how I finally made peace with being single...and stopped dating.

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[@cariellee8928]

I made peace with being alone and single by focusing on self-care, doing things that I like alone, reading, and journaling. Do things that you enjoyed doing when you were a kid i.e. dancing around the house, watching cartoons, cooking something that you always wanted to make. Find a project to work on. Learn something new. Just don’t sit around being negative. Breeny, I definitely feel you on dating and protecting your heart.

Cartoons are cool😎😃

[@kamifearlessoul122]

I am definitely on the same page 🙌plus getting closer to God-finally my spiritual life is alive ❤️🙏not seeking validation in others ..thank you for that podcast 🖐

[@kimberlywilliams4964]

Sis I love this and great idea about doing the things I loved as a kid

[@christinewarren8134]

@Cohiba Night yessssss

[@maggiedivine4856]

My mental health is so much better since I accepted to be single and enjoy life. I travelled to Martinique and I met great people and I had a fling… that was great! I love my life ♥️

[@MsChristianr]

" I want an arranged marriage, I want God to arrange my marriage." Wheeeeewwww that was a word🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@montserrattorresnadal5087]

🤪 me too!

[@djpotpourre10]

Yessss!! That’s a sermon! 😂🙌🏾

[@MsChristianr]

@@djpotpourre10 yes it was🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@beeaboutabbabusiness8738]

I have been waiting for it to come to pass ,going in to the 7th year l would ask God before l went on a date with a guy & this approach has helped me to guard my heart.l can count on one hand how many dates, l have been on in this wait

[@highlycreativedigital5472]

God will review you to his sons when you ladies are prepared to be their wives. we know wives when we see them. just prepare y'all selfs. Serve the men you respect in your life now. Your dad's, brothers, uncle or step dad. Practice with them. Your husband will observe the way you treat the men in your family or circle and evaluate how you would treat him in your future. So just get ready and he will find you

[@SheilaTrueLove]

Society wants people to feel that if they are not married that something must be wrong with them, but I think something is wrong with people who are willing to put up with ABUSE and who choose DRAMA over PEACE.

[@robin-suenicholas9207]

But how do you keep your self worth strong as a woman when society places these pressures on us? I always feel like people think something must be wrong with you.

[@brendabryant4687]

RIGHT! If a woman is not married something is wrong, if a man is not married he is celebrated

@Brenda Bryant exactly!!! I'm done with that shit

[@jessicat2304]

I literally said yes to a proposal even though I knew deep down I wasn’t ultimately happy. FhT engagement has since ended. I believe God ripped it out of my hands

[@lmcneillify]

I am married and I have peace and companionship. Why are y'all brainwashed to think every long marriage is miserable? Alot of pp are happy

[@mytripinlove867]

I have felt like there must be something wrong with me because I have been "single" for 8 years. My ex-husband married right about 6 months after our divorce and is still married to their partner. Now, after having been through 4 different long term relationships, I've finally come to realize that I am capable of doing life on my own. I would love to have a man in my life, but I don't want to continue to settle for someone who doesn't want me the way I want them. Now is the time to truly be single, and discover what brings me joy.

[@OfficalMeesha]

I feel like as women we need to make “dating ourselves” a thing. Really staying single for a significant amount of time, building self love, and focusing on our goals. It’s time to fill our own cups ❤️ that goes with friendships as well. I’m at a place where I’d rather be alone than around a group. Not saying that I won’t link with friends here and there but the self love journey is something I need to get comfortable with. Setting health/skin care routines, developing healthy habits, getting rid of toxic habits/traits, journaling, reading books, praying, meditating etc. It’s a slow process but I love that God has brought me to this chapter of my life ❤️🙏🏾

[@officialwatchamber]

ALLLLLLLLL OF THIS 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@carolinekelly8481]

I’m loving it! My life is bliss & I spoil myself all the time & I do what makes me happy 😃 next chapter I’m buying an apartment by the sea 🌊

[@gabrielasilva3561]

I've been single my whole life, I think that's enough

[@sharonganze2436]

Thank you so much for sharing your comment

[@ladykeiaj]

Yes ma’am ❤🎉

[@strawberrypancakes2438]

If he starts treating me like shit, I'm gone. I don't care how old I am or if I hit the "wall". Rather be alone than be disrespected.

[@saraben4598]

Thank you Breeny, I needed this… I got married in September of 2021, but we separated in December. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself because of how short it was, but I couldn’t stay with him in anymore. I’m actually working on myself and healing my heart, my mind and my spirituality. Not dating or talking to men, and to be honest I’m happier than ever and I look even better, everybody in my entourage noticed it. Thank you again Breeny, God bless you ♥️

[@lm5608]

Sending you so much love and strength. You have got this. Dont feel ashamed, ever. Keep your head high and always choose yourself✨ Take care and much love.

[@annapuczyowska8772]

Sending you good thoughts Sara 🙌🧘‍♀️

[@saraben4598]

Thank you very much 🙏🏼♥️

[@msiryn9151]

Don’t feel ashamed , life and experiences are different for every one . It’s ur story to own and one day u will teach your children what you learnt in that . Iknow an old woman that hates the fact that she stayed in a bad marriage even when her children always asked her to leave. They love her as a mother but feel some type of way for her poor decisions. Sending u lots of love ❤️u r okay , ur choices are u r own , ur one of ur own kind . The world is beautiful with u in it and all ur Experiences.

[@sassy741321]

Just be glad you’ve realized he wasn’t the one this early! Wishing you love and light

[@standfaye1612]

You can be in a relationship now and still feel single. If you are single and reading this: be thankful for this time and make the most of it. Shower yourself with so much love and attention, nobody knows how to love you as much as you do ❤

[@carolinekelly8481]

🥰💯

[@user-dr7bx3uo6z]

Broken, abused people are incapable of showering themselves with love and attention!

[@SheilaTrueLove]

Being SINGLE is BETTER because it's so much EASIER. S.I.N.G.L.E stands for “STRESS IS NOW GONE LIFE'S EASIER”. I have NOTHING but PEACE, FREEDOM, JOY, NO MORE ACCELERATED AGING or ARGUMENTS, you don't have to put up with anyone's MOOD SWINGS and ATTITUDES, I can SPEND my MONEY as I see fit, my HOME STAYS CLEAN, and I have so much more to be GRATEFUL for. Let me tell you what I LOVE the most...You don't have to do ANYTHING you DON'T FEEL like doing....I really ENJOY Dating, but getting MARRIED again, that ain't happening. Thank you Jesus....lol, lol... Life's GOOD now, it doesn't get any better than this for me. I know being SINGLE isn’t for EVERYONE because some people LOVE DRAMA, DYSFUNCTION, ABUSE, ARGUING, FUSSING, FIGHTING and CHAOS, but I’m NOT her. Drama, Diseases, Dysfunction and Dehumanization is what happens when you date these days.

[@Melly16yr10]

Thanks for the insight 😄

Amen ❤

[@unapologeticella4540]

Amen🙏🏽Im getting ready to leave a toxic relationship and go to a women's Christian shelter in Florida for 3 months I'm so nervous and this made me feel better I will write it down in my journal thank you please pray for me🙏🏽💙

❤❤❤❤

[@SweetStardom]

Heavy on the HOUSE STAYS CLEAN‼️🙌🏾 it’s almost been a year since my divorce and my house has been in the best condition these lasts months since years 😂💯 My migraines are gone too. I use to have them daily and now I know the reason

[@lilyb5310]

Reading the comments, I get the impression a lot of us have lost ourselves to some degree in 2021. I just got out of a toxic relationship, and I'm so happy to see this community with you growing together! THIS IS OUR YEAR!

[@miasministry07]

Amen

[@alaziaklexos]

I just got out of a toxic relationship too. I'm trying to adjust to being alone, regain myself and develop self love this year. Good luck on your journey 💜

[@montserrattorresnadal5087]

Yessss!! ☺️👏🏻❤️

Just got out of mine too

[@officialwatchamber]

AMEN 🙏🏼

[@utahnnajones598]

Guilty!!! Single an still entertaining situationships, but the choice I made today was to walk this journey of mine alone and learn healthier habits to healing my soul. Thank you bree

[@phutiyulandah8652]

Goodluck sister..much love for you😍😍

[@flexaeona]

Yasss

[@maceyr.6583]

Same! We can do it! :)

[@tre_4]

@@maceyr.6583 , Did You Accomplish It ?

[@flourishwithzel]

I needed to hear this. I've been feeling lonely and jealous seeing my friends getting married or just found their person, so I compare and ask why the person for me isn't here yet. :( Been single for 5 yrs, I'm now 32. I can relate to you on everything. Im using dating apps but something really feels off to me using it, it's always just ends at talking stage. God also tells me I can't find him on dating apps. Thank you for this timely reminder that I don't need to rush, and only God can truly satisfy me. ❤

[@luvvirgo001]

I’m in the same boat! Dating apps aren’t for me well that’s what I think. And I’m the single 1 in my group of friends, I do get frustrated because I’m still single and I’ve done so much work on myself 😢 I can’t wait till it’s our turn!

[@yannapositive]

I realised that I can't control another person, and how they feel, but I can control me. I gave over that control to God. If it will be, it will be

[@ariahlea1186]

That's so powerful! I love it. God bless

[@teeahtate]

Yes.

[@Elizabeth-ef2mm]

My last breakup left me in the pit of despair, I was suicidal. He left me a few days before Christmas, knowing that I would be alone for the holidays. I had my first panic attack last week, followed by 2 more, ended up in the ER. I’m 42 and I have spent half of my life trying to meet, keep and maintain relationships with men that leave me broken hearted in the end. Finally learned my lesson. I’m done. I just don’t have it in me anymore. Asking God to heal my mind, soul and spirit. Hugs to all the ladies who have been hurt, used and betrayed by men. We can take our power back by loving ourselves ❤

[@love_mm4148]

Omg, i thought i was the only one obsessing about men and their attention. I was talking to a guy who wasn’t even my type and who didn’t have his life together, but i stayed cause i was loving the attention. Now i got my heartbroken and im so embarrassed. Thank you breeny, for sayin the thing i secretly kinda knew but wasn’t accepting ❤️

[@genesismiles6270]

Your definitely not alone God is watching over you and will protect you. It will get better I went thought this and was so hurt by it. I got pregnant by the guy and he didn’t want the baby. It hurt a lot but I knew I had to keep moving forward. I thank God for the truth. I will definitely learn and it will never happen again

[@love_mm4148]

@@genesismiles6270 aww🥺 you got this ❤️

[@genesismiles6270]

@@love_mm4148 you do too God got us it’s ok really things will get better

[@reflections4me]

One way is to concentrate in other endeavors. And just stop talking about relationships, marriage or having partners or boyfriend. Just let’s stop being Boy crazy. I am married and I can actually say it is not a badge of honor. And actually enjoy life.

[@Machelle3200]

Exactly..I see most men...especially the ones here in America as burdens...smfh.

[@sbusisiweshaba1715]

That's what I'm trying to do, just to enjoy life as me.

[@yzma6142]

It’s hard to focus on my other endeavours when everything has been shut down due to this gottdam pandemic 😭

[@crystalo8603]

@@yzma6142 right! I want to solo travel. But I’m afraid of flying right now. Mind you, I got Covid before and I don’t want to get stuck anywhere or just go through that again.

[@yzma6142]

@@crystalo8603 same here, it's not worth the risk! we just have to wait it out at this point 😩

[@Ruby-kr6fh]

Never struggled with male worship or marriage/relationship idolatry - I think I have struggled with the opposite. Hyper independence and emotional distance, viewing romantic relationships as a distraction or accessory to life rather than something that can bring comfort, love, value, and actually help me get closer to my goals. I'm very familiar with being single, I feel like it's my default, and I know "how" to be single in a sense. I know how to enjoy my life, friendships, pursue goals, etc. without a romantic partner. I have been doing it for years. But I am ready to be in a mature relationship now. I'm not DESPERATE to be in one, but I am ready and waiting. I feel like I have paid my dues.

[@astoldbyvictoria]

Really good point of view-I can relate! Gods plan is the best ❤️

[@ChanelROETV]

That’s the way to go! This is definitely God’s ideal plan for us. Idolatry of any form is immoral

[@dvmn444]

Same here

[@ULuvJanae]

But it’s so hard, Breeny 😩 I’m 25 and I’ve never been in a relationship. Covid has made it so hard to meet and mingle with people. Dating apps seem fake and everyone just wants to dump their frustrations on to you. Or hurt you before they get hurt. I want to experience real intimacy with another person and it’s so hard. I get so lonely.

[@kwameopoku3576]

Get a pet or start trading

[@worldwide2358]

some of us have been single for 8 years, I nolonger know what kiss or hug a different gender is like. the mistake I did in my life was dating it brought a lot of negatives than positives

[@dior-fh7gf]

damn ive been single since 7 years, nice to know that there are more of us

[@HarajukuNingyou]

Me too! But now I have my cats to cuddle ^^ Better single for a long time than being in an unhealthy relationship though!

[@anissa2361]

I've been single my whole life. I'll be 23 tomorrow.

[@soleil4124]

@@anissa2361 Ha, try 31. Weird when most people around my age have experienced love and have had sex.

[@worldwide2358]

@@anissa2361 i hope you enjoyed your birthday 🎉

[@Machelle3200]

GOD and SELF are the only people anyone can really count on period. There's no such thing as "happily ever after"..It is what it is. Women need to accept that and move on. And most men aren't worthy of your company anyway. Peace and Blessings.😇😇😇

Facts upon facts I'm so done with these fools

[@Lifeisfun84]

Oef! sounds bitter…..

[@beautyngracebydesign]

Exact same thing for me too…it’s me and Jesus Christ only going forward. Him and I. Anybody else, no thanks. ✌🏾

[@anonamous6320]

Exactly. Most men can barely afford bus fare and aren’t very nice people. The harsh truth is women are better off alone most of the time.

[@anonamous6320]

@@Lifeisfun84 Sounds truthful to me

Thank you Breeny! I have declared 2022 as my year of BEING SINGLE. No dating. No looking. Just focussing on me, what I want to do, what my interests are, loving myself and dating myself. I was a PICK ME girl too - saying yes JUST BECAUSE a man is asking!! DECIDING to be single feels like such a weight lifted off my shoulders because I was the girl who is always looking. So now that my brain knows not to look I can focus on other things - things I want to focus on. I am learning about myself, what I like, my past childhood traumas that have lead me to this day and I'm doing the work FOR ME so I can give myself the love I have been searching for. Sending love

[@Sunshine-co8vf]

I love this 🦋

[@colleenmariet]

Girl, I am sick being single. I genuinely haven’t been single since 16 and I’m 32 now. I love this video came on time especially for the new year. Turning to God to be my man, being a good mom and a prosperous KZbinr. In His name, amen. Best to you Breeny

[@ReenelT]

@@mufasahm8238 lol, you got me rolling

[@shutit4024]

God’s our dad 😑

[@shutit4024]

@@ReenelT same it’s true though lol

[@rhondacharles3683]

He said that He is the I am that I am. This means that he can be your loving father and your loving husband as well.

[@caesarx8139]

@@rhondacharles3683 Is that what "I am that I am" means, or is that your interpretation? There's a big difference....

[@bernicemaune2138]

The journey to being enough for yourself is a never-ending one. It's not a one-stop or place you revisit when you're down and out. It's about filling your cup over and over and overflowing so that whatever you share with who you want isn't depleted.

[@NissaTheGamer]

I finally stopped dating altogether two months ago after a big heart break from a casual relationship and I have been SO AT PEACE! I just needed a break and got tired of men treating me like shit over and over again. I feel whole and comfortable being by myself. Happy even! 😊❤ I get to heal as long as I want before going back into dating. It took me a while to get here but thank God that I made it to this point. 🙌🏾❤

[@kaoshi_kutie]

Same here! Well done sis 👏🏼❤️👸🏼

[@NissaTheGamer]

@@kaoshi_kutie We got this! ❤❤❤

[@stanceynkgowe2709]

I am going through the same. I am healing from an unexpected break up. It hurts for real, other days I relapse. I am trusting God to heal me from this pain

[@NissaTheGamer]

@@stanceynkgowe2709 You'll be fully healed eventually! ❤❤❤❤

[@stanceynkgowe2709]

@@NissaTheGamer thank you love. Still on the healing process

[@MIA-gz9hc]

She looks so pure and pretty 😍🤍

[@orubek355]

Really nice skin!

[@zinzile_7]

“You need to get busy” I felt that 🔥🤌🏽

[@orubek355]

But how?

[@lovemanier.6172]

@@orubek355 that! Is my same question, cuz at the end of the day I lay down to sleep but my thoughts keeps me awake.

@Orube K Go back to school, work on your body goals, take yourself to dinner, paint and sip events. Get busy catering to YOU 👑💕☀️

@LoveManie R. Go back to school, work on your body goals, take yourself to dinner, paint and sip events. Get busy catering to YOU 👑💕☀️

Travel, start a mini business, go to the library, learn to cook some new meals, rearrange your wardrobe, home, learn YOU

I feel we are all going through the same thing ❤️ happy I know I’m not alone

[@lightbeaming]

What a time to come out with this video. Its been 6 months of my break up but i was talking on and off with my ex. Yesterday I told him this is unfair to us we can not stay friends when all i see was our relationship. So completely cut ties now and healing properly like we deserve.

[@madizen6312]

I love this, I recently found God telling me to be purposefully single for at least 2 years (I've been through a divorce and a broken engagement now) and grow in my relationship with HIM. I don't entertain any guys right now and I'm focusing on my faith and goals. Focusing on how God loves!! 💖

[@itsyagirlashleytv]

The “I just need someone to hold me and hug meeeee” at 7:30 hahahaha I felt that 🤣🤣🤣😩 I just deleted all of my dating apps. I’m over it and no more heart breaks are left in me either sis

[@mybrwnisbeautifulhin1165]

I’m single single. Finally got the courage to cut off all my woes since I know it would lead to nothing. It’s tough, I can’t lie. Scary a bit because I do worry if I will be single forever. So thanks for this video, it was right on time.

[@montserrattorresnadal5087]

It is REALLY scary ! 😞❤️😅

[@unapologeticella4540]

Im about to end a toxic relationship with the help of Christian refugee for women in FL and I'm so scared they send me a zoom meeting and my self image is so bad that I don't want to do a zoom meeting I look so tired like I havent slept in months years please pray for me so I have the courage to leave and get the help I need 💙

[@unapologeticella4540]

@@montserrattorresnadal5087 I'm getting ready to leave and I'm so scared please pray for me

[@montserrattorresnadal5087]

@@unapologeticella4540 You can do this !

[@FullyLovingYourself]

Love your transparency so much. This level of vulnerability makes me feel comfortable with myself and my own feelings and experiences.

[@nicksmith-cx1fx]

There is only one person in this world who can make you happy and that person is you. Treat yourself in a kind compassionate manner. There is also no shame in wanting to be in a relationship or wanting to get married, it's a worthy goal to have. If you want to be in a relationship then work towards it, take action steps to realize this goal. Faith without works is dead. Prioritize what is important to you in life.

[@maddyharvey7414]

Thank you for this. I’m currently the only single one in my friend group and as I’m getting older it’s been bugging me more than usual. I need to refocus and remember that I will find my person when the time is right.

[@Coastpsych_fi99]

I'm so glad you've finally recognised this in yourself, and happy for you. Love being single at 24 and I cannot see that changing unless I someone AMAZING falls into lap. Being desperate for any relationship is a quick way to end up mistreated and seriously unhappy... not to mention ruining your life. There is a peace of mind and beauty to being alone and learning to develop on your own without a partner. Learn to take care of yourself, finding community, hobbies and self-care. Learning to love being single (and single) is a form of self-love that enables people to walk away from those that are not good for you.

Such a good video. I’ve idolized marriage my entire life. I just realized it. I too didn’t feel safe and wanted in childhood. My Mom was emotionally, mentally & spiritually abusive. Since I was 16, I felt that if I could get married, I would then have a best friend and someone who could unconditionally love me forever and I would then be chosen. 🥺 sad. I went on to date 7 guys from age 18-30 and ended up breaking hearts and my own. I’m back in therapy and learning how to be alone and not be codependent. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@be_you_tiful]

I have experienced the same in my childhood, feeling neglected etc. Honestly I understand the root of it all and the only healing for me ( have been healing for 2 years ) for me left is to trust myself and let go of the control when it comes to men. It goes hand in hand with self love. I am just scared to pick the wrong man and I don't want to waste time with a man. I want to know how to heal from this.. because I do want to rise the level of my intuïtion 😔 I totally understand you Breeny ❤❤ maybe I need to surrender to God once again.

[@babyshooz]

I relate to this!

[@AmerieFanbase]

This world is not safe. Single 4 Life 🤲🏾❤️

Loved this video Breeny, you’re always spitting gems❤️ I just wanted to also remind you ladies that the bible says “a man who finds a wife, finds a good thing” (Proverbs 18:22) which means that we do not have to go out looking for our husband. When our husbands finds us we will know. I pray this blesses someone.

[@caesarx8139]

@Lynda Seme. Although I understand your sentiments by referencing Proverbs 18:22, a lot people (especially Women) misunderstand it. Proverbs 18:22 only applies to girls/women who are actually raised to be a Wifes.

@caesar X Yes, I get your point, and not every woman has had that privilege of being raised to be a wife , so I guess this goes back to Breeny's point of us women preparing ourselves to be the wives that our husbands will find.

[@caesarx8139]

@Lynda Seme My dear, you cannot "prepare yourself" to be a Wife if you don't know what a Wife is. That's self deceit.

@caesar X Okie dokes x

[@jamiew.6606]

So funny that you mention this, and the fact that you have been single single for 4 months! Just recently decided that I want to focus on myself and deleted all dating apps and am giving myself until May to see how I feel being single single and not entertaining any men. Pray for me please cuz I can't lie... I like the attention. * cries internally *

[@reganhill5510]

I'm completely single 100%! I've made peace with the solo lifestyle and finally enjoying it. It takes a lot of selfcare. I appreciate videos like these very much! I'm 46 years old and have everything i need for a good life. No more men. No more dating!

[@jadellm.1222]

Get a relationship with God instead of men His LOVE is like no other, no man, no pet, no success, no NOTHING can amount to the love He gives❤🙏🏾 He will guide u in the life, chile a relationship with God will be so strong (if you're willing) that a man will be the last thing on your mind, TRUST!

[@chesneectp]

I almost have 3 kids and I'm more at peace being a single mother than dealing with their dad!! Call me crazy but a no good partner will make you feel like you're ready for the grave

[@Peacefullife0404]

😂😂😂😂I’m a Mom of three :) how is it going on! For me being single gave me a chance to dream to hope to be better a Me to be happy in life

[@audreyk.u]

Thank you soooo much for your vulnerability Breeny!! It’s crazy how much this applies to me! I believe that God is using you to really speak to this issue as many women face it. This is a lesson that God has been teaching me as well! I pray to break every idol of romantic love, as well as idolatry of men, over every person watching this video including myself and Breeny, in the name of Jesus! A verse that the Holy Spirit gave me is this: Matthew 9:22, “But Jesus turned him about, and when he saw her, he said, Daughter, be of good comfort; thy faith hath made thee whole. And the woman was made whole from that hour.” God bless! x

[@latunahtarea4453]

For me i realized that i was dating the same guy in a different body, i also figured that i was dating for the wrong reasons i wanted so badly to get the guys to stay in my life because somehow i couldnt get the man who was supposed to be my father stay. i didnt even realize my worth but now i am all about myself, i am working so hard to reach my dream and i am falling so deeply in love with myself

[@thelifecoachclaudia5335]

This is such a great topic Breeny! We must learned to enjoy being alone with ourselves first before we can truly enjoy sharing ourselves with others. Some men and women are so use to being in a relationship back to back and never give themselves Time to reflect and get to know themselves better.

[@egyptian1303]

Breeny, this came at the time that I needed and I truly felt like I heard some things I needed to hear. thank you so much 💛 please continue to work hard, I'm so grateful for your vulnerability and example

[@mzswaggac13]

Love this video Breeny! Needed to hear it. So relatable for me at the time. Going to enjoy my singleness at the age of 23 and I pray that my husband will find me one day. Cannot wait to see more of your content this year.

[@lindybright1938]

I’m honestly really happy for you and that you’re happy! It’s a great place to be! I’ve been single single for 3 years and it’s been 6 years since I’ve been in a relationship. I’ve been sooooo happy!! I’ve never felt this way, and I just want it to continue. I believe we all have a finite amount of emotional energy to give and mine has run out, at least for now. I gave and gave so much for 20 years and now I feel like I need to spend that amount of time on myself, because it was always about pleasing the men in my life and it was so exhausting. Wishing you the best on the new-found journey! You’re going to love it!

[@uriahjenkins4548]

I haven't watched your videos in a while. The last time I watched your videos was 2019. And there's just something so beautiful about you now. Not that you weren't beautiful. You just look so at peace so radiant so powerful. I don't know it's just your energy, it's wow, I literally lack the words to describe your aura and what you're radiating. Anyway great video good to see you looking the way you are ♥️

[@d-lou5069]

Every individual needs a time with God alone. He's molding you in that time and preparing your character for your Purpose. To be in the wilderness is not easy but it is worth it. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and be obedient in order to live a life of favour.

I just discovered your channel two days ago. I recently ended a relationship and you are truly speaking to me! It’s so nice to hear that I’m not alone in my feelings 💕 great content!

[@tryingtolivejoy3237]

I’m on my self-love and being alone single journey. Thank you for this video and your truth. I love you and the work you are sharing. I really appreciate all you do and stand for. You are touching my heart by helping me heal. ❤️

[@aishahebraheim9367]

You are truly the best mentor anyone can have. I’ve been watching your videos from a long time ago and with each new upload I watch I feel like I’m elevating and knowing more about how to carry myself. Thank you so much Breeny❤️

[@AREEONTHEDON]

15:55 I’m weakkkkkkkkk I REWIND This part 10x😭😭😭😭😭😭 your absolutely right I’m 22. I never had a real relationship in my school days, it kinda hurts to be alone at times. But, I’m blessed my KZbin just hit 1k. I do eyelash extensions, acrylic nails plus i make pressons. I’m in school for business. I manifest writing my goals in my Journal. I’m content mostly everyday its just those lonely days that hit hard. :( especially when you don’t have friends and you’re single its hard.

[@bongiweqilishane4379]

I'm in the same situation .I sometimes feel lonely to.I am learning how to accept my singleness

[@AREEONTHEDON]

@@bongiweqilishane4379 thats right. You have to be happy with yourself first before you can love someone else.

This is one of the most honest videos I’ve ever seen, that’s so real and honest about singleness. Thank you so much for the upload.

[@rxthlela]

Thank you so much Breeny for this! It’s so encouraging to hear these things! I am currently going through healing as I just broke up with the man of my dreams, the man I believed was my husband! So right now, I am trying to rewire and reset my brain to change those beliefs so I can truly move on! And I am longing for the day where I can be completely healed, emotionally free and detached from him. This video has reminded me that there is hope. That I will eventually move on from this and be the best that I can be. In the meantime, focusing on my goals and dreams and allowing God to fill me up and trust him in this without me trying to look for anyone else. And honestly now, I don’t have appetite for anyone or talking to anyone. But thank you so much for these videos! They are really changing life sis! Keep it up xx

[@oluwatosino.4707]

Breeny, I love that you've been so blunt honest in your recent videos. God will heal you completely and reward you in his perfect time for blessing us with your story ❤️❤️

[@Vanessaa.delorme]

This is amazing confirmation for me I just left church and my pastor’s sermon was based on Idolatry and I had a revelation that I put the thought of marriage and men before God too😔. And you’re 100% right I trust God with my career my finances and he has blessed me beyond abundance but I left him out my love life and dealt with a lot of consequences! I love that you share your testimony so transparently I’m in this season of my life drawing closer to God and I’m anticipating what he reveals

[@calistaj2284]

There's this quote that says, "good things come to those that wait". You have inspired me to keep waiting for the right one because God has created a special person for everyone but also that it's not all that bad being single.

[@brielle8772]

Agree with you 1000% about filling up your time. Sometimes we focus on certain things simply because we have too much time to think about them. Also curating your social media to show less relationship/couples content has helped me.

[@dajuanparker14]

Sis so much growth 🥰.. I am so proud of you.. I am with you every step of the way.. we are learning together 🙏🏾..

[@livinginroyalty]

First of all I LOVE Tiffany! She shares so much wisdom on spiritual warfare. Praying for you on your journey, keep me in your prayers as well sis 💖

[@justme-yj6ck]

Well i was single for 3 years and am still single and tbh it was hard to be happy because everyone around me was dating but once i stopped having that illusion of putting my happiness on to my invisible mr right i started being truly happy❤

[@FK-zp2fp]

I’m guilty I’ve been “single” Since 2019 but wasting my time entertaining 😂🤦🏽‍♀️ I say it every week, ‘this is it no more talking to guys’ and then along comes Tom, Dick and Harry.

[@naomiquan502]

Same !! ❤️ I listened to your older videos when I needed that advice. And this is exactly where I am also in this journey! When I saw your suggestion pop up and I read the caption I was like “ ey!! Look breeny arrived here with me !” Continue on the upward path, toward your purpose and living as the woman God created you to be ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🖖🏾 thank you for your transparency and honesty! God bless you Breeny !

[@yannapositive]

Welcome to the club of single and content! I absolutely relate to these phases

[@demimiller794]

That video you mentioned really allowed expansion within my thinking to take place. I do idolize men and marriage. I've got a lot to work on. So grateful for platforms like these that also recommend other channels for perspective, introspection and reflection.

[@motunaiya]

This was EVERYTHING!!! The transparency was just what we needed!!!

[@anointedfireofficial]

Absolutely honored! God bless you, beautiful lady!

[@brandypelham9907]

thank you for this message Breeny! it’s been since August 2020 for me…totally talking to no one. and spending time with God. it’s been amazing…

You inspired me to be myself, focus and now a KZbinr. You are truly changing lives.

The healing in your videos is amazing ❤️

[@Chaptersaudio]

11:40 Same here. I can't remember the last time I was on a dating app. So much of our lives these days is spent online, on social media, watching videos, TV or movies, ordering food, listening to music, hobbies, working, getting our news, socializing, worship services, even therapy, etc etc.... The art of simply talking to someone in real life, sitting with them, looking them in the eyes, walking, breathing in the same air....it is slipping away from us. I only talk to men that approach me when I am out and about.

[@gottalovepink123]

I love that you are always transparent about your faith. thanks breeny

[@tiffytiffamanda1217]

Sometimes you are content until someone says something to you... You be going about drinking your water, minding your business, and being content, but mother, grandmother, and all the aunties have to mention that you are "still" single. I also deeply resonate with what you said about not wanting to be on dating apps. I have tried them and I genuinely don't like them and that is honestly not how I want to meet my husband. Thank you for your message today :)

[@okayDei.n]

Is it wrong to say, We need a makeup tutotial because your makeup always looks so good.

[@Melly16yr10]

Good idea 😊

[@VintageAfro91]

I found your channel yesterday and it's a breath of fresh air! It took me YEARS to really see why being content with our own company is so important to master before jumping into a relationship.

[@djpotpourre10]

BRENNY!! This is why I love your channel, I feel like we have so much in common and go through things on a similar timeline. I have been single and celibate since October and not for lack of guys trying, but I changed my focus from “I want someone tall and faithful, no more narcs,” to “I want God to break my spiritual ties with the former men in my life and to heal me in the valley…and to have a standard of a man that believes in and is lead by you and believes Jesus is Lord first and foremost, but help me to release the things that aren’t making me available to the good things you want to give me.” I have just been focusing on bettering myself, stopped doing things the same way expecting different results, don’t even like some of the same things, and don’t allow people to waste my time, or waste anyone else’s. I love it here. I find contentment in Him and I know all good gifts come from Him so I don’t need to go looking for it out of broken desperation. Hallelujah! Thank you for these videos and for your transparency! 💙🙏🏾

[@cyntoriathornburg2209]

Thank you so much I just want to let you know that you're videos helped me out with my break up with my ex and you helped me through my grief process and I found your videos last year on KZbin

Breeny I’m so here for this girl !! You inspire me so much. Definitely needed to hear this girl.

[@Isabelle-nh1mz]

Thank you Breeny. This arrived in perfect timing. I have very recently decided to end a two year relationship with my ex. Long story short, we both wanted different things. I wanted a long term and committed relationship, for someone to grow and develop with etc. For him, he was too busy for me and didn't understand the concept of a healthy balanced relationship. In other words, he wanted a long term relationship but wasn't willing to put the work in towards it . At the moment I feel guilt and sadness that I hurt his feelings by ending things. I am also hurt that he wasn't who he said he was from the beginning and the fact that because he's so busy he is easily able to move on so fast... I respect and care about him. It's just a shame that it's come to this outcome. However I am willing to focus more on my self,social life, fitness, being surrounded by loved ones including travelling more overseas ✨

Hi Breeny, thank you so much for speaking on this. My mind has been going crazy with this one thought in my head and I’ve been trying to work on it but it definitely is an obsession and I need to focus on myself truly.

[@larritabryant3246]

Wow wow wow! This was an on time message for where I'm currently at in my life. Thank you for sharing!

[@nikkilove6128]

Thanks for sharing your truth Breeny, you're a beauty inside and out ❤

[@nachinowes]

thank you so much breeny!🥰we are definitely on this journey together.

I'm so happy for u that you're at peace Breeny I pray God continues to bless u in ways u can't imagine 🙏🏾🙌

[@sagenosnibor9173]

Anointed Fire is the bomb! She's also hilarious. Two 👍's up for her channel. Love you Breeny!

[@tamisha8577]

I'm fresh out of heartbreaks!!... yes sis! Awesome video as always. Thanks Breeny we love you and your strength! 💕

[@Kayla4217]

I literally have never been obsessed with a relationship or recognized an actual inner desire of love the last four or five years now and that's despite having a few relationships by men who have pursued me and I think the secret to that while cliche is really just learning to love yourself. I really treat my inner self like my best friend who is also "too cool for this party." I find joy in self discovery, self expression, self improvement, and just literally realizing that I have so much depth that can be learned and explored instead of gambling that time away on someone else and potentially walking away with nothing. I see returns on my self investment. With this in mind I treat relationships like an option, like a pit stop of my journey not the goal.

[@kateleighton-boyce1089]

Thankyou, Breeny, it's my 42nd Birthday today, I'm coming into this year with a new attitude and completely with you on this, you speak my language 🥰

[@melenebacosa3903]

Thank you for this video Breenyyyy! I can totally understand and it was eye opener tbh tho it was common that some women have been idolizing men and being in a relationship. I, myself, in that too and I also have deeper issue on that with my mom being widowed (dad got cancer) when I am young that my younger self realized that it was better to have some companion for everything because I can see how it is difficult sometimes for my mom to keep everything for our family. This year of being single, I gotta learn how to be independent, content and strong just like my ma. ❤️

[@sunitaugwuja9367]

Oh man! This is so good God! I really needed this, going to listen over and over and make decisions and just focus on me. Was obsessed with looking at a man and wondering "could he be the one" 😆 still working on it. I really just want to focus on God and myself this year. Thank you big sis ❤

[@Marwonderful]

I love you lol “God I just wanted someone to hold me”…Totally went there today. Been practicing being single and your videos always pick me up when I’m having a low anxious moment.

[@delreylove]

Damn, this opened my eyes!!! No time for any more heartbreaks. Get busy and nourish yourself 😍. Really resonated with your part where you were fooling yourself saying you’re content but looking everywhere 😂😂faking it, it’s so true . Thank you for your words. 2022 I’m making a true commitment to myself , water myself and fill up myself so much with so many amazing things and goals I have planned 😍

[@carolinekelly8481]

This lady is fabulous for showing women how to be in there own power !!! I have 5 daughters who are terrified to be alone without a man & put up with awful behaviour rather then been alone & single ! Fall out with family over men so sad & they think everyone else’s is wrong trying to help them

[@belledelemos9615]

Thank you for transparency so much word and truth.

[@ummzahra9196]

I decided to take a one year break from social media and even men just to get back to me a season of me is what I call it. Getting centered to who I am building my confidence is my biggest goal, working on my crafts, and doing things that benefit me. To stay focused on what is important and not to get distracted. To tell you the truth I have been so happy lately I still have my moments but mood has been better. I went from buying Popeyes sandwiches to making my own version with cauliflower. I’m doing what is best for me and I love it here. Being single is not easy on those cold nights but it’s worth it because my self esteem is becoming whole again.

[@AyannaKay]

This was so needed. Everything you said. From not dating to staying busy. Lately I have been heavy on dating apps.. the guy I was talking to when we broke up he completely stopped talking to me even when I just reach out to see if everything is ok. We had a couple storms over here where I live and I was genuinely concerned. Anywho, I’m deleting these apps and getting busy. God has called me to write and share my journey and truthfully if I was busy doing that, j wouldn’t have time to be excessively worried about dating

[@annapuczyowska8772]

Thanks, i also needed t hear this again and reminded myself again. I think big part of relationship and marriage is so overrated or idealised...i see so many un-free and "un-happy" examples around me, i remmeber how much i idealised being with men some years ago. I feel like i look much more awake or alert now, if i decide for him then with all the flaws. This type of connection can also be amazing and i dont want to be embarassed for wanting it.

[@sjade1]

Came across your video on Tik tok and I genuinely believe God guided me to this. I really needed to here some aspects of this. Some beautifully articulated x