The Pain of Narcissistic Abuse Won't End Until You Do This

[@liciniasimoes4053]

I know a lot but I' m suffering in cofinement, I' m getting sick.He trapped me , he doesn' t go out of my backyard, my God.Thank you for your vídeo.I feel terrorised.I AM unable to live, to work, Just locked down by fear to go out.He Will stalk me.

[@tammyfoster-sapanara8043]

Well said Melanie. My healing had to start with me. I am working with my therapist to find the root cause of my attraction to a narcissist. I am learning that it started as a young child. I discarded on 12/3/18. NO CONTACT! I feel free and am practicing self care. People around me are noticing the change. I am no longer short tempered, sad and quite frankly depressed. The inner work continues but I am falling back in love with myself. Thank you for your calm and loving approach. Enjoy your holiday time.

[@markoperic5023]

my root cause was me asking for a nightmare to learn the lesson. and then it started playing out in real life.................... so I have learned to not ask for nightmares any more

[@anabellaparis1]

It's a never-ending cycle of feeling guilt , feeling angry, feeling better, feeling sad and lonely and again angry and feeling stupid for letting him do all he did. Next time when someone tells me he cares after 2 days he'll stay blocked.

[@concernedlemon7499]

The worst part of being married to a Narcissist is that when they tell you they want to be with you forever then continue with bad behavior. When you get upset about something they will turn it all around on you and say I want out of this relationship divorce etc etc. Then when things calm down they will come to you sweetly and say how they want to be with you forever then continue with more bad behavior. You’ll also find kissing will be more of “your job” than theirs basically you ain’t getting kissed back.. and will just relish in your pampering eyes closed . Don’t expect this person to take accountability. There bad behavior is the result of you, what you did. Expect this type of person to have absolutely zero compassion nor remorse for anything. Remember this. Changing the story from what you heard to what they say. They LIE and GOOD. You will be shocked how good. I think Possibly from lying for their whole lifetime it has made them absolute experts at pulling it off. I am healing myself from some things that a person has done to me and told me. Stories changed, words changed, constant belittling then it has made me someone angry inside. I was so angry for so long. Angry and confused how this person you love does this behind your back? Makes you feel worthless even on your days you feel worthless come around and kick you while your laying on the floor crying telling you to get up and stop acting like a baby. It’s someone who finally gives in while your upset and tells you they are sorry then turns it around with much worse right after they say sorry. It is being lost in life and not knowing what to do? Just build? it is all I can do, I can’t help but just keep getting run into the ground. It is even more hurtful when I think the only way out is by building but this person treats what I built like crap and intentionally destroys it. I believe I am married to the Devil who is disguised as a sweet looking innocent person. They get away with doing terrible things by playing expert victims. I was drawn into this behavior when this person needed to yell out the window sometimes possible things I may have done and most often things that are complete and utter lies. Things that are terrible and slander. But what kind of slander is it? Yelling out the window of a house to the entire neighborhood a bunch of nonsense? I don’t know if anyone hears it? It would be someone punching and clawing your face for 10 years and you making excuses for it.

[@lisapurnell2064]

I find myself re-listening to what is being said, section by section sometimes because so much is being said in a short amount of time and I want to catch it all, cause I want to make sure I hear & understand it right. And I always love it.

[@lynnyoung8443]

my lil dog is the only reasen im still around

[@braveheart977]

Me too

[@חניתהאזולאי]

My abuse takes 42 ...my parent's and my all family and flying monkeys hurts me so much...turn my hart apart ...also doing my healing stage....cant wait to get rid of them change location ...i love life but i am affried my hart so sensetive i cant get more hurting ..some of pepole try even hurt me pizikly and trumatize me so i wont feel safe in this world...i am just so aware now and my passion for live a beliving there is a change keeps be going alive....

[@חניתהאזולאי]

My famliy also try to control me for being free ..sending flying monkeys...dont stop abusing me...i wont let them win...i refuse to be in depression and life in fear and isolation couse there toxic seak controling beaive !!

[@חניתהאזולאי]

My dog also helps me forgot all the hurts give me so much love and opisest ..calm me down ..they even gelles from him...couse no one love them like me andy dog love each other ...lots hugs stay strong ..hope we find a nice pepole pepole that could be kind for us like we are for others...lynn young 🥰

[@חניתהאזולאי]

Thanks alot for this video ..i follow you for a long time...you helps me alot.

[@bencurtis3780]

Im there. Two years later, but I am me again and I know alot I never did know. Thank you, Angel.

[@jamesgeist9535]

I enjoy the validation with the focus being on looking at ourselves for healing. And your so genuine and loving. You present brutal realities with a positivity that makes your wisdom believable.

[@honeyt2787]

Thank you so much. I needed to hear this right now. I've never been so down and depressed. I thought I had the perfect life. However I discovered, through the grace of God, that my husband was not faithful to me and hadn't been for years. That was just the beginning of the torture. Since then he has embarked on a smear campaign. Which is soul destroying. But I have my son to protect, so need to heal to look after him the best I can. Thank you for the words I needed and making me aware of Pema Chodron. Downloaded: When Things Fall Apart. I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart. God bless you.

[@vidhiarya]

Hey, I'm in through just few minutes to this video and I love it! Mostly because it's important to know that there are people in the world who are not selfish and self oriented as much as a narcissist, and actually do care about people and helping them. You provide that caring concept so gracefully, so thank you. I'm going through something really tough and I have been through emotional and psychological abuse because of somebody I trusted. I'm not sure if I will ever be okay, as I don't feel as hopeful as I used to be. If you went through something similar to me, or felt the same pain, my heart goes out to you, and I want you to know that no matter someone tell you, you're still important and LOVED

[@carlopolima2847]

Vidhi Arya ❤️

[@hopeandheartsloveandfreedo3580]

🙏💜

[@yougotgroove]

you will be ok, trust in yourself, you came into this world perfect, your thoughts are not you. They are only observed, they are like an object. Any object that we observe can't be us. Understanding this starts the rewiring process. Be well, be you! Just be

[@metalrabbit09]

Consciousness shifts are like that. You don't know how they will affect you until after you've had them.

[@kathrynkenyon785]

YES I UNDERSTAND and I have received the gift, thank you. I FEEL the vibrational shift!!! THANK YOU!

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

That's gorgeous Kathryn. Much love to you! xoxo

[@HULovingLife]

Melanie, I cannot thank you enough. Your work is such a blessing. I have done Module 1 six times and have worked 2 thru 7, and am about to start module 8. I never realized before how inauthentically I was living, because I was always doing for others, but completely neglecting my true needs and living in fear of disappointing others and even had hidden anger at myself for allowing myself to be abused. My life is doing a 180 degree turn. I have never imagined that I could be so self actualized and happy. Thank you so much. Many Blessings, Love and Light! Michelle Rosenblum Michigan, USA

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

You are so welcome Michelle. I'm so happy to help and that you are getting those important insights into this experience. Keep up the good work. There is so much to look forward to. Love and blessings xoxox

[@HULovingLife]

@@MelanieToniaEvans thank you! Most unusually, my ancient self is sometimes Egyptian, other times from Italy etc. And, as the modules progress, though you say they are broken on the floor, my Egyptian self is a little sassy and is kinda like, let's get this show on the road as we have gotten to our 12th time now! The tears poured forth the first 6 times and I was always at a 10. It's less now on all accounts. I've also found that the light filling me is now staying in me and helping to push the debris out of the container at that stage, whereas before, the light did not linger at that point. And finally, of other metaphysical interest, when I expand out to heart and all that is, there is a flower of life that is multiplying. I just share all of this with you, because I want you to know how deeply powerful this is for me, has been and it is taking on a life of it's own. You really are an angel and I'm so grateful! Blessings!!!! PS I'd like to share my gift with you. I have recorded music in 432 HZ. Here's my channel if you feel like listening to a singer who switched from 440 to 432. Just click on my face. 😊 I am truly humbled. Blessings!!! So grateful!!!!

[@MayaNature113]

Hi Mel, you look wonderful! I agree that to heal we need to turn our heart to ourselves. Away from everybody and to ourselves. To find and love our inner child, own being more than anybody else. Then we will never again get attached in an unhealthy way to any person. Because ourselves we become the one to be always put first and satisfied first. Thank you:)

[@AC-gl6uq]

Thank you! Bullseye (4 me) !! Another post mentioned lol dog their life........I am alive because of a BIG dog that no one would adopt...snarling, Growling, Lunging. All I saw was an angry 1 1/2 year old. 3 months later, She loves only me & she's happy...Thanks to MIA, I am alive and the 2 of us will thrive as was meant 4 us! -Anetra (&Mia)

[@deblano7047]

thank you so much xx

[@leafmealoynederpydeu85]

When you hurted others from your trauma is the worst thing ever. It makes it so hard to be happy. It keeps you isolating. Yes I need to focus on me i cling and want love so bad it is truly pathetic how much love and acceptance i want . Id do and go along with anything for it. I was so toxic too.

[@belindametz5130]

Thank you so much for all you do. It was a bit of a tough Monday in that the narcissistic person is still manipulating. I never ever never react, even though I know what they are doing. It’s sad that they use other vulnerable people to speak their lies to use them to spew out. I believe in what comes around goes around. I continue my practice and know that the truth will be revealed. Thank you kindly for your work.

[@vibekes2416]

BELINDA GROOVE What goes around comes around 😊😉

[@dr.marnihillfoderaro1064]

Melanie, you are spot on. Recovering from Narcissist Abuse is a bit more challenging when the truly sick, covert manipulator uses their young and adult children as weapons with Parental Alienation. Great advice for the exes who escape, but what are your thoughts for helping the children, especially when they’ve been so groomed and brainwashed that they mirror the destructive traits and become narcissistic abusers themselves?

[@johnjohn2948]

Yeah when the narc uses kids innocence to manipulate others it makes the abuse and head games worse, many people can relate to this.

[@David-ib8ek]

Thank You for your insights. It must be such a wonderful feeling being able to help people grow from your own struggle and journey. Continued blessings to you.

[@nikhatpathan]

With my 1st narc relationship, we dated for 1.5 years but I experienced the addiction for 8 years following that. Then recently somehow again dated another narc for 4 months and now I'll enter 5th month of trying to get rid of the hope of her to come back. I loathe myself right now. To make it bearable I got into smoking and it has affected my throat. Everytime I try to talk to her she makes me feel as if I'm wrong and a bad person.

[@shaniecegullison]

The arrow in our heart part is amazing to hear tonight.such a good point

[@heavyjoechipman3594]

Today(7/8/19), I was triangulated and tormented by my 71 year old narcissistic mother and my 47 year old golden child/narcissistic brother. Although I am weeping and feeling trapped under the same roof with them, I take comfort in your videos Melanie, dear. I am very grateful and thankful that I have access to your videos as a resource for support. So, thank you very much from the great state of Texas.😊👍

[@superlativelyabnormalsuper505]

Heavy Joe Chipman how are you doing today? I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I really relate with you and checking in.

[@ladibyrd]

Wise lady, thank you for sharing these words.

[@jimi8fun235]

I found a post from 2015 that has an exercise to make the unconscious fears and pain of the past conscious. It's true it's the only way to deal inner trauma. This is leading to a whole new aspect of inner exploration that I had never considered. We need to recognize the tension in the stomach as each tension is a thought that needs dealing with. Thank you so much.😀

[@ZaddyMatty]

What’s the exercise?

[@lynettedenttripplett2073]

I realize I have a long way to go yet in recovery.

[@leafmealoynederpydeu85]

You are strong to survive this you can do it.

[@lynnyoung8443]

I have no way out of it but one way

[@leafmealoynederpydeu85]

Your way is to make good friends and keep trying just one good friend can change your life do not give up

[@Sveiksmobile]

Well done and well said!

[@runwiththewind3281]

Down under, thank you for helping me understand. I have learned much from you. Thank you for being. I am grateful.

[@heavyjoechipman3594]

BTW: Its awesome that you're on vacation. I missed kitty in this video. I bet he misses you like crazy. Many blessings to you and kitty 🐱.

[@getrudemwaura946]

It's Soothing And Healing when you get to know that by turning Inside one Will Conquer 🙏🙏🙏. Thank You Melanie 🙏🙏🙏💞💕💕

[@phoenixd9679]

Thank you this is a confirmation what came to me a day before ,now I am listening to you're video !!! Very healthy way to see it " experience happened for me " , really made sense now ! Thank you 💜

[@donnaparks1919]

People tell me keep quiet I can't any more

[@MariaColomy]

Never keep quiet. The denying of it keeps it alive

[@nryane]

Thank you for this video. While I didn’t like what the ex did in our relationship, I’m so grateful that he held up the “mirror” to show me what I needed to work on, spiritually, emotionally and psychologically. I’ve been over 5 years of no contact and have done tons of emotional work to heal myself. With low-level depression, due to the pandemic, I’ve decided to go to a trauma therapist and re-up for sessions to deal with triggers the pandemic has raised in me. Looking forward to more healing! Blessings!

[@carlsonscottagefarm9355]

Real solutions!!!! Thank you so much

[@lydiaworkman4050]

I absolutely love your videos. I know that I have had a rather unique experience with narcissists which involves being abused by people who I am not interested in having a relationship with. Rejected potential relationship prospects or neighbors who really want to get involved. It took me a really long time to notice how there was a pattern to the scenarios I kept getting into. Since I have been looking at these people more like mirrors to my own personal inadequacies it has been so much easier. One of the interesting things I noticed was that the people who were harassing me seemed to mirror how I felt about myself. When I was at rock bottom I would be constantly annoyed by vindictive people who were pitiful to even think about. The worst was an elderly double amputee who got really vindictive when I didn't want to respond to his continuous phone calls. If I were to fix my self esteem I would be harassed by people who were more attractive on the outside by possessed these abandonment issues and inadequacies which made them lash out at people. I know am almost healed up by now and your videos have helped me gain clarity on some the things I intuitively felt were going to help me. I managed to heal a lot on my own but your videos have really given me a missing piece of the puzzle which helps to really cement what I need to do in order to thrive.

[@ritaodriscoll2093]

This was brilliant, thank you. Please do more videos on how to move forward. Thanks from Ireland 🇮🇪

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Rita, you might enjoy this section of my blog hun- it is devoted to our healing! blog.melanietoniaevans.com/category/healing-from-narcissistic-abuse/ Love and blessings xoxox

[@xhen12]

Thank you so much for this talk this explains it exactly.Especially about wating for something to change outside.

[@nrekoumis]

Your amazing Mel Hope you have a great holiday.

[@theself5738]

Hi Melanie, I LOVE the new NARP. It is super modern, organized, easy to access material and track my progress, high quality short recordings, and the intros are well organized as separate from the audios. I really appreciate all the work you have put into this. As soon as I opened the program yesterday on my birthday, the narc stalker contacted me after a couple of years of no contact. So looks like I need to get on the program again. Thank you.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi BV the Sage, I'm so happy you are enjoying the new version of NARP! It was a labour of love. Love and blessings xoxox

[@teresacondon33333]

Thank u so much I get it and I'm done enough abuse want all narcs away now! especially 1/2 I can actually see them straight away wen I meet new ones and I just can keep my distance ahhh peace out sister t

[@shaniecegullison]

I love this.you are such a good speaker and you make me understand so we'll.your so calming to my soul.i want to be a thriver

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Bless you sweetheart and I'd love that for you too! Love and blessings xoxox

[@hilarylingard2303]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom🙏🏻. Enjoy your holiday Mel!!!💋

[@margaretkennedy5308]

Thank you I will replay this a few times and share it with my children it is the truth ❤❤❤

[@greggor_48]

Ms. Evans: The main one I was dealing with was on and off for years, since 94 and didn't get it then. I use to date this person(in 94) and they were physically abusive when they drink alcohol. Fast forward, I had moved on and dated other people and they did too but I was still trying to be this person friend and it was ok here and there. I will say over the past 5-7 years this person whole personality seemed to get worser, after his grandmother had died. They could not physically attack me when they drink alcohol so they became verbally, mentally and emotionally abusiive towards me. When i bring it back up to them they would turn things around on me like i'm the one with the problem and saying they didn't say that. They became very mean, nasty, bilegerant and irate when they drink and it sort of spilled over with the same attitude and predisposition/disposition sober too. So, I really don't know what to call this with this person. They always talk down to me and belittle me and try to control me. I had stopped all contact with them on and off over the years... I've had enough finally (ended conversation/contact since late Ocober-November 2018) and for the last time and told them to stop contact me and each other other because its a toxic situation and I never feel good after our conversations. It was a lot of passive-aggressiveness too, in previous conversations too. This person tried to intimidate me by saying when I broke off friendship of don't have me come up there and I replied if you do i will call law enforcement on them. Now, I feel some type of way and always looking before I leave my place and always vigilant of my surrounding and I don't like this feeling. I think they said that to me to make feel uncomfortable or still have that control over me that they think they still have...What's your take on this situation?

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Phine_27, here is a resource that can help: blog.melanietoniaevans.com/does-the-narcissist-know-what-he-or-she-is-doing/ Love and blessings xoxox

[@MariaColomy]

Thank you

[@MBuntful]

So beautiful to listen to your shares! Thank you for your gifts in words!

[@sdavidhicks]

Inspiring and encouraging, as always. I'm happy it's March 27th and my email for the new NARP version 3 is on the way! Thank you, Mel and staff.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi S David, Are you all enrolled now? Enjoy the new NARP Version 3 hun xoxox

[@sdavidhicks]

@@MelanieToniaEvans Yes, Mel, I'm Golden! Thank you so much. I hope to start talking in the Forums because I have a question or two. See you around!

[@leslypompy1357]

Extremely profound

[@mollypaananen6607]

I trudge thru this life because I have to...it's the only way to get to the end!!I outed a malignant Narcissist.My best friend of 19 years...I was unaware at the time what she was called only that she was bad,so also did not no that outing one is also bad!I've lost everything and everyone...including 2 daughters...my guilt is only over powered by PTSD and it makes the other 4 diagnosed disorders misbehave!I'm alone with nothing I trust nobody.I escape with drugs by myself.I am now 3000 miles away from the town that ran me out...because of her...I'm ruined.broken.unforgiving.unforgiven.She has an ultimate new source now...My 18 year old daughter...She was earning a scholarship from being a powerlifting superstar in school...now she's on her second jail term,with court pending a new charge...big piercings in her lip and hand done horrible primitive tatoos on her body...because these three things were important to me for different reasons...U all no the drill..just one little piece of the last 19 year's...I don't even no how to go about turning inward to heal..I don't even no if I no who I really am or ever did...I'm lost and I'm so trying just to keep a meesly job...so afraid every single second I'm going to blow it and screw myself again and again and again...I want to be different but at 51...With a horrible Narc.mother to start life...at this point...I'm just wanting it over...TELL ME HOW CAN I RECOVER FROM THIS I WAS BORN TO TRAMA TRAMA HAS BEEN MY ROAD...HELP ME!

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Molly, my strongest suggestion to you is to come into my FREE masterclass, where I can help profoundly www.melanietoniaevans.com/masterclass xoxox

[@loribenton3644]

M. Thanks

[@yougotgroove]

I was just discarded again, 10th time maybe? 15th, 20th? I don't even know.... The cycle though is shorter and constant.... Then she reaches out, and I go back, with new demands and expectations, and ultimatums. She is 56, never been married, I am 58, wonderful father daughter relationship, with my only child now 30. My ex girlfriend has no idea that this one of many discards of me, is different than all of the others. It is her final discard. My last offerring to her is nothing more than my ever lasting silence. It's only been less than 24 hours and I have been walking around on the verge of tears.... Just waiting for them to flow.... Sooner the better. I can't believe I was emotionally abused for more than 2 years out of more than two and a half years. The first 6 months she was everything I dreamed, and as soon as I gave her 100% committment, she became emotionally unavailable (she always was) (she just stopped pretending. Iy hurts becauase I now know she never loved me, and she is most likely incapable of loving herself. Betrayal Like I never knew existed. Help!!!!

[@anabellaparis1]

How it is possible that the healing is taking more time than the relation itself? It was a very short and Intense relationship, I had the strength to leave but 6 months after no contact I'm still having bad moments, I'm crying and having all this pain inside of me. He's lied to me so much, the manipulation was so severe, he made me feel I was the center of his universe till I wasn't. I'm so deeply hurt.

[@sarahbright5231]

I can say I’ve been away from the narcissist 3 and a half years. I started narp after a year. I have put a lot of effort into narp and due to a toxic back ground all of this unravelled too. I’d say I’m completely healed now. I co parent and he doesn’t trigger any reaction in me. None. He irritates me at times with his backwards behaviour but I happily get on with my day. I’m in a much better place, I’m happy with just my child. My finances are better and appreciate the things I never could because I was always in survival. Even before I met him by avoiding triggers.

[@simsimi12345]

Nicely said thank you Melanie x

[@YucanGo2Hell]

Thank you.

[@ayandancube2308]

If a person can lie about their own birth mother what more else are they capable of,this disorder is dangerous

[@stefanieconnors2324]

I can’t leave him I know it won’t get better and I can get better but I love him so much

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Stefanie, my heart goes out to you. Sweetheart, please sign up for my Free 16 Day Recovery course www.youcanthrivebook.com/freecourse here. It can be a daily support for you and grant you deeper understandings and insights so you can start learning how to detach and start healing. It's a first step towards your recovery. Love and blessings xoxox

[@vermontsmostobesetubaplaye1988]

Good video, thanks.

[@donnaparks1919]

We in same naghborhood in sises case if I wasn't here she find someone else it's in her to tourment it's her pleasure

[@jennodine]

Does leaving the victim identity behind mean not seeking help from the authorities as a domestic violence victim? Aspects of narc abuse are included in my state’s definition of DV, and I have finally compiled some solid documentation of the crap he’s pulling that I am so ready to turn over.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Jenn, not at all sweetheart. This video will help you with this blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-1-trick-for-bringing-a-narcissist-to-justice/ Love and blessings to you xoxox

[@jennodine]

I am simply amazed by you. I wish you still did one on one coaching because I would love to speak with you at length! I will be buying a NARP gold subscription within the next few weeks anyway so I can learn as much from you as possible. I’ve been in this relationship since 1995 and I have wanted out since 2001. I know what I have to do, but I also know it’s going to wake the dragon. His abuse towards me has been normalized to our adult children, and they still see him in the positive light I always painted him under. It is going to be a rough road and I’m really scared. Thank you so much for taking the time to answer me so quickly and for linking the other video. I’m about to watch it now. This is a topic rarely covered by your lot.

[@jennodine]

I pick option 3! ❤️

[@jacquelinebowlin3114]

How do you go no contact when you are fighting for your kids that have been stolen?

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hun, visit this page for answers. You can create modified no contact while you are going through this: blog.melanietoniaevans.com/category/supporting-our-children/ Love and blessings xoxox

[@dimplefacegang142]

I have pain in my pain in my neck and brain

[@CandyAustin]

Melanie Tonia Evans..., What if the narcissist is your mother? I’m 60 years young and she’s 85. I’m her only family still living, other than my 3 grown sons. It would be very hard to go no contact. I did go no contact with my narc ex husband years ago. It’s not just as easy as I’m divorcing you and never seeing you again. Plus she taught me it was selfish to do things for myself so I do have to stop when I feel that “shame and selfishness” feeling pop up and realize it is her tape, not mine. Plus, I have such bad health that I’m on disability and have no longer been able to support myself and my mother is the one who pays my rent each month, with strings attached. So, how do I go no contact?

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Candy, I'm happy to help. If you can't go no contact as your mother is dependent on you, here are some resources to help you set and maintain boundaries with her: blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-set-boundaries-with-a-narcissist-if-you-cant-go-no-contact/ and blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-set-boundaries-with-a-narcissist-if-you-cant-go-no-contact-part-2/ Here is another two part blog that can also help: blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-narcissists-conditioning/ and blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-narcissists-conditioning-part-2/ Love and blessings dear lady xoxox

[@mehtap9058]

Beautifully explained, thank you💝

[@belindametz5130]

Oh my gawd!!! I do Joe’s meditations!! He is fantastic!

[@rebeccaskalare9445]

BELINDA GROOVE who is Joe? Is there a link to his meditations? Could need some relief...🙏

[@belindametz5130]

Look up Joe Dispenza and there are many other meditations that help.

[@Disciplined76]

Melanie! Thank you for all that you do. I cant express enough gratitude for your work and how it has guided me on my constant quest for living, rather than simply existing. Question for you...I'm not sure if you have already made a video about this topic or have a blog article - if you do just please direct me where to go.... So my question- the last part of this video emphasized the importance of our primary goal being one of self evolution- how do we deal with or handle either personal relationships or friends who feel that this approach is selfish in nature. For example, I recently had someone tell me that I was 'wrapped up in myself ' because self evolution is my mission. I politely disagreed w his comment and answered by saying self care is not selfish and rather replied by saying he was entitled to his opinion and I to mine. I would love to hear your views on this! As always thank you for finding yourself on your bathroom floor! Since my divorce from a partner w narcissistic like traits I have fully awaken to all my sh*t and what I was not dealing with. I give thanks daily for that relationship because it was the catalyst to my wake up call!

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Nikki, I'm so happy to help. Here are a couple of resources for you: blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-10-most-impactful-ways-to-start-self-partnering-right-now/ and blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-7-steps-to-your-personal-power/ Love and blessings sweetheart xoxox

[@Disciplined76]

@@MelanieToniaEvans thank you so much for all you do. You are truly an inspiration!

[@Rebel6832]

Trying to heal from within, but my fear is trying not to piss him off should I need to go to a Dr's appt, vet appt, store, or bank without having to notify him first. And if I do not I feel guilty that he is right that I may be doing what he accused me of in his eyes, like sneaking around. It shouldn't be considered sneaking around if I do not notify or run it by him first before I am to leave our house to go do anything. I fear the looking guilty whenever I do go somewhere without telling him first or running it by him first. But he never reciprocates for me by informing me before he goes somewhere and according to him it's okay that's not considered lying or sneaking like I would be doing. How do you stop from feeling guilty about doing normal everyday things and fearing the repercussions or his anger afterwards? Please help...

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Jeanine, These are the pieces to the puzzle. When you realise that the narcissist is using you, projecting his own discomfort onto you and punishing you for it, then the jig is up. Then you will realise who you thought you were with is not who this person is. Then you will detach and begin to focus on healing yourself, without needing him to be or do anything differently. You will understand he is not there to contribute to a healthy relationship. Here are resources that can help: blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-real-reason-why-the-narcissist-punishes-you/ and blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-make-the-narcissist-powerless-to-affect-your-life/ My free resources can help you put yet more of the pieces of this puzzle together. Help you understand this relationship dynamic, how and why it happens and what you can do to heal from it. You can sign up here: www.melanietoniaevans.com/freestarterpackage.htm Love and blessings xoxox

[@mollypaananen6607]

What if the narc has your daughter?How how how can it ever be completely over??

[@somanyinsights1670]

I think if you've already been through narsassistic abuse and recovered then it helps if it hsppens again.

[@johannasullivan9936]

Melanie, I feel great. I'm doing and going places with my fur baby Vidalia. It's been 4 years solo now. However, I have no desire to date, nor am I even attracted to men. I don't even find casual flirting OK. I also find it difficult to make friends. I was not always like this. I'm very guarded and now I always look for those red flags and find its just not worth the effort...

[@gedeonkunduba2761]

You still need healing.

[@happypeace6297]

Some of the things I've done since realising there were 2 Narcissist in my life have been awful. I've hated myself so much that I seem to have become slightly Narcissist, but the other months before I was myself and just wanted to help other people. I really hope I can get through this Melanie. I'm wanting to get the programme and heal myself back to wholeness again and hope that I haven't alienated everyone against me in my life as I was getting better. My health has massively deteriorated as I haven't slept properly and my memory isn't good. Can I completely recover Melanie as I'm so lost within myself I know I shouldn't have come back and now I don't have any confidence or really know who I am and I'm worried about all of the things they can use against me? My future children and chance of good future relationships with myself and others and a good career is determining me. I'm scared for the getting worse before it gets better part though I have to say. I also know that one of the Narcissists I'll have to see for another 2 years I don't want to be defeated please help me Mel :)

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Happy Peace, please know these feelings are so common for those who have been through narcissistic abuse. I'd love you to join me in my free healing webinar melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar so you can understand more and gain some relief through two powerful healings I take you through in there. I promise that no matter how painful and frightening it can be, you, like so many others, including myself you can breakthrough and take your life back. You can research more about my NARP program www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp here and truly I cannot recommend it enough, and please know Gold NARP members have access to the incredible community forum and healing container to help guide you, you don't have to do this alone. Love and blessings xoxox

[@fiwalker6690]

Shar your material for free and see what the universe does for you then some of us can not afford this give it freely you will be taken care off

[@con1709]

Thank you ...do they know what there doing ?x

[@vala7125]

You look beautiful 💗

[@itb7439]

You say its easy to recover. But how do you easily recover when you got severe cptsd because a total of 5 people been hard abusing since child until now.. this situation makes a completely different approach ? Sociopaths amd psychopath AND narcisissts... when you get raped and beated. Does it happen to you or FOR you ?

[@marijkevandermeer2772]

It is unbearable.....

[@loreeboyd9408]

It seems to hurt either way- in different ways--this information is encouraging and it sounds like it will help. I hope so.

[@ladibyrd]

Perhaps you have Pluto square moon also, Melanie

[@Alieortwo]

Ah well just had a little rerun with a different kind of narc. The kind one.. 😱Survived the diagnosed really evil one. I will be fine and refuse to be a victim of a crazy one.

[@happypeace6297]

What if you have held back your ability to grow into your true self due to your actions Melanie? it feels like now I'll be spending my time trying to prove to everyone else that I'm okay and feeling better. I'm even worried relationship wise as I knew that the things I was doing wouldn't show that I respected myself very much so now I'm concerned that that is the standard that everyone else will have for me in that area. I want to value myself so much I really do. It's something I haven't done in months and when I did I had people truly respect me, but I was just sad that I didn't uphold myself to those standards and it got to a point where I was hitting myself on the head. I don't know how I can turn this around for good as I'm concerned that when I start respecting myself again people will bring up the past again and stop respecting me.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Happy Peace, hun please know I have published several resources that can help you address what you are feeling with new and deeper perspectives. If you Google my name and 'forgiveness' you can source them. I believe that they may help and resonate with you. Love and blessings xoxox

[@lynnyoung8443]

you have no ideel when most of your emedit fam have a been a round your whole life you cant get a way from it

[@con1709]

Thank youx

[@intp9944]

wow

[@donnaparks1919]

Untill I get out of small town it seems I'm still in it people here won't here or keep there opinions to themselves they won't seem to understand it's life and death & they trying to condemn me into death trap & all of them are being used as saintens instramentsments vipers piosen I won't here them

[@anabellaparis1]

How ??? How do you heal from that inner trauma??? You say what we should do but you don't say how ...

[@pegahshahbaz9550]

❤❤❤

[@ですジェームス]

I think you're partially making excuses for people doing things for survival. There's always an excuse and there always will be, and there always has been.

[@C4RYB34R]

Too much said.

[@creolela]

❤️

[@ILive4Jesus]

You are misunderstanding the intent of the passage that states we are “gods”. Mistaken theology.

[@saintpaul7625]

What should we call those who say Narcissistic Abuse is the worst devastation ever to the mankind and go on making money by selling recovery programs? What were these expert survivors doing for living before becoming Recovery Coaches? It is understandable that making videos costs effort, time and money. It is also not that people can’t afford but shouldn’t the content that helps victims break painful bonds and heal be accessible to all and free? Hope recovery helpers find better income sources and donations to lend helping hand to heal people through their experiences. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Paul, Have you accessed all my free resources hun? And seen the Money Back Guarantee - no questions asked? My resources are open to everyone that wants to seriously heal from narcissistic abuse. courses.melanietoniaevans.com/p/success-stories Love and blessings to you xoxo

[@claudiacooper1934]

You speak in such generalities and Imarvel that anyone knows what the hell you're talking about!? In perusing some of the comments I'm getting more of a specific idea of perhaps what you're meaning.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Claudia if you come into my free workshop you will directly EXPERIENCE what I am talking about - www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar Then it is so much easier to understand xoxo

[@claudiacooper1934]

Melanie Tonia Evans I went to the site you listed and found some advertisements about the workshop and no instructions about how to register. Attempted to click on Register Now and got no results.

[@susie_q1]

Thank you.