The ONE thing EVERY Woman Needs (MUST HEAR)

[@sierradenise76]

I’m glad you touched on who we attract. I’ve always heard “You attracted what you are” but never fully agreed and saw it as a shift blaming tactic. At the end of the day we attract all kinds of men. Yes I believe the more respectable you are the more likely you are to attract a respectable man but you’re also likely to attract men that are just bold enough to try you. That’s why boundaries are so important.

[@MT-hk9cp]

Can I also add that what you entertain once you attract them is a huge factor.

[@sierradenise76]

@@MT-hk9cp that goes back to my point of having boundaries. Sometimes we entertain men not knowing what their intentions are but our boundaries can protect us. So yes we are responsible for what we entertain but it’s not always evident who and what we’re entertaining at first.

[@MT-hk9cp]

@@sierradenise76 oh I definitely agree that we don't know what we are entertaining initially but once we find out so many people remain because they'd rather deal in dysfunction than be single. My grandma taught me that there is power is being alone and liking it because it shows that you can be with yourself and not be sad. Of course, if you crave companionship then be your best self and vet the candidates while keeping your standards and boundaries.

[@princesstc987]

The 'bold enough to try you' men are the most annoying too! Like I often ask myself what gives them the confidence. I've been chatted up by a drunk man who literally peed himself in the bus station in the middle of the day and another drunk who started chatting about black women not usually being his type before proceeding to ask for my number. Both situations, I was embarrased because people heard these men chatting to me and I was internally pissed off because I couldn't just leave and go elsewhere.

[@annagrace1159]

@@princesstc987 And if you raised up and defended. yourself they would've called you angry #smh

[@mint_soup9743]

Nothing says red flag like a man who insults you immediately after setting boundaries. Show your colors, red flags 🚩 fly high! 😂

[@adampantriangle2424]

"your ex is not the standard" IT TOOK ME A FEW YEARS AND A COUPLE OF HEARTBREAKS TO START UNDERSTANDING THIS ✨🖤

[@AkuraClosetRaid]

Same here...shuuuu! that line was it

[@oldschooldani]

Happens when the bar was on the ground 😭 i get it 🫶🙌

[@melissagitts]

Standards 1. Knowing who you are 2. Knowing what you desire 3. Knowing what is unacceptable. -Keep boundaries high. -Stop trying to please.

[@AkuraClosetRaid]

100% well summarized Mel💯

[@CeeceeH1819]

Every time I've lowered my standards to give a guy a chance, it resulted in disastrous outcomes. Without standards and boundaries, we're just desperate delusional daydreamers.

[@shalalala868]

That part!!

[@jaythenihilist4689]

Never lower your standards. Never settle. Too many women settle when they're young. But as women age and become more mature, they become *more* desirable to men. It's the women who know what they want, and refuse to settle for anything less that end up much happier in the end.

[@elifolarin7545]

Omggg yesss!!

[@meiiilin]

Facts

[@AkuraClosetRaid]

'desperate delusional daydreamer' what you said there sis👏🙌

[@ladylorp2738]

That was me too, my last relationship I tolerated so much that I would NEVER allow anymore. I like dates, flowers, gifts and just words of encouragement n my ex did none of those things n I kept my cool to keep the peace n in the end it was the very reason I ended a 4 years relationship so moving forward I won’t tolerate what I don’t like anymore. I will be firm about my wants and needs.

[@sbrown804]

👏🏾

[@alias4506]

Yup. They think it’s a fucking joke.

[@josephineszmolena424]

Girl…your shape…your glow up…GIRLLLLL

[@crystalcutz]

RIGHT!? ❤

[@JP-227]

She been fine‼️😍❤️

[@QueenKLLC]

But she been glo'd up tho.

[@yowilli6669]

She is a rare beauty 😍

[@angela_rodriguez]

That is what I’m saying

[@hdelf]

I was seeing a guy for two months, I feel like we had a good connection and we had our fun adventures. My birthday comes around and he had told me weeks before that he would give me a call as we were both away and he didn’t, he texted before the night ends. So I texted him back “Thanks for the good wishes!” I was playing ‘Miss Cool Cat’ whilst the whole time this seemingly small thing actually bothered the shit out of me. I was swimming in a murky feeling for a week, I didn’t address my feeling, so I sent him a message that what he did was not okay. He didn’t reply. I think he’s just not that into me. And I suppose that is okay, I’ll be okay about it all. Because as much as I like him, I love myself more.

[@mariako8480]

it’s okay baby!Be glad that he showed his true colors!You deserve someone better and trust that you will find him!

[@jayminjoh142]

I was seeing a guy for around that same time but he had different priorities. He just stopped talking to be but would like my insta stories on a daily and even WhatsApp statuses. I tried to talk to him to make it work but instead he asked why "I was having issues". I cut my loses and left

[@kenishabailey1662]

He's on games sis, red flag 🚩

[@Haysti2000]

I totally feel you. Had a guy who on his birthday made him feel like the most special person on earth. On mine he barely acknowledged me or made time for me. Best thing I ever did was block him couple weeks later without any explanation. Learn to never explain yourself when someone has harmed you. All this shit about "just communicate" is a lie, he didnt have to communicate to me that I treat him extra special on his birthday. I dont care if he "just didnt get it" or "didnt have bad intentions" when it was things that mattered to him (sex) he couldnt leave my side. Men know what they are doing, we all do, so explanations are meaningless.

[@dahsirivan8329]

Good for you. If a guy not into you it time to move on we have no time for time waster and it's gonna be okay give your time to a man who worthy of you time.

[@daphwill]

"I know what I want and what I need & I know what is unacceptable" - Management

[@letstlk]

Facts.

[@nothemba1982]

A note to self to listen to these time stamps again: 12:35-13:25 15:20-15:58 18:57-24:53 30:25-31:22 I love that simple and powerful analogy of your house growing up, about people leaning against the wall willy-nilly because there was no fence (i.e. boundary). I’m gonna use that to explain boundaries to my goddaughter. You look like you’ve shed a lot of weight Breeny, and not just physically - there’s a calm and peace about you lately. I love that for you. Thank you for this video.

[@donniep.1513]

That trash analogy hit home.

[@NathalieLazo]

Whoever is reading this, I pray that whatever you’re growing through gets better and whatever you’re battling with makes your situation better as you’re continuing to be a better person each day. I have faith that you’ll turn out great as your circumstances will change. Have a fantastic day! You got this! 🤗💪🏼❤️

[@veronica_sm_]

i needed this and i’m so moved internally by your message🤍🤍🤍

[@jaelle6993]

Thank you, I pray the same for u too

[@mmaya772]

Thank you love and I wish the best for you too!* 💕✨💕

[@Sara-vh6sq]

Thank you.. I really needed to hear this. Wish you the same as well!

[@snugglebear6836]

Breeny you helped me get out of an abuse situation and stand up to a guy who was manipulating me, and blamed me for the sexual abuse I experienced as a kid

[@IevaKambarovaite]

Good on you for being able to leave an abusive situation. Leaving an abusive relationship is incredibly challenging. Usually takes on average around 8 attempts or so before you feel you're definitely not going back to that toxic situation. These cycles are extremely difficult to break. I know it from my own upbringing and personal situations.

[@kimberlywilliams4964]

That’s great girl happy for you

[@aanyamallick7747]

I'M SO HAPPY AND PROUD OF YOU!! I pray you continue to grow mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually so that you can find your equal and receive what you deserve. I'm so sorry and disgusted that he blamed you for that abuse you experienced. This is why i personally refrain from trauma bonding, and I wasn't dating until I was healed from said trauma. Because trauma bonding will have an energy vampire lach on you, drain you emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally then use said trauma against you in a heated argument. Apart from Breeny, I listen to 'Real Talk With Yanie' and upon watching her video the other day about the whole Jin & Juice situation, she said something that has stuck with me and i hope it'll do the same for you "If you master healing, you can master your life. Because you can try to go out here and start a new life or go to a different country and somehow still deal with the same stuff you saw growing up in your childhood. Or have the same effects of some of the things you traumatically dealt with in your childhood. Now you're in your adulthood sharing your trauma, or some type of trauma bond with this person you're in love with"

[@blessedchildofgod9112]

Dam that's fucked up sorry to hear god bless you

[@natashadickson4819]

Don't tell men you were abused. A good man doesn't need to know. A bad man will use it against you.

[@IdorenyinIbanga_]

So Sunday a friend a met online gave me a ride to church & back. When he dropped me he wanted to hug 🫂 & I rejected it. I just noticed he stopped talking to me & I did went my way & didn’t care. About 5 days after he sent me a message that he is mad with me because I didn’t hug me. I was like, guy I owe no apology because I decided what I do with my body & I owe no one any explanation. I bluntly don’t care if you are hurt?

[@IdorenyinIbanga_]

@Sherise Roberts not at all

[@BreenyLee]

I went on a date with a guy I met in the US. He got upset with me because I wouldn’t give him a goodbye kiss, like I owed it to him, didn’t speak to me again, poor guy.

[@amorepsyche808]

yes, but if it was an innocent hug? I mean it is ok to reject them ,but in general giving a hug is not a sexualized thing.. jmo

[@glecservices3114]

With respect if your trying to build a relationship with a man why would you reject a hug, if he was trying to get sex then I get it but if it’s just a hug then that’s shouldn’t be a problem, I would say this rejection breeds rejection and if you don’t care then a man shouldn’t care either, but also I think you should be mindful to give out love if you want love

[@IdorenyinIbanga_]

@@amorepsyche808 access to my body isn’t an “innocent “ one. I only hug when I choose to

[@brandi17able]

I am glad you talked about flirting..I had a convo with a guy recently and he said when he is in a relationship he won't cheat but he doesn't mind flirting because it shows he still got it... I was like I am glad I am not dating you

[@mariako8480]

oh no ma’am!Good thing he snitched on himself

[@bibisaldana6685]

“You don’t always have to open the door to those who knock”

[@princessgigiking]

Boundaries: Do not allow a person to do what they want to do to me or talk to me in a harsh way. Say No! ✋Say Stop. ❤️❤️❤️

[@wolfiesasha887]

Did that, and now i got a friend that doesn't speak to me anymore, just because i told her what bothered me when we had a conversation 😹

[@Saniqueeee]

Heavy on the “don’t feel bad” about not being attracted to “nice guys”. I set boundaries and everyyyyy time, I get blocked or unfollowed by the same person I wasn’t interested in 🥴

[@Patricia-cp2zg]

I'm crying my eyes out because I didn't had a mom and hearing this is really giving me that motherly advice and warm I needed. My selfworh and everything I've been working suddenly shutted because of a man I was dating. It's okay, I'm going to get back on my path, my energy, I will learn from this and not beat myself up. Thank you for this. You are giving people something truly valuable.

[@jessitabonita]

25:48 😂 So true! My $30 waterproof bag from Target has lasted longer than my $800 leather Burberry bag! It reminds me that someone with a lot of currency, whether it's $ or £, especially when wearing or driving luxury brands, isn't always actually the best one. 😉

[@wolfiesasha887]

!!!!!! 🙏🙌

[@t.r.8794]

I appreciate you. Everything you said is true. I used to be a people pleaser, the best thing I did was put those boundaries in place and learned to say NO. People respect me more and it shows. When it comes to dating I weed out the men that aren’t worthy of my time.

[@Pandas0918]

Just told a guy I gave a second chance to that his actions showed me that us moving forward wasn’t a good idea. Had enough of him acting like my boundaries and standards weren’t non-negotiables! #Notsettling🙏🏾☺️❤️

[@trob9100]

You young ones are so lucky to have social media with influencers and people like Breeny to help you know better in life. Some of us had nobody that gave good advice or guidance so all we can do now is help others by sharing our testimonies. Be grateful.

[@Yukirusi]

But you have always had your Bible. Everything she is teaching is inside your Bible.

[@DianaUkaoyobhi-nb2jq]

​@GrowthHive44 But not everyone is religious

[@Love_Lacie]

@trob9100 Right! Social media used the right way is such a blessing

[@queenrrainy4625]

Yes girl!walked out of my marriage after being with this man for 23years!my head is held high and feeling liberated and powerful taking my 3 children with me and nothing else but my peace,health and sanity after he tried tringulating me instead of changing his behaviour.And he doesnt understand why I would walk away after all these years just because he cheated and got caught! Deal breaker,i stand by my boundaries and value !move on!the real mature one will come through

[@TranquilityWealth]

Congratulations on choosing you. Your peace and children...!

[@maira3681]

So proud of you

[@shesonfire_]

Someone wise once said. "When the women go bad, the men will follow" as crazy as this is,unfortunately its true more often than not. Cheaters can't be rampant if there is noone to cheat with etc. Great video!

[@BeautyRebellion]

Love you Breeny!!! Thank you for sharing! Loved this video and your hair 😍🫶🏾

[@BreenyLee]

Love you ❤️

[@johnnwabuforudemezue1108]

@@BreenyLee You need a website, can I help you with one?

[@SylviaJoe]

“Boundaries are clear and they are confident” 🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@AllThingsTiffanyTV]

This confirmed my breakup. As much of a good guy he is…..he isn’t the one for me. My standards and boundaries begin to be compromised. It weighed heavy and i had to walk away. Glad i recognize early.

[@BreenyLee]

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[@Godsdestiny4us]

GIIRRRLLLLLLL, I seriously love you!!! You are a breath of fresh air on the internet and anointed by God! You are called to EDUCATE THESE WOMEN!!!! Your message needs to be broadcasted to every woman on the plant. I've been preaching this to my girlfriends for years!!!!! STANDARDS, AND KNOW YOUR WORTH PERIOD!!!!!! Until women change their "EASY" behavior, men will CONTINUE to get away with murder on how he treats a woman..FACTS 💯 💯 💯 💯

[@oohno1000]

She is I can’t wait bro hear this

[@jaythenihilist4689]

Most men today don't put forth any effort to meet even the bare minimum of standards that women have. Most men are too unattractive, too short, don't make enough money, don't have a good enough education, aren't funny enough, aren't masculine enough etc. Truthfully, women ask for very little in a relationship, and probably 90% of men don't meet the bare minimum standards. Women should absolutely *never* lower their standards for a man that isn't worth their time. Women are the prize, and should be treated as such. That's why it's not important what women bring to the table. They're the woman, they're the prize, THATS WHAT WOMEN BRING. Just themselves, and that's all that they have to. It's better for a woman to be single, than lower herself to man that doesn't measure up. Stay strong, and eventually God will deliver the perfect man to every woman who withholds to earge to settle. And even if a woman has to remain single or unmarried for her whole life, then that's still far more preferable than settling for a man who doesn't deserve her.

[@blessedchildofgod9112]

As black women we are the most disrespected ...so I personally need the up most respect from everyone nothing less ! Thanks for what you do I liked and subscribe

[@BestversionofKP]

Yes!!

[@Irenee_vx]

I haven’t watched you in a few months and clicked on your latest video to see your transformation! Congratulations, I went on an 8 week challenge and I was taught “it’s not a diet, it’s a healthy life choice” and I kept repeating that to myself and it was the best thing. Do it at your own pace, know one dessert in moderation will not throw off your entire training, simply work out the following day and you get yourself mentally back into a good routine and you don’t put so much weight on your shoulders. All these things helped me loose 23cm off my entire body within 3 weeks of intense training whilst eating home cooked meals. Congratulations once again and keep going. ❤️

[@avalon.a]

This hit me absolutely hard. Being very pretty all my life, I’ve attracted a lot of attention, and sometimes unwanted. I became a people pleaser and now at 19, I’ve been struggling ever since especially in my friendships and beginning too talk to guys. My standards are ideally high, yet once I start to date around I subconsciously lower them to appease the other person. It’s been very hard facing my consequences for being a people pleaser and too nice but I’m staring to face my problems head on and fix them. Thank you so much for this encouraging video it’s reaffirmed a lot of points. :))

[@iamella96]

Tbh, I can't even tell you how much you have effected my life. It's been like 10 months that I've followed you and now you're part of my routine :)))) your name is on my TO DO LIST like every day and I watch 1 or 2 videos of your KZbin channel a day. And you can't believe me how much it helped me... I can just say that I LOVE YOU. You even made me believe in God. I mean I've changed my whole perspective about God...

[@iamgoddessoflove]

Don't lose yourself to someone that doesn't respect you; instead, let go of that relationship to allow doors to open from someone that deserves you. 💙KZbinr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

[@angelathomas8680]

You are the big sister that I never had. You've taught me alot and that help me from not doing stupid things so thank you very much and God bless you more wisdom

[@ShandaP018]

Taught*

[@angelathomas8680]

Thank you

[@ShandaP018]

@@angelathomas8680 of course 😌

[@tatisloveoth]

"how do you want others to experience you?" you really gave us a lot of food for thought with this one, thank you 🙏🏼

[@mmaya772]

She always does!* 😊

[@kristylrickydawn5152]

Rarely do I comment on youtube, but I 'know' that here I will be heard. Out of all the things I have to say/ask you ; from a short amount of time of watching your videos.... We recognize veterans for their honorable service. Emotional, Nutrient, and healing is barely the epitome of what I've found in the videos of yours that I've the privilege to have seen. So very deeply, I. Thank. You. For. Your. Service. When someone mentions strength , I think of you. By far the most colorful and resiliently powerful mind I've seen this far. I know I'm young but, it really matters because I have a lot of value to see yet in myself, mostly I'm alone but I sustain really well all things considered lmfao . It's just nice to know another light . You literally fuel me. And what you do is just everything to me.💯

[@divinecommerce3912]

Have standards, buy vibrator, be happy 😊👍

[@vivianmassao]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@nicksmith-cx1fx]

You should be looking for someone good enough and build a great relationship. Finding the best person doesn't guarantee a successful relationship. Also when those romantic feelings and chemistry fade what are you going to do then. Choosing a partner solely based on how he makes you feel is the wrong way to select a mate.

[@ToniaAlex13]

You should be looking for someone good enough, just doesn't sound right to me. Sounds the same like saying he or she has potential. Potential don't normally work

[@assitandiaby3027]

@@ToniaAlex13 I agree. There’s no such thing as good enough. That’s literally settling.

[@ToniaAlex13]

@@assitandiaby3027 👍🏽

[@stormship1647]

I agree …good enough ..like our fore parents did …that means they have the character values and fundamentals to be a good partner …everything else is the seeker trying to satisfy their fetishes , fantasies and socially programmed preferences or even trying to impress / seek validation from others ( oh ..he must be six feet , Six figure income , certain complexion etc )

[@jaythenihilist4689]

@@ToniaAlex13 Right. There is no "good enough." He is either perfect for you, or he's not. And if he's not, then don't waste your time. But look on the bright side, women become more desirable as they get older, wiser, more mature. It's the women who hold out for the perfect man for them that end up the happiest in life. God has a plan for everything. So refusing to settle just means that you'll be available when that perfect man comes along. And even if he never does, then being alone is still far better than settling for someone who doesn't meet your standards.

[@Asher_Masa]

The door analogy is actually true. They don't seem believe it. 🤦🏽‍♀️ Absolutely loved this, thanks sis ❤

[@StarDaughterOfZionDube]

Sis , first of all you look amazing 👏🏽

[@RoseMon3yy]

I went against my standards and gave my broke abusive ex chances after chances. He is so very attentive, loving, afffectionate, but cheap and took his frustrations out on me.

[@Pacifica74]

I had a minimal concept of standards as a young teenage girl because of my father. Your very first relationship with a man is the one you have with your father. He's the first man that broke my heart.

[@veronica_sm_]

“we do not entertain flies, we do not entertain trash, we do not entertain dogsss” damn Breeny!!! you are a graceful and powerful queen INDEED! 😍😍😍

[@princessgigiking]

Men don't like easy women, Men really respect a woman who says No to him. ❤️❤️❤️

[@amy9910]

I'm not a people pleaser because I don't care about being liked, but I'm super high in agreeableness and compassion so I find it soooo hard to cut things off with a guy I'm dating unless something's really wrong, because I don't like knowing I'm about to inflict pain on this person. I don't know how to overcome this 😭

[@liahlove8297]

I understand that. I have the mindset where I'm always afraid to hurt people's feelings. But girl, I'm slowly learning how to be true to myself and stop putting myself on the back burner. I am being honest and if they get hurt, that's none of my business. You have to be deliberate and take a stand and change. Or else, you'll remain that way for years. All the best.

[@IevaKambarovaite]

You sound very aware, Amy. Have you done JP's personality test? I totally get how tough it is to reject someone. You have a loving heart and you always try to get into another person's shoes and you don't want to treat someone in a way that may hurt them. But you're the most important person. Never forget that. And would you not someone tell you they don't want to be with you if they were not 100% hell yes about you?

[@amy9910]

@@IevaKambarovaite yeah I have! Found it super interesting. Yeah, that's true. I guess this is the sort of issue that requires conscious effort and action to overcome. Plus, I always feel like I need a reason - a reason that makes sense to both of us (when in reality the reason only makes sense to me). Just need to keep at it and push through the discomfort of it 😬✊

[@kenasssss]

just do it. You are wasting your time and his too. And some guys get mad when they think everything was going alright and then you cut them off. They'll say you're leading them on, you want attention, you're bored, blablabla. Do yourself a favour and call it quits "I'm sorry, I'm not interested; Sorry, we don't share the same values, I hope you find a nice person" Be compassionate by not wasting their time and politely refusing them, straight to the point.

[@GinaSofiaLobo]

Remember if you're not sticking to your own boundaries you are allowing your SELF to be hurt by this person and inflicting pain upon yourself

[@elenacarmenbarbu5198]

Before watching the whole video I just want to say that you look amazing! I am in love❤

[@mariamakoroma7097]

Can we please acknowledge our favourite’s weight lost though? You look absolutely beautiful as per usual.

[@queenofthesouth4205]

Congrats Breeny Lee on your weight loss. Ladies keep your standards like your heels "high" 👠👠👠

[@liahlove8297]

This was a whole message for me, because boy am I guilty of this. I have alot of work to do on myself.

[@lorrainadennis2652]

great video breeny. I went out on a date and this guy he wanted to kiss me and i told him i dont kiss on a first date nor do i move that fast and he said 'ok i respect that'. he gave me a lift and said he would like to take me out for dinner and he would like to get to know me more. My mindset is i am a queen and i deserve the best, i already giving myself the best so any man that comes in my life has to add to that not take it away and i value myself enough to walk away from anything that messed with my peace. P.S ive been watching your videos and applying them to my life the results are amazing xx

[@zippyblessed839]

Your not a queen Get over your self 😄

[@AmerieFanbase]

Can you please do a video on being childfree vs having children? It needs to be spoken about

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

Why do you say that?

[@keiron.4612]

Child free kids are not a possession let's hope you stay free of them

[@sunvavachi]

It'd be a good topic. I don't want kids so would be an interesting topic.

[@nadiajourdan3969]

I couldn't handle all the gems being thrown at me! Thank you for reminding (me) women of our value and worth!!! 🙌🏾

[@No1superjuicey]

Trash is going to try, its not a reflection of you...

[@ReginaSmalls]

YOU LOOK GOOODTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!! Whatever you're doing! its working love! love to see you flourish!

[@ZumbawithDorothy]

Tired of being a people pleaser. I am always yelling but I still do what they want me to do. Listen to this every day.

[@Luckyy227]

It’s not even about what men like, the world doesn’t revolve around them anyway I absolutely love the bag analogy!! I will always refer to it in my mind ✨👛👜👝

[@TeaWitcher]

!!!!!!!

[@lunar686]

Loved it to 😊🌸👜!

[@siomi2701]

everyone has standards till it's time to reinforce them. men have been left "jaw dropped" i think i've always got what i wanted because i give an man no other option when dealing with me. my man says "you will always get what you want in life" and that is very true because i will accept nothing less for myself he knows it too. it makes men move very differently and respect you in a different light. very true

[@cookiedavis307]

If you don't stand for SOMETHING, you'll stand for ANYTHING ❤

[@rosesareredvioletsareblue2012]

How to claim respect from set of people whom you have made some major mistakes ,mistake that take you from bearing good character to bad character how to earn respect back in your own eyes and other eyes ? It would be great if you could share some thoughts on this subject !

[@someonespecial581]

Move on from them or you will die trying

[@carolinah3929]

Girl ..i'm 21yrs and there is this pressure from the society that at this age i should be dating yet some men say that when a woman is independent most men avoid them ....but my priority is starting my own business and grow myself and design that very life i desire ....how can i deal with this

[@nikigracevlogs]

I think some men are just scared of women who can hold their own. It’s acc pathetic 😅 !! The right man for you will admire it and build along side you & eventually with you. Forget society. My first real relationship was at 23 but I will say one thing.. if you do want to be in a relationship eventually, never switch off completely (in regards to dating). Don’t just put your career first. Everything need’s balance. Hope your business venture goes well 😌

[@mariako8480]

focus on yourself do not chase men let it happen naturally!!

[@girly.mimi00]

This is amazing content Breeny. Keep it up.

[@fedousafiriyie3230]

You are glowing Breeny . God bless you

[@kellydaniels4509]

I’m that people pleaser and it’s so hard to try to change my mentality, I have this desire to be liked by everyone but I do think you’re correct I’m not having peoples respect, people don’t give me the same energy and then I feel unappreciated and lonely anyway. I’m going to continue to try working on it, thank you for your pep talks ❤

[@lavandersdivine]

DO NOT SETTLE. * STANDARDS - Truthful. I don’t have time for a lying man who can’t keep promises. Two strikes, you’re out. - Loving and caring. I will not waste my time and emotion on a man who is self centered, cold, and distant. He can be this way outside of a relationship. But he must be willing to show love properly inside of it. - Protective instinct. If he senses something is wrong but refuses to protect me/act on his instinct That could put me in a negative situation. Plus, he simply doesn’t deserve me. - Financially stable. I have a high paying job, I have a stable job, I am independent. Though, he should be too. I will not baby any man. He needs to provide for himself as well. - Respectful. You will not treat me with disrespect. I won’t accept it. - Supportive/consistent. I will not accept unstable behavior. You have to be there for me in my worse, and I have to know I can rely on you for almost anything. - Successful. I’m successful, you can be too. I expect you to be. I don’t expect anything less than what I’m worth, so you better be the best version of yourself there is. - Generous. (Time and money.) Must give me proper attention. If I’m putting love and affection into you, you must give the same amount back. Don’t expect more than what you give. - Being cultured, it’s a nice-to-have because there are a lot of people out there who are not necessarily book smart but are very high value…you can learn later on. Understand your worth and value, my loves.

[@estasmagick]

Sis you look amazing, your content is so wholesome and also, can we talk about the weight loss? Share your tips. I love you

[@silinadauda8314]

CONGRATULATIONS Breeny Lee🥂🧚‍♀️🎈🎉You've done so well on your weight loss. You are the best coach💯

[@a.b5625]

The more attention you're getting is a reflection of you..it means you're to bait, available and about...men know who and how to approach set women..some women we instantly know not to bother because we can sense she's not a nonsense person... Water always finds its own level men aren't just out here chasing everything anymore, exclusive women are treated as such by default and all these boundries and standards stuff manifest as "difficult" men do indeed want easy!!! Easy but respectable and respectful

[@amberfreitag42]

I’m just being nice to guys at work and they do lash out at me when I do not sway to their advances and it’s hard to juggle being nice and being professional???

[@jifeak]

That's a hostile working environment. If you can't leave or report them, then stop being nice.

[@Sandrinarhonda]

BREENYYY you look so good 🥰 & I absolutely love you

[@GiaMooore]

Thank you girl! You literally made me realize that all my past relationships were men that didn’t treat me well because I didn’t set boundaries or standards for the type of men I chose! I chose any man due to my circumstances, sadness, loneliness, environment. Now I know I need to pure love into me and set those standards because I am responsible for who and what I allow! All I seen was fu*kery all my life so I truly Appreciated this so much!

[@msalyssamarie]

you have been in your BAG with these latest videos!! these need to be saved & rewatched monthly, weekly for some! 🙌🏽

[@gemfactory904]

Girl you look so good!!! Like you look gorgeous! Keep it up💕👏🏾

[@priyapixi]

Amen sister 🙏🏾🤎👏🏾 high standards avoid low standard experiences.

[@kamrynetia5835]

Breeny you are such a huge blessing may God bless you in amazing ways for being such a helpful amazing person💕

[@shekinahisha8211]

Thanks breeny love your from south Africa 🌍😭💜🙌

[@jodiemiddleton3806]

This message is the TRUTH! 🙌🏼 Shift your paradigm and raise your standards KNOW YOUR WORTH and SIT ON YOUR THROWN 👑💫💖

[@tandikeza2613]

"Some people don't struggle with having standards, they have trouble with ENFORCING these standards when it comes to it." THIS!!!! This whole video describes who I used to be. I was such a people-pleaser till not long ago because I was trying to avoid conflict, and while I know I'm naturally kind, I went overboard...I only ended up hurt but I'm slowly learning to stop and say NO! I stumbled on your videos about a month ago on toxic mothers and I don't think I have ever been more grateful to find a Christian, dark-skinned woman who KNOWS SHE IS A DAMN QUEEN! Been binge-watching your vids since...

[@hiimher6171]

This video needs to be seen by every woman, no matter the age!!! ♥️

[@theinfluentialprincess]

I love your videos. Esp on the soft life one 🤍🤍🤍

[@Jess_ca0605]

Thanks so much for this empowering video! I‘m struggling with leaning on my standards when it comes to work. At work, not just my boss but even my co workers know they can push me around and I will accept it. I’m working on putting an end to this 🙏🏼❤️

[@Chubbyblossoms]

Thank you sm for this maam, its women like you that motivate young girls like us to know the value and respect we deserve an we should give ourselves..... very much appreciated

[@nawhatererr]

Totally agree with wandering eye, cheating. I have seen horrid stuff and I could never accept it

[@inala_hlatywayo]

I miss you… hmmmmmm Breeny… hope you’re good girl ❤

[@cornelia4816]

Please can you do a video for teen girls? I love all your videos😊

[@gracedaniel5049]

Thank you Breeny for reinforcing this message. We are going for God's best for us and like you mentioned "practice, practice, practice".

[@shellyj9809]

Girllll Ur lil DJ Khalid! Another 1👍🏾 keep up the inspiration it’s a good look

[@No_Ordinary_Jane]

One of my favorite inspirational KZbinrs! Love your content, Breeny!!

[@victoriawinn4442]

Preacher Sis! I'm almost 56 and still learning life lessons..

[@vanessachandler9235]

Thank you for this message!! A lot of this resonated. I want to encourage myself and others to be very gentle with yourself as you embody these learning lessons. I know for me it can be easy to look at past decisions with a sense of shame or guilt for not making a better decision. Self forgiveness is a beautiful thing along this journey! So I’ll be forgiving myself for past “mistakes” that I made in previous relationships and moving forward with a sense of compassion and understanding, while also standing in my truth and trying my best to make better decisions. Thank you again Breeny!

[@Joy_LaFaye]

👏🏾🔥👏🏾My God!! Target or Louie V!?! Great analogy!!! Another great video!!! Sharing this with my daughters!! Thanks soo so much!!!

[@SonyaCai]

Yes. Nice means nothing. I'd rather be respected.

[@Surrender9-5-24]

I’ve literally been binge watching Breeny Lee all day while at work 😂😂😂

[@Priya_B]

My value beyond my appearance; is it LV or Primark? Best analogy I’ve heard today.

[@leas6817]

Wow..this video was a full course ! Loved it. I'm gonna watch it more times and make some notes..you're awesome..thank you for making these and helping us grow❤

[@QueenOyinkan]

This is sooo true! & we see you slimming down girlll💖💖

[@solvetcag4801]

Breeny, I appreciate you so much. I love your videos and what you're doing with this channel. I feel like you're a big sister to a lot of your subscribers (including me!). Thank you so much for your work Queen!

[@roslynjones5886]

You really explained boundaries and standards perfectly!!!! I have to pass this video on to some women who need to hear it. Thanks

[@hiimher6171]

You look stunning Breeny. 😍

[@amberfreitag42]

I’m glad that you said that that is flirting ok with other people because I get jealous when the guy I like flirts with other people but I flirt with other people so I have to combat those feelings because there is a difference between flirting and hitting on??

[@Sandrinarhonda]

Isn’t that the same thing , one is just more direct

[@Coreisus]

Lol. Don't flirt with others if you're in a relationship. So stupid. Idk what's wrong with my generation to think that this is okay. Our parents weren't like this. To them it was a big deal and often a sign of adultery.

[@Sandrinarhonda]

@@Coreisus exactly