The Most Problematic Age Gap Relationship

[@augusthawley5504]

My cousin was 23 when he met a girl in a bar and ended up really liking her. Turns out she was using a fake ID and later told him she was only 16. Guess what? He put a stop to it immediately and contacted her parents, let them know he was really sorry and that he wouldn't be seeing her again, and to be sure they kept a close eye on who she was hanging out with, in case she ended up with a guy who had weaker morals than him. You know, like this guy.

[@hanphilnoffz8827]

Honestly I can be friends any ages but more than that no I'll prefer someone around my age I also don't like people too fast

[@stacieklewin6091]

Your cousin sounds like a stand up guy. 🎉

[@ShampooSalesman]

Holy fuck a cousin horror story where the cousin is actually a good person.

[@ericahenn9145]

Yeah no your cousin was od telling her parents she was probably just trying to get him to buy her alcohol

[@riddlesangerissues3127]

@@ericahenn9145 If you’re a girl in a bar it is a likely chance there will be men in the vicinity hitting on you and maybe even trying to take you home for a hook up. What are the chances she may have agreed and then a poor unsuspected man might have been charged with statutory rape if she is not over the age of consent? We shouldn’t excuse poor behavior from teenagers. There are plenty of them lying about their age to be able to do adult activities, and in turn it might get someone in trouble! What their cousin did was actually exemplary. Call the parents, let them deal with it, and move on.

[@birchbarks550]

"he was 30 when she was born" that just made me flinch I didn't think of it that way

[@meiju1563]

Their age gap is older than my age gap with my mom :D My mom was 25 when I was born

[@zeusgiron784]

Shit, my mom was 35 when I was born. Though my parents are 10 years apart and my maternal grandmother was 18 years younger than my step grandfather when they got married , yet she was 38 years old and he was 56

[@koolkitty108]

Bigger age gap than my cousins - one of them is 51 and the other is 24. They’re brothers...

[@gilarnyboo7035]

My mum was 11 and dad was 30 when they met now mum is 32 and dad is 51 and happy and toghter

[@ameenap.s852]

My dad is 30 years older than me and my mom is 26 years older than me.......

[@Montesama314]

"I was sixteen when he approached me-" Nope. That's a child predator. He was PREYING on you, girl.

[@AlinaProbably]

yeah, that phrase pretty much did it for me

[@TheTranceCartel]

Depends on the country, not everyone is from America

[@Crazed-Rat]

​@@TheTranceCartelBeing in a diffrent country does not chance that you are a child at 16 though, it should not be okay.

[@cecille5833]

i think she spelled "Groomed" wrong

[@TheTranceCartel]

@@Crazed-Rat no, it does because every culture is different and Americans are too immature to handle it so it should be illegal for you guys but not for the rest of us who can handle it because we aren't weirdos

[@fabuloushatlady7812]

I feel like being at a store with a grandmother should be enough to realize that she’s to young-

[@AnnamarieForcino]

there are so many red flags tbh

[@youreoffline4934]

@@AnnamarieForcino I get why Tamajha did it because I'd probably have done what she did but luckily in my case 'Marcus' was a sensible adult, not a predatory creep.

[@hayoonpark7454]

@@youreoffline4934 He is a predatory creepy since he’s older and treats her like a child, since he’s the age of like a uncle or dad.

[@hayoonpark7454]

@@francheska3128 Um, still

[@alicegee7668]

Tbh it would be kinda legal if he was 5 years older or 3 years but 30 years is just really wrong btw i love your channel

[@hesuchristo6577]

It was kind of creepy when he said "30 years younger than me"

[@AnnamarieForcino]

i didn’t mention it in the video but that part in particular gave me the creeps 🤮

[@bl4ck_st4rrr]

SHE SHUDDERED.

[@yunjeans]

I made sure the doors were locked cause I was so creeped out

[@birdie7901]

Omg! My parents had me when they were 30 😳 can't believe this couple has a 30 year age gap 😶 If they're old enough to have conceived you... Then that's too dang old to date someone imo 😂

[@HeyItsXie]

Bro I thought that was just me!

[@jittercritter]

“As long as everyone’s… well into adulthood.” YES. THANK YOU. I’m sick of people missing this part. A 19 year old May be “legal” but they are still too young to date a 40 year old, they just got out of high school for Christ’s sake! I don’t get what’s so hard to get about this logic: Age gaps are fine as long as both parties are in the same stretch of their life. A 5 year age gap is nothing when you’re 40 but huge when you’re 12. You need to take the developmental speeds of different ages into account, it’s really not that hard.

[@kaiser9598]

I totally agree with the “age gaps are fine only if they’re in the same stretch of life” part. Needs to be known more.

[@crossgame9479]

My friend was bragging about going on a date with a 54 year old man (she is only 20) i was shocked like how is that shit cool and my friend has a baby face . Another friend of mine when we were 16 she started dating a 20 year old . Now that i am 19 i can't even imagine dating someone that young it's all just so f@ucking creepy

[@hanphilnoffz8827]

In some place is illegal

[@hanphilnoffz8827]

@@crossgame9479 20 dating 16 is weird but 54 dating 20 is worse old enough to raise her

[@Rebelheart1985]

I wouldn’t even date a 19 year old at my current age of 24. 49 is a hell fucking no. Not only do I like people older teenagers horrifically immature. My limit is 2 years at best.

[@lettuceboy5052]

"Age is just a number" so is 911 😍✨

[@AnnamarieForcino]

HAHAHA OH MY GOD

[@lilrodz]

🤣🤣🤣💯💯💯

[@scorcherfox029]

Lmaooo🤣🤣

[@kashregester3974]

✨Cuffs are just conjoined bracelets ✨

[@scorcherfox029]

@@kashregester3974 I love that one!!!👌🏻

[@anastasiasmith1331]

I feel like he's aging her badly too. She literally looked like a baby when he was being predatory and "dating" her. But now she looks worn and tired. He literally stole her youth from her. Saddest part is she won't know it till she gets older

[@mimimo6010]

She literally looks like she aged 8 years in the past 2 years. Poor girl. Must be exhausting to be mature beyond your age, take care of twin toddlers, run a household while also still growing up?

[@reno8494]

I don't understand why are some people so naive? I'm much younger than her yet I'd never allow anyone to rob my youth from me. I want to live my life to the fullest and enjoy every second of it. It's a pity to see people like her , especially in a country like mine where it's normalised.

[@autumnrose9655]

@@reno8494 sometimes people aren’t taught these things. It’s really sad.

[@anneliesew4853]

There was a 16 year old who dated that one male actor and she recently divorced him and only then did she realize that she was being groomed for a long time. Hopefully one day this poor girl will realize the situation she’s in, and take the twins and leave

[@deltaloraine]

She might never realize though. If this is the only way she knows now, she may never understand what life would have been like after high school.

[@gabrielle69420]

I've seen people wait for celebrities to turn 18 so they could have the "right" to sexualize them. It's never okay to sexualize anyone without consent, this situation reminds me of this. A person who turned 18 today is still the same teenager they were yesterday. This man is absolutely disgusting and I hope the girl realizes this and gets out of there.

[@hanphilnoffz8827]

There still 3 years too young and should go to jail make it 21 but if they do it right after 21 is still wrong

[@diegorincon4673]

Yeah. Billie Eilish, the Olsen twins, Millie Bobbie Brown, etc.

[@Rebelheart1985]

That shit was done with at least 2 members of the Stranger Things cast when they were minors…..I’m still infuriated by that creepy shit. And hell one of those kids got some creepy as shit comments when they were like 14 or whatever.

[@Rebelheart1985]

@@diegorincon4673Noah Schnapp too. Oh and someone once said they wanted Finn Wolfhard to hit her up 5 years later when he was like 14 at that time……and another person said he had a pornstar name. I couldn’t even imagine seeing them like that, they are still kids to me.

[@carleyc7226]

Relationships like this that are given a platform, that are labeled as normal and romantic, make vulnerable teenage girls think that, “oh this older guy likes me because I’m mature.” Baby no, he likes you because you’re a child

[@lumithefish6477]

Fr

[@hieovri]

like no you don't have daddy issues or a preference for older men, you are being groomed

[@mynameisnttessdani8464]

@@hieovri frr

[@peggedyourdad9560]

@@hieovri I completely understand and agree with your point, but some people do legitimately like older men. I feel like someone who discovers this as a teen should be made extra aware of these types and should be heavily encouraged to not date until they're 20 at the very(very) least. I would still definitely talk with them to make sure nothing bad is going on though just in case. Again, I very much agree with you on this for the vast majority of cases.

[@hieovri]

@@peggedyourdad9560 no no i completely agree with you! i myself think older men are attractive, but i meant that part as more of a manipulation thing. im sorry of this doesn't make sense lol im not good at writing my thoughts into words

[@thatsroughbuddy-]

Just the fact that he knew she was a minor and STILL got her pregnant, I'm shook to my core. Wth is this?????

[@bed_wetter99ohnomytoesgoto42]

I was trying to eat cereal while watching this but I just couldn’t. This makes me sick 😬 Like, ummm......if I had a kid dating someone his age I absolutely wouldn’t allow it..

[@poliolie1700]

actuallyyyyy she isnt a minor cause she was 17 and that is the age of consent in her state so.... is it creepy? yes is it disgusting? also yes but it’s completely legal

[@ErinsCorner]

@@poliolie1700 She was still a minor. Being the age of consent doesn’t automatically make you an adult. In some countries the age of consent is 16 but that doesn’t make 16 year olds adults. They’re still teenagers.

[@gabbyabbott4965]

@@zacharyAugust the only platform they should be given is court. This man needs to be thrown in jail.

[@iAquarius202]

@@poliolie1700 *actuallyyyyy* they very clearly said she was 16 when he approached her in the grocery store and she was pregnant 5 months later. The age 17 was thrown in simply to note that is the legal age of consent in their state, however she was in fact 16 and under the legal age of consent when he got her pregnant. He’s a legit nonce and should’ve been put in prison from the start.

[@frogofalltime]

The thing that makes me angriest about this is that, when he says he had a tough decision to make when he found out she was sixteen, his concern isn't that she's underdeveloped mentally and their relationship may have lasting consequences on her mental state, but that he could get in trouble with the law. It's all about him. He doesn't even consider the trauma he's causing; he just doesn't care.

[@evelynjenkins4456]

It was bad enough when I thought they had met and started dating when she was 18. But they met when she was 16?!? And when he found out that she was 16 he didn't immediately go "oh sorry, I won't talk to you anymore"?? That's his responsibility Also, when I was 18 I was absolutely convinced I was going to marry my boyfriend at the time. Did that happen? Of course not, he was a jerk. A lot can change in your first adult years, and you shouldn't be pressured into making long-term decisions and commitments when you're 18

[@artemisfowldragon]

That’s literally grooming

[@bellajaid]

I am married to the man I started dating at 18, but it definitely has a high chance of not working out. But also, yea, this is super predatory.

[@celiapyburn5858]

THIS!!!

[@TheManicPixie]

Same here. I thought I'd marry my high school boyfriend, who I met when we were both 17. We lasted 11 months and then I blocked him on Facebook a couple years later when he tried to pick a fight with me (long story short, he was a controlling neckbeard). I feel bad for this girl because she's so young, and she's locked herself down with kids already when she could be figuring out who she is and where she wants to go in life.

[@koolkitty108]

My aunt got married when she was 17 in the 60s... 😭 that’s bizarre in today’s standards

[@Spookybbyyyy]

His kids might be in diapers at the same time as him💀

[@whytho8856]

OMG💀

[@silverbowftw5225]

WE- OMG

[@somuchsunshine3463]

💀

[@ebonimom6964]

Who in their 50s and in diapers? Hes only 48. People dont get into diapers until their 60s at the earliest.

[@Spookybbyyyy]

@@ebonimom6964 some people may have bad bladders or some other conditions 🤷‍♀️ but in all seriousness it’s a joke

[@elinaw6175]

Ignoring the age gap, getting someone pregnant after being in a relationship for less than half a year is insane.

[@AlinaProbably]

provided the context, all of those are red flags upon red flags... :(

[@alesivan4489]

happened 2 me in my first time

[@GracieBN]

Not to be that person but... there are so many attractive people her age and she chose... THAT 48 year old man???

[@jk-jl2lo]

I WAS THINKING THAT he's not even an attractive middle-aged guy like leo dicaprio or anything,,,,,like she could've done much better but instead she's with a man who'll be retiring when their children are in high school and she'll only be in her thirties🤢🤢🤢🤢

[@guccicupcakeandsunshineboo6315]

My exact thoughts. He is not even good looking.

[@safala]

Exactly. I don’t judge people on their appearances most of the times, but this is an exception. Like she’s gorgeous and he is just... there.

[@breadsrights6824]

That’s what I said 💀

[@frickfrack7075]

He seems so..... strange, too. Like baby girl, you're gonna get so bored so fast.

[@amandinechesnel613]

He got her pregnant at like 17???? Wtf

[@toastgirl15]

The narrator said that 17 was the age of consent in their state so unfortunately, not illegal but definitely immoral on behalf of the 48 year old.

[@heliam4627]

My grandma gave birth to my mom at 14 :( she got married at12 and the worst part is that it was really normal to people back then. And my grandfather is 20 years older than her.

[@the_emmasculator]

@@fisharson Age of consent varies by state. Lots of states actually have ages of consent of 16.

[@anjelyce5336]

@@heliam4627 my grandma got married at 9 and had her first at 14 :( i don’t know my grandfather so i’m sure how old he was

[@koolkitty108]

@@heliam4627 dang, my aunt got married at 17 and had her first kid at 18. That was in the 60s in a different country, though

[@jadlad9666]

"age is just a number" + "you're really mature for your age" = immediate red flags for predatory behavior, if you're under 21 and ever hear this from any adult in your life, fucking RUN

[@thecaptain291]

age is just a number. and law is just a book. and jail is just a room. life's so simple for some ppl, really lol

[@thecaptain291]

@@pikacues993 well I really believe it comes from context of the situation. it's either a genuine praise for your kid or for a relative or for someone alike. I think when it's NOT okay is, welll, basically a random person older than you who says it while FLIRTING with you. it's the FLIRTATION that makes it bad joke from your peer friend = ok. your doctor (like when you're four and you don't cry while giving blood for testing) = ok. a relative (like your mom!) or a friend says you're cool = ok random dude twice your age who's FLIRTING with you [2] = first, you say no, THEN, YOU GET OUTTA THERE (c) sonic, my beloved. and after that you tell your guardian or one of your close people about what happened tell me if I explained it well, I'd really like to know if I managed it :)

[@AlinaProbably]

what sucks is you can actually see how drained she is... obviously it could be from the motherhood as well but damn. that part where she's all sad saying that they can't go to a public place together bc they won't even be able to say anything back to the people pointing out the weirdness. she's at the age where she literally does not realise her own needs in & values for a relationships and cannot stand up for them. like even in relationship between two adults having such distressing experiences in public would be enough grounds to consider if the relationship is worth pursuing. but she doesn't even realise not only that she's sacrificing A LOT for this dude (for whom it is of course obvious that she cannot make the judgement yet) but also that she DOESN'T HAVE TO sacrifice ANYTHING. this is just so so f-ed up...

[@ilikegirls6891]

age is just a number and so is 911

[@MaryamMaqdisi]

My spouse is 6 years younger than me and they had to grow up very quickly (unfortunately they had to co-parent their siblings). I absolutely believe they're more mature than most people around our age range, they're very independent and I like that they are, even if I wish they didn't have to go through that experience. That said, 99% of the time I hear these things in an age gap relationship I immediately think it's just something they say to justify the relationship regardless of how mature their partner really is and it should absolutely prompt the person to analyze the situation more and probably leave.

[@thisisgettingridiculous8467]

I have to wonder how they'd react when their 16 year old twins bring home 50 year old partners...

[@safala]

There are a few things I’d flip about if my hypothetical kids did them. Bring home a partner who is 30 years older or younger than them is one of them.

[@sarasadiq6918]

you mean how she'd react.. he's not gonna be around for long

[@charlottereynolds1364]

@@sarasadiq6918 🤣

[@miphasgrace8980]

@@sarasadiq6918 I mean you’re not wrong. She’s going to outlive him. Then what. She lost her youth. Didn’t get a chance gain real life experience because a nasty ugly ass 50 year old man said hey you’re young and pretty be mine

[@princessoftheworld1107]

😂😂😂

[@Juli6SS]

Why wasn't he using protection?!?!? WHY he got her pregnant at such a young age?!? ....Maybe, to in a way, "chain" her to him... Hmmmm😬

[@whytho8856]

oh SHIT

[@haroldharold9042]

Yuppppp. men will talk all the time about how girls with older guys are gold diggers and want to leech off him, but then those same men will do shit like this

[@ifiwasaduckideatyou7268]

Damn didn’t think of that.

[@coralline1984]

Ew ew ew ew ew ew ew.

[@sourgummiescureyourpain4555]

Ikr?! It's beyond disgusting. :(

[@fin3033]

as a child of a couple who has a 17 years age gap I can assure you that having big age gap parents is pretty shitty. I spent my childhood getting mocked at that, people calling my father my grandfather and my father being proud that my mother is so young, it's disgusting how little control of the relationship my mother has, she's the one to be taught, he often says things in the line of ''you're not going to teach me, I'm older than you so I'm wiser and you have to respect the people older than you''- I'm 21 and i hate their relationship, my mom can't get out the relationship cause she depends economically of him.

[@kappadarwin9476]

I'm sorry to hear that.

[@Rebelheart1985]

That’s sounding horrifying familiar.

[@AuthorThings]

That sucks... =(

[@ahumanwhoplantlove9249]

Oh God this is horrible..

[@justinmoore3217]

Nobody cares stop crying🙄

[@teteigyu]

my mom is worried about me being gay while that kind of relationship exists~~~

[@Cool01705]

Omg ikr!!!

[@jjw3046]

The irony of your statement is that only a few decades ago a homophobe might have thought the exact opposite and felt justified in doing so. Being "progressive" means not being hypocritical about judging relationships that don't affect you personally and assuming people's intentions based on societal stereotypes. Yes it's perfectly fine to be suspicious of an 18 and 48 year old, but generally speaking unless you're a parent or friend then as an uninvolved 3rd party this kind of uninhibited criticism is a slippery slope to encouraging bigotry against even more reasonable age gaps that one just happens to personally and arbitrarily find "gross."

[@RandomSwiftie13]

Oh no I'm so sorry... 😶

[@blue_._.3_]

WHAT’S WRONG WITH AKAASHI BWAHAHAHAH

[@blue_._.3_]

@Death Cash Doll SAME

[@casualvoid7916]

Bruh she's a year older than me and havin twins with a 46 year old man meanwhile I just paid with a card for the first time I-

[@arellasamuel7866]

THIS 💀💀

[@randomalex5119]

Lol bro

[@gabriele5203]

MOOD

[@koolkitty108]

I’m 19, she’s 18 and I still figure out a way to burn my toast in the toaster

[@leeraps6621]

@@koolkitty108 have u figured it out yet ??

[@ellichan5603]

My dads friend whos about 50 started dating a 16 year old girl recently, which sadly is legal here in Germany. And my dad immeditely broke off all contact to him and even left his band, they had been in together for years, because the other bandmembers would not kick him out.

[@grendelsmama2302]

Good for your dad!!!!

[@FirstnameLastname-gr5kb]

Ich finds echt wild (bzw eklig und bedenklich), dass das legal ist. Auch crazy, dass der Wendler ja echt alt ist und seine Freundin damals gedatet hat, als die erst Abi gemacht hat. Das war so vor zwei drei Jahren und irgendwie fanden die Medien das gar nicht bedenklich??

[@marmied7840]

broooo unsere Gesetze sind so unangenehm :|

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

Your dad is a very smart man and sounds like he has upstanding morals! I would have done the same thing.

[@DarthWall275]

Meanwhile he's jacking to 18yo porn. The hypocrisy and lack of connection to objective reality is such a NT thing.

[@bellsibobs]

16 DATING A 500 YEAR OLD WTAF (accidentally wrote 500 but imma stick with it)

[@safala]

500 year old would be more okay though imo. Edit: I should elaborate. The thing is that with 500 year olds, you don’t really have anyone age appropriate (unless there are other immortals), so I get that. However, I still think people being shipped with/ dating 500 year olds must be at least 18. Hopefully someone in their mid to late twenties or older.

[@moonlight_shadow1350]

Sounds kinda like the Richardson Family murders

[@neonwolf9978]

@Kathy Le Ciel and Sebastian

[@bellsibobs]

@Kathy Le Klaus

[@arellasamuel7866]

@@bellsibobs Kol and Davina and Klaus and Claroline. They were nt that young maybe 16/17 but they sure as hell weren't legal

[@cassielavinksi3863]

Might mess around and call the FBI 😜

[@AnnamarieForcino]

just girly thingz😌✨

[@brooketruslow8081]

Sorry, I’m just here to say that I was the 1000th like on you comment, thank you for listening

[@satanswifey_]

Just doing sane girl shit😙✨💅🏻❤️

[@astraltae]

#girlpower #girlboss 🙏🙏

[@kittengurl220]

Growing up I was told all the time how mature I was, that I had an old soul. I never was attracted to guys my own age, so when I was 15 and a 27yr old showed interest in me, I went with it. I was happy to find someone that I could connect with that wasn’t “immature.” We went on a couple dates(that my parents dropped me off at)and did everything but sex. Luckily I realized that it was kind of weird and wrong and despite his begging I broke it off. If that was bad, adding 20yrs to the age is so much worse. I feel so sorry for this girl that didn’t get out. I can’t imagine having to be stuck with a guy I met when I was basically still going through puberty. Anyways, a few years later the guy I “dated” went to prison for nearly killing an infant and seriously injuring a toddler that he was babysitting. I’m glad he’s locked away somewhere.

[@teamexic0]

Here are my rules when it comes to age differences. 1. Both be adults. 2.Don't date someone who could be your child. 3. If you have children, don't date someone the same age as your child.

[@whytho8856]

and the youner partner has to be over 25

[@chichi77tim]

@@whytho8856 It's not obligatory. It's toxic to define limitations for adults over their own bodies. If I wanted to be with a man that was 30 years old when I was 20/21, I could and I would. No one gets to decide for me.

[@whytho8856]

@@chichi77tim aight bro, u do u i just feel like a 21 year old is still really young. i just feel like they wouldn't be mature enough

[@chichi77tim]

@@whytho8856 It's subjective. And freedom cannot be determined on subjectivity. Once your 18, phisically and mentally adult (inexperienced, but still adult), you got control over your body, without others having a say in It. I longed my freedom, and was happy to have It. I would have died If I was confined like a baby until my 20, literally. I was suicidal in my family home, and getting away and being free, other than meeting my boyfriend, helped me abandoning those dark thoughts definitely. Let's keep bigotry separated from more reasonable concerns, like the fact that this whole thing was wrong because he groomed her while she was still a minor, nothing else.

[@whytho8856]

@@chichi77tim ok. i never said to confine people until they're 20. i just said i think somebody who is 20 is too young to date somebody in their 30s or 40s. obviously my opinion isn't going to change anything since people are gonna do what they want

[@aclstudios]

I'm a gay male that has been dating for 10 years (I'm 28 now). This type of relationship is *very* common in the gay male world (and I've seen a few lesbian examples of it too). Often, the older man will take advantage of guys who just out of high school and were bullied a lot, had no friends, and considered "too ugly" for guys their own age, so they get desperate enough to date older. I know this because I've been a victim of this. Many of these older men will be 50 and up, often understating their age, and have a strict "18-25 only" limit for their dates. I have a feeling since they spent their younger years closeted, they wanna make up for it. But they often get very forceful, and if we say no to them, they claim we're being ageist and discriminating. I'm 28 and still get these guys going after me, while I just want a guy in his late 20s or early 30s. :( The straight world seems to have no idea that this goes on, though.

[@bluered5527]

Sorry to hear that

[@lumithefish6477]

That’s really sad...

[@taopanda98]

As a bisexual woman in her early 20s, I have gotten older women sliding in my DMs for becoming a sugar baby. I am sorry it has happened to you. I can definitely feel that older Lgbtq+ folkx above 50 want to make up for it but like yiu said the lack of consent . Best of luck to your dating life.

[@kirbbb1995]

holy shit, i never knew about this. thank you for informing me on this because fucking wow

[@hannahfaithperillo8185]

Than one chapter from killing stalking when sangwoo had to "bj" a very older man so he could kidnap him

[@artespeck8091]

If your justification for a relationship is “it’s technically legal” you should be in jail

[@artespeck8091]

Nah theres at least 2 generations between these two

[@artespeck8091]

GIRL YOU DONT HAVE TO DATE A 50 YEAR OLD TO FIND SOMEONE EMOTIONALLY MATURE 💀😭

[@auroriiiia]

Imagine the kids having a "bring your parents to school" day, and there comes a 38 year old woman and a 78 year old barely walking with his old feet and a bad back..

[@geovana866]

when she's 38 he will be 68 and the kids 20, i don't think they will be having 'bring your parents to school' days anymore haha

[@hideakisorachi3953]

my dads only ten years older but my school still accidentally called him my grandpa 💀

[@auroriiiia]

@@geovana866 oh shit- I'm dumb

[@meiju1563]

@@hideakisorachi3953 people think my grandpa is my dad because he's really close to me (in a family way)

[@koolkitty108]

@@hideakisorachi3953 yooo, I have two first cousins who are brothers. One of them is 51 and the other is like 24 because their mom (my aunt) had her first kid when she was really young and missed out on having kids again when she was older... people used to think my younger cousin’s older brother was his dad

[@jhorielleysabella]

"i was sixteen when he approached me!" MAAM NO, NOOO, NOOOO! CALL THE POLICE! FBI! NO!

[@FBI-zt9kr]

We are working on it.

[@kalifinch8376]

Holy crap we got the fbi involved

[@thereebstir9572]

{Insert the FBI open up meme here}

[@ineedmyhoodie]

Can we please talk about how she said before that that he was staring at her 🤮

[@juggalogamer8541]

That's so nasty

[@nautilus5817]

Thank you for pointing out that until about 25, large age gaps like this have huge disparity. I've always felt uncomfortable with these kind of age gaps but I see so many people saying "But they're legally an adult." My dad was 19 when he met my mother, who was 30, divorced, and had two children already. It shouldn't come as a surprise that she ended up being an abuser.

[@BadAssNigga95]

Even after 25 it is weird..what does a 30 year old have in common with a 60+ guy?

[@kittywithagun7742]

Love might not judge, but I do. I'm very uncomfortable. Great vid girl ✌️

[@AnnamarieForcino]

thank u!!!

[@lolakyu2688]

That's true. Love is love, except when it's with age gaps, family members, or pets. That's just outright abuse

[@666.xoxo33]

Yeah and I’m not sure if I should tell my dad to not get married cuz he has already been talking to her and she’s atleast 21 and he is 47.-. He wants to start a new family since our family was broken two times and I feel bad if I tell him

[@kittywithagun7742]

@@666.xoxo33 dude I'm sorry, that sounds like an unenviable situation . I don't even know what to say to that... Hope it'll get better for you

[@justanotherclaire7402]

@@lolakyu2688 and dead bodies

[@leleee1834]

the fact that his friends approve this relationship scares me 😐

[@gglovesgorillazmj7784]

SAME LIKE BRUH

[@gilarnyboo7035]

Because their friend have a brain not like torus

[@slevinchannel7589]

Indeed... but grammar though?

[@deltaloraine]

They probably wish they scored a teen too... jesus

[@satanswifey_]

Becuz his friends are old creepy dudes too!!

[@katiekat2074]

I dated a guy when I was 16 and he was 19. That’s only a 3 year gap but honestly that relationship still had a massive power imbalance because of age. I was in high school living with my parents while he was in his second year of college. Even a 3, 4, 5 year age gap is A LOT when you’re a teen.

[@tahahagar7664]

Power should always be imbalanced if you want a relationship to work. Men have to be the leaders, the more experienced, the more successful, the strongest, the tallest etc... Women ain't gonna date a virgin guy living in his parent's basement...

[@cynister7384]

@@tahahagar7664 Ew wtf

[@HiHi-lt1cb]

@@tahahagar7664 😐

[@whatelsecouldibe]

Not only is Marcus extremely creepy, but his "friend" is too. She is still barely legal, and the first thing he looked at when walking through the door was her chest, and more than once. It's very wrong no matter the age and it's disgusting and pig behaviour, but he knew her beforehand and that was the first thing he did, I can't imagine how bad it is behind the cameras and how honestly uncomfortable she is.

[@slevinchannel7589]

We live in a time where everything is normalized, as people literally normalize the thought that nothing is wrong. Thats literal insanity. And all this grows other stuff, like Age-Gaps and whatnotelse.

[@xjenzy5623]

omg its been a year but i am so glad i wasnt the only one who noticed he had taken a few glances at her chest... what a creep

[@AlinaProbably]

i would say that he's even creepier in a way... honestly just his whole demeanor in the video gives off the most unsettling vibes to me. and i can't put a finger on it, too. just watching him makes me want to click off the video, i don't think i'd be able to be in the same room as him

[@slurpydurp7242]

@@AlinaProbablyI feel the same. The silence between his words makes my skin crawl

[@cvtsa5889]

the fact that they had babies when she was 16 and he was 47 or 46 🤢🤮

[@saradrawsstuff]

Ewwwwww 🤮

[@gglovesgorillazmj7784]

🤮🤮🤮🤮🤢🤢🤢

[@nataliepeterson969]

why is he not in jaaaaaiiiiil?????

[@hayoonpark7454]

@@nataliepeterson969 Because it’s apparently legal.

[@shrisiva4016]

Age of consent is 16 in UK and in some US states. Still very sus though

[@pandamonkey3557]

Wish fandom twitter would get this. They literally try to cancel fictional characters over a two-year age gaps (e.g 16 year old with an 18 year old) but are totally okay with irl multiple decade age gaps with of-age teens. Make it make sense.

[@m.7340]

I know right like wow they’re going to villainize a high school relationship but let 18 year olds or barely legal adults dating people like 20+ years older??? Makes no sense

[@riverdaisy4215]

Just because someone is legally an adult doesn’t mean they have the maturity of a full grown adult

[@CheesenMac123]

Thank you for saying this. That is so true. People aren’t even fully developed until around the age of 25.

[@teamexic0]

Yes! So true. Some may be, but some aren't mature enough to be an adult until they're 30. It completely depends.

[@CheesenMac123]

@@teamexic0 I agree with you completely. Especially when taking developmental disorders into consideration.

[@whytho8856]

this. preach

[@remyrot77]

god i really wish more people understood this. they act like turning 18 is some magical instant transformation from teenager to adult when it's not at all

[@dr-planecrash]

I think that final scene really demonstrates just how weird this all is. She’s walking with him and jumps and almost falls and she says, “I had to!” And he just kinda does that polite laugh when a parent shows their kid something that they aren’t really interested in but still want to listen to their kid.

[@m0th529]

im 17 and if i ever saw a 48 year old trying to approach me in that way at the grocery store, i would literally call the police

[@ryanfoxx3142]

So... let me get this straight.... He finds out she's 16, says " woah woah woah lets pump the brakes" and then gets her pregnant 5 months in the relationship.... Baby call the POLICE NOT TRULY TF

[@jk-jl2lo]

i honestly really feel bad for her. she wasn't mature enough to see the red flags at the beginning before she fell for him. and he chose to be irresponsible and creepy enough to continue a relationship with a 16 YEAR OLD GIRL. yeah, maybe they're in love and everything, but she's literally 1/3 his age. she's more of a victim than a perpetrator in this situation.

[@moosehat3821]

*predator?

[@dabulousvai]

@@moosehat3821 no she did mean Perpetrator because the girl is clearly far more of a victim than a willing participant

[@ghostie_1350]

The worst part is that the babies will grow up thinking that these predatory relationships are ok and may find themselves thinking that that is the only way to find "love"

[@jjj4068]

Age gap of like ten years maybe even more is totally fine, when they’re both comfortable in adulthood. For example an 18 year old is barely out of high school, and a 48 or even a 30 year old is already way into adulthood. Not okay, but say a 25 year old and a 35 year old. Perfectly fine because they’re both into adulthood

[@bellajaid]

Right? I probably wouldn't bat an eye at a 28 year old with a 50-60 year old, but this definitely is grooming.

[@jjj4068]

bellajaid 100% grooming

[@guccicupcakeandsunshineboo6315]

Exactly. My grandma was 28 and my grandpa was 38 when they got married. 50 years later they are still the cutest couple that I know. But dating someone who is still a teenager is yuck.

[@skylarlily6289]

i agree 100%

[@xRainxBowxBritex]

Honestly even 20 or 25 years is fine. Like a 35 year old and someone who's 50? Or even 55? Perfectly fine But she was 16 an die was in his late 40s hes by definition a fucking predator its disgusting

[@grace_stokes25]

“Age is just a number” Prison is just a place 😔✌🏻

[@ZimLikesPastaAnimation]

and handcuffs are just bracelets

[@gglovesgorillazmj7784]

a gun is just a toy

[@MimiTheHamster]

Hell is just a destination too

[@gilarnyboo7035]

And fighting back for your rights is the action

[@gilarnyboo7035]

I believe in human rights why should the government tell us who we can or can't love that's personal matter not the government yeah if you don't like how they live then stay out of it it dose not effect you

[@usagi5284]

Dude, I'm a 24 year old woman and even I would feel weird abt dating an 18 year old. Seriously can't imagine doing that at 48

[@superzer0600]

The unspoken rule is half your age +7. This age gap is flat out creepy

[@fabuloushatlady7812]

YES! I have been saying this for forever. Where did you first hear it, I honestly can’t remember where I did.

[@AnnamarieForcino]

oh for sure

[@alexisgrey3633]

Althpigh tbh a 20 year old and a 17 year old icks me out

[@superzer0600]

@@fabuloushatlady7812 tbh... parks n rec 😂

[@fabuloushatlady7812]

Super Zer0, oh yeah... I watched that show when I was like ten, probably got it from there. (:

[@emma-di5ly]

Even if she wasn't a minor, starting a relationship by staring at a woman in a grocery store is predatory as well. What a creep.

[@sayomi9562]

when she said how they met i got flashbacks to a man following me and my family around a grocery store until i was alone, approaching me, asking me personal questions, and then forcing me to give him my phone number (aka he literally typed the number in and called it right in front of me to make sure it was my number.) this man was well into his thirties and i was 15. and i made it very clear to him that I was a minor, not to mention i have always looked much younger than I actually am. After that incident i have never been able to go to a grocery store alone without panicking and fearing for my own safety. men like this DO NOT CARE about you as a person, they care about being in control. They know you are too young to know how to fend for yourself and thrive off that fact to take advantage of you. the fact this is so normalized makes me sick

[@yourstrulynina1524]

“younger guys are inexperienced” AT LEAST YOU’RE ON THE SAME BOAT!

[@mimimo6010]

Or just date some 20 year-old, there's no need to go up all the way to 48? o__O

[@coralline1984]

@@mimimo6010 I’m not gonna lie here when I’m 18, I’m most likely going to do exactly that.

[@peggedyourdad9560]

@@coralline1984 honestly, I'd just wait until college(if you're from the US) like I did if I where you. The selection is much better and it's easier to schedule dates and other stuff, saying this as a 20 Y/O who just started dating in college.

[@coralline1984]

@@peggedyourdad9560 Well, I’m from the U.S. but given the fact that my first crush was in 5th grade, and I’m going into 7th, I’m probably going to be dating in high school.

[@outoftheembers9053]

@@coralline1984 honestly it's best to learn with people your age. I always liked the older guys too- but looking back I had the most fun with people my age/going through similar stages as me. If you're inexperienced and want to be with someone that is, just know it will come with a lot of anxieties and insecurities. You will be worried about "performing well" and will most likely compare yourself to the other girls he's been with even without knowing them. I think learning together is just the best way to go! You are both very nervous but have barely any expectations and just let it flow. Sometimes there will be awkward moments but it will be on BOTH ends- not just you doing something and then feeling embarrassed. Older guys- especially if they're talking to younger girls - don't want a relationship. They just want sex and your virginity if you still have it. So all they are going to look at you like is a sex object. So you WILL feel pressure to be perfect and "fulfil" his wishes so that he still "hangs out" with you. I am speaking from a lot of personal expiriance in both my life and others. I am 24 now and feel like I've had it figured out for a minute. But I promise you all it takes is time- we all learn at our own pace. Btw TMI tho- the most turned on I've ever been in my life was the "first times" with a nervous crush. Something about LEADING UP to everything... Not just diving in. You guys will actually explore and figure out what you like instead of just getting on with it. Most older guys don't do foreplay. You're there for them and them only. And when they cum, you leave- basically. Sorry hun not trying to scar or scare you but just thought you'd want my honest opinion. I always went for the older guys so I totally get it. But idk there's something cool about exploring something new and exciting together

[@MissMoontree]

When I was 21 a teenage boy approached me. I felt weird about it. He was at least 5 years younger than me so I told him I was too old for him. One of my friends started talking to a pretty girl, he was 25. Then he found out she was a teen and he lost interest. Meanwhile this old guy would have said yes to a minor in a heartbeat. You just know the power dynamics cant be right. A normal adult would not hit on you as a teen. Please date someone who is in the same life stage (highschool, college).

[@melodye14]

Right, I don't even get 21 and up people who want to date 18 years olds or talk about teens being attractive. The further you get from graduating high school, the more you realize how different you are and settle into being an adult.

[@abbysmith347]

I LOVE that thought. The same people that say “age is just a number” should keep that mindset and think “jail is just a room” when the time comes.

[@Meladjusted]

When I was 18, I genuinely had the same experience. A much older man (at least in his 40s) just randomly approached me in a grocery store and said "I don't normally do this, but would you like to get some coffee sometime or something?" I was BEYOND creeped out and told him I had a bf (I did anyway, but that's not _why_ I said it) and he like accepted it and walked away and I like immediately went to find my mom in the store... No part of me felt like an adult compared to him nor safe. Absolutely not. And I was the type of girl who had crushes on older men and was over "boys." I had a baby face too. I was very used to people thinking I was younger than I was.

[@Cousinbiddy1]

Ur probably not a women then

[@humanperson7114]

@@Cousinbiddy1 ???

[@Cousinbiddy1]

@@humanperson7114 what?

[@kaiser9598]

@@Cousinbiddy1 How is that.. related??

[@Cousinbiddy1]

@@kaiser9598 because younger women always like older man

[@lee-ci8mj]

Omg “I have to mature myself so I don’t seem like a child” he robbed her of like her entire youth....

[@merpel4448]

Benjamin Franklin now has a criminal record

[@Unveilthemoon]

This man most definitely lured her in. Then to get her pregnant while shes still under age shows how he wanted to keep a hold onto her. I hope when she’s a bit older she has a wakeup call and realizes that she is indeed a victim & not *the best thing that every happened to him*

[@Picking.a.name.is.hard1]

This might sound awful but I hope she doesn't realise that, NOT because I think this is ok, it isn't, he's a pedophile and should be in prison. But I hope she doesn't realise, so she doesn't have to feel that pain. Like idk I just hope she's happy... I know it's dumb and naive of me, but at this point it's already happened you know...

[@aliciagarcia6729]

exactly! she getting pregnant was not a mistake at all, he did it to tie her up.

[@8e11e]

My husband is 17 years my senior, we both feel strongly that their relationship is morally wrong. I was 27 when we met. I feel like she was robbed

[@MissMoontree]

At 27 your brain is fully develloped, so it is different.

[@8e11e]

@@MissMoontree exactly

[@CheesenMac123]

She kinda was robbed.

[@Picking.a.name.is.hard1]

EXACTLY! It's not the age gap that's the problem it's the age gap RELATIVE to the person's developmental state! As a 21 year old I wouldn't date a 31 year old or even a 28 year old, because I still feel like I'm too young mentally (if that makes sense).

[@mangoaddicto7717]

There’s nothing wrong with not acting you’re age. I’m 14 and I only act like a child for my baby sister so she can feel as if I’m her twin. But this girl said she “acts mature around his friends” which is kinda concerning.

[@riddlesangerissues3127]

How old is your baby sister?

[@annatj.]

i cant stop thinking about the fact that she wont ever be able to fully experience life because she has kids with a 50 year old. she'll never be able to be a teenager, do normal things like get hangovers or shit like that... that's so scary to me as a teenager, i could just as easily get my innocence stolen away.

[@mushroomsteve]

That's what I was thinking, no partying with her friends, no traveling and exploring the world as a young single person, and no college education either. All of it stolen from her. She gets to play nurse maid to an old man and cranking out babies, when she's still a baby. My heart breaks for her.

[@girlie_ch33se20]

Honestly getting to finally have that young adult experience is one of the things I most look forward to once I’m in my 20s, how can someone who is 18 be possible in any way ready to raise kids with a 40-50 year old??

[@spaghettimist]

i don't understand the "age is just a number" thing. no, it's not just a number, it's the level of your maturity and expierience, that's the whole point

[@gilarnyboo7035]

Age of just to measure how long someone has lived and just because someone has less experience in life that dose not mean they can't love each other so you saying a dad can't be allowed to love their daughters and daughters should have the right to dad's care

[@gilarnyboo7035]

Well is what your saying is if 2 peolel have the same experience it's OK to rape them your gross promoting rape

[@spaghettimist]

@@gilarnyboo7035 umm wtf? how is what I said even remotely related to rape? I never said anything about that, rape is never ok. and I'm talking about a romantic/sexual relationship, not familial love between a parent and a child, i thought that was obvious since that's literally what the video is about. all I'm saying is, your maturity changes throughout your life and your age reflects that - for example your brain is not as developed when you're 18 as it is when you're 30.

[@gilarnyboo7035]

@@spaghettimist yes and that's why men's need to be older and plus their brain matures slow and men are responsible for brining up a family whereas a woman needs to be under 25 because at 25 3% of woman can't give birth and if you pass 30 it's nearly Impossible people should have the right to love whoever and whenever they want and it's a complete waste of time aruging with you.

[@gilarnyboo7035]

@@spaghettimist well if you say they should look for someone their age but sometimes someone their age can groom them and minupulate them into thinking they have to do things just because they are friends and victims can't say no its not the age its all about power of dynamic so if the adult is a teacher parrent uncle or coach then the adult can have power but if the adult is just random then teens see them as a friend not someone in position of authority

[@Btgg_333]

As a once 18 yo who had a very questionable relationship with an 52 yo man who was also my boss. This is super creepy and now at 22 I couldn’t even imagine trying to date a 18 year old

[@thesilkportfolio]

When I was 19 I was dating a 34 year old, my mom was totally against it but I had moved out to my own apartment where he became abusive and isolated me. At 19 I didn't know anything of the world and it will not end well for her!

[@hanphilnoffz8827]

Your mom know the best your mom should've call the cop right there and now

[@AlinaProbably]

this is also something that was concerning to me in this video - i fear for the girl especially since she says things like "my family doesn't accept this relationship, and we'll be fine without them". like girl no. you won't be fine. you're on the path of being isolated. i really really hope her family & friends will stay in touch and find ways to be close to her (in the end, regardless of their views on the relationship), bc that would be for her own long-term good

[@alesivan4489]

omg same happened to me except the moving out part 😢

[@Muttfree]

I was 17 dating a 20 year old, not THAT bad of an age gap but he fully knew I was a minor and brought me in saying he was much better than my 16 year old bf had been at that time... he stole 2 years from me and I regret it all

[@marid7103]

One of the things that I question about this is how she was comfortable with this in the first place. An older man came up to me when I was fourteen and I was very very uncomfortable and wanted to get out of the situation as soon as possible. I’ve always found that having older men talk to you while you are still a child is just generally uncomfortable.

[@renodalenhart2903]

I still feel that way and I am 26 turning 27 this weekend. A few weeks ago a man around 60 jears came up to me and asked me out and I felt really uncomfortable and also a bit grossed out

[@gglovesgorillazmj7784]

sameee it just feels weird

[@crappyaccount]

for all we know, it coulda been normal for her.....like clearly the parents r not doing their job....

[@ladyofshallott5005]

When I was around that age I had no problems being approached by way older men and there were quite a few situation where it was pure chance that I wasn't abducted or worse I think. I felt very comfortable with older men that were nice to me. However, that's because I had a lot of abuse going on at home and my parents regularly ignored every boundary I had, beating me and telling me I was ugly and worthless on the regular. I found anybody who showed me just a bit of decency to be an awesome human being. My mother told me so often that I was ugly, fat and annoying and that I would never find a man, that when older guys approached me I kind of thought "Well, I know logically this is wrong, but this is probably the only shot I will EVER get at ANYONE liking me." It was pure luck, that nothing ever happened tbh.

[@riddlesangerissues3127]

@@mayalum5972 How did she know? Was she observing his body language?

[@bethanatorsings7879]

My grandad was 60 when he met his now wife who was 30 and the family still questioned it but they both lived pretty similar lives and get along so well and she really reminds us of our late grandma

[@dakotahs.4185]

Marcus' friend: "Age is just a number" Me: "and hell is just a sauna"

[@bed_wetter99ohnomytoesgoto42]

Preach 🤧💅🏽

[@gilarnyboo7035]

Protest is just an action and everyone has to right to protest

[@moosehat3821]

And prison is just a place ;P

[@radiotelevision2371]

Murder is just an activity 😩✌️

[@crazyhairsinger]

A gun is just a toy💅💅🤩😌

[@guiltyassavannnah]

He sounded so creepy when he said that he didn’t think of her as thirty years younger than him... jeez...

[@roseinfinityy]

Because that's exactly what he thinks when he looks at her. His expression and body language when he flat out lied about that revealed the truth.

[@dev2113]

I called out my friend for dating a 14 y/o at 18. He refused and everyone I know stopped talking to him. I can't imagine accepting this relationship and not at least calling this man out on sleeping with a barely legal TEEN.

[@gayvagina7353]

She was 16 when he first got with her

[@somethingstupid1075]

I’m 16, and if I saw an almost 50 year old man checking me out in the supermarket I would run home and take at least 5 showers

[@Imp9thy]

Little hint: Older people that go for 18 year olds would 100% date younger minors. They are just happy that they are finally able to legally date them. So sad.

[@CheesenMac123]

Exactly. And 18 year olds are no different from 16/17 year olds. So it’s basically like dating a minor except that no one can legally interfere with the relationship.

[@hanphilnoffz8827]

Child is until person turn 21

[@canigo459]

@@hanphilnoffz8827 25* since the brain isn’t fully developed until then

[@hanphilnoffz8827]

@@canigo459 years 21 come with more rights even 16 but 21 is more responsibility

[@Cousinbiddy1]

@@canigo459 who gives a shit about brain development, lust beats the stupid brain

[@GthDissterBi_Gblin]

I remember being 16 at a music festival with one of my best friends, we were approached by a couple of guys (in their 20s) who were polite but after talking with us about the performance for about 2 minutes they asked how old we are "16 and 17". They had the proper response, "oh, you're too young for us." Rock festivals can get a bit crazy in the evenings so they acted like body guards to keep crowd surfers from falling on us until the performance was over. As soon as he found out her age he should have stopped.

[@danielasantiago472]

There's a show called marrying millions where there a 21 year old dating a 60 year old

[@AnnamarieForcino]

i’ll have to check it out!!

[@kalasamuels2469]

@@AnnamarieForcino YESS PLS DO

[@ChloeSmith-dn8pw]

That’s what I thought it was in the thumbnail, then I discovered it was different! The men have similar hair

[@elixaire5517]

Unsee juice where u at

[@doyoueverfeellikeaplasticb2703]

please tell me they married that that age and not younger

[@NeichaUnagi]

She's in for a nasty shock in a few years when she finally sees the gap between teenagers and someone in their mid twenties. I was also one of those teenagers who thought age gaps like these were fine, until I grew up to see how predatory in nature those relationships were. And it's awful because no matter what you say, you're never gonna get through to these teens. Because they can't see it yet. And you'll just sound like a party pooper.

[@Shadowhunter420]

Same. I thought they were fine and I seen one happen irl as a teen and now I feel bad for my friend I can only hope she is happy and okay but considering how the relationship started it makes me sad. I couldn't see it until I was older as well. She will soon enough

[@nyxx5357]

Hey, I know your comment is old, but just in case you ever run into a minor stuck in this situation, the best thing you can do is ask questions. "Why are they attracted to you? Why are you attracted to them? Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What about them?" Etc. Get the minor to really THINK about their relationship. That will speed up their realization that their relationship isn't normal or okay.

[@RockieRhode]

It's the fact she's not even old enough to drink and he's already at his mid life crisis ☠️☠️☠️

[@samziiii]

so gross- cant imagine the children (5yrs old) being like- "mom where's dad?" her- "he sadly died of old age when you were young😔" LIKE BRO HES SO OLD HE HAD TWINS WITH A 18 YR OLD GIRL??

[@madeleinewilson6725]

It's definitely so gross, but you don't actually think people die of old age at that age do you? hahhaha I know you're joking but that just seemed odd to me. Like the twins at 5 years old would mean he'd be 51.

[@samziiii]

@@madeleinewilson6725 yeah haha its a joke ^^ i didnt think this comment would get this much of attention lolz

[@coralline1984]

When those kids are like five he’ll be in his 50s I don’t think you’ll be dead because my great grandfather is 93 and he’s still alive and well.

[@riverdaisy4215]

If a grown ass man or woman is dating an 18 year old run. They are telling you clear as day that they would date someone younger if it was legal. They like minors. They may be dating a legal adult, but an 18 year old was legally a minor a few months ago. It’s nasty for a full grown adult to want someone who they could not legally date last month. They like minors. The person they’re dating may not be a minor, but they were a minor last month. It’s gross.

[@Film21531]

Wb 19?

[@whytho8856]

@@Film21531 imo, a grown ass man like him shouldn't be dating anybody under 25

[@CheesenMac123]

@@whytho8856 True. Adolescence doesn’t even end until around the mid twenties. After that point, differences in age become less significant. But under that age, differences in maturity are extremely important factors to consider in a relationship.

[@gilarnyboo7035]

So what's people should have the right to freedom who they want to have sex with not the government and in this cases there is no actual victim like how courts sees it if both people wants it I don't see any victimization.

[@anasonyc3983]

​@@gilarnyboo7035 There's such a thing as lived experience. You have someone who is fully matured, has a lot of experience, is independent and has full reign/agency over their life, and then you have a teenager who did NOT complete their development , did not yet realise their own identity, has yet to determine their values and beliefs, is dependant on someone else financially and otherwise etc etc. There is an inherent power disbalance between the two, whatever the law has to say on it. Their relationship (in itself reprehensible) lasted for mere 5 months (too short of a time for any couple to settle down together) before he got her pregnant. Even if she wanted to break the engagement, she would not allow herself for the sake of their children. Do you truly see nothing wrong with the situation? I don't even know where to start, there's nothing positive about the situation. You say you don't see any victimization. Just because she wasn't coerced into anything doesn't mean the relationship is healthy. Ever heard of grooming? Perhaps look into it before you defend predatory relationships. As the adult, that man had the responsibility not to engage in a relationship with an impressionable, gullible child. I'm becoming redundant so I'll stop, but I hope you'll give what I said some consideration.

[@Zimzum93]

Oh god :( he trapped her with a pregnancy so fast and who knows what he will do to his own daughters some day if she doesn’t leave

[@crispydonut_0]

George Washington? That's Benjamin Franklin 💅

[@evagibson2789]

Dead

[@gglovesgorillazmj7784]

LMFAO DEADASS 😭😭

[@youreoffline4934]

Lmao yes

[@stephanieking7391]

BRUH THATS WHAT I SAID

[@sooausjssjjsksjss8397]

No actually that’s David ellefson lol

[@lesdyxiatoo]

I tried talking someone down from this weird behavior and completely lost contact when I called their situation “weird” bc it was but they shut me out and we never spoke since. Idk maybe don’t be a fully grown 21 y/o dating a 15 y/o CHILD????

[@lesdyxiatoo]

Hazardous Rin it is! Especially where we’re at (California) so idk. I tried. That’s on them 🤷‍♀️

[@AlienBabezz]

@@lesdyxiatoo crazy reading thisss! I’m from California and when I was 15 I dated a 21 year old 🤢 he promised to take me away from abusive home but I was too blind to see being a 15 year old that it was a trap, glad you spoke your mind even if it meant losing them! It sucks cause at 15 I learned through other girls that it was a “hot” “cool” thing to do 🤢

[@larsswig912]

@@Rimikshi bro in my country it's a common thing for 22 year olds to be dating kids in their mid teens. it's creepy. there's this 22 year old dude who was dating a 14 year old, and he cheated on her with another 14 year old I- my own brother is also a bit weird in that sense, all the girls he's dating nowadays are about 17-19 (I'm 18) and he's 27 years old.

[@larsswig912]

@LS AE close. the Maldives.

[@lesdyxiatoo]

@@AlienBabezz sorry to hear that 😔 it sucks that there are kids or adults who try normalizing this

[@strangeandinteresting]

I honestly wasn't even *that* horrified by this until she said she was 16 when they met, and he was STARING AT HER IN A GROCERY STORE. WHAT?!

[@NoName-ld7gg]

"I used to be an annoying 18 year old too..." Tf- GIRL, I THOUGHT YOU WERE STILL A TEEN-

[@masera9233]

Shes 22

[@Coneyislandstarlet]

@@masera9233 whaaaaaa

[@SS-mk2yp]

THANK YOU for your rage on this topic!!! Lately I’ve been arguing with so many people over social media who believe that teenagers are at fault when they’re in relationships with much older people. Apparently being 16/17 is old enough to be manipulative and know what they’re doing in these scenarios? Apparently teens who are around the age of consent can’t be groomed because they’re really just “grown when they want to be and helpless when they want to turn around and play the victim”? Apparently teenagers magically become responsible and wise the moment they turn the age of consent? This world is a fucking scary place.

[@hanphilnoffz8827]

16-18 can groom people bad and they can be groomed bad if I was 6 years old 16 years old approach me I would want to run away but if I was 16 and 40 years old approach me I would run too even at 20 I would still run if 50 years old approach me

[@FlowerGriffon]

my mom was 19 and my dad was in his 30s when they started dating. my grandmother was disgusted over the relationship and tried to get them to break up and my mom regretted being with my dad as he became abusive towards her. my mom now recently told me to date someone my own age bc she doesnt want me to be taken advantage my older guys like what happened to her and im taking her words to my heart, especially that im 19 now.

[@overcomernetwork202]

It doesn't sound like he even married her. He saw a vulnerable black girl.

[@rebecca5892]

Sad but true

[@educateyourselfbeforeyouwr2101]

Women of all races fall into that trap unfortunately

[@leoplays5828]

They aren't married, in the video says "boyfriend" and "girlfriend", not husband or wife

[@annabethgrace3916]

“age is just a number” ✨And jail is just a room ✨ ✨and hell is just a place✨

[@thecaprikid1329]

And being a pervert is just mindset🤮

[@radiotelevision2371]

✨ Laws are just opinions ✨

[@LordGarlicBread]

✨murder is an activity✨

[@crazyhairsinger]

🌠A gun is just a toy🌠

[@yolandadespain2414]

This is absolutely disgusting as a mother I would do everything in my power to keep that disgusting predator away from my family including calling the police and putting him in prison and truly putting this on KZbin is disturbing. I completely agree that putting this out there and putting a positive spin is harmful for future victims. These predators will use this to justify their actions. Shame on truly.

[@its_just_seb]

If he couldn't tell if she was 18 or not and had to ask "to make sure" she isn't someone he should even be considering for a romantic partner.

[@lilly8305]

When will people understand that 18 isn't a magic number that over night suddenly makes someone super mature and comparable to anyone who's been an adult for decades? That couple has the same age gap as me an my mom, and him looking like a stereotypical creep isn't helping his case

[@samesfast4525]

Exactly.

[@CheesenMac123]

This, yes!

[@len6196]

Finally, someone said it.

[@XadeGraves]

Not only that, but adults don't fully form their frontal cortex until they are 25 years old, so you won't even fully be yourself until 25 years old.... there is so much room for developement between 18-25 and thats the time you should be making mistakes, having fun and learning how the world outside of school works, and how to manage it on your own....

[@sakibartneck]

when u said 'the teen is closer to teh age of there children the their boyfriend that made me feel like i was gonna puke-

[@gglovesgorillazmj7784]

🤢🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮🤮

[@ohgodimlost421]

This reminds me of my dad. He's 60 now and has a son who's 28. My dad's girlfriend is 29. She.is.one.year.older.than.his.son

[@koolkitty108]

Yikes... my cousin is 51 and has a daughter who’s 23. His younger brother (my other cousin) is 24, one year older than his niece.

[@whytho8856]

yikes...

[@its_rose531]

Wait wait I cannot process this... Can someone explain? Edit: Is it your stepmom?

[@ohgodimlost421]

@@its_rose531 yup. he's my biologiacal dad and she's technically my stepmom

[@crappyaccount]

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAaa

[@Frickll]

Watching her go around and clean his house for him and care for his children makes me sick to my stomach. This poor girl.

[@rymyun2841]

it's so strange to me how she complained about guys her age not being as mature as she'd like but girl why are you rushing to get into a relationship at 16-18? and how she didn't question why a man at such a big big age is dating someone so young. I'd hope she would see him for his true intentions when she got older and dump him but now she might feel stuck with the twins... this is so sad

[@cutegamer5715]

As someone who has been made fun of for not enabling a 16 yr old (my friend) dating a 21 yr old (her "boyfriend") It`s nice to see so many people who think this kind of relationship is wrong.

[@wenditahonixica5700]

I hate the fact that she had to she say she has to mature herself around HIS friends. That fact that she realizes that she has to act older to conform breaks my heart because it's truly laid out in front of her. And I understand just how difficult these situations can be. I hope she realizes :(

[@hollya6408]

If you ever have to stop to think if your relationship is legal, maybe you shouldn’t be in that relationship 😂

[@LugosiInTheBatcave]

Gay people who are illegal in around 74 states: ●-●

[@melodye14]

Always a big red flag when people seem to know and will recite age laws within their state or all over. If you think you need to study law to justify your relationship, you should rethink that relationship.

[@justinbailey2347]

@@melodye14 Transformers: Age of Extinction Romeo and Juliet Law Scene

[@hugo2486-n2x]

Ok wait- if she’s 18 years old and they already have kids that are over a year old, that means they would have been sexually active when she was 17 (or under) She was literally A MINOR, that is disgusting.

[@glimmerhutcherson139]

Thank you for being angry. It's better than being angry alone. This situation is so sad, especially for the babies.

[@helloimnoname]

I am 18 and that would be like dating someone OLDER than my actual father.... I can't fathom this

[@koolkitty108]

I’m 19, and this guy be looking older than my dad who’s almost 60

[@rheagomes5340]

Same it's soo creepy for so many reasons