the floor cackling, along with the "I'm an egg and the people need to know" ... Ashleys sugarcrash humour is the funniest thing I've ever seen... Please eat a donut before every episode!

[@brodysstoryrescuehouse8205]

I am living for the feral energy in this. PLEASE keep doing 4 in a row xD

[@Katie-ey9px]

When Alaina said my dad taught me about the rubix cube I screamed the timing couldn't have been better 💀🤣

[@kriddle179]

I almost chocked on dinnerwhen Mac asked if men deserve to be here still 🤣

[@hello_its_jo9951]

I have definitely fallen in love with a friend who did not reciprocate those feelings and had a deep heartbreak as a result. Interesting that Ashley says it wouldn’t happen to her without reciprocity. Because if I could have stopped it I definitely would have but my heart was dead set on falling in love with a very flirty but very straight girl. Definitely would say it takes ending the friendship to get over that, it did for me.

[@turbo.msm.]

Yeah, related to that bike story I had something similar happen when I was 7 or 8 years old with my dad but it had a much more positive outcome. My dad and I had just put new wheels on my razor scooter at the time of this story, and me being a goofy kid decided it would be a good idea to hit a rock in the pavement on our road we lived on to test out the ride quality of the new wheels. Unfortunately for me, this didn’t pan out how I wanted it to, and I flew off the scooter completely skinning my knees and all the way down my legs. Immediately after this, I started to panic cause I saw all the blood from my injuries, and shortly thereafter my dad saw what had happened and came running down our road to come get me. He wasn’t upset at all and actually carried me all the way back to our house where he helped me clean all my wounds and stuff. But anyways, with that being said I am very fortunate to have had my dad in my life, he’s a really good person, and I feel bad that some kids have negative experiences related to this kinda stuff like what was brought up on today’s episode.

[@arseniavezyridou1557]

Mak's hair looks incredible in this episode omg!!!

[@hannaheiserman1632]

“Alayna, look! I’m an egg!” absolutely sent me.

[@LaRocheSews]

This is the chaotic energy I need more of in my life this is beautiful

[@vl-s1716]

My spouse dying over how distracted Alayna got with that Rubik’s cube while I was too distracted by Ashley just sprawled out on the couch showing so much damn dad leg 😳

[@lilyLEP]

Can I just say, Alayna looks SOO good in this episode. Love your shirt and your hair and your whole vibe today. You look great, so proud that you ate your fluffy bagel haha

[@marysusansusan]

I have an interesting take on the friend, love situation. I told a very close friend I had feelings for her over 6 months ago and it actually only made the friendship better. Granted, I didn't make a huge, "I'm in love with you" declaration (the feelings were strong but it's not like it had been going on for years and years), which I suppose would make things more dramatic. In our specific situation, this friend had already gotten feelings for someone else, so that kinda made it easier because not only were the feelings not reciprocated towards me, but even if they had been, nothing would have developed between us due to that. We are also both very touchy, lovey-dovey kind of people, even as friends, so I think most people would see that and think that would be the worst situation ever, but even being touchy afterwards hasn't really been a huge deal, as we both are super aware of it being a platonic affection thing for both of us. It's also worth mentioning that we have had more than one serious, peaceful conversation about the whole thing and have made it very clear how much we care about each other (as friends) and that we want the friendship to last. I should note though that we are two queer women, so I feel like that kind changes things when it comes to the whole "staying friends" thing. There are also others in our friend group who have been through the same situation, so... I guess it's common amongst queers.

[@hi-yo1kq]

Wow it’s crazy how this is exactly my experience but from the opposite perspective and the fact that my friend is a queer man not a woman

[@marysusansusan]

@@hi-yo1kq Wow that's awesome, so you are a queer male and your friend is as well?

[@melissaeastridge7402]

Just got home from school.. how do we get more chaotic than usual?? I’m excited!!!😂❤️❤️

[@irradiated_woman8016]

Request for a video of Alayna explaining, in great detail and from start to finish, how she's solving the cube. I don't want to learn I just think it would be very soothing.

[@mwernli2886]

I don’t know if I could get used to Alayna not being present mentally, because if she’s not handling Mak and Ashley like she has thus far, the creative chaos also caused by everybody is just pure chaos. I’m not sure if that makes sense to anyone else, but the gist is basically: I need Alayna being mentally present ☹️.

[@junevertucci3420]

Wow! This episode was truly all over the place...and yet somehow still strangely entertaining, Sugar crash, on the couch, Rubiks Cube, Masc for Masc, and of course Bagels

[@kenziebelak1167]

In terms of the question asked (do you stop being friends with someone once they've shared that they're in love with you), this came up in one of my best friends lives recently. What I said to this friend was: your friend feels close enough and has enough trust in the foundation of your existing relationship to place their heart in your hands, but not in a Hot Potato kind of way. It is a very vulnerable thing to announce/profess love, and also very risky. Things don't have to change unless you want them to. To the OP with the question: it is up to you whether or not you want to continue having a friendship with the person who shared that they're in love with you. I think the only thing that needs to potentially change is having some additional boundaries, which will take time to shape and develop. I hope you two are able to communicate your way through it, and that everything works out in the best way possible!

[@ironiceilidh]

tell me why this is my fav episode yet… honestly i love the chaotic and couch egg energy

[@poppetanya]

This episode was so fucking chaotic and i loved every single little bit of it

[@RondyWooten]

A kettle cooked sea salt and vinegar chip is the absolute best!

[@hi-yo1kq]

The relief when Alayna finished the Rubik’s cube. I was so scared she would give up on it and it wouldn’t be solved

[@hmmcms1]

I was at sprouts grocery store a couple weeks ago and saw a man shopping with a young boy teaching him how to identify produce. It was very sweet and something you don’t see often from men or women🥰

[@allyson--]

aw, v nice

[@morgancrim3605]

I honestly could argue this is their best episode yet. 😂 So chaotic and hilarious 😆😝

[@shadufr]

It’s weird hearing Ashley saying she can’t imagine being in love with a friend if it’s unreciprocated. Mostly because I feel like it’s this whole big thing in the lesbian community, either being in love with your friend or being in love with a straight girl Personally I don’t remember being in love with a friend [or straight girl] but I’ve had crushes, some of which turned into a much deeper thing for me but still not necessarily love. I think it’s just a matter of having a crush and more time going on without saying anything or trying to make any moves I think if I were the person on the receiving end of that kind of confession, communication and honesty would be huge, and if there was no way I could see myself reciprocating then I’d let them know that and tell them that they should do what’s best for them to get past their feelings for me. If it means less contact then that’s best, or if they can just go on like normal and work on moving past it in their own time whilst still being in contact then that’s good too

[@VictorVonGrooove]

That was indeed chaos. I loved every minute. Alayna playing with the cube was a little distracting, but she can do whatever the hell she wants.

[@potato2337]

The way Ashley pronounced WHGS as if it was a word 😅😂

[@jacobclater]

Nobody: Alayna *doing a Rubiks cube*: "--this feels important for some reason..."

[@albertqhumperdinck]

i was not ready for the egg portion but im so happy you guys

[@randomripoff123]

re: possibly leading someone on i totally understand the impulse to wanna make sure you're not accidentally doing that, but uh. leading someone on is an intentional act. you can't lead someone on if you're very clear and up front, have discussed expectations and boundaries, and then act within those expectations and boundaries. if you say "okay. i don't feel the same, and i don't think i ever will. if that somehow ever changes i guess i'll let you know? but this is just a friendship for me, and i really like our friendship. i'm going to continue acting the way i was before."-- then you're not responsible for them misreading your intentions or holding onto that hope. at that point, they're responsible for their own feelings and actions. //shrug.

[@michellerbn]

I absolutely LOVE how Alayna just checked out for this episode so nonchalantly LMFAO. Huuuuuuge vibes. It felt like we got a little glimpse of how Alayna is irl 💀 Me as fuck in social settings when my social battery runs out.

[@StealthBG]

41:15 That's asuming that all people read social cues the same way. Some people just like teasing their friends and making fun of small things but the other side can regard this as flirting. Especially if they're young they could get confused. Talk with eachother instead of asking random strangers on the internet (who do not have all the facts and context of the situation) to help you is counterproductive cause you wouldn't listen anyway.

[@kaiya33123]

Fluffy Bagel😂😂😂❤❤ I LOVED this episode!!!

[@girl_fromthenorthcountry]

7 minutes in and I already feel so seen by both the chip & grass eating methods down to the core of my identity 🙏

[@drawlynnfaves]

regarding the question they answered: i was in this situation but a close friend of 8 years that was basically my best friend. i was single and a lesbian but i didn't feel the same way about her with being physically attracted after hanging out in person, i even tried to think of her that way (even responded to her flirting messages) but it didn't work for me in the end. unfortunately she didn't even tell me the normal way you would, it was her EX boyfriend that essentially told me through messages, and lead to the awkward finding out. it didn't help that through that HE also sent my responses back to her behind my back (essentially me being like im not really interested) for maximum terrible way for this to happen. i ended up talking to her after, saying i still want to be friends because i did love her platonically and tried to have a full convo and said id still be there for her in that way, but the whole scenario ended up being terrible, leading to all kinds of toxic things that came about from her own doing. becoming suicidal over it, begging for me to change my mind, saying she wanted to live together in the future, all kinds of stuff i had to talk her through and spent hours and hours of my time doing, willingly, because i loved her as my friend. i also blame myself for not asserting that we needed space, thinking we didn't have to do that, that our friendship would continue as it always had. boy was i wrong. that love turned to hate and all kinds of toxic scenarios which i truly believe started from that rejection, unfortunately. she became a person i couldn't stand and that friendship went to hell. we're now never in contact again and it's for the best. THAT ISN'T TO SAY that people can't be friends still when this happens. it's about how it's handled, how both people involved are, and the space is a serious lesson. i seriously blame myself for a lot of how it was handled but it's in the past now, can only use it as a lesson moving forward.

[@annelisealves2088]

is it always this chaotic? I love it

[@aynuraaliyeva5977]

i agree with u guys (gn) about the question, i was in this situation last year - my friend confessed to me that she had feelings for me for a year and i was so shocked and spent a few days thinking and thinking, my initial response was idk i need to think and then my thought process was like this : wow she never said anything about being in any way queer! i am so shocked (cause im always so vocal about being bi and queer rights etc plus a whole year? ) and also like wow she's perfect and if we were a couple it would work!! and that's when i was questioning what's platonic what's romantic and i ended up responding that i love u as a friend and i want us to stay friends and i understand if u need time, but then it was me who took time actually to process it all lol. but we stayed friends! and we r okay))

[@ninreck5121]

I'm on holiday with my bio family and they're starting to rly get on my nerves and this episode just recharged me so well the with propper, loving family energy I need, thank you, I love it

[@demilynn4179]

I finally caught up so now can listen every time a new episode comes out

[@henrikhansson2862]

Sweden listeners unite! 🥳

[@meaganromain9295]

Alayna talking about eating the white part of the grass makes me feel seeeeeeeeeeeen. I've never heard of other people doing it 😅

[@fannydoucet6750]

36:07 It actually happened to me once, to say "I have a crush on you" but not really want more, and be relieved I didn't get more. I said it because it felt true at the moment and I knew it was an ego boost that would be really good to her and I saw no reason not to tell her. But I also was very aware of how upside down her life was at that time and reluctant to commit to a relationship in these conditions

[@ragreen2]

19:25 Ashley announces her donut crash. Immediately: Alayna takes a victory lap in her office ... 🤣🤣🤣 #ashleycantdothesugar

[@fambi1271]

The friend thing happened to me. I fell in love with her bc she's so smart and ambitious and sweet and amazing. But we're both flirtatious in general and I didn't know if she was being serious or not. I asked her out and she said no but things stayed the same. I let her know I was still into her bc I didnt want her to do things with me if it made her uncomfortable with these feelings. We're still super close and I'm glad I disclosed bc we can openly joke and talk about it and it doesn't affect our friendship but we're also the type of people who can separate that. Some people cant.

[@thanielxj11]

I'm a stay-at-home dad I don't usually have a lot to say on your podcasts because I'm a straight white male, but I think we should definitely let people know there are dads who really like to take care of their kids.

[@watersk2013]

The Care and Keeping of You is giving me war flashbacks. Very useful book, but oof I was not ready when I saw it in the book section of my local Wal-Mart when I was 10. Alayna, awesome job on the Rubik's cube. Mak, great question. Ashley, loved seeing you viiiiiiiiiiiibin' on the couch.

[@matthijsclaessen8152]

As a dad (from The Netherlands) I'd check if the skinned knee is all that is wrong. If so I make light of the accident, especially in tone, so it does not traumatize. And then gently but firmly will hold the knee under running water to remove all the dirt, probably all the while hugging and shushing the crying child. Then put a bandaid on the wound if it was small, or probably nothing on it if it was a big wound. (Maybe use something to pad the bleeding spot until it stops running.) And then, most imprtantly, after a firm hug, I will try to get the kid on the bike again for a short (and hopefully succesful) ride. So it learns that it does know how to ride a bike and that it was just an accident. And those happen. (And praising the kid when it succeeds to high heaven...) So there's that.

[@irradiated_woman8016]

The best chips are Zapp's voodoo chips. The flavor is this bbq/salt&vinegar/jalapeno hybrid and it is 🌸fabulous🌸

[@minnie310]

I could totally be reading Ashley wrong here - but my dad died too and the behavior during this episode is how I ask for help when I don’t want to ask for help. you’re loved ashley

[@jn5859]

Acting out in the hopes that someone will “read between the lines” and do some kind of intervention on your behalf is a great way to cultivate a world where it’s ok for people to “guess” at what people want, or to think “she’s saying ‘no’, but she doesn’t really MEAN ‘no’, and she’s expecting me to keep pushing anyway…” We’re trying to create a world where a woman’s word is respected. If you’re out here intentionally saying what you don’t mean and hoping people fill in the blanks, you’re hurting us all. Not healthy.

[@minnie310]

no shit Sherlock

[@bingbongalong]

I love these more unhinged episodes 😂

[@Jaynayh]

Petition to get Alayna a new cube. Please. As a cuber that thing hurt my soul to listen to.

[@SpaceyD]

Omg I have a child on the spectrum who is a cuber! They told me that solving is an algorithm, for what that's worth. We have a whole bookshelf full of different types of cubes! 🤗

[@bernardmctucci9956]

As a cuber, I just looked at the thumbnail and had a stroke.

[@theembersinside1420]

"My father's dead and that's why I'm gay!" 😂

[@connorkazort4009]

For the veiwer question: Ive been in that position over 5 times. Honestly I've always felt like there are different kinds of love and not many of us have been taught to tell the differences. Normally when it happen I let them be heard and state boundaries and what i expect moving forward with them. It's all up to how they react, if it changes the way they act around you then you know something is a problem and there are some not good paterns forming with that person abd you need to break away. Or if things stay the same between y'all then they really just wanted to let you know.

[@mariannetfinches]

Clear & open communication & it's totally possible to stay friends. As for why you would tell someone if you knew there was no reciprocity, i did that once. She had super low self esteem & I had it in my head it might make her realise her value, just a little bit. Probably not the best way to go about it, but I wasn't so clued up back then. P.s. i thought i was the only werdo eating the white part of the graas! What is being human 😂

[@hyleore]

I think in some cases falling in live without reciprocity is limerence - the person is imagining a more intimate relationship in their head, picturing interactions, and having a false sense of intimacy as a result. (I'm saying that very impersonally but I'm very guilty of that. 😅)

[@isabellaalves8089]

you guys made wednesday my fav day of the week !

[@567cuber7]

From a person who solves cubes at 12s WAY TO GO!!! Keep practicing You rock Alayna!! And honestly it will definitely work out your brain & your fingers when you get up to speed 😂

[@22kelseydillabaugh]

Everything egg bagels are so fire. I like them with red onion, arugula, and tomato though! Veggies man. Get your veggies!

[@d14551]

I know quite a few straight fathers and they all absolutely would comfort their child under those circumstances, under any circumstances, actually. Which is not to say that there are not parents of all orientations and genders, who are emotionally abusive to their children.

[@ohhmana-]

As a straight cis guy who grew up without a father, my mom was mostly nurturing and compassionate when i got hurt and i think i may have been worse off because of it, i cried as a reflex to anything that i didn't like until i was almost a teenager. I think i better response would be more balanced, comforting the kid with the injury but also reminding them that they are strong and that they are capable of dealing with the pain and pushing through it. I think with the surge of the redpill weirdos its evident that some guys do actually benefit from being told to "get over it", push the pain away and be strong. While those people certainly take it too far and assume that its works for all men in every situation when in reality it isn't that binary. Most people are going to have a more balanced approach, and with a tool like the internet we have access to overwhelmingly more points of view and slowly things will get better and "masculinity" will be refined and become more flexible to benefit a wider variety of kids growing up. Hearing thoughts from people wildly different from us allows us to be more well rounded people, i can say without a doubt any straight guy who listens to this podcast probably recognize this on some level. You guys are impacting thousands of peoples worldviews for the better just by doing what you are doing already!

[@MitzyCat]

Lays plain, "unrequited love's a bore.." 🎶 - Lady Day

[@quietestkitten]

The question from today makes me think about this idea. Maybe when approaching somebody you have feelings for her, it’s better to just ask them on a date, instead of saying that you’re in love with them. That way there’s a lot less pressure on the friendship if the feelings are not mutual.

[@Jazz-zu1jl]

Actually, you can confess your love without wanting anything in return! So, I'm in a relationship with a man, whom I'm really in love with. I have this very close friend, we're gonna call her June, she's also in a relationship with a man she loves. And I find myself loving her, and not just like a friend. I'm so glad she exists, she's such a ray of sun and kindness and if we were both single, maybe I would have considered relationship stuff (we're both bi). I know she has a special fondness for me, has already felt attraction towards me, and knows how deep my affection for her is. So I told her everything I told you all, and it didn't make her flinch. She was simply moved and happy that I felt safe enough to tell her. It's such a pure form of love. I'm perfectly happy with her being just a friend in my life, and all I really want is for her to be safe and happy. My partner knows about it and isn't jealous because I don't flirt nor actively want to get anything from her. Here's my storyyyy

[@blixacash5458]

Good story. :- )

[@avantikakulkarni5971]

Might’ve been one of my favourite episodes! Chaos ftw

[@Neveko]

The bagel reveal at the end of the episode was 🤌 what a wonderful way to come full circle

[@lottie763]

Salt and vinegar crisps ! Try squares and discos if you visit the UK! They are so strong if u eat too many it hurts which is what u want obviously!

[@lincymoonen228]

Alayna im so excited for you to learn to solve the rubiks cube! If you want to get faster and move it with your fingers like a pro 😎 you should buy another cube. Because the actual cube from Rubiks is not really good. I recommend a Valk 😌 good luck learning! And being anxious while you try to get better times

[@taylorshai]

I love them 🩵😍😍they are so perfectly amazing. Everyone looked so pretty ✨🌈