The Most Popular Questions about ORGANIZATION - Answered Live!

[@lizzylaredo6783]

I have a chronic illness that on not so good days is debilitating so I ditched the heavy fancy comforter with 11 pieces of pillows and decorative bedding. I switched it for a lightweight quilt and changed the multi layered drapes for 63 in grommet blackout curtains that are easy to open and close in my bedroom. This was the start of my decluttering journey. I am making life easy on myself.

[@mrsducky3428]

Have you researched intermittent fasting??

[@miriammartin9319]

Reducing what I had to manage has helped me as well. Simple is best.

[@lizzylaredo6783]

@@mrsducky3428 yes I have. Thank you for asking.

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

I greatly simplified my bedding, too, I have chronic pain.

[@illinoisvideoatlarge8039]

I do layers Take a layer off when soiled

[@samanthamaben9740]

For a tip on how to get your kids to want to declutter: I started doing a "buy back" insentive. The amount of toys my kids had had reached it's limit. I had reached my limit. So I said I'm not buying anymore toys but I'll pay you x amount for every toy you donate or get rid of (essentially "buying it back" from them)and you can buy new toys with the money you earn. Really, I'm buying back my space and my sanity which is worth every penny!

[@natalies5818]

Doing this!

[@Beepbopboop19]

Yes! Thank you!

[@chasitypatrick7570]

We did this with our 9 & 11 year old daughter and son ! It worked so well! They are now almost 12 & 15 and I will still do that if I see it getting out of hand. This is great for my ADHD daughter who likes her things and can’t stand the thought of getting rid of them so she will give them to me for a small amount or if they are in excellent condition then she will want to give them to another child that may want it. She has such a big heart ♥️

[@blackwhite1406]

Magnificent!!!! 🌟 Congratulations 👏👏👏

[@upgrade101]

I don't know what it's called in the US but I would take my kids to 'car boot sales' and they would sell their toys and whatever they made they could use towards something that they really wanted. My 18yo son still sells his old consoles and games to buy the latest ones! I would also have my kids donate toys to children's hospitals and wards - they would come with me so they saw how much other children appreciated the stuff they didn't want anymore - it really sparked some awesome conversations and helped them learn empathy. ❤ Teaching kids the 'one in one out' rule is amazing too.

[@ArtyAntics]

What you said about chronic illness is spot on, I was a hoarder when I first got sick. At one point my health was so bad I crawled on my hands and knees to the bathroom and couldn’t lift myself up onto the toilet. But on my better days, when I got up to pee or eat, I scooped up a bunch of stuff into a box on my way back to bed and sat on my bed and sorted it (often under my duvet to block out the depressing mountain I still had left). I did that for 3 years until I got well enough to do bigger chunks. Now my house is minimal-ish and when I just got sick for 3 days, the worst that happened is I had enough dishes to put the dishwasher on. It is honestly life changing to just let myself rest and not feel guilty or have to burn out to catch up.

[@katia.luna213]

❤️❤️❤️ Proud of you

[@ArtyAntics]

@@katia.luna213 thanks, it was hard work but I’m glad it’s over. It’s weird tho, the emotional attachment is still there. I moved across country 6 months ago and had to let a lot go at once to pack our house into a 4x2m van . When I got here there was a lot of grieving for what I let go of and this weird panic I might need it and couldn’t get it back. But it passed and I’m better with it now.

[@lizzylaredo6783]

I believe when we accept what is happening to our bodies and physical limitations, things begin to get better. We are not fighting ourselves but rather being ok with ourselves. You able to see past the mess and move on. I went through a period of about 5 years after foot surgery in both feet coupled with fibromyalgia where I did the same thing. I would wash plate or 2 and sit down for 20 min. Then I would get up again to continue. I said to myself it would get done in baby steps. After 12 years, our house is down to what is essentially important. My health is much better and the anxiety is pretty much gone. I am enjoying living with less and more organized.

[@kathrynratenski-harrison4635]

It takes time & determination to dig yourselves out of a situation that we did not really want, but is our reality. It gives us a real reason also not to judge others- we don't ever know clearly what others challenges are like.

[@kathrynratenski-harrison4635]

@@lizzylaredo6783 This gives me hope & incentive to tackle this in small steps, not be overwhelmed with the big picture! Thanks!

[@christiclarke1158]

Hello - I got a huge head start on decluttering a few years ago. We had a house fire and lost absolutely everything. We were totally fine - with the love and help of others and insurance - we never went without a meal or clothes. It was tough for a while - but it showed me - all we NEED is our people. Even sentimental things I love are not necessary for happiness!!

[@mayaflynnster]

After getting rid of LOTS of antiques that were also heirloom and family treasured, I realized that I could visit old memories by going to antique stores. Realizing that my "treasures" were purchased from a store at some point and are just one of many made helps me focus on the memory and not the object. And I am a sucker for enamelware so I go and look at all the pieces, enjoy them where they are, and go home. It helps that i'm not a big shopper so i'm only there to look.

[@2008ahbbjj]

This Clutterbug video is not the first one that daylights my mom’s bad habit of holding her ocd cleaning above my natural visual org style. Who knew!? it’s not a flaw after all! 😁 Heck I’m 63 and it’s so good to be free of that. I’m actually excited to get this about myself and to finally have the tools to make my space and life so much lighter!

[@mmmsunshine5367]

The scarcity mentality thing when you have been homeless, without food and other basics is a challenge to overcome- glad you mentioned- reduced my unnecessary buying 💕

[@kathrynratenski-harrison4635]

Thanks for willing to share your homeless story & the scarcity mentality that keeps U financially & mentally trapped. I haven't been homeless, but the fear stands over your head when U are singly supporting your self with a chronic illness & not sure if U can be fired or U don't kmow what your future looks like. Thank God I have a strong faith. But it always hovers over your mind- keep all U Have JUST IN CASE- save all the clothes U can-just in case- etc. It's a scarey game U play with Your mind & possessions. ..

[@tangogrrl]

I feel for the homeless, since I've been just one drawer shy of there. But deep poverty is right next door, and that made real ruts in my reality, so it's hard getting rid of things I 'might need some day'. Twice as bad having grandparents who lived through the Great Depression! But I'm making progress, a baby step at a time...

[@poppyseed389]

I am so impressed how eloquently you answered all these questions without preparation. You are truly a skilled communicator and get info out in a way that others can relate to and understand ❤️ BTW you look great, how dare you apologize for how you look at the beginning lol!

[@jujujupiter]

Really? Eloquently? Skilled communicator? Are we watching the same channel

[@katia.luna213]

@@jujujupiter Get outta here with that attitude. Cass is an easy to understand communicator.

[@themrs.547]

Always lovely!

[@miarenee6703]

I agree wholeheartedly! She has amazing communication skills and is such an amazing motivator!

[@mary-annz.reynolds7778]

I went on vacation from Arizona to Washington. I talked so much about the organizational styles and asked my daughter to take the clutterbug test. I completing forgot about it... came home and got back to work. Lo and behold, I get a text: "I'm a Bee." It was so cute 💕

[@jennifernowoselsky6504]

Thank you so much for answering my question!!! I have the teenage son who is a rebel butterfly (I call him a moth lol) I used almost word for word what you said to talk to him. He’s making great progress in his room by doing it his way. It’s not pretty but it’s getting much more organized. He even decluttered without me mentioning it!!

[@upgrade101]

People often shy away from terms like 'training' but the reality is that we are teaching our children the skills they need for life. Back in the ole' days (how old did I just make myself sound 😅) it was called 'home training'. And it'll set them up for uni or living with roommates or independently. We as parents feel a lot of guilt for a lot of stuff - but this shouldn't be one of them. ❤

[@wifemamateacher]

Thank you SO much for answering my question about how to manage well when struggling with chronic illness-it was EXACTLY what I needed to hear, and I appreciate your thoughts so much! I had a good day this weekend in which I had more energy, and used it to get ruthless on decluttering and then organizing our living room and homeschool area...it feels GREAT! We tossed three bags of trash, and got multiple boxes of donations in the car for me to drop off on our next trip to town! I definitely agree with the control aspect you mentioned-I dealt with that while working through these two rooms, but at the end of the day, I can see that letting go of that stuff has already been so much of a blessing in maintaining the spaces well, and I will take that over the stuff any day! Thank you, thank you, thank you, Cas! I appreciate your help and your work so much!

[@judysbakeryandtestkitchen1654]

Thank you for this question!!! I, too, am struggling with chronic health issues that limit me. I began Decluttering in August, 2019. While I don’t have mass have Decluttering amounts, I still declutter. A tip-if you schedule a pickup from a charity, you might find yourself Decluttering more items. I do.

[@blackwhite1406]

@wifemamateacher 💫 Watch Cas' "Decluttering 30 Day Challenge" from 4yrs ago...it's magnificent! I suffer from clinical depression & other health issues. That 30day challenge changed my life!!! 🌟 Try it, you'll love it! Best wishes 💫✨🌟

[@catara99]

I was so happy to hear her reinforce my feelings of needing to just get rid of everything. Even the dishes lol. How reassuring, if it's stressing me out, it's not necessary, paper products work for now.

[@SnowySpiritRuby]

That's basically how I've done it for the last 3 1/2 years - I'm okay not doing it, or not doing much, when I'm not feeling good, but on those occasions when I have the energy for it, I go full out (knowing I might pay for it afterwards, but hey, it's still 100% totally worth it!), sometimes staying up until 3 or 4 in the morning🤣, but if that's when I have the energy, I take it. The first 2 times after college that I drove to my parents' house for Christmas, I had a full pickup truck load of stuff to get rid of (I'm terrible with figuring out worths for filling out donation receipts, but my mom is great at it, so she helps me with it, but the drive is 1,000 miles each way, so she can't just pop over to help me, hence why it happens only when I'm there), but nowadays, I usually only have a tote bag or two, and maybe a third if I have some things that are temperature sensitive (except last Christmas - I had just moved 3 months earlier, so I had a giant pile of stuff to get rid of sitting by the front door, even though I had already sent back 4 tote bags of stuff with a friend 2 1/2 months before I moved, and my parents also drove out to pick me up, so we had 2 cars to haul stuff back for donation instead of just my truck); I've now decluttered to the point that the things I'm getting rid of all fit easily into one drawer, making my cricket brain very happy (and making it super easy to put them in there as I come across things to get rid of), and still giving me that little high every time I put something in there, and then the big high when it finally gets out of there for good.

[@judysbakeryandtestkitchen1654]

@@blackwhite1406 thanks! I will check it out

[@LorreneRomanic]

I just donated a bunch of random stuff today (boxes sitting in the laundry room for weeks). Feels good to have it out of the house! One of the things was a doll (porcelain head, hands and feet with cloth body) It was given to me by friends of my parents when I was a kid.. I kept thinking I needed to keep it because I've had it for close to 40 years - in a box for the past 30+ years. I thought maybe I should give it to my granddaughter (she's only 2 - not quite ready for a doll with porcelain parts) But I finally decided that obviously it isn't important to me since I'm not displaying it. One of my favorite rules of "the minimalists" is the spontaneous combustion rule. If this item would spontaneously combust, how would I feel. The answer was: relieved. Time to let it go :)

[@Margar02]

Omg that's funny! The spontaneous combustion rule 🤣

[@bonnylouwho76]

I just found these ladies. PERFECT for me!

[@paulinebedi1241]

I love this concept and I’m definitely going to use it and yes those dolls that are not on display are going’! Thanks

[@gwenj5419]

I love that rule too. It really shows me the things I'm just keeping under perceived obligation.

[@christinewilson8123]

I have had long illnesses...Two things that I figured out after the "Big C" showed up again....good grippers (not what you buy at the dollar store). A huge dustpan with a handle. I got mine at Lowes. A low chair or ottoman allows you to sit and declutter off the floor without bending over. I get a lot done with these two things. Scoop up what you can with the dust pan. Keep a gripper around so if things fall on the ground you pick it up right away. Do small sessions. I do 20 minutes then I stop. I really stop at 20 minutes. A couple hours later I do another session. 2 sessions a day is often all I can do. That is okay. Also even if you are another bug, try the easier solutions that work for butterflies. Take off the lids, add hooks, take out any steps you can in putting things away. Make putting away easier...use macro ways to categorize. Allow yourself to get help. For birthdays I ask for help instead of a gift. Put your embarrassment aside! I take down the level of what I expect my home to look like when going through treatment.

[@jillianguilford5191]

I have a few chronic illnesses. I do what I can, rest and do some more. I'm decluttering now - today the focus is the kitchen - refrigerator. I also will be cooking for the weekend and next week. I do need the dust pan, I have a gripper, but it isn't convenient - will fix that. High fatigue, high pain levels the reducing steps would work well for me. Thanks for the ideas.

[@Sharon-gx1qo]

We are having a baby winter. Yeah she’s been filling it up here again 6 lbs. 1 oz. just had G perfect yeah I’m gonna hazel down anyway how do you spell Dan that’s OK I’m here but they name it. Kara don’t like to know if it’s just for the fun part, but there’s things, do you spell Dan it’s OK I’m here do you know everything sings do you spell Dan it’s OK you’re here I’m here do you know everything things that you spell ban you know everything thing that you spell man know everything how is it cat is it is it is high It’s saying it’s saying what I am Erica Erica had her baby my little girl 6 pounds in 1 ounce and Jerry have a C-section no one else and no she had to have a C-section what hear the smart is saying everything I’m saying what kind of thing is this? I’ve ever done it before the start of Kenneth doing that Kenneth doing that just started of Kenneth doing that that Kenneth doing that just started Canada knocked that Kenneth dead cat not that Dennis did cat not that Dennis dead cat benefit you I don’t know

[@katywillett2590]

The mirrored behavior is real. The more I decluttered, the more hubby joined in.

[@Beepbopboop19]

Yes! So good and so true.

[@Laceycrochet]

The answers and suggestions related to chronic illness are totally applicable to Menopause symptoms too in my opinion. I've been warrior womaning through it for 5 years already and the fatigue is life changing for me and VERY FRUSTRATING. Thank you everyone! Love from the UK 💜🇬🇧

[@JaneH3675]

Severe menopause symptoms are very debilitating. Been going through it for 11 years. Add to that, aging as well. I don't move like I used to. Been decluttering for over 2 weeks now, house is looking better and it's making it easier for me to manage. One day at a time, one area at a time. 👍

[@gailmpintos7232]

Hi Cas.....at some point, will you please discuss downsizing.... change of circumstance like the children leaving home. My kids have been gone for 20 years. I still think about cooking as if I am cooking for a family of 5. I recent realized I no longer need 25 bath towels. It is hard to transition from being responsible for the nurturing of others to just caring for yourself.

[@JaneH3675]

Bless your heart, I know what you mean. Been an empty nester for 17 years. Had to learn to do things for 2 people. Now I have to remind myself to cook 3 times as much when our kids and grandkids come to visit and I still have to keep extra towels on hand. But I've been downsizing in other areas of our home to make it easier to manage.

[@sararush6951]

I’m in the other position. I feel like I was way more organized when it was just me and my son when he was a baby and now I have a husband and 3 kids and organizing 5 peoples worth of stuff is hard.

[@evacastillo3139]

I like this honest answers we need to teach our kids that clean environment is luxury not punishment

[@girllittlemorbid]

I actually DID run out of food & medicine & other essentials at various times during 2020 & I feel kinda traumatized by it. It's hard to tell yourself you don't need to buy extra when you remember how miserable you were without it.. It makes grocery shopping much more difficult & I'm still trying to work thru it :(

[@katieevensen8387]

I actually cried this summer when I made a Target pick up order for my basics. They rolled out the cart to me with everything was there, nothing was out of stock. It hit me harder than I expected it to.

[@jennifermccraw7687]

"90% of organization is about self-confidence and self-awareness." - Cas Sooooo good. That quote right there deserves its place on top of a calendar/planner! Thanks Cas. When you said 'the stuff has got to go' when answering the question about a chronic illness and how to declutter, it made me have that little "oh!" inside. Even though I give stuff away ALL the time, I organize my give away boxes by like items, I'll change box sizes and refold the clothes to fit, I'll make outfits of the kids clothes and fold them together. I do it and I don't want to be doing that. I'm saying - just put it by the road! Ugh. I need to set some stuff out today and NOT organize it first. 😣 So today I'm saying "the stuff has got to go!" Besides - We just took our 16 year old niece to be part of our family, so now I have one more kid's stuff making it three boys (11, 5, 2) plus this sweet precious girl! We have A LOT! Thanks for the motivation. (Now I'm going to go tell them that we can watch a movie tonight if they help mom get the stuff to the curb!) By the way - we live on a street that is the main road in to a lot of residential areas. I set my stuff a little up into the driveway so someone can pull in and I made a "FREE" sign and use it all the time. I've had people come multiple times and if I get a chance to say Hi, I've heard them tell me what they got the last time I had stuff out. Warms my heart. I don't need to know them but I'm glad they had a need met. 💙 Just an idea to help those that can't ever seem to get that donation stuff dropped off.

[@Myeverydaywifelife]

Very helpful tips! I originally was a butterfly when I took the test a couple years ago but as I age I’m finding I’m less visual. I’m wanting less stuff out now and behind closed door but visually pleasing behind those doors. I like to prettify spaces like linen closets and make it look cute but I like that the are behind the door. I guess I’m evolving?? 💜🦋💜🦋💜🦋💜🦋💜🦋💜

[@cindynielson4231]

I was in the middle of decluttering and gardening/canning and had to have emergency surgery. I told my hubby that I needed a maid and he started taking on more household chores. I just turned 61 and it takes a bit longer to heal. I'm a full blown CRICKET! TFS

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

I worked so hard during my career, plus did all the work at home, cooking, cleaning, laundry/ironing, paying bills/managing the money, etc. My lazy ex, who did nothing but ride his bicycle, bitched and moaned when I hired a housekeeper. I was the one working and bringing in the money and I was exhausted.

[@janerymus3524]

My dad always showed us how to deep clean every year, so it was instilled in us how to deep clean since we were 4 years old🥰

[@janerymus3524]

@@AvaFrancesca my dad was a navy man also 😁

[@veronicageorge7820]

Thankful for both of your fathers. And all the veterans and their service. 🇺🇸 I realize all navy are not American, but I’m thankful to them and their service and discipline to you and their families and countries.

[@veronicageorge7820]

@@AvaFrancesca It is absolutely my pleasure. 😊

[@crystaldawn3477]

So enjoyed this!!! I absolutely love your gentle approach to getting your kids to pick up and organize their rooms in their own way. I fussed and fussed for years to no avail. I redecorated my son’s room years ago and put in new shelving units in his closet to help motivate him to be more tidy. However, it just didn’t work for him and his room continued to be a disaster. If I had taken a different approach, gotten him more involved in the planning and let him choose the method of organization, things may have turned out differently.

[@dianerobichaud8609]

Less stuff makes me SUPER HAPPY. LESS IS DEFINITELY MORE. KEEP UP YOUR GOOD WORK BECAUSE YOU ARE HELPING SO MANY PEOPLE. BRAVO TO YOU FOR EVERYTHING YOU DO. THANK YOU.

[@debbiep7419]

The timing of this is perfect. I'm getting ready to move from the house I've been in for 30+ years. I've been driving myself crazy trying to find the "perfect" home for things I no longer wanted to keep. But then I had all these different piles around the house for Charity A, Organization B, etc and when would I get over to their location that was 20 miles away and, oh dear, they're still not accepting donations because of COVID or doing inventory. I finally came to the same conclusion you suggest - it's more important to get it out of my house than to get it to the "best" home. Very freeing and giving to my local generic charity is still better than sending perfectly good things to the landfill.

[@happinessishomemadewithang3684]

That's good to read, yes just give it away, I don't have to find the best home...😐. Struggling here lately!

[@michelesusanne1]

I often put things I want to donate at the end of the driveway and they are always gone in a day or two.

[@mrsducky3428]

@@michelesusanne1 exactly! "Curb alert!" What's funny is a couple of months ago, things started going from the curb faster than usual. Then one day, I walked into a just opened thrift store, and a bunch of my stuff was there lol now I know why it disappeared so rapidly lol

[@elizabethsokol2545]

This is a great idea. I spent years donating items to organizations that can use them. The day before garbage day, I cleaned out my shed and couldn't believe that people took stuff I thought was junk. It is really great to give up control and let people decide for themselves.

[@elizabethsokol2545]

If you have a lot of things, how 'bout an estate sale? I've never done one but the people who do charge about 20 percent and know how to price your items. Just a thought.

[@cindimeyers8074]

Oh my Cas you are amazing. You answered my question. (Getting rid of stuff the best way that has value without causing me anxiety..or the least amount) I've realized I'm scared of making a mistake...but like you said I will and that's okay. "Regret is better than clutter" (aka... chaos). I started putting items on marketplace (like you suggested). If/when items aren't selling I'm going to take your advice and cut my prices in half...whatever is left after that I'm donating and moving on. I have so much to get rid of after 30 plus years of accumulating, but i already feel lighter by just starting. Cas I'm watching your videos from the beginning and you have so many great ideas and much needed advice for me. Thank you for being you, you are truly inspiring. 😘😘😘

[@subtropicalpermaculture]

I started watching videos like hoarders and this one just for cleaning motivation, but they've actually really helped clarify what I'm doing and made what I'm doing emotionally easier for me . Thanks for sharing .

[@andie668]

Best line yet "you and that shelf need to work that out". Haha, yes! 37:53

[@annemariesamples5582]

"This... what I look like on a daily basis" is stunning, happy, young, and beautiful, inside and out!! ❤️

[@maggiefletcherscuriouscelt4199]

I watch a video from my favorite decluttering gurus and tell myself 15 minutes!!! Often this turns into an hour and I’ve gotten stuff done. Goodwill is coming for the 11th time in a year after Thanksgiving. That’s my goal. Helps to put my fanny in gear! (this isnt all my stuff, my dad’s from 65+ years of marriage and things from my daughter….. unfortunately the thrift store knows us by name ☺️)

[@michelesusanne1]

Go Maggie💪

[@rosepetal1332]

I totally agree, Cas. No one needs stuff if they don't have the energy or ability to deal with it. If one doesn't have the energy to declutter, then how do they get the energy to haul all that stuff in to begin with? I think we find energy, or at least use the good days, to do what is important to us.

[@SnowySpiritRuby]

As someone with chronic illness and limited energy, I agree with Cas, too. However, as for the answer that I personally would give to your getting the energy in the first place question, "Easy - I acquired most of the stuff before I got sick. Simple as that." I'm eternally grateful that I was well over a year into my decluttering journey when I got sick, because I don't think I would have been able to declutter otherwise, at least not nearly as much as I have, not without a ton of help that I wouldn't have had access to. Probably one of the biggest perks, in my opinion, of having so little stuff (at least out in the open, not behind closed doors - I'm a cricket) is that I can walk literally anywhere in my house at night, lights off, unable to see a thing, and I know I'm never going to trip over anything ever (I don't have stairs, so that's not a factor).

[@Clutterbug]

Ask friends or family to help with the process. Utilize your support system.

[@lindar1715]

It would be interesting to know how many people are chronically ill that do not have a support system.

[@SnowySpiritRuby]

@@lindar1715 In case there was any confusion, I do have a support system as well, but they all live several hundred miles away, hence why I rarely ever have help. But I can say that the number is actually far more than you would think.

[@hollybonnybrookees5908]

I think that bookshelf behind you is perfect-items are hidden but the varied soft shades of the boxes keeps things visually pleasing instead of boring!

[@alewis4220]

It took my husband 3 weeks to get on board with the 'helping declutter' scenario ... I had watched a previous video of yours where you had answered the 'how do I get my family to help' question and so I had followed your advice about doing it for myself and not nagging etc and one bright Saturday morning he decided to declutter his books, then the weekend later he tackled his clothing and papers etc... He had always helped me with getting the stuff out of the house but slowly he started asking what he could help me with, I mostly needed the emotional support so whenever I had a difficult category to got thru (kitchen stuff usually and cookbooks, hubby also cooks) I would get him to go thru each cupboard with me and tell me what he thought I should keep and get rid of

[@pambaumer2063]

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[@littlemissunimpressed]

Cass! You are very wise. You are right about the truth behind clutter. Sometimes, clutter can come from a scarcity mindset and a fear of being without something important.

[@myway3050]

Cass you rock! Labeling has allowed me to put things away and find them again. Before things would be put away and be forgotten. It was like a magic show. Pooff it was gone🤣 I have only labled some items but it has been a game changer.

[@rechelefields3224]

I so appreciate you helping us! This gives me permission to let go. I love it! I need it. My husband is a paraplegic and sick often. I am nursing him most of the time. I feel hopeless a lot. I love the ideas and practical steps you give us! Thank you!

[@phyllissweetpea4926]

God bless you. I hope you have help.

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

A tough life for both of you. Best wishes and prayers.

[@rechelefields3224]

@@kimberlyperrotis8962 thank you so much.

[@colleenpomeroy3024]

Ok I don’t want to be mean But STOP putting yourself down please ♥️ You are confident, smart and to be a little vain Gorgeous as Always. The Sweetness of your loving hear shines through when you talk. Happy to be part of your Fanclub!

[@Margar02]

Regarding the Clutterbug Quiz: My husband tried to take it and kept overthinking or misinterpreting what the questions mean. I explained basically the four-quadrant graph concept of hidden/out x Macro/micro. It clicked better with his left/male brain.

[@bonnylouwho76]

This was new to me as well I just heard it a bit ago tonight.

[@joannajohnson696]

Cass, I love this question/answer video. I am a visual organizer for some things, other things I like to have a "home." I am the "organizer" of the home. My husband is a rebel. The only way to keep things organized in my home is to make a system, label it & update it if doesn't work. Decreased inventory, like you recommend Cass is what I aim for all the time.

[@Le_Comte_de_Monte_Felin]

Please do more of these Q&A's. And how about doing a 'bachelor's house declutter'! Seriously - it's a big difference between martha stewart and craftsman tools... and guys (I have done this...) will sometimes rebuild car engines in the dining room. Yes. I did that.

[@melissamusick5864]

I quote you ALL THE TIME when I say "if it only takes a minute to do it, just do it".

[@psucarrierae]

Before you said a word, I was noticing how lovely you look! I think your makeup looks fabulous today. You don't need to worry about that. Besides, we are here for your content as always!! Keep on doing you!

[@jennytimelord9689]

To your fan asking about energy being low from chronic illness, while I don't have that, i do have very bad depression and other issues that make it hard to get out of bed and I find giving myself grace, getting rid of things, making sure its easy to do the tasks, and above all - just do it. I chisel out a day where its quiet and I can handle my business without interruption because as much as I'd like to be a 15 minutes a day person, I'm not🤷‍♀️ except when I am. If you have little spurts of energy- pick up a few items off the counter, do a few dishes. But you don't need 10 bowls and 12 spoons for 2 people, and I cut down on my stress by decluttering dishes but people would get annoyed when they came and I didn't have 15 of everything 😒 so I got more and now I'm living in hell! Advocate for yourself and what makes life easier for YOU. I don't own a collinder - my pot has a lid that has holes, I don't need a collinder for washing fruit and veg when I have to lay them on paper towel to fully dry anyway 🤷‍♀️ I don't mop unless its bad, spot clean where you need to. Make a kid vacuum and make them take out the trash - if you don't have a kid, just try not to get crumbs on the carpet 🤷‍♀️ prioritize, minimize and energize - whatever that means for you! For me I have my energy in the morning and when no one else isaround. So on a day off I'lldo that weeks worth of dishes, and I'll diffuse essential oil or open the windows to let air in, I'll have a treat like chips and salsa and mountain dew (don't judge) or a chocolate coffee even though $3-4 for a bottle of mocha Frappuccino is INSANE, I know it makes me feel like I'm getting my life together and I deserve to live like that, that little splurge, and it makes me want to live in a nice cleanhouse. 😊write lists but know you won't get to all of the things on them and give yourself grace, but just having a plan helps so much! Dial it back, is another tip - dial back the holidays so you don't have so much prep, setup, and then the worst part- cleaning up and putting stuff away!!! Ew. It doesn't need to look like Santa's elves threw up Christmas all over your house cuz guess who gets to put that away? You. Make sure you're eating proper meals because your body will fight back if not! Take a multi vitamin, I found my pain is a lot less if I have vitamin A. I never would have thought it was important but I was reading somewhere low A can cause body aches and sure enough - I work freight and on truck days I can tell a difference if I took my vitamin that morning. But simplify it - take 1 or 2 supplements with your breakfast, even if its just juice, don't give yourself a huge vitamin routine you won't have the energy for. If you get in the swing of taking 1, then you can add in more as you see fit but I like the Alive women's Energy, my teens take the men's. It has everything you can think of but also I find fish oil helpful too, I can't remember why but if you could get some omega 3 it does help! It might be psychosomatic but rubbing essential oils for pain and inflammation help me because I have sciatica and frozen shoulder but no health insurance so check with your doc what essential oils to steer clear from but for me, the best is probably turmeric, chamomile, blue tansy and marjoram, now it won't last too long and it won't be complete but it can give you some momentary relief so you can tackle a few small tasks. Hot showers or baths as well! I add essential oils like marjoram, lavender, patchouli, chamomile, etc to bubble bath then add it to the water and it helps my muscles relax, which helps cuz when you are in pain, you tense those muscles and it makes pain worse so you get caught in a cycle of pain that doesn't end.

[@lauraoergel6003]

I found a more visual in the high-traffic, low threshold for us areas of my life, like getting dressed in the morning, and having all of my coffee stuff at hand. But when it comes to crafting, makeup, decor or winter accessories I want it hidden away tucked away so it's less distracting

[@lauraoergel6003]

The one bin at a time system is what my mom used....or the "if you cant pick it up in 5 mins it gets thrown away, so don't take out more than you can put away" Our friends with giant exploding toy rooms didn't care about any of their stuff and their houses were always a mess.

[@cajbaf]

I am a prepper. Not extreme but I do always have a stockpile of things I use regularly. I don't feel it's an anxiety of being without. It's more of knowing I don't have to run out to the store immediately for something. This is usually less stressful for me.

[@Clutterbug]

Then it is working for you and that is awesome!

[@joycegaylord7760]

Agreed. I'm not sure I would call it a stockpile but I buy in bulk the things I use regularly. Some of the items I buy you can only get at certain stores. I buy extra so I don't have to shop as much which now causes me stress...

[@SweetStuffOnMonarchLane]

I agree too... I'm so busy with work I can only go shopping once a month, sometimes once every two months, so I have to stock up when I can. Also if something is on sale I know I will use, I buy extra so I don't have to think about putting it on my list next time. The trick is having the space to not lose track of it so you know what you have. For example, I might look at my vitamin stash and think, "ok, am I going to need more of these before I can go shopping again in a month?" If yes, then I need to buy some this time so I don't run out.

[@veronicageorge7820]

@ Donna Fisher I don’t mind what other people choose to do, but to me it is crazy to only have a roll of toilet paper in a house of many. My family was literally like this and as a result ended up with someone running (literally on foot) to the convenience store to buy one more roll….until they ran out again, it never crossed their mind. The wasteful spending on something you know you are going to need is just funny/strange to me and not how I want to live. I don’t want a room for toilet paper, but I don’t want to be sitting on a toilet waiting on granny to get back from the corner store either. 😆 Edit to say: I just wanted to add that when I said wasteful spending I was in reference to the extra cost my family paid for buying one roll of toilet paper at a convenience store price. It was more for 1 roll there, than a big pack somewhere else.

[@cajbaf]

I get that. Like I said I am not an extreme prepper. I always have 6 to 8 cans of things I use regularly. I don't hoard toilet paper but will always have two or three packs on hand. I only purchase however many I used when I go to the store. On a limited income it works for me as I don't spend large amounts for groceries. It's not wasteless spending. You do what works for you.

[@valerielocke7876]

I am also handicapped and have a problem standing or even getting up from the ground. What I did is I bought some "Home Deot" buckets and a cushion to put on top. I can carry that from area to area to go through things, I even have 1 for each room. I will put things that I know whats going to be in them, extra shampoo or toothpaste in the one in the bathroom so I can sit while brushing my teeth. The one in the kitchen has boxes of Kraft mac&cheese. I got myself some Dollar Tree laundry baskets, I got multiple colors so each color is a different thing, like pink is donation, so if one of my friends comes over to help a little I can ask them to take everything in the pink baskets to donate, or everything in the white baskets is recycle. It has helped me to start to declutter. Also grocery bags are my go to for trash bags, I do not have the energy or ability to carry the big heavy trash bags to the dumpster. I am not one for doing dishes at night cause I get home late every day, so when I'm cooking my breakfast I know I have 4 minutes to do dishes while it's cooking at the beginning then I have 5 minutes after I stir it so I can get one other thing done in the kitchen.

[@rebeccam1027]

Great response to fear. Food (and TP) will be on the shelves this season. There may be a lot of goods stuck in the Port of Long Beach, CA, (for people in the US) but we have everything we really need, don’t we? I’m sure we could all live with a lot less and get by just fine. That seems to me what we are realizing as we declutter/organize. Thanks!

[@Margar02]

Yep, we could use water and our hand, wash extra good. Use a bidet. Even scrap cloth that we wash in the laundry. Sound gross, but it is really? People cloth diaper their kids and wash those. Having no TP would be annoying, but is it REALLY the worst thing ever? Maybe only for public restrooms.... Hmm....

[@justanotherjessica]

Yeah, the person she responded to was clearly a troll or someone trying to spread an agenda if you look at their other comments in the chat. Most of the supply chain issues right now are NOT food related.

[@subtropicalpermaculture]

There are 4 2 million homeless children in the usa last year.. No "we" don't have everything "we" need .

[@rebeccam1027]

@@subtropicalpermaculture I was referring to those of us who are decluttering during an uncertain time. We can resist the urge to stockpile because we’ve discovered in letting excess things go that we don’t need as much as we thought we did.

[@ThankfulNanaDiane]

Thanks for this! My husband is not an ogre, & he does help out around the house, but if I tried to tell him that he has x amount of space to keep his fill-in-the-blank, that would not go over well. When I get frustrated with his stuff, I try to remember all he does & how hard he works. When I change my perspective, trivial things become… trivial! 😂

[@Clutterbug]

So true!

[@Mamanie2]

Cas, that was great! I have to watch this a couple more times to catch all the gems of organization. 👍🤗

[@triciamoon6312]

I hope people thank God that we DID get through that "pandemic" shortage, but be prepared to a degree. Mothers needed wipes (and formula) for their babies and MANY wernt able to find them. Be a little prepared so you aren't hindering your neighbors. Anyways, God bless you and thank you for your wisdom! I am a total butterfly and never knew it! So thank you for the help!

[@dwuagneux]

Absolutely! Unfortunately, I’m recovering from cancer and my house is out of control. I would love to just have one room, my favorite room, which is our library organized so that I have a place of peace to sit quietly. How do you choose The people who you help? I am in Vermont, so not so far from Canada!

[@cindimeyers8074]

I also wanted to add...when you said that clutter is about control, you hit the nail on the head for me. I'm a control freak and this explains so much. Another "light bulb" moment you gave me Cas...THANK YOU🐝🐝🐝

[@persephonebasilissa5109]

Cas is right about how to get family on board. It took about 1 year for my adult children to join me in doing frequent yard work and decluttering. It took another year for my husband to do so. I just kept plugging away at it day by day, and they enjoyed the results so much that they joined in!

[@susanalexander7990]

I begged my husband to organize his floor to ceiling shelves of paperwork for two years. I bought him bins to put things in. What I didn’t know then was that he was a visual organizer. He clipped layers of papers to the front of the bins! It was worse than ever. Finally I couldn’t stand it anymore so I bought identical bins and went thru every piece of paper. Each bin had a purpose except for his 3 bins of 16 clipboards each with a piece of paper on them. My system didn’t work for him of course so now the bins have the clipboards laying across the top of them. We can both live with this.

[@lauraoergel6003]

For mail we switched to dealing with it as soon as we get it, before we sit down for the night because we wont do it sunday. 🤣made a huge difference, ths sorter is over the trash can

[@MaritzaMartinezbelieving]

Living with Myasthenia Gravis (neuro-muscular illness) has really made me experience a home where there is just less in general. I only hold on to stuff I need to cover my basics and things that I use for recreational purposes. Which makes my life easier.

[@jennawundrack7478]

Just found your channel... new ADHD hyperfocus! Also, so happy to find you and know that the overwhelm from clutter is fixable and I'm not a lost cause.

[@kimberlyreiter3213]

I'm so very happy to have found you! I started watching your show, then immediately went straight to KZbin to find your channel! I've be watching a lot of your older videos, but this Q&A is like a my enlightening moment! I struggle with my teens daily about how trashed their bedrooms are. It has gotta so bad in the last couple of years. Your suggestions of YOU COME FIRST - holy moly, that is the literal mindset I needed. My home is very tidy and organized, I'm always been that way since childhood. But letting go of the fact my kids are who they are will lighten that stress on me. Hey, that's why they have doors that can close on that mess! Thanks soo much for this real talk, you are very inspirational no matter what you think!❤❤❤

[@SF-ru3lp]

I found that net shopping bags/totes hung on hooks are great space saving catch-all for ones gloves, scarves, 'need to bring' items. So much better than shelves or bins in a small space.I hang my one by just one handle so the contents are easily accessible. I got mine in a 3 pack on Amazon. G Ire

[@28105wsking]

Look how slender and healthy you are! Amazing! THank you so much for your wonderful encouragement and information!

[@pdxoregon1]

Slender doesn’t automatically mean healthy. But yes, Cas is looking lovely.😁

[@christinariggs896]

I am glad the cube thing was brought up at the end because as soon as I saw it(while beautiful) was way to "busy" for me. Doors for me! I love the containers & a separate bin for each type of toy. I was a daycare provider my self, up to 12 kids sometimes. 1 single big toy bin I learned early on(with my own kids) is just not the way to go. It is to much for the kids too, I have noticed.

[@cindikiser8282]

This was the best posting you've done. I've followed you for years and I learned so much more watching this video this morning. Thank you 💖

[@laineruscelle6571]

I am a bit late but I have to tell you this is the HANDS DOWN BEST ADVICE on getting others in your family to get involved without drama! I started last year WITH MY STUFF and decluttered at least half of it and your right a miracle happened boxes I didn't fill started filling up and rooms became tidier! And Thank you for emphasizing starting with our own things because that is how we are mirroring positive behavior and not punishing and getting an avoidance response. Thank you for your wonderful content!

[@joanellebracht5311]

Such great advice. People don't realize how clutter can actually complicate and make our lives sick. It's so important to teach our children to clean as they're playing and to incorporate a donate time for toys; new one comes in and an old one is donated.

[@janjones4772]

I’m one of those people in one of the fist few questions. I have some disabilities, where I guess I need to Get rid of stuff, but it gives me anxiety just thinking of all the money I spent on all this stuff. It’s so hard to Do. Which I still have the problem I’m not able to do stuff. I don’t have anyone who can help, don’t have money to hire anyone either, it’s like I woke up one day and realized I’m older, bad shape, and stuck with stuff, I love But I just can’t do any more. Got any ideas ?👍👍👍👍👍♥️♥️♥️

[@debbiemclean1090]

I have a chronic illness and have totally decluttered so that I don't have to tidy so much and the dust can sit till I'm able to deal with it, even if it does take a day or two to one room xxxxxxxxx

[@melanierouge588]

It's taken me 3 years and 2 moves to get half my house declutter for good, consistently, with very min effort. Less is so much more easier to manage and I have hired help for the heavy things. I saved up to put myself first and deserving of a nice home. What a huge difference and compliments from the last 3 rooms to tackle :p

[@deepthikurukularatchi2126]

I am from Sri Lanka, I like your channel very much. You speak in a realistic way.

[@beverlyness7954]

I just want to thank you for discovering and giving us the 4 organizing styles. That was life changing for me. I'm a Bee. I never understood how my closets could look clean and organized but I'd have clutter surrounding me. People would be shocked when they opened my cupboards and drawers because they looked so good, when every surface in my home was covered. Now I understand what I do to myself. I keep things organized and out of sight that I don't need or use. Then I use the stuff that's all around me. I think I have the hardest job of all because I have to first make space before I can put stuff away. But that means dismantling the organized and good looking cupboards and drawers and make space for what I use. But then I have to remember what I did, because out of sight out of mind. Jeesh! I don't have a lot of wall space to use visible organizing. But knowing how I sabotage myself all these years has been so helpful.

[@jylmilner8612]

Thank you for talking about the reality of life for those of us with chronic illnesses! My house is much easier to live in for all of us since we started getting the excess OUT. You're a blessing to us!

[@TrinaRaysTrekofLife]

I didn't catch the live, but I was able to watch the replay. Thank you for sharing your ideas with us, teaching us, and encouraging us! ❤ Yes, would love to see more of these Q & A! I haven't given up. I'm on week 3 and still making progress with 1-3 decluttering sessions per week and posting KZbin videos of my progress. One session at a time, a few minutes of progress at a time. I'm looking forward to not having all that clutter in my home and in my head! Lol Thanks again for sharing your journey with us!❤

[@laurabratlien4531]

Thanks Cas!!!! You are definitely a new lifestyle!! My son is very depressed and has ADHD, he is overwhelmed with things that need to be done, yet he can’t do!! He is 24 college graduate that lives at home. COVID is really affecting him. I got COVID last year, got so sick I had to get double lung transplant. Anyway, have you made any videos for people with depression or ADHD? Or can you recommend videos? You are awesome!

[@melanieklyne3026]

I just set the alarm twice 15 minutes and can't thank you enough success

[@IndianaNana1]

I just love you. Your channel changed my life and I'm still changing. Bless you and your this Christmas!

[@TurquoiseInk]

Looks beautiful, apologizes for her looks. Watching TV just was resting. Be kind to yourself, you are doing amazing work helping your audience. 💕💕💕

[@jeanettehowell8906]

💕💕💕still cleaning while listening using Time Will Tell Bag , organizing & thrash bag as I go, I’m 71 y/o, have been doing for a decade, one room or one corner at a time, I want a happy place, dang this so hard

[@Jazmarlyssa]

At Christmas time when I was kid, I remember hearing my mom's sewing machine running into the wee morning hours. Christmas morning I was so happy to open gifts of the most beautiful Barbie clothes she had made.... Business suits, a wedding dress, and even little satin under garments! That beautiful little wardrobe is THE only thing I regret getting rid of.

[@_myylifeinasquare2380]

Yes !!! Keep doing this on a weekly basis!!!

[@deenahaines200]

I love your excitement and energy 🥰 I am really going to focus on the one bin (in my house it’s drawers) at a time rule for my kids! I’ve tried telling them “put things away before getting another thing out” but your explanation is so much more specific and kids definitely need that. Thank you!

[@jennifersanchez4245]

We just started doing the bins. Oh wow! So amazing! House is always clean!

[@kitdubhran2968]

Regretting getting rid of things: You’re in mourning. You had an emotional attachment to something and that thing is not in your life anymore. Don’t judge yourself for feeling down that you’ve let go of an attachment. It’s natural, and human and there’s NOTHING WRONG WITH IT. Let yourself mourn. Just like you would a lost family member or a pet. Let yourself be sad that you no longer have it in your life. And then try to remember good things you remember about that thing. And find something in your life that gives you similar good feelings. Then you can move on. It sounds really silly. But don’t judge yourself for having feelings. It’s human. Let yourself be human. Then you won’t have the ptsd/trauma from not letting yourself be sad. Which can keep you from letting go in the future.

[@grandmasewhappyhomestead187]

Thank you so much for doing this Q&A thankful I could watch it on the rewind. 40 years ago when I was doing daycare your tip of putting something in a bin or container and then putting a picture or words on it helps kids organize. I can testify how it does amazingly well. Years ago I would cut off part of a picture of the toy maybe it came out of the box and I would use clear tape and tape it onto the container. Clean up the kids knew what toy went into what container. It's funny how many of the kids are now grown but yet they talk about how easy it was to pick up in my fun basement. My basement was that room where they could throw Nerf balls they could play runaround make a mess but they always cleaned up. I didn't realize back then I was practicing very much of what you talk about. Now I've always been one that things go into some type of container but the older I get I am finding I like Simplicity or things organized behind a door. But I have a family member that very much is that visual organizer in his own creative way. Thank you for sharing the steps and how to get this family member motivated. Yes it is my home but the family member happens to be my oldest son. Many might say tell him fly the kite but I am thankful he is here he's kind of my safety guard I call in this season of My Life. I so appreciate you and the other gals for all that you share. My journey is I have muscle issues and pain so I agree with what you say we have to make it easier for us and that does mean less. I will tell you a several years ago I took more stuff off my walls and oh my that was a game-changer because it made my home that I've been in 37 years seem so much bigger. In fact my youngest to still lives at home laughs when she sees old pictures and says oh my mom you had so much clutter. I think back in the day everybody had to have knickknack shelves and doilies and all that stuff. When you talk about getting rid of things from family members that are special. Years ago my Grandma had an estate sale I spent $600 saving a lot of her things to make her feel better so that she thought her stuff wasn't just going to strangers. We had to go into the house as family just like the public and buy things according to my uncle. But the point I'm saying is I bought all that stuff got it home enjoyed the memories for a short time and realized I didn't want most of the stuff. So I sold it. I sold the leather sofa that my grandfather had saved up so much that was still in good shape except a small spot in the seam in the cushion that needed repair period at that time I didn't have the extra money to take it to a leather upholsterer but you know what the people who bought it did. They even sent me a picture of it sitting in there living room and you know what my Grandma had passed by that time and she would have been so happy for where that still full was in that pretty little old house in the big city because that's where my Grandma had lived in Minneapolis. I thought I had that by Grandma's Hutch I realized I tried it in my kitchen it took up too much space I even tried it in my bedroom that didn't work either and I sold that. You know what I'm glad it doesn't erase my grandma's memories. This Christmas season I am going to go through my grandma's ornaments again. Last year I wasn't able to carry the container upstairs and what was going on in the crazies of our life I didn't get them out. I realize my tree was pretty and so now this year I'm going to be more selective and downsize more because I want to use that space to have my family member use it for their space and it will be behind a curtain. Like you said I'm going to tell my family member here is the space you decide what you can keep in there. Years ago when I went through and got rid of a bunch of my grandma's stuff donation place that we were moving LOL. I said nope I'm just realizing I don't have to have all the stuff to be happy. I did keep a few items and I kept some for my children. But I will tell you I kept a lot of things of my kids in are Rafters in the garage. It took me five days to pull everything down for 4 kids. Some of the items my kids were glad I kept because my grandchildren are using them I'm playing with them like Legos that never go out. But there is a bunch of stuff they didn't want but I let them get rid of it. And different things I have kept thinking when they grow up they might want but you know what our children they have their own decorating Style. Very little do they want to put in their own homes. So I guess I'm just sharing so if you're keeping something you think your kids might like they might not want as much as you think you need to hold on to. These gals their wisdom is amazing and ever so true

[@TrekieGal]

I love how real you are with us. 😁

[@janevans1821]

I stopped the video after the disabled question and answer and went straight to my closet to pull out 2 dresses that didn’t fit that I had been hanging onto because of all those reasons we do that. Still had tags, paid good money, might fit better when I lose weight etc. I came out with half a bag of easy things. Good answer. I have to do the hard stuff even if I don’t like it. Now back to the video….

[@Clutterbug]

Good for you!

[@Thenaturegazer]

The scarcity mindset was spot on for me too! This was great, Cas!

[@sarahwood3888]

I listed my collection ( not a lot) that was taking up valuable real estate in my cabinets. I put a ridiculous low price on it. It sold in 3 minutes! An hour later it was out of my house, and it felt so good!!

[@juliacockroft8745]

This was great Cas. I wasn’t going to watch the whole thing because it was long but once I got into it I didn’t want to leave. 💝

[@TheChooken83]

Hi Cass, would u suggest putting a certain time limit onto items your trying to sell before just donating, we have a very low income so whilst I’d love to just donate everything I have to try and sell some to make ends meet Thankyou from Australia

[@room2breathe561]

You are so right Cas! About a month ago I started to declutter little areas in my whole house. Started by paying attention to where clutter was collecting and creating homes in that area for it. I am a true ladybug I love to hide and pile- My husband however is definitely more of a butterfly. We have four children together and they are all butterflies! LOL. I really thought I would be the only one doing anything to change the way we organized and the systems we kept up on . But, little by little My family has followed suit like magic without me having to say much of anything. Like you mentioned, they are starting to appreciate having clean surfaces and spaces that work much better than what we were doing! :-) I cannot thank you enough for your channel and your love to everyone!💗💕... Side note- I am also an obliger, so is my husband. We have two questioners -one obliger and a rebel for children.😬😁 I recently purchased the four tendencies on Amazon. It has been a life changer!💕💗

[@itoshiibaka8267]

This was great! Do this again!! The motivation I use for my son to clean is that every time he can't find a toy, I remind him that the best way to find things is to tidy up! I help him tidy because he's still a toddler, but he definitely believes me. 😁 It helps that we always find the thing! Regarding toy rotation, good gracious. Yes, I do it. But I make sure I have ENERGY to handle a toddler wanting to keep it ALLLLLL out. Oh, boy. 😆

[@pamelamolina5623]

I didn’t know you have ADHD! I found out recently that I have ADHD and I’m 65! I have been working on organizing my own stuff and setting things up that work for me then my partner starts to do some of his own stuff. When I have lots of donations going out the door then he finds some stuff too. Twice now I’ve watched an episode of hoarders and he started getting motivated. Hahaha

[@saintinlower48]

You look beautiful and boo to those who give a thumbs-down! Always great information!

[@Kat-mq4rf]

As the daughter of such a couple all I can say is that I feel your pain and I still witness is on my mother's face way more often that I would like to. My father has great genes, he's not only much younger looking but he's quite handsome. I can't remember the number of times people thought he was MY boyfriend when I was a teen.

[@privateskittles21]

It's a little funny listening to this because I'm in BC in the middle of bad flooding. My city is completely cut off via road from everywhere else and the grocery shelves are bare. I've never seen it so bad. We are not stock pilers, and this is the first time ever I've regretted it 😅

[@paulinebedi1241]

I’m hoping your neighbours stockpiled and are sharers. Wish I could offer tangible aide.

[@christi3411]

What an aha moment you just gave me! Working with having low energy and way too much on my plate all the time. At 4:20 in this video you made it home and my mission crystal clear. Thank you!

[@cambriaperez2865]

I appreciate the display behind you to show me (Bee) how it can look organized and pretty and also not Everything I own out on display, but displayed nicely

[@mahtazdin]

Yup. Keep things less. Cuz I am ill all the time. Tired and in pain. Got tired of all the stuff. I am slowly throwing things away. Daily.

[@PhoebesWorldProductions]

Sorry I missed it live. =) Thank you for doing this. =) Dealing with regret, and "rather live with regret of letting something go, than living in clutter"... that resonates and helps. Thank you. Fear of regret is the main thing that holds me back.... and the reason it's so strong, is that I have regretted letting go of some things in the past, that I STILL wish I had now. But.... yeah.... thank you for this.... it was helpful.

[@Clutterbug]

You are so welcome!

[@myriammu-ni3301]

oh i missed this live….ok good it is recorded

[@PhoebesWorldProductions]

=) I appreciate that. =)

[@THsWife]

My struggle is my mom’s guilt trip training. She ALWAYS made sure to tell me something’s monetary value and that if I ever get rid of it to just give it back to her. That was with a hint of me having it forever. And ever. And ever. lol. She passed two years ago and her stuff that was sentimental to her or valuable to her is right here. Right here in my den. I’m afraid I’m going to give something valuable to charity. Or worse, to someone who won’t know its value. Dishes she used a child. Doilies that must mean something. And much more. I’m legitimately scared to get rid of it. lol lol Thanks Mom! 😂🤪😂

[@itoshiibaka8267]

You can do it! Start with just one item that gives you guilty feelings and let it gooooo ❤

[@THsWife]

@@infjandcoping4614 She would not 'want' to make me feel bad but she would. I'm working up nerve to tell her "it's mine now". lol

[@THsWife]

@@itoshiibaka8267 Yall pray for me. The struggle is real. LOL I laugh but still.

[@elizabethsokol2545]

If you have a lot of items, you might want to talk to people who do estate sales or auction off items. They know the price of the items and how to market them. I was afraid to do this and I'm still dealing with this stuff. I'm finding that the market has changed and some stuff might be harder to sell. If you do this now, you might be able to get the cash and invest it in something that will allow your money to grow which will satisfy your mother's monetary issues while finding a good home with someone who will love and value that item.

[@THsWife]

@@elizabethsokol2545 Thank you so much. You put some thought into your answer for me and I appreciate that.

[@freedom2fly247]

This explanation of system of open or closed and micro vs macro has so helped me! Thank you!