STOP CHASING HIM, HE'S NOT THE ONE!

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[@BreenyLee]

DO Y'ALL AGREE, HAVE YOU EVER SHOT YOUR SHOT AND IT WENT WORST THAN YOU EXPECTED?S A MAN BEING THE PURSUER OUTDATED, SHOULD WOMEN JUST GO FOR WHAT THEY WANT? I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! ❤️❤️❤️

[@lindanagujja2412]

The hair.. the makeup.. the confidence 👌🏼👌🏼good to have you back Breeny👏🏽

[@oyomapedro]

I told him I really liked him and that was the last time I heard from him, my last message was never opened. (Gonna hide this here)

[@magnolia2]

@@lindanagujja2412 Yes she is glowing! This that Revenge Glow Series!👑♥️✨

[@AriaPringle9053]

@@oyomapedro Oh wow!!! Hun that's ok. Girl that's fine there are many more men that would be interested.

[@ShhhGodIsSpeakingThroughMe]

I went after my ex on FB and every time we got into he threw it in my face

[@numbernine3436]

Men are not complicated. He's not investing in you because you're not worth it to him. He's not chasing you because he doesn't want you. He's still entertaining you because you let him. He's not giving you what you want because he's not afraid of losing you. Stop making excuses for why he behaves like he does.

[@NightinGal89]

What if the guy is shy

[@tokyococo6996]

@@NightinGal89 not you making an excuse for men 😂

[@centykaia4450]

This triggered me cause it's the truth.

[@2crazybones]

@@NightinGal89 i still think the same thing applies. If he wants you - he wants you and will make the effort shy or not. This was a good question!!

[@Lisa-bc1qe]

@@tokyococo6996 I know right🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@FantaandDarwin]

A man KNOWS what he wants. When a man wants you, he will pursue you to no end and will be interested in you for who you are. He will genuinely be concerned with your well being. If you have to change yourself for a man or rush the process, he is NOT the one for you! Time tells all! And KNOW YOUR WORTH!

[@BreenyLee]

🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@honeybee6154]

Yes! ❤

[@aaliyahs9594]

💯

[@BebaDivested]

Exactly

[@tikax2085]

Strongly agree

[@FarahY1991]

A woman who chases a man is running away from herself. Trust me ladies been there done that, don't waste the best years of your life!

[@Brina-777]

Goshhhhh, Gurllllll, I can relate, I've been there too I used to do it as a joke, but deep inside, I was fighting demons,

[@FarahY1991]

@@Brina-777 yes I recently went through this. Now I've isolated myself to figure myself out and focus on me. I've learned so much about myself

[@valerieshinia8526]

@@Brina-777 hugs ❤.

[@FarahY1991]

@@Musicology1975 I did and he didn't make any effort. I gave him alot of time, energy and even money. And he wouldn't even take me out on a date (I even asked him out!) And he declined and when he did finally he cancelled over a pathetic reason. So I'm talking from alot of experience. That time, energy and money could have been invested in myself. Lessons learned. Anything running away from you or you have to chase is not meant for you, you shouldn't have to chase someone that wants you back. After a certain point it becomes a joke and you give up. FYI he was chasing hoes and blowing smoke up my ass. Never again lol

[@taijihermosa8724]

😓❤💯

[@TomiwaRodia]

“Value does not beg”… my jaw is on the floor lol that one is going straight to the notes app. You are killing these uploads!! Keep em coming ❤️

[@mayowa1232]

Zac

[@caesarx8139]

@Tomiwa Rodia. Genuine question: what's your Value as a Woman?

[@tzarose]

I felt this part so much.

[@simply2ghetto]

@@caesarx8139 Don't expect an answer. You are in an echo chamber her.

[@cauha12]

To chase a man like hes the prize? Looool no way

[@je39981]

The moment you have to ask yourself "Why does he reply late", "Why isn't he calling often anymore", "Why doesn't he text Good morning or good night", "Why he only texts and barely calls." The 'Why's" are the answer to your question. He's not the one; when he's the one everything will flow effortlessly. It may not be perfect but it won't feel like pulling teeth with a man for him to act right.

[@BebaDivested]

Exactly

[@Abmarp]

Yep

[@emmaganta2545]

Wow i needed this

[@jo355]

Hard truth

[@takudzwadondo1228]

Yes

[@stephanienelly90]

This goes for exclusive relationships too, if he falls back or talks about taking breaks, or being confused, say okay and don’t contact him again. When he’s about to have a stroke from anxiety, he’ll be back but you may already be married with 3 kids.

[@plutonianchild_4702]

This comment is everything. 💯

[@BebaDivested]

Exactly

[@sydneyfoster4271]

lol that's a fact!

[@zeldaopoku1722]

"stroke from anxiety" killed me 🤣🤣😂🤣🤣right!!!

[@hannaxoxo12]

facts! I recently had my partner ask for a month break bc he needs to get himself together and figure things out. It has nothing to do with me according to his words so I said ok and I stepped back. Don't ever beg, plead for someone to include you in there life. Women need to be okay with being focused and alone. We'll see how this month pans out 💀

[@leah3795]

Faith doesn’t worry and value doesn’t beg 👏🏽

[@feyfey8762]

Sis this is gonna be my mantra from now on. Breeny be preaching 🙌🏿

[@kamrynetia5835]

@@feyfey8762 right🔥💯

[@lauraashley1]

222 baby 🙏🏽

[@Qualityproducts1]

Fate actually

[@mohammadwasilliterate8037]

*Overly simplistic, I have seen excellent value get passed over by ignorant or lazy people, I have seen a friend pass up a very high paying job he was very well qualified for despite being broke, him and his wife sat in the dining room of my large beachside home, his wife crying and kicking him under the table as she realized the mistake her broke ass husband made when he rejected my job recommendations a year prior. I have seen people get high value items FOR FREE, and yet they complain as if they over paid, happens often.* 🤣🤣🤣

[@KarrenKora]

aside from the hard hitting facts in this, you’re stunning!

[@alyshax948]

Psalms 56:8🤍

[@lauraashley1]

So beautiful, & femme. A lady 😍👑

[@ee8955]

She is so beautiful 😍😍😍😍😍

[@aminasesay491]

More than stunning. She looks like black barbie 😍😍😍

[@adwoatumtum]

My world colliding with two content creators I watch

[@AriaPringle9053]

I believe men are way more simple than we women realize. The issue is to stop making things out to be what it isn't (Myself of course included). A man that ghosts you, loses interest, doesn't make plans to go out on dates, shows patterns of being inconsistent, then let it go.

[@VaninaElise]

Definitely and we women get so exited over things we shouldn’t and stop really looking into all those deal breakers.

[@CharlesDike-je4zv]

Thank you Aria. 💪

[@missfefeloves]

Right

[@numbernine3436]

A man who is interested will find 5 seconds to text you during the most important meeting of his life. A man who isn't interested won't text you while he's lying on the couch staring at the ceiling.

[@AriaPringle9053]

@@CharlesDike-je4zv You're welcome hun.

[@F0reverblessed]

A man is where HE wants to be. You won’t have to chase the one that is meant for you. A person that wants to talk to you, WILL talk to you. If they want to be with you, WILL be with you. If they want to make things work, WILL make things work. From a self love content creator to another; beautiful video Breeny! ❤️

[@KairoK]

This is a bunch of nonsense. If YOU won't have to chase the one that's meant for you why is it acceptable for HIM to do the chasing? What are YOU doing during this time? Just sitting there? Please, what kind of passiveness are you describing. In this life you go after JOBS, CLOTHES, HOLIDAYS, OPPORTUNITIES etc but the LIFE-LONG partner you want, you don't want to 'chase'? This mentality is killing women out here...quite literally.

[@F0reverblessed]

@@KairoK Thank you for sharing. You seem to have missed my entire point. I am referring to the women that have dated a man and the man no longer seems interested. They SHOULD NOT chase a man that doesn’t put in the effort that she deserves!

[@BebaDivested]

Exactly

[@yungleni2431]

Yes and side note SIS YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL

[@F0reverblessed]

@@yungleni2431 Aw, thank you!!

[@imjesgram]

“Faith does not worry and value doesn’t beg”🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 omg yesss!!

[@tanyawilliams130]

❤ Ameeeeeen 🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@WesleyLindsey]

“When you chase something it’s natural instinct is to run”

[@bak3456]

A man can pursue you for months and once he gets you he can treat you like trash. We need to outgrown this perception that we are ‘preys’ to be hunted especially as adults. Be transparent with your intentions and if they don’t reciprocate move on

[@Tam974eva]

THIS!! I feel like if u go into something with honest intentions and actions and are still able to decipher red flags, that's the best way to find someone who is right for you. And do not settle just bc he is pursuing.

[@msmiami212]

This alpha/femininity talk grates to hear as a feminist tbh. You’re not here to play roles, you’re a person. Just be upfront but also vigilant. Don’t get taken for a mug.

[@flipe125]

@@msmiami212 yea this video is not feminist at all lol

[@missfefeloves]

@@flipe125 feminism is nonsense femininity and hypergamy is the way to go. Dusties like you use feminism as a mask to be weak and not act your role as a man🙄

[@sim771]

@@missfefeloves 🤨🥱 sure. You do realise the reason you are allowed to do things like be on the internet and have an opinion is because of feminism.. the liberation of women under the patriarchal systems of abuse. i'm not a man saying "know your place", i'm saying this as pure facts. There are millions of women around the globe today who are treated like objects and bought and sold like pairs of shoes. So if you're going to speak about feminity and hypergamy, do not for a second confuse it with feminism because they are not equivalent and are not mutually exclusive. Femininity is attributes or aesthetics, feminism is the reason why women are not property and have fundamental rights. If you want a good example, research what Japanese women are fighting right now with protection of young girls and women being abused on subways. Its not the same f*cking thing.

[@abym5048]

That’s why women need to date 4/5 guys at the same time (I’m talking about DATING ladies, not “sleeping around”). Cos we get attached to men too easily. As soon as we start seeing a guy, we get emotionally attached and then it’s difficult to make decisions or step away when things don’t go well. We need to date multiple men and OBSERVE ladies, and see which one of these men does THE MOST for us, and INVESTS the most (time, money and effort). We then need to choose the man that has pursued us the most with his ACTIONS. Not only with his words ladies. Stop dating cheap men that text 24/7 and make no moves.

[@BruceWayne-sh1mj]

@aby m this is poor advice. You should look for genuineness and long term traits, "broke men" can still use a credit card and non broke men could be saving for a trust fund for an unborn child or a house. The man should be willing to invest in a future with both of you in it. He should want to meet your family and integrate into it and visa versa. Dating should have conversations like marriage in it on the first date. You should be looking for compatibility not how much he spends. Effort, money and time will come naturally to a genuine man.

[@a.b5625]

The one that does the most is the one that will expect the most...when the allure of lust and new wears off.

[@smiles9599]

And someone please tell me since most men want sex and I do not want to have it before marriage can you even date 4-5 men who'd be willing to stick around not getting anything of that sort? Lol past the third or 4th date.

[@tamunosakiwestscott-bloack2229]

And this is exactly why no Man should ever commit to a woman and give her the monopoly on his money , energy, attention and time. She always seeks Validation elsewhere. She is never yours. She is merely on loan.

[@Tam974eva]

I don't think this is the best approach for everyone. Maybe some girls, but not every girl. When u open urself up to many people u also open urself up to heartbreak, getting played, making the guy think ur disinterested bc u haven't been putting in the time and he can sense ur seeing others. I've been there, done that. Not for me. Just be patient and give to ONE guy who is truly worth ur time. And the minute he stops effort, u reciprocate. U can KNOW u have options and not open urself up to the demons.

[@paradiselivinginpurpose]

"It's not serious till he make it serious." "Faith doesn't worry and value doesn't beg." "A guy is constantly showing you what he thinks of you."🎯

[@j1nnienchrist]

^

[@lilbabyangel125]

Ive chased twice and it just builds their ego and ure seen as someone who will always be available OR they end up never initiating anything. I agree with this sentiment 1000%. IF HE WANTED TO, HE WOULD. Unfortunately this gives them the power of choosing what/who they want , while we only have the power accepting/rejecting who chooses to pursue us. But that is the nature of things.

[@baqiahlimmy1141]

It is not the nature of things. The dynamic of women waiting to be chosen was created. It is not natural but because it has been practiced for long it seems like the norm

[@JayBird227]

@@baqiahlimmy1141 do you see females chasing males in the animal kingdom? Didn’t think so!

[@missfefeloves]

👏🏼👏🏼

[@neezaritah5826]

Oooh Yeah the part of thinking you will always be Available is so nagging....

[@SIGMAwoman_]

​@@baqiahlimmy1141I'M A GIRL BUT THE GUY I LIKE REJECTED ME SO MANY TIMES THAT I HAD TO COPE WITH IT. U CAN'T DENY THE FACT THAT DOESN'T MATTER HOW GOOD LOOKING OR HIGH VALUE U ARE, IF THEY DON'T LIKE IT, THEY DON'T. 😃😃😃 FUCK I HATE TO SAY THIS BUT *Even when you could be the most expensive strawberry in the world, but his preference (taste) goes to market noni fruit, what can you do?* But don't worry, there will definitely be people who like strawberries. Because every fruit definitely has its fans.

[@TreasureForeverOfficial]

Even if a man sees you as valuable it doesn’t mean you should be with him. The last guy that wanted to be with me was a horrible influence on my life and made me into a woman I did not want to be.

[@MoniqueXSM]

Spot on 🎯.

[@bulma463]

Yaaass potential doesn't mean shit!!!!

[@LDavis1293]

If your man seen you as valuable he wouldn't have tried to manipulate you into negativity.

[@juneelle370]

People in the ego paradigm select people where they see value TO denigrate, they want to feel superior to a valuable person- not someone they consider “trash”. (no one is trash but in the ego paradigm there is)

[@cassiemaie9308]

If a man is interested in you, he will pursue you - facts! If it’s not kicking, move on…know your self worth and value!

[@cassiemaie9308]

@@delontashieldssr Rightio!!!!!! I think we’ll have to agree to disagree!

[@nenesaidwhatshesaid3151]

You hit the nail on the head. I learned this earlyyyyy and it wasn't even from real relationships. Some men will just take cause you offered yourself, not cause they actually want you. Almost like samples. You just try it cause people are offering you/you're hungry and the product was there for free. Doesn't mean you're actually interested in the product or that you'll actually buy it. Do not offer up yourself first, let them come to you.

[@calistanielsen]

Wow I love this !! Thanks so much for this!! Such a great analogy !! It’s so true 😩😩

[@hellenpmubita544]

I'm hurting so badly from this, I still want him and he doesnt want me . again i know he is not good for me . he always hurts me when im with him . he left me after taking my virginity .... I don't want to go back but I just want him around , at least to say he wants me

[@jy2044]

@@hellenpmubita544 please let this go! Same thing happened to me. You deserve so much better! And are better without him! One day the right person will come into your life, just focus on your hobbies and interests and on becoming who you want to be. Life is more than being in a relationship, value your own company! 💚💚💚

[@TasiaLatimore112]

@@hellenpmubita544 feel you completely, going through this same thing rn.

[@joeroot9142]

You said what you said 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@favourezeh66]

Learnt women shouldn't chase men the hard way. Once I typed and epistle and told a guy I liked him, bla bla bla, expressed my genuine feelings and he responded a few days after and I quote " Easy captain, Easy!" Never had I ever felt so disrespected The good news is he never heard from me again. Totally agree, men want who they want and that's on periodt

[@auraadelina1704]

Sis💀 been there done that

[@favourezeh66]

@@auraadelina1704 never again!

[@noonaaa6489]

Ikr I've liked this guy since nearly a year I knew I liked him and I had already asked him out but he wanted to stay friends it became hard for me I tried cutting him off several times cuz it was hurting but he would text me back every time saying he values our friendship but gues what ! I've been a FOOL jus 2 days ago it was hurting so much for me and I told him he shouldnt be friends with someone when the other person likes him u know what he said he said *it's not like I'm gonna reject everyone in future* i really went 💀 and tears started to flow

[@nevergiveup9937]

When the relationship is healthy, nobody needs to pursue anyone. It goes both ways.

[@CrystalDatingCoach]

Yes and No. Men love the chase. Love to Pursue.

[@Jjsjsh]

It goes both ways The women also has to show interest Otherwise the man is gonna feel she’s not interested and he’ll end up moving on And if you both like each other there’s nothing wrong with the women making the first texts at times. Cos the right guy will appreciate it and also guys wannna feel wanted too

[@bak3456]

Thank you. Nobody likes to chase people

[@Jjsjsh]

@mz. white just remember this , a guy has to approach women all the time. and he probably gets rejected by 90 percent of them. So this doesn’t do any good for a guys confidence so it’s always best for a girl to show a lil bit of interest too it makes for a good start

[@a.b5625]

@@CrystalDatingCoach ..some ..and what they're chasing first and foremost is..sex with you..

[@CinemaDoll137]

"Stop being so understanding" you're so right sis

[@t.l1357]

I'm in my 40s. Another thing is this will be natural. You will realize all the pursuing is happening. It won't feel robotic or like u r looking for all this. Love feels calm and assuring, lust feels rushed and with all these over the top emotions. When you feel relaxed and secure with someone, that's what should trigger butterflies. Not that superficial sexual attraction. Good luck ladies! Just fall back and put yourself in a position to dismiss most requests. Be choosy, entertain only people with the values you have. Don't bend.

[@maddyG7414]

Thank you for this! I knew it logically but recently slipped into dating someone that is causing me anxiety because it’s the more lusty relationship you’re describing and he isn’t putting in a lot of effort recently. Time to move on to the calm, reassuring men you’re describing.

[@maeva7608]

Very wise, thank you !

[@vs_vs16]

So true!

[@vs_vs16]

Love is calmness not temporary rush of emotions ❤️

[@vs_vs16]

Power to every woman ❤️

[@haliislands2032]

“If you want to be hunted, don’t be an easy catch” wow “don’t change focus when a guy comes along” too many gems ... can’t believe Breeny is back 🙂

[@Tan-ns2hr]

"Don't change your focus just because a guy comes along," straight uppppp

[@dysfunctionaljeters2102]

My problem is when they don’t chase me I feel like it’s because I’m not good enough to be sought after, and then I blame myself and settle for much less than I deserve just to feel “wanted”

[@Tam974eva]

You ARE good enough. You just need to find someone who isn't blind to your value. Someone you are compatible with & treats you like the royalty you are.

[@cloudydays6277]

ist of ALL pls change that awful name you called yourself 'dysfunctional jeters' i don't care if you feel this way but pls make small changes daily to change your perception by changing this name to something positive i don't know like 'whole' or find synonyms that mean the opposite. Love to you

[@sashaedwards3745]

I understand this feeling too well!

[@25-8]

Why cant it be both ways, the self entitlement is ridiculous smh..

[@zandilemnisi6771]

@@25-8 it never works

[@Bre.995]

Yup this “shoot your shot” movement for women ain’t it. I refuse to pursue anyone because it’s just not that effective in my opinion. Like you said. How do Ik you actually like me if I chose you🤷🏾‍♀️secondly it’s very much people thinking men don’t know what they want….they are the most simple minded species on earth lol if they aren’t doing for you, he just doesn’t want YOU.

[@couturegalx3]

This!!! Women give men too much grace and coddling as if they are children. A grown man knows who the hell he wants, and whomever she is that he wants, he will let her know.

[@msmiami212]

I disagree with this take in the video bc who made the first move has no bearing on who is showing up more in the relationship. It’s just who started it. Be more focused on their consistency afterwards. Like, by that logic never initiate sex with your man?? You’ll never know if he wants you?

[@Bre.995]

@@msmiami212 I mean yeah I can understand why you’d think that but she def was saying in the beginning of the video that in the beginning stages a man should pursue you. So once you’re in a relationship or married it goes both ways. But just meeting someone? Eh. The only way I’d make the first move is if God taps me on the shoulder & moves me to talk to this person lol. A man coming for you just hits different. But if other women are comfortable with approaching men, do you.

[@adriennesledge2467]

This topic is too relatable, I was just having this convo with my friends. Can you make a video on how Women get caught up in our Imaginations/fantasies? Love your content!

[@YENOLLEM]

THIS.

[@idragons1627]

Yeess 🙌🙌

[@Xjxjdk]

Do you mean like when y’all actually come across the perfect guy that meets all y’all standards it can sometimes be hard to break away?

[@adriennesledge2467]

@@Xjxjdk Actually I was thinking about how a lot of times when we first meet a man we'll get carried away and imagine our future with him before taking time to get to know him. So its like we secretly commit lol & often times we dont know if theyre the perfect guy or not.

[@Xjxjdk]

@@adriennesledge2467 Ohh Ok, that makes sense

[@Kaykay-jh1zu]

Haven't talked to him in 2 months 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 thank God I found this video. I was so close to approaching him and saying hi 👁👄👁. I'm hurting but theres no point if he doesn't want me the same.

[@lizzybesleeping_]

Girl update I been going through it for two years now with him. Words don’t match the behavior and when I push he pulls me back into this hole. I am literally crying rn I’m so hurt like why did I let it go on and how do I stop it. Ughh idk if I should just cut him off completely or just ignore him

[@DA-uk5cj]

@@lizzybesleeping_ save yourself the heartbreak and ignore him !!

[@lizzybesleeping_]

@@DA-uk5cj took me 4 months more to completely cut him off, I deleted my social media, started actually going to the gym, eating right and taking care of myself and I started therapy. I would have never done anything if it wasn’t for this video. This was the wake up call I needed.

[@noonaaa6489]

@@lizzybesleeping_ u goo girl good luck for u !! I'm in the same zone from a year and I've decided go step back and value myself !!!

[@priscillaxsafi]

I’ve DEFINITELY had to learnt it the hard way MULTIPLE OF TIMES because I wouldn’t listen to my intuition. Especially to detach a man’s lack of wanting me from my worth and value. Just because he doesn’t see your value, just because your not worth it to him & just because he’s not pursuing you DOES NOT MEAN YOUR NOT WORTHY TO BE PURSUED❤️ I’ve realised when you do chase it’s like you’re throwing away your value and worth, proving to them “ me me me. See me”

[@tamunosakiwestscott-bloack2229]

I am confused. Men get rejected every single day and don’t whinge or make KZbin videos about it or turn it into stories attacking women. Why do women feel so entitled?

[@priscillaxsafi]

@@tamunosakiwestscott-bloack2229 I do believe that there is a double standard in society between men and women on certain subjects. So in regards to your statement generally men do not resort to making such videos about women because of how society has orchestrated men to behave when certain situations occur. I do believe some woman are entitled but in regards to the video I do not believe she was entitled because she was pouring into a man who just wasn’t into her & so many women can relate to it. Just open experiences

[@alexaarrah696]

@Priscillaxsafi We've all been there so it's ok. That's why we're here. A guy tried to make an excuse of his health issues to blow me off and communicate terribly, and make excuses for plans.

[@msha7542]

I'm guilty of always chasing men and end up rejected. I think Breeny has a lot of good advice to weed out timewasters. Unfortunately for us women its the mans Intention from the beginning good or bad thats ends up hurting. He can pursue you for the longest time and if his Intention was bad he will dump as soon as he gets what he wanted or leave if he changes his mind.

[@centykaia4450]

That's why you don't believe shit until you have a ring. Plus you vet the guy, ask him questions, why is he choosing you?!!! The first 6 months he pretending, always know that.

[@cloudydays6277]

exactly my point. i have a friend with the worst self esteem now due to always being the initiator

[@missfefeloves]

Nope you have a lack mindset you should work on it if not that's what you'll continue to attract

[@missfefeloves]

@@centykaia4450 exactly 👏🏼👏🏼 she's slow

[@msha7542]

@@missfefeloves Its not about being slow 😂. Its starting to chase after being emotionaly Invested and he starts to pull back and me not wanting to lose him. My point is that being pursued doesn't equate good intentions.

[@NwaLioness]

This came at the right time, cause I was about to text him that I miss him...🥺😭

[@leeestellehenyo5276]

Girl I already texted him then boom this video pops up 😂

[@NwaLioness]

LeeEstelle Henyo girl you better delete it😭😂 we deserve better and more💕

[@kenediii_ryan]

Don't do it sis

[@sashua4]

😭😭😭 me too girllll!!

[@kikatis3313]

I been contemplating all day if I should reconnect with my ex? Then 💥 confirmation he is blocked for a reason had to go no contact to get my mind back right!!! To many emotions

[@prettymamita]

Soo true. I used to feel so bad that my ex didn’t wanna talk to me or see me, no matter what I did. Now the guy I’m currently dating makes me feel like he is so excited to see me and conversate. It’s nice and refreshing. Thanks sis 🙏🏼

[@karabog7460]

Value does not beg 👐🏽 that is a word right there 🔥

[@cauha12]

Period

[@emmaganta2545]

I now friendzone every last man who approaches me but let them openly know I'm feeling them. Then once we've built a real friendship without all the fake stuff that sometimes comes with courting, he can ask me out and spoil me and do everything he's been waiting to do. In the friendship phase you can find out if you actually vibe or not.The problem is people are catching feelings for people who they aren't even compatible with, then when the man realises you're not for him, he distances himself which he has every right to do. Women do it all the time too. I've seen so many women in the comments act like a man is doing something wrong by going distant. It's a social norm that we only don't like when it's happening to us!

[@flavia7130]

Hey Emma, that’s actually good advice, but how do you go about saying that to men that you want to develop a friendship first but you’re still interested, because when I’ve tried this they don’t remain interested in me and are interested in another girl

[@damndons]

@@flavia7130 I want to know this too!

[@damndons]

See below!

[@emmaganta2545]

@@flavia7130 "I really like you but I want to take it slow and get to know you properly, what's the rush?" You can still have kisses and sweet intimate moments to reassure him you're interested. If he goes elsewhere he doesn't enjoy your company and just wanted sex. Don't actually use the word "friend". "chill" , "slow" , "organic" is better.

[@sandras.7147]

LOVE THIS! you saved me girlie, you might as well be a dating coach jk jk

[@sweetsadi27]

Even if you have NO other options dont settle!! Know your worth dont throw your pearls to pigs. Being by yourself is better then being in any relationship that doesnt make you feel good and smile.

[@minamiextra]

Before anything... can we talk about Breeny’s glow . She is soo beautiful 😍. Just the right dose of Melanin

[@bellam7546]

Ladies sometimes if a man pursues you it`s 'cause you`re convenient. An example of this is when he cheats on you and chooses you over the side, he doesn`t necessarily choose you because he loves you but because you give him the right supply. I was once the side chick of this guy who to this day is still cheating on his girlfriend, he does it to a point where he`s not afraid of losing her because he knows she`ll stay. She`s convenient because he gets to continue cheating.

[@awandezwane1500]

Oh my word Breeny, this is such confirmation! There's a guy I'm speaking to and I feel like right now I am carrying the communication between us. So I pulled back and then he apologised saying he's juggling work and school, but honestly my guy is inconsistent again. I was questioning whether I am overreacting or not by wanting to cut things, and this video was ALL the confirmation I needed, so thank you loads girl!

[@yasmeenamzk]

Been in the same position, best thing you can do is cut yourself off from it

[@awandezwane1500]

@@yasmeenamzk Like, I am feeling so much peace about the decision to leave him be.

[@emmaganta2545]

Men are fickle and lie without even knowing it, they are also human beings who don't want to hurt feelings. When a man values family and relationships he won't even pursue a woman unless he's gotten to know her and see's it going somewhere. People are jumping into things too quickly which breeds expectations from those you aren't right for you etc.

[@jo355]

Girl! This is me!! I don't think folks realise how hard it is too let go of the potential

[@cloudydays6277]

lol working and juggling school girl, men are good jugglers cos he'll give you that excuse but next u know he impregnated Kate all while juggling lol. Love to you

[@melanievanloon7299]

I think this whole dating scene is crazy!!! Men don’t know how to chase anymore. They want to be entertained and then move on. Two can play that game but not with my previous time and energy!!

[@BruceWayne-sh1mj]

Men want to chase genuine women. Before I met my woman, I met countless women that just wanted date night for Instagram pics and a free dinner. Attention seekers who would chat for hours on the phone but always making excuses not to meet. When people come genuinely things will move steadily in a positive direction. He will be talking about long term relationships from the jump.

[@melanievanloon7299]

@@BruceWayne-sh1mj I am sorry you have been trough that but don’t assume I am that type off woman because off your experience. I do believe and that is the faith part that there are still genuine man out there but from my expierence and what I see happening around me with other honest women with a beautiful soul this is not common.

[@BruceWayne-sh1mj]

@@melanievanloon7299 you just have to be patient and positive and put yourself out there. It took two years of trying different things and going out of my comfort zone, lots of events, activities to find someone genuine. Many men got played like me and they abandoned dating apps and many have just decided to focus on career and their immediate family for now. So they are there just harder to find. There are a lot of game players but I'm sure you'll find the right one!

[@tamunosakiwestscott-bloack2229]

#metoo.

[@25-8]

MEN DONT LIKE TO CHASE

[@slaterwoman9237]

My mom always told me that I am the prize and not to chase men. She's so right and it's nice to hear from you, Breeny! Always love your videos ❤️

[@radiantriley1689]

From my experiences, love is steady and consistent. Whereas, lust and infatuation is inconsistent and unsteady. If he is giving you mixed signals. Honey that’s not love. You shouldn’t be playing a guessing game in a relationship. I’m not saying that in relationships you won’t have peaks and valleys but love endures that and is steady. That’s why that person is your rock. Men are simple creatures. If they want to be with you they will. Don’t chase what’s not meant for you and don’t waste your time or energy on somebody that you have to convince your value to.

[@zippyblessed839]

So true

[@j1nnienchrist]

Literally

[@sweetlyketoffee]

and when you don't have an option, choose yourself, don't settle for less. I'm currently trying to exercise this......it's hard but so far so good!

[@couturegalx3]

It’s so hard being a woman, on one hand don’t rush things but on the other hand don’t let him waste your time. I meannnn 😩😩😩😩

[@Abmarp]

Facts

[@amy9910]

I feel like they go hand in hand though (pun intended lol)... if you take things slow you're able to have more time to evaluate a situation rather than being swept up in the heat of things, and with more time to evaluate you can better figure out if he's truly into you or if he's wasting your time 😗😊

[@msmiami212]

It’s one and the same. Taking it slow isn’t time wasted when you’re using it to observe the first signs of danger. This can happen in a fairly short amount of time, you’re just progressing slowly instead of super fast.

[@andyduran6190]

That’s how I feel right now girl like idk what to do lol

[@natashadickson4819]

It's a balance. Spot the jokers and dump/avoid them quickly. Take your time getting to know the good ones.

[@egyptian1303]

"If you make the first move, you're always going to be making the first move." So true, I know this from experience! Learn from my mistake of allowing myself to be in the company of other people who literally did not give a crap about me because I was the only one who put in effort. I stopped doing this with guys and it has become so much better! I stopped obsessing or feeling insecure wondering if he likes me back. I don't have to wonder because it's clear as day when he puts in the effort and I graciously receive it. It also makes dating so much more fun now that I don't have the pressure of trying to impress all the time, I can just be me and enjoy the ride :) Besides, good men start seeing your confidence and are attracted to you even more

[@chelseabetancourt804]

I reflected on my own past throughout this video and felt so embarrassed by the mistakes I made. I come from a past of gaslighting and abuse and sought out the same in relationships. I will NEVER take the path of resistance again. I have been in this NEW mindset for a few years now and things have changed dramatically. Be solid within yourself and start to understand the patterns that keep you stuck. Thank you Breeny! Your videos have helped me to maintain my path to womanhood. I feel connected to your messages and encourage your path to support and inspire others! Thank you. 🕊

[@NubineQueen]

You dropped this right on time sis wow . God is Good💯

[@anobygmes9488]

Breeny is the friend/sister I pray we all have some day 🥺

[@Blondiee777]

This video has made me realise how I need other forms of relationships in my life that aren't just romantic. I'm in a massive transitional stage in my life.....I'm 32. Changed jobs 6 months ago and FINALLY found a career I want to persue. However I have no friends as I got rid of my old friends because I just couldn't relate anymore. Only family I have is my toxic Mother who I've not lived with since I was 23 (who lives 150 miles away thank god). I was texting an old colleague of mine who got back in touch with me a few months ago. But he just wasn't that into me. I would love a relationship but I know it ain't happening until I've truly levelled up and completed this transition stage. But I am cripplingly lonely and unfortunately I think men can sense it sometimes.

[@msmomo706]

Sorry dearie. Try to meet more people.

[@Blondiee777]

@@msmomo706 Thank you, yes that's definitely my next goal 😃

[@EmpressCreationsx]

Hi Emma! ❤️ sending some love and hugs and hoping you find great friends soon. I know exactly how this feels as I am going through a similar thing at the moment. And yes, some guys can sense it as well. Try to join local clubs, events or sports activities. I would suggest a local gym as well to get involved and do things. Praying it goes well for you. ❤️

[@anobygmes9488]

Hope you are able to make some friends as I know it can be tough the older you get, unfortunately:/ !! I’m 21 almost 22 and definitively need to focus on friendships rather then romance..

[@Blondiee777]

@@EmpressCreationsx Hi there! Ah this is lovely - thank you so much! Once im a bit more settled in my job, I intend to try out a Yoga class and Thai Boxing and Belly Dancing! 💃 Hope things get better for you too! ❤

[@innocentiaselepe]

KZbin needs to have a “million likes” option at this point Breeny 😭🙌🏾 You had me nodding my big head like I’m in class 🙆🏽‍♀️ Preeeeeeeeeach 🥂

[@TheMwendaa]

Ahahahaha I feel you

[@francesjeanlouis9285]

Breeny: "Be quick to let things go and let things die!" Me: "Preach!"

[@gabj4665]

This message was for me. It’s like God sent her my way to impart words of wisdom in my ear. Because I am literally going through this situation right now as we speak. A guy been talking to since May has completely pulled back and no longer showing as much interest as he was before. He calls me every now and then but he’s not showing interest anymore. And it drives me crazy and puts me in a place where I’m thinking is it something I said is this something I’ve done. this video is confirmation that I need to put a stop to the agony and be done.

[@ang3956]

Queen is dropping gems all week ❤ 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@nontobekomncwabe4976]

"Value doesn't beg." I throughly enjoyed this video. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@emmaganta2545]

PSA: Never chase a man unless you are an Alpha and want a Beta. If you want an Alpha you need DISCIPLINE. Letting a man know you're interested is fine - chasing is NOT. Always be kind, fun and polite so a man knows he can approach you - this is very important. Men are human and get shy too. But once he knows he can approach you.... it's his job to make a move. I've been very forward with men and tbh they will take anything thrown at them. I captured their attention in the start but what a man *wants* will always be more important than what's in front of him. Once approached by a guy don't play silly games - that's the compromise. Making the first move is dangerous because what man wouldn't give a pretty woman attention who likes him? They are fickle creatures obsessed with sex and female attention. It will end in tears when they get bored and realise that they didn't even like you but were along for the ride. You may get lucky and he could genuinely grow to like you - but it's such a gamble. Men waste time more than women so it's a dangerous gamble - trust me....I've wasted years being "the forward one"

[@jakhyiajohnson7812]

I slid in somebody’s dm’s that I knew for a fact was interested when we were younger and it STILL backfired. He now has a girlfriend! Just👏🏾don’t👏🏾do👏🏾it👏🏾 If that man want you, he will come to YOU‼️

[@valerieshinia8526]

Facts.

[@honeybee6154]

So gorgeous as always, Breeny! 😻🌹I'm 6 years single. I'm 52 now. Not dating. Yes I get lonely at times but I have peace & freedom all the time and that's valuable too. So maybe I'll find someone someday but I have so much to work on and do myself that I'm not worried. 👍😊

[@amandam3803]

Value doesn't beg. Those words really made me feel valuable

[@TysonMichael77]

I love what you said about a guy being consistent with you like you are with him. As a man and a gay man I can say that we do hunt for exactly what we want. I always say if a man sees you as a priority you will be one of not. He doesn’t care

[@KairoK]

The issue is so many women see the bare minimum as them "chasing". Women these days won't flirt, make themselves available, or make their intentions clear for fear of looking 'thirsty' or like a 'pick-me'. Nowadays. women seem more concerned with what their female friends think than about actually being in a relationship. Instead, many women do their hair and makeup and like one Instagram photo of the man they're interested in. If he doesn't get the telepathic hint then he's 'not masculine enough,' 'not the one,' 'probably DL,' 'or not the ONE'. By the way, those are ALL real statements that I have heard from female friends, family members and colleagues about the men they're interested in/were interested in. They're all single. One of them ghosted a man because she found out he used a loofa to wash with in the shower. It's just unrealistic expectations and the idea that a man will find THEM...even if they're just sitting in the house.

[@userysl]

I get you and understand where you’re coming from, but those women you know have to really look within because some of the reasons you mentioned are superficial and prejudiced. Many women do that think that way at all.

[@bellam7546]

True, I follow G.L Lambert and he always states that a woman making the first move isn`t thirsty at all, women need to go after what they want. What he also states is that a woman should still leave space for a man to be a man, he says that no woman should ask a man out on a date but she should bate him into doing. Most importantly, no woman should chase a man.

[@Diarrheagod]

These females sound toxic a f. Not all of us are toxic! In fact I don’t know any females like this cuz I don’t hang out with any of those types!

[@jessterflies]

There are some really narcissistic people on dating apps who will make you feel the most unimportant person in the world, like your time and emotional energy is nothing to them. That's because other people are nothing to them, they're just things to use for their own needs, to make them feel important because they're narcissists. This is what I have had done to me sadly 😢.

[@thankunext1625]

I clicked as soon as I saw this title. You always know how to put out the content people need right when they need it. That's on period 💯🙏

[@Chanrobyn.]

“Faith doesn’t worry & value doesn’t beg” 💗

[@opheliad7452]

Thank you I have been chasing men no wonder they end up using me and treating me like shit. Now I just focus on my self. Am so exhausted with dealing with men . Now when I get ask on a date I cancel because am just focusing on me. Job is the only thing I chase . Nobody and nothing I focus on me. I had to wake up and snack out of it. I learn things the hard way. True talk.

[@BrandiForr]

I love you so much. I'm currently in a relationship but sometimes I just need a reminder of who I am and what I shouldn't be resorting to and...this video was needed.

[@tomilolaadelusi]

Well, I think there is nothing wrong with approaching a guy first. Especially if the guy likes you and he needs a little push. I think the problem is when he doesn’t reciprocate the energy or fails to initiate taking the relationship to the next step. If that happens, I don’t think you should chase or cling on to a guy like that. But there is nothing wrong with going for what you want.

[@msmiami212]

Thank you, focus on his consistency. Don’t get hung up on who started things, as that tells you little about what the relationship will hold. As the elders say ‘the wedding is not the marriage’.

[@hellenn2601]

I think the same. You can shoot your shot but then let him set the pace. If it's not reciprocated, move on.

[@sarkie3927]

Men don't need "a little push" when it comes to the women they actually want tho. You the woman helping with a little push actually makes you masculine because as a woman you have more balls to push than the actual man. These so called shy guys who "find it hard approaching women" actually DO APPROACH CERTAIN WOMEN, as shy as they claim to be. Don't fall for the shy guy BS. If a man is too shy to even approach that man is not fit to lead you as a woman or in marriage anyways. In this era where social media makes things 100x easier, men have almost no excuse

[@HeavenWazi]

The way I love that these videos are long!!!! Needed🔥

[@itzjacayla]

I’m 17 and you literally feel like my mom now. My mom is the aggressive type always in her masculine energy. Has never let a man pursue her. Wine and dine her and she’s pushing 50. I never had a good role model when it came to men and I feel like all the advice she gives me leads me to be in the chasing masculine role. That doesn’t feel right in my spirit and I always wondered why I’ve never been pursued and your videos have been giving me sm clarity. But now ik that she just doesn’t see her value and I wished she would just sit back and let a man take care of her for once. She has always taken care of a man. And they always BUMS. But the older she gets the more I want her to just be in her feminine energy. She’s not getting younger 😕

[@TheSunshinefee]

being chased by a man doesn't mean he is a good man or the right one for you either. be careful with that. i've always been chased by married men, creeps, men without money, education or any job, and many creeps, and i don't like that. I'd rather let the man i like know that i exist and then hope he will notice me and chase me.

[@carolechero]

I was just scrolling down your old videos, looking for sth to rewatch and you’ve just posted this🔥🔥💯 Thank you Breeny for these Amazing videos ❤️..Love to see it

[@angielovesJesus]

I was doing this too!!

[@cocoran19]

I ended things with this guy, he made me feel like i was crazy, controlling and very pushy..when i was only stating my needs or telling what he does that hurts me. He made me feel like i was easily triggered, can't take a joke, needy and very weak. It was an awful four year, i got very attached that i forgot to take care of myself or see things clearly... i just didn't want to lose him and kept blaming myself for everything untill i could take it no more. I hated him for all the time he manipulated me and gaslighted me and also hated myself for becoming so desperate and weak. He always have the right amount of attention when i was about to leave him for myself. I was trapped. Now i am in my healing stage and thanks to you, i forgive myself. I see what went wrong and it was not him or me. But my mindset and my failure to see my values. I allowed him to treat me like that, i allowed myself to go through that. I promise from this moment on that i will no longer lose track of myself-my goals, my happiness, my values. I know whats important now and thats me and God. You are God Sent. I hope to see more videos like this, the work it does to me is just marvelous. Thank you, i love you. God bless you❤️

[@MaryJane-zt3pn]

Don’t you love the clarity that comes from becoming single again after an emotionally toxic relationship?! So grateful for your insight & confirmation, I hope all the ladies LISTEN UP! ❤️

[@lovejimin7612]

I’m sitting here with my tea and just grinning and yelling “PERIODT” because I feel Breeny’s energy!!! The facts she spills in every video - I’m taking notes, sis!!!!

[@catnap8042]

„It‘s so easy to fall in love with an idea..“ 😳 Great. Love this, so true👌

[@michelleangel5862]

I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate

[@michelleangel5862]

He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay

[@michelleangel5862]

Whtsaap him"**

[@michelleangel5862]

+②③④⑧①④⓪⑦⑨⑨③②③

[@kristinamarina6447]

ughhh I love you Breeny! was tempted to reach out but him not texting me for 4 days shows me exactly how he feels, on to the next! your vids are seriously so helpful and make me feel better :)

[@valerieshinia8526]

Hugs.

[@ndondomhlophe6340]

True, I am grateful I learnt this as a teenager as opposed to learning this later in life. If a guy is not making an effort I accept it and move on. Not taking it personally.

[@itsmsolivia]

I needed to see this video and hear this message like a Sunday sermon. I have been in 2 past relationships where I was the pursuer instead of the guy. So I learned that those guys weren't for me at all. As of now, I'm focusing on myself and my studies. I'm completely fine with being myself right now. During this time, I'm still rediscovering myself as a young woman in my 20's and understanding that I'm worth so much more. I honestly feel like I'm in a much better headspace. Hopefully soon, I will meet a guy that has better energy and he is truly interested in me. Thank you Breeny for the message!

[@111wishess]

When a man texts you first and then ghosting you the next day, it means he isn't interested in you or at least not enough. If he really likes you he will text you and he won't play games. Besides that, I think it's okay for a woman to text him first. But next time, let him text you first. It's okay for a woman to ask how he's doing, but next time let him ask you how you're doing. Balance is needed, I think :)

[@nataliazurita2313]

I've been talking to a guy I met on a dating app. He ghosted me the first week, then made a lame excuse. He is very inconsistent, answers my messages the next day, now it's every 2,3 days. He leaves me on hold, but he is still connected, I wonder in my mind: Who is he talking to ? hmm I don't think it's a family member. I'm really playing along but getting bored. It's been a month since I've been talking to him but with all these inconsistencies my interest is also fading.

[@111wishess]

@@nataliazurita2313 I'm sorry it happened to you honey. I understand how you're feeling because it happened to me too. The best thing you can do is stop talking to him and move on, because he will not change. You deserve someone who is consistent with you 💓

[@AishaSezer10]

YESS QUEEN loving the consistent uploads! She’s back and she’s better!! Sending you love and prayers Breeny ❤️

[@keziakandii]

I needed this too busy thinking about a crush who I haven’t even spoken too😕.

[@michelleadebiyi2341]

Sis go for it😭we only live one life

[@norapeace6526]

This hurt to hear, but I needed to hear it. No options=desperation. Can't EVER let a guy know you're desperate

[@MCWon212]

Chasing implies you are running away. NAH!

[@thivhafunimuthelo2461]

He who find a woman finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord, not she*

[@amaraagu1233]

Breeny. As usual, this is exactly what I needed to hear. After today and yesterday I feel like I’m finally getting the clarity and the understanding I need to move forward and reclaim my power again. This is revenge fr! They ain’t ready..:

[@chintulastones5644]

Eeeeh you called me out when you said we need to slow down to catching feelings 🙈

[@utamunuangaujake3392]

And i thought i was the only one😂😂😂

[@quieteyes307]

It does not matter how long I go without watching Breeny, I always love her just the same as I did when I discovered her 3 years ago. You are truly such a steadfast woman. You inspire me to be the same!

[@simonebell928]

Keep doing these videos Breeny it’s literally therapy for me 👍😊

[@OwolabiEsther]

I love breeny speaking her facts and teaching us ladies

[@awele3051]

Breeny honestly you are that big sister I wish I had! You’re speaking facts! The hard truth we ladies need to hear! Can’t wait for the next 6 videos

[@briwilson9485]

I neeeeed to rewatch this video every time I’m tempted to chase a guy because he stopped putting in effort

[@cloudydays6277]

You look soooo pretty in this video, great lighting, minimal makeup. Big kiss to you.xx

[@michelleadebiyi2341]

After endless crying/overthinking on my bed most nights over how a guy treated me , this was needed.

[@michelleangel5862]

I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate

[@michelleangel5862]

He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay

[@michelleangel5862]

Whtsaap him"**

[@michelleangel5862]

+②③④⑧①④⓪⑦⑨⑨③②③

[@michelleadebiyi2341]

@@michelleangel5862 no thanks.

[@Rosariaissa]

Consistency is key. Consistency breeds comfort and emotional security!👏🏽

[@toffee8440]

“Faith doesn’t worry & value doesn’t beg to be seen” my religious spirit hasn’t stopped applauding 🤍 your mind is magnificent

[@naomikennedy6472]

Oh yes sis , you nailed it. We are the prize n we should definitely act like that . We are high value women so we should not chase any man. I felt n enjoyed the content. Beautiful vibes

[@Nicolegin]

"Clearly got too many options or so, he thinks" pure gold right here.

[@mayaa5169]

I really wish I saw this two years back made an absolute fool of myself 😫😫

[@vasu7467]

You're helping me sm get over my toxic relationship i honestly can't thank you enough, i love you breeny

[@Witchy93]

I do agree with what is being said for the most part, especially if he's not perusing you after you've started talking or dating. I don't think you should throw yourself at the guy. But, what if it's at the very beginning and the guy doenst have the first clue you like him. Some men I've known have been badly hurt and they have a fear of making the first move not because they don't value the woman but because they are scared/insecure too.