The Power of Self-Awareness (ft. Hank Green!)

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In this episode, I went to visit Hank Green to test his self-awareness - how much someone’s views of themself are in touch with what they’re actually like. It’s also called self-knowledge or private self-consciousness.
More on the Johari window (or to do it yourself): apps.cfli.wisc...
REFERENCES 📚
Joseph Luft, An Introduction to Group Dynamics: archive.org/de...
People who had greater self-awareness of their feelings and motivations had better psychological well-being:
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Self-awareness was also linked to better interpersonal relationships:
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Self-awareness can also be an important predictor of successful leadership:
www.amanet.org...

[@mrman5517]

as Australia has no true native bears, Aussies are under koalafied to make bear-puns

[@sinnsage]

mr man omg you win the internet

[@nomadiccoyote]

"FIrst get a pen and paper." Sweet! "Then get someone close to you." ....Oh. Anyway, cool video :)

[@Xune2000]

Me too thanks :(

[@zeekjones1]

Welcome to Earth, there are over seven billion strangers, but they are pretty much the same.

[@gabs25_26]

Yeah, same ;^;

[@maxximumb]

Vanessa, the big flaw here was the part played by you should have been someone who knows Hank well, especially personally. We all feel like we know Hank as he puts a lot of his life online. If you were to have had Katherine, John, his parents or a close friend take your part, I think we would have seen a bigger overlap of words. There are things about myself I've learnt since meeting my wife. We are able to communicate about almost everything, so unknowingly it would seem that over the last 19 years of marriage we've both been engaged in a long term Johari Window. Great video

[@123571321]

This is one aspect I'd like to strive for in a relationship. Thank you for saying it exists :D

[@Xrayballer88]

Also, I believe for best results Hank would choose words only he can see since the subject in his situation is more likely to be modest when choosing words in front of someone else. Those words chosen in secret should then be compared to the words chosen by a number of anonymous acquaintances.

[@professional_silent_trumpe1540]

Awww

[@Fresh_yams]

Awesome point! Not to mention the type of friend you invite to this exercise would also change your results. I know I have some friends that think I'm on the quiet side and some friends that would outright call you a liar if you called me quiet. I think for that reason you'd find more (broad spectrum) success if more people were offering you feedback. That way the test isn't limited to the perceptions of just one friend, but rather a group of people :)

[@sherylhosler9487]

@@Xrayballer88 That's exactly what I was coming here to say! Hank picked words like "silly" because, while true, they're also slightly self-deprecating, whereas he didn't choose all of the "smart"-sounding words that Vanessa picked for him. He probably thinks of himself in those ways, but might feel uncomfortable with the idea of saying it in front of other people.

[@359339]

I did the johari window exercise nearly a decade ago, and one aspect had a lasting impact on me. Perhaps because it was a mix of close friends and acquaintances, the word that came up the most was 'friendly'. It had never occurred to me to think of that as a personalized trait, and when I saw people were deliberately choosing for me, I learned it was a valued one. After that, I became more consciously welcoming to newcomers, and worked more to bring people out of their shell, seeing that it was something unique I had to offer.

[@daisyhinojosa23]

Here from SciShow Psych!!

[@MK-je7kz]

Unfortunately me too. Because this is unlisted video. Otherwise I would have been here anyway

[@braincraft]

🧠💪🧠

[@aleesabarker8352]

M K is it unlisted? I’m here from a I show and don’t know this channel, and was wondering why there are so few comments!

[@MK-je7kz]

@@aleesabarker8352 It's not unlisted anymore.

[@Flamingbob25]

Now see its interesting I would never call Hank calm but I wonder if thats a Parasocial thing? Like I only see him at the very high energy states so he seems manic.

[@braincraft]

LOL he is very calm in person!

[@nirvanakamala2809]

DwarvenSteel he does seem very manic and excited, probably because he talks so fast but I don’t find it surprising that he’s calm In person because he’s also reasonable and smart

[@victortitov1740]

Watch some Journey to the Microcosmos. There, Hank is just completely different.

[@TimberGeek]

Try his narrative on the microbiome videos, he projects calm quite well there

[@DneilB007]

@@nirvanakamala2809 The manic on-screen persona is why I kinda get the take that he's introverted personally. He's using his excitement (fear) as fuel for the interaction of being on camera to be more engaging. #totallynotprojecting...

[@danabryant92]

Part of me wants to try this with friends. But part of me really is afraid this will offend.... it's not easy to challenge people's perspective of themself

[@chamberlainmiller2991]

Let them try it on you first

[@fridjon13]

Well the ego doesn't like to be threatened, It hates being questioned.

[@glennbabic5954]

Politeness and worrying about offending people is something everyone has to unlearn, Dana. You and you're friends will be better for it.

[@poorplayer9249]

What I like about your channel is how you bring a kind of advocacy to self improvement. In my experience, that is something many people my age simply had to learn on their own...or not. Just one thing though, there's nothing wrong with skepticism until its conflated with cynicism.

[@braincraft]

Thanks so much Karl!

[@somedragontoslay2579]

For Hank, I'd pick able, accepting, bold, caring, intelligent, introverted, dependable, empathetic, energetic, friendly, loving, nervous, silly and trustworthy. At least that's what it seems from his career as a social persona.

[@finderskeepers8]

Zero interest in decreasing my facade as I owe nothing to anyone certainly strangers, work colleagues, etc. But knowing more of my blind spots would be helpful to grow myself and understand me more

[@sinnsage]

Tash i think maybe it’s less about “owing” any part of you to anyone else, and more about living and existing authentically. it’s very freeing and takes some subconscious burden off of one’s shoulders.

[@UnashamedlyHentai]

It is amazing to me that one can go through an entire psychology curriculum and not come upon the idea of different selves, but it comes up repeatedly in philosophy, over and over again when discussing the concept of identity. It's sad that we don't have more inter-disciplinary learning/communication.

[@THETRIVIALTHINGS]

I really hope Vanessa and SciShow do more collaborations. I love your videos, they're so educational and more importantly, thought-provoking and SciShow is a fun channel to watch.

[@JediBunny]

Wow, this is a phenomenal channel- Vanessa is super cool! Thanks to Hank for the introduction; really looking forward to this content!

[@braincraft]

Thanks so much Jedi Bunny! I certainly hope that’s your real name.

[@JediBunny]

BrainCraft haha I wish I could say it was, alas it is not! So excited to find your channel, your personality and energy is truly uplifting and your content fascinating, will be watching avidly!

[@sparagnino]

As autistic guy I love that this channel constantly brings to light aspects of people I've never thought about! This time at 2:55 - Not known to self and Known to others ---> WHAAAAT? IS IT EVEN POSSIBLE?

[@victortrying]

This helped me realize something! I dealt with some old friends/acquaintances who were so wildly ignorant of my true personality that it just became impossible to communicate. It really can be stressful, but I think they are the ones to blame. They are now pretty much cut off from my life as a consequence. One's expectation of what the other should be can sometimes be quite an impediment.

[@davefreier7738]

“Oh would some Power the gift give us, to see ourselves as others see us.” Robert Burns

[@kyokoyumi]

Johari is also a Swahili (I think) word that means "jewel". So this could also be called the Jewel Window, helping us shine our brightest within all of our facets. :)

[@khadijah9604]

Yesss johar is jewel in Urdu as well, how fascinating!

[@naturesfinest2408]

I am socially awkward. I know this. I've been told and looking back, after gaining some social skills, it's true. I realized that telling people about myself and asking for free back is what made me learn what I needed to, helped a lot. The thing is, when you do self disclosure or ask for feedback, I realize people get uncomfortable or dont k kw how to respond. So I am trying to figure out how to do it without it being awkward. Because, apparently, that is still awkward. But. Nobody is telling me why it makes them uncomfortable or annoyed/disinterested.

[@dragoncurveenthusiast]

I'm always curious about my blind spots! I'm gonna set up a google form and ask friends and family to rate how well these words describe me. Then I'll average across them and compare it to my self assessment. (I'm a scientist and value an unbiased data collection more than I fear overdoing it 😄)

[@spencer6225]

This is an older comment but I was wondering how it went? if you got anything out of it? and also has a procrastinator myself, was it difficult to follow through with?

[@eierkoek]

i started doing this to myself without even knowing this excisted. mainly facade is something i thought about. but i have to say. self awareness is a double sidded sword. self awareness can cause anxiety because you activly start keeping check on you own personality cause you think it will anoy the others.

[@nickdiamond7595]

Hank: "Calm? Have you seen me on camera?" Hahaha. 😆

[@spiralpython1989]

I find this really interesting whilst also really frightening. As a mother/teacher/advocate/health professional I can see many worthwhile applications in both learning and therapeutic areas. As a person with autism, it appears extremely personal to the point of being overwhelming. Nonetheless, I think there are strong applications for autistic people to learn how others see them, particularly as there can be an extreme disconnect between “blind spot” and “facade” and little understanding of “arena” for many people on the autism spectrum. I suspect that, if applied with appropriate scaffolding, this could be a really excellent approach to helping autistic people understand where they fit in their community, and even why they may not fit in the areas they may wish to fit.

[@notasitseems1]

This is very cool! I've been in therapy (CBT) for a couple of years now and I think that most of the work I'm doing is expanding the arena, with emotions and memories as well as traits of my personality. I'm tempted to try this myself with my friends.

[@gm4984]

I always thought that Hank was introverted. I've seen introverts beeing the life of the party in multiple occasions, Hank might be the one! I can imagine him sharing,listening and talking about many facts at dinners.

[@withelisa]

Agreed! Being reserved gets mistaken for introversion all too often. I am boisterous around people, but I do prefer time alone. I need it, in fact

[@1Fruitninja1]

Why should be a incoherence between the Facade and the Arena be a bad thing? I think changing your way of behaving in social situations consciously is a great ability, and of course I don't want everybody to know everything about myself!

[@Algo1]

I would think every category have subsets and the Facade can be divided into consciously and unconsciously (hidden to others) and consciously hidden to others can be further divided into beneficial to yourself and harming to yourself. You don't want *everyone* to know everything about you, but it *is* advisable that *some* handpicked people do. Imo.

[@Algo1]

Clarification to my point given the other part of this collab at SciShow Psych: know as much as they can about yourself and make a conscious effort that what others know about you is as much and as equal in nuance, extent, etc as you know about yourself.

[@IntermarkGroupAgency]

nice point

[@mschrisfrank2420]

Generally, the more authentic your interactions the happier you will be. People don’t need to know every detail about you, but you should have a friend or two who knows you deeply.

[@taeflores4821]

I shared this video with my individual therapist who also is the 'teacher' of my IMR group! Today we did a shorter version and people really liked it! I'm going to show this video to anyone I meet, it was so awesome - thank you!

[@clovis2012]

The key to less stress and more happiness is understanding that what other people think of you is none of your business.

[@devluz]

Huh also would have thought Hank is more introverted. Compared to other youtubers at least.

[@braincraft]

Thank you!

[@FaultAndDakranon]

I’ve always thought John is the introvert, and Hank is the extrovert.

[@MicahBuzanANIMATION]

Hank is a bully online. Probably a sociopath given his outward charm and how he manipulates people and uses his status as leverage.

[@FaultAndDakranon]

Micah Buzan Nope. He’s a bully in the comments when he’s upset. Just like me. When you think someone’s attitude is what is wrong with the world, you tend to take it out on them :/

[@MisterCynic18]

@@FaultAndDakranon I would've said the opposite

[@NGC-7635]

Tbh...Luftingham Window has a way better ring to it than Johari Window. They just weren’t self-aware enough to realize it. (Actually Luftingham Window is a bit of a tongue twister #irony)

[@KeithMakank3]

Its not that we are not self aware, we are also aware that others are not only NOT aware of us, or our different views; they actively distort views of each other.

[@facebren]

step 1: find a friend

[@amyellison762]

Did anyone notice that the paper bag expanding was in sink with the sound of the person inhaling, when it should have be expanding as they were exhaling air into it?

[@Kynk]

I had thought about myself critically before I ever knew a name for it, and I now know there are many. I am glad you guys are exposing more people to this way of thinking. :-)

[@DeanRendar]

I filled a word association survey like this at the school councilor. it is shocking the things I place in the "arena" are overtly trying to overcompensate value to validate my sense of pride. And the stuff that I think make me decent and not inconsiderate are only hidden to me because I don't share my life as easily as those in established formed groups. I vow not to manipulate the "facade" part of me purely to get in right with others, its valuable to my calm I don't worry about the uncontrollable world of P.R.

[@victortitov1740]

Yay, Nessy, glad to see ya again!

[@dragon67849]

The thing here is that I always question everything I do to myself. However when I discus something with someone or generally talk about myself I ask for feedback. I the case of the discussions I ask how the discussion went as a general question then specifying after the answer about how I was in it. As for when talking about myself, I generally ask if they see that in me. Now the keyword here is generally. I don't always do that because there's no point. I do this for personal betterment, not for entertainment XD. So I'd say, this video is really helpful in a lot of ways. It gives me more tools with which to better myself and to better understand myself and others around me. I am genuinely surprised that I forgot about such a game (I played this game in middle school as a form of self betterment to learn self awareness. It's where I learned to question myself). Imma be playing this game with a few people, see how it pans out. Thanks Vanessa, I appreciate this ^^

[@alyssam8550]

Oh weird! I always think back to the moment I "became self aware," and it was a moment where I did an activity very similar to this around age 12. I had a moment very similar to hank's "you think I'm introverted??" Mine was "you think I'm quiet???" And it made me take a huge step back and realize that, woah, others see me differently than I see myself.

[@JiveDadson]

There's got to be a huge built-in bias here. Who is going to choose braggy words to describe oneself, knowing that someone else (like the internet) is watching. OK, I've got one word for me: skeptical,

[@kalki3060]

Exactly

[@galek75]

Know thyself. - Socrates

[@shieldon530]

scishow psych reintroduced me to this channel

[@braincraft]

Yayy thank you!

[@sittingstill3578]

A longer form BrainCraft video, what a treat. I always enjoy your work.

[@13satyakamsharma]

This channel deserves way more engagement from the subscriber base!

[@a_real_jive_turkey7772]

It's hard to pick based on how I feel about myself because when with someone I'm going to be much more likely to pick based on how I think they see me

[@joaofidalgo3754]

Braincraft is really cool :) I love your videos! I think usually people have more than one personality depending on context and who they are with. And that's ok, I don't see a need for trying to be the same for yourself and to others that doesn't necessarily cause more stress.

[@giishaw92]

This is so cool, I'm doing this with a friend. It's interesting that Hank was thrown off by "introverted". He doesn't seem extraverted to me. I don't think that necessarily means that he is introverted, but obviously he gives off that impression to others.

[@joejohns3543]

Hank is a great guy. i dont know him personally but what he does makes a difference. please don't attack him. meow!

[@joejohns3543]

i still give thumbs up though

[@LouisaWatt]

As an Australian, we’re usually drunk on something, so it might as well be mindfulness

[@ToppMedia1]

Ohh this is interesting! Reflecting on who you are, how you think and act, and how you come across to other people is suuuch an important skill!

[@jerimiahrobert1585]

I love learning and watching growth, no matter the method. Thank you for the video!!!

[@romaurei]

It is unlisted! That explains why I didn't see this video before

[@mrntlng320]

Such a nice video! Nice how you are combining knowledge, reflection, and practical use in this video. Well done!!!

[@SamButler22]

I wouldn't say "clever" and "witty" were similar; they're not unrelated, but "witty" is more related to humour

[@Toastmaster_5000]

Pretty interesting experiment, though, I'm most interested in how you discover the unknowns. Or, are unknowns actually the right word? Perhaps they're actually weaknesses. So if you were to use only positive words to describe someone, whatever ends up in that category are things that person lacks, especially if you get a larger dataset than just 2 people.

[@francismicker]

awesome vid. Feels a bit like classic braincraft with new elements.

[@francismicker]

Also Hank's voice is awesome

[@Mell0wY3ll0w]

I wonder how facade plays into this. And how someone who has an idea of your personality traits deem it strange to exhibit new or different traits than what they're used too. Especially in familys where they've grown with you your whole life. It makes me think about the statement "you've changed" .

[@amys3168]

Art attack! I would have had no idea what this is, except Jazza just told me what it is. Thanks Jazza!

[@beefling5390]

Sorry I like my facade it keeps them guessing. And leaves them open for attacks!

[@neergonex]

The biggest flaw is quantitative (vs Maxx B's qualitative suggestion). With a possibility window of 10/39 (roughly more than 1/4) for each to choose in this example, it's probable to have about a couple to four matches, but five or more start to be highly improbable. That is considering a completely random choice selection at least on one side, but that is how to derive a control in this case. A ranked choice listing, say with 39 choices again would provide a much more meaningful comparison between the choices and would meaningfully differentiate from random selections. From there any further refinement in the "experiment" to achieve better results would be as Maxx B suggests.

[@neergonex]

Also, Carl would prefer the "Unknown" distinction in the Johari Window to be called "the shadow."

[@lopezmonzea12]

What is it about this lady's eyes that just gets me!

[@finspin8577]

The first line and I already know what you are going to explain, it's a language based therapy which I figured out all on my own and then realised it already existed in the form of Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. I found out about it from a friend years ago but I hadn't payed it much attention and then I realised after doing a quick google search what it was called by in the psych community. I realised how to train my brain by watching a number of psych videos on KZbin and I pieced them all together. I'll comment again at the end if I''m wrong.

[@finspin8577]

Mindfulness is what I taught myself to do. I didn't know it had a name until I started looking into DBT.

[@finspin8577]

I tried to explain to a psychiatrist what I was doing and they medicated me and locked me up for a month but that 4 box diagram is kind of how I view myself I just didn't have words for it until now. I've been trying to get people to talk to me but they wont because I used to be extremely introverted. 3:08

[@finspin8577]

So not quite DBT but Mindfullness is an aspect of it so I highly recommend you look into it. I didn't have words to describe what I was thinking before I started looking into DBT now I do.

[@David_T]

I saw a definition of 'Low Self Esteem' as perceiving yourself as others truly perceive you.

[@letsgoBrandon204]

5:45 - the yank reaction to the word introverted. "Oh 😦"

[@ghosthunter0950]

issue is, different people view you differently. I'm a very different person with my parents versus my friends for example. and even different friends know me more for different things, for example one friend I play chess has seen aspects about me that manifest there much more than others.

[@sven-]

yay a new episode! I love your videos!

[@braincraft]

Thanks Sven :)

[@sven-]

@@braincraft you replied!! That's so sweet. Keep making awesome stuff! 💜

[@Liolia22]

Johari appears to be based not on their surnames but on their first names, which are Joseph and Harrington. JoHarri...Johari.

[@oldcowbb]

i'm constantly self aware and that makes me ego-centric

[@tattipata1121]

Me as well and it makes me anxious. I wish I could just go with the flow but I'm overthinking 90% of the situations I'm in.

[@Starcrash6984]

@3:17 I can't help but notice that these "personality traits" aren't quite all-encompassing but rather they're all positive or neutral. If I wanted to know myself better, I think I'd rather know about my flaws... knowing your strengths is useful, but not nearly as much. And they're less likely to exist in my blind spot. Do selfish people know that they are selfish? Probably not, though I imagine everyone around them can tell, and unfortunately this game wouldn't help that person to see it, either.

[@tonytins]

I love Hank's reaction to being called an introvert. xD

[@mikicerise6250]

I'm introverted and I would never call Hank introverted. In fact, I'm not sure I would call any KZbinr introverted. ;)

[@marin4311]

Very concrete and helpful. Thanks. Subscribed. Came from SciShow.

[@javiernavarro3695]

I am introverted but at work my employees say I am an $&&@@ boss but I am always professional I become another person because they don’t understand to run and get great numbers That equals happy customers / owner Their evaluations all need to be A+ every day The reason to go to work is to make the customer happy

[@TG-Maverick22]

Subscribed after learning about your channel from your Neil Degrasse Tyson appearance on star talk!

[@Vasiliosx2]

Should have brought Hanks brother on, and used less synonymous words

[@shadebug]

0:16 for anybody wanting an example of a rolling shutter effect

[@DaPoofDaPoofDaPoofDa]

Hank is so handsome

[@erictaylor5462]

5:30 Watching Sci-Show I wouldn't say Hank is calm, but watching Micro Cosmos I would say he's *VERY* calm.

[@artprodigy5820]

Only TOP G’s CAN LIKE

[@celinak5062]

2:27 you could make a meme out of this

[@nikkospelledlikethat8140]

How would that even go?

[@hansmaulwurf9051]

What about the things other people think that are an actual facade? AKA things you just pretend to be. How do they fit into this model???

[@gigigigiotto1673]

just open the visor with b to increase tactical self awareness

[@sdmarlow3926]

What if there is an aspect of my "inner self" I'd rather not have everyone know about (and I know that jumps right into some kind of "mass harm of other people" arm chair analysis, but it's very stressful for some people to feel like they are out in the open, and want to have that barrier vs people that are stressed by having to pretend to be someone they are not because for "reasons" they can't be so open).

[@eationajust3183]

Umm..that "reasons" tickles my curiosity senses

[@Trynsa]

I didn't jump to that. I jumped to the concept of shame. Things that make us feel so intensely that need to hide. To help others understand, these often include things related to sexuality (both positive and negative), anything that we fear could be perceived as aberrant by the rest of society, or a history of trauma (emotional or physical), and so many other things. We live in a world constantly seeking the next salacious story, and we don't want to be the target of it. I'm pretty sure it's natural to have that hesitation.

[@eationajust3183]

@@Trynsa Now that you mention it that way, it becomes a bit clear to me. Thx 😊 Some of the meaning seem lost in translations and just to make sure.. SD Marlow?

[@cm374787]

Aha! I knew you both already!

[@vonkaiser6817]

I actually don’t know if I’m introverted or not. I like having fun with groups of friends, however when the holidays come I almost never think about them. I also never share personal aspects of my life with them. I suppose this is the problem with using a binary opposition to describe an affect of personality.

[@AgileGeoff]

I appreciate you sharing a failure and talking about it. Science would terrible if we only shared experiments that went the way we thought they should.

[@MEGABLAMP]

I have run this game a few times and I must say that using traits as labels for a person can be intimidating, and quite frankly tend to get rooted in stereotypes.....for example when you considered hank an introvert. I also assume you guys aren't really well known friends or colleagues, and the most you probably learned from each other is through watching your respective youtube channels. as a suggestion, i would drop the labels and traits and characteristics, and keep this "game" grounded in the rigor or psychological science and instead use "behaviors" and "thoughts". which after all are the foundations to pretty much every single therapy out there.

[@ductuslupus87]

It would appear that self-awareness seems to have had the opposite effect on me (as said in the end of this video). Realising who I "am" has completed fucked up my self esteem.

[@redmeat4vegans62]

'Drunk on mindfulness' - WAIT!!!! I had to pause the video because inquiring minds want to know how to get drunk on mindfulness. And ..... do you get a hangover? Please - I want a how to video on how to get drunk on mindfulness. :-) obviously I am getting the t-shirt. I already have 'Heavily Meditated' t-shirt.

[@tygeryoshi7559]

lol i don't think i've ever heard Hank talk so softly before

[@aprole87]

This reminds me of Lacanian psychoanalysis

[@WatermanViolinStudio]

A link to a pdf of all the words in the video would be awesome. I don't see the list. Thank you!

[@koopametalpack]

Let's see if i, a rando, know hank green better just from his tik tok videos and KZbin appearances. Able, Witty, silly, energetic, intelligent, logical, adaptable, empathetic, self-conscious, energetic.

[@mishrahimanshu9765]

Robert Greene said know yourself; Jung : shadow

[@cazualtk6133]

Thanks psyshow.. video was awesome and I hope you know the video still translated well. I feel like if you had someone closer to him or stated he should have it would have helped the flow of the video. Great job tho I think I might actually do this 😁

[@shohamsen8986]

Even though the division seems logical, I can't help but feel like it's too much of an oversimplification. One reason is that these things are dynamic so something keeps shifting from one edge of the window to the other. The method as laid out above does not account for that.

[@thisaccountisdead9060]

This is like that scene in the crater at the end of the matrix trilogy where agent smith lists of all the motivations - missing on all accounts - except the one true motivating factor for Neo - 'Choice'. I choose to be stupid - you can't win an argument against a stupid person.

[@whatisthat7539]

I felt the tension ahaha Good save Vanessa :P

[@sophierobinson2738]

Followed Hank.

[@MicahBuzanANIMATION]

Hank, have you considered applying some of this self-awareness to your Twitter replies?

[@giovannylinares2054]

I also see Hank as introverted

[@YogiliciousP]

Maybe redo this, bc I feel it didn’t come across as an informative learning experience, nor do I feel I could give it a go myself w/out looking into the deets and tails of the Johari window. It might go better w ppl who have greater familiarity 🤷‍♀️ or is there smthg to be gained by distant acquaintances?