The Problem With Playing It Cool || U Up? Podcast || Ep. 509

[@chrristiinaaa]

I love y’all! I feel angry at the couple of negative youtube comments I’ve seen in the last week or so.. and I always type a defensive reply and then think ‘mmm better not’ lol! Anywho, alls I know is y’all’s podcast is my favorite ever. Y’all make me laugh and I looove hearing updates/advice/opinions

[@samanthagraham2746]

People with an avoidant attachment style absolutely want relationships but their fear of intimacy and abandonment causes them to “play it cool”, run or push people away when they get too close, keep people at an emotional distance, come up with any and all excuses not to move forward, be hyper independent etc etc etc. People who are insecure where attachment is concerned don’t all look the same but they all have similar core fears. It’s like being super hungry but being terrified the food is poison

[@sarasoldwedel4408]

all i can think of is, before honday days? before the mcrib comes back next week?

[@airalexgrace]

Following OF models isn't as innocent as it sounds. I have an OF channel and plenty of married or with gfs subscribe to pay for contents and even ask for meetups. That's why with any guys I date, I would not be ok with him following any Instagram / OF models!

[@thehawttomboy]

the art to pursuit

[@esikazemese]

I think leaving someone because they are sick is selfish, but it's better than sticking around just because you are ill. And I just read a whole thread about this argument of how selfish is to leave before 1 week, 1 month bla bla bla before birthdays and holidays... and I just think people need to grow up and suck it up. You can feel it anyways if shit is going downhill but they stay around because of a holiday and it just makes you more paranoid in the future. If it has to end, it should end as soon as possible.

[@dangowad5368]

Side-stepping Jared's good point entirely to say please don't break up with someone just before a major surgery - stress can impact recovery time and studies have shown patients in good moods generally have higher survival rates! So I think in some cases it's not so black and white. If you've already been psychologically out of the relationship for sometimes months before you break up, then what's the difference waiting a little more, if you can make sure their self-destructing grieving process doesn't coincide with their surgery or final exams, etc? Birthdays and holidays? Meh.

[@esikazemese]

I get the point, and I agree, but it's not right before the surgery, he went through that already. Just leave, there is never a good time. But I totally agree if you are with someone and than break up as they are rolled into surgery is just fucked up :D

[@Dhwanivani]

I have a friend who got the semi permanent glue on wig and he went from zero hinge matches to tons. Knowing him before and after, he looks way better with hair.

[@esikazemese]

I hate this assumption that he has no confidence. You can have confidence and still wanna fix something about yourself that makes you have pretty privilege, am I wrong? We empower women for plastic surgery, why do we dismiss guys for the smallest (and most common) insecurity?

[@Dhwanivani]

He's one of my best friends, he went from smoking weed everyday, super depressed to happier. No assumption here.@@esikazemese

[@AllisonIntheCity]

I found Jared because of the title of his Netflix special. It reminded me of something my drunk of an ex from last year once said to me when we were fighting: "I'm 37 and not married!" But hearing Jared say in this episode that he takes Ubers so he can bring a drink with him in the car... whoa. Please, Jared, you're awesome, but maybe stop drinking. If I were single, I would've emailed in for a date to show you that you can still have fun, awesome dates without booze (I've been electively sober for about 3.5 years, life is better, trust me). But if I heard a guy I was going out with got into Ubers so he could drink in them, woof. Red flag. And that 'cool girl' is attracting what she puts out. Like attracts like!

[@SundayMorning6amBLBC]

@@Oaky I'm pretty sure he said he preferred Ubers to the subway, and there's no subway in Florida. Regardless, it doesn't matter the location. If you need to bring an alcoholic beverage with you on the way to consume more alcoholic beverages, you have a problem that needs attention.

[@91frankthetank]

He's talking about coffee you dope

[@AllisonIntheCity]

@@91frankthetank oh really? Because you can take coffee on the subway.

[@anon11428]

Drinking anything on a subway is icky unless it’s completely empty.

[@91frankthetank]

@@AllisonIntheCity you've never been on a subway. You need your hands to hold on. You need your hands free when you're on a subway

[@biancacabral4463]

Can you see it 😂😂😂

[@thehawttomboy]

I think the first write in should focus on her feminine energy. xoxo

[@Xbonales1843]

Honestly so excited for Jared! I think this is what he needs and whatever the outcome is, it’s gonna shift him to something good #GenuineBachelor

[@SK-kw4kz]

I’m a fan of Jordana’s but she interrupts Jared constantly and I feel bad that he keeps getting cut off.

[@esikazemese]

I think they have a good balance.