The Open Mind: The Gift of Fear - Gavin de Becker

[@cherchezlavache4373]

“The Gift of Fear” should be read by everyone. It is one of the most important books I have.

[@katkatkatkat463]

“When a man says no it’s the end of a discussion. When a woman says no it’s the beginning of a negotiation." YESSSSSS

[@gg_rider]

Unless the man says, "No, because ..." I was like that once. Codependent sympathies. I might still be sometimes, but not with the same pathology.

[@sage9836]

I am alive because of this book!

[@aharonemanuel4010]

Good

[@marefynn81]

I believe you. In fact, I have recommended this book to many people precisely because I believe it is one book that can save your life. I have read his book multiple times.

[@martialmusicman]

This man is brilliant and was ahead of his time.

[@karenwinston9664]

I absolutely honor and admire this man. I read three of his books and I try and download or listen to ANYTHING he teaches. Very intelligent and inciteful. NO is a sentence...

[@fluffyweapon]

Karen Winston ditto

[@thellamalady4181]

"No" is a COMPLETE sentence.

[@coralecho2485]

@Aurelio Brunot you are both guys not deserving of having a girlfriend in the first place

[@craftycriminalistwithms.z3053]

And is okay to use and accept, period.

[@SwissMarksman]

still relevant

[@eiforget]

The Gift of Fear is one of the greatest books I've ever read and left me feeling empowered, less afraid...love him, love his expertise and sound advice.

[@AMERICANPRIDE1100]

Changed the way I approach life 20 yrs ago

[@denisespurlock]

I bought the book years ago. Best book I ever read. Every college student should read this book as well.

[@My_Secret_Sketchbook999]

Exactly. Amazing life changing. - let's save lives

[@JACNAC]

"The Gift of Fear" is a thought provoking book title. We see or perceive fear as a negative feeling and intuition as something very usual and a sort of six sense, Thanks to this guy we now see fear as something very useful.

[@The.Pickle]

So much respect for De Becker. I'm just a few chapters in; so amazed I've just ordered my sister a copy. The way he introduces his own personal experiences of violence, laying out a terrible scenario and then boom, revealing it was actually his experience. His resume is jaw dropping. Oooh, the harrowing experiences of the young women who narrowly escaped death by following her intuition and moving like a stealthy ninja behind the rapist to escape the room while he went to the kitchen; it's heart stopping stuff.

[@Irene-gq4jr]

This book is bang on. The common sense within is so mind-blowingly obvious once it's spelled out and you grasp it. I wish I'd read it many years ago, and have recommended it to other friends who've in turn passed it onto friends and family.

[@poodleriffic]

Wow! Every time I listen to Gavin De Becker I learn something new. What he said about the perp walk on the news, the show of force, making the perp a star, he is just brilliant. Even if you have seen him lecture before, it is always worth it.

[@MaxineAGGuess]

Got the book and read the whole thing in a few hours. A must read! I think I NEED to RE-READ IT! I know first hand what it is to be stalked-for no reason at all. Law enforcement has been wonderful. I’m grateful!!💪🏾

[@donnaleigh5001]

I suggest all women read (The Gift Of Fear) It shouldn’t frighten you. It can save your life before you get into any of these situations.

[@musicandeye]

Amazing thinker. Thank you for an incredible book.

[@myfriendisaac]

Love love LOVE this man & this book 📚💯

[@robincrowflies]

Just starting to watch this, but I find it interesting that in 1997 they were talking about the culture of fear in the U.S. Wow, how much worse it is now, a quarter century later.

[@danielem0007]

I like this guy and admire him ... no is no .. thanks for sharing :)

[@cabinkeeper101st]

sir you have really opened my thinking of risk and fear.

[@LuckyBadger]

BEST BOOK EVER! But OMG that intro music, WTF? And wow was Gavin young back then!

[@germyw]

This old man is asking the same question over and over. The author did a great job in spite of it.

[@aharonemanuel4010]

😂🤣😆

[@WhiteChocolate74]

Dick Heffner

[@My_Secret_Sketchbook999]

I want to kiss this man Mr Gavin on the forehead and say thankyou for saving lives.

[@Bengun67]

NEWS IS A BUSINESS - I bow my head in humbleness, have a great day !

[@craftycriminalistwithms.z3053]

🙇🏿‍♀️🙇‍♂️🙇🏽‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏾🎩🌂🎩🙇🏾🙇🏼‍♂️🙇🏽‍♂️🙇‍♀️🙇🏿‍♂️

[@lionra4523]

Thank you!

[@giovanniartavia2368]

Thank you, very much for such a great book you are a genius and a good man

[@voyagersa22]

Great book and great talk. Thanks.

[@katkatkatkat463]

I love the outro music with the shot of them sitting at a dining table like two old ladies lmao

[@arlinerobertson8867]

Thank you . I was in a public place with friends and a man passed by me and i the hairs on my neck stood up . He was well dressed. He went to play pool with an older man who had been in there before. At the end of the evening a man i had been dating said i was to follow him . I began saying i am not i want to go home and kept on until he said ok. Days later this man i was seeing was put in jail for abuse of me and I believe harm was coming to me and my intuition warned me.

[@nula14]

Thanks for uploading!

[@buttercup1765]

Gavin was a guest on Hiking with Kevin. Good watch!

[@madasarbu5408]

He is a great salesman! I listened him on the Art of Charm Podcast and consider I learned a lot!

[@diannerussell9653]

We shouldn’t give criminals star status I agree with that. It’s a good thing too that they can’t cash in on their fame anymore by writing their own biographies or in Chopper Reeds case writing children’s books how Macabre was that.

[@SwissMarksman]

I mean they don't really cash in anymore, but look how popular all those pseudo-docu movies about Serial Killers are that get released in the Cinemas. It's rediculous.

[@TruthFelt]

I think this guy questioning is trying to push his buttons. It's great to see Gavin completely seem to not even notice. I'm very impressed.

[@karenstoddard9345]

Thank you

[@stephanielove4469]

I'm divorcing a religious sociopath, I've learned so much I could direct a movie and would love to. I've also spoken with many other survivors and those that are enduring as well as those that have lost everything alot of times the abuser will win custody because they successfully painted the victim as the abuser. God help us. I want to be a useful successful advocate/voice for others. Sociopaths are very dangerous and will get others to be complicit to continue abusing the victim. News flash Psychopaths are the controller's of this world. Be awake be aware, pray.

[@SwissMarksman]

What's your opinion on this interview of GDB? Can you give any inputs about what he said & what you experienced?

[@JeremiahAlphonsus]

Stephanie, give us an update.

[@cyndih1993]

he is a genius

[@zarailly]

That's really amazingg

[@nikmills]

He had no idea the smart phone was coming.

[@neeneelee1973]

This seasons episode, COVID! This man is exactly right!

[@Brizzyfo]

I wonder if you can still get transcripts for 4 dollars.

[@Daniel____DiJ]

I just sent $4 to the PO Box for the transcript. Anyone know how long it’ll take to arrive?

[@SwissMarksman]

Did it arrive?

[@NoaNoir]

5:09 unwarranted fear is from your memory or imagination.

[@aharonemanuel4010]

Ya

[@_Cato_]

So interesting that this was before 9/11. Since that event the entire globe has been in a state of hyper-fear and paranoia and it only keeps growing. This video and book were made on the precipice just before the world changed.

[@fluffyweapon]

Enthios that is considered worry . You can go around in of the next terror attack he would probably say if tour in a situation where one has happened deal with that

[@martialmusicman]

9/11 was not the dawn of a new era of violence or even terrorism. It only marked the breakdown of the notion of "it doesn't happen in MY country" for Americans. Of course it opened the door for oil fiend politicians to invade the Middle East once more, but terrorism was far from new.

[@UCannotDefeatMyShmeat]

what an outro

[@notaclue822]

A good man. All those homicides are predictable and preventable.

[@tundrawomansays5067]

Well you get right out there Ms. Anderson/Madame Cleo from the boardwalk and “prevent” all the imminent and future homicides. Blaming the victims is a nonproductive and arrogant response to others who apparently aren’t as “gifted” as you believe you are-until your ass gets ambushed.

[@craftycriminalistwithms.z3053]

@@tundrawomansays5067 I agree, and I love your username! ♥️

[@barbarabrennan1753]

Brief signal in presence of danger.

[@aharonemanuel4010]

Ya

[@pythonjava6228]

Its true tbat conflict is a part of every species. Even for relatively peaceful species where violence is incredibly rare or unobserved there witll still be conflict and the occasional beating between individuals. Humans are species where the extent of violence is both predictable and preventable.

[@christinehaigh9807]

Internal fear: I don't like being fearful.

[@ayodeler39]

Anyone listening to this today 28/04/2021? as we navigate the thorough revelation of police brutality against black people. The film coverage by innocent bystanders revealing the true insipid behaviour stares us in the face daily and we ask if police are institutionally racist or just ignorant, poorly trained or overworked or ....Does anyone care about the possible answers , solutions??

[@SwissMarksman]

Has nothing to do with this video.

[@craftycriminalistwithms.z3053]

You ask great questions, all of which I feel everyone should ask themselves, and seek truthful answers. No matter how uncomfortable it may make us feel. If one denies racism, it’s truly a form of racism in itself. By not acknowledging that all people are different, not just because, in part because we all come from different cultures, and ways of living that we all have adapted to, for many reasons, especially to survive our situations. Sending love and light ♥️

[@gg_rider]

Police in 17,885 departments in the USA kill so many Black people in possibly unjustified interaction every year. About 12. About 35 White people. Since your comment, annual murders of Black victims has gone from about 4000 in 2012 to almost 8000 in 2019 to 10,000 in 2021. 2020 was only 9000. I have not looked up 2022. AK NATION NEWS said an average Black teen in the hood knows about a dozen murder victims. An average person in their mid 20s knows about two dozen murder victims. How many of your friends and acquaintances have been murdered? A new thing is daylight shootings on public streets, with witnesses and cameras. We could estimate an extra 10,000 to 12,000 Black murder victims over the last decade as the result of organized social protest and telling cops to stop arresting people, and having arrestees go free with no bond. Imagine that pile of 10,000 bodies. Cemetery workers in Killahdelphia were complaining about overwork. Non-fatal shootings of Black victims, some recover, some permanent injuries, are approx 4x the number of fatal shootings. Many victims are children under 12. The number of Black women killed in Philly exceeds that of all other races combined. The UK Guardian published a story about an American Black woman trying to reduce the murders of Black women in America. Many cities pay anti-violence community leaders to stop teens killing and being killed. Older Black men, out of prison. I know of three of those who have been shot or murdered. Black parents and survivors want JUSTICE, want ARRESTS, want CONVICTIONS and prison. Black academic activists and journalists, and their White allies want the opposite.

[@DoctorCarrieHall]

No has always been No, what part of the No isn't understood

[@TruthFelt]

Sounds like you were raised very well.

[@noelsmith112]

Does anyone else get a 90's Bob Saget vibe?

[@kimpup8135]

noel smith lol

[@stefanoravalli7735]

Julio Ceasar said that ages before Roosevelt

[@jodiebug1]

God how obnoxious was that intro/outro music?

[@jakevendrotti1496]

God awful! Whose bright idea was it to put a flute in a butthole and record it. I had to turn off the volume.

[@JasonNapalm72]

Well creepy music intro 😱😂 good video otherwise.

[@RainAngel111]

The interviewer here I think is pretty put out by Gavin criticizing the media. He's very rude.

[@fluffyweapon]

RainAngel111 he views the media as something thats meant to make money . Did you read his book ?

[@tundrawomansays5067]

A M Think we have a reading/comprehension failure here. Anyway, DeBecker’s publications and discussions are a whole lot of resources/professional experience/practical advice in deceptively short “packages.”

[@anneperry9014]

Wow,what a brilliant guy, bit like Dr. Phil!!

[@donnaleigh5001]

Anne Perry - Dr Phil isn’t half as brilliant as Gavin de Becker.

[@aharonemanuel4010]

@@donnaleigh5001 ya

[@hed2410]

Lol. No.

[@akilolostreet2424]

Gavin is brilliant. This interviewer is ridiculous. Poor Gavin, remaining civil in the face of the church lady contrarianism of this GOP fellow .

[@John-lw3gv]

Fear the Lord and you'll be ok in this crazy world

[@aharonemanuel4010]

God has nothing to do with anything.

[@katyjoanna3354]

It's a great book. A lot of the lessons are ones I'm repeating to my 13-year-old daughter. So - thank you 😊 One caveat only (and I hope the author will read this, and take heed!). In the preface, the author says that he uses male pronouns throughout the book because it is nearly always men who are violent. However, this assertion is belied by his use of 'he' and 'him' to refer later to a doctor (unnamed, generic) - and then later in the book, the same happens when referring to a passenger who is late for a plane. I'm afraid this makes the earlier argument about why he uses only male pronouns null. Please don't give a reason that isn't the real reason. Can I suggest that, if there is a new edition, the pronouns get adapted - as per modern usage, where we are beginning to question power hierarchies? It is an irony - which I'm appreciative of - that it's these assumptions, habits, and usages (without questioning) that contribute hugely to said violence against women!* *Ref: Emotional Labor, by Rose Hackman (chapter on Violence)

[@barbarabrennan1753]

What if the clients you are protecting are creating problems for me.

[@TruthFelt]

I don't think the way he mentioned he is older, was offensive at all. And to think you have to be nasty back is disgusting.

[@barbarabrennan1753]

Unjustified terror.

[@nikmills]

Ha! He thinks feminism is the cure. I remember when I thought that! Ha!

[@TK-tg6kr]

You're a brainwashed fool for watching and believing misogynist manosphere/redpill propaganda. Almost everything they say is a projection and reversal of the truth. If it weren't for women's sexuality, we would still be monkeys. It is women's sexuality and menstruation which drove human evolution and technological advancement. Read "sex, time, and power" by Leonard Shlain for more info. Also read "the chalice and blade" about the first neolithic civilizations and how they were matrilineal and matrifocal, yet more technologically sophisticated than the male-dominated tribes from the east which invaded and destroyed those civilizations.

[@barbarabrennan1753]

A little paranoia.

[@avisitor6198]

This must be a very old video. He wants to tell women they do not need to be polite? I have not met a polite woman in the last 20 years.

[@missyvonne2325]

Peace. So true regarding what the book is about, the conditioning of the rudeness we see prevalent among women today. Women are emotionally triggered by an an ant on a bread crumb and how much more so by this book, promoting unwarranted fear as it does. The fall of every civilization is caused by the corruption of women. The only thing we, the people of the USA, have to fear is fear itself. Franklin D. Roosevelt got it right!

[@beksinski]

I'm guessing it's you.

[@noelsmith112]

In that case he's doing his job..

[@Etcher]

Miss Yvonne The Gift of Fear doesn't promote fear as you say. It promotes understanding and anticipating and utilising fear when in the presence of danger. You have missed his most crucial, fundamental point entirely.

[@kittyroars5629]

Etcher She has missed a lot more than that....

[@gaebren9021]

40Hrs a day?

[@CandiceTender]

I believe he means collectively. If we add all the news (different channels playing at the same time) and added it together it would be that amount of time.

[@user-yk9sk7pg6v]

thank you